#let me have my sex repulsed ace rep >:(

[not-yet-asleep]

Me (Aroace): *Trying to find a cute ship to hyperfixate on that doesn't have a shit load of horny fanart*

Jonny Sims: *Holds up Jon & Martin in his hands*

Jon: *Is asexual*

Me: :D

[reygunsandreynbows]

is it just me who as an ace person is just sooo unbothered ABT people depicting Jon as sex positive/ in general nsfw content

like

first of all in my experience it doesn't tend to feel like it's fetishising his sexuality

secondly it's good rep for the fact that asexuality =/= chastity

thirdly there's no evidence he's sex repulsed. Our evidence for an ace Jon is 3rd hand office gossip that he "just doesn't"

not "he's ace" or "he NEVER" just an offhand comment that he doesn't. and I like to interpret this as him being ace but it's not actually specifically asexuality within the content (not certain if the creators have commented on it outside the content) and imo we have to accept not everyone will interpret that as him being a sex repulsed ace

also at the end of the day it's not that deep let people have fun

[prince-liest]

I’m a sex-repulsed ace, and reading the latest chapter of 666 (as well as your analysis here on Tumblr) made me realize that I have been subconsciously thinking about MY OWN sexuality from an allo perspective? And that it has kinda been messing me up?? Like, ever since I learned that sexual attraction was actually a Thing and that it’s Important To People, I had been carrying around a fear of being deficient in some way and not being able to love to the same extent as allos. (1)

Even though I know logically that’s complete garbage and totally untrue, I felt left out of the loop because people seemed to care strongly about this thing I couldn’t even imagine. Whenever it looked like a relationship might happen I panicked for a reason that I couldn’t understand. But now I’m starting to realize that it’s because I was subconsciously terrified of an ‘ulterior motive’ behind the other person’s reasons for wanting to be with me. (2) That part of the reason they even cared was because of something I don’t experience. So thank you, because this realization just clicked into place while reading your work. The thing is, this way of thinking was just internalized in such a way that I didn’t even realize it was there until literally this week. And I think you’re right; one of the main reasons behind that is because I’ve always consumed media written from an allo perspective. (3) If ace/aros are shown at all, they’re depicted as “lacking” and their character development usually revolves around being “fixed” by the story. When I was ~10 years old my mom sometimes let me watch the Big Bang Theory with her (looking back, maybe not the best decision). Anyways, there was one episode deep into the series where Sheldon (who for the past nineish seasons was probably the closest thing to mainstream ace rep) has sex with his girlfriend for the first time. (4) Afterwards, he says something along the lines of “that was better than I thought it would be”, and it’s presented as a Very Good Thing and a big step in their relationship. I think a lifetime of stuff like that makes it very easy to internalize aphobia and feel like the lesser part of the relationship. Or to feel like the other partner is making a huge sacrifice to be with you. That got wayy too long, sorry. All that was just a lot of words to say that I appreciate you. Take care of yourself!(5)

The portrayal of asexuality that you see in media being almost exclusively as you described is very tedious to me because it presumes that something is inherently lacking in aro/aceness rather than that feeling of "lacking" being something that is induced by societal norms. Actually, one of the things that I find additionally alienating is that fandom spaces specifically have been getting better and better about ace characters - but got damn does fandom not jive with aromanticism. Like, a character doesn't want to fuck? That's becoming a liiiittle more fine, it's 2024, we stan consent. But not shipping someone romantically?? Not so easy, now.

I'm glad that my work has been something that resonated with you in this respect! Alastor cares a lot about his reputation as a demon but is pretty blatantly a person who could not possibly give less of a shit about being "wrong" for not being experiencing romantic or sexual attraction. The explanation Viv gave at one point for his own understanding of himself (that he thinks he's just "waiting for the right woman") actually stuck out to me a lot because it's a very "well, nothing is wrong with me for not feeling anything, it's the world that's failed to produce a suitable person" perspective.

But having that kind of confident perspective of your own rightness in the world is really not often portrayed in media, or even in fandom, which even ten years ago was still in the throes of standardizing "Oh, no! Me, gay? These feelings are so wrong!" style m/m content and is honestly not that far off from essentially that for aro/ace characters.

Anyway, all of that is to say that there's not yet much out there that doesn't frame allo/amatonormative values as the default that "even aro/ace people can (and should want to) achieve," and that it's really fun to write a fic that is unequivocally from the perspective of a character who is aroace and doesn't see it as even remotely a fault in himself. Does he have moments where he's a little confused and trying to process how things fit for him? Absolutely. But he just doesn't strike me as the kind of guy who thinks he owes romance to Vox of all people, hahaha. I've written him trying to conform to allo/amatonormativity more with Mimzy, because I think the social standards of their time could push him into it, but Vox? Absolutely not, he does not respect Vox enough for it to even enter his mind.

And then, on the other hand, writing it from an aroace perspective centers the way that romantic and sexual interest can feel like a betrayal of a good thing. With a character like Alastor, it frames romantic and sexual attraction the same alien way that we usually see aromanticism and asexuality framed as.

In the end, this is just one of a plethora of different experiences that aro/ace people can have, but it's one that I really wanted to see represented more, so I'm very happy to write it. I'm glad that you're enjoying it!

[valerieblue]

Ok so like, I'm never on tumblr anymore, but....

I heard it's asexual sunday for the ofmd fandom, and I have: girl, I have THOUGHTS.

Because going into this fandom as like, one of THE most sex-repulsed aro/aces out there (which I am not getting into the history of why I am, except that it is related to my OCD and if you know anything about OCD it's bad), I was not anticipating. Uh, a horny fandom. Which is what I got.

So that was. Well, let's just say I have a lotttt of words and accounts blocked to prevent myself from being triggered, and I avoid E and several M fics like the plague.

So when I started writing ofmd fics, (posting the first chapter of my first fic two years ago today EXACTLY), I was doing it for me. And by "it" I mean posting sex-repulsed ace4ace gentlebeard. Because I wanted it, neeeeeded it sooooo badly, I did not want to think about those two fucking in any way at all, and at that point I'd seen very few ace-rep fics, or ace-rep fics that were on my dumb little level.

Anyway, where was I going with this?

I can't quite remember, except that now that I'm in the ofmd aro/ace discord and now that I have FIFTEEN fics featuring ace4ace gentlebeard, long and short, under my belt, I feel better about being in the fandom. EVERY Sunday is Asexual Sunday for me, every fucking day is asexual sunday, shit.

I started writing these fics for me, honestly. I am, first and foremost, my target audience. I write what I want to see, which is sweet sweet asexual love with absolutely no sex, but also cheekily subverting allosexual norms here and there.

But I get comments from people who actually really like my asexual rep, and that makes me feel GOOD. That people who had the same idea as me--girl, can I please get some more ace content up in this fandom?--are finding a little of something they like.

And now I'm finding MORE ace4ace content too that I like, and it doesn't feel so lonely over here.

I still hermit from a lot of y'all. Like I said, nsfw content is kinda triggering for me, and I do not interact. I have to distance myself. I get bitchy about it sometimes (because my OCD makes me a little bitch in a lot of situations).

And sometimes I really, really wish I didn't have to dodge a goddamn minefield of horny content most days.

But I don't feel so alone here any more.

By the way, if you're interested in ace4ace gentlebeard content (and if you're seeing this because of this tag, then maybe you are, but if you aren't, I literally could not care), if you like not necessarily good writing but entertaining writing, I have a whole series on ao3 of ace4ace gentlebeard, and let me tell you, I am NOT done with them yet.

[arromantica-lucha]

i got a lot of thoughts about loveless by alice oseman and if this post seems very one sided well thats just how it read to me. my opinion isnt the end-all and i value how everyone interpreted and was affected by this book. this isnt a closed topic lets talk about it

gripes with loveless by alice oseman

took a while to actually explain that ace and aro are two separate identities and still not that well. it makes aro seem like a subset of ace which is entirely false. its cool there was an aroallo character involved but still

the book title 'loveless' is a real term and identity and the entirety of the book kinda shits on it by enforcing the ideal that its still okay to be aspec cause platonic love can be experienced and any type of love is required or at least better than "not feeling anything and being alone forever"

it was weird for her friends to forgive her over gestures that had nothing to do with apologizing before georgia actually apologized and explained but that may just be more of a personal thing that i didnt like. likewise the story being about platonic love it kinda sucks her deepest connection is with her roommate and not the people shes known for years and wronged

kinda sex negative. i mean rooney says she doesnt dislike casual sex but then that whole thing becomes the reason she hates herself and a reason to cope with being "unloveable" and its kinda lame. you can tell that story without making it seem like casual sex is just a means of devaluing yourself. and you can be sex repulsed and still not do that. it just feels unfair to aroallo people especially who are told they are monsters for enjoying and only wanting casual sex when this book is supposed to be about aromanticism too

(can we also be done with harry potter references??? lets stop hurting trans and jewish people thanks)

basically particular identities' stories shouldnt come at the expense of others and other ways of life. its great and important to write different experiences because no one is gonna relate to them all but no one has to replace romantic love with ANY type of love to feel good about themselves and be human. loveless and aplatonic people shouldnt have to read something that uses rhetoric against their identities within a book about aspec people

things i like about loveless

i didnt relate to it personally but the experiences felt very genuine. internalized aphobia, being hounded by aphobic comments, finding it hard to portray love even in a fictional or artistic sense, etc.

I appreciate the references to race and intersectionality that come with being queer even if they were minimal. so few times is it actually acknowledged that there is privilege when it comes to being understood, coming out, being accepted, etc. the references to that were nice to see because too often intersectionality being brought up is brushed off and blatantly ignored or people pretend like they understand

it was written by someone who is aroace even if there are some things that can be less isolating within the aspec community with the language being used. someone being open about their identities and how they choose to define them in the mainstream world is how we get more peoples voices in there

it has helped people discover their own identity though id still recommend further research on the actual identities being named and ones not named. these stories are the first introduction of aspec identities in mainstream and that hopefully means itll start to expand to other identities within that community that have not yet had representation

this should be the start of developing more rep. the first takes are not gonna represent everyone and its a good thing it exists to tell a few peoples story. but that doesnt mean it should be free from any criticism because thats how we make them continuously better. i hope to see an aroallo character soon. i want the term loveless to be properly used in media and expressed for what it is. i want to stop pretending like ace is the umbrella term for all aspec identities. i want amatonormativity explained as the sociological term it is that harms all life not just aromantic and polyamorous people. i want a polyam aspec character and polyam characters in general. i want disabled and ethnic aspec characters where the intersectionality is just as important to the narrative. i want a whole lot more and to stop prentending like any of that should be unreasonable

[that-starry-freak]

Okay, wow. Uhm.. I'm honestly kind of tired of all the fandom discourse. So i- I want to talk about it.

 This is honestly about to be really personal. So CW for mentions of hypersexuality and grooming(that ones at the very end), as well as mentions of harassment and aphobia. I also vaguing a bit, but its not too explicit (I do name 2 people at some point but im defending them and talking about how they dont deserve to be harassed, so-) and I'm not talking negatively about anyone!

Also please ignore my terrible grammar/spelling. This is kind of just me ranting and in no way is meant to be an actual well written essay or anything

Okay- so- god I was writing this all in my head but now I'm trying to type this out im coming up short

Okay, lets try this- there's no way to really neatly and perfectly segway into what I want to talk about, but I'll try my best

I just really want to talk about the harassment that's been going on in the fandom. Because its really just.. frustrating.

First is the allegations of aphobia.

Yes, aroace people can be aphobic! But can we please learn the difference between projecting and aphobia. 

There are aroace people in this fandom seeing Moon and Nexus and deciding to make them not sex repulsed because they arnt. Ive seen people get called aphobic for making them demiaroace, or aceflux, or just non-repulsed aroace. And I've seen people make fics of awful acts, "correcting" their asexuality, and being purposely tagged wrong.

Which one of these is actual aphobia, hm?

Should have started with this but, yknow, it's too late for that now- ehem, 

Hi! I'm Astro, a aceflux lesbian who struggles with hypersexuality. I, personally, am actually really uncomfortable with people making Moon not aroace and shipping him, even in aus. Im uncomfortable with them even making him not repulsed most of the time. What do I do though? I dont harass people. I just don't interact with the content!

And I have no problem with people making Nexus not repulsed/aroace. Why?? Because canonical hes confused and unsure about if he's aroace or not! And I know a lot of people on the ace and aro spectrum(s), including me, can relate to that feeling. The unsureness of if you are, and even if you know you are, not knowing where you are in the spectrum. I personally love making Nexus somewhere along the lines of demi or gray, because that would add more representation! Especially with Old Moon back now, we have our repulsed rep. That doesn't mean they can't both be repulsed! I'm just saying that having another character be another side of the spectrum (whether its non-repulsed aroace, demiaroace, demiaro and alloace, etc.) Would be nice. 

Personally, I've been tempted to make an au where Nexus started experimenting with sex and it starts clogging his mind. Because I enjoy his character, and I want to project my own experiences onto his character. There's nothing wrong with it?? Self inserting into canon characters is a tale as old as time, just as old as ocs.

There is literally nothing wrong with wanting to have more representation or have a character that represents you. That isn't ace or aro phobic- i don't get how people don't understand that. I know multiple aroace people who like dating, or who are dating. I also know aroace people who just like qprs and can't stand dating. I know aroace people who have been confused and have fluctuated with their sexuality as I've known them, trying to figure themselves out. There are different types, and people want to see themselves in a character that is similar to them. Whats wrong with that?

Now, I am not defending the people who constantly are like "well aroace people can date too", completely ignoring the fact that some are repulsed. I'm not defending the people that say that whenever you mention that a character doesn't like to date because they're repulsed. I've seen it happened to people who literally have aus and are talking about their versions if the character and how they never want to date, and people say that. It's fucking annoying. And ya, pretty aphobic.

But non-repulsed aroace people saying that about their own au versions of characters isn't the same thing. Defending their headcanons of a character because it helps them better connect to it isn't the same thing- im like, so confused about how we don't understand this already??

Another this is- and I can't believe I have to say this -can we NOT fucking harass people??? Like holy shit why do I have to say this?

Yes, this includes people who support terrible things. This includes people who just don't like the same things as you. Yes, this includes people that don't like you.

Because, fun fact, that just makes the situation worse. Someone saying something bad about somebody, and then a bunch of people swarming them and telling them their wrong, isn't going to change their mind. It'll actually just make them have an even more negative view of the person.

Now, spreading awareness about a person who is actively harassing people is different. But that also doesn't mean you should see that awareness and go harass that person. Again, its going to make it worse.

Instead, report. Block. Do whatever you can to keep yourself and others safe. Please don't harass people though. Please.

And yes holy shit this includes if they ship things you don't like! Holy fuck why do I even have to say this- if you disagree with someone, block them. Don't fucking spread rumors. You fucking people keep complaining about all the discourse and then attack shippers. What the fuck?? Stop it. The ones you are attacking don't even do shit, they're just chilling. Some people Eccpecially!! I feel bad about mentioning directly, but people like @/kuuchaos and @/zthesheep (not tagging because I don want to bother them and also im a coward. Wishing them all the support in the world tho) haven't even done anything! They're just getting harassed because they're associated with people these harassers don't like.

Hell, i- who has barely done anything but support people -am terrified of getting harassed. Because I'm associated with these "big blogs", I'm at risk of being harassed. Its ruining my mental health, which was just finally getting better- its frustrating. I literally had to take a break from tumblr because I was so anxious, and I felt sick to my stomach and was shaking a bit. I just want to make friends and have fun and post art, but I'm scared of being yelled at literally becuas elf people who I associate myself with.

I know im at risk just because I'm mutuals with two of these blogs. Just because I post and reblog ship things, and reblog things from these "big blogs". Im- augh. I luckily haven't been harassed, and have blocked the harasser in question, but that doesn't stop the crippling anxiety of the fact that i may be in the future. That's not okay. Its awful that this fandom is so fucked up that people who havnt even done shit are afraid of being harassed- or are actually being harassed!

Can I remind everybody that the VAs literally asked everyone not to harass each other and to just chill out? Sure, I'm all for death of the author, but thats not what that is. You can't just take canon and use it to harass people, but completely ignore the people who made that canon. That's fucked up. Either ignore canon all together, or listen to the VAs. Either you, you have no reason to harass people.

Anyway, I hope soon we can all be a lot nicer to each other. Seriously, I dont care about disagreeing with ships. I dont even think we should all be friends, im not a fucking elementary school teacher. But I think we should all at least be respectful to each other and not literally harass and send fucking gore to people. Eccpecially fuckimg CHILDREN like im sorry whos idea was that?? Those gore anons need to be put in prison because that is one of the most disgusting things I've heard in a fandom- and I've been in some pretty horrific fandoms (*cough*dsmp*cough*)

So uhm- yeah

Please dont harass me for speaking out against harassment, like seriously. I'm not promoting harassment or aphobia, or incest or anything. Especially grooming, considering i may have been groomed by one of my friends in 3rd grade??? Idk, the more you know-

Im also not inviting an argument. Please dont argue with me, please. Or even disagree with me in reblogs or comments or tag me or anything. It may seem childish, but I instinctively want to argue back and I just want to avoid that. Please.

But yeah, let's just be decent to each other pls. Use that nifty block button more, please and thank you <3

(THIS WAS NOT REREAD OR EDITED! plus I was having extreme pain at the end cause of cramps- and I was emotional and frustrated at the beginning. So this all may be a bit incoherent/rude, but im trying

Again, please don't harass me- especially over me talking about my hypersexuality and things- its hard for me and personally <3)

[moremysteriesthantragedies]

And don't get me started on how I've basically discovered there's seemingly a war between sex repulsed and sex favorable aces. As if you fit into one of two binaries and we have to be enemies because...? I am laughing in trans.

Like idk my dudes, sexuality is complicated and for a lot of people it's not just "sex repulsion or full on sex!". I think people calling for representation outside just those two options aren't doing so because they think those two options don't deserve representation, but more of because aces like me writing about my own experience risk people saying I am not writing asexuality right. Even inside my own community. It can just be extremely isolating not perfectly fitting into either box because it feels like both sides are screaming at the top of their lunges, and if you gently try to mention a middle ground, you suddenly hate them and don't want "their team" to win.

I'm tired and would like to scream at both asexual camps "I relate to and love both of you. Now stop fighting about who allos hate most and just support each other." Please for the love of Hell stop letting allos expectations of asexuals cause you to hurt fellow asexuals by acting like children all fighting over the same toy. Please stop fighting over getting representation as if there are only a few ace characters that can ever exist in the history of the universe and just bolster each other's want for representation.

I totally get people venting about how so many sides of the ace community need representation yet are shut down, and how both sides might feel neglected because ace representation is kind of nonexistent right now. But that does not have to lead to wild claims saying a whole part of the community with a ton of individuals personally doesn't want you to get the rep you need, or even implying those individuals aren't a part of the ace community.

Also, sorry but if you're one of those clowns screaming in fandoms because you think a character is a set type of ace without the text ever confirming or showing this as an excuse to harrass other ace fan creators, well, as I said, I think you're a clown. We all are desperate to project onto the few ace characters that exist, we can recognize we all just want to be understood and leave it at that.

I promise I will return peacefully to my little side of things but I just had to get that off my chest.

[th3d0nutl0rd]

I know this is probably going to be a response to an old post or something, but in regards to the Alastor shipping controversy, I just want to say thank you. As a demiro myself, it is kinda disheartening to see people toss aside ace/aro characters as all being sex/romance repulsed. Basically stereotyping for the sake of “representation”.

I get people being upset about disrespecting his identity by writing him like any allo character, but my issue is that us demis and greyaces/aros who keep his identity in mind while writing tend to be lumped in with these guys without a second thought because we dared ship an aspec character with someone. It seems extremely gatekeepy in my eyes. Like us aspec who still feel some form of romantic and/or sexual attraction aren’t “enough”.

I understand aces don’t get rep that often, and it is nice to see ace characters when they do come up. But us demis really don’t get a ton of rep either, because we’re often seen as “just normal”.

Hi anon! So, I've not really followed up that post at all, but honestly I really appreciate you taking the time to send me this!

I choose not to label my sexuality, because personally I find that labels can be isolating and cause more harm than good sometimes.

And if you do find a label that makes you feel happy and comfortable and seen then all the more power to you! But my point here is moreso that, sometimes people are going to have complex identities or sexualities that others don't understand. Heck, maybe they don't even understand it themselves. But diminishing someone's identity or to tell them they "aren't doing it right" simply because they experience it a different way to someone else is just ignorant and again, as I said before, it's isolating and can make someone feel awful.

Just let people exist, and let them enjoy characters in a way that makes them feel represented beyond whatever you think that character should conform to. Sorry for the rant, but I'm glad my post resonated with you <3

[cliffhanger-ending]

2022 Library Books

I moved to a new city this year and opened a library card, so I made this list of (most of) the books I checked out this year and my thoughts! Some are shorter than others because I started this list in about June so I was trying to remember how I felt about them a few months later haha

(Note I did not include books I DNF’d after like 30 pages because I didn’t see the point, I included a few I DNF’d further along)

That said, if anyone has any recs for 2023 reading, feel free to send me an ask!

List under the cut!

Red White and Royal Blue by Casey McQuiston - 3.5/5. Cute and cheesy, but felt a little too much at times

Mr. Penumbra’s 24 Hour Bookstore by Robin Sloan - 3.5/5. Loved the concept and laughed out loud at parts but I'm not sure I liked the ending

The Starless Sea by Erin Morgenstern - 5/5. Honestly my favorite book I’ve ever read, the concept the writing the characters the world building the everything. Finished the entire 500 page book in 2 days, could have done it in 1 if I hadn’t started at 7 pm the first day

The Night Circus by Erin Morgenstern - 4/5. I think I read it too fast so there were a few parts I didn’t understand but overall very good, again loved the world building

Written in the Stars by Alexandria Bellefleur - 1/5. Just not my cup of tea, felt more like a poorly written fanfiction than a book. Grumpy/sunshine and fake dating but like… ok what else that’s literally the entire book

One Last Stop by Casey McQuiston - 4.5/5. This one wasn’t as hyped to me as RWRB was so I was pleasantly surprised that I liked it way better. Sapphic subway romance with a sci-fi twist, what more could you ask for? I love Jane. Docked half a point just because I personally did not enjoy the explicit scenes but that’s a me being sex repulsed thing and not anything against the author’s writing

The Passing Playbook by Isaac Fitzsimons - DNF. I’m definitely out of the intended age range for this book, and the writing was frankly bad. Felt like representation for the sake of checking off boxes on a diversity checklist

Anything But Fine by Tobias Madden - 2/5. I related to the main character as a former dancer forced to quit due to my body failing, but in terms of actual plot and characters it wasn’t super great

Beyond the Black Door by Adrianne Strickland - 2/5. Too many plot twists, felt really confusing. Ace/trans rep but in the weirdest most roundabout way possible so it didn’t feel like it. Don’t like her falling for the guy who literally invaded her mind and started living there

Sweet Sorrows by David Nichols - gonna be honest I don’t remember much of this one, it wasn’t what I was expecting out of it when I checked it out

Let’s Talk About Love by Claire Kann - DNF. Disappointed because I wanted the bi ace rep, but the writing wasn’t good and the representation felt wrong and frankly insulting

The City We Became by N.K. Jemisin - 3/5. The concept of this one is really intriguing and I loved the beginning where we found all the boroughs, but the ending wasn’t quite satisfying to me. Also felt like stereotyping in the bad way but maybe that was the point? I think it’s a series, maybe some of this is answered in the later books

The Sound of Stars by Alechia Dow - 2/5. Again disappointed by what should have been a really good book based on the concept. I wish it was more about the sci-fi than the romance and also that it wasn’t human/alien romance. Ending was not satisfying and I’ll admit I’m ace not demi so I don’t have firsthand experiences but the representation felt inaccurate

Last Night at the Telegraph Club by Malinda Lo - 4/5. Loved how much research clearly went into making it as accurate to 1950s San Francisco as possible. I related a lot to Lily in terms of her figuring out her sexuality and being perceived as naive and innocent by other queer people, and I really felt for her with all her internal (and let’s be honest external) conflict about her identities. There were just a few plot points I wish had been elaborated on more, like what happened to Kath after they got separated or what ever happened with Calvin

Pulp by Robin Talley - DNF. Abby’s character annoyed me to death, Janet’s story was slightly more interesting but not enough for me to want to keep reading. Disappointed because the premise was really good but it just was not executed well at all

Almost Like Being In Love by Steve Kluger - 4/5. Hilarious, loved all the characters and all the Red Sox references (being a big fan myself). Loved the formatting too but I get it’s not for everyone. Felt a bit over the top at parts (Travis that was definitely stalking bro) but it worked for the plot. First chapter when they were teens was definitely the best, epilogue felt a little anticlimactic but I guess it wrapped up nicely

Desire Lines by Christina Baker Kline - 1.5/5. Not what I was expecting when I checked it out, I thought it was going to be more of a mystery and it wasn’t (both in the sense that the first 70% of the book is basically an entirely different genre and that it was pretty easy to figure out the mystery). Did not like the main character at all, did not like the only gay character being a stereotype, did not like the justification of student/teacher relationships, did not like the romance. Bonus half star for small New England town setting but that’s probably the only thing I did like about it

Survive the Night by Riley Sager - 2/5. The premise was really interesting but the execution was not very good. I think it took me longer than most to figure out who did it but I was able to figure it out before the reveal, but the other big twist seemed like it came out of nowhere, especially after that character’s pov chapter. I didn’t like the whole “this is what happened, oh just kidding you made it up, nope you were right the first time” thing and that was pretty much the entire book. Especially didn’t like the very end when she married the guy who essentially kidnapped her

The Invisible Life of Addie LaRue by V.E. Schwab - 3/5. Absolutely loved it most of the way through and was ready to give it 4 stars, but the ending was bad enough to dock an entire star, it completely ruined it for me. It just fed into that trope of manipulation played off as “love” which I can’t stand. I did like Henry’s character and a lot of the side characters, and the writing itself, but for as much as I was loving it up until the last 70 pages or so I was left feeling extremely disappointed

Strange the Dreamer by Laini Taylor - DNF. I liked it enough for the first part with Lazlo, but as soon as it switched pov to Sarai it completely turned me off. Especially didn’t like the implication that Sparrow was in love with Feral when they were basically raised as siblings. The reviews on this one were overall really good so I was expecting more

[loganthrives]

Hiii! I'm an ace spec writer, and just wanted to give my two cents on this. However I don't know you, or the characters, or the context, so please take this with the biggest grain of salt.

First off, you didn't do anything wrong. I think that its great to even just have asexuality mentioned in the context of relationships by name. I feel like sometimes when media talks about ace rep, they duck and dodge around the word itself let alone defining it, but you don't do that here. I love that your character is upfront by naming the term and defining it. This is good ace rep.

Another thing I love is that you then explicitly go on to say that ace folks can absolutely have relationships and even have sex. I feel like this detail gets skipped over or missed, especially amoung sex repulsed younger aces just discovering themselves and thinking that their experience of not liking or wanting sex is a universal truth amoung asexuals. Its not. I know asexual sex workers and aces in happy relationships with kids. Asexuality is just a label for one small characteristic of a person for how they experience the world, it doesn't define what that person does or how they behave when in a relationship or what they can and cannot do in any relationship. It just means that their relationships aren't (typically) formed or based on sexual attraction. So I also love love love that you've included that reality here. Thank you for that!

The only criticism from me is that it feels like there are panels missing from the conversation.

She (Bea?) mentions it in the context of exploring her own sexuality, but doesn't really elaborate why she considered asexuality in the first place. I would love for there to have been self-reflection on her part just to say that she wasn't sure if she was sexually attracted to Ava or if it was romantic or another form of attraction instead that drew her to this person. Maybe not even in those explicit terms, but just highlighting the difference between what being asexual is like and what being allosexual is like would help to show the difference.

She could ask herself things like: Do I want to be with this person sexually? Does thinking about their body turn me on? Do I think of sex when i think about this person? Is the thought of having sex with them exciting to me? And then answer one of those questions out loud, to show where she falls - the difference being, an asexual person would either say no or feel confused about those kinds of questions, and an allo person would typically say yes if they were sexually attracted to them. She could also pose those questions to the other character (Laz, I presume?) and leave him to grapple with his own answers to the questions.

Laz's reactions and thought process make me think he's likely not aroace (aromantic asexual), as he does say in his internal thought bubble that he does want a relationship with her, which is another point in the comic's favour for representation as far as I'm concerned. While aromanticism isn't explicitly mentioned, I think its good to remind folks/demonstrate that not all asexual people are also aromantic. There are plenty of us who want to be in romantic relationships regardless of where we fall on the ace spectrum or whether we're sex favourable, indifferent, or repulsed.

Again, the only things I know about this story and these characters are explicitly only what's contained within this post. You mentioned that it might be out of character for her to get too elaborate with the subject, and comics have only so many panels and so much room on the page, so it makes sense to pare down spoken conversation and show rather than tell in that form of media. So again, biggest grain of salt, especially since you didn't ask for the criticism in the first place 💜

Now tell me where I can buy/read this comic so I can get more context for these characters pls :D

So in light of it being International Asexuality Day, I wanted to post a few panels from that time asexuality was discussing in Brimstone and Roses...

I remember when this episode came out, I was burned out and depressed as hell (the author's note is proof of that), but so relieved to finally be able to talk about asexuality and explore Laz's sexuality a little bit. It was just a very difficult thing to write for a multitude of reasons, but mainly I'm technically out to my family, really, about being Ace, and so discussing it on a large scale made me want to vomit.

I also wanted to try to keep the dialogue authentic and not a massive info dump, while playing up the fact that Bea is a big romantic.

She might not have been fully accurate with her discussion of asexuality, and I know a few people disliked that I didn't use the "right" terminology for explaining asexuality. I'm sorry. Regardless, it meant a lot to write this episode, and I appreciate the support and love it got, especially among my fellow aces.

Honestly, making this post still makes me anxious, and looking at the comments on that episode makes my heart race, but despite that, I'm still happy with this episode.

I'm sorry if I wasn't the most accurate, or if my definitions of asexuality stray from y'all's, but I was hoping the episode would be a launch-off pad for those who might resonate with Laz's confused feelings for people to do their own research, regardless of whether they believe they're asexual or otherwise, and I hope that it did help people with that.

[mixterglacia]

Just A Thought:

If your automatic reaction to ace folks poking fun at how h0rny people act, or venting about fans ignoring a canon ace’s identity is:

     “UH, YOU’RE OPPRESSING ME?” You’re intentionally ignoring a sexual orientation that is quite often called the ‘Invisible Identity’? Due to people thinking ‘That is not a thing. Everyone is like that?’

     “Aces can have a libid0 too/Aces can still have sex!” Which is correct. However, that leads to a hella slippery slope. Furthering the stereotype that asexuality and celibacy are the same thing. In addition to justifying the ‘You just haven’t found the right person’ narrative. In addition to making aces with no libid0 feel even more broken. In addition to handing aphobe’s a metaphorical knife to wield. In addition to being the top excuse for making our VERY limited canon representation h0rny bc YOU want them to bang. IF YOU AREN’T GOING TO PROPERLY RESEARCH/DISCUSS THIS CONCEPT, DON’T FUCKING USE IT. IT MAKES YOU LOOK LIKE A MASSIVE JACKASS. IT COMES OFF AS FETISHIZTION. YOU REMEMBER HOW UPSET YOU GOT WHEN BBC SHERLOCK KEPT QUEERBAITING YOU? THAT'S HOW IT FEELS.

     “It’s not like I’m making them straight? Why do you care?” My dear, sweet fool. Meet me behind the Denny’s, let’s just have a chat. I did NOT go through 28 years on this fucking mudball for you to spout shit like that. Ace rep is JUST AS MOTHER FUCKING IMPORTANT AS THE REST OF THE LGBT+. This bullshit is EXACTLY what hampers the progress that ace’s have DESPERATELY fought for.

     “You’re being unreasonable/dramatic.” Am I though? So let’s take a few examples then. Let’s hypothetically say that Toby Fox went and retconned Alphys and Undyne’s relationship so they were both straight. Like full on making one of them a cis dude. You’d be justifiably furious. Let me introduce you to Jughead from the Archie comics.

For those who are unaware, in the comics? JUGHEAD IS CONFIRMED ACE. FULL OUT ACE.

Do you understand how exciting this was for ace folks? Let me just show you how much this meant to us.

That’s just a few of the reactions to this reveal. I vividly remember when the issue dropped because like. THAT IS JUGHEAD. JUGHEAD FROM ONE OF THE MOST WELL KNOWN COMICS IN THE WESTERN WORLD. DO I NEED TO SAY MORE?

Yes. Yes I do, but not because I’m happy.

There’s a little show called Riverdale. You may have heard of how wild it is. That isn’t a compliment. Of course Jughead would have to be there, however so there was the potential of an on screen discussion of his asexuality. It was a full discussion in the comic, so I (and many others) held our breath.

Alas, it was not meant to be. They totally ignored his orientation, and made him straight.

Jughead being ace wasn’t just a popular headcanon. He was CONFIRMED ace. Are you starting to see why we aren’t just “Being dramatic?” 

As much as I dislike Hazbin Hotel, you know what I do like? I LIKE THAT ALASTOR IS WORD OF GOD CONFIRMED TOUCH-REPULSED ARO/ACE. You know what I don’t like? That the tiniest FRACTION of fanworks involving him seem to care about addressing it. 

I love The Magnus Archives. I love that John is CONFIRMED ACE. WORD OF GOD CONFIRMED. You know what I hate? How often I find that people just...don’t care. 

Once more, if this happened to any other confirmed LGBT+ character, you would be LIVID. 

So no. I am not overreacting. This is a PROBLEM. One that you don’t care to address, seemingly. 

In conclusion, you’re not just an asshole. You’re a MASSIVE asshole. You make jokes about the straights CONSTANTLY. Ace’s should have every right to mock the shit out of general fandom’s hyperfixation on making everyone h0rny. I will not be accepting criticism, but you’re welcome to try.

[idrellegames]

(Part 1) Hi, I've been following this project since it was Dragon Age themed, and today I wanted to say how much your post today meant to me. I'm a sex-repulsed, highly romantic ace. While I haven't experienced the professional acephobia you have, as a consumer of fiction I have seen its effects. Often in the interactive fiction genre, I feel like there isn't a place for me. I don't think I've read a single one that has an explicitly ace character, let alone as romance options.

(Part 2) When playing I either have no choice in whether my character and their partner have sex, or I'm giving the option to avoid that, but the narrative and the characters still talk like it's happening off screen or will happen at some point. It's hard not to feel like the characters I'm romancing wouldn't actually like me if the game allowed me to be myself. What I'm trying to say is thank you, I know that post was hard to make, but it means a lot to me to know Wayfarer will be better.

Hi anon,

Thank you for sending this message and thank you for sharing your experience. I am with you on how much of a struggle it can be to be ace and to want to consume and enjoy romantic media. I have also felt the lack of a space for me not just in interactive fiction, but any RPG that includes romance. As a writer, I can see why, especially in large scale video games: writing happens quickly, shorthands are employed and romances are constructed in way that are accessible to the largest amount of players. Which means relying on default assumptions about the player character and, in this case, the default is allosexual.

I've noticed a basic formula in RPGs that include romance. This starts with BioWare's games, but I’ve seen it in plenty of other places, including interactive fiction. The scene structure follows a basic arc:

Initial flirt(s)

Romanceable character acknowledges their feelings for the player character 

Player initiates the first kiss

Some padding scene inbetween while the player increases approval points and the main story happens 

Player initiates a sex scene 

No new material for a really long time while the player does story missions

The player reaches endgame and the final mission and there’s one final interaction between the player character and the romanceable character 

Now of course some games go outside this formula or change it up, but most games I find construct their romances around a sex scene as its climax (I swear this is not an intentional pun, I'm just using writing vocab!). This is the point where the player character and the RO are "official" and everything that comes after is just extra padding. All of the character development came before the initial sex scene and once that sex scene occurs, there's no more need to continue romantic development. 

It's similar to the structure of romantic comedies where the story ends with the leads getting together and we never see what happens afterwards (this isn't limited to film, this structure has a long history within theatre stretching back to Shakespeare's comedies and before).

As an ace player, it can be jarring. I can never quite perfectly roleplay as ace because the game assumes that my character wants and needs sex. Which sometimes I don't mind (I play a lot of different types of characters in my RPGs) but sometimes it also just gets tiring. The kinds of important conversations that happen in real life--conversations about wants, needs and sexual compatibility--don't happen in this kind of fiction, especially in the mainstream. 

Either the writers never considered it a valuable thing to explore, or they didn’t feel they could explore it, or they simply didn’t think of it because they didn’t KNOW about it. Which is why ace rep is so important--the more exposure allosexual game writers have to ace romances in fiction, the more they will be able to learn how to construct an interactive romance arc that is ace-inclusive and doesn't make assumptions about sex and romance being intrinsically intertwined. I can say from my experience in the professional field, 95% of the time asexuality is shot down is because of misconceptions, lack of knowledge or plain ignorance.

(As a side note, conversations about sexual compatibility and what the people involved in a relationship want and need out of that relationship is important for everyone, not just ace folks. It is something I would like to see more of in media instead of assuming that the people in the relationship are 100% on the same page just because they're in a relationship.)  

When I look back on the romances I enjoyed the most in gaming, I think about how I gravitated towards Solas and Josephine's romances in Dragon Age: Inquisition. Their romances do not have sex scenes and while there is language that implies that there may have been a sexual aspect to their relationship, it is left up to the player's interpretation. That is the closest that I have gotten to roleplaying an ace character, at least in mainstream gaming.    

Romances are only one small part of Wayfarer's structures, but I am trying my best to create a system that does not make assumptions about the player. That's why I have different sets of icons and text (depending on whether you want to go with a result that implies sexual attraction or one that implies romantic attraction) and you are never locked out of choosing either option. Both will be available, so you can roleplay a character who is demisexual or gray-ace or any other ace character who occasionally feels sexual attraction or chooses to engage in sex.

Friendship arcs are just as important as romance ones, and they give different content that will be just as entertaining and fulfilling as the romances. You do not need to romance any character to get the best version of their story and romance is not an indication of how "close" the MC is to any of the main cast. 

There will be faults in this system. I know I will inevitably mess up and something will be missing or lacking (or it will get too difficult to code). And I also realize that aromanticism has been absent from this discussion and I am working on a way to include that in the game. 

It's become incredibly important to this project that I create a system that thinks outside the box and gives the player agency in how they engage with romance.  

[feathered-serpents]

Okay 

I’m going to talk about using canonically asexual characters in NSFW fanwork, mostly within TMA, but also within Good Omens as that is relevant to this discussion 

So first off. As an ace person, I am completely fine with the existence of NSFW TMA fanworks featuring Jon. Sometimes I’ll even seek it out! As an ace person who is not 100% sex-repulsed and would even like sex from time to time it’s nice to imagine Jon is like me in that regard. That he would enjoy sex with someone he loves and trusts very deeply and who loves and trusts him deeply back. It feels good to read. This includes those written by non-ace people! I’m really not a fan of the “you can only write this if you’re [identity]” mindset. I think it prevents representation, growth in media, and is too often used as an excuse by creators to NOT include certain rep. So long as the person writing is respectful, willing to talk to aces (or any person of an identity they are not), and take constructive criticism on their work, I have no problem with it. 

(but if you erase Jon’s asexuality I WILL burn down your house) 

Obviously I do not speak for all aces. My personal headcanon is Jon is sex-indifferent, and occasionally slips into either sex-repulsed or sex-favorable territory. With sex-favorable being more rare. Basically: on occasion he’s down, but more often than not, he’s just not into it. People who headcanon Jon as completely sex-repulsed and do not want to read NSFW work featuring him have my full respect. I do not think that should prevent those works from being made. Just tag it properly and there’s no problem.

But THAT is not what this post is about. In fact if you are a member of the above (non-ace writing ace intimacy) then this post is for you 

So lets get to it: I have an issue with how fandom infantilizes asexual characters

This is NOT exclusive to the TMA fandom, I saw it most egregiously in the Good Omens fandom, probably just because NSFW fics in the GO fandom are WAAAAYYYYYYY more common than in the TMA fandom but that’s not the important part. 

Most commonly, I saw it with Crowley. “Virgin Crowley” fics were so common that it was an established tag on Ao3, which isn’t in an of itself a bad thing! If you’re into that that’s fine, but I had some serious issues with how I saw it portrayed. 

More often than not, these fics said or implied Crowley was ace (Sometimes Aziraphale as well) again, not a problem, but here is where the problem comes in: 

Very often these fics would then say that Crowley knew nothing about sex. At all. 

“But wait!” you say, “Why’s that a problem? You just said in these fics he’s a virgin! It makes sense that he’d be inexperienced.” 

Inexperienced sure! It makes sense that in this situation Crowley might be nervous or ask Aziraphale for guidance on certain things, that’s fine! That’s not the issue. The issue is that’s not what these fics portrayed. These fics portrayed that Crowley has zero knowledge on the subject of sex. No knowledge of sex acts. No knowledge of his own body. Once I saw a fic where he didn’t even know what penetration was. 

“Okay,” you say, “But I’m still not seeing the issue?” 

The issue is Crowley is 6,000 years old. 

Crowley does not have had to have had sex to have knowledge of what sex is or how it works. Knowledge that he would have gotten in his 6,000 years of existence through various cultures. He existed in Ancient Rome! Where erotic mosaics were just, around! The mechanisms don’t really change! The issue is Crowley is an adult, and these fics are treating him as if he had the knowledge of a child. 

Which is creepy btw! That’s creepy! 

And I’m seeing it crop in TMA fics, and it’s making me really annoyed. 

Look, Jon may not be 6,000 years old, but the same principles apply. Jon is an adult, living in a hypersexualized society, he knows how sex works. He understand what sex is. Asexuality is NOT the lack of understanding what sex is. 

Please drill that into your heads: Asexuality is not the lack of understanding what sex is.  

If you want to have Jon sleep with Martin or whoever you’re shipping him with and write him as inexperienced and/or out of practice fine. That is not the problem. But if you do please, do not depict it as if he doesn’t understand the fundamentals of what’s going on. He does. He Is An Adult. His partner would not have to walk him through every step of it I promise. 

This sort of dynamic reads to me as just. Incredibly manipulative and creepy. Please don’t do it.

“Wow,” you say, “you seem to be getting kind of irrationally upset about this.” 

Maybe! But I am very tired of the stereotype that because someone is ace, they are somehow more pure, more childlike, “untouched by the filth of the flesh.” That is not true. That’s not what we are. That is not what asexuality is. 

TLDR; Asexuality is not the lack of understanding what sex is. To portray an asexual character as such is infantilization and it’s gross. Please don’t. 

[murmuur-vanilja]

Fictober 2021.9 — Punished by the spectrum

Prompt number: nine, "There's no right side to this". Original fiction: Corpsing, so not playing by the rules. Rating: T. Warnings: sex, murder.

I was running through Heaven, both of my arms outstretched, heading for the staircase, with Sǐwàng walking behind me. They obviously didn’t want to run after me, so they just vaguely followed my lead. However, I soon noticed they wouldn’t be able to see me any more, so I turned around and bounced up and down while waiting. In good spirits, I shouted.

“Come on Sǐwàng, follow me, follow me, follow plane-senpai~”

They suddenly interrupted their walk to put all their energy into judging me. They weren’t impressed by my imitation of an aeroplane, I could tell. I stretched my arms a little further.

“Vvvv~ Vvvv~ Vvvv~ Hold on is that even what a plane sounds like? Um. Uuu~? Uwu~? Awawa~? — Okay, do you actually believe planes make those sounds or are you just stimming? — Both because I wish they’d make those sounds. Wuwuwawawu~ — Someone save me.”

I pouted, but I they resumed their walk toward me — I suppose siblings often tease each other. Like how Zeus would cheat on his sister back then. Never mind, I think it’s a bad example. I wuwu’d my way up the stairs. Looking back, I saw them climb them up too, but without the plane sounds. Since I was already where I wanted to be, I took some time to admire their new outfit, carefully chosen by me. We had matching bottoms — my trousers and their skirt and leggings. Also they had hair! I mean they already had hair before, but now it was cool. They raised an eyebrow.

“My old hair was fine, but I admit the colours are pleasant. — You’re not allowed to read my thoughts, that’s not fair. — Parthena, my dea-rest brother. Do you understand what a curse is? — Well, I mean yes. Not fair. That’s what I said. Please stop.”

They opened their eyes even wider than usual and deployed their multicoloured wings to get right next to me and nudge me. I think they meant they couldn’t stop because it was a curse, actually. This actually makes a lot of sense, although I still don’t know where this curse comes from. I don’t think I was ever told, back in the Greek days. Probably that I was too low in rank to have the right to demand explanations — or maybe I thought my sibling would tell me, and I just waited on them. I then noticed how they were staring at me, and they took a sit next to me, gently petting the ground, inviting me to take a seat as well. I did, and they leaned on me.

“Parthena, can you close my eyes? — Sure thing! — Thank you, brother.”

They were unable to close their eyes, as part of their curse, I believe, but now that I was the one and only God, I had enough power to shut those for them. They seemed to relax a little.

“I see you’re curious about me. — Well, I mean yes. You’re family, I care. — It took you 1,500 years to ask, don’t pull the family card on me. — I have attention issues. — Right. — I recycle too much of the dopaminy hormony thingy. — Anyway. When I was born, I was meant to replace you, because you see, people actually thought you were quite annoying, and a few gods amongst the Olympians kind of wanted you to be punished. As a placeholder, I ruled over pumpkin crops, because that’s a small task, it wouldn’t take all of my energy. — Oh that makes sense. Hold on what? — But as I grew older and reached the age to brutally murder you, something unforeseen happened. I was ace and repulsed. — Oh, yas, ace rep. But I thought ace was about sex, not murder. — Let me start again for your big brain attention issues. I was meant to replace you. Y o u, the goddess of the virgins, whose powers are closely tied to sex and all. — Oh yeah, that would’ve been the end of all humanity if you took over me while being sex‑repulsed. — The gods were furious. — Why didn’t they make us a third sister so she’d kill us both? — What did you want to die? And why would it have worked on the second try? — Hey, picture it, if it had failed, we could’ve been a big family. — Please shut up before you talk. I said: the gods were furious. They blamed it on me, and so they cursed me. If I couldn’t become the soul-sucking god who didn’t only suck on souls, then I would have access to souls as well, in a different way. — Oh, like the curse of platonically! — No, like the curse of seeing the truth about everyone. It sounds cool, but let me tell you, everyone is nasty. That’s why I can’t close my eyes. I’m too shocked by all of the horrors of this world. There’s no right side to this.”

I know I must have been my usual self while listening to their story, that’s to say: annoyingly innocent enough for people to plan my death, but the truth is I didn’t know how else to react to that day. I’d smile and play goofy, but I’m not that asinine. Their head was still resting on my lap, but their expression looked as if a bit anguish had been caused by this conversation. I just said something calmly for once, and I don’t really know if I was right to do so. I’m quite clueless with anxiety.

“I’m glad, though. Not that you’re cursed, of course, damn if that’s something to be glad for. I’m glad you didn’t grow to kill me, because then I could live as your brother.”

[netbug009]

“LOL Peridot doesn’t fuse because she’s ace/aro rep” because that doesn’t have ANY UNFORTUNATE IMPLICATIONS

Guys I know I can be pretty critical of SU but I have never been straight up angry like I am right now. This was the exact thing I have been saying I hoped SU would not do with Peridot’s arc and let me spell out why this is a REALLY AWFUL WAY to put ace rep into the show: 1. Peridot was all but completely brainwashed by Homeworld into thinking fusion is disgusting. When she comes to Earth she straight up doesn’t understand fusion and has to be taught how romantic/sexual love works like a child. Asexual people are NOT sex repulsed and not simply sheltered or naive. They are not AFRAID of sex or incapable of it. They just don’t have any interest in it. Peridot is the absolute WORST choice to be ace/aro rep given how easy it is to imply she’s that way because of how she was raised.  2. Garnet doesn’t simply respect Peridot when she doesn’t want to fuse. She says she’s “not ready” and then when that eggs her into trying she says she’s “proud of her” for trying. If an aseuxal person doesn’t want sex you DO NOT TALK DOWN TO THEM LIKE THAT ABOUT IT YOU RESPECT THEIR DECISION AND DROP IT. But Garnet is treated as in the right for the way she treats her, which - if Peridot is supposed to be an ace/aro metaphor - implies an ace/aro person needs to attempt to have sex with a partner to “understand” them regardless of how much they may not want to.

3. FUSION ISN’T JUST ABOUT SEX. It’s about any sort of emotionally intimate relationship that makes those involved more than the sum of their parts. By saying Peridot isn’t interested it’s not simply saying she’s ace, but saying she doesn’t want to get too emotionally close to anybody. Heck, that’s what the show’s target audience is going to see much more clearly than any sort of sex metaphor, esspecially with how hard a time Peridot has had making friends. They’re going to see a character who has had trouble being close to others never complete that arc as fully as a character like amethyst, because fusion has consistently been used as a climax for showing how close two characters have gotten and how deeply they respect each other.  Like.... I get what the crew was TRYING to do here, but did ANYBODY ACTUALLY THINK about Peridot’s entire character arc or the way fusion has been handled and say “Yeah, so her being ace/aro makes great sense and definitely has no unfortunate implications” because as a gray ace who has had a lot of conversations with ace/aro friends about some of the horrible misconceptions they deal with? Screw all of this. This is absolutely horrible representation and the crew really needs to put a little more thought into not just including representation, but HOW they include it. Also, they need to pick a side of the fence already and decide if they want to say fusion is just a sex metaphor or not. My guess is not, because the other option promotes pedophillia and incest. 

[missdawnandherdusk]

I love that you have both ace and allo headcanons for Draco. As someone who is constantly questioning my orientation, it really warms my heart to know that you are a writer who can value and see truth to all sides for how a character swings ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Ohmyheart~

In all honesty it is so important to me to explained my own sexuality in a safe environment and writing let’s me do that. And I think ace rep is important as well as allo because we don’t know how these characters present because JKR is a bitch.

And I do value my characters so much, as much as you all are in love with the versions I have I love them all the more because they’re my creation. They’re my children in a way.

ALSO JUST BECAUSE YOURE ACE DOESNT MEAN YOU CANT BE ROMATIC AND FLUFFY AND IT DOESNT MEAN YOURE SEX REPULSED. ITS A SPECTRUM PEOPLE~