#just sounds like a more complicated way to say Genderfluid??

[kdinjenzen]

Somewhat NSFW question. So, I'm transfem (AMAB genderfluid) and planning to use estrogen someday in the future. I've had some transmasc (AFAB) friends start using testosterone and said that they were horny more often. Now, as a pansexual person, I like being horny. But if testosterone makes my friends more horny, estrogen won't do the opposite for me, will it?

Simple answer:

No that’s not how that works and Testosterone and Estrogen are not “opposites” in the way people say they are. So expecting “the opposite” of what happens when someone is on T to happen because you’re on E is just not really accurate.

More complicated answer:

As with EVERYTHING, it’s a YMMV situation. I’ve known trans men friends who, after being on T, become just disinterested in sex/being horny whole trans women friends who, after being on E, became more interested in sex/being horny. But, as you mentioned, I’ve also seen it the other way around.

Saying “being on T makes you more horny” isn’t really true and neither is “being on E makes you less horny” - it’s going to depend way more on you than anything else.

Take literally everything outside parties (even doctors) say with a grain of salt when it comes to “how transitioning works” especially in regard to how it works for trans women. Because, in most experiences, things are worded in a way that people are going to try passively (or actively) to discourage you from doing so by making it sound like you’re going to lose something(s) when it’s often, at best, an exaggeration or, at worst, full on fucking lies.

[sophieinwonderland]

The hatesub r/systemscringe are being full-on transphobes again!

Reminder: a huge number of systems have alters and headmates with completely different genders and sexes from the body.

Anyone who has ever studied any type of multiplicity is aware of this fact.

And not-so-shockingly, this makes gender complicated.

Let's just see the screenshots they're angry at today.

So the body has transitioned to male but this one headmate identifies as female and identifies as a trans woman.

In another screenshot, the system says they aren't "invading trans spaces." Which is such an absurd thing to have to defend yourselves from accusations of when you're a part of a trans system.

Even if you do take the position that spaces for transwomen should be exclusionary AFAB people, one would at least expect the male headmates to be able to feel safe in the trans community without being made to feel like they're "invaders."

Unfortunately, many pluralphobes and queer exclusionists have decided the gender identity of headmates in systems is less valid than that of singlets.

This is another pretty common thing. Especially with introjects who have source memories. It's common to have memories of lives you may not have actually lived but still feel pretty real.

I did a Tumblr poll last year. About half of systems responding had at least one trans headmate with the same gender as the body's AGAB. Nearly all had cis headmates with the opposite gender of the body.

Of course, if you heard it from r/systemscringe, they must be faking being trans entirely!

And takes like this throw not just systems under the bus, but also people who are genderfluid or otherwise nonbinary as well.

And if you're thinking, "wow, that comment sounds like something truscum would say," you aren't wrong!

Here are some unrelated posts this same user has authored:

Back to r/systemscringe, most of the comments were more of the same, stopping just short of calling them transtrenders but clearly very much wanting to!

By the way, all the censors on the names of the system and alters were mine. u/superthrowawayEEE censored nothing. When a user points this out, moderator u/DizkoLites says they considered taking it down but chose not to, saying their name was common enough that it wouldn't matter.

To be fair, the mods did end up taking it down... after the system got harassed for their gender and contacted the subreddit directly.

So congrats on waiting until after the harassment to enforce your own rules!

But don't worry, you're free to make a brand new post mocking someone for their gender identity! r/systemscringe's mod team is totally cool with that! Just gotta hide the name because that's apparently the only problem here!🙄

(You know, unless they're on the mod-approved hit list. Then you can name them too no matter how much harassment they get.)

The other day, someone asked this question on the hatesub:

Here's the answer:

Stop being bigots.

Stop being ableists.

Stop spreading misinformation.

Stop mocking people for their genders.

Stop harboring truscum and parroting transphobic talking points!

Try to be decent human beings for once in your lives!

And then... well, I guess that wouldn't leave much of a subreddit would it? There's no r/systemscringe without ableism, transphobia and queer exclusionism. It's baked into the DNA of these groups.

But maybe that would be for the best.

Nothing from these cringe communities is salvageable. And nothing should be socially acceptable about groups founded on cyberbullying.

[mueritos]

Hi, Matteo! So, I have just about the stupidest question to you as a fellow transmasc artist/creator: whenever I find myself trying to create a female character, I end up struggling with forming the idea of her personality and motivations etc in my mind, and then when I try to sort look at the character from different angles to 'get' them, boom! My hand slips and they're genderfluid now, or nonbinary, or transmasc, or transfem. The point is, they're never a cis woman in the end. No issues with male characters, cis or trans. Is this a common experience for other trans/nb creators? Or is it a 'default misogyny instilled in us all by society' thing? I just want to be able to create female characters too! and I kinda feel like an asshole for not being able to. So, I'd love to hear your thoughts on that!

this isn't stupid at all! first of all, it's entirely fine if you only want to draw and create trans characters. It's also okay that you have preferences toward certain characters. I hilariously fall into this same problem of struggling to make female characters, because my attraction toward men makes me want to always create gay/MLM centered stories. My brain is giving very much "no women no girls this is...The World of the Gays" image. But here's the thing, what you draw and what you choose to invest your creative energy into doesn't say anything moral about you. I would say things start becoming more complicated depending on the intentions behind art, how characters are depicted, and the harm it may cause to others (example, racist depictions of characters, colorism within art, etc).

However, it sounds like you do want to make female characters, specifically cis female characters. I struggle making cis female characters too, and i don't know if you relate, but after many years of being forced to be a Girl and to be Feminine, I now avoid situations or things that make me feel like I'm going back to GirlMode. But, it's important to remind ourselves that this avoidance can become maladaptive and prevent us from opening ourselves to new experiences. You're not an asshole, and clearly you care enough about making diverse art because you're trying to seek different perspectives.

my thought process when making female characters is essentially the same with all characters, but there are many characters I have intentionally chosen aspects of themselves that i do not relate to to push myself. It sounds like you need to make a decision to keep a cis female character and protect her from your transgender mind beam haha. Give her something you relate to, like a hobby or a lived experience or an outfit you like, and perhaps it can help alleviate any feelings of wanting to push your connection to her through shared transness. Another thing you can do is base her loosely off a cis woman in your life! I've done this before and it prevents me from changing her gender, mostly because I feel like it would be disrespectful to make them trans if they're based off someone I know haha. Or, if you still want a trans character in proximity to her, give her a trans friend, sister, cousin, partner, or enemy! That way the dynamic is not just based on their relationship, but also their different genders :)

also, don't worry if you're being misogynistic or not. every character you make may have some form of a stereotype or some "problematic" aspect. I have a cis female character who falls into the "wants to get married and only things about men stereotype", but she is brave and often far more driven than the men and women in her life because she cares about the man she loves (enough to break from her social status and become a fighter to save him). I ALSO have all kinds of trans characters I created just to lewd them up, and I know for sure there's probably someone out there wagging their finger at me and saying i'm "fetishizing" trans people. I also like to draw the occassional cute girl because I think women are beautiful and I admire the ways I see the women in my life carry themselves. My point is, characters are flawed because WE are flawed and we internalize a lot of messaging from the world. as long as you are seeking our ways to re-learn messaging and incorporate that into your work, you're doing enough. There exists no perfect squeaky clean un-problematic non-stereotypy character ever, because we all aren't squeaky clean un-problematic non-stereotypy people.

hope that helped ^-^

[littlesheeneffect]

Bow Tied Love ❤️

Aziraphael x Reader (AFAB Genderfluid)

Rating: At your discretion.... maybe T

Warnings: Mentions of smutt, mostly fluff, low self esteem, angst, medical issues, slight language

...... Yesterday.......

I made my way to the back of the book shop with a stack in hand, my stomach constantly in butterflies at the thought of Aziraphael. His beautiful eyes, that round face, his fluffy curls, and that sweetly soft body- oh I wished I could just curl up with!

I had to do something, the infatuation was just going to kill me.... it already was killing my blood sugar, blood pressure, and nervous system with that constant state of the feels. Gosh, there he was again!

"Darling, would you mind bringing me the Hidden Hand by-" cut him off by placing E.D.E.N Southworth's novel in his hand. "Thank you love", ugh, he did it again....

I couldn't take it, my health felt like it was being thrown out the windows by my stupidity. Why would he even think something as human as I was? It wasn't possible, and if if it was- it was probably for Crowley that he would, not me. I'm mean, just look at me!

"You know what I've been thinking darling, we should reorganize the far bookshelf on the northeast side of the shop this week. If we get half of it done before Thursday, crepes it is!" He beamed out without looking anywhere in particular.

Suddenly I got the courage, or rather cowardice, to mutter out, " Um, Zira I think I'm gonna head home for the day. It's been quite a week, an, an, and something came up. I don't know if I'll be able to come in on Monday." Crap It sounded to apathetic, so distant, so like this job was nothing and I could careless! Why did I?!?!

"Oh", he said with a simplicity that broke me even more because of my being the cause of it. "Well," he started and I attempted to redeem myself once more. "I mean Zira, I just don't know if it's the right way to say this but I, I won't come in." Crap! "I mean, because I have someone important to care for, and if they go down..... we'll, let's just say it's not,.. you know" Mental Facepalm.

With a near blank expression and wide eyes, Aziraphael replied, " Well, if you refuse to help me, then of course.... you're at liberty to go." Quickly he stood from his seat and exited to a back room. I felt awful. Why did I have to be such a nitwit, so afraid to faint in his arms, that I would make him think I was an ungrateful prig. Ugh!!!!

In fact, I had no idea that I was so heartwrenched by my own actions that I was still seated on the edge of the desk near fifteen minutes later. Right in the same place.

Everything I'd done wrong in life had been swirling about in my mind. Everything that was completely complicated pushed it's way forth. Why was I kicked out of my family's house... cuz I was Genderfluid? Why did such an Angel like Aziraphael take a lowlife like me in.... cuz that who he was, not because of me. Why did I just dis the crush of my life... coz I'm selfish? Why was I so, so- ME!!!??

Little did I realize that AZ had reenterred the room with a concered and surprised look. "Ughm" he cleared his throught. When I didn't look up, he began concerned, "Y/n, weren't you going home?" I finally looked up slowly, yet not fully at him. Just into the distance.

"Yeah, yeah, I'm going" I said in a slurred tone as I wearily stood. Yet the flush drained from my cheeks and I felt entirely weak. As I began to crumble to the floor, Aziraphael's arms caught me.

"Oh darling," he called, " You're having a faint, stay with me dear. Stay with me." As he held me partly propped on his squatted knee and with his arms, I slowly turned my pale face to his. "Zir, zzira?"

"Yes, dear, I'm here- don't worry" he consoled, looking at me to check if I was fading off anymore. "I'm such a terr, terrible person", I moaned in dellusional angst, "I'm so, so"- suddenly the tears just broke forth. "Shhhhhh, shhhh, now my love. That's not true, shhhhh. You're just fine. You are a wonderfully beautiful person, y/n." His voice softly echoed into the weak sobs, as one hand rubbed my back. "Don't you listen to those voices darling, you are perfect. God loves you more than you can ever imagine darling, and so do I. Shhhh now dear, shhhh."

Gradually, a peak of color returned to my blush once more, and I looked up to his gorgeous face. Yet everything was still blurry and off.

In a true delusional and blissful state, I reached a hand up to his greenish checkered bow tie. Tugging it gently, I smiled in a lightheaded elation, " You make this bow tie so handsome, my sweetiepie!"

Then I fully swooned.

(And he may have too, I don't fully know that part. I just remember the lightheaded look he had before it all went black.)

....... Today ......

I was upstairs getting out of Aziraphael's ridiculously soft bed, and noticed it was well past 12 in the afternoon, when I heard a swift nock on the door.

"Hey Angel, oh" I turned to see Crowley stanting in the doorway, surprised as heck. "Umm", he trailed, "Did u and him, are you two, this is, ummm. Morning!" He then quickly turned and left, leaving me nearly caving over in laughter.

Downstairs, Crowley found Aziraphael who was retrieving a tray of crepes in the store. " Angel!" "Oh, Crowley, helloe" Zira turned smiling. "You and y/n slept together?" He blurted out, causing an elated and innocent sway to erupt from Zira. "Mm-hum" he replied on cloud nine.

Crowley paused for a second, hardly believing the angel's reply and reaction. Then shaking it off, he continued in this dirty way. " Well, how was it?" "Oh, it was marvelous!" Zira beamed exuberant. "Did you, was it, was it oral?" Crowley asked, still surprised.

"Was it oral? Whatever on earth are you talking about? How could sleeping be or-" Aziraphael's face suddenly blanked. And Crowley pushed though already seeing Zira realized, "You know, the sex?". Aziraphael straightened with near offense, "The what!?" He then hushed his tone hearing my light singing from upstairs, "How on earth did you draw such a conclusion?" Crowley shook his head knowing nothing of the sort happened between us two, and irritatedly explained, "I seen her in your room and you siad you two slept together! At an adults age that typically means something more that sleeping."

Aziraphael, back in his dellusional state beamed, "Y/n slept in my bed last night because she, she, she-" Crowley's eyebrows raised high above his glasses brim with expectation. "- She loves me and I love her- and, and she likes my bow tie."

With that, I suddenly approached the two in a similar state of euphoria. "Morning Zira!" He smiled back as I grabbed one of the crepes, and he played a soft kiss on my cheek, "Good morning my love!".

Crowley just crinkled his brow at the innocence of it all, before just shugging it off. I myself was such a fool to doubt the love of Zira all those years.

I mean looking back, what else should one expect of an Angel. 😇❤️💍

[caleisloading]

//TW//VENT POST//

Lately, I've been feeling weird about my sexuality. Not in the way where I'm trying to figure myself out...

For context, I'm at the extreme of the aroace

umbrella, I've never felt romantic or sexual

feelings nor wish to. I'm completely fine with

living my life as an individual with no other

prospects but friends and family. I'd even go to

say imagining myself having a romantic or

sexual relations disgusts me to no end.

And I'm confident in it, all my close friends and

people I'm introduced to quickly are told. But

I'm also genderfluid, I go by all pronouns and

three different names.

I guess the idea of identity is useless to me, I

wish to be nobody and everybody...and yet

nobody...sounds cringe, I know, but that's really

how I've felt since I was a child.

But I'm unable to tell my parents or family. I

know my mum is more than supporyive, she's

really great and the person I like best in the

entire world. But my dad's got a lot of

internalized stuff, he says a lot of slurs and

often tell him he can't say that stuff and it's

offensive. I dunno, I just wonder if they'll come

to act and feel different around me. My current

friends and siblings know and are great about it

but I've said it to a few people who turnt it to

the only thing we could talk about.

"I just don't understand it"

"But it's a hormonal thing, you've gotta get

horny"

"It's psychogical, everyone falls in love"

"I'm sure you'll fall in love one day, don't worry"

"It's just weird"

Those are the usual comments...

You won't ever understand me, because you

aren't me, I don't need your understanding I just

want respect. Respect me, my feelings, my

identities. Why does everyone need to

understand to accept??

But yeah...I've made a really great friend in

cegep, but I don't know if I should say it.

We can be friends and she not know, I've done

that before. But I don't want to hide things-!

I want to be as weird as I am and myself with

friends! But its so complicated...who'd want to

hear that, uh...?

[meatsex]

hi im sorry if this is weird to ask and you definately dont have to answer, but how did you start transitioning? im sure its different outside the us, but i guess i mean like more how did you get the "courage" to ig? im just now in my early 20s and i want to start before its "too late", but im just worried abt so much shit surrouding it (family, my job, school, etc) and it stops me everytime i get close to trying to

im sorry, idk i just remeber seein your top surgery pics a while back and thought abt asking for a bit cause im kinda alone in this. its okay if you dont respond, ik this might be like a hard subject

hello, this isnt a weird question at all, especially if you find yourself in a situation where you feel alone about this matter.

before i begin, obviously none of the things i say are a guide or should be taken as exact reference, they are just my experience, precautions i took and things i realized/explored; this will also be LONG

i began transitioning around 2016 (i was 19-20 iirc), this is when i began to reconsider my gender and how i saw myself, i wasnt sure about my stance on myself so i used the label genderfluid as that was what felt right atm, i wasnt sure if i really wanted to be a guy or just felt like it every so often; back then i only confided this information to my then boyfriend

i began using a different name online, tried different clothing and also got my hair cut way short for the first time, basically tried and experienced, i was also used to crossplaying often (cosplaying male characters)

in 2018 i was fully set with the idea i wanted to be a man, id fully take on the role of one online and i had already told other friends i trusted about this

i stopped using the label of genderfluid by this time as well, i also tried binding a bit but it was complicated for me so it wasnt long lived but definitely helped in settling the idea of what i wanted

in 2020-2021 i came out to my parents, i tested the waters *a lot* first, i brought up topics like having transgender friends or similar too see how they would react, luckily they both did positively. after this i felt confident in telling everyone else irl

in 2022 i got my legal name change (the process in Argentina is basically a re-enacment of your birth certification with your preferred name and gender, i dont know if this is different or the same elsewhere), and in 2023 i got top surgery, the overall healing process was around 6 months, i did require aid for things like getting up from bed and eating

i was freshly 26 for my surgery by 2023, what im trying to say is for some people its something that could take a lot of time while others might find instantly this is their correct way to feel and be, but its also never too late or never too early and its also okay to change your mind and go back on how you felt, utimately its your decision to take

truthfully you will have to think and consider hard in which areas and with which people you feel safe sharing your gender, some people might not be open to the idea and depending on the circumstances it might not be worth the risk (like at a job or school) unless you have a backup plan to fall onto if it comes to a worst case scenario; i hid these things from my family for a lot of time (especially my internet-disconnected, right-leaning dad)

i think "closet" transitioning or just taking small steps that can be subtle to others is a good idea if you are still unsure about your situation and/or environment, in the sense of exploring ideas, terms, feelings, and with things like trying on different clothes or changing the way you present yourself in a smaller scale (like friends you trust or online presence)

i think its also important i was an adult by this time, therefore (as stupid as this sounds because it is) i had more credibility in the eyes of others to my emotions and how i felt, but this is something that depends and varies with the environment you are in and the people that surround you

ultimately it truly never is late or early, its okay if you try it and change your mind, no one is going to punish you for it and no one is entitled to how you feel about yourself other than you; i hope this helped in any way and if not feel free to ask again about more specific ideas or topics regarding this

[your-queer-dad]

(just a heads up, i copy pasted this ask that i sent on anon on another blog,cause i wanted another opinion and im a lazy sod and i can't be bothered to type it out again)

Can you give me some advice as I'm questioning my gender yet again.

So basically, I'm an AFAB teenager, and up until about 8 I went with girl [and was very feminine], then 8 til around a year or two ago, I didn't really care cause it just didn't matter to me. Then I identified as demigirl, then genderfluid, and now nonbinary, and I was just considering starting to use he/they pronouns when I started to get stressed about gender. I feel dysphoria sometimes, and I was so upset when I got my period and stuff, though I don't know if that was just not wanting to grow up. I don' understand women, or why you'd want to be one, but occasionally I feel more fem, but I don't want to be a girl. If I could have been born a boy I would've, and if I ever think into the future, I'm only happy if I think of being a man. Sometimes i don't feel dysphoric saying 'I am a woman' and sometimes [usually] that feels so wrong and stresses me out. IDK,I'll probably just stick to being non-binary, but I also want to be a man, and I wish that I'd been born one. Also,i've been quite depressed lately, and I've hated myself since I was 11, however, because I only started questioning my gender a year or two later,it can't really be connected to that, can it?

Lately, ive been getting euphoria from the thought of having a beard, and im considering starting to use he they pronouns, but i just wish that gender didn't exist, or that i could just be a man, and have never been a girl. Sometimes i get scared that that's just misongny tho.

So yeh dad, cheers for the help,hope you're doing good, and thank you for taking the time to do this.👍

Hey kiddo! Thank you so much for reaching out. I get what you mean and honestly gender can be such a hard and complicated thing, especially because everyone has different perspectives and feelings around it, it's something so personal to you and can be really hard to figure out.

Honestly, kiddo- the rules are made up. You don't have to be completely one thing or fit into a box. You can be feminine without being a girl, or masculine without being a boy- or neither- or both! There isn't a right way or wrong way to do things, it's just your way.

To me, at least from what you've said, it sounds like youre more comfortable being masculine?

It isn't a rush or a race- I've been out for years and even I have days where I question my gender. But, whatever it is, it's yours and that's amazing.

- dad x

[revui]

(greetings to followers and mutuals alike. if you've seen recent tags, you know what's about to happen)

FL theory time: I think Miranda's missing twin is actually Sunset. Hear me out.

Hint 1 - The Timeline

We know Miranda and her twin were taken to the Foreverlands about/at least two years ago.

So assuming that Miranda and Skyler DID both end up in the Foreverlands, that means they got dumped in two different spots about two years ago. And that matches the evidence we have for when "Sunset" first rose to prominence.

And speaking of...

Hint 2 - "The Teeth Thing"

Rewinding to Tuesday, one of many things that went on included Sunset and Evander publicly turning on and killing Ranger. Now obviously the part people focus on is that, according to Miranda, Ranger looked a lot like how she remembered Skyler, even though once she found his body the differences were pretty obvious.

I think the spotlight on Ranger and how much he looks like Skyler is an intentional distraction from Sunset's involvement. The moment Ranger starts pulling Sunset's mask off during the fight, SHE RIPS HIS THROAT OUT WITH HER TEETH. Sunset escalates immediately in response to the threat of her face being exposed, and why? It could be that she knows there's someone out there who would hate to find out she's a murderer.

This is a microcosm of a greater point about how desperate Sunset seems to hide everything about who they are. They never speak, they hide their face religiously, the only time they even show skin (so far) is when they take their gloves off after Tessera goads them into a fistfight. And why?

Hint 3 - Colum

During School of Masters, there's that moment in the middle of Thistle's storm on Wildwood where something happens, something related to Sunset, and obviously Azar can't see it, but Colum does. Whatever it is matters more to him than pretty much anything else so far, and out of nowhere he starts expressing the desire to find Sunset himself.

Remember, Miranda has only told two people about her twin: Kassandra and Colum. There are only three people in the world who know Skyler's name and face, and only one of them is present for this moment. I contend that what happened was the mask coming off. How much do you wanna bet that Colum saw her face and realized she was Skyler?

That would also explain lines like this when he's talking about Sunset in the next book:

What "answers" does he want? His motives are much clearer if you assume that Sunset and Skyler are one in the same. And considering how Colum usually behaves, it's not a stretch to say he wouldn't tell Miranda right away.

Hint 4 - Gender

Miranda sort of implies that Skyler is genderfluid, and thus references to Skyler use he, she, and they pretty much at random. This next detail might just be a joke considering Sunset hides so much of themself that they have no observable "gendered" traits, but the way everyone constantly changes up how they refer to him could mean something.

It's not a lot to go on, but it would explain a lot. Sunset has been a very opaque character even after seven books with at least one appearance in each. She's obviously important, but she's not had a single line or revealed anything about her origin or motive aside from what vague knowledge the characters around him have gathered. We know that he's extremely loyal to Thistle and obeys the Rose without question, but it pretty much begins and ends there, without even a reason for why. The majority of people who actually know him personally often refuse to speak about him or will openly acknowledge their own ignorance.

(obligatory go fuck yourself freyja)

When even the people apparently closest to Sunset barely know anything about her, it's not out of the question that it's Skyler, taking great pains to obscure who she is. There are a couple complications, but I think it's pretty sound in general. If anyone else has something to add I'd love to hear it!

[my-castles-crumbling]

how does gender-dysmorphia exist?

what does feeling like a girl/boy/other mean?

do ppl mean that they feel like they belong to a certain group of people (gender-groups) by that,

that they want to be part of that group because they think it's fun and they don't like belonging to their born-with-gender-group?

or is it more of a general body-dysmorphia-thing, where one's ideal body type is just associated with a certain gender?

i'm a girl and i guess i feel like one? i feel kinda neutral towards my gender tho

so, why do people decide to change their gender?

Hi!

First of all, I want to make sure EVERYONE reading this is aware- I am not a professional nor am I the be-all end-all authority on gender. So if I get some of this wrong or you have a different experience, please let me know! Especially because this is a VERY deep question.

How does gender dysphoria exist? Well, to me, it's more of a why than a how. Gender dysphoria exists when people feel that their identity isn't reflected properly in their expression. It's a feeling of unease. It can vary on intensity from person to person and it can have physical symptoms or just be psychological.

When you ask about feeling like you want to be part of a group because it's fun versus actually feeling body dysphoria, let's pick that apart a bit:

In my experience, people who transition don't do it because they want to be a part of the group for the 'fun.' It's more an innate sense of- 'Hey. I should belong to that group.' Like everyone in your class went to lunch without you, and you're just sitting there alone. I think with your wording, you're making it seem like a whim, or something people do lightly. Most people don't come out as trans lightly, because being trans can be difficult in many ways (though it can be great, too!).

When you ask about body dysmorphia, It sounds like you're getting dysmorphia and dysphoria confused. Dysmorphia is looking at your body and not seeing it clearly. Anyone can have dysmorphia. Dysphoria is feeling like something doesn't match. In this case, it's a sense that your body, expression, or the way people are perceiving you doesn't match how you identify. Not every trans person has dysphoria, and it's not required to be trans, but it's very common. It's also not just caused by body parts- it can also be cause by being misgendered, wearing certain things, or other triggers.

I think the biggest question you asked is: what does feeling like a boy/girl/other mean? And it's not simple at all. Honestly, as someone who is genderfluid, I have a different relationship with gender. But in general, I think people who feel like girls, like being perceived as a girl. Or at least they are okay with it. Ugh, it's hard to even put into words. I feel like it's probably just an innate sense of.....yep. Girl. But it's also hard because some people are unsure about their gender, or they are genderfluid, like me!

When you say you're neutral about your gender, that's completely fine! Some people have a LOT more of a connection to their gender than others. Gender means a lot more to some people than others.

So, why do people change their gender? Because they realize, through self-reflection, that they don't identify as the gender they are assigned at birth. Maybe they experience dysphoria, maybe they experience gender envy, maybe they think about their feelings and realize they have a complicated relationship with gender (or maybe they experience all three of these, like me!). But people transition because, to them, it feels much more genuine and valid.

I hope this helps a little? Let me know if you have more questions!

[valeffelees]

hello, happy Sunday.

funny thing: i started typing up this post earlier this morning when only one person had tagged me, and then ended up drafting and deleting it because it's quite warm today in my corner of Canada and the heat makes me terribly lethargic, i've done nothing today but slink around between patches of sunlight like a drowsy cat.

a happy round of hellos and thank-you-kindlys to @blackberrysummerblog @rimeswithpurple @artsyunderstudy and @aroace-genderfluid-sheep for tagging today. 🌇

i've finally managed to pull myself away from drawing and get back to editing W/oS, and in the meantime, altho i don't plan to focus on this fanfic much in June (i have another project i want to give my attention to), i wrote a bit more of wt: Niall vs the Amatonormative Agenda [1] [2] yesterday. my timeline is a bit mucky still, but this takes place sometime around late fifth year or early sixth year.

Dev’s eyes are pale yellow in the dark.  Niall watches the knot of their throat move when they swallow, rolling up the length of their neck and disappearing into the soft underside of their chin. “I’m sorry,” he whispers. Dev has a mouth like a paper crane. It folds around their teeth like it is made of a hundred tiny parts, the way it twists beneath their nose is a strange and lovely, complicated thing. “I don’t want you to be sorry,” they say, and they reach for him through his knees, and Niall opens his arms for them the way he always does, the way he knows he always will. He likes their weight on his stomach, the warmth of them. “Fuck, you’re such an asshole. I don’t want you to be sorry,” they say again, “I just—I want you to be okay.” “I am okay.” “You’re not.” “I’m sorry.” “Shut up.” “Dev?” They raise their head. “You’re my best friend,” Niall tells them. “You know that, don’t you?” Dev presses their nose into his cheek. “Yeah,” they say, and their voice is a careful murmur, a deep and quivering sound in their chest. “Yeah, Naya. I know.”

and since i'm sure everyone has already made their posts by now, please consider these tags a hello, how are you, and some well-wishes for the week to come. 🙂

Tag, you're it! 🪄 @cutestkilla @raenestee @hushed-chorus @thewholelemon @larkral @captain-aralias @you-remind-me-of-the-babe @imagineacoolusername @ivelovedhimthroughworse @facewithoutheart

[jjkyaoi]

Multigender is a term for anyone who experiences more than one gender identity. It can be used as a gender identity in its own right, or can be an umbrella term for other identities which fit this description. Or at least, that’s how the wiki describes it.

When some people think of the term multigender they think of genderfluid, and really, I can’t blame them. Amongst the small, vastly underrepresented multigenders, genderfluid is the one that’s most known. Although, with the way it’s represented, I could argue that people don’t know jack about how being genderfluid works, but hey, that’s not what I’ve decided to complain about.

Not to sound like companies in June, but it’s a spectrum. There’s hundreds of identities—not just amongst the multigender label, but that’s what I’m focusing on—that aren’t represented amongst the media, and it’s because they aren’t simple. They aren’t understandable enough as trans, or nonbinary, or gay or bisexual, and it’s not like those are widely understood either. Peoples reaction to multigender folks is usually an instinctual, “that’s not real”, and sure, to people who don’t experience the things that multigender people do, it does sound far fetched. It doesn’t make sense. Trust me, buddy, not making sense is my whole fucking existence at this point.

I’m a little something called abrogender.

Abrogender is a gender identity with two definitions: A form of genderfluidity that changes more erratically and in a less defined way. A gender that is so intricate, and changes so quickly, that it is nearly impossible to nail down. Again, at least that’s what the wiki says.

With “micro labels” like these, it’s easy for people to say, “well, that’s just genderfluid” and yeah, it’s similar, but you can’t make that call. You don’t know what I experience and how it differs, and sure, to some people the “millions of labels under the LGBTQ+ identity” are annoying and hard to understand, but they’re there for a reason, because it isn’t as simple as labeling myself as genderfluid as it is for most people, which is another reason why you won’t see bigender, pangender, genderfaun/genderfaunet etc people being represented in media because the media doesn’t know how to represent us, or they take something as complicated as our identities—something they can’t make sense of in a blink of an eye, and call it not real.

Can you imagine how fucking frustrating that is?

I can’t describe to people who are comfortable with their gender, in the body they were born with, the type of feeling that looking in the mirror and seeing the wrong thing is. It’s hard to describe it if you haven’t experienced it, as much of this will be, but I remember I was getting more and more uncomfortable, for reasons I didn’t understand—I didn’t have access to all these millions of different labels as a kid.

I never really felt connected to being a girl. You know, it wasn’t instinctive revulsion, I didn’t “feel trapped in my body” most days, like some trans representation will have you believe. I’m not Kalvin Garrah, I’m not going to say you have to have dysphoria to be trans. I didn’t feel connected to any gender, really, but I didn’t feel without one either. If somebody were to assume I was a boy, I wouldn’t get offended, because sure! It’s not like I wasn’t a boy. Most people don’t experience that shit.

And then quarantine hit. I was on the internet more than I ever had been, because it’s not like there was much else to do, and I was allowed access to things I barely understood before. AKA, I was dipping my toes into the trans label.

Demigirl was what I started with, because at the time it felt accurate. A label where you still identify as a girl but also somewhere outside the binary? That’s exactly what I thought it was. This isn’t me shaming demigirls, you guys are so hot, sexy etc, it just wouldn’t be that simple for me. And then, as the years went on, I felt more and more disconnected from being a girl, and I picked up nonbinary like a golden star and stuck it to my shirt for a couple years, without fully reading the contract that came with it. Again, at the time, that’s what I thought it was. The idea of being a boy wouldn’t come to me for a couple years, but once I started doubting my gender again I sort of.. hid from it? The last couple weeks of identifying as nonbinary weren’t honest, and it was more so me clinging to the surface level of the trans identity just so I wouldn’t have to come out a second time. I slapped transmasc onto the nonbinary label and was hoping to god I wouldn’t fuck around and find out.

And then.. after a while, I allowed myself to look further. Bigender, and then trigender, and then pangender—none of them stuck.

One thing I did know, was that now that I was allowing myself to identify as such, I loved being a boy. I loved it. I wanted to have a flat chest, and a big, bushy beard, and for people to look at me in the store and call me sir, and to be somebody’s husband in the future—I wanted all of it. And with this, I strayed further and further away from being a girl, if that was even possible, and adopted the trans man label in 2022.

Most people would think; well, you’re a trans man. You’re not multigender. And that’s what I thought. I really did think so, I thought my gender crisis was over, I felt content, and I didn’t think much into it because it’s not like I could be wrong again, right?

Well. Some fucking god must have had it ought for me, because after a happy year of identifying as a trans man, in early 2023, I had yet another patented moment of wait.

I have been relatively open about my gender struggles here. Relatively is an understatement, I’m sure you can find a post about each label I identified as at the time I identified as it if you just search it on my account, so you can imagine how frustrating this was. I was finally content with being a trans man, and that year was really, really good. My friends were all insanely supportive, were using my correct pronouns and everything, and then I would have to do the walk of shame to tell them, again, that yeah.. I wasn’t right about this, guys :/

Out of everything, the number one thing I was worried about was annoying people. Amongst my own thoughts of faking it, of trying to be different, I really did think my close friends would get tired of me constantly saying something else. I wanted so badly to just be normal, to be simple, to be like the thousands of cis people in the world who are born with the gender they’re assigned as and don’t have a moment of questioning it—of feeling unsure, but at the same time whenever I thought about being just a girl for the rest of my life I got this sick, awful feeling in my stomach. But just being a man didn’t feel right, either.

So, what? What was I?

I still don’t know. If you assume I’m a girl, you won’t be wrong, but you won’t be entirely right, either. If you assume I’m a man, you won’t be wrong, but you won’t be right either. If you assume I’m neither, something that exists outside the binary, you won’t be wrong and you won’t be right.

I tried to be content with just being me. With saying, I don’t need a label, I am who I am! But that wasn’t true. I wanted so badly to have a label, something to explain this, something to prove that there wasn’t something wrong with me—that I wasn’t alone. That I wasn’t faking it after all.

Abrogender is the closest definition to what I’m feeling.

The definition isn’t in my own words, so it isn’t exactly what I’m feeling—hell if I’ll ever be able to explain that to people without sounding insane—but when I found that label I breathed out the biggest fucking sigh of relief. It’s the closest thing to unlabeled as I can allow myself to have, but at the same time it’s still a label. It’s still a sign that people feel how I feel, enough for there to be a definition for it. After years of switching, of nothing sticking, of feeling crazy, like I was making the whole thing up and trying to stick to one thing just to please other people, I finally, finally could breathe. And it’s not something I can explain to somebody who never has to doubt any of these things to begin with. I’m not going to force myself to tone down what I am just so it appeals to a mass of people who wouldn’t have loved me anyways. I’m not going to do that. I was miserable doing that.

So, if you think it��s not real, what I feel and how I identify, and if you think the millions of people who identify as multigender, or some label on the LGBT spectrum that isn’t easy for you to grasp are all faking it, just know that you have the privilege of never feeling a stranger in your own body, in your own mind. You have the privilege of getting up and getting ready in the morning and loving your body, never feeling like an imposter, like you have to put on a performance to please. Of course you couldn’t understand what we go through, and you know what? I am happy for you.

There's a part of me that’s bitter, that’s envious, because I’ve wanted that experience for myself for years. I can't tell you how much. But I’m learning to let things like that go. If you’re one of the millions of people who are truly, entirely happy with how you identify, then I’m happy for you.

If you asked me why I posted this, I would tell you don’t fucking know. Is it because I wanted people to understand the complexities of gender, of the vast labels and how they’re overlooked, as a person who has a lesser known label? Yeah, sure. Is it also because I wanted to just talk my shit for no apparent reason? Yes.

If you’re doubting your own gender like I was, if you feel like you’re faking it, like you’re an imposter to yourself and the people around you, I promise you that it’s going to make sense eventually. It might not be this year, or the next, but you’ll find something that’ll work. You’ll have that moment of finally being able to breathe, of that euphoria of finally not feeling alienated for something you can’t control anymore—no matter how long it takes, it will happen. And you’ll find people who’ll understand, who won’t get upset with you for being confused. There’s millions of people on this earth, and no matter how much your brain tries to convince you, there is always a group of people, no matter how small, no matter how unrepresented, that feel the same. I feel the same.

[maenadsfeast]

Original "just passing by" anon again to say two things:

That other anon who called you an "egg" likely didn't mean it as an insult. It's a common term used to describe someone who would probably identify as trans, but just doesn't know it yet, as in "you haven't come out of your egg yet". I've also heard it used by non-binary folks to sort of describe how androgyny feels; not really male or female (or feeling more one way than the other, depending on the day), but usually somewhere in the middle and sometimes "featureless" like an egg. I can see how that anon's blunt wording might make is sound more like a random insult, but again, I think they meant it in a more light-hearted way, as described

While you may not identify specifically as trans, the fact that your own relationship with your gender identity is very complicated suggests that you probably fall somewhere near that spectrum, possibly something like being genderfluid. And, if the desire to change aspects of your body stems from being uncomfortable with your body or disliking it, then it may involve something like body dysmorphia

As a final note, as rude and shitty as people can be online, remember that not everyone has ill-intentions and some people may simply be relaying information in a way that's misunderstood. It's clear this is a sensitive topic for you and your frustration in the context of a seemingly random comment is understandable, but remember that it's okay to ask questions or ask someone to clarify too. Nobody can be expected to know everything and the only way we learn is by having conversations, even if they're a little uncomfortable

I know you also mean well, but I’m entitled to my own feelings. I know egg isn’t an insult. I’m just frustrated when strangers use it to describe me thinking that they know more about my gender than I do. You’re doing the same thing. I’m aware that I have body dysmorphia, but I know I’m not gender-fluid because I spent six years of my life identifying as different flavors of non-binary and transmasculine before realizing I was ultimately happiest as a woman. Please don’t presume to know my experience.

[bookshelf-crier]

no one asked but i don’t care 😘

❤️ - remus probably. or barty. i feel like remus is too stable in a lot of the fics i have read. that sounds terrible but i just think he needs to be more insecure i guess. and struggle more with his furry little problem because that is a huge part of his identity. barty because i feel like the fandom focuses too much on the hot psycho side of him (which is understandable) and less on the traumatised child side of him. we can have both people.

🧡 - i don’t think there are any???? i’m not that controversial i can’t lie. maybe romantic prongsfoot if that counts as a theory.

💛 - bartylily. IM SORRY I JUST CANT SEE IT. repeat after me: ROSEKILLER. i absolutely just cannot get behind it. and prongsfoot as an actual romantic pairing rather than fuck buddies because they were brothers your honour.

💚 - i have two but for the sake of this it’s reggie. i feel like he was a lot softer than he is portrayed. i think he felt a lot more than we give him credit for and i think he hurt too. he knew what he was doing when he died and he was so brave for it. i feel like that doesn’t get focused on enough: how brave he was.

💙 - anyone who thinks lucius malfoy is hot can go in the bin please. traumatised after what the fandom has decided he did to reggie.

💜 - andromeda tonks. she does not get the appreciation she deserves.

🤍 - slightly hot take but bellatrix. like woman was unhinged don’t get me wrong but i feel like there is so much depth to her character that just gets glossed over. there is a reason she is as fucked up as she is and i don’t think that excuses her actions but i think it makes her less morally bad. not morally good, just less morally bad.

🖤 - okay so an incredibly wild one here, just stick with me but james potter. BEFORE ANYONE ATTACKS ME just listen. so we all have this perception of james being the human embodiment of sunshine who can do no wrong because he is perfect. but i raise you, james potter who is a deeply flawed human being because he is constantly trying to please everyone and fulfil their opposing needs. so in many ways he cannot get it right. he is still the sun, but can be too hot or bright if you get too close. he made mistakes. he was sad. i think he was such a deeply complicated individual. UGH.

💖 - okay so jegulus + marylily > jily. i’m just going to leave that there. and remadora sucks. not just for wolfstar reasons, DORA WAS GENDERFLUID AND SO SO SO GAY. i will die on this hill. she was not into dick. but then we don’t get teddy lupin, whom i adore. so.

💔 - dumbledore. HATE THAT MAN. and that way minnie would have started the order and not sent LITERAL CHILDREN to go fight it.

💕 - i feel like marylily isn’t unpopular but no one seems to be as invested in it as i am.

📖 - see now this is hard. i really really want to say order of the phoenix because that way sirius doesn’t have to die.

🏳️‍🌈 - none. they were all gay. i don’t make the rules.

💀 - oooooh. now this is HARD. my initial instinct was james which would destroy me but on the condition that both lily and regulus lived so i think i will go with that??? so when voldy kills james something happens and he doesn’t get to lily and harry. reggie destroys all the horcruxes so he can be with james only to find out james is dead. very sad. very tragic.

Ask game: unpopular opinion edition <3

❤: Which character do you think is the most egregiously mischaracterized by the fandom?

🧡: What is a popular (serious) theory you disagree with?

💛: What is a popular ship you just can't get behind, and why?

💚: What does everyone else get wrong about your favorite character?

💙: Which character is not as hot as everyone else seems to think?

💜: Which character is way hotter than everyone else seems to think?

🤍: Which character is not as morally bad as everyone else seems to think?

🖤: Which character is not as morally good as everyone else seems to think?

💖: What is your biggest unpopular opinion about the series?

💔: If you had to remove one major character from the series, who would you choose?

💕: What is an unpopular ship that you like?

📖: If you had to remove one book from the series, which would you choose?

🏳️‍🌈: Which character who is commonly headcanoned as queer doesn't seem queer to you?

💀: If you had to choose one major character to die, who would you choose?

[smiletimeisrunningout]

𝐒𝐄𝐗𝐔𝐀𝐋 𝐏𝐑𝐄𝐅𝐄𝐑𝐄𝐍𝐂𝐄𝐒.  feel free to copy and complete for your own muse

bold  =  yes.      |      italics  =  sometimes  or  partner  dependent.      |      strike  =  never.     |       blank  =  no  preference/does not apply. I apologize in advance but there is no way I can do this without explaining between parentesis what do I mean because Emma is very complicated

 INCLINATIONS / HABITS.  submissive     /    dominant (it's not necessary if he's not into it nor it has to happen all the time)    /     prefers  to  top (we are talking about straight sex so this is only a vague preference given that 'against a wall' isn't here)     /     prefers  to  bottom     /     likes to switch    /     heterosexual     /     gay     /     lesbian     /     bisexual     /     pansexual     /     asexual     /     demisexual /     enjoys  sex  with  men (it's quicker to say that this is the only one that gets a yes excluding the others)     /     enjoys  sex  with  women     /     enjoys  sex  with  genderfluid  , agender  ,  demigender  ,  or  nonbinary  individuals     /     enjoys sex with all genders regardless of identity     /  enjoys  sex  with  multiple  people  at  a  time    /     enjoys intimacy with women    /    enjoys  intimacy  with  men   /   enjoys  intimacy  with  genderfluid,  agender,  demigender,  or nonbinary  individuals     /     enjoys intimacy with all genders regardless of gender     /     initiates     /     waits for partner to initiate    /     spits     /     swallows     /     morning  sex     /     night  sex     /     sex any time     /     no  sex  drive     /     low  sex  drive     /     average sex drive     /     high  sex  drive     /     hypersexual     /     fluctuating sex drive

BODY  &.  APPEARANCE.  slender build     /     medium  build     /     athletic build     /     muscular  build     /     curvy build (I mean, she's a woman and has curves so I guess it counts?)     /     voluptuous     /     chubby  build     /     wears  boxers     /     wears boxer briefs     /     wears  lingerie    /    goes commando     /     shaves / waxes     /     trims     /     does  not  shave

SOUNDS.          silent     /     quiet     /     loud  (if possible)   /     grows  in  volume  over  time   /    bites  hand / partner / pillow  to  muffle  self     /     calls out partners name     /     curses     /     fakes    /    exaggerates     /     prefers  a  quiet  partner     /     prefers  a  loud  partner     /      prefers  a  partner  who  grows  in  volume  over  time     /    turned on by dirty talk (BUT not CRASS. more like 'leaving to the imagination a bit' talk and not using too many crude words)    /      turned  off  by  dirty  talk

TURN - ONS / KINKS. having  their  hands  pinned     /     pinning  partner’s  hands     /     having  own  hair  pulled     /     pulling  partner’s  hair     /     being  watched  (  by  their  partner  )     /     being  watched    (  by  a  third  party  )     /     watching  their  partner     /     receiving  oral (she likes it but has other priorities)    /     giving  oral     /     giving  praise     /     receiving  praise (nothing that sounds like she's being submissive)    /     biting or marking     /     being  bitten  or  marked     /     spanking     /     being  spanked       /     teasing     /     being  teased   (no patience whatsoever)  /    having  toys  used  on  them     /     using  toys  on  their  partner     /     giving  anal     /     receiving  anal (not against but it'd be just for her partner, it does nothing to her)     /     choking     /     being  choked     /     dirty  talk     /     being  tied  up     /     tying  partner  up     /     being  worshipped  (eh, depends on how much time it takes)   /      worshipping partner     /     humiliating     /     being  humiliated     /     degrading     /     being  degraded    /     knife  play     /     gun  play    /    being  pegged     /     pegging  partner     /      partner  wearing  lingerie     /     wearing  lingerie    /    whipping    /    being  whipped

PLACES. (these are all 'as long as she's sure she's not going to accidentally traumatize someone by having them walk and see without their consent)   bedroom     /     shower     /     bath     /     pool     /     ocean    /    kitchen     /     home bathroom     /     public  restroom     /     car     /     tent    /    alleyway     /     field    /    forest     /     school    /    empty  or  abandoned  building    /    library    /    rooftop    /    terrace    /    dressing  room     /     elevator     /      parking  lot     /     museum    /    cemetery    /    beach    /    closet    /    hospital

TAGGED BY: stole it

TAGGING: anyone interested!

[confused-bi-queer]

Thank you @martsonmars @takitalks @facewithoutheart and @basiltonbutliketheherb for the tags. A lot of wips.

Two words… dance cards!! I’ve been racking my brain with this regency au and it’s killing me. I will not keep everything exactly historical accurate because it’s impossible considering the story. 

The artist I’m working with and I have been discussing the plot for the story and it ended up being waaaay longer than expected and I’m not sure if I hate it because it’s more✨complicated✨or if I love it because it’s more ✨complete✨. We planned a beautiful plot that revolves around the bloody dance cards and as I was doing my research, I realized that the cards were actually not the way I thought and I was just talking to a friend and I realize that it is possible, but I need to change a few things. But still, historic accuracy?? We don’t know her. You just gotta roll with me.

But enough of me, let me give you more Simon ogling Baz and saying the sweetest things he can manage while fully declaring he hates Baz:

It’s just—What is it? Is it his pose? His long legs? His square jaw and sharp cheekbones? His chin out like he’s waiting to be asked for a duel? It seems like he would win it and you should be grateful for being insulted by him for losing. So, is it that? His eyes, perhaps? Maybe it’s the way the air he breathes seems to change when it enters his lungs: it instantly becomes lighter. 

And a line that my crush liked, from Baz. (I’m 70% sure that I will leave it on the fic, but it will possibly be postponed for the second chapter.)

Much to my surprise, he laughs. I may be dead, right? There’s no way an actual person sounds so heavenly. What I would do to be praised and cherished by that voice, by that laugh; I would go out of my status to get him to laugh at all times. Make a fool of myself publicly, if that’s what keeps him smiling.

Honestly, this regency experience is way out of my confort zone, but very educational. However, the plot... OH MY GOD. My artist asked me a couple of questions about some inconsistencies and plot holes, but WE FIGURED IT OUT and it’s so SO good. I can’t believe it. I can’t wait for it to be ready so you can read it.

Now tagging: @artsyunderstudy @wellbelesbian @moodandmist @johnwgrey @fatalfangirl @kherub @palimpsessed @cutestkilla @gekkoinapeartree @captain-aralias @aristocratic-otter @aroace-genderfluid-sheep @you-remind-me-of-the-babe @bookish-bogwitch @letraspal @sharing-a-room-with-an-open-fire @excalisbury @tea-brigade

[scriptlgbt]

Trying to figure out a character, and not sure if they would be/identify with being nonbinary. They were afab, and usually prefer dressing in feminine clothes, but don't particularly feel "like a girl" most of the time. (Doesn't vibe with "boy" ever, though, so pretty sure not genderfluid or trans?)

Would they be nb? Something else? Would it be inaccurate/ tokenish/ confusing if they continued using she/her pronouns? Does it change things if the disconnect with their gender is tangled up with medical issues (like PCOS)? Any other potential problems I haven't even considered?

Thanks in advance!

PCOS is sometimes considered to be an intersex condition* so this person may identify with the label intersex. (They also might not!) People who are intersex have all sorts of different gender identities.

I would say that it is totally fine to have a feminine-coded AFAB nonbinary character with she/her pronouns. I think you would just need to make sure that your character is treated with respect for her identity, because there are a lot of nonbinary characters who are seen as somehow less nonbinary because they don't transition in some way. (My wording here is weird but I'm not implying nonbinary people don't transition, just that it isn't actually essential to being trans at all, and I think more people need to see that legitimized.)

That said, I always think adding more nonbinary characters can't hurt if you want to make it clear to the reader that there are multiple ways of being nonbinary.

I also have known some people who felt hesitant about asking for different pronouns than the ones assigned to them, because they felt like it wasn't as big of a deal to them to sometimes be called by their assigned pronouns. That's a complicated thing, because it comes from a place of not feeling like they had a good enough reason to use different pronouns. But you don't actually need a good enough reason to want any given pronouns. There should never feel like there's a capacity limit on people using whatever pronouns they want. I think in your story it may be something to either depict as having happened in the past or a conversation that happens onscreen. Maybe something like a friend asking, "hey, let me know if you ever want me to use different pronouns," and your character responding saying that the sound of she and her feel like home, even if the label of woman doesn't.

There are unlimited ways of being nonbinary, and it's also okay for characters to identify like something between nonbinary and binary too. Everyone is different and we need more variety of nonbinary experiences represented in general.

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*Not all ways of being intersex are conditions. Do not refer to being intersex as a condition as a whole. That said, some ways of being intersex are medical conditions that can affect other medical things. PCOS is one, though not for everyone who has PCOS.