#jill dillard

[one-time-i-dreamt]

f*ck Jim Bob and Michelle Duggar, they have so much to answer for

imagine treating your daughter, who was a victim of your disgusting abuser son, worse than said disgusting abuser son, just because she dares to call you out and has a nose ring

[spurgie-cousin]

I don't get this costume, what's with "I Voted" mail that he wrote "garbage" on???

[countingandsnarkingon]

Here’s to Jill for saying the quiet part out loud

[19fundiesandcounting]

credit to xopersephoneox on reddit

This is so disturbing.

[nat-reviews-books]

Currently Reading: Counting the Cost by Jill Dugger with Derrick Dillard & Craig Borlase

I never watched 19 Kids & Counting, mainly because my mom did not believe in watching reality TV focused on kids (so also no Jon & Kate, Toddlers & Tiaras, or Dance Moms, etc. were played on our TV). But, I am looking forward to this book, and the first chapter definitely has me interested.

[bookquotesfrombooks]

“It turns out that living with fearful thoughts is a lot like living with hornets and garter snakes. Once they find a way in, you can block as many holes as you like, but the struggle to keep them out will require constant vigilance. And when they do get in—which they will—the memory of all those previous attacks will make whatever you’re facing so much worse.”

Jill Duggar Dillard

Counting the Cost

[duggarsetal]

fundie facebook is real weird

one post, talking about the documentary (!!!) has loads of comments talking about how they hate that the Dillards are taking part

people saying "I'm not gonna watch it" because they're involved

And I don't get it?

a) its not explicitly about the duggars, but about iblp - and you know who tends to have the best insight into a cult? the former members of that cult

b) there's other former members of iblp talking as well, so if the Dillards view doesn't match up with them, then it'll be quite clear

c) you do get that any journalist worth their salt is gonna cast as wide a net as possible? Of course, they would want to speak to one of the duggars

d) THE GROWTH. jill has shown an exceptional amount of growth over the past ten years.

This is jill around 10 years ago (2014)

Gearing up to release a Gothard-approved book, alongside her sisters, all about the IBLP way to live your life

For her to change so much that she's now actively speaking out against both IBLP and her family's involvement in it, why the hell would you not be interested in what she has to say?

[fundiefuntimes]

Finished. I have lots of thoughts. Mostly I am proud of Jill, this book took so much courage.

[prayerclosetdropout]

Huge TW birth trauma on Jill's book

[oh-my-fundie]

Jill Dillard is releasing a book!

Via Jill’s Instagram

[fundieshaderoom]

Jill QnA

[keepingupwitht]

"Counting the Cost" by Jill Duggar Dillard

Last night, I read all of Counting the Cost in one sitting because apparently my fundie fascination is still going strong over a year after we closed down KUWF. I've got a lot of takeaways I want to talk about so I'm going to put a cut and get into it all after the jump.

In the beginning of the book, it struck me how generally correct we were about Jill and growing up as a Duggar. She was a people pleaser and playing the role of “Sweet Jilly Muffin” was so important to her. She loved her childhood and her parents. It’s interesting both from Jinger & Jill that as kids, the Duggar childhood of their memories is an idyllic one. There was a lot of emphasis on their values - no rock music, dancing, movies, etc. but it was a lot of time spent together and fun and games. 

We also saw the shift in the way they grew up - they were always IBLP inspired conservative Christains, but were attending a regular baptist church up until they attended a different church one week that had dancing in the service. Suddenly, they started attending an IBLP only church and getting deeper in. Jill recounts the first time she went to an IBLP conference and realized there were other families like theirs. It was interesting to see their early progression deeper into the cult (which Jill even calls it by the end of the book). 

Jim Bob getting into politics was interesting - Josh’s early interest in it, while Jill preferred to get treats from the other legislators, made a lot of sense. When Josh is sent away, Jill glosses over some of the details (fair enough) but it’s interesting to me to see how she lays out the three things happening around the same time: (1) going deeper into IBLP, (2) her dad getting involved in politics and (3) Josh getting sent away. It lays the groundwork for what TLC is about to walk into and change everything. 

Jim Bob also saying he knew God wanted him to run for Senate, then losing and immediately being noticed by the press and ultimately Discovery - and opening the “window of opportunity” for their family to be on TV was a little wild. The fact that all this happened ultimately because this man flipped a coin three times and got heads all three times - something that has a ⅛ probability of happening - is sorta wild. 

Jill not enjoying filming was something I did not expect - honestly I always thought that she was one of the kids who enjoyed it more. But it makes sense now that she was one of the few who refused to have her honeymoon filmed and refused TLC cameras at her birth, which Jana and Michelle filmed. Those were one of the things that I noticed at the time but didn’t realize what it meant. Good for Jill for standing her ground on both those things - although she wanted to refuse to have her birth filmed at all. 

It was interesting to me that the Duggars were not an IBLP model family UNTIL the show. The show put them in that position - Jill didn’t think they’d be one without it. And the line about Jana being invited to visit headquarters as the only blond to be one of “Gothard’s Girls” just hurts to think about in hindsight. 

It’s interesting how long they propped Josh up as the golden boy while he was in trouble behind the scenes. 

In hindsight, the fact that Jim Bob really set up Jill and Derick is really something, since they would ultimately be the first to really break away. 

Everytime Jill advocates for herself, I am so proud. She pushed for two weeks in Nepal to meet Derick even when they only wanted to film part of the trip, and got the time. They filmed a fake goodbye and then spent another week getting to know each other. 

 I didn’t expect to have my lawyer hat on, but the fact that Jim Bob had Jill sign a contract the day of her rehearsal dinner with everything going on with her MILs health without letting her read it, and her not even realizing what was happening was just atrocious. Just pure and straight abuse. 

The fact that Jill was not paid for any filming and thought she was volunteering at her family ministry for the majority of the time she was filming is just awful. I know she did get perks - her Nepal trip, various other trips, her wedding, groceries, etc. But the fact that she and Derick only had a five day honeymoon because that’s all they could afford when Jim Bob almost certainly made more than $100,000 for their wedding is gross. 

This also doesn’t make TLC look very good, since this kind of abuse was allowed to occur basically under their watch. I get that they likely had a great deal on the Duggars because they were only negotiating with questionable businessman Jim Bob but it does suck to see how little they care about the human cost of their show. 

[spurgie-cousin]

First confirmed Cha Cha Slide at a fundie wedding lol?

[countingandsnarkingon]

Jill posted this, I guess the wedding is still very much on

[teamjanaduggar]

I see a lot of people speculating about it, both here on Tumblr and on Reddit. Speculation ranges from a perceived rift to Jim Bob not wanting Jill to be a bridesmaid.

Miscarriage trigger warning!

I personally would like to point out that not that long ago, Jill lost her baby girl Isla.

She seems absolutely devastated still (and rightfully so). Maybe there’s a rift, or maybe the sisters talked about it and both decided that Jill feels too fragile to have the spotlight on her this soon after having a stillbirth. I think it’s best not to speculate considering the circumstances for Jill.

Before anyone tries “but the spotlight is on the bride!”, yes but also on the bridesmaids. I’ve been one tens of times, there’s a lot of camera’s pointed at you. And usually - for me - the bridesmaids help organise the bachelorette and create decorations for the special day and help make the soon to be shared house a home.

If, as some of you think, Jill should have been a bridesmaid then there would have been a lot of attention on her and certain expectations that she’d help the bride.

looks like Jill was the only older sister that wasn’t a bridesmaid 😭

[heart-strong]

Jill crying and pointing to derick then he speaks is so sweet

He's still transphobic so I still don't like him but it's sweet how he followed her lead