#it's just being a decent person

[thenegativitypit]

More hot makeup garbage is on my dash so here I am again.

Incorrect: - "Literally any decision a woman makes is feminist!" - "Personal decisions a woman makes about her own body or appearance can be anti-feminist and/or are harmful to other women!"

Correct: - "A woman making personal decisions about her own body or appearance doesn't hurt me in any way!" - "Unfortunately, many jobs are inaccessible to women if they don't wear makeup or otherwise adhere to modern beauty standards." - "Shaming women for not wearing makeup is morally wrong!" - "Shaming women for wearing makeup is morally wrong!" - "The skincare industry is just the modern 'makeup industry' under a friendlier name, complete with all the baggage that implies."

Unhealthy: - "I need makeup to leave the house." - "Makeup keeps me from being ugly." - "I wear makeup because people around me told me its wrong not to." - "I don't wear makeup and I wish I could, but people around me told me it's wrong to do so." - "I try to help other women by shaming them into grooming themselves the exact way I think they should." - "You're [X age] and don't know how to use makeup?? How shameful!" - "Oh no, don't wear makeup! But here's a dozen skincare products you need to be using or you'll get old and look ugly."

Neutral: - "I don't enjoy wearing makeup, but I do anyway during working hours because I am aware that in my particular job I'll be treated badly or even officially disciplined for not wearing makeup. / I can't afford to lose my job, so I wear makeup at work." - "I participate or work in theater and wear makeup so that my features don't wash out onstage." - "I'm a clown/I'm a mime/I'm cosplaying and makeup is a part of that." - "I can't wear makeup because I have sensitive skin or allergies."

Healthy: - "I don't enjoy using makeup, so I don't!" - "I enjoy using makeup, so I do!"

I know this post looks long but it's not that complicated, people!

[lucabyte]

Different standards

[idontmindifuforgetme]

A guy just used studying for the mcat together as an excuse to get my number . Women in stem fields core

[dykedvonte]

I just realized some people are confused about events in the alluded to past in Mouthwashing, particularly about how long the crew has been working together.

The only person who is truly new is Daisuke and it’s why his dynamic with the crew and role in the story is very unique and somewhat distant. Curly didn’t just get Jimmy this job on the Tulpar, he got him the job with the Pony Express. He’s been his copilot for probably a couple of years but still not as long as they’ve been friends. None of them are new with the freight industry, Anya and Swansea especially have been doing this for years, together.

Jimmy is the newest on the regular crew, maybe just a few assignments, but it’s not his first time working with them. I think it’s just something important because this isn’t just one bad mistake that snowballed with giving Jimmy the job. None of them thought Jimmy would do anything, no matter how off-put by him they could’ve been, since he hadn’t done a thing since being there. Generally unpleasantness isn’t a crime and he’d be aware of that.

It was a festering thing and a sort of forced trust they had to give him that he knowingly took advantage of. He was the black sheep and still a wolf under the wool. He expected when he lashed out, that he had been there long enough for it to be looked over completely. Got too comfortable in the space he inserted into and did a lot of damage with his claws when he felt he was going to get shaken out.

[tubbytarchia]

I swear to god 99% of people watching WL forgot who won SL. Put some respect on his name

[merlins-strawberriesandroses]

The thing no one ever considers while writing up character analyses about Merlin is that. he must have been sooooooo sleepy.

[chimchiri]

Secret love letter ??? Who could it be???

[lgbtlunaverse]

It's so late– too late to be fully coherent on this– but before i sleep i just need to say it's fundamentlaly fruitless to try and make a "progressive masculinity" to deradizalize young boys from the MRA pipeline. If what you want is for them to unlearn misogyny, the framework of "There are certain values and virtues that belong specifically and exclusively to men, and others that belong to women" isn't just useless but actively harmful no matter how nice the virtues you pick out are. A young boy unlearning misogyny doesn't need to be learn how to "be a masculine man" but in a progressive coating. He needs to be taught he doesn't need to be a masculine man at all, he just needs to learn how to be a person.

[kairithemang0]

Yknow what, I might as well see what happens

Gonna do the notes game, just gonna see what happens I dunno (I have a lot of stuff I need to do and no motivation so I’ll use the internet to force me to)

25 notes - I’ll finish reading Good Omens

50 notes - I’ll finish pulp musicals (I started it and got distracted, came back an hour later so damn confused I HAD MY EARBUDS IN AND EVERYTHING)

100 notes - I’ll draw more (both traditionally and digitally, I want to improve)

150 notes - I’ll continue writing a coffee shop au I started last October and never finished (it was like 75 pages and I just stopped :()

200 notes - I’ll listen to Starry

250 notes - I’ll try to get at least a 70% in Spanish this quarter

300 notes - I’ll clean my room

350 notes - I’ll work on eating healthier

500 notes - I’ll spend more time with my friends outside of school

750 notes - I’ll finish listening to all the musicals on my musical watch list (there are so many of them…)

1000 notes - I’ll get back to doing taekwondo

1500 notes - I’ll take a walk every day

2000 notes - I’ll spend more time with my family

2500 notes - I’ll rewrite my really bad Xehaqus fic from 2 years ago and try my hardest not to just delete all of it (I’d be rewriting 183 pages, I dunno I wanna see how I’d write it now without changing the entire plot)

3000 notes - I’ll actually start to study for school and not just wing it

4000 notes - I’ll stop being such an asshole to my parents Jesus Christ how do they deal with me

5000 notes - I’ll come out to my mom as trans

Try and reach the goal before uhhhhh I dunno April 16th

I may add more later, depends on how fast yall go through the goals, I have a lot of things I need to do (mainly because I need to start caring about my health and how I treat other people). I dunno, let’s see how this goes

Edit kinda did the “come out to my mom” thing soooooo idk I’ll figure something out for 5000 (maybe)

[burningtheroots]

A common question and critique, both in feminist literature and in (online) feminist spaces, is ”Why aren’t the good men doing more for women? Why are they still so passive despite being the 'good' ones?”

Okay, so the answer is actually pretty simple.

At best, these self-proclaimed or so-called "good men" don’t care as long as it isn’t inconvenient for them personally.

At worst, they either secretly or openly enjoy women‘s oppression, humiliation, violation — both due to mere sadism and due to the fact that they actively benefit from it, personally as well as systemically.

That‘s why "good men" are nearly non-existent. Some might be allies when it comes to certain topics (though probably not for genuine women-oriented reasons, and yes, intention matters), however, they‘ll still be misogynistic and oppressive in other ways, or tolerate those who are.

And the concept of a "good men" who‘s "passive" is completely ridiculous. If you, as a member of the oppressor class who‘s advantaged by our systemic & worldwide oppression all the damn time, think that not doing anything makes you "good", you‘re merely a bystander, and hence a (silent) enabler. Not a "good man who‘s just being passive".

Silence is complicity.

They don’t deserve to be labelled as "good". Not harming us with their own hands is the barest minimum. And we deserve to raise our standards, and we also deserve that our sisters raise theirs.

Women for Women. That‘s it. That‘s the only way.

[youdonthavetocallmedarlinnn]

I want to address the fact that Robin Wood was cool for like 5 whole seconds, but then he conspires and tries to kill Spike (yes, I know Spike killed his mom, but they were literally mortal enemies). Instead of Spike dying, it seems Robin instead helps him move past some of his own mommy issues. Buffy then tells Robin straight up that Spike is her right-hand man, and if he tries to do his shitty revenge fantasy again, that Spike would kill him and that she would totally let it happen in pursuit of the picture at large and the fight against The First. Spike killing Robin's mom was a natural order moment in the Buffyverse. A slayer being killed by a vampire while another is called was literally how the system worked since the beginning with the first slayer.

Thhhhheeennn Robin's salty fucking ass proceeds to walk around Buffy's fucking house and tries to conspire with anyone that would hear his needless fucking bullshit. Now, it's not even about his mom anymore. It's about him and his fragile ego. The second he gets to jump on the "Buffy is a horrible leader" train and fuck the only other slayer in the world, he snatches that shit and runs like he earned it. Robin was a soft boy with mommy issues. He was even less valuable to Buffy as he was his own mother, and they both rejected him for Spike. This isn't revenge. It's a pissing contest in the least and dick comparison at its height. There's no honor in this plight. It was an obsession. It was empty from the beginning and a way for him to numb himself from the pain of not being good enough for his mother to stay. That's compulsive behavior, and the scheming and the willingness to throw Buffy under the bus along with her "friends" is proof.

Also, btw Spike sacrificed himself to empower the potential slayers and solidify the line of slayers to come. People wanna come for Spike and act like he's such a dick because he didn't apologize to Robin. He doesn't owe Robin a damn thing, least of all an apology. The person he is truly mad at and needs an apology from is gone. He's obviously suffering from complex grief and a shit load of resentment. I completely understand both of those experiences because I've suffered from them both, but that's not a legitimate excuse to impose his shit on other people. Spike killed his own mother and 2 slayers and so many other people throughout his vampire life. Using his soul and ultimately dying to secure the Slayer line absolves him.

Hate Spike or love him because that honestly doesn't matter, but don't act like Angel's tainted little, Wolfram & Hart soul would have gotten the job done. He had to go deep dark while going under cover. His soul was at best compromised. Spike's soul was in full work mode. He was the truest champion at that moment.

[otakusapien]

You're allowed to dislike children, but you still have to be polite and reasonably kind to random ones around you for the same reason you're passingly polite to random adults in you're daily life: Because they are people

[xoxoemynn]

Hi, just saying, DMs exist for a reason, and if you're going to shit on fics/writers on tumblr dot com where they could VERY easily see it, maybe just don't? Have a shred of empathy and just imagine what it might feel like if you came across someone talking about you and something you were proud of one day. And no, obviously I'm not talking about fics that are racist. I'm talking about ones that just aren't to your taste. Nobody's saying you have to like them. Nobody's saying you have to read them. Just don't be a fucking dick about them in public.

[sittinginsunflowers]

My heart absolutely breaks for Amangeaux. like imagine after not seeing people for half a decade, you finally reunite only to immediately be plunged into battle. No time for awkward explanations or stilted apologies, it’s fight together or die. But she also can’t help herself but care for them. She tries to protect raphaniel from his own worst instincts, but steps back when she realizes he needs this for himself. She tries to reign in karna’s blood-thirst, while still being willing to follow her down into the pits if it means a shot at helping karna to safety.

(She doesn’t know that these people she cares so deeply for are the ones who poisoned her husband to keep her from producing an heir. Or that karna offered up her baby for murder, not even caring to check if he actually posed a threat to the throne. And even worse, they’ve told each other these secrets, and are completely remorseless about what they’ve done.)

And then, after being blackmailed into doing the FDA’s dirty work which nearly broke her as a person, she discovers the person who organized it all was the same woman who’s looked after her all her life!! and she finds this out right before she has to deal the final blow to end her suffering!!

[manynarrators]

Thinking about Armand getting sick— sick enough to have a noticeable change in his body and how in some ways it makes him more tragic.

In the books he’s turned quite young, at 17, before he’s properly grown into what he would look like as a man.

But for show!Armand who was turned at 27, he absolutely would have seen that whole development. And then, through this wasting illness, lost parts of it. That no matter what he does or how much he eats his body will always show these ravages of illness.

Armand being doomed to look in the mirror with a slight disconnect in what he sees and knows as his body and what he knows as what it could be.

The sickness also helps tie into the rule about not turning the weak, instead of the young. In either case, it helps parallel Claudia in that, logically, neither of them should have been made. Both of them have a disconnect between who they are and what they look like. But that, just like in the books, Armand’s is less severe and thus easier to live with.

[bacchuschucklefuck]

love thinking kipperlilly spends her afterlife looking for lucy in a familiar forest