#it’s giving misogynoir

[seapearlgoddess]

Listen, I didn’t hate Starboy before but now I absolutely do. Why is he dominating the Disney Wish tag more than the ACTUAL. FUCKING. PROTAGONIST???? Why are we giving more attention to the fucking concept character more than the actual BLACK FEMALE lead???? This is getting so ridiculous!

[evie-doesnt-write]

I don’t know how to say this exactly but like… fandom and show are kinda weird about Mel and Ekko and it is very much rooted in racism

[bootlegramdomneess]

if Sydney and Carmen's dynamic was purely platonic there wouldn't be this much awkwardness and tension between these two. Do you see how she interacts with Marcus vs how she interacts with Carmen?

The difference is so very clear and I won't go into detail about it because we all see it. There is so much tension between these two. It's a different kind of tension

Not to mention this...

and this

and this

and this

AND THIS

I'm a therapist. We have to be intuitive. We have to know people and their motivations through observing them, how they behave, what they say. I mean it's all right there in this dynamic. I'm typically not one to go this hard over fictional characters but I hate the feeling of being tricked on...Sure they can be friends. They respect each other yes, but

THEY ARE ALSO IN LOVE WITH EACH OTHER STOP THIS TORTURE. STOP THIS MADNESS. PEOPLE WHO KEEP SAYING IT'S PLATONIC NEED TO LOOK IN THE MIRROR AND ASK YOURSELF DO I REALLY BELIEVE THIS BECAUSE IT'S OBVIOUSLY PLATONIC OR DO I BELIEVE THIS BECAUSE I DON'T THINK (EITHER CONCIOUSLY OR SUBCONCIOUSLY), THIS BLACK WOMAN DESERVES TO BE WITH THE OTHER MAIN PROTAGONIST, THE HOT WHITE GUY?

[sukibenders]

Not some JayViks are calling Arcane, specifically the show creators and writers, even animators, homophobic for not catering to their ship...even though the show's main couple is wlw...

[sanyu-thewitch05]

So the next time y’all think darkskin representation, non black racism, and colorism isn’t an issue, I just want y’all to remember these comments.

Edit: The comments are majority non-black men but there’s some black men degrading her in the mix too.

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A darkskin girl couldn’t even dress up as a princess for her 5th birthday without non black men(Arabs, Indians, Hispanics, etc) being bums in the comments and calling her racial slurs because she wanted to dress up as a princess.

Y’all better not start that POC unity mess anymore because time and time again the nonblacks have shown they don’t care for y’all despite all the fighting for their representation, image, and rights. Leave em be next time.

@thisismisogynoir

[cosmicthoughtzalign]

Keke is my favorite Magha ever. This is such a leo scorpio conversation, Janelle Monáe is Anuradha w scorpio stellium (Keke is also Mula), would highly recommend y’all listen if you’re into topics like pleasure and how society can rob & restrict you of it but in order to be truly happy you must be your own individual.

It just makes sm sense that these naks would be talking about how as they present feminine to the world, it’s tried to contain them.

Also her album age of pleasure was 10/10

[bohemian-nights]

your attitude towards Black queer women is nasty and there's nothing stereotypical about a Black (possibly) lesbian character. on top of that, yall was on here the other day talm bout some "taking stuff from black men" but who woulda been seated for a yet another Black man chasing after a yt woman anyway and tryna use sex to control her??? franchaela are going to have a happy ending even if a little bit unconventional (we literally don't know how bridgerton's societal landscape will change by then) but what's the difference between them already living out quiet lives away from the ton and.....continuing to do that? it wouldn't be out of shame but out of what they want while it just so happens to protect them? what exactly would be different than what benophie woulda had to do??? who also had to go to the country to limit the risk of folks inquiring about sophie. it's the same thing and yet your issue seems to be that it's not a Black woman with a white man who harassed her to be his mistress and refused to see her as anything but that. i have no doubt the show will change that part of their dynamic but that seems to be something you want to stay in tact and you need to unpack that cause it's pathetic. you should want better.

They aren’t going to change shit because their MO isn’t to uplift Black women of any kind. So what you really want me to do is cheer on what will be a promiscuous Black woman chasing after or romancing a married white woman(her cousin-in-law) who will have to end up hiding out in the country for the rest of her life to escape persecution. You want me to pretend like it’s somehow the same/a better story than a Black woman being chased after, who gets the marriage, the adoring spouse, the children, doesn’t have to live in hiding or else she’ll be jailed, etc.

You don't care that they also ruined a Black man’s image too? Fine, but this isn't being done for us. We keep getting handed the “unconventional” which is why our image is always a fucking mess in the media.

If you want to play stupid play stupid, but I'm not playing dumb with you.

I’m not happy that they made Marina half-Black when they know she has to die to give Eloise a happily ever after. I’m not happy that they had Lady Danbury get raped every five seconds in Queen Charlotte and tried to play it off for laughs. Or that she remained alone with her children hating her. I wont even mention Guinevere, who is only there either to be a sexual experimentation or a side kick to the non-Blacks. Not to mention she like Lady Danbury is just another iteration of the strong independent woman who doesn’t need a man.

Alice is another side character so I'm not happy that the best we’ll get in terms of a Black-ish main character is Queen Charlotte who unlike the Bridgertons doesn't exactly have a fully functioning marriage. Lastly I’m not happy that they pulled this stunt after pulling the other fifty eleven stunts when it comes to their Blackish female characters. They do the bar minimum and give us the worst shit so no I’m not going to pretend like it’s all hunky dory.

I’m absolutely disgusted by the treatment we have received by this show. I’m tired of the disrespect. It’s one thing to add drama it’s another to add unnecessary trauma which is all they have given us.

I’m sorry, but it should tell you everything that they refuse to show a Black woman in a loving relationship with a man where shes desired and wanted. Every woman is afforded that but us? No ma’am I’m not falling for this bs.

Sophie should've been Black and this character they've created should’ve stayed in the rough drafts. No ifs ands or buts about it.

Actually read the books and pay attention to this show rather than listening to a bunch of psychotic racist ass non-Black women who are trying to sell you shit on a platter cause they don’t really give a damn since they have and will continue to get theirs.

[icanseethefuture333]

I've realized I've grown when I realized how corny these whole high value, femme fatale, and hyper femininity blogs/influencers be sounding

[sleepynegress]

Love this interview... I have been semi-checking in on Zawe's journey since before certain stans were feeling some kinda way about her recent familial additions. I do for certain Black actors/creators especially, who seem to be moving in interesting ways in entertainment/film media...

-A remnant from a period when I used to go to screenings and blog about films (and was published a few times in a major national newspaper)... So, I knew of Zawe through the grapevine of her mentorship, i.e. she is the reason why Rege Jean Page of Bridgerton fame got to work in U.S. markets, as she sponsored him. And she is known, as one of those "good eggs" who will be accessible and help/advise especially young actors of color. ...But, I have some other stuff to say. This isn't about proving that she's an amazing human being. It's about a certain brand of misogynoir that some of these people far beneath her in self-knowledge, self-love, and just plain grown-ass-woman-personhood...keep letting fly in what they *think* are compliments, but actually are just trite microaggressions. Saying things like "as long she makes [T-blank H-blank] happy then she's alright" as if he's the centered human and her attachment renders her worthy somehow. Babies, as long as SHE'S happy. Yall. He's marrying up.

WAY UP and the fact that he knows this? Actually elevates him. She's been there.

She tells a story in the above interview that reminds me of Uzo Aduba's anecdote about her name , - of an incident when she was called to an early job (at 6!) and someone there said she wasn't pretty because of her gap and her Ugandan mother took her on past this person and into the room, ANYWAY.

... She learned a specific self-knowledge and self-love, that is necessary in very white western spaces that constantly pressures a narrow sense of worthiness and beauty, especially from Black women, something a lot of these small-minded stans don't even have a notion of seeing beyond. Zawe is biracial, and her features, aside from her skin tone are very African. So while she benefits from colorism, featurism is something I've seen those bigoted stans, pick on as well. She knows those features are what makes her beautiful and knew that, w/o and before her partner saw that too. And people who aren't blind narrow-minded ignoramuses can *also* see that. This is why I assert the fact of featurism needing to be in the conversation of light/dark privilege conversations. Lips, nose, gap, and even the set of her eyes are ethnic beauty markers within quite a few spaces in the Black African diaspora... My mom was an absolute stunner because of her gap.

Even the old school white model Lauren Hutton got there because of her gap. Uzo Aduba, who I have already mentioned has a deeper skintone and has similarly large round striking eyes, gap, and a non-pinched-nose *rightly* played Glinda in NBC's production of The Wiz a few years back, with Dorothy saying she's so beautiful *because* of those features, not despite them as a very narrow white-washed gaze would wrongly assert.

And while we're here that includes sizes and shapes too. I'm saying your boy is enjoying all that plush. A lot of yall need to read or reread Maya Angelou's Phenomenal Woman, for comprehension.

Anyway... All this to say I know Zawe is and will be fine regardless.

P.S. Maya Angelou *also* had height, and gap and was very much known for her beauty/magnetism as a woman when she was alive. :

[pearsonspearson]

Yall are truly insufferable… if u want a firefighter/paramedic show literally watch Chicago fire or station19 or fire country… 911 is a show about the first responders who respond to 911 calls that’s fire, police, dispatch and paramedics… yall don’t bitch when there’s dispatch episodes… it’s just one common denominator with the fandom complaints and it’s almost never about the yt members of the cast…

[sovietunion]

Girl literally whatever... white fandom moment.

[thewritingpossum]

Hugh de Audley in 1321: I just woke up, I look at the computer, the computer say le Despenser said fuck Roger d'Amory, fuck Roger Mortimer, fuck Hugh de Audley. I'm like what he say fuck me for?? Roger Mortimer's ancestor killed your grandfather then he plotted against you and the king, say fuck that earl! 🖕

[justananonymousgirl]

I just had one of the worst experiences of seeing a woman on tik tok talking about how she was going through a divorce, things were super amicable, she and her husband were set to coparent equally, and how she was nervous but motivated to start her new life as a single mom… just to scroll down a handful of videos and learn that not too long after she posted that, her husband ended both of their lives in a murder-suicide.

To scroll back up a bit and rewatch her video was just so jarring.

And so many people comment things, I believe in good faith, about how who you marry isn’t who you divorce, or that you should keep everything separate once the word divorce is even mentioned… but as always, there is often very little to nothing that you can do to prevent men from making you suffer violence at their hands if they have made that decision. We always push this advice in the aftermath, but you really can never win no matter how you dress or how nice (or mean) you are or even how vigilant you may individually be when it comes to self defense.

Themes of rejection, jealousy, ridicule, ostracism.. things we all have to deal with in some capacity, are used so often as a means to embolden and justify men playing God or judge/jury/executioner, and are upheld by the society’s need to center patriarchy and white supremacy.

It’s not lost on me either that in regards to the recent attack in New Orleans, the one area of that man’s life that they can allegedly pinpoint as at least part of the catalyst for his descent into extremism was his divorce - and the fact that his initial plans were to carry out violence against his own family.

I just really wish to live in a world one day where violence against women is not so deeply embedded into every aspect of our lives.

[supervicious]

People who complain about ships getting more attention than others are too blinded by bitterness to actually make content for the ship they believe is getting sidelined, worsening the problem theyre whining about.

[bellepeppertronix]

Why every other time I find a Pinterest board or Tumblr with pics of Black women with cute natural hairstyles, I scroll twice and suddenly end up neck-deep in pics of Black women in tight clothes with their boobs and asses photoshopped to look bigger

[thegetdownrebooter]

The whites are turning on Caitlyn Clark for possibly being a democrat.