#it made me so mad

[nervetower]

memory

[livelaughlovetoread]

Thanks to @tedwardremus for the tag!

Three ships: Jily, Percabeth, Scorose

First ship: I honestly think it was Hinny. Back in 2003, I was very angry that Harry liked Cho in OotP.

Last song: Noah Kahan, Kacey Musgraves - She Calls Me Back

Last movie: The Marvels (just got around to watching it!)

Currently reading: It's all my open tabs right now lol

Faint Hearts and Fair Ladies by thejilyship

Start From Here by AnnaBtG

Currently watching: I'm watching The West Wing for the 11th time

Currently eating: Husband made steak and potatoes for dinner!

Currently craving: Cookies

I'm tagging @petalsthefish and @ginnyw-potter

[biggaybunny]

ugh do you ever get reminded about a series you were into that ended on a sour note and you have to go through all that frustration all over again.

[moth-flights]

guys the 2nd half of Riverstar's Home was SO ASS im going to kay em es.

im actually in shambles

[labratgrl]

every time i remember how my old job had a jar for phones made rather than just asking the team to put their phones down i grow another feather. and brother you can call me biblical the way i am made of wings

[jinxcast]

your cat walked over your paper and smudged the ink? that sucks. mine knocked over my inkwell and now both my sketchbook and desk are stained irreversibly.

[cauaullection]

tenkaichi 4 was not something I ever expected to happen

[hazardsoflove]

leshawna getting voted off tdi was my 9/11

[starridge]

puppet hour was brutal

[sevrinve]

Prince Zuko 🔥

[bookshelfpassageway]

yknow i dont go here but sometimes i gotta go: seriously respect clowns. they have the worst pop culture representation in the world and also the best most thorough honor code. they're just here to be silly little guys who bring joy and are very conscientious about doing so responsibly. let them to their merriment in peace you dont hafta take potshots. i dont go here but like maybe i should, you all seem super chill

[mysillycomics]

[dragoncarrion]

every now and then I see this woman and I get jumpscared bc she looks like my aunt that said my cat's head was too small and that she had a mental disorder as a result

[eiffeltornet]

10/10 bill post i approve

A line that I, as probably the only one, find quite sad is "sure, anyone but him," which makes no sense if not given context and for this one it is Achibald asking Dutch if anyone can handle explosives and Arthur replies "sure, anyone but him(Bill)."

Ever since chapter one with that failed explosive Bill is constantly being mocked for it, even though it was Arthur, the player, who set it, and if it was just that with no deeper meaning then it wouldn't matter as much, but since Bill's abilities with explosives is the one thing that he prided himself on, it breaks my heart.

Bill is not above average in much, Bill isn't the greatest shooter, he isn't a good scam artist, he isn't a perfect equestian, he is average in most things, however in a camp where exceptional is average, his average becomes bad, which sucks because he is quite talented. However, there was one thing that he could always pride himself on, his abilities with explosives, it was the one thing he could do the others couldn't. He was an explosives expert in the military. He has skills, good skills, yet because Morgan made one mistake that he wouldn't even be bashed for because "it is just one of them things" Bill got the one thing he is good at stripped away from him.

Let me repeat, because Arthur would not take the blame for one mistake he made, which would not have affected him, Bill got stripped of the one thing that made him stand out and which he could use to impress the person he adores the most in the world.

[tomoyoo]

i need to clean myself off suwabe junichi's comments on victor uhuhuhu

[giantkillerjack]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

[plain-text version of this post can be found under the cut]

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

Plain-text version:

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

P.S. Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.