#issues affecting women

[agnesandhilda]

watched conclave last night and then read the wikipedia entry for the book and now I'm wondering about the category ten shitstorm that a publicly intersex pope would cause

[lazylittledragon]

absolutely vile that today should be about recognising legitimately important women’s issues and achievements and you go onto any social media and it’s just terf city

[alicentflorent]

Not even dead Alyssa was safe from Condal’s disgusting writing of women. RIP Alyssa Targaryen you did not deserve that.

[fayevalcntine]

Positioning Louis as the "Edwardian wife who becomes trapped by her husband" in a literal sense does no justice to analyzing his actual place and role as a Black man in his society and in his relationship with Lestat. Any interpretation or analysis you do of him when it comes to their relationship cannot be stripped of the racial aspect because it's constantly there. Texts analyzing Edwardian wives (and particularly ones this fandom loves to bring up) typically were white and the dissection of their place in societal rules are always viewed from the aspect of gender that is within these texts only allowed to white women, but never to Black men or even Black women. And gender and race become inseparable when you discuss the latter, no matter how people may view it.

This is why I can't take this approach to analyzing Louis' story seriously because if you don't consider the racial aspect in his relationship even to himself and his sexuality, what's the point? You're still centering the standards that were more placed upon white male/female couples than you're willing to look into the unique structure of Black families, religion, their view of homosexuality and how that sooner heavily influences Louis than the family's "need" for him to be sold off to an Edwardian husband. Even in Louis' own story, him and Claudia being Black is more centered on than any demeaning "housewife" comment he tries to go against from Claudia's perspective. She makes that comment once, whereas we have at least two episodes from Louis' perspective that have very blatant hints and showings of the racism he still suffers from under the Jim Crow era and how it affects his self-worth as well as his relationship with Lestat who doesn't seem to take into consideration how any of the blatant racial aggressions and objections still affect Louis and what he considers to be important to achieve in his own life.

Then there's also the pointed topic of Louis' position as a Black man who is a pimp to the Black women he has as sex workers, as well as how his position as a Black father affects Claudia, another Black girl. If you insist on Louis being centered as this "Edwardian white wife" who is confined by his implicit gender in his marriage, where does that leave Claudia and the blatant misogyny and disrespect she gets from both him and Lestat? Lestat who is her white father abuses her. Positioning Louis within the strict confines of "being her mother" doesn't do her any favors because he didn't hesitate to choke her when he was deeply emotionally distressed, nor does it make him look any better when he's fine with chopping up her diaries and then delivering them on a silver platter so that Daniel, another white man, can read and dissect. Even if he does this under the sole pretense of "doing right by her", how does it in any way help when he also can't face up to his failures towards her?

[thegreatimpersonator]

its genuinely so crazy how far up taylor’s ass some of you are. even a colonoscopy can’t get you out.

[mukuroom]

ive been discourse posting too much lately so I'll try to stop but i will say it's lowkey painful seeing my country pushing trans rights further and further back only to go online and seeing every post about it exclude trans men

[hextech-workaholic]

Would you ever consider being a third to Mel and Jayce?

This is a...very strange question. A few things- Jayce and Mel are no longer together, from what I know. At least I would assume that is still true. I am also...homosexual, so I experience no attraction to women at all. So...bluntly, no, I would not consider such. I have much respect for Mel, and I...well, Jayce is very important to me- but even in a hypothetical this would...not really work.

[sadbeautifutragic]

my mom called me to make sure she and my dad vote correctly on the amendments tomorrow. she also asked me if abortion is on the ballot again so she can vote for women to be free 🙏🏾

[corviddusk]

genuinely asking, how does the things you said, and i mean everything, apply or work when the transmasc doesn't pass as a cis man? does he still have privilege?

That's a reasonable question and the answer to it is where things get way more complicated.

Trans men who don't pass primarily do not receive benefits of male privilege in any overt manner and will not have as much of the systemic power as a cis man by far. They will have even less claim to it than cis men who are effeminate. However there are a few variables that could lead to plausible utilize of the category of man- even if it's more difficult. This is common in some things that I used to see going around like advice to be more masculine that was based on toxic masculinity.

Get rid of everything you once loved that is too fem, refuse to wear color, become aggressive and cruel, be meaner, take up more space, refuse to move to the side when someone is walking towards you only women move, etc. Those things are specifically coming from trying to fit in with the cissexist patriarchal "man" rather than men as a masculine class of people. The push to behave in certain manners to be seen as more male is to reaffirm what manhood is- and sometimes people sadly push to reaffirm toxic masculinity. This is by far not the majority but it is indeed a subtle way that trans men can end up unintentionally playing into systemic issues. This usually comes from younger trans guys and by younger I mean children. It's understandable that a lot of people's views on men would be formed in this way.

You may also gain a form of privilege by not being targeted by specific rhetoric or laws that target trans women or specifically those with the same gender marker as you (if you've already changed it) though in cases like we're seeing in my country, the USA, the gender marker will change nothing and you'll be attacked by misogynistic laws regardless. This comes into an odd area of limbo where there's numerous asides and notes and specificities that makes it possible to either be present or not. And the more common privilege that is gained is privilege to not be treated as a trans woman which isn't the same as male privilege and usually also means you get the disprivilege of being treated as a trans man.

Not one transmasculine person can ever hold the same level of power that cis men do in the patriarchy. Even the most stealth and interpersonally misogynistic example you could come up with could easily be dwarfed in impact by the actions of numerous cisgender men. However the ability to be those things without your own rhetoric being applied to yourself as you are obviously not a woman does mean that there's more privilege than when a women who was just as misogynistic would be in the same position. (That was a generalized you I don't believe the anon is misogynistic to be clear).

So yes he would have some privilege over women to a degree that doesn't lead to that massive of an impact, however it's still there and it's important to try to not fall into traps. Part of the pressure while you transition is the pressure to conform to cissexist ideas of man or woman. You don't have to be the overly strong breadwinner who hates his wife and has a man cave and prefers his bro time. You can be loving father, a devoted lover, a solitary man who makes his life his own and wonderous, an author, a painter, anything you desire. You can rely on others and be kind. You can also be weak. There is nothing wrong with not being the ideal man in the eyes of cis people.

Once again I want to emphasize that this is not how all trans men act nor are all going to have power themselves. However the plausibility or capability to utilize certain forms of systemic oppression while not misgendering yourself is a privilege. Transfems cannot experience those specific things without forcing themselves into the closet and further causing harm to them (though that doesn't defend people with internalized issues acting poorly). I believe there are other ways women specifically can uphold patriarchal ideas that are less common than men to do and may eventually talk about that.

Basically non-passing trans men have severely less male privilege than passing trans men. But they have like the smallest amount to where internalized misogyny getting externalized tends to not be self hating as much as it is harmful to others because they're men and not women.

[room429]

CLEARLY the solution to transmisogyny is to force intersex people out of the trans community, a place they definitely have power and a voice in. this sort of thing can only help your case and has never harmed the queer community before. in fact we should be using words invented by transmedicalists to show the intersex members of our community how unwelcome they are

[greasydumbfuck]

metafrank but like the bits that make it obvious they are like really terrible together

[sskk-manifesto]

Ep 5!!!

[aroaessidhe]

2024 reads / storygraph

Song of the Huntress

historical fantasy set in 8th century Britain

follows three characters:

a woman who has spent centuries leading the wild hunt & reaping souls after being tricked into it, who disguises herself as a human to enter the kingdom

the queen of Wessex who never lives up to the demands of the court, despite leading their people in battle - and after a battlefield defeat they turn against her

and her husband, the king, deals with magic and political upheaval as his brother tries to usurp him and conflict arises between new and old religions

bi woman MC, lesbian MC, ace man MC