#is this a thing people on the autism spectrum experience?

[noxhominis]

A tiny little headcanon about ACD Holmes that relates to Holmes being ADHD (mostly because I don't know if this happens to autistic people too). We all know by now how Holmes refuses to eat during a case saying how food disrupts his mental capacity.

Now as a person besieged by the beast known as ADHD, I have had an experience. I don't know how many of you can relate, but sometimes I feel hungry and I know where the food is, but it simply does not occur to me to eat at all. It's just too much sometimes. Too much effort to get up and get the food, to heat/make it. To even have to put it in a plate and eat it. To even wash hands. Happens with water too, if a little less frequently. If anyone asks, I just excuse myself with I wasn't hungry/ I forgot.

Now I imagine Holmes going through this on a semi regular basis pre-Watson. And explaining all this seems like a bit too much effort. And he is Sherlock Holmes ™ and so cannot legally forget things. So he comes up with this bullshit explanation that sounds scientific on the surface. Everyone buys the excuse.

Except for Watson, that is. Because that man is a doctor and lives with Holmes 24/7. At first he reminds Holmes to eat. Then he leaves dry food in easily accessible places. And wonder of wonders, it works. He still does not eat as much as he should, but Holmes at least stops starving himself. Because he might not be cured, but he has actually found someone who cares about him and it might not be everything, but it is enough.

[boimgfrog]

it's always "autism acceptance" until the autistic person is weird, or fat, or a man, or has poor hygiene, or a POC, or makes unfunny jokes, or isn't a cute feminine gay, or is actually bad at communicating, or needs to have things explained to them, or is too loud, or too quiet, or needs to be told something multiple times to understand it, or has mannerisms that make people stare at them, or, or, or, etc. if you would show patience to the cute autistic girl who collects plushies and stims by flapping her hands then you MUST show equal patience to the large autistic boy who stims by humming or hitting his head and worms underwater welding into every conversation. I am no longer asking. your acceptance cannot begin and end with people you deem palatable.

[catkin-morgs-kookaburralover]

yall who got late diagnosed/adult diagnosed as autistic. howd you cope with the stress around the feedback session and howd it go like did you walk in and they said 'oh yeah you're autistic' alternatively if they denied you a diagnosis howd that go too

[agrebel18]

so i was with a friend earlier and he got excited about something to the point of stimming by flapping their arms, and i complimented that because i'm insecure about some of my stims (we're both autistic) and he was curious about what i do, so i flapped my arms too because i love to but i stopped quickly because of insecurity and past ableism i've faced, and they smiled at me and ended up telling me that just because i'm used to negative reactions whenever i show my autistic traits doesn't mean i can't start accepting positive reactions, and i wanted to tear up (positively) after hearing this

[pokemon-radical-red]

As much as I like that people are trying to end the idea that all autistic people are incredibly different from allistic people and struggle with things that allistic people do easily and that you can easily spot that someone’s autistic within one conversation, sometimes I think that people recently have been taking it too far, insisting that NO autistic person is like that, which is just not true. Some of us have a lot of trouble with little things. Some of us can’t mask at all. Some of us don’t really fit into allistic society.

I feel like the rhetoric that all autistic people are super capable and just like allistic people other than a few minor differences that don’t even negatively impact the lives of the autistic people can lead to a lot of ableism. Especially from allistic people who realize that they should learn from autistic people and then end up seeing stuff like this, and then these allistic people start downplaying autistic people who can’t do as much or insisting that of course they can do it, they just need to try harder. Even some autistic people do this, wondering why those of us who have more trouble can’t do all of the things that they can do easily. Autism impacts some people’s lives heavily, and I hate how a lot of people completely erase us so that people will perceive them as better.

[sharklovespink]

Where my Autistic people with OCD at?!

They don‘t get enough recognition from the media and get forgotten in general (In my opinion).

[spiritrosesaga]

Coming up sometime this week, I will release a blog post about self-diagnosis Autistics and why we're valid. For those of you who were able to afford a diagnosis, either with help from family, through your own funds, or etc. However you were able to do so, I'm happy for you. More than happy and I'm not undermining your experience.

However, for those of us who are unable to afford a diagnosis, I ask the same respect in return. Don't belittle me or undermine mine or anyone else's experience because there are multiple real reasons why some of us are unable to get tested for a legitimate diagnosis.

Unless, of course you're willing to pay for my diagnosis, then please feel free to do so, but until then, leave me and anyone else who's self-diagnosed alone!

[astral-the-space-traveler]

"You should appreciate your autism as the unique gift it is"

Gee, I'd love to do exactly that but literally every single time I try to do that in any way whatsoever I'm damn near immediately shot down somehow. People always saying I'm doing too much when I'm just trying to express myself without crying. Then they say I'm too sensitive and y'know what, fuck you I have an empathy overflow and this shit is actually killing me so I don't care what you say about it even if it hurts.

And that isn't to say that being autistic hasn't benefited me at all. It makes me a more creative musician and shit but frankly it's hard to enjoy that when everything is a perpetual shit show complete with misunderstandings up the ass over the most basic shit.

[nicxxx5]

i know this is gonna be tricky to answer because of location, but does anyone know of places that are good for autistic people to hang out or cater to autistic people? specifically autistic adults.

i've tried searching for this many times, but i've been really struggling to filter out my searchers and filter through them to find something. i essentially want to find a sensory friendly place that encourages basically parallel play. like i can be doing one thing and my friends can be doing something else but it like makes sense to do so or it's essentially encouraged? and like we can just vibe with each other and others. however, i still want it to be an adult/young adult space because i want to be surrounded by people my age for the possible potential of socializing.

i live in the us so if anyone else who lives here knows of a place like that, or if people even outside the us have an idea of a more generic place that works the same, please let me know

[emo-is-sexy]

i wish that i wasnt a girl and was sometjing else sometimes because as i have gotten older the constnant reminders and knowledge that there are people who see me as automatically less deservinf of rights and human just becauseni have a fucking vagina and uterus and ugly fjvking tits has eaten me alive from the insdoe it hruts so badly like the constna t thought that a s i go about my day in public there are people around me who see me as less than human and as just my genitals has destroted me i fucking jate it hi hate uit so much ot makes me feel so horrible and ,akes me contemplate suicid e because i will never be seen as equal especially becajse o am not really attratctyed to men and i am not attarcted to masculinity at all and i dont conform to stereotypical beauty standards for women my age so i a, , m basically seen as useless and expendable it hirts so bad i constantlty think about it it makes mr want to just stay in my room and never leabe i wisj i wasn not a woman and it is just adeed onto by the fact that i ajm on the spectrim and a,m profoundlt mentally unwell i ahte it i am seen by evryuone around me as inhuman and intentiojslly ignored it hurts so bad knowing that everyone who irl has been a formwr classmate of mine or people who habe been friends or known me at certain times see me as stupid and embarassing and my 4existence as cringeworthy has destroyef me i cnt stop thinking about it i fukving hate having to be alivr and be percieved ad the way that it will never end no matter how hard i try to be normal and shrink away from everybidy i cant cha mge the perceptiomns of eho i am to them. what is the point of living anf going on with life if you conciously know tjat everyone around you degrades ypu in their mind like tis so muych more than just being a woman its that i am an autistivc woman with speech impediments and tongue thrust which has permanentlym warped my facial structure and way i speak and breathe and to some thst seems like an unneeded detaiul but i feel like its nneed ed because i am not just a shy awkward girl but insteaf a girl whos very existence is seen as embarassing bhy many. people are very cruel when you are diffrernt in any way but especially when just by appearance and how you carry yourself they see you as inhuman or frankly rheu assume you are too stupid or socially unaware to undrrstand how your very existence is a joke to them and that they are constantlt making fun of you. the sad part i st hat i didnt understamnd. i never understood. because i WAS unaware. that alwaysnhurt the most. because they werent even wrong. makes me just want to dissapear and go missing and never come back

[spacebugarts]

Ok I have a question about empathy in relation to autism. I've always considered myself a very... sympathetic(?) person. I'm able to and even actively enjoy putting myself in someone else's position and trying to figure out how they feel and why they may act the way they do; it's one of my favorite ways to interact with the content and characters I like. I like to project my own feelings and experiences onto my favorite characters and imagine how I would react to the things in their lives, and I use those same principles to understand real people. My last therapist used this as an example of empathy and said that was why she didn't think I was autistic.

Now, ignoring her outdated understanding of autism, I don't think I feel empathy in the same way an allistic person would? While I like to think I'm pretty good at examining people's behavior and using their perspective to explain their choices, I find it incredibly hard to view myself through someone else's eyes. Whenever a quiz or assessment asks me things like "how would your friends describe you" I find myself lost. How am I supposed to know what someone else thinks of me?

So my question is this; is the ability to understand how others perceive you an example of empathy as an allistic person feels it, or something else entirely? And is my method of "showing empathy" more related to my interest in psychology than my ability to actually read others?

[autisticquestions]

If you're reading this

I want you to know that I'm here for you. If you have questions, send them to me and I'll answer them. It doesn't matter if they're +99 :)

[boag]

Obsessed with running myself a very hot bath and thensitting in it with the detachable shower head in my hand under the surface with cold water running through it and using it to cool the bath down and feel the temperature change until my bath is comfortably on the colder side of lukewarm . And then I drain a bit of the water and start running hot water once again through the shower head and feeling the warmth slowly hit me after I’ve gotten used to the cool water . And I may repeat this process as needed/desired until I’m ready to finally get out of the bath and go to bed. This is meditation for me

[barnbridges]

do you ever read like... shit about being nd and your realize half of this is just nt people villanising anxiety.

[innocent-until-proven-geeky]

i just think that maybe if your reason as a professionally diagnosed autistic person for hiding that diagnosis is that you don't like when other professionally diagnosed autistic people call something ableist... it's less that the thing itself isn't ableist and more that you probably have some internalized ableism to work through

[mrfoox]

Just remembered how after my autistic diagnose every offical person was so careful to approach me about it at first. I know that's probably standard bc not everyone will like those news or know how to handle it but I legit just had doctors go 'hey... So... Are you okay? How do you feel?' and I was like 'haha, nice, so I haven't just been faking/now I know why I'm so different'