#insisting that it's all her fault
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Grace: completely done with the misogyny and double standards that she has to deal with, being unfairly and rudely attacked over every aspect of her life and speaking out about it.
Steddies: doing all of the above again and bleating about it’s definitely not their fault.
Me:
#anti steddie#grace van dien defense squad#they're still doing it!#responding to grace's posts with their delusions#saw an asshole#and surprise they're a steddie#insisting that it's all her fault#get wrecked#and blocked#my standards for their behavior cannot get any lower#and yet they keep limboing under!#it's been a year#seriously#get a life#and leave grace alone
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#mine#writers of tumblr#poetry#spilled ink#writing#okay to rb#spilled words#poem#tw: trauma#tw: sa#tw: abuse#wrote this after one of the first conversations i had with my mum after i told her what my brother's did#hearing her insist it wasnt their fault. hearing her say she cant lose him. hearing her say it was our dad's fault. hearing her defend them#especially my oldest brother#probably the worst thing she's ever done to me#so sure i can take it. cause i always have#i'd say “i would never do this to you; it wouldnt matter who you said had dine it” and she said “youre a better person than all of us”#sometimes i wish it'd killed me so maybe she'd see it for what it is but..#anyway#i hope you know youre more than your strength#and that just because you can handle it doesnt mean you should#you deserve peace and to feel safe enough to put on and take off your strength so you can just be#i hope it all reaches you soon
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hi i'm very very new to the magnus archives but i really wanna draw fanart!!! i don't want to go into the tag or do any searches bc i don't want any spoilers. can you please answer the poll below regarding the characters' visuals?
#the magnus archives#tma#tma podcast#johnathan sims#polls#tumblr polls#tma poll#tma polls#it's not my fault i want to draw the angler fish so badly#also johno my sweet tired grumpy man#johno has eye bags and wears jumpers everyone insists are itchy but for some unknown (ungodly) reason he doesnt find them itchy at all#sasha believes that you're never too old to wear pigtails and occasionally sprays her perfume around the office to prevent The Smell#the other characters exist but not in recent memory im on episode likeee 32#PLEASEEE NO SPOILERS
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the way people talk about grimes is so virulently misogynistic I could vomit just hearing it
#she has said and done many deplorable things but that does not rescind victimhood. you get nowhere by denying that or acting as#though she were at fault for everything he believes and has done (including to her!) openly lending credence to incel ideology and for what#you buy into the misogynistic idea of women as faultless nurturing caregivers and therefore sensationalise any woman who is#morally repulsive. or that they are beholden to their male partners and thus the primary supporter/root source/puppet-master of all his#evil; capable only of influencing. subconsciously presuming women to be some perennial madonna/whore figure which is just as#weaponised by the far-right only glorified; idealised. for you it's a specifically gendered failure. she failed in a sacred feminine duty#and should have “known better”. like everything that he has done to her is her fault because she chose to be with him#here you are theorising that someone else made her music dismissing the very foundation of her art insisting everything she's said is a lie#calling her spoiled and rich and therefore incapable of being manipulated by someone far richer. do you hear who you sound like#she asked some account on twitter to please stop posting pictures of her children and everyone slammed her for not asking musk#to stop using their son as a social shield and my fucking god do you seriously think if she is here begging strangers not to do something#because it is the last avenue of power left to her that she does not have a problem with that too. that she hasn't asked him in private#and he just did not respect it because when has he ever respected the boundaries of the women he (and you!) treats as concubines#you seriously think she is a mindless bimbo who clung to his arm and is incapable of producing which is the one thing she's#been respected for all her career. I don't know what else to say other than at a point you cross from valid hate into sexism and it's#blindingly infuriating and unjustly derisive and for the love of god there is so much to criticise her for there are mountains of it#everywhere but no bring up her eating disorder one more time call her dumb as bricks say she asked for it and is a lousy mother#it is less about who you are criticising and more the nature of those criticisms; the suggestions and assumptions they belie#delete later
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goddd emily’s performance as saccharina was amazing. she’s powerful. she’s intimidating. she’s broken by her own expectations. she’s noble. she’s a scared little kid. she’s so wrapped up in her own emotions and experiences that they affect everything she does. she’s sometimes insufferable to the viewer, who has been with the rocks family this entire time. she’s a sympathetic character. she’s a badass, because she needs to be. fuck, what a character.
#me whenever saccharina monologues to ruby: oh my god stop itttt she’s grieving. also keep goinggg because its good story#i think a lot of viewers feel like. bc they have empathy and connection to ruby#-that they cant have the same for saccharina. bc shes so…insistent on winning affection from a family that is not ready to give her it#and it can conflict with ruby and our experiences so far. like.. who is this girl!!#but that kind of take really ignores the narrative impact saccharina has. how she’s coming into this story from another one—her own#and how the impact of jets death is the main reason ruby refused to let her in#plus how quick saccharina assumed shed be welcomed!! its unrealistic but thats not her fault for feeling disappointed. she had no frame of#-reference for how meeting the rocks family was supposed to go. their frustration was out of her control. yet she takes it personally#which is what a lot of ppl find annoying about her character. and like!! sure okay whatever but youre missing out on *why* all this conflict#-happens. *why* she acts the way she does. *why* it was the right choice to introduce her after jets death.#yeah.#acoc#dim 20#dimension 20#saccharina frostwhip#bardic ranting
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I headcanon that Brahms didn't kill Emily and it was an accident not because I'm a pussy that can't handle a problematic fave but because I like how much sadder it all is if it wasn't even his fault but his parents still make him suffer 20 years for it
#like she fell and cracked her head#he didn't understand what was happening#gets frustrated that she's not playing anymore and is just lying there#his parents find being angry at the corpse of his friend and assume the worst#they don't believe him/gaslight him that it's his fault#he has to deal with the fact that no one will ever believe him and always assume the worst#and maybe the insistence he's violent just convinces him he must be/encourages him to be#ON TOP OF all the other existing tragedies of his life#*chefs kiss*#the boy 2016#brahms heelshire
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post on the large hadron collider reminds me one of the many many many many many crazy things my mother believes wholeheartedly is that she and a worldwide community of people have the ability to literally see the future, and that the only reason it "doesn't work anymore" (which she is inconsistent about claiming) is because when the lhc was turned on (she insists it happened in the year 2000-i do not care enough to verify) it corrupted the timeline and ruined all of her fucking psychic future sight by setting us on The Wrong Timeline with it's... evil particle energies i guess. and then she goes on a paranoid rant about how the lhc is an act of hubris that's going to end mankind by ripping holes in reality and creating microblackholes or something and how she can "tell when it's on" because "things go a little funky" and her future vision "whites out again". i wonder what the hell she thinks is going on in stars all the time if she thinks the universe is that damn fragile.
she also seems to somewhat believe in the idea that every time you die your consciousness just gets transported seamlessly to a timeline where you didn't. and thinks that she regularly hops timelines and realities because she's "one of the rare 0.1% that's less attached to this reality and more to another one". at least when she's not blaming inconsistencies with reality vs her perception on everyone else except her being malicious, defective, and stupid. which she increasingly does now, since i guess her "heir to princess anastasia" delusion currently holds more appeal to her than the "psychic dream princess between dimensions" one. or more likely is just that she still 100% is in on both and i've just managed to tell her to shut the fuck up enough times that she doesn't talk about the psychic dream princess one unless she feels she has an opening to dump it in and force me to hear about it anymore. and believe me, she is ALWAYS looking for kinks in the armor to force that shit into ANY interaction
#she has also several times extremely unambiguously threatened to beat me to death for calling her psychic soul energies thing a religion#and has at least twice openly threatened to throw a heavy glass cup at my head and/or smash it on my head over this#the fact that this bitch can say things like that and still think SHE'S the justified one is astounding#have i mentioned before she also believes she's literally genetically not human?#yeah.#she thinks she's “the next step in evolution” towards the superior evolved next human species#which she insists is called “Homo Supremus”#and furthermore insists this is absolutely definitely 100% a widely-known thing that all scientific communities agree on#i have no fucking clue where she got ANY of that from#because when i google it i can't even find mention of anything like that on *conspiracy sites*#she used to rant about this for hours in the car on the way to and from the grocery store when i was a kid#she would also constantly make us late to said grocery store because she insisted on spending 20+ minutes putting on makeup#for the slightest simplest shopping mall trip#as if makeup has ever done anything but make her look like a desperate bloated corpse#of course it was always our fault we were late places for not getting ready fast enough while she spent hours waffling around#and wouldn't even start trying to put on her damn makeup until we were all already sitting out in the car
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siiiiiiigh
#i am in fact a grown adult who is still incapable of talking about their feelings and thoughts to people so I'll just rant here#my relationship with my mother is. so weird. it's not always bad but it always ends up bad for one reason or another#she can be perfectly civil and i'll still be irritated. other times i do try to tolerate it and engage and she ends up saying something#upsetting to me either way.#i don't want to keep being rude to her i don't want to get mad and annoyed all the time but i just can't stop. it's always like this#and i hate myself for it and i hate her and i hate everything about it#today i was leaving for work and she was like. i'll take the trash out of your room and i told her not to do it. she kept insisting and i#had to raise my voice at her to maybe get the point across to get her not to touch anything#and yes my room is a fucking mess and it is something to be embarrassed of. i just feel so fucking tired all time time and i keep tellin#myself that i will clean it this time for sure and then i don't. most of the time it's my mother taking care of it without my permission#and i am grateful for it bc nobody likes living in a mess... but i also fucking hate it because it makes me feel even more worthless#i just can't get rid of the feeling of shame. no matter what i do.#and back to the mother thing. i told her that if she touches anything i will go to her room and throw out anything that isn't nailed down#even though objectively i have no reason to oppose her helping me#but i also fucking hate it#maybe being rude is the only way to get it across. but also i get irritated about anything so easily#i feel shittier and shittier every day. had there been an easy and painless way of killing myself i would have done it already#and despite how much i want to blame this on a disorder or lack of access to medication. there is no magic pill that would fix me is there#i'm just a shitty person who cannot get it together despite everything being handed to me#i'm literally bad at anything and everything. i'm not even a good blogger lmao#people have it much worse in life and still do better. me? i'm useless. there's no helping it. i should have died from covid or something#nobody will save me. nobody cares enough. besides one person whom i push away because i can't stand her and i don't even know why 👍#if i stop messaging people first most of them would forget about me#i am alone. a lonely person in a messy room desperately trying to be entertaining so someone will pay a little bit of attention to me.#not to mention the geopolitics#i won't even go there. i hate the possibility that people might see it mentioned and give me shit for it#one more thing that is apparently my fault. directly or indirectly#all i want is to leave this country. spend the day with someone who cares for me like an actual friend. and then shoot myself so i don't#have to go back#sealene.txt
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you know you know when you get attached to a side character that doesn't exist? that you made up for your fanfiction or something but isn't even nearly fleshed out enough to consider an oc?
#yeah#fnaf#thats me w/ the sister i made for fritz#fritz as in fnaf the dead kid that literally has no fans anyway#uee steph works two jobs for him ueee shes struggling so bad but she has a little brother to look after so she gets through it#ueue she brought him to work to fazbears. because she couldnt afford childcare. she looked away for one second and he fucking died#she never even gets a body to bury#stephanie allen oh stephanie allen#really hooked on all the thoughts ive been coming up with for the mci btw. have channelled them into recent fics#and written more quicker than i have in a while#susie who spent all her pocket money in the arcade. who ran there when she let the dog out and home started getting tense#jeremy who'll always think its his fault gabriel died because he's the one who insisted they stayed late#fritz who i've named fitzgerald because because repeating names that have already appeared right guys#cassidy the only body discovered - left with no face to identify. the only one who never realised spring bonnie was just a person in a suit#she didnt look at him and see a trustworthy adult like all the others. she saw a friend#chara thoughts#anyway i've been very emotional over all of them and i think writing the Lets Kill William Afton! fic helped get that out of me
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the whole thing of treating pets like family members is real cute until you lose the capability of understanding youre caring for animals n not cute fluffy plushies labeled "child"
my mom INSISTED on adopting 2 somewhat big dogs out of pity last year, she insists on getting attached to pets like theyre her children so thats the cutesy way she originally treated them.we do not have enough space for 2 dogs their size n she refuses to ever play w them or take them on walks (im unable to do that myself bc i cant go where theyre kept without help n shed just get mad.i know she would from experience), most of her interaction w them when shes not cutely calling them her kids bc theyre cute to look at is screaming at them for barking, she literally spends the entire day at times talking abt how she wishes she didnt have them n their food is getting way too expensive for how much money we have.so yk she decided to give them away to this guy w a HUGE farm space proper for dogs like them, ignoring how she treats them one could say its noble she realized theyre not well here n let them go somewhere better for their needs
anyways then in less than a day she threw a hissy fit she wanted her "children" back bc she cannot see pets as animals but as cutesy children who need mommy constantly so the dogs r back at somewhere theyll eventually die of boredom bc their only entertainment is barking at lizards bc my mom cant understand dogs have needs n arent there to play cutesy family roles n look nice.its just your responsability for a pet owner to know your ANIMALS needs, n some ppl r literally just not cut to own pets if they insist on seeing them as "essentially people bc its cute to treat them like they r" than animals w specific needs to be kept
like.on base calling pets family is cute.i get the appeal im willing to play along w being the pets sister bc it IS a cute term to use for fun.but when you do it sm you can no longer understand you own animals n not literal children (granted if she treated a child like that shed land in jail immediately) thats just.honestly youre just kinda stupid n obviously get pets bc theyre cute to have, not bc you want to take care of animals
#analiceoriginal.txt#she told me i have no love for them bc i didnt get excited they were back like yeah girl bc THIS ISNT A PROPER PLACE FOR THEM???#im sorry for understanding the concept dogs of specific sizes NEED specific spaces#also i was busy crying abt the fact now i have to put up w her screaming abt them constantly#sorry thats just not exciting news.dogs r back to getting mistreated n im back to putting up w her anger issues#just.fuck man suddenly i rly understand why l.aios was annoyed at s.enshi insisting a.nnie was safe n friendly#that is an ANIMAL w ANIMAL needs n behaviors youre ignoring !!! your love for them is built on a fundamental misunderstanding#of how animals work!!! dumbass!!!#its the same shit w the cats kinda too.theyre her cute children until they need vet attention where suddenly theyre#getting on her nerves bc theyre too needy when sick#heck girl im only here bc i sounded cute to have too 💀#also miss responsability impulsive adoption literally got 3 dogs killed before bc of this behavior#she insisted on adopting this dog knowing she could have been sick w a rly bad disease thats incurable for dogs#guess what the dog turned out to have n spread to our other two dogs killing all of them within a month!#n guess who decided that wasnt her fault yesterday bc shes claiming my ~uncles bad energy~ somehow fucking did that!#this is more of a vent than an objective post abt an issue but idk someone can prob relate
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making a slight detour from Taylor to rant for 0.3 seconds in the tags
#my coworker is driving me CRAZY right now#we have a list of tasks so that we can collaborate on our shared responsibilities#she spent weeks spiraling so I helped out with her tasks where I could#but she would promise me to do something and then I’d follow up and at the last minute it’s OH SHIT I FORGOT#which…. fine we’ve all been there#but for three fucking weeks I held it together and I think she felt bad#now she’s overcompensating by doing things that are MY job without checking first#(aka she doesn’t know who’s job it is but wants to be helpful and does it)#but these are assigned by our STRENGTHS so she’s not as adept at these tasks as she needs to be#and when I make a comment like ‘wow the server really screwed this up today huh’#she frantically begins apologizing and insisting she’ll do better#but like… it wasn’t your job and it wasn’t your fault!#stop overcompensating poorly out of guilt pls#anyways
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Can I please just stop inconveniencing everyone?
#just gonna vent agaim#so I was making some traditional salad with my partner's mom (they're my parents as well at this point)#and I'm vegetarian right? so we were making two separate bowls of it#and my partner came to help and I switched the bowls to help and put the one with meat closer to her#and by instinct her mom put meat in my salad#and she panicked really bad but then it was safe because they managed to save like half of it that the meat didn't touch#we thought it was all good in the end#oh well until I got to eating my salad and I stop in horror realising that there. was. meat. in my mouth#and I didn't talk about it before but for me being vegetarian is like 20% for the animals and the rest because of the texture#+ I studied biology in detail in university and knowing what's in there disgusts me to the core#so there you have me gagging and running to the bathroom#and his mom felt terrible and she apologised to me so many times#I feel terrible because it wasn't even her fault#it's mine because I moved the bowls#I feel terrible because everytime I'm meeting with family I'm such an inconvenience because I don't eat meat#her mom and also my mom cook two separate meals everytime#of course I always tell them to let me cook for myself but they insist#I'm actually very grateful but I feel so bad#personal#vent#venting
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Kai: "How old are you?"
Jing: "13?"
Kai: "When I was your age, I was already 14!"
#kung fu panda#general kai#kai#the paws of destiny#jing#general kai the dad#again kai just messing with jing to make her mad and amuse himself#he would say this not to be serious but to bait her into arguing with him#and the more she gets mad and argues with him the more he insists on it#it's funny because Daiyu does the same thing to him to make him angry and it works everytime#she'll walk in on this and say completely monotone and straight faced: I was already 15#and kai would immediately turn on her to start arguing all while daiyu's like 'It's not my fault I'm better at aging than you are'
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#cw negative#its not that bad i just need 2 rant for a bit#because like why does my mother say such ridiculous shit sometimes#i went to go wash my dish and she said ah youre finally doing the dishes .. LIKE i try to but what do i do when my brother insists on doing#it everytime ! and takes it from my hands and blocks the sink and he’ll make a big fuss if i don’t let him do it !#like literally scold me and tell me to put it down or else he’ll get irritated#i lightheartedly told her that and then she was like well yeah you're still a woman then went on about how its the womans job to [ . . . ]#its really the small things like that i think. she has such outdated beliefs. i hear her saying things like its the womans job to take care#of the house and her man and etc and i'm like ok i Know i literally won't win if i try to do so much as nudge her#but then she also talks about other things that just irk the shit out of me !!! the rapture abortion etc#the one time she told me to my face if she couldve aborted me she would have. making comments on my body and just#i don't hate her. overall we have a good relationship. but its just these small things and her gross outdated beliefs and how gullible she#can be and stuff like that. she tells me i have such an easy life but i can't bear to tell her i was ever suicidal or ever self harmed#because i KNOW she'd tell me i'd go to hell if i ever tried to kill myself#i know this wholeee thing might be really intense and sad and stuff but i'm totally okay /gen i'm just! awfully irritated#thinking back on all those dumbass things she's said and done like. agh;;#its not her fault i think ive noticed a lot of filipina women (or at least the ones around me) tend to hold those beliefs so she was prolly#taught these as a child but . come on!! im so tired of the misogynistic shit she says and . ugh#cw self harm mention#cw suicide mention
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The pope waiting it out hoping someone dies is kind of a tell. so many times i hear koa stans go so hard on this, that she was right, morally and legally, every step of the way.and we should shut up accept that and be ashamed she was ever put through this. but when you look at it as the pope sitting on the fence, and not immediately finding for her, it doesn't look as clear as koa stans say. And i find that a much more interesting situation and a relief from the "saint koa" line
I mean, he still treated her abysmally, but yeah, if precedent had actually been followed Henry would have certainly won this case. I almost believe how it was won was ultimately the result of geography; Charles V was simply closer.
This is one of the most infamous and generally misunderstood divorce cases, though, I learned about most of its misconceptions in JF Hadwin's papers about the case. I will post more quotes if there's interest, one example was that bona fides did not apply in England legally although it did on the continent (since often Henry declaring his eldest illegitimate is characterized as merely 'petty' and 'cruel', I think that's actually pretty important).
Also the decree against Henry sort of made Clement look like an ass (well, not exactly, because he died 1st...those that maintained and upheld it, at any rate) because it combined with the others meant that the expectation was that it would be enforced, if not by Henry's own subjects than by another Catholic kingdom. Really the closest this ever came to was Kildare Rebellion and the Pilgrimage of Grace. And although Henry was not officially excommunicated until December 1538, this too was never actually carried out (not even when Edward VI, far more Protestant than Anne Boleyn, was on the throne). Unless we view the excommunication of Elizabeth I as an extension of Henry's to some extent, this expectation was never answered until 1588, and when it finally was, it failed. Little wonder there were so many tones of providentialism and 'triumphal Protestantism' in Whig historiography of Tudor history.
#anon#for all intents and purposes henry 'won'#he was not deposed and besides the interruption of jane grey the order he had granted for the succession was carried out#i think it is a bitter pill for some to swallow; why many will insist he was not capable of having sons#despite evidence to the contrary; that all the reproductive tragedies were his 'fault'...#it's wishful thinking in the guise of historic inquiry#the wish for moral comeuppance ; some reflection of morality in events that proves righteousness#rather than chance and timing and circumstance#beyond anyone's control#(not all of them of course but the matter of having healthy; surviving children was merely a matter of the odds#edward vi died of illness; mary i was not able to conceive [we don't know if just at that time or if ever]#these are all matters of the odds; it's quite the show of partisanship to gleefully insist henry was 'at fault' for the reproductive#tragedies of his wives; the cot deaths and stillbirths and miscarriages#and that mary was not for her own)#i mean...im certainly no fan of her husband but he did have children by other wives after her?#altho it's possible there was some genetic incompatibility between them that made it impossible for mary to conceive#ie that they were equally 'at fault' in line with kell theory for henry#altho really again it does not MATTER whose medical 'fault' it was bcus ultimately whatever it was it was out of their control
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drawing something for a mutual and she will never see it bc I’m scared to show it to her but now I just feel like crying bcos I know she doesn’t mean to forget but at the end of the day people just forget me much easier than they do others and I tried pushing that feeling down for as long as I can remember but now it’s like I’m crumbling down under the imminent weight of that idea.
#she doesn’t mean it and she’s quite busy but#it’s easy for her to remember others#or like#reach out to them first#I grew up and continue to grow up denying everyone’s attention and insisting I loathe attention and stuff#and even denying any attention and getting uncomfortable when people give it to me#but I just want *her* attention#just one person#I’m so confused . .#𓏲 𝐍 ܀ᬊ#let’s distract myself by continuing to draw it for her#even tho I’m gonna delete my blog soon so now we would have zero contact#I don’t ask for socials first bcos it feels like I’m begging them for it and then we won’t even talk#I don’t know why ppl ask for others’ socials if they don’t end up interacting anyways#but I don’t want to ask her bc I don’t want her to think I’m annoying#in truth I don’t think she likes me much#but that is okay I suppose#it’s no one’s fault but mine because all I do on there is stupidly be sad how can anyone even find anything worth liking if all I am is just#sad all the time on there#what is worth missing of a miserable person#honestly this is for the best for everyone#even tho the reason I was sad is bc I felt left out and other life problems . .#@bunveh was the cutest ever blog name but I ruined it bc of my stupid mental illnesses and my foolish brain and this stupid anxiety that#leaves me paralysed#I’m so tired bro I just wanted her to like me#and maybe be closer friends or something I don’t know . .#I just thought maybe it’ll be kinda cool to have an online presence where people could talk and maybe someone could like me or smth and then#we can be friends or wtv and be like besties idk but I was a fool that will never be my reality my mum was right who could ever want to be m#my friend . . how could one willingly want to be my friend out of their own free will this is stupid stupid stupid stupid stupid
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