#im tired of people misusing this term

[bedforddanes75]

my issue with terminology discourse isnt that i think everyone's stupid and sensitive it's that literally nobody explains the meanings of things and then get pissy when people dont know what things mean

[neil-gaiman]

hey mr gaiman. i saw that this post got revisited and wanted to address it.

i submitted this ask over a year ago on my old account and it was one of the stupidest things i ever did. it was my first tumblr account. id only been really online for a few weeks. i was 13. i was just coming back to school after a global pandemic.

ive been a fan of good omens for years and a fan of yours for longer. i was brought up reading odd and the frost giants and fortunately the milk, and as i got older i fell in love with your norse mythology book, good omens, snow glass apples, the sleeper and the spindle, and more.

i was excited to see one of my favorite authors on tumblr and tried to come up with the most bold and interesting ask i could think of.

i was rude and misinformed and it was a stupid choice of me to send it in with no thought.

but i got feedback. some in the form of kind suggestions. quite a few in the form of death threats and people telling me to kill myself.

while those specific messages were rude and hateful, the point got across. i educated myself to the best of my abilities, and eventually came back online.

not only did i misuse the term queerbaiting but i also implied that you were not an amazing supporter of the queer community. that’s absolutely incorrect. you’ve done so much for us with activism, representation, and overall kindness.

i wanted to address this ask that got so much attention because despite moving accounts i still feel guilt and shame every time i see it, or even when i interact with any of your posts at all. i need to actually address it.

also, i wanted a proper apology to be made. by no means am i now a saint. but im trying to be more thoughtful about thinking before i speak.

whether or not you decide to make a public response to this, i think ill find some peace knowing you’ve received this. ive needed closure on this for a long time.

im overjoyed and thrilled that season two is so close. thank you for tolerating the dumb questions of pretentious kids and thank you for helping to create a world where we can grow to be better than we were.

First of all, and most importantly, I'm really sorry that people were mean to you. That's awful. And nobody should ever have to deal with death threats or online threats and attacks, let alone a thirteen year old.

And secondly, you do not owe me an apology. I figure I have a Tumblr account, people ask things. Mostly they'll get nice replies, occasionally (normally when I'm being asked the same thing over and over) the replies will be terser. There has to be a certain amount of rough and tumble though, and occasionally I'll grab an ask that represents all of the asks I've had on that subject, and try and reply to all of them. That's what happened to you. I was getting tired of being accused of Queerbaiting for the occasional answer about a Season that was not yet released and about which nobody knew anything. And I needed to tell everyone who was doing this that they had to stop now. You had the misfortune to be the representative of all of the other people.

If you are not making mistakes you are not human and you are not learning anything.

(I wish there was tone of voice on the internet.)

And I think you are growing and learning and will make a fantastic adult.

I really hope you enjoy Season 2 when it drops.

[fairykazu]

cold hands ft. xiao

cws: crushing! xiao, wintertime, established friendship, requited feelings, hand holding :O, girl used as a gender neutral term, ooc possibly

masterlist

winter in liyue is sure getting colder than it used to be. although, he is supposed to protect the city from any harm, he is afraid that he'd be in harm from the winter breeze. his sleeveless shirt doesn't help either. shuddering from the cold, he blew on his hands to try stay warm.

he stood tall on the boulder, laying his polearm to rest. though he was cold and tired, he had to stay alert.

the wind whispered to him. someone's calling him.

xiao!

the voice was faint but he knew exactly who was calling him.

XIAO!

he's coming! don't worry!

what he didn't expect was you were calling his name to ...

stay warm?

he leaned against your wooden walls, the small fireplace is doing its job of keeping you warm, besides from that, you're wrapped in multiple blankets. "name, please refrain from calling my name for situation like these." he said.

he said it like this had happened before. well...

it had... like once. numerous times. so many times to a point you would have to ask a dozen of people to hold up their hands and feet.

after he finished fighting off mobs near the hotel, he heard your voice and teleported to you on the spot. only to see you asking him to turn off the tv, asking for a hug or stay with you. he does do that until someone else calls for him though. so maybe... it's all his fault for answering. you wanted ot argue if he knew it was you, he shouldve ignored it and waited for someone else.

but.. you knew the outcome of asking that anyway. he wouldve scolded you because not only he would protect any citzen or visitor in liyue, you are also his friend, why wouldn't he?

"im cold and you're cold and i know people wouldnt call you during this time. kill a girl for using resources." you replied, shrugging in your blanket burrito.

he smiled but you could tell it wasn't a happy one but it wasn't a disappointment smile. so you considered it as a win. you two held a staring contest but both of you knew the outcome. (you would win). his elf ears twitched as he let out a dramatized, exasperated sigh,

"name."

"xiao." you chirped in a sing-song tone.

"please."

out of nowhere, you asked, "can you warm up my hands please? it's so cold." it stopped him in his tracks as he cocked his head,

"what?"

"please??? i promise that i wouldn't misuse your call ever again."

"you said that last time." he replied but he sat next to you anyway. you draped over a blanket over him. he looked at you, pink dusted on his ears,

"um. i triple promise." he held your hands with his.

his hands were much colder than yours but you accepted it regardless. he brushed over your knuckles as you felt goosebumps.

from the cold?

"you said that too."

right? is your face getting hotter? maybe you're getting a fever. he looks so pretty. his face looks like almond tofu. his amber eyes are reminding you of the stars in the moonlit skies.

are you hungry too?

"i swear on... our friendship!"

maybe because this is definitely not because you have a massive crush on your friend.

"you better not break that promise." he replied, looking you as if you would. you nervously laughed as he held your hand.

"mhm!" you hummed back, playing with his fingers.

after you fell asleep, by then, xiao would disappear into the night, slaughtering more hillichurls by the time the sun rises. but this time, he'd like to stay with you, watching you sleep as your hands stayed intertwined.

taglist: @lovemari

[unhingedkinfessions]

istg. seeing someone say "this is my kinlist!!" and its just a bunch of characters they relate to heavily makes me (kinda) upset. and i saw one a while ago who did the same thing with the tag "kin for fun" which isnt even right too!! like just call it synpath or copinglink or something similar!! and a long while ago one of my friends from another site explained to someone that kinning was just relating to a character a lot and even had [character]* irl as his username in discord for a while. like no?? huh???? and all of this is coming from someone whos only actually kinned for not even a month and doesnt really care that much about terminology. im just tired of people misusing general kin terms for whatever theyre feeling

(*not revealing the character or the source because my friends use tumblr and they can guess pretty quickly who im talking about. also sorry if this sounds more than a kinrant or a complaint (kinplaint?) or something i just needed to let this out)

dude. i was on reddit the other day and . hold on.

sorry to out myself as someone who peruses reddit but this made me so mad when i saw it.

i did not experience the fucking HORRORS of 1. being sunny, and 2. reliving the trauma + guilt of all that in my current real ass life for several months, for fuckers online to talk about their "highest kin" being a character "you relate to the most." IM GONNA THROW UP!!!

wait i just looked at ops account and in their bio they have a list of 3 charas they kin. YOU ARE NOT KINNING!! what the fuck ever.

[birdsareblooming]

im so tired of having to defend myself on both sides

like. ok. i'm queer right. bi, demigender, aro, etc. also you know a girl, demi or not. all the time i have to defend myself from american christians who via mistranslations and misinterpretations spread by horrible leaders for generations have been led into a cult-like hierarchy that tells them to hate me when hate for us isn't in their book or supposed to be in their ways.

i'm also "christian". i hesitate to use the full term because of how bad american christianity has gotten. but i believe in the same god nontheless. every day i feel i have to defend myself from queer people as well

like. i so get it. as i have just established american and european christianity has gotten so fucked up and literally off-script that i'm shocked we haven't gotten another 95 thesis and a completely new branch. it's awful horrible and people who believe in such ideas should not be in power. to the point where calling myself a christian feels wrong. at least in america.

i need ya'll to have some nuance.

firstly the understanding that those who hate queer people, non-white people in any form, women, whatever else. isn't even in the text they follow. people have misused it since it was written. preaching just the verse saying wives should care for their husbands and not the one right after saying husbands should love their wives. taking out verses referring to god's "womb." about adam might not even being a man, as in, more likely nonbinary, the verse about david getting an errection when hugging johnathan. changing verses about cleanliness into women and men not wearing the same cloths. changing verses about cultural codes and allowing a world where people have to resort to prositution into verses condemning homosexuality. [X]

like. you know the matrix. was written as a trans metaphor. then a bunch of alpha sigma grindset rich white boys took it and appropriated it, misinterpreted it, used it to boost themselves and hurt women. it's like that. those people don't make the matrix a bad movie, they just don't know it's a trans metaphor. and trans people who enjoy the matrix are like. normal and cool.

as you can see i am passionate about this. i have all this stuff memorized not only to defend my queerness but my christianity as im doing now.

there are queer christians. there are certainly poc christians as right now, south america and south africa have the highest christian populations, to the point where they're sending missionaries to america.

again i'm asking for some nuance. when i see posts basically saying "the christian god is dumb" or "satan was right actually" and blantent misinformation about what the bible says. like those kind of posts hurt my heart. my god made me queer and loves me for it, i believe in a kind god, most good christians do. i feel like other religions don't get this treatment and it's just to spiritually piss off your catholic parents.

speaking of, in doing so you seem to forget about other abrahamic religions.

i once saw a post criticizing something directly from the old testament, out of context of course. saying god was cruel and the belives were flawed and all this due to one verse. people tend to forget, or not know, that the "old testament" is the tenoch. slightly different book order, same writings.

christians, muslims, jewish people, worship the same god. different names for god, some god, same base. if you make jokes about christianty willy-nilly, you're going to accidentally hit someone else. and even if you don't, you may hurt someone still.

it doesn't hurt because i think it's "sacrilegious" or i think you're going to hell. it hurts because my community doesn't care. my community doesn't see the nuance in people and decided a specific religion is the enemy. a specific group of people is the enemy. ive been marked as the enemy

it's casual jokes to you, to me it's making fun of my god

listen, by all means make fun of the assholes. i make fun of them every day. millionaires who use privet jets than preach and love to overlook the many verses condemning the rich and saying rich people don't go to heaven. people saying that as a woman of god you shouldn't enjoy sex. weirdos online and irl that seem to think patorizing random people will get them to church. dumb white people. it's great. fuckn. mormons and jehovah's witness leaders who are straight up running a cult based on a thread of the original intention. and it's funny because they're the assholes.

but don't attack the base religion itself. understand that the religion isn't inherently harmful, certain branches, beliefs, misinterpretations, and leaders certainly are. but please be kind to the people who are normal

before you make a post saying you're gonna. i dont know 'kill the uncaring god' that you're hurting people like me, any abrahamic religion, anyone who believes in a god possibly. also that's basically my parent, it's like you're insulting my awesome mom to my face bc my older sibling sucks. like thats just mean to her for no reason.

i'm just. tired. im stuck in the middle and i hate that i have to make this post because like. this is my home and my people and im tired of seeing this shit from my peers and family. just. have nuance. care about people. don't just say shit about a religion if you don't know its true.

im tired.

[bucephaly]

BTW socialization is just like. A term for behaviors affected by previous social interactions throughout your life. It isnt a thing that's locked in place once you turn 14. Yea it is highly affected by what social category you are put in, like gender or culture or class or race. I was socialized as a white southerner just as much as I was socialized as a girl when I was young. Socialization is happening in p much every social interaction, that's what it MEANS. so yes I've been socialized as a man for the past decade [more or less]. my coming out as trans at 14 doesn't mean I suddenly wasn't bought dolls when I was 5. It doesnt make the first 14 years of my life boy experiences. Yall say gender isn't real and its all social and then when it's like yea it's social, it's taught and enforced, yall are like wait no but saying it was taught to me, that's transphobic. [NOT saying that's not the correct response to transphobes misusing the word! Transphobes and particularly te / rfs have absolutely been misusing it but like. Why are yall trusting that they know what the word means and that their definition of it is right, when have they been right about anything]

Like.. gender is a social construct that has roles that children are consciously and unconsciously taught people around them. Like idk yall, you can't say gender is a social construct and then act like saying it's possible to be socialized as a gender is transphobic...... idk ??? And yea saying that everyone was socialized in the exact same way is just wrong, and often trans people have deconstructed a lot if not most of our gender socializations, consciously or unconsciously.

Im just so tired of seeing people say that this word is always transphobic when they've only heard transphobes use it. I first heard it used by anthropologists im my gender in anthropology class, where I learned what it actually means in regards to specifically gender in culture and social roles.

Is it transphobic to say 'you were [assigned gender] so you must have [such and such socialized experience]'? Yea sure! You can't assume that shit and that's weird! Is it transphobic to say 'hey you were afab and I actual notice that you are still struggling with properly valuing yourself, minimizing yourself, etc, which is an issue that a lot of people who had some female socialization experience'? I don't think so. I had that p much said to me by my anthropology professor, saying not to undervalue my artwork. I see no problem with that. And I definitely don't appreciate being told that I'm 'being transphobic to myself' which I've literally seen in one post. I find this term useful in talking about my experiences. And I think that it is a useful term that many people can use. And im sure many people personally don't like it, that's fine, you can not use it. And i dont think it should really be used as a collective assumption. Idk idk I feel like people are just turning this actual anthropological term into a bad transphobe dogwhistle and its so frustrating.

[evilponds]

the amount of people misusing "compassion fatigue" is fucking exhausting to see. you might even say. fatiguing. like the term refers specifically to people who provide care or other assistance to people in traumatic situations. doctors and carers and aid workers whose livelihoods involve helping people undergoing some form of trauma, because yeah that absolutely does take a toll on you because of how much of your life and thoughts it starts to take up after enough exposure. it is not "i saw too many posts about [x atrocity] and im tired of being asked to care about it"

[redheadbigshoes]

tbh the rampant casual lesbophobia in sapphic spaces just destroys me. You'll be scrolling through a tag when a bi girl calls herself a dyke and it just chips away at you a lil bit.

I am tired of having to explain to people why you shouldn't call yourself a dyke if you're not a lesbian because they never listen anyways. I am tired of having to explain that men and maleness are not involved in my sexuality, and then being called a fucking nazi like twice. I'm just. very very tired.

Hope you have a nice day Steph. You seem like a nice person. (thumbs up emoji idfk im exhausted at the moment.)

It’s so tiring because it doesn’t seem to matter every time a lesbian calls out lesbophobia, even people in the community don’t take it seriously.

Idk why they want to call themselves a slur (that doesn’t even describe them) anyways. They don’t have any other excuse besides “I get to call myself that if people offend me by calling me that”. People could literally call them a lesbian, that still doesn’t mean they’re one. Just because someone calls you something doesn’t mean you are what they call you.

They love to throw words like nazi, fascist or terf whenever someone calls them out for something. This just proves they’re probably projecting what they are if they love misusing such serious terms for their own benefit. And the worst thing is that most people don’t even second guess the person calling you those things, instead of questioning for a second they simply believe the person is actually what they’re calling.

It’s so understandable being tired of this.

I hope you have a nice day too, anon :)

[ronycore]

okay idk if this is *controversial* but im so tired of “twink” being misused. like cmon guys. i still remember people in my inbox being like “well im not skinny and i have body hair can i still call myself a twink?” like why is twink an identity you want so bad. its not even like i love the word and wanna keep the sanctity of it or anything, its just annoying when we have these gay historical terms that just get turned into mush. liek idk man

[evonkyva]

I really.wish we stop letting cowards used the phrase woke and just corner them with thier own logic.

" is it woke or would you prefer it only had white people?"

" if politics are not ok why is it ok to have a Christian, an " alt right traditionist" and zionist but not a socialist? A communist? How do you define free speech and why does it exclude things simply.cause you don't LIKE them?"

Woke is a term that originated from black men who were tired of wyt women clutching thier purses when they enter elevators but coild nto say anything as a man and a black person, black women who after be insulted for everything but thier ancestors are aware that if they even so much raise thier voice a feather weight in a way thier wyt employees feel "threatened " they could lose thier employment , blacklisted from.promotion and even other jobs or at worst killed

The definition of.woke literally can be boiled down "becoming aware that oneself is in a potential or immediate dangerous situation created from miscommunication and obstacles born from social classes such as race, physical or mental disabilities, sexuality,religion, financial(or lack of ) stability , gender expression and or nationality ( im Hella missing some but you get it)

We've all been in a woke situation. Even if you are the most whitest straightest chirstiany able-bodied cis gender because some mother fucker is ALWAYS going to have more than you, pptential.put you in danger cause they lack self-awareness and someone gonna to literally think you deserve it simply cause they exist.

" we can't hurt Johnny chances of going to.college Jessica just cause he "touch" you . Like think about him"

" Shamirah I know they put a noose around your office cubicle and tried to touch your hair but can't you just like put a wig on it ?"

" collen I know those boys make "jokes" im.the locker room.that make you uncomfortable but you "look like one of them " can't you get along "

" yea we left you in the classroom during the fire drill.cause your wheelchair is heavy but we wouldn't leave you during a REAL ONE , we promise *laughs*"

These are jusy dramatization. We all been in situation.where something very neutral about you almost got you killed and you had to make a split decision that save your life subconsciously or not by being quiet and playing along or rocking the boat to create a new normal. that's WOKE

Bigots don't like change. They Pretend calling a trans women just her name is the same of reciting an imaginary demonic hymn right before burning thier child alive but then beat the shit out of thier child for forgetting to take off thier muddy shoes before entering the house. They are fine when things make thier lives easier but are fully aware other people exsist and the only reason those other people have harm them is cause thier struggle so they re fine with hurting other under false pretenses even when the facts prove them wrong. They are immature cunts that rather hide behind a word they stole that they can't even used right.

If you're are gonna be a bigot, you should say it with your fucking chest not a dogwhistle especially a misused can even define terms you stole from the very marginalized groups you wish didn't exisist . We shouldn't ne letting them used the term woke and should question then until they jush admit the bullshit

thinking about how bigotry has gotten even more overt in recent years to the point where queer/characters of color/fat characters can simply exist and will be seen as the "evil woke agenda" and not real life people who exist 😭

[fireinanhourglass]

everyday ppl misuse the concept of "intersectionality" wrt trans issues on this god forsaken site and i want to chew my leg off.

the point of "intersectionality" (and I’m using quotes bc its use on this site/most convos is the very pop-philosophy use of the term + not getting into how this also applies to race) is to create a materialist analysis of the cis-heterosexist patriarchy and cleanly identify pathways to liberation.

the reason why we use the term "transmisogyny" is because we recognize that the material liberation of trans women/fems requires the social-economic liberation of both trans people AND women/non-men specifically. Liberation of women without liberation for trans people is how you get TERFs, and liberation for trans people without liberation for women/non-men strengthens sexism. Thus, transmisogyny clearly indicates that you must improve the material conditions of both women/non-men and trans people to liberate trans women and trans fems.

the various attempts to combine trans-masculine oppression (which is real, dont get me twisted) and transphobia fails because there isnt an equivalent breakdown. improving the social-economic conditions of men would not help trans men, but improving the social-economic conditions of trans people would. if trans men were magically assimilated into the patriarchy through an end to transphobia -- if our masculinity was validated as equivalent to cis men -- then we would not experience gendered oppression on the basis of being male, unlike how trans women/fems would continue to be oppressed on the basis of being female/feminine. it is our trans identity alone that undermines our access to male-ness and "liberation*"

goddamn. i dont care if we want to find a term to better articulate trans-masc oppression. i embrace it. i'm all for it. i have been trying to find a way to talk about it in my irl communities. but genuinely, honest to god, i am so tired of seeing a bunch of passive-aggressive BS towards real (or sometimes hypothetical) trans women (and Black feminists/womanists ime) for being uncomfortable with misuse of this analytical framework

*all men experience gendered oppression in the sense that gender roles are policed by patriarchy for reasons that are beyond the scope of this post, but if you are seriously trying to argue that improving the material conditions of men on the basis of their maleness would end hetero-sexism then i have some bad news for you on how capitalism has been pitching itself + the utility of the nuclear family since the industrial revolution. trad wives are not free

[demigodsanswer]

Performative

“Performative” and “performativity” do not mean “a performance of.” 

Performative refers to iterative acts that effect change in the world. The idea of the performative speech act was first described by J.L Austin in his book How to Do Things with Words. A performative speech act is one that effects change. The most classic example is saying “I do” at a wedding: you say “I do” and you are no longer a single person; you are now a married person. These are contrasted to constative utterances, which are statements that can be proven true or false. Saying “the sky is green” will not make the sky green. Instead, someone will be able to look at the sky and prove you wrong. 

Performative acts are also iterative. Take, for example, Judith Butler’s idea of gender performance (I’m using this as an example, not a whole-sale endorsement of her ideas). According to her ideas, gender is performative, because it is an unconscious performance. You do not wake up and decide to “put on your gender” in the way an actor puts on a costume. Rather, your gender has been curated by society and inflicted on you subconsciously. The way you act, dress, speak ect. re-performs your gender. It is iterative, because it reproduces these social norms over and over again, encouraging others to abide by the “rules” of how to act, dress, speak as a girl or boy. (Butler also couples this with Foucauldian ideas, but we won’t get into that now.) 

Performative and performativity are neutral terms. A performative act is not inherently good or bad, but the way that it is utilized makes it so. 

This is all to say that you want your activism to be performative. You want it to effect change in the world. You want it to inspire you and others to keep pushing for change. 

When you say that someone’s activism is “performative,” you likely mean that they are engaging in a “performance of” activism. Their activism is not coming from a place where they desire change, rather it’s coming from a place where they’re acting theatrically to convince you they are someone they are not. If an instagram influencer attends a protest for five minutes to take a picture with a Black Lives Matter sign and then leaves, they are engaging in a performance of activism. If someone signs a petition and posts it on their facebook, that’s a perfromative act of activism, because it may effect change in the world - the petition will be successful and/or their post will inspire someone else to sign as well (pushing to petition to a more successful position.) (The instagramer’s post, as shitty as their actions&intentions are may also have performative effects. Does that make it good? Not necessarily. Again, these are neutral terms.) 

However, I would even push back on saying that these things are a “performance of” activism, because it utilizes anti-theatrical language. Theater is not inherently a lie. It’s a fiction, but it can inspire change in the “real world.” This is Hamlet’s dilemma. He wonders how an actor who has no relationship to Hecuba “Could force his soul so to his own conceit / That from her working all his visage wann’d, / Tears in his eyes, distraction in’s aspect, / A broken voice, and his whole function suiting / With forms to his conceit? and all for nothing! / For Hecuba!” However, at the end of the same soliloquy, he comes to an interesting conclusion: “I have heard / That guilty creatures sitting at a play / Have by the very cunning of the scene / Been struck so to the soul that presently / They have proclaim’d their malefactions; / For murder, though it have no tongue, will speak / With most miraculous organ.” It would seem that, while theater certainly has some power to conceal and lie, can also reveal truth. 

We’ve seen theater produce change in the real world. Plays like Cathleen ni Houlihan, A Raisin in the Sun, and even Hamilton, which inspired people to go to protests with signs reading “This is not a moment, it’s the movement,” have had real social and political impacts. Theater is not alone - music, dance, poetry, prose, art can also have these effects. Lindsay Ellis has made a video on protest music, if you’re interested in that topic.  I am quite cynical of the power of art to make huge change (I am often reminded of the Kurt Vonnegut quote: “During the Vietnam War, every respectable artist in this country was against the war. It was like a laser beam. We were all aimed in the same direction. The power of this weapon turns out to be that of a custard pie dropped from a stepladder six feet high.”), but still, it can have some effect.   

The best phrase i’ve found that does not misuse “performative” or engages in acts of anti-theatricality is “doing it for the clout” - to do something just for the personal validation from others, not to make any change or represent some kind of truth. 

Tl;dr: You’re using “Performative” wrong. You mean “performance of.” These are not the same. Do not use “performative” as a fancy way to say “lying.”

[wordsarereallyhard]

What really grinds my gears about antis is they’ve accused so many people who are objectively not pedophiles of being pedos, now I see an accusation (of an internet account) and automatically doubt it. Why you gotta dilute a real term?

[ggots]

I swear to GOD

If your blog is “bear” themed and then I go onto your feed and see some bitch with abs I’m gonna have to revoke your gay license

[yardsards]

im tired of ppl misusing these terms so:

codependent does not mean two people who have a strong attachment and are very clingy towards one another

codependent means a specific type of unhealthy relationship where one person engages in unhealthy/self-destructive behaviours and the other person becomes their caretaker whilst enabling them, out of a need to feel needed

trauma bonding does not mean two people find common ground because they've both been through similar traumatic events and grow close because they understand each other's experiences

trauma bonding means bonding to your abuser as a survival strategy or due to manipulation. (similar to the concept of stockholm syndrome)

[fairycosmos]

irt an earlier anon "trauma bonding" does not literally mean bonding over trauma😭 it's an attachment or total dependence someone develops towards their abuser caused by cyclical abuse, i'm tired of seeing people misuse it to mean being ✨quirky and relatable✨with other ppl when it's a serious symptom of PTSD. it reminds me of people saying they're "dissociating" when they really mean they're just spacing out. the tiktokification of psych terms is going to rot my brain for real and im begging you guys to take 2 seconds to google terms before throwing them around

thank you for this! and to the other person who messaged ab it. l i hope that anon sees this and takes it on board before misusing the term in the future