Here is your daily reminder that it should make you angry that a population that is more than half children are starving without access to clean water or adequate medical care and your feelings on their government *that they haven't gotten to vote on for almost 2 decades* should not stop that from making you angry. You should be calling for a ceasefire and you should be calling for the reopening of the border crossings for international humanitarian aid
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this is going to be kind of long so i'm going to put it under a readmore. but! i found an interview with audre lorde from 1988 about sadomasochism that i found really uncomfortable and compelling. i have a lot of thoughts about it. at one point in the essay, lorde says:
"I speak not about condemnation but about recognizing what is happening and questioning what it means. I'm not willing to regiment anyone's life, but if we are to scrutinize our human relationships, we must be willing to scrutinize all aspects of those relationships. The subject of revolution is ourselves, is our lives. Sadomasochism is an institutionalized celebration of dominant / subordinate relationships. And, it prepares us either to accept subordination or to enforce dominance. Even in play, to affirm that the exertion of power over powerlessness is erotic, is empowering, is to set the emotional and social stage for the continuation of that relationship, politically, socially, and economically."
my first thought upon reading that was, well, it's a sex thing, it's not going to bleed into someone's philosophy on life as a whole! but she acknowledges that angle too, saying:
"If [sadomasochism] is confined to the bedroom, than why was [a lesbian s/m sexuality booklet] printed? If it is not, what does that mean? It is in the interest of a capitalist profit system for us to privatize much of our experience. In order to make integrated life choices, we must open the sluice gates in our lives, create emotional consistency. ...The erotic weaves throughout our lives, and integrity is a basic condition that we aspire to."
Lorde later says that she thinks sadomasochism is rooted "In the superior / inferior mold which is inculcated within us at the deepest levels. The learned intolerance of differences." She goes on to state that those of us into s/m "...are acting out the intolerance of differences which we all learn: superiority and the right to dominate."
Again, another acknowledgment of and challenge to a counterargument: "This conflict is supposedly self-limiting because it happens behind bedroom doors. Can this be so, when the erotic empowers, nourishes, and permeates all of our lives?"
So. Yeah I'm really fucking compelled by her entire argument. I'm a baby in the world of kink but it's been a big interest of mine over the past few years and I've always kept it sort of cordoned off from my other interests... I definitely agree with her beautifully put idea that "the erotic empowers, nourishes, and permeates all of our lives" and that we strive for integrity and integration of our beliefs into our actions. & I admit that my love of the power imbalance inherent to s/m stands in apparent conflict with my ideals. but... I feel like that apparent conflict isn't the entire picture. There's a lot to unpack here, but my first thought is the experience of s/m / kink as a whole as a sort of trauma processing + destigmatizing experience. & all of that is to say nothing on lorde's extension of that tension between s/m and revolutionary ideology to feminism and the differences she sees between lesbian s/m and s/m between gay white men. so much interesting stuff there.
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Another half-cooked ramble I just didn't put into words til Right Now though that's worth mentioning is like. I feel like Moe wouldn't fall into the Hayato/Ricken category of character, where they're small and heavily implied to be younger, and a good chunk of their character is trying to "prove otherwise" (aka "Don't treat me like a kid!" ect ect). I feel like Moe would fall closer into whatever category Takumi is. Not talking tsundere trope, but talking about what being the youngest (Takumi's case: 2nd youngest) sibling in a larger family does to a motherfucker. The adoration and aspiration and idolization combined with the inferiority complex and sometimes even resentment (depends on who we're talking about here) and feeling like you need to pull your weight More and Better. Acknowledging you've undeniably had it easier at the cost of your older siblings but somehow still feeling overlooked and left behind and forgotten. Or, in some cases, feeling like you got way more than you deserved, that even though you objectively got the "better" deal, it was still Unfair. Moe is just chronically the youngest of five. And don't even get me STARTED about [redacted] but let me just say The Absence of something is also A Presence. The Takumi comparison is extremely apt.
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