#idk i like rbing only when im online

[unendingphantasm]

hiatus

[ofthenoseclan]

1, 23, 31, 35, 42!!

1. wakko warner, emerald (pokespe), taranza. basically anyone else i tag when rbing art of them are huge faves of mine, but these are the ones id go browse fanart for first if im feeling down or something so i think theyre the ones that count most, i think thats the distinction for what counts as a comfort character? idk

23. not a huge fan of the cold but i like the aesthetic of the season. if i didnt grow up in a place where i needed to shovel snow daily in the winter most of my life id probably like it more

31. grounded specifically? probably ambient idm does the trick. i usually dont listen to music be in the moment often though

35. pst!

42. discord is the only other one im on religiously besides this, its where i talk with online friends and mutuals most. my lil friend collecting app

[spoonass69]

whenever people very vaguely talk about people being too mean to you on the internet, and don’t specify like actually bigoted ppl or whatever, pls be cautious. there are A LOT of people who claim to be activists and allys and all that stuff but then when theyre called out for doing something wack, instead of fixing it they go throw a tantrum and vague post about how “wahhh people just interpret things so wrong theyre so dumb ive learned and changed and GROWN how DARE you criticize me thats gonna stop me from growing!!!”

and yknow you dont wanna be rbing that or liking it bc it enables them

just,,, always be cautious of people online,, and also always analyze why you (as a white person) may agree with people throwing tantrums about people misinterpreting the things you say, instead of simply checking yourself, clarifying for those who misunderstood, and doing research.

in any kind of activism as a white person or a privileged person (idk i can only talk as a white person) youre gonna get called racist and homophobic, and youre gonna say things that you didnt mean to be bigoted, but they came off as bigoted maybe just because of careless wording or because you showed implicit biases that you didnt even know about. im not gonna tell you thats ok, bc i dont think its really an ok thing considering how many people are dying, but it’s inevitable and all we can do is listen and learn and do our best.

there are also going to be times when you’re completely right, and people are going to call you racist/sexist/homophobic or whatever. obviously check yourself every time that happens and hear ppl out, but if theyre just straight up wrong then ok. if you try and explain and they wont listen then ok. gotta disengage bc you cant do anything at that point. your activism needs to be more about advocating for what is right than appealing to people who refuse to listen.

ive still gotta work on rhat last part, and i think a lot of ppl still have to learn to be ok with others not liking the things that you say and doing their best to convince you that its actually you thats problematic whenever they get called out.

[fuckyeahasexual]

Hey i saw someone rbing a screenshot of that 'aces are lying about conversion therapy' post. I didn't see the original. I didn't see how many people agreed. I'm a latina ace living in a smal asa latin american country. I was put through conversion therapy and managed to escape. I feel fucking sick to my stomach. That really triggered me and idk what to do. All of ace 'discourse' which is 'you're not who you say you are bc you're experiences aren't happening, you're THIS instead' is.. abuse

(/2) Since it started i already struggled with believing myself and finding a safe space. Queer (and inclusive of poc and disability) spaces where the only spaces i felt SAFE. and they took that from me. And bc they talk about social justice so much, and i’ve been abused, and they’re practicing gaslighting, i think ‘what if they know what they’re talking about? What if i’m lying’ and the disgust that so much as comes of thinking that. It’s everywhere. Insta recommended a page w an ace post

(/3) yesterday. It was a post saying ace ‘cishets’ were trying to invade the community. Like 200 comments in support. Im tired. I’ve realized exclusionists gaslight, lie about our experiences and paint us all as cis hetrom when that is the VAST minority of the comm, and no1 i’ve seen involved in discourse is cis+hetrom ace ever. And they’ve also painted us as 'make the community about ME. i’m not gonna put in work for gay people! I’m looking for attn’ and it’s.. fcking disgusting bc i think

(/4) a lot of haters think 1. Cishet aces are straight and get accepted as such by society and 2. It’s straight ppl trying to gain access to the comm when NONE OF THOSE ARE TRUE. and they say 'we care abt lgbt aces’ to make it palatable. PLEASE. asexuality in ITSELF is nonstraight, as a lived id and as percieved by the cishets of the world. It feels like a losing battle. Like they’re indoctrinating young adults to hate us by spreading those lies. And that post was 2 much. Idk who i can talk to

(5/5) i’m sorry i sent you so many messages but im triggered af like…how are you going to VICTIM SHAME CONVERSION THERAPY VICTIMS?? Not even THAT will they believe?? Are they THAT low?? I feel like im gonna puke. Yes they DID try to make me straight. She said it to my face. Gross. Dunno if maybe getting help w an international therapist online can help, bc here therapist are NOT ace friendly. Dunno if i can speak to the trevor project cause im afraid they’ll secretly have exclus. Viewpoints

Hi anon ! Im so so SO sorry that you had to see that and be triggered bc of it you really didnt deserved that .The person who made that post is a very nasty aphobe and i assure you most people really dont believe that all aces are lying about their abuse.I, and millions of people in this world believe aces who have gone though conversion therapy.Believe me. And you might think that this exclusionist and aphobic bullshit is everywhere but I assure you it is NOT.Many many prominent lgbtqa organizations in this world include ace people and believe that they belong in the lgbtqa community.In almost every poll majority of lgbtqa people considered aces a part of the community.This exclusionary bullshit is mostly reserved on the internet.REALLY 

You can try going thorugh our #pos tag and #ref tag to see sources about this  and ace people talking about how they were accepted and included across their local lgbt groups.I hope it will make you feel beter.  .And i really dont think you need to be worried about talking to the trevor project bc  They are for aces to use, they have trained specifically because aces were calling.  Also, you can talk to us here anytime ! Im sending all my love and good vibes towards you ! I hope you feel better !