#identifying wants / desires.

[xerith-42]

Going onto the internet and finding out that people hated Mabel Pines (a literal 12 year old girl who is also not real) might have been one of the first times I felt truly disillusioned with the rest of the world

[sillyfreakx5]

there's nothing funnier than an anti saying that "you don't actually want trauma" and listing out all the awful symptoms of trauma, (constant flashbacks, executive dysfunction, not trusting people anymore, insomnia, etc) and my brain being like

that's exactly what i want 👉👈

[electricpurrs]

my gender is cartoon cat. i'm a cat but not like a real life cat, or really a "furry" cat, i'd like to be a cat character in a cartoon or anime or children's book illustration, or a 2009 deviantart oc. not a cat but an artistic representation of a cat, an abstraction. cute and small, friendly and kind, cat-like but with endless possibilities of looking any way and doing anything, living in an abstraction of reality where my existence is as fluid as art is. i'm also a boy

[hearts-guided-key]

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[peach-pot]

There really should be two different words for "I don't experience sexual attraction" and "I don't want to have sex ever". Not arguing that either isn't queer, but they're two entirely different things, and having both under one label is confusing and causes a lot of weird infighting.

I entirely understand this impulse, I’ve had it before, but I think it’s important to remember that asexual is already an umbrella term (as is aromantic for that matter). there probably is a separate term for experiencing attraction with no desire to act on it, alongside a dozen other similar but still unique experiences with their own microlabels. I think asexuality and the asexual community should be a place where a variety of people with overlapping experiences can come together through what they do have in common, which is an atypical experience with sex and sexual attraction, one that falls short of what is deemed socially acceptable. (and this all is coming from someone for whom asexual is the most specific label applicable to my experiences, someone who experiences zero sexual attraction and zero desire for sex.)

[optiwashere]

I think the hair change only happens if you ask Shadowheart to undress first. (If you need to take screenshot or smth) That said I hope that bug gets fixed in the next patch.

Actually there is just so many Shadowheart stuff that is bugged or otherwise unavailable in the game that if Larian suddenly decided to care about that it would make the rest of the fandom complain about her getting so much content.

Oh, that's interesting, thanks for the heads-up! 💜 I just happened to be playing through that bit on my lunch break. But that's good to know in case I make any characters that wouldn't make her undress first (likelihood: deeply low, I am who I am)

I've heard there's a couple bugs with Shadowheart—complete hearsay that if you play a Selûnite, one unique kiss doesn't trigger?—and the supposedly recently added "Act 2 banter" when romancing her has literally never triggered for me either. Dunno what else is bugged, but it's unfortunate either way. I hope it all eventually gets fixed, though.

Tbh, I think there's other companions that need more/fleshed out stuff (especially Wyll, give the man a fuller sex scene and let him address the PC differently during a romance...) but I take most of the people getting really worked up about other characters getting "more" than their faves with a grain of salt. There's far too often some level of misunderstanding going on, like when people thought that the Valentine's Update was only about kisses.

[rotisseries]

list five things that make you happy, then put this in the inbox of the last ten people who reblogged something from you (whats up rori😎)

hi jayme!! not much is up😎

my internet friends. i am lacking friends irl so having you guys is extra awesome love y'all🫶

panettone. it's aldi's panettone season so I feel like every day I need to let everyone know that panettone is a gift from heaven. where would this world be without panettone

growing my earring collection!! not to be materialistic but I loveee picking out earrings I found some zelda ones and asked for them for my bday/xmas GOD I hope I got them they were so pretty

listening to music in my hammock at the mountain shack lmao. touching grass time

annoying the shit out of people💖

[aphantimes]

the word "warrior" has skyrocketed to my most hated word in like the past 3 months i am in pain

[sammygender]

the thing thats always missing in conversations about gender in general is the fact that 'cis', as an identity, is not a innate Thing Some People Are, but rather a state of acceptance society grooms us into from birth

[waspsinyouryard]

Now I'm wondering if I have autism + depression or if it's schizoid personality disorder

[lesenbyan]

you know what would make me absolutely feral? more media where empathy becomes an issue interpreting your own emotions

[thatdude-noah]

one day i'm gonna talk more about my aromanticism. one day. i have so many thoughts about sexuality and romantic attraction and aromanticism. and one day i will say them all.

[froshele]

today in the wild I came across a phrase to the effect "...And this [pair of ethical axioms about what constitutes quality of life for purposes of discussion about disability and coma prognosis, based on the opinion of one person who has not ever been in a coma or disabled thereafter] suggests that maybe, just maybe, [relevantly comatose or recovering or disabled] people may have quality of life sufficient to make them ethically relevant"

that's ... not, um, normally considered to be what makes people "ethically relevant" in the world where all the people are and there's sunshine and grass and things, but, you know what, ok jennifer, A for effort! :) gold star for you, philosopher extraordinaire, moral lodestar for people unsure what to do with granny, paragon of ethical conduct!

[zippers]

i cant tell if this (ad below) supposed to be inclusive or not... when I was in HS there was this radfem who changed all the spellings of women to womxn or womyn (maybe both idr) in a group presentation which causes much heated debate, until I realized her insisting the spelling "is to include trans men as victims of sexism" = "excluding trans women, & calling trans men & nonbinary people, women"

i feel like i should give this ad the benefit of the doubt as i think adding x to words is becoming a more popular way to "make something gender neutral" (as an agender forever hater of "folx" replacing "folks"... that's a different tumblr post) but womxn is one of those things that i know has been a terf dogwhistle in the past...

what are y'all's thoughts?

edit: apparently womxn is more associated with trans inclusivity and it was womyn i was thinking about :)

[juniepops]

I could be a bi lesbian