#identifying wants / desires.

[sillyfreakx5]

there's nothing funnier than an anti saying that "you don't actually want trauma" and listing out all the awful symptoms of trauma, (constant flashbacks, executive dysfunction, not trusting people anymore, insomnia, etc) and my brain being like

that's exactly what i want 👉👈

[xerith-42]

Going onto the internet and finding out that people hated Mabel Pines (a literal 12 year old girl who is also not real) might have been one of the first times I felt truly disillusioned with the rest of the world

[electricpurrs]

my gender is cartoon cat. i'm a cat but not like a real life cat, or really a "furry" cat, i'd like to be a cat character in a cartoon or anime or children's book illustration, or a 2009 deviantart oc. not a cat but an artistic representation of a cat, an abstraction. cute and small, friendly and kind, cat-like but with endless possibilities of looking any way and doing anything, living in an abstraction of reality where my existence is as fluid as art is. i'm also a boy

[shewhoeatssand]

Ok I’m starting to get concerned now, I’m psyched about how Shironeki perpetuates the cycle of violence and how it’s kinda canon he enjoys it, my head is filled with his laughter and heavy breaths and shouting and quiet tangents and I don’t hate it and it was like this before things got bad again, I’m feeling tempted to choose him over everything again and THE YEAR JUST STARTED, how can I stop this before it devolves

[hearts-guided-key]

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[peach-pot]

There really should be two different words for "I don't experience sexual attraction" and "I don't want to have sex ever". Not arguing that either isn't queer, but they're two entirely different things, and having both under one label is confusing and causes a lot of weird infighting.

I entirely understand this impulse, I’ve had it before, but I think it’s important to remember that asexual is already an umbrella term (as is aromantic for that matter). there probably is a separate term for experiencing attraction with no desire to act on it, alongside a dozen other similar but still unique experiences with their own microlabels. I think asexuality and the asexual community should be a place where a variety of people with overlapping experiences can come together through what they do have in common, which is an atypical experience with sex and sexual attraction, one that falls short of what is deemed socially acceptable. (and this all is coming from someone for whom asexual is the most specific label applicable to my experiences, someone who experiences zero sexual attraction and zero desire for sex.)

[optiwashere]

I think the hair change only happens if you ask Shadowheart to undress first. (If you need to take screenshot or smth) That said I hope that bug gets fixed in the next patch.

Actually there is just so many Shadowheart stuff that is bugged or otherwise unavailable in the game that if Larian suddenly decided to care about that it would make the rest of the fandom complain about her getting so much content.

Oh, that's interesting, thanks for the heads-up! 💜 I just happened to be playing through that bit on my lunch break. But that's good to know in case I make any characters that wouldn't make her undress first (likelihood: deeply low, I am who I am)

I've heard there's a couple bugs with Shadowheart—complete hearsay that if you play a Selûnite, one unique kiss doesn't trigger?—and the supposedly recently added "Act 2 banter" when romancing her has literally never triggered for me either. Dunno what else is bugged, but it's unfortunate either way. I hope it all eventually gets fixed, though.

Tbh, I think there's other companions that need more/fleshed out stuff (especially Wyll, give the man a fuller sex scene and let him address the PC differently during a romance...) but I take most of the people getting really worked up about other characters getting "more" than their faves with a grain of salt. There's far too often some level of misunderstanding going on, like when people thought that the Valentine's Update was only about kisses.

[here-there-were-dragons]

my mother is absolutely convinced of some nonsense conspiracy theory that (in her words) "originally humanity lived in peaceful all-woman societies of goddess worshippers who took care of eachother and lived in harmony, while males were roving loners that had no society and never cooperated. that changed when the men banded together and overthrew the peaceful woman-dominated societies, and enslaved us all." and, according to her, this is proof that a woman-dominated world would be innately more peaceful, and that men are innately violent and evil and should be either barred from holding any legal power or leadership roles or at least should be (again in her words) "gelded like bulls" to remove their testosterone before even being considered for such a thing.

she also evidently believes that the problem with all religions today is primarily that they aren't "goddess worshippers", because she seems to think goddess religions are inherently peaceful and pure too and seems to be especially obsessed with "Isis" in particular. the very very few times she's openly considered it unambiguously bad for some population or another to have been exterminated (she's got a bad case of devil's advocating genocide brain), she's gone out of her way to make up some crap about how said people were a peaceful society of goddess-worshippers, almost always of isis. delusions of isis-worship seem to be the only thing that ever causes her to consider any arab or middle-eastern culture, society, or ethnicity to be relatively uncomplicatedly undeserving of extermination, in fact, because every fucking time she doesn't immediately start devils-advocating it and making remarks about how "the rest of the world should box them in and let them blow eachother up" it's when she's whinging on about how whatever specific micro-ethnicity she's thinking about are or were traditional persecuted isis-worshippers.

the sole major exception to her weird fixation on isis worship justifying worthiness of life is the whole israel thing going on, in which she has consistently made very obvious that literally the only reason she's against the genocide of palestine is because it gives her an excuse to even more openly hate jewish people than she already did. and honestly i'm not sure even that's true because i think she's made some offhand remarks about palestinians having probably been peaceful isis worshipers before the jews infected them with christianity or something anyway.

so for the last, however fucking long it's been i've been constantly having to listen to her go off about how this behavior is in the jew's blood or whatever and that they literally invented all genocide because somehow the concept didn't exist before them and wouldn't have ever been invented by the rest of humanity without those jewish aliens dropping it in i fucking guess apparently and she furthermore goes on about how every single genocide and mass-oppression movement in history is directly inspired by them, ESPECIALLY the nazis, and THEN i have to listen to her rant about how, basically, wwii was something they entirely brought on themselves by "dominating the economy and treating everyone not them like shit" and the nazis were just "using their own tactics back at them". and then she goes on a rant about how the people the original jews exterminated back in the day (aka the first ever genocide, which they invented, because jews invented genocide and hate according to her) in the middle east region were peaceful matriarchal isis-worshipers.

and then she starts making comments about arabs being backwards and palestinians either being mysogynist muslims that should be boxed in to blow eachother up with everyone else or secret peaceful isis worshippers corrupted by men's cruel hand, sometimes in the same sentence, entirely dependent on which group she's more in the mood to hate at the time.

it's exhausting. beyond exhausting. her sole purpose in existence seems to be to have the singularly most exhausting set of politics physically possible to fit into one person.

just, sometimes i think, if there really is anything at all to the incredibly stupid and inexplicably popular idea that anyone or anything has a Purpose tm to exist for, i feel like my mother's purpose is to be walking proof to me of a Type Of Guy That Is Real, cause i sure as fuck would have trouble inventing this mess if it wasn't standing right in front of me spewing confusingly bipartisan hate. all of her thoughts and opinions are these long winding nonsense chains that feel like if that man carrying thing sketch about the friend with confusing politics was a person. on meth.

[rotisseries]

list five things that make you happy, then put this in the inbox of the last ten people who reblogged something from you (whats up rori😎)

hi jayme!! not much is up😎

my internet friends. i am lacking friends irl so having you guys is extra awesome love y'all🫶

panettone. it's aldi's panettone season so I feel like every day I need to let everyone know that panettone is a gift from heaven. where would this world be without panettone

growing my earring collection!! not to be materialistic but I loveee picking out earrings I found some zelda ones and asked for them for my bday/xmas GOD I hope I got them they were so pretty

listening to music in my hammock at the mountain shack lmao. touching grass time

annoying the shit out of people💖

[aphantimes]

the word "warrior" has skyrocketed to my most hated word in like the past 3 months i am in pain

[sammygender]

the thing thats always missing in conversations about gender in general is the fact that 'cis', as an identity, is not a innate Thing Some People Are, but rather a state of acceptance society grooms us into from birth

[waspsinyouryard]

Now I'm wondering if I have autism + depression or if it's schizoid personality disorder

[lesenbyan]

you know what would make me absolutely feral? more media where empathy becomes an issue interpreting your own emotions

[thatdude-noah]

one day i'm gonna talk more about my aromanticism. one day. i have so many thoughts about sexuality and romantic attraction and aromanticism. and one day i will say them all.

[zippers]

i cant tell if this (ad below) supposed to be inclusive or not... when I was in HS there was this radfem who changed all the spellings of women to womxn or womyn (maybe both idr) in a group presentation which causes much heated debate, until I realized her insisting the spelling "is to include trans men as victims of sexism" = "excluding trans women, & calling trans men & nonbinary people, women"

i feel like i should give this ad the benefit of the doubt as i think adding x to words is becoming a more popular way to "make something gender neutral" (as an agender forever hater of "folx" replacing "folks"... that's a different tumblr post) but womxn is one of those things that i know has been a terf dogwhistle in the past...

what are y'all's thoughts?

edit: apparently womxn is more associated with trans inclusivity and it was womyn i was thinking about :)