#id say my odds are good

[ocarina-of-memes]

4 years ago, on a broken controller and a janky WiiU, I tried running right from the plateau to Ganon. I ragequit after about a month because aiming without gyroscope and flury rushing with a sticky right trigger was near impossible.

I am once again asking for your support as I give it another go, this time with a functioning switch.

[inkskinned]

she says he won't let her get a dog, which is fine, because they're in an apartment, and that's the kind of thing people say about their partners. he won't let me get a dog. and you're at a dinner party and you tilt your head a little to the side just like that dog he won't let her get, because is this the thing that's going to upset you? you don't know every corner of their relationship, she could be joking, they could have had so many healthy conversations about the dog, right, and maybe she's not letting herself get the dog because of money and time and whatever. but, like, she did say let

and she wants to move away from his hometown and he wants to stay and then he tells you with a wink and a conspiratorial stage whisper don't worry i'll convince her and she laughs about it - so clearly this is something they laugh about. but you do just stand there and stare at him like what the fuck, man. you can't say what you want to say which is why do you get the final say on everything because they're both obviously aware of the other person's stance on this and have obviously had private conversations about it and what are you going to do about it except make a scene and then he'll be mad at you and call you one of those bitches behind your back and she'll cut you off, which is a loss that doesn't feel worth it just because he makes you a little skeeved out every 3rd comment

and they both agree he just isn't the type to get flowers which is fine because everyone shows love differently, and are you really gonna judge someone based on their sense of individual relationship responsibility? maybe he's constantly cleaning her car and writing her poems and making her furniture or something. maybe she doesn't even like flowers and this is perfect, actually. and no you couldn't date him, obviously, ew; but like, she tells you she's happy. you almost send her a tiktok that says don't be 25 and the cool girl that doesn't need anything, you'll hate not getting flowers at 30, but that's like, starting drama & you shouldn't start drama needlessly.

and you're a little older than her but not so much older you can pull the whole trust me on this one babe thing and besides that wouldn't have worked anyway (when does it ever) and besides you have trauma so you and your therapist both agree that you're always looking for a problem even when there isn't one. and you tell yourself that just because you see them for 15 minutes every month does not mean you can identify every single red flag based on a single shitty half-joking(?) comment

and besides, what are you going to do? she says i actually wanted another stand mixer but thankfully he stops me when i'm about to spend too much money and you're standing there like are you okay? is this normal? is this just something people say? and again - what are you going to do?

to your therapist you try to language it - it's not, like, any of my business. but sometimes, doesn't it feel like - you should do something. there's got to be something, right? you've tried dropping little hints but they sail right through and you've tried having a single serious conversation and she got upset because why does it matter to you, yes it's different but we're happy, it doesn't need to make sense to you and you're like. really unwilling to push a boundary about it anymore; because the truth is that you know logically it shouldn't matter to you, as long as both parties are happy.

and besides, you've been wrong before. it's just... like, every time you see them both, something else happens, some kind of shiver down your spine like do you even hear each other when you talk. it's their strange, bickering orbit. just the way he's on his phone through dinner or watching sports instead of helping in the kitchen or, fuck, another one of these little throwaway comments he makes about we'll see about that, babe. she laughs when he calls her passions stupid shit and meanwhile she gets him tickets to see the knicks and he tells you well at least she's smart about something and still! it's none of your business.

you say get the dog anyway and she laughs. like, this is is you being funny. and not you saying - no really. get the dog. get the dog and get out of here. pack up and start running.

[furbyeggs]

drew a thing or something i suppose

[skitskatdacat63]

Mattmac's acting in TD will never not be insane to me, bcs its probably the only acting that genuinely fully made me think, yeah he completely escaped into the role. It's not that there's not any other actors out there that I think are amazing, but it's still often hard for me for the most part to separate the actor and their roles, especially if I've seen a lot of their work. Meanwhile, even just looking at a still of Rust, it's so hard for me to perceive, oh wait that's not a real guy?? Rust isn't out there???

[fappellmoan]

something that makes me feel guilty is the fact that seeing that persons face rn literally makes me angry. they walked into class and i nearly winced. and in all fairness they were quite kind to me. outside of the several kind of odd red flags. girl whatever. to be quite frank i am a horny bastard and vocal proud etc but few people interest me enough to actually want to hang out with and get to know And i have deep seated intimacy issues so it's like. we really dont have a shot unless the circumstances r exactly right on a full moon perfect thursday of a month etc like. well and tbh i probably would have fucked around with this person but i dont... care... about some big relationship w them.. and i know i could be a relationship girl like eventually i have it in me to have a muse that's what im built for i think idc but not rn... rn i need to hang out with my friends and do my film stuff and have people that maybe wanna make out sometimes is that so much to ask for. for a lesbian at a bar to want to make out perhaps. ** for there to be lesbians at the bars to potentially make out with.

[jelreth]

lightning plus blue moon makes some banger combos ill tell you that much

[the-ace-lesbians]

Bi lesbian doesn't mean what that answer to that ask says though, that would be bad. Bi lesbian is biromantic homosexual which if homoromantic asexuals exist follows logically. Not saying you have to be comfortable with it, I'm still untangling my feelings on it, but it's important to have information when you're talking about these things. As an ace its weirdly close to the 'if you're asexual you can't be gay because your romantic attraction and sexual attraction have to be the same' argument to be entirely comfortable.

I have a lot of thoughts but tl;dr

The SAM shouldn't be used outside of aspec identities, I respect people who identify as bi lesbians but I'm not gonna be social with them, and I feel like the main difference in 'if you're ace you can't be gay' and 'lesbians can't be bisexual' is that gayness does not require sexual attraction, but lesbianism does require no attraction to men.

I maintain that the split attraction model could and should not be used outside of asexuality. It just doesn't work outside of sexuality because it was made specifically to define an identity including a lack of allosexuality or alloromanticism, where you can lack sexual attraction but have romantic attraction to, say women. The SAM works for aces and aros because asexuality and aromanticism do not contradict with queer identity, but benefits in more correctly defining yourself can be had from a modifier being used such as 'biromantic' or 'homoromantic' instead of simply 'bisexual' or 'homosexual'

Issue is, the foundation of being a lesbian is not including men and loving women. Bisexual and lesbian, while of course we share similar attractions and love and experiences, contradict each other if used together to explain a single identity, because one specifically requires the absence of attraction to men. To me, using the SAM to say you're a biromantic woman but you only like women sexually just feels like internalized comphet to an extreme degree - everything about a lot of it (of course not all and not every definition because it's a nuanced discussion) just feels like comphet to me.

Outside of that, the answer from that ask is absolutely one of the many different meanings to the term 'bi lesbian'. I've never even seen it applied to biromantic homosexuals, only bisexual sapphics who don't want to use the term bisexual sapphic.

I've seen plenty of people say other meanings, but the main one I see is people using it instead of bisexual sapphic or any other term we have specifically to avoid including men in lesbianism. It's a label that has an incredible amount of meanings, and it's definitely different to everyone who uses it or talks about it. There is no defining meaning.

I think, personally, the conversation is still different from the aphobic things people say - Primarily because gay doesn't specify sexual or romantic attraction. Like I said above, asexuality does not contradict anything about a lesbian identity. Lesbianism about loving other sapphics and only other sapphics - a loose definition because gender is so strange and confusing, but we can at least all agree that women.

It was absolutely acephobic and arophobic rhetoric that guided the OG hatred and aphobia we saw in the queer community, and it still is, but the reason that it's wrong to say we can't be gay and ace is because we literally, by definition, can be. Gayness and queer love isn't defined by sex, you know?

I do hear how it can sound too similar, and in the beginning that was a big reason I didn't have any opinion. I think the main difference is that in this, one of the labels used is quite literally defined by the lack one thing that the other has.

Even then, I'm not going to campaign against people identifying with the label bi lesbian, and I'd protect them if they needed help, they're still my queer siblings even if I don't particularly feel comfortable with the way they're labeling themselves because that's genuinely just none of my business, and my feelings don't mean anything about their identity!

And, in turn, their identity and feelings have no effect on my identity because I'm always going to consider lesbianism something devoid of men and attraction to men, that's sort of the whole point of it.

I also feel the need to say that I am actively reading more into this because I do want to know more! I have a lot of thoughts, and my main one tends to be that labels evolve and change with time and old definitions shouldn't be gospel while new definitions deserve to change, but at the same time some definitions sort of just... can't be changed.

Just as well, side note, another reason I dislike the term bi lesbian is because I have also seen it used by TERFs to describe sapphics dating trans women or sapphics who have had relationships with men, and I feel like if your label is used for transphobic and hateful purposes maybe we should all use the regular terms we had to describe this identity like 'sapphic' or 'sapphic bisexual' or literally just 'bisexual' because bisexuals aren't inherently going to date multiple genders and bisexuality is a beautiful word and identity with a beautiful history but idk I am definitely biased because I love bisexuals so much

[watatsumiis]

different anon btw but just out of curiosity (tone clarification: not judgemental just pursuing info in like a bit of an analysis/contemplation/seeking differing opinions way) have you done either of e!'s story quests? and if so was it just confusing, or you didn't like them for some other reason?

(if it's too much effort to elaborate of course no pressure, but id be interested to hear your thoughts! & don't worry about being too harsh, she's my blorbo but i agree the inazuma arc kind of made light of a lot of war stuff and felt a little shallow, and a lot of people i know didn't like her at all bc of that)

~🍓 (signing off with an emoji in case this turns into a conversation later)

Before I go into this, I just wanna say thanks again for approaching this in such a genuine and calm way, I sat and thought about this on and off since I got it and it's kind of made me step back and look at how I consume media (especially in this game) and the kinds of characters that I tend to enjoy.

I have done both of her story quests, but as with a lot of the pacing in the story quests, I found it pretty confusing and hard to follow, with heavy dialogue and exposition that I struggled to retain. I'm sure she as a character is extremely nuanced and interesting, I just struggle to feel anything more than disdain for her after seeing how her actions affected the entirety of Inazuma and the people she was supposed to be protecting.

I'm sure I could be convinced into liking her (as is the case with most characters that I 'dislike') or at least tolerating her, but the way the information was presented to me in canon felt a little ham-fisted, and I struggled to parse it all when it was just kind of tossed at me in a jumbled pile like that.

I think some of the ways this game handles really heavy topics seems to be almost... dismissive, at times. I understand that it's a game that's supposed to be marketed towards a broad audience and there are some concessions that need to be made to keep a smooth gameplay experience. This isn't a knock at the writers at all, just an observation. These huge events seem to happen in canon story and they seem to be dropped soon after apart from a few hints and side mentions, and I wish it was explored more?

Sorry that's kind of offtopic, but going back to the character at hand, there's just something about the rules she enforced and the things she let happen that just... yucks me out a bit. (again this is nothing against anyone who does happen to like her! This is all personal opinion and meant to be very lighthearted) I feel like they're trying to write all the Archons as 'good guys', but with E! it feels ...viscerally wrong, everyone seems to forgive her very quickly and have no hard feelings about what she put her nation through, even if that wasn't what she'd directly intended to do. I think if there had been some kind of main story scene where she really acknowledged the harm she caused and admitted her wrongdoing to her citizens id be a little more ambivalent towards her, but i genuinely cant remember a scene like that (though please correct me if im wrong).

The way her character lines refer to some others, too, kind of icks me out. Especially when it comes to Kokomi, who she still seems to be intending to discipline in some manner, and acts as if allowing the people of Watatsumi Island to worship their god is some gracious and generous act of kindness that she's doing as opposed to the basic human right of believing what you want - something about that especially sits pretty badly with me.

[ssoupcup]

I forgot i did this silly little sketch like a month back of some alternate timeline where websoup was a good person. I think it was inspired by some tiktok art challenge?idfk man do with this information what you will lmao im off to bed

[yuzunagis]

i reached thirty tags oops love you niabear 🧸🤎

TELL ME WHAT YOU ASSOCIATE WITH ME

COLORS, SONGS, AESTHETICS, PEOPLE, ANYTHTING

[mothmanns]

oh my goddddd oh my god. oh. my god.

[lurkiestvoid]

I totally get the fandom hate for Leandra Hawke I really do.

*scrubbing hands together* but in my fanon, since we never actually ever met Leandra or really anyone in DA2 in real-time outside the Inquisition/interrogation sequences and all of this shit is second- to third-hand at best and we know Varric slipped at least some major things by Cassandra and really just skimmed over a handful of weeks in years of Kirkwall and generally dramatized the rest --

(and since my Warden Brosca's mother Kalah already nails the Shit Mother dynamic so well)

i get to play around with the fantasy of having a loving and caring and very stressed mother with her own hangups and traumas who apologizes and tries her best

no not for any reason this is totally not at all personal nor based on two separate real life mother figures and the theft of closure with one

... anyways

[skitskatdacat63]

I need to remind myself often it's okay to take as long as I need to work on projects/drawings

[agdab]

maybe this is just me but i have never GOT the importance of reputation. i never understood how my, as an adult mind you, actions/appearance would affect my mom, or dad, or older siblings in public. i thiught it was fucking stupid that by association of relation meant whatever i did, as a whole assed adult, reflected poorly on those around me as if it was solely their fault or doing.

. one primary instance of this is when i was laid down on a couch in the main entry of my mom's job while she was at the front desk. i was having seizure activity and didnt want to fall. her boss came along and instantly judged her for it. instead of, say, inquiring if something was perhaps wrong, or anything like that. total lack of empathy. no caring.

at the same time, if im not in a professional setting and its totally lax, why is there pressure to keep that appearance up to appease those around me in my professional life? if im off the clock it doesnt matter. i am allowed to be comfortable and do what the fuck i want to to BE comfortable.

this also goes into reputation by appearance. yeah, being clean and put together can be important, in some instances. like professionally, i get that. i wouldnt roll up to work in my jammies with unbrushed greasy hair. not unless i was so ill that i had to go in and ask for more time off, or something like that

id roll up to a friend's house, though. id go to the store like that. ive gone out to eat like that. who fucking cares. if someone is brave enough to tell me to my face i look like an embarrassment and a pig and homeless, good for them. i came here to hang. i came here to get some milk. i came here to eat. obviously there's a cleanliness standard here, I wouldn't show up to these functions covered in shit and piss and blood, and havent showered in three months. I'd be putting everyone else's health at risk. i just mean like, i showered two or three days ago, and my hair is kind of a rats nest but out of the way, and i dont stink like id rolled around in graves all day with still decomposing corpses.

i sometimes dont have the time to clean up. sometimes its just easier and more comfortable not to. if that makes your perception of me bad, by just existing as is, by not conforming to some sort of expectation of how a person SHOULD be in public or semi public, that somehow i am less than for not following "the rules", thats a you problem. i dont give a shit. kudos to those that do, but please know that it shouldn't be a requirement for existence.

there's this weird thing that appearing/being "comfortable" is for the sake of others and that their perception of you is more important than your comfort and perception of you. why does that matter so inherently that it dictates your very essence and controls you? you should be allowed to be comfortable by your own standards.

[heavysass]

accepted some simple garden cleanup job today to see if i can get back to activity and dios mio i am half dead. did it for a family friend, shes a sweetheart and knows of my current health situation, was very patient and thank god for that bc it took over 4 hours for me to finish the stuff i usually take 3 at max to do 🥲

[bonefall]

Canon Lizardstripe

"Women who don't want children are terrible people and ambitious queens are a unique type of horrible." -The Erins, completely ignoring or even excusing paternal neglect and abuse.

We first see Lizardstripe in Yellowfang's Secret as a general background warrior. She's just doing her job, hunting, patrolling, etc. At one point, she tells a mean joke to Foxheart and they mock Yellowfang like some other members of ShadowClan.

But we really get our INTRODUCTION to Lizardstripe with an exchange between her and Hollyflower, where she asks if Holly is happy that her kits are older now, establishing that Lizardstripe fears being trapped in the nursery.

She is bringing this up because she is pregnant. Lizardstripe is looking for a chance to reveal this, but also for comfort with how she is feeling. This character is pregnant and does not want to be.

But Yellowfang's Secret posits a profoundly misogynistic idea, about to be said first by Hollyflower, and then again, later, by Sagewhisker, that children are a woman's calling.

They are explicitly setting up the fact that Lizardstripe does not want children as something being wrong with her, a flaw as a person.

It is not just the responsibility of a parent, but the duty of every queen, to produce children. That is what is written on this page. Sagewhisker repeats this later, when Lizardstripe is lashing out while being forced to raise the children she does not want.

Here's a peek ahead to Sagewhisker's words of 'wisdom'

It's TOO BAD that Lizardstripe is in a terrible position she never wanted to be in which makes her actively uncomfortable. Tough coconuts. Nothing Can Be Done. She should just get over it and be happy lol.

But anyway, back to the Hollyflower/Lizardstripe exchange.

Lizardstripe points out the double standard here, which will not be properly addressed by this book, or any other book in the entire series.

Hollyflower immediately shoots this down. She is dismissing Lizardstripe's feelings here, and continues to. We NEVER see Mudclaw taking care of his children or stepping in when his mate is obviously upset, nor is he expected to.

I'm going to post the entire exchange here, just so you can drink in how much Hollyflower is downplaying or even outright ignoring Lizardstripe's feelings of dread.

Lizardstripe is a person who desperately doesn't want to be in this situation,

But it is supposed to be SHOCKING that she does not want children. Hollyflower cannot believe that Lizardstripe is being honest about her feelings, and is trying to comfort her based on the idea that it's just nervousness.

Because, how could it even be so that a woman would not want children? This entire exchange is based on the assumption of this narrative that mothers are supposed to be primarily responsible for the children, it is good and right and their natural state.

In fact, Yellowfang desperately wanting to be with the kits she's being forced to abandon is meant to be a contrast of how powerful this idea is supposed to be.

Yellowfang wants kids = Good. Lizardstripe doesn't want kids = Bad.

Even when Yellowfang is thinking about how she wants to share the *~experience~* of being a first-time mother and confide in her about her worries, it's missing the point completely that Lizardstripe doesn't want to BE a parent.

This text completely reduces Lizardstripe to a mother who sucks. It has no interest in her deeper life, or the idea she could have a valid emotional reason for not wanting children, or real resentment towards being forced to take care of babies for 6 months while her husband lives life as usual.

And no one cares. No one helps. No one can even fathom the very idea that a woman doesn't want kids.

But that's not enough. Next, they slap the trait of "ambition" onto this character, having never displayed it before, because that explicitly makes her a less trustworthy person to raise Brokenkit. This book was written after TNP, remember, the arc where Brambleclaw throws a tantrum for 6 books about how ambition shouldn't be a bad thing.

Ambition is only bad if you're a woman who should be happily taking care of babies I guess.

(Timeskip to Brokenkit being given to Lizardstripe;)

Raggedpelt: "This is an HONOR you bitch. You should be grateful that you're getting this opportunity to be responsible for more children. There's no other queens here so you don't really have a choice anyway but fuck you."

Yellowfang: "What kind of life will this child have, being exposed to ambitious women :( ?"

(im not actually that mad with yellowfang, she's really doing nothing wrong in this whole book besides be miserable, but this wording is so terrible I have to laugh at it or I will explode instead. someone wrote this)

Later Lizardstripe glowers and puffs when she gets praise after her kits come out of the nursery for the first time, though. So what they're trying to set up is that she is just a selfish bitch who only cares about her own status, without "real" pride in her kits.

We see THREE situations after the kits are born where Lizardstripe is doing something bad towards them;

The previous situation, when Brokenkit is being foisted on her, where she's lashing out, shouting about how she doesn't want to raise everyone's unwanted children

Shortly after, where Sagewhisker prevents Yellowfang from interacting with Lizardstripe in the nursery, but reports she isn't happy about being forced to feed another child.

This next one, which is a secondhand account from Brokenkit;

After Broken's adopted littermates start bullying him and Yellowfang prevents them from all getting into a physical fight, we get this;

So, actually, we don't even have direct evidence that Lizardstripe is setting the kits against each other. We only know for sure that she is frustrated that Brokenkit is drinking her milk. Sagewhisker has completely prevented Yellowfang from spending time with Lizardstripe to see the truth for herself or influence this.

Lizardstripe didn't want kids and doesn't like breastfeeding 4 of them at once. EEEEVIL WOMAN!

So, it's possible that she punishes Brokenkit differently from the other three. It's likely that the four of them are aware they are not wanted. But Brokenkit didn't even learn this from Lizardstripe, he heard her talking to Amberleaf.

So you're meant to infer all of this from what the writer DID set up earlier in the Holly/Lizard convo and the Brokenkit Handoff scene; That Lizardstripe does not want to be a mother.

THAT is what the author chose to use to establish that Lizardstripe is abusive.

Women not wanting kids = bad.

Duty of a queen = to produce children

Mudclaw, the father = nowhere in sight; unaddressed.

Ambition in women = sign of abuse

After her kittens are apprenticed, Lizardstripe returns to the warrior's den with "a sigh of relief." The last time we see her in Yellowfang's Secret is Chapter 31, in a book with 40 chapters total. She growls at Yellow that she's busy talking to Raggedstar, and is eventually sent to bedrest with marigold treatment for a rat bite.

That "ambition" never comes back, because they only gave it to her as shorthand for selfishness. Ambition in women is Bad, they should just be happy to raise babies, apparently.

I think the way they wrote this character, what they chose to focus on to establish that she's a bad person, and everything they added in Yellowfang's Secret is deeply misogynistic. Lizardstripe isn't shown to be bad because she is cruel; Lizardstripe is shown to be bad because she resents motherhood.

And that's very frustrating.

Didn't Lizardstripe refuse to give her kits milk, and not care about them bullying Brokenkit? I haven't read the books in a while so I might be remembering wrong, but she seems like somebody who didn't want to be a mother and took it out on the kits consciously and unconsciously

Your memory's just a little bit off; she's mad at Brokenkit for "stealing milk" from her own children.

The way that the writers use Lizardstripe legitimately makes me so angry that I spite-fixed it REALLY hard in my own AU. She isn't JUST abusive, they created a female character whose only personality trait is not wanting to be a mother, and made her evil for it.

There is nothing deeper to the character they wrote. They try to tack on "ambition" to her as ANOTHER reason why she is so awful, but then don't actually show her gunning for any positions of power like Foxheart.

Until the spectacular blunder that is the 7 Fridgenings of DOTC, Lizardstripe was one of the most misogynistic bits of writing in the whole series.