#i. am. willing. to. debate.

[ohumokay]

Firstly, this is a long post about romanticizing and misinterpreting OCD. If you "ain't gonna read allat", MOVE ON. This is a topic I am very passionate about and willing to debate. Secondly, if you are an individual struggling with OCD or OCPD, I commend you and open my messages to you if you ever want to talk <3.

OCD - "Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder is characterized by unreasonable thoughts and fears (obsessions) that lead to compulsive behaviors... excessive thoughts (obsessions) that lead to repetitive behaviors (compulsions)." [Google]

OCPD - "Obsessive-Compulsive Personality Disorder is a mental health condition that causes an extensive preoccupation with perfectionism, organization and control." [Google]

Now that we have the definitions that anyone can look up on the internet so I'm not denounced, let's talk about the fact that romanticized OCD is just water downed OCPD.

Good afternoon.

We all have seen some person on tiktok or any social media saying "Oh my gosh, I'm so OCD lol" and they simply reordered their desk or something. And, depending on which side of the internet it falls on, the response will either be "OMG SAMEEE", or a long paragraph arguing how OCD is a real disorder and shouldn't be the butt on a joke.

Both are entitled to their opinions, it makes me no difference. And, from a 10 second video, I can neither confirm nor deny that the person has OCD, but I can firmly say that rearranging a desk is not a definitive sign someone has OCD. Too many people claim OCD or use OCD to degrade and invalid another, and not only are they mocking the very real and very destructive disorder, but the symptoms that they claim correspond with OCD are more commonly diagnosable in OCPD.

I'll admit, I was a part of the problem for longer than I'd have liked, but I corrected myself after researching OCD, OCPD and the contrast. Again, Google is free, and the definitions above come from there, so no one has to take my word.

Romanticized OCD is typically associated with perfectionism, over controlling tendencies, and habitual cleaning. There are cases of people without OCD claiming they want partners with OCD specifically for the reasons listed above. On the other hand, there are people who are separated from their partners for the reasons above and claim they couldn't handle their ex-partner's "OCD". While both parties are well within their right to these opinions, classifying these behaviors solely as OCD is where they are wrong.

True OCD is the act of appeasing reoccurring compulsions in order to soothe irrational fears or obsessions. Individuals with OCD often perform repetitive behaviors to ease intrusive thoughts (which are also romanticized in the media and mistaken for impulsive thoughts). True OCD is an anxiety disorder and is commonly aligned with GAD (General Anxiety Disorder). True OCD can and has included perfectionism, over controlling tendencies, and habitual cleaning, but it's because of irrational fears blown out of proportion that need the ritualistic acts to calm them.

True OCD is commonly labeled as crazy (which is universal for most neurological disorders), while Romanticized OCD is labeled as relatable. OCPD is never mentioned nor given its credit for being the true foundation of Romanticized OCD, and consequently, both True OCD and OCPD are backgrounded to Romanticized OCD.

Similarly to many other disorders, an individual can be obsessive and compulsive without having a disorder, and can have a controlling personality without having a personality disorder. Relating common behaviors to the severity of a damming disorder not only negates the intensity of said disorder, but can also lead to self-misdiagnoses.

I am, in absolutely no way, shaming self-diagnosed OCD, nor am I invalidating it in any way. I'm just a girl with Google and a scattered brain. This is me trying to present what I believe is true with evidence that is accessible by the masses. If you have any disagreement with what I've said, feel free to debate me publicly or privately. I am not prideful nor immobile to opposing opinions and factual information. And if I'm spreading false information, please check me.

[noot-noot-shoot]

Presidential debate (yaoi version)

[overthinkinglotr]

Has read the Silmarillion and enjoyed it: Gandalf, Aragorn, Legolas, Frodo, Sam, Faramir Has read the Silmarillion and hated it: Gimli Hasn't read the Silmarillion: Merry, Pippin, Boromir Has read the Silmarillion, then wrote passionate Silmarillion fanfiction poetry that made Aragorn try to gently explain the dubious ethics of writing RPF about Elrond's dad: Bilbo

[eddiebloombug]

your honor, the prosecution is once again trying to moralize the actions of the comic blorbo using ideas only relevant to the real-world reader and failing to consider the implications that the narrative supposing the existence of good billionaires, normalized vigilante justice, incarceration as punishment moreso than rehabilitation being the reasonable answer but also never working, and non-corrupt cops has on justice, ethics, and morality in the blorbo’s environment.

[insomnya777]

etho and joel are nick and gatsby variants. that's it that's the post

[traumacatholic]

When I blocked and reported the person who was sending me rape jokes, their other questions about 'why worship mary?' 'why pope bad?' also got deleted. And I would love to know what goes through someone's head to go "yeah I'm going to send this person a bunch of rape jokes and then demand they answer theological questions"

[dragonsspire]

I think what makes me so uncomfortable with some loudly ex-mormon folks is that I already know all of this because I was there. It feels like, rather than what I do sometimes, coming to grips with my experiences and how it impacts/ed me in my life and what I want to do about it now; they are just...sharing about any random thing without allowing for neutrality. Every. Single. Thing. Has to be some spooky cult shit even when it's just normal community or church stuff.

Like, I just saw some girl's videos on why there are so many mormon musicians. She was like music is tied to status in the mormon church in the most judgemental way possible lol and yes it is. It totally is, but you know what else? Weekly communal singing is an expected part of many worship services around the world and across multiple religions. Mormons are good at music because we sing together for around 2 hours a week for the first 12 years of our lives and then about 1.5 hours a week for the rest of our lives. You will get good at anything if you do it for an hour once a week for 25+ years. That doesn't even include choir, which is always volunteer and is always somewhat terrible because music culture, like just about everything else in mormonism (hello volunteer organization), is not based on skill, it is based in commitment.

It's just "music is tied to status in the mormon church" is such a judgemental way to put "as a community mormons value music and every member devotes time to the practice of it every week as part of worship services. When someone is either particularly skilled or particularly brave and performs in front of the congregation everyone then comes up to them after words and says oh you did a wonderful job! I hope you sing again sometime :) and humans are wired to thrive on positive feedback so that person will likely perform music again which becomes a positive feedback loop."

That's how communities work mate. I said yes to praying at an interfaith event once and then I did and everyone liked my (totally normal for me) prayer so much they keep asking me to do it again. Now I'm the Prayer Guy who is always ready to drop a Good Prayer because that's my community niche all of a sudden.

Not everything is so sinister. There are things that Suck So Bad about mormonism, but people don't talk about those things as often because they're not really uniquely bad or uniquely mormon and they don't make good content.

[oflorelei]

Isn't a bit crazy that legit no one was left alive/near/important to Larra Rogare after 135 AC that could have forced her to keep having kids and she kept on them with underage Viserys anyways? 😭 Does no one else think that's a little weird?

[iheartcarbondioxide]

undertale and deltarune hottake:

None of the characters deserved what happened to them :(

[stormofdefiance]

Dkdkdkdks this is not a serious analysis in any way at all but the podcast I’m listening to has started going through Plato’s dialogues & in one of them (The Symposium) an excruciatingly handsome young man, Alcibiades, tries desperately to seduce Socrates with his good looks in the hopes of gleaning more wisdom from him. In it Socrates does get into bed with him, but all that goes down is Socrates ‘not moving at all’ and rambling endlessly on about philosophy. Idk I’m just pishing myself, this is just so incredibly Ratio/Aventurine core dndndndxndn

[abortionado]

The idea that misogyny is a real axis of systemic oppression whereby men are privileged in some ways and women are subjugated in some ways is THE most baseline fundamental building block of feminism, and if you refuse to believe this then you are not a feminist. Like point blank, end of, you are not a feminist if you don't believe in institutional misogyny. Having some vague idea that women shouldn't be second class citizens does not make you a feminist

[vanity-complex]

Genuinely, I think people are very out of touch with the reality of what a revolution is and, instead, have a romantic vision of what they want revolution to be. I think this is because the word revolution has been entirely removed from the words civil war. There is no such thing as a 'quick' revolution. Revolutions are long and bloody conflicts that address great social inequity at the cost of life. Blood is spilled, life is ended, and people suffer. The reality of revolution is that suffering has grown so immense that war does not feel like suffering in contrast. Revolution is an agreement that the social contract has rotted to its very core, and that the only way to fix it is through violence. It is to risk everything to create a power vacuum where an entirely new society and order is created. Revolutions do not settle in a few months - they take years, decades, centuries. The French Revolution, perhaps the most famous romantic revolution, was not just cutting off the head of a king or queen, it was the indeterminate slaughter of a social class and any who dare question the morality of it followed by centuries of new governments. Today in Syria we see revolutionaries finally take hold of their government after 13 years of intense fighting, and still there is so much up in the air for them as they approach creating a new government. In other cases, a monarchy falls and dictatorship takes root. Perhaps an imperfect democracy falls and a new monarch is found. This is not to discredit revolution, as it is a useful tool of the masses to effect change, but it is a reminder that revolution is a tool that is powered by blood and you must ask yourself: is the blood that rots as people suffer greater than the blood that will be spilled to right those wrongs? If so, then organize and revolutionize, but know that life will change forever and, once you start, there is no going back and no telling what lies on the other side.

[vaguely-concerned]

returnal and deathloop have such a beautifully 🤝 take on the timeloop theme of like... hell is empty and all the devils are here. working on their linked in profiles because as it turns out the human mind given eternity to work with will naturally birth fresh new levels of hell of its own making that a poor devil could never even dream of, and then, grotesquely, perversely, make a home out of that hell. except returnal is doing that extremely well but played very straight, and deathloop is doing it like (looney tunes connotations). and I love it so much for that.

[rohirric-hunter]

Went to an apartment showing. The apartment itself is pretty nice but the hallways are ugly as all get out. That's fine though. The hallways at my current apartment are all dressed up and fancy and it pisses me off TBH

[alicentflorent]

Instead of Alicent meekly agreeing to Ottos dead toddler parade for PR and only going along with it out of “duty” they should have given her her own motivation: RAGE. Perhaps Alicent wants the city to see the child that has just been martyred, to remind the people of the cruelty inflicted on her family by her enemies. She wants them to remember the little Prince Jahaerys and what was done to him. She wants people to see what they did to her girl, their beloved queen, who is in so much pain. She wants people to feel her families pain and suffering so they remember what the blacks did to an innocent child, not just as a ploy to keep the people on their side, that’s ottos reasoning, but because Alicent wants everyone to know their pain, so she puts her families pain on display because she is done hiding it. After hiding her pain for years, suppressing her feelings and remaining dutiful and poised. Alicent is done pretending. Unfortunately, this leads to Alicent hurting her children, the parents of the murdered child, as her pain and rage consumes her more because they didn’t want their child to be a martyr or for his body to be on display for strangers to see on the day of his funeral.

[tiredguyswag]

look if you're a desi blog following me on here (this goes for everyone actually) you need to recognise india's currently committing war crimes and settler colonialism in kashmir, and you need to understand that the biggest exporter india receives is from israel (and it's mostly weapons) which are used in occupied kashmir and that india makes up 45% of israel's arms exports. kashmir is one of the most militarily dense regions on the planet. kashmiris are regularly brutalized by the indian army.

and if you believe any of that stupid 'hinduphobia is a thing that happens in india' please just get out right now

i will not stand for any islamophobia. this is people's lives we're talking about. this is not up for debate.