#i'm gay as in happy and queer as in fu queue

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Gay/bi cis men and gay/bi trans men actually have a lot more in common with each other than either group tends to think they do, and its tragic that many people from both groups have been convinced that they could never even see a glimmer of themself in the other.

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"Every woman feels dysphoric about her breasts." They really really dont.

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Gay men and trans men are best friends forever and ever actually

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New favorite thing is Link and Sidon being absolutely whipped for each other in fanart.

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Dear Diary,

Three ex-mormons walk into a gay bar...

That's the start of a joke, right?

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Not to be a old books written by crusty white men fan on main, but most classic novels they make you read in school instantly become 10x more interesting when you enterpret them as being gay as fuck.

The Great Gatsby? A fucking snooze fest. That is until you find the Nick Caraway Is Gay Theory online. And then when you dig deeper you find the even more interesting theory that Jay Gatsby is biracial and bisexual. And then you discover yet another theory that Jordan Baker is biracial and sapphic. All of which add layers of depth to the motivations of the characters in an otherwise fairly bland story. BTW these are all serious academic theories (that have been around since the 60s. The SIXTIES!) Based on and validated by textual evidence, and not just the silly whims of horny girls on fanfiction dot come (although there is a bit of a fandom pressence).

And the best part? Now that The Great Gatsby is public domain, people have been legally publishing and selling their gay fanfiction in bookstores. Its like every month there's a new TGG AU being published, and I've bought all of them. I can purchase physical bound copy of one of my favorite fanfictions where Nick and Jay live in a house together and have basically adopted Daisy's daughter, Pam, who is sapphic and has the androgyn insensitivity intersex variation. I read the original, much shorter, version on AO3 years ago, and now it's an actual book. It's called The Pursued And The Pursuing.

So yeah, put some homosexual imagination into your highschool lit class and it might just be tolerable.

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you know what, a pirates life IS for me (he just saw himself wearing a poet shirt with tattoo patterned trans tape showing through ever so slightly)

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This is why genderqueer is so precious to me.

These days its more commonly used as a political identity associated with the queer anti-assimilation movements of the 80s and 90s. It was often used by people who were unsatisfied with transgender (as in, transgressive gender) and its still strong association with medical transition. Others used it as or as a modifier for another gender identity, usually a binary one. One can be a genderqueer woman for instance. Anyway, it was the umbrella term for basically anyone who had some genderfuckery going on or thought gender norms are bullshit. That was before nonbinary and gender-non-conforming were popularized as the more apolitical alternatives.

Okay history lesson over.

I love love LOVE genderqueer. Genderqueer. As in, a Gender that is Queer. A queering of gender. Non-normative gender identity, experience, and expression. I am a genderqueer man. A man who's manhood is queer.

I mean, I'm trans, so it's a little different. But just because I'm a binary trans man, doesn't mean I have to hold up binary gender performances associated with men. I don't even think of or refer to of myself in terms of masculine, feminine, androgynous, ect. I'm just me. I'm a creative person expressing and experiencing my manhood in my own way, just like every other man. Or any person really. I don't have to change my identity, or further categorize myself. And I definitely dont want people to shove me into another box (especially by other trans people) just because of their opinions about my haircut.

I don't want to water myself down just to make myself more palatable. I shouldn't have to do that to be respected, and neither should anyone else. Just do what feels good and right. Have fun. Be creative. Be free.

I’m a cis man sure but i also wanna opt out of the gender binary. None of that shit is my fault or my responsibility and i don’t want any part of it

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I love using historical terminology for queer love attraction gender and expression because it makes me feel connected to the gays of yore <3

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Looked in the mirror today and thought to myself "Oh. Hey :)"

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Wait? Your partner uses they them pronouns, but you call them your boyfriend? What? Are you t4t?

Okay, gonna take these one at a time.

The Boyfriend is nonbinary and uses they/them pronouns, but I call them my boyfriend because that is the terminology they enjoy using.

We are boyfriends.

I mean, I'm t4t and gay. That doesn't mean cis people or women are outside of my dating pool, it just means my attractions double as a very accurate egg radar.

As for whether this specific relationship is t4t... I think so? Maybe? If it is, I should probably clarify that while we are both gender funky and experience queer attraction to men, it is not a transmasc4transmasc situation, if you catch my drift. I feel like we are AuDHD4AuDHD more than anything else to be honest. Just a couple o' nerds who's love language is parallel play and infodumping.

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Dear very handsome man at pride who gushed fpr a solid 30 seconds about my eyes thank you so much also I'm taken lol

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Met the parents (and family) and it went like 100x better than either of us expected considering the fact that The Father gave my boyfriend the whole "your going to hell" speil just last week.

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GC2Bs quality has noticably dropped since 2020. My first GC2B binder was phenomenal. I could walk and stuff in it. here is a long uphill climb from my work to my house, in my old gc2b binder, at the top of the hill, Id be a little put of breath In my new one, Id been bent over in pain, wheezing, and needed my emergency inhaler before I even get to the halfway point. In just a few washes, I was noticing thin spots in the fabric, seems got loose This binder fit correctly. It didnt cut into my sides. It didn't give me unibood. I even compaired it to my old gc2b binder and there was no difference in the measurements or my own body measurements, but I knew something was off. It was stiffer. Less flexible. Less comfortable. It felt thinner and flimsier yet simultaneously more restrictive and immobile. I thought moving a size up would solve my problems but even though it was so much looser I still got pain from basic human life stuff like walking from work to home.

In a Shapeshifters binder, I could lightly jog up that same hill and not even be winded by the time I reach the top. The stitching looks sketchy at first but it's held up extremely well after 3 years of regular use and it still binds just as well as it did on day one. It is worth every single penny ten times over. The only reason I have almost stopped wearing binders altogether is because 1) I found a sports bra that makes me look ripped which is my preference 2) I generally prefer trans tape now that I'm back into singing, and 3) I got a little too enthusiastic playing Just Dance (not very enthusiastic at all) and I got a bad binding injury in my newer GC2B binder that I reluctantly used that day in a pinch.

I thought I was crazy for noticing this change. But I'm not the only one whose noticed this decrease in quality, longevity, effectiveness, and safety of GC2B binders. They have stolen products concepts from a creator who proposed the concept after declining to collaborate with the person who proposed it, and did it without credit. One of my friends even found a bloodstain on his when it came in the mail. I am extremely concerned about what safety measures they have in place now that they've moved into a bigger manufacturing building, and about the fact that their inspection process (or lack thereof) regularly mislabels sizes and that they sent a product with a biohazard on it.

I'm not trying to scare yall because I dont want you to be happy. I'm a trans man who is concerned about safety and product regulation. Those who have good experiences in post 2019 GC2B binders, good for you. But that is your experience. My experience is not a rumor. It's something that really happened to me. I am begging the rest of you to try and invest in something better. An inconsistent product is not one that can be relied upon to be safe. The gamble is not worth it.

Let me repeat that.

The gamble is not worth it.

It's not worth fitting into button ups. It's not worth being flat. It's not worth that feeling you get when you look into the mirror and see yourself. Its not worth passing.

Your safety comes first. Before anything else. Your safety is the most important thing. Invest in something better. Save up pennies and dollars. Ask for cash or prepaid visa gift cards for your birthday and Christmas. Mow lawns, shovel driveways, rake leaves. I know it's hard. I know the wait is hard. I also know you can do it. You will get through this. I'm not telling this because I want you to suffer. I'm telling you this because I love you and I want you to live your life to the fullest, even if that life had to wait a little longer.

trans friends— this has been circulating a lot on the internet already but PLEASE stop ordering from gc2b. their quality has massively declined, they send the wrong size binders correctly marked, the stitching is extremely poor and rips often times when first putting it on. do not waste your money on them!

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One thing I miss about being a girl is throwing on a dress as a very low effort way getting people to ignore the bags under my eyes whenever I lost sleep at night.

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The fucking Gilbert baker flag in s2e05 at 6:45😭