#i'm a nonbinary trans man its 100% possible to be both A Gender and Not A Gender. fuck it up get silly with it

[bidokja]

i know the translation is partially at fault but y'all cannot look at jang hayoung and think she is not a trans woman like. of course they aren't good about handling her identity. of course they aren't explicit about it. do you really expect the "men in dresses are predators that deserve to be killed" web novel to have well handled trans women in it?? she "doesn't care about gender" but basically goes by she/they, doesn't want anyone referring to her as a man, and literally learns from ngmy who only teaches the skybreaking sword art to women. like. Hello.

[multigenderswag]

Multigender Survey Results Dec 2023: Anything else relevant

Participants were asked "Share anything else about your multigender identity that you find relevant" and had the option to respond with long answer text. Some notable responses include:

As a m+f bigender person who uses he/she pronouns, I sometimes feel like the "he" refers to my female side, and the "she" refers to my male side

I am no longer religious/Christian, but the expression “God is Change” resonates deeply with me and my approach to gender as experience. I accept that my gender (holistically) is an amalgamation, something that breathes new life into itself repeatedly and often unexpectedly, sustained by its own willingness to grow past its bounds and taste richness anew. Teaching is part of my work, and as such I consider myself an eternal student: gender is just one avenue for discovery and learning for me.

I feel so boring but it is what it is, name wise I use one (completely feminine) with group A and one (completely masculine) with group B and hope and pray that they never interact

I identified as a 'tomboy' (gender wise) as a child and transmasc as a teenager. As an adult part of my being multigender is honouring these past versions of myself and acknowledging that who I was is an important part of who I am today.

I like to describe my gender like this: imagine there’s a house on a street. the house represents being a boy/male, and being *in* the house means you’re binary male. The road represents a neutral, non-male/female gender. My gender is like the driveway — both part of the road *and* the house

i think this is relevant-ish, but the way i experience gender kind of feels like. there's a man and a woman in my head at all times, not in a system way so much as a (this is very obviously stupid but i can't find another comparison to articulate it) inside out way. they're both always there, and they're both separate, but at the same time, they come together to make the same person, me! nonbinary is a label i understand and identify with, mostly to simplify the matter for others, but in reality, it kind of feels like a... superbinary of sorts. i'm 100% a man, and 100% a woman, but because the binary only "allows" you to choose one, nonbinary is technically correct, isn't it?

I'm multigender in the "one gender that fits into several categories" way than being multigender in a "has multiple genders" way

My gender is the intersection of butch dyke and trans man. I'm questioning things right now, but I'm somewhere in that region, with a foot in both at once. I've always been drawn to butchness and sapphicism as well as transmasculinity. I think most of my journey to understand my gender has been a balancing act between identifying as enough of a guy to feel comfortable in my skin but non-binary enough to not have to abandon my identity with butchness. Recently I've adopted the label multigender, and it's helped a lot. I'm only even a little bit a girl if I can be a boy first and foremost, and I could be just a boy or just a dyke but I would have to kill part of myself to do so. I'm trying to find a way to exist in my gender without blood on my hands. I think I'm getting there. It's hard but I'm getting there.

It is complicated but I love it

Yay I love multi gender people we are so cool. <3

A number of participants also referenced being autistic and how that has influenced their multigender identity, so it is possible that autism may be included as a question on the next survey.

[ultimateplaylistmaker]

Honestly I find transfem chihiro boring at best, transphobic at worst. (Dw I'm mostly chill with any genderfuckery headcanons, just setting down my expectations) It's stated in the ch2 post-trial that chihiro saw themself as a guy, they specifically died because they actively took the initiative to be more masculine.

I'm not going to yuck anyones yums over it, but my take away is that

chapter 2 is specifically about toxic masculinity and what it means to be a man especially in relation to strength, and I hate when people boil away all the nuance and go "mondo did a trans panic" which isn't what that phrase means and it isn't what happened in the slightest, like no! It was how men react to trauma and how the pressure of constant strength breaks men!

Dying while questioning is a very real trans fear, the tragedy in how Chihiro never gets to fully figure out who they are which I think makes the whole thing sadder, and I don't feel fully right deciding "100% a girl" 'or "100% a boy" when Chihiro never really got to make that choice for themselves, while obviously an unintended tragedy, its a very unintentional but poignant part of it all to me

Why does no one ever talk about nonbinary genders, maybe Chihiro is a boy AND a girl, maybe Chihiro is bigender, wouldn't that be a cool twist

and while if someone else is like "I see chihiro as a trans girl" im perfectly fine with that and often enjoy that content, its not canon, and trying to insist any other view is transphobic, is in fact, utter bullshit only backed up by fanon. Multiple opinions can be had and enjoyed at one time! I put Chihiro on both every time I do a gender split poll because if you don't think Chihiro's a girl you can vote for chihiro on the boy quiz, and then vote for someone else on the girl quiz and vice versa! It's literally being as inclusive as possible!

[crabussy]

BRO HOW DO U KNO IF UR BI OR GAY HOW DO U KNOW IF U LIKE WOMEN OR NOT ?? HOW DO U KNOW IF UR TRANS MAN WHO FEELS CONNECTED TO FIXTIONAL GIRLS AND THE EZPEEINEC GIRLHOOD AS A YOUNG CHILD AND BEING FWMININE VS BEING PART GIRL AAAGAAAA

ITS SO HARD DUDE I GET YOU. I GET YOU.

aight so I'm a trans guy who is also bisexual and achillean

I thought I was a lesbian for the LONGEST TIME. used to be one of those "ewww men I hate men" people until I grew up and started having some common sense (clarification I am NOT saying lesbians hate men. I'm saying I'm bi but thought I was lesbian because I had been trained to dislike men. lesbians you rock)

I'm 100% bisexual, have dated both girls and guys, but my orientation fluctuates heaps and currently I'm way more into guys. it changes a lot jdhsvbcmxcvn

I'm not too sure how to help figure out whether someone's gay or bi, but I find its more helpful to divide your attraction into feminine vs masculine rather than women vs men, cause I find myself being very attracted to androgynous/feminine people regardless of gender which is probably what made me think I was a lesbian all those many years ago before I transed my gender. turns out I just like men with holdable waists. help

I hope this is making at least some sense, it is SO hard to put my queerness into words dude. a lot of the time the "gender envy vs fuckable" debate plays out when I look at someone my brain goes ham over

with the gender part, my gender is a fucking mess but. I'm genderfaun meaning it fluctuates between fully a boy and horrible gender creature (nonbinary) so with no connection to femininity myself I'm afraid I can't really help that much </3 however!! I'm quite a feminine guy, my gender expression is deeply rooted in clothes that people would expect a weird girl to wear (sometimes. other times it can be very masculine but yea) so. corset belts, open chest poet shirts, high waisted shorts, platform boots etc. you gotta remember that gender identity and gender expression are completely separate, it's possibly you're a trans guy who loves dressing up and acting feminine!! or you might be bigender/similar, that's your thing to figure out unfortunately. I hope this ramble helped somehow!!

[pride-and-flags-47]

Nonbinary November, Again!

Last year i answered the 22 questions @letters-to-lgbt-kids made for november, and I think it’s a good idea do re-answer them!

1.Which labels do you use?

At the moment, my gender labels are trans guy, nonbinary and demiboy, my gender isn’t exactly three gender but also isn’t exactly only one. For other non gender related stuff, aroace and gay (gay as in mlm, nblm, nblnb and mlnb).

And Ive named my gender but don't actively use the term, but it's still my gender, boyenbyflux.

2.What are your pronouns?

Only he/him!

3.How old were you when you came out to yourself as nonbinary?

Had to look in the older answers, but ye, in 2017 I used the label demigirl but never really thought of myself as not cis at the time, and in december of 2018 was when I realized I was trans, and started using demiboy, but as far as using the label nonbinary itself, around the middle of 2019.

4.What’s one thing you’d like to tell your younger self?

I always have a hard time with things like this. I think I’ll focus this on Alec on early 2020 for this: you’re not faking or cis for having weird gender dysphoria/euphora/apathy days, and a part of these weird days is because of the nonbinary part being louder than the male part of your gender at that moment.

5.Is there a myth about nonbinary people that annoys you the most?

Not really a myth, but the wrong belief that nonbinary genders are only one thing and that they can’t sometimes lean towards one or both binary genders.

6.Is there a nonbinary celebrity you look up to?

Not really? I’m not really big on following celebrities.

7.If you’re out, how did you come out?

Haven’t come out to most people I know irl. But I did come out to a colleague, it went well! I came out through WhatsApp and just said that I'm trans and aroace and gay.

8.Is there a gender-related pun you like?

non-bee-nary

Also not really a pun but none gender with left boy XD

9.Do you have friends who identify as nonbinary, too?

Nbfbsbsnn yeah basically most of my transmasc friends are also on the nonbinary spectrum.

10.Do you have a favorite lgbt+ character?

My characters fndnfsnn

But also my friends’ ocs.

As for more known media I forgot everything right now.

11. Lgbt, lgbt+, lgbtqa+… which one do you usually use?

All of them but also LGBTQ and LGBTQ+ and many other alternatives. Depends on the day.

12. How do you explain the term “nonbinary” to people who have no idea what it means?

A gender that isn’t entirely a binary gender (aka man and woman), basically almost any gender that isn’t 100% man or woman.

13.Tell us a fun fact about yourself (gender-related or random!)

I’ve been drawing everyday this year so far!

14.How did you find your name?

OK now that I have more names, I’ll go through each one XD

I chose Alec because two months before I realized I was trans I created an oc and called him Alec and I thought it was the closest to the male version of my deadname (it’s honestly not that close) and then I started using it! And it's my main name still.

As for Arthur, I just like it! Same for Alexandre, besides the fact that I though of a hypothetical scenario where I’m called uncle Alexandre and it makes me soft :3 and I had already been thinking about using Arthur or Alexandre instead of Alec or as my legal name while Alec would be a nickname, back in 2019 but I forgot about this until like, august/september of this year. And its AlexandRE, not AlexandER, Alexandre is more common here in my country + I have an oc with the name Alexander and he’s a horrible person and I couldn’t ever use that name for me XD

And Alex, it’s because I ended up starting relating a lot with my oc with that name, and there’s the bonus that is very similar to Alec and it’s a nice name.

15.If you’re in a relationship, how did your partner react to your coming-out?

I don’t have a partner.

16.Do you prefer partner, datemate, significant other or something else?

I don’t want a romantic relationship but if I enter a QPR I’d like to be called boyfriend :3 I also like the term joyfriend :3 I’m ok with partner but isn’t my prefered one.

17.A piece of advice for questioning kids?

Take your time, there’s no pressure to find out as fast as possible. Also gender and orientation is weird so it’s normal to end up going through a lot of labels, to settle with the first one you think about, to change between labels and go back to the first one and even to never really always settle. Life is weird and labels are too, and you have my full on support on your questioning journey.

18.Which flag(s) do you use?

I've been also looking for other gay man flags but haven't settled with another besides the rainbow one, but Ive been looking at the one libragender made and it's pretty nice.

And these last two i made them! It's the mlm + nblm flag and the flag about my gender!

19.Any tips for bad days?

Drink water, eat something, if you’re able, socialize and/or take a walk and get some sunlight. It wont help everything but somethimes that’s what is what is wrong and if it’s not the case, at least it’s less things making you feel worse.

And this blog is always open to listening and supporting, althought I may not always have advice, I can lend an ear for vents and stuff.

20.Do you have a favorite nonbinary blog on tumblr?

@finley-myself

Their comic is great and they’re honestly a really nice person!

21.Feminine, masculine, androgynous - or none of those things?

I call my presentation soft masc. It’s definetly masculine, with a tinge of androgeny but without anything feminine, Or I take something feminine and make it androgenous. And it’s soft because it’s not overly masculine, it’s masc light.

22. What are your three favorite things about yourself?

1- My sense of humor

2- My knowledge of random things

3- My attention to small things

And that’s it! be sure to check Oliver’s blog out too! It’s a really nice and positive place and his letters always cheer me up!

[askanonbinary]

Hi, I don't really know how to put this but I'll try and make it as clear possible. I was assigned male at birth and I've always had issues with both hegemonic masculinity and my own feelings of gender. I think I've finally settled on a label which is 'demiboy'. I actually feel really comfortable with it. But, I'm unsure as to if this makes me non binary. It isn't a burning question, its just a niggling one. So, does it make me enby?

http://askanonbinary.tumblr.com/post/71388258891/glossary-prod-at-me-through-the-inbox-if-you

Nonbinary: a gender experience which stands outside the binary genders of ‘man’ and ‘woman. Nonbinary individuals may feel like neither men nor women, or both men and women, or something else entirely, or any combination thereof simultaneously, or some of these things some of the time. They do not identify 100%, all the time either either completely male or completely female. Sometimes used interchangeably with genderqueer. Considered an umbrella and a specific term, depending on how someone identifies

Demiboy falls under the nonbinary umbrella. If you want to identify as nonbinary (and/or trans), you can.

And congrats on finding a fitting term that you like!

~ Mod Sock