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hello, could i ask for some recommendations about genderfluidity? (specifically genderfluidity as it is most commonly defined today, in which you have gender(s) that fluctuate. clarifying because i’ve seen it defined similarly to genderqueer or transgender before.) historical figures or books preferred, but i’d really be happy with anything

Hmm, as a genderfluid person myself, I think the story of Zinaida Gippius has resonated with my experience better than any other historical figure, so they might be worth checking out!

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I do love it when assholes go on about the boygirl fagdykes being A Type Of Cringey And Annoying Trans Person [and we're definitely not calling them trenders, we totally see them as real trans people and believe in their individual connections to their identities as more than a fad, we swear, their identity won't be one of the first things we attack if they disagree with us] as though Every trans person hasn't been the Cringey And Annoying Trans Person at some point.

I used to identify as boygirl. Then I matured a little, and now I identify as a Transgender Manwoman. Partly because of that broader conceptualisation of "boygirl" as a fad gender, and partly because - well, I'm not a boy, I'm a man. I'm not a girl, I'm a grown ass woman.

Still a fagdyke though <3 Multigender faggotry and dykery forever.

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shout-out to all the she/her guys, dudes, and gentlemen, the he/him girls, chicks, and ladies, and most of all, those who are both

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"If you support trans man lesbians you also have to support cis man lesbians" yeah cool other people's sexual orientation labels are not my business 👍🏻

As long as he's not trolling why should we exclude a guy who genuinely feels their attraction to women is queer/sapphic/lesbian/etc? This is how a few trans girls & nonbinary folk I've met realized they were trans, they realized they were a lesbian before coming to terms with the fact they're a woman / not actually a guy. And you know what, that's literally fucking fine. Not to mention, sometimes using the 'wrong' sexuality labels for your gender can be a form of gender nonconformity. Gnc/genderqueer guy finds it validating to identify as a lesbian? Awesome. Cool as hell.

If you want to get mad at creepy cishet guys creeping on lesbians, DO THAT. I don't think any of those people genuinely believes they are a lesbian, if they're saying that, they're trolling. In general I don't think any non-queer guy is going to genuinely find comfort in labeling themselves as a lesbian. Don't attack queer folk with weird genders or people still figuring shit out when you mean to be gunning for chasers and predators.

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"If you support trans man lesbians you also have to support cis man lesbians" yeah cool other people's sexual orientation labels are not my business 👍🏻

As long as he's not trolling why should we exclude a guy who genuinely feels their attraction to women is queer/sapphic/lesbian/etc? This is how a few trans girls & nonbinary folk I've met realized they were trans, they realized they were a lesbian before coming to terms with the fact they're a woman / not actually a guy. And you know what, that's literally fucking fine. Not to mention, sometimes using the 'wrong' sexuality labels for your gender can be a form of gender nonconformity. Gnc/genderqueer guy finds it validating to identify as a lesbian? Awesome. Cool as hell.

If you want to get mad at creepy cishet guys creeping on lesbians, DO THAT. I don't think any of those people genuinely believes they are a lesbian, if they're saying that, they're trolling. In general I don't think any non-queer guy is going to genuinely find comfort in labeling themselves as a lesbian. Don't attack queer folk with weird genders or people still figuring shit out when you mean to be gunning for chasers and predators.

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Sometimes I wonder if I can split myself in half or pick the parts I want to be white and the ones I want to be Indian. Can I name my almond-shaped eyes white and my right popping and creaking knee Indian? Can I pick my light skin, name it Indian and call my high cheekbones, which squeeze my eyes shut when I smile wide, white? Can I tear myself apart and put myself back together to name what part of me is butch and what part trans? My right eyebrow butch and my large chest trans. And if I can choose the parts of my body that belong to each identity, can I choose which ones fight each other for the right to be here, take up space, and be recognized? [...] There is a roar inside of me that I have choked off more times than I care to count. A place of duality that I neither fully understand nor want to claim because it seems easier to blend in. This place is so deeply rooted inside me; sometimes I wonder at the Creator's sense of humor. I'm both Indian and white, man and woman.

"Split Myself Apart" by Redwolf Painter, from Persistence: All Ways Butch and Femme

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I’ve been questioning being multigender and thinking about using any/all pronouns. The problem is that I can’t stop wondering, what’s the point? People will only choose he. Because I look like a guy. I dress masculine. Or I think I do. I’m not sure what my personal style is. I don’t have many clothes that belong to me alone. A DnD shirt, red basketball shorts, and lime green dangly earrings. I don’t know. What’s the point?

-W

I think the pronouns are worth trying out if you think you'd like them. If people mostly use he/him for you, you can try calling them out on it and specifically requesting they use other pronouns, though I understand confronting people like that is difficult for you. There might be people in your life who use different pronouns for you without even needing to be asked, or maybe you'll find new people who affirm your gender. If you're in a place where you're able to, you can try experimenting with different styles and figure out what you like. The point is to try and be happy & I wish the best for you

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I will keep my own rosette hidden, and close to my heart

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This took way longer than I expected lol. It's posted to instagram on multigender.awareness . Happy Multigender Awareness Day!

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I saw another post along these lines equating being a "genderfuck boygirl" with being transmisogynistic (obviously genderfuck boygirls can be transmisogynistic, we all have to unlearn the bigotry that comes with living in a deeply transmisogynistic society, but this post was implying boygirls are automatically more transmisogynistic than the general population). And I feel like these posts always assume that "genderfuck boygirl" and "trans woman" are mutually exclusive categories, as though trans women & fems can't have complex gender identities and identify with manhood/boyhood/masculinity as well.

Sure you can dunk on the genderfuck boygirls but do you respect multigender trans women?

I'd like to talk for a bit about the genre of post that's like "sure you're a boygirl fagdyke genderfreak but do you respect [trans identity]?" I think these sorts of posts do address a lot of important points, such as:

Even if you're genderqueer and going "gender isn't real! smash the binary!" there's a real possibility you haven't unlearned or might still be upholding some very transphobic sentiments, and you should do some introspection about that

Some people only want acceptance for their trans identity but don't want to do the work to deconstruct what gender looks like, stop holding other people to their own gendered expectations, and unlearn their internalized bigotry about different trans identities

Sometimes the [trans identity] is specifically relevant to the identities referenced, such as people who will do surface level acceptance of "boygirls" but then call multigender people problematic for using "contradictory" terms like male lesbian, or asking "are you normal about intersex people?" to point out the prevalent intersexism in the multigender community.

But if the [trans identity] or intersex identity being asked about isn't related to multigender community issues, it seems a little strange to consistently single out labels like boygirl and fagdyke that tend to be used by multigender people in these posts. All kinds of trans people can be transphobic about other trans identities. All kinds of trans people are capable of fighting for their own acceptance but not anyone else's. But these posts are pretty frequently just about boygirl fagdykes.

It reminds me of posts about a "theyfab named Sock being transmisogynistic." Are there transmisogynistic FTX nonbinary people? Yes, no one is immune from perpetuating transmisogyny. But these types of posts are still exorsexist.

Similarly, though I'm not saying the pattern of "sure you're a boygirl fagdyke genderfreak but do you respect [trans identity]" is necessarily exorsexist or transmultiphobic, since like I said they do address important points, some of which actually are multigender community issues. But people do use those types of posts to be really transmultiphobic and exorsexist, but in an "acceptable" way, because the boygirls are transphobic so it's okay to hate them.

Some examples in the notes of this sort of post asking 'are you normal about trans women?":

This assumes that multigender identities are only an online thing, only a young person thing, that all multigender people look cis in real life, that no multigender person has experienced real transphobia.

Again, this assumes that no multigender person "looks like a freak" for their gender, that they never struggle with transphobia offline. And straight up saying they have a "huge issue" with girlboy genders.

Multigender labels aren't "performative titles," they're our genders. This person is just straight up admitting they think our genders are fake, that they're only "titles" and not real fucking identities.

"I tend to Not like multigender people" okay so we're just saying the quiet part out loud now

By all means, keep talking about intracommunity transphobia. It's important. But don't throw multigender people under the bus to do so.

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HAPPY MULTIGENDER AWARENESS DAY

This marks the first so let’s make it a great one!

this moment is going down in history guys

here’s some shtuff I saw that I thought felt appropriate to post today! :) let’s feel love for ourselves guys! And anyone who sees this post and isn’t Multigender (you are still lovely) try to continue spreading the love- better yet tell a Multigender friend/family member how special they are!

and I thought for funsies I’d put my previous bigender drawings :)

lime/green: nonbinary

lemon/yellow: agender

orange: boy

grapefruit/pinkredish: demigirl

the fruit that I hold is the combination of these genders, how it feels as a whole; it represents 𝘮𝘺 identity. (Although I have more labels now)

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This took way longer than I expected lol. It's posted to instagram on multigender.awareness . Happy Multigender Awareness Day!

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i caught a glimpse of someone in the mirror today waiting for my t-gel to dry shirtless and smooth with a thin rope necklace a single butterfly ring as a charm hair bleached on one side of its freshly cut shape breasts bound to the chest with skin-colored tape old sweatpants with ancient elastic, sagging at the hips, letting the boxers sneak out a notch that had a stuffed pouch in the crotch yes, this person is almost myself a wo/man i almost recognize despite his imperfections, i took a picture of her because i know how quickly time flies

                                       – mirror mirror

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i figured out that im gendersatyr after questioning and changing my lables every other day since i was 12

(who wouldve guessed that my gender was fluid??)

:0 what a shocking turn of events

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being multigender is so complicated all on its own but it gets even more fucked up when you're plural. i'm genderfaun, one of my headmates is a boygirl but it feels like a singular gender to him, and another of us can't tell if he's multigender or just really likes to blur the lines between fag and dyke. not to mention how wobbly it gets when we're co-conscious

Yeah, I imagine being multigender + plural would be an interesting combination for sure

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30) What do you wish more people knew about being multigender?

That being 2+ genders doesn't mean you're actually one neutral/in between gender, and it also doesn't mean you switch between them one at a time.