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once again thinking about @void-dude's static ford. ough.
check this out
#gravity falls#billford#bill cipher#stanford pines#the book of bill#flashing lights cw#scopophobia cw#just. the idea that bill has all these galaxies and worlds at his command. that he parties constantly and should be happy#but isnt#hes not happy. hes fucking miserable. but he has so much power.#and so many grand things. cosmos. stars. galaxies. so much.#but ford. who settled down with his family. is happy?#and that bill could have had that happiness but let his delusions of grandeur blind him? that bill finally found someone that understood hi#someone that when asked to look at the stars didnt blind him but instead admired him?#and he FUMBLED IT SO HARD?#in pursuit of a goal that ultimately would never make him happy but he thought it would and he destroyed any CHANCE of having that happines#(ford) back ever again?#augh#and him having to come to terms with the fact that he fumbled it so bad and that ford actually meant something to him?#oh man.#anyway.#sorry to @ u void dude but ur static ford is legit so goooood#okay anyway#animatic#tbob#op art#song is image of black me from evangelion#ill add id later. once i make sure this thing actually uploads#eye strain cw
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angel sunshine for an angel sunshine | for @huhfeatjhope
#bts#btsgif#dailybts#rékagif#hoseok#jung hoseok#bts hoseok#jhope#btsjhope#usersky#bebbi... it's your birthday but honestly i am the one who got a present with you.#a lot has happened lately but u stayed in my life even tho i would have understood if you'd have decided to leave#i don't know what i did to deserve this but i am so thankful#thank you for not giving up on me#you are a blessing for many people in their life#you are the best person i've ever known and what you mean to me cannot be expressed by words#i love you and i wish you nothing but all the happiness and sunshine and warmth and love in this world#happy that even tho we are both terrible at texting back we still keep in touch and i can call you a dear friend#happy happy happy birthday darling! may you always stay the sunshine that you are!
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This came to me in an early morning queer haze
Kissing my medics good morning (I am your husband heavy and I love you)
#tf2#team fortress 2#heavymedic#i know its super annoying for everyone when the sole medic on the team keeps pocketing heavies so as a heavy main i will say this.#to the medics in the chat: i dont expect you to pocket me and in fact you shouldn't. i suck. but! if you would it would be cool and gay and#and i will kiss you abd love you and give you yummy food and protect you like my life depends on it i will be your meat shield because you#are amazing incredible for picking medic despite the horrors. i will do everything in my power to help u. but don't pocket me i suck#i meant for that to be more meaningful and like giving advice but it got gay. but i meant all of it#when i see a medic healing me i immediately switch to shield mode my life is no longer mine i exist to protect the beautiful man behind me#thank you medics👍🏽 if u play medic i hope you have a wonderful day today everyday 👍🏽👍🏽👍🏽❤️❤️#edit: i am gayer for heavy than i am for medic- but since i main heavy i am automatically attracted to medic and so this shitpost was born#so many people that play medic are apparently gay for heavy...... i feel so seen and understood
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oc time again! + her town & culture (heavily inspired by pre-roman italic populations)
she is suri sauthon. her story is linked to my swtor imperial agent, tar'x, but most of her life except for the one year away where she meets him, is spent in a town in the mountains of mirial.
despite mirial being cold and desert, and many cities developing underground, her town flourishes thanks to a force nexus, venerated in the form of an ancient, sacred, alive crystal. the ecosystem of that mountain depended on what "the horned crystal" was capable of giving them, but mirialans couldn't live off of that alone, so they developed trade and some rudimental technology, even if oftentimes it was bought thanks to the highly profitable trade of a plant used to make medicines that slowed down aging and had overall healing properties.
note: everything that's generated by this nexus has these healing properties BUT they have to be processed, except for those who bathed in the waters of the cavity under the crystal - the "real" nexus, but not the worshipped one. the waters were sacred but they were not thought to be miraculous, unlike the crystal, who instead was thought of as the keystone of the ecosystem: without it, everything would fall apart (and that is partially true: the cavity was the "real" nexus but thanks to the crystal, also strong in the force, the properties were spread all over the mountains). those who bathed in the cavity's waters - so, all of the town, who had a sort of baptism there - could eat the plant, make whatever food with it, and not only that plant, but everything generated by the nexus, that, again, had similar properties. this allowed people to live up to normal life-spans without advanced medicines or, much, really. to those who didn't live there, though, after the processing, had incredible effects, slowing down aging - for those who took it regularly - and making people able to live up to half a century more than the average]
originally, there were four tribes of nomads that lived thanks to horned farm animals that decided to settle down into one bigger town and other smaller settlements, to live off of transhumance. this division of the tribes stayed into the political and social organization: every person belonged to one tribe specifically, and had slightly different rituals and culture. for examples, each tribe had their own priests and healers, with different techniques and traditions. the town, tho, was guided by a group of people in the high priesthood, a position you could reach only by having earned the trust of all tribes. those high priests had many roles: they guided the people into sacred processions common to all the tribes, they managed the trading with outsiders, they did the maintenance of the temple of the summit (the one that functioned as casket to the crystal) and created a special liquid to offer the crystal that helps it grow.
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this particular temple was important because 1. it was very visible, from every angle of the town, and it became an important identity symbol; 2. it stored the venerated horned crystal; 3. it had the altar where sacrifices were made for the crystals. that altar had a hole connected to the cavity, that allowed the liquids to reach the underground; 4. it had various symbols: statues representing each tribe + the high priesthood, and typical mirialan tattoos carved into the wood of the trees that served as columns for the temple, symbolizing 8 values that who dared to enter HAD to have; 5. it was on the way to an important lake (called "mother lake" because the lake the town was built around to depended on the waters of that other lake) where they traveled to in important processions; 6. it was said that a the wizard who unified the tribes made it with its magic, making the plant grow to hold the temple's roof. this wizard was, actually, a force user, obv.
BACK TO HER THOUGH: she's daughter of one of the high priests, who was in charge of managing the trades with outsiders, and lives in a house on the mountains with her mother and him. her parents are from different tribes (that's one of the things that earned him trust from the 4 tribes): when a child is born from two different tribes, they don't pick one to allign to, but they're usually linked automatically to the one with more relatives in it (in her case, the father's tribe: she had many uncles and aunts on his side while her mom only had one sister).
later, though, she got quite tied to her mother's tribe due to a mysterious illness that only her mother's tribe healer was able to cure. she spent 4 years (from 10 to 14 years old) living with the healer and learned her secrets. to better study, she wrote them down. when she returned home, she studied to become a priestess with her father. at 22 (the average age: you can't become priest before your 20s), she was supposed to take a test and become a priestess, but the healer of her mother's tribe died and the tribe asked her to take her place. she couldn't technically do that, but both tribes estimated both her and her parents and she was allowed to become both. she then decided to try to become a high priestess, and became one at 25 (a quite young age). being part of the council, she tried to convince the various tribe healers to unite their knowledges and write them down, and eventually made it. healers still remained tribe based but they now had an "upper, inter-tribe level" similar to high priesthood.
years later, the sacred horned crystal is stolen from the temple by some Hutt mercenaries looking for a profit. given the trust she has earned from all the tribes and the fact that her father is the high priest that deals with outsiders (and she's been hearing stories and advice about it since she was little), she is the one tasked with getting it back. without the growing crystal, the keystone to their ecosystem, the village would have lasted only a few years. in hrr quest, she meets imperial intelligence agent tar'x laran and, as they "solve the mystery" and fight to have it back, they get closer. they'll get married and have a daughter, Vegoia (who's the only one who actually will get to the plot of my story. this was all background)
#i overdeveloped this part of the background. IT'S QUITE LITERALLY USELESS. like. Vegoia will have so few memories of it (she'll become jedi)#i will make a post about her too when I'll finish designing her and outlining her story BUT that may be difficult cuz the frame for the mai#story is quite difficult to match with how developed the other stories are getting and i have to figure it Much Stuff yet#so I'm using these post to like. fix a certain part lf the lore because even my own notes are getting older and messy. better to start over#ANYWAY for those curious & who are still reading (if u exist. WTF THANK U!!); my main story is actually a research file in the jedi archive#BASICALLY i was trying to write my own story for years but then i watched a video (tcw doesn't hold up by sheev talks i think) and i finall#understood how to frame all of these stories together in a way that i feel can add to the star wars lore (because. the others were just#like. okay but who cares unless me? and i did want to have a cool frame that maybe some nerd would be interested in looking into)#so: when ahsoka anakin and obi return from mortis; they tell the council about it (yoda knows about it in s6). sheev talks complained that#it was incredibly full of stuff that was done so poorly it could ruin a big part of the original sw story itself and it was never brought u#again. and honestly i agree. SO my story is about a jedi that is tasked with research on the celestials & by having him figure out stuff i#can minimize/limit/reframe some of the controversial things in there (i love mortis arc so bad but i also agree with his critic. I'll Fix™)#so. many stories will be about people who have previously seen the celestials or have been to mortis one way or another (pre-tcw obv) & hav#had experience & knowledge that the researcher is looking for. so i get to have an anthology with many stories#and have a cool frame I'm intrested in developing + i can experiment with different storytelling styles depending on how he finds out stuff#+ there was another sw story with a similar frame i think? so if i decide to write the story as if it was the file itself and not the searc#i can have even a REFERENCE of what a file like that is supposed to be. LIKE. IT ALL FITS!!!#sw#star wars#swtor#the old republic#star wars oc#imperial agent#star wars fanart#mirialan oc#mirialan#star wars story#star wars the old republic#oc: suri sauthon
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kit herondale playing baseball.
that’s it. that’s literally the post.
#genuinely this is all i have to say#baseballer!kit would just be CRAZY#and he would look so hot in that uniform let’s be honest#i just imagine him singing “hey batter batter her batter batter SWING!!!”#<- if u understood that reference ily#kit herondale#the dark artifices#the wicked powers#tda#twp#tsc
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Realistically tho, there's no need for a gortash romance.
Ao3 is a thing.
The stories you find on there are better and far richer than what the game could offer anyway.
Go support your local fanfic author.
#i never understood the sentiment#why do we need some canon bs and extra fuel to the drama fire#when we can just collectively hallucinate about horrible people#also kissing weird guys can be applicable to pretty much everyone cuz like have u seen the companions#+ if they genuinely focus on that shit rather than some other glaring issues#just don't#don't fumble this larian#like imagine they prioritise that instead of fixing bugged companions or the overall story/performance issues#imagine instead of a proper act 3 and upper city all you get is this#im sorry but no pls don't#I've phrased this as politely as i can#but genuinely as much as i love them a 'proper' canon romance or kiss or shit would kill this particular fandom the way it exists rn
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between Dread continuing from a game on GBA (and really every game prior to that too) and Prime 4 continuing from 2 games on GameCube and Original DS, Metroid has the longest narrative endurance of any multi-creator series I've ever seen. Threads left in stasis decades ago when the series was shelved picked right back up once development resumes—an entire generation of developers later—like nothing ever happened
#metroid#time to play Hunters#I literally wrote like 2 months ago “if they do this right Sylux will be a series household name the same way Dread is now”#theyre doing it#honestly footage they showed looks like absolute garbage though.#utterly unevolved gameplay with worse graphics and animation than Prime Remastered#hopefully it's an extremely alpha engine version with overdeveloped visuals for a teaser.#pray it's another dread/luigis mansion 3/fe echoes scenario where the barebones trailer footage doesnt do the real game justice#currently a Prime Remastered romhack would look and play better than what they showed#and shots STILL dont even cast light. How are you supposed to have immersive environmental atmospherics without dynamic lighting#the Gamecube games UNDERSTOOD that. N64 GAMES UNDERSTOOD THAT#bloom and 4k rendering fog haze doesnt do anything but dilute atmosphere. clarity is what makes graphical engines feel rich#anyways samus' Prime 4 suit design is Peak. THATS Samus. not this form fitting “Zero Suit+Armor” early game bs from the new 2Ds (love u)#ALSO METROIDS ACTUALLY BEING DEPLOYED AS WEAPONS [homer rain gif]
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still cant believe OM is ending it's services, at least on the gaming front
#i said this on twt like an hour after the announcement but greed.... oh how it ruins everything huh....#i just keep scratching my head cuz like. theres still so much unsolved that theyre just abandoning.#and ur ending the app services but still? continuing stuff outside that? are u just going to rely on the anime podcast specials n irl stuff#ppl were mainly there for the game content hello??? and anyone who wouldve found OM through other avenues would still?#divulge back to checking out the games????#they literally introduced dateables that nvr became dateable that still fries me what were they thinking truly.#it only confirms that they were made to drum up attention on the game but had no plans to Really make a cohesive inclusion 😭#not that the story was super cohesive from the start i mean me n friends would always joke abt rewritin OM so 😭 but it had stuff goin 4 it#ive not understood their business and marketing decisions for a very very long time. even before nightbringer. tbh.#well anyways! useless thoughts ive left in my drafts a bit too long....#i will still miss kenma and mori and friends and connections made through the fandom.... (perhaps will reshare some old art)#the other annoying parts of fandom have been beaten with a broom and put in a corner of my mind i no longer care abt so!
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Psst, other snake caretakers
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I have an idea for April Fools-
who wants in? Private message me for deets.
#snake#reptile#snakes#pets#reptiles#Doesn't have to be a snake only blog#you just gotta have a snake and make a post#it isn't a screamer or mean prank it is completely innocent#it also will not be scary or harmful for snakes' reputations or anything like that#as this blog tries very hard to fight what media has done to make people afraid of and misunderstand snakes#just silly wholesome fun#that I think would be more fun if other snake blogs were in on it#feel free to do on other platforms just don't spoiler it publicly before April Fools#Yes you can tell your other snake friends privately it'd be really funny if a bunch of posts/blogs joined in for the sillyness#yes you can reblog this if you think ppl following you might want to join in#yes you can reblog this if you just like the pic of the belligerent zip tie#...I've never really understood the blogs that are like MUTUALS ONLY EVERYONE ELSE DNI#I'm sure they have their reasons I just don't get it#I mean anyone can message me#Just don't be like “YO YOU SUCK EGGS” or whatever insults ppl use now. I guess a snake blog that wouldn't be an insult.#A snake would read that and be like “Well yes eggs are delicious why are we talking about this? Do you have eggs for me? Are they quail?”#Also please forgive if it takes a little bit for me to respond to DMs#My new job has me writing SO MUCH sometimes it's hard to respond after a day of work#so ... much ... typing#I still have some asks to catch up on ;u;#...deets=details
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"how could anyone ship bloodweave they make no sense at all" did you think about their stories, their motives, their ailments, their shared hobbies, the subtle progression of their relationship throughout the acts, and how very similar they can be despite being different. i know that you didn't but if you had then perhaps you would understand why some people might ship them, especially since a) you can successfully romance them in an origin run thus making it possible, b) astarion already tries flirting with gale unprompted in act 1, and c) you can romance astarion with a good-aligned pc and romance gale with an evil-aligned pc. so, like. what's not clicking
#bloodweave#<- fuck it . look at my post fellow bloodweavers#you don't have to ship it yourself. but to pretend it's so whacky and outrageous and insane and a total crackship.....#cmon. you can easily take crumbs and make something out of it. you can easily take all of these similarities and force them to see them#and act on them in a way that the game doesn't. astarion comes on to him in act 1 and gale comes around later. you can easily#take that and run with it. ascended astarion being super ambitious meets the literal god of ambition.#like..... again.... you don't have to ship it..... but it's not insane lol.#and gale is good-hearted but he Does support some questionable things in the name of power bc thts his blind spot.#i just . You Can Just Say You Don't Personally Like It. that's a fine and dandy thing to say#i very much did not like st3ddi3 but i understood why ppl liked it even if it wasn't my cup of tea.#anyway. it's 3am and tumblr only ever wants to recommend me untagged anti-bw posts instead of actual bw content LMAO 😭😭😭#like girl why did u think i would enjoy that......... how is ur ai this bad bro like cmonnnnnnnnnn
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let me translate this for you it says: well i saw the rumors about nettles being daemon’s bastard as true and i thought rhaena’s story would be boring tv so i simply combined the two theories for funsies but now that everyone is yelling at me and hurting my feelings i’m wondering if maybe the change is more trouble than it’s worth. i might still do it tho fuck you.
#😭😭#like if u think rhaena’s story is boring…you can just move some of the fighting to the vale? combine some of the dragonseed fighting with#the vale. and like regardless of whether nettles is daemon’s kid or not (she’s not and if she is you realize that’s worse right) the point#is that she’s a lowborn brown skinned bastard. what about that is anything like rhaena.#why would u not even have her try the sheep method like i’m screaming a bit 😭😭😭😭😭#this is worse than sansa bolton imo bc imagine if they did that and then also didn’t have theon there either 😭#sorry i’m bitching about this so much i feel like even if i don’t agree with some of the changes i understood where they were coming from.#this is one is so inexcusable to me 😭#getting on my soap box
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people will say clem should have died at the end of s4 like we didnt get the entire barn sequence. like clem didnt literally become lee in the end seeing his fate through her own eyes. like they didnt fake us out sooooo hard. like they didnt play take us back to hammer it home. the game ended on the pan out of the ericson gates and everything after that is the epilogue where things are Fine Actually and clem gets her happy ending. we got BOTH!!
like what you wanted her fate to be the same as lees? did you miss the themes throughout s4 of breaking the cycle?? did you miss aj feeling so helpless to a fate clem sees as inevitable? where all he wants is agency? where hes looking for another way?? he tells clem she wont always be able to tell him no and he was RIGHT!! he says NO to her death!! he makes his choice and SAVES HER!! she told him they couldnt be together in death and so he said then youll have to keep living!!!
and she does!!! she loses her leg but she gains a Home. a REAL ONE!! full of people who love her. where they get to choose their own paths and make their own future Together. and she finally gets some fucking Rest. a part of herself dies in that barn but a new part gets to emerge!! she gets to live a happy life surrounded by a loving community that she helps build!!! and you think she shouldve died 😐
#aj mvp for Real#the themes bro the themes.....#aj looks clems doomed narrative dead in the eyes and says NO!!!#and i love him for it :')!!!!#s4 u understood the assignment literally the best ending i couldve asked for#like why would u want her to die 😭 whats the message there?? its BOOOORING#this girl who has been fighting for her entire life succumbs to a fate she saw as inevitable when all she wanted was some fucking Peace#Groundbreaking 🙄#her thinking its all over and its finally come down to what shes been running from. accepting her fate. but being told NO#youre gonna LIVE DAMMIT#clem having to let lee go and fight and survive on her own#aj refusing to let her go and in turn saving her life#SILLY IM SO SILLY clementine you are EVERYTHING#clem the most doomed character of all time. lives anyway. love that for her#twdg#the walking dead game#it speaks
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I’m not emotionally attached to any objects other than my non-fiction books about literature. save me gothic: an illustrated history… save me the anatomy of genres… 😭🙏
#OH AND MY SPECIAL EDITIONS OF CLASSICS WAAAAA#my friends have been buying them for my birthday they KNOW ME SOOOO WELL#this is probably the most autistic thing about me#when I was a kid I would read narrative handbooks during silent reading time#my teachers thought I was a FREAK…#my mum would let me borrow them 🙏 legend#the only one who understood me in primary school was the librarian#she’d give me scrap paper so I could write during recess#one time my friends tried to join me but they got bored LMAO#at least they tried 🥹 little goobers#I somehow had friends can u believe it#captivated by my charms or smth… 🤗#ghost speaks
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Uh-oh! You are like, SOOO awkward!!
You're so awkward that it is occasionally mildly uncomfortable for people!
You're so awkward that sometimes people are confused by you and then there are awkward silences!
You're so awkward ...... that ultimately no one is harmed!!
Oh damn!!! What a vile crime you have committed! What an unforgivable thing it is to make a fellow human briefly confused!
Why, if *I* were ever briefly confused and kind of uncomfortable as a result, I'd be devastated.... by the absolute net zero change in my happiness and health! - From which I might never recover!! Yes indeed! No punishment can ever be enough for you!!
So you better absolutely hate yourself for it.
Better be SO MEAN to yourself about every single missed social cue so you don't forget your horrible crime! Meaner than you'd ever dream of being to someone else for the same thing! This is YOUR responsibility!
You need to show the world that you KNOW you are bad by punishing yourself constantly! After all, think of all the people who BENEFIT from you punishing yourself! - No, really! Think about it! Think about who benefits from your pain.
Think of alllllll the definitely-good people that your definitely-necessary self-torment definitely helps! I mean, you can't just cut off their definitely-life-sustaining supply of your suffering, right?? Sure, everyone else has a breaking point, but you're probably the only person in human history who doesn't, right? Best not to question it probably. Sure, it's a symptom that billions of people with trauma have had, but who knows? You could be a one-in-seven-billion exception. Anything's possible!
Instead, better just accept that idea that bullies carry like guns in holsters - the idea that people who have trouble with social cues deserve to suffer. Better carry on the burden they placed on you until you drop. Aid the cause of the callous by enforcing shame and suffering upon yourself extra hard; try your best to do their work for them. They're very busy.
Better not recognize that you need patience and kindness to heal from your trauma. Better not find out that it was trauma rather than personal weakness filling your head with self-hating thoughts. Better not find out it wasn't your fault.
Better not find out that awkwardness is not inherently harmful or unkind, and, in fact, the people who act like it is *are the ones enacting harm and being cruel.*
Better not get righteously angry when you realize just how much unnecessary damage this has done to you. After all, if you get mad, you might realize you deserve better. You might even feel brave enough to DEMAND better! You might build boundaries that keep you safe! You might make other people think they deserve to feel safe too! And we obviously can't be having that, so...
Better not show yourself even a little kindness a little bit at a time.
Better not make a habit out of it after all that practice.
Better not get confident.
Especially if you can't first wipe out every trace of awkward. (And you probably never will. Because people who experience absolute social certainty at all times tend to be insufferable assholes that enforce the status quo. And you just don't have the stock portfolio for that.)
Better not be confident and awkward because then you might confuse and delight people
- you might accidentally end up making other people feel less shame for their social difficulties
- you might make isolated, traumatized, and shy people feel like they deserve to be included in social situations
- you might even make them feel they can be themselves around you
- you might start loving the effect you have on a room
- you might enjoy conversations more
- you might forgive yourself and bounce back from shame more easily and frequently
- you might come to enjoy some of those moments of harmless confusion you cause because NOBODY expects the Confident Awkward, and that can genuinely be an advantage in social situations
- you might stop apologizing so much.
- you might find that socializing is like a video game: it requires practice but also a safe space for it to be fun and positive.
Or if you can't become assertive and confident, better not remain awkward and shy and quiet, and then love and forgive yourself anyway!
Why, it would be carnage!!
In either scenario, you run the risk of finding out that it's not your fault that safe spaces full of kind people can be really hard to find, create, and nurture. You could end up building a skillset that helps you do those things if you're not careful!
If you start giving yourself even the tiniest amount of grace at a time, you will find that you've accessed a gateway drug with extreme long-term side effects:
- You might realize that it was never your fault that it took so long to like yourself.
- You might realize that you were always worth talking to, even when you didn't like yourself and communication felt impossibly difficult.
- You might realize that you'll still be worth talking to even if communication becomes harder as you age and/or experience disability.
- You might come to know that you deserve to be heard even on bad days when words come slow and blurry.
You might discover that you were always deserving of kindness, first and foremost from yourself.
So. As you can see, it's FAR too much of a risk to start granting your awkward self free pardons for your many heinous and harmless crimes. Better to just leave it there.
#social skills#i have a few posts now in my ' social skills' tag#original#maybe eventually I will compile them and polish them in some meaningful way. I know what I want to call the book title#in big text it'll say 'I'M AUTISTIC' and then beneath that in smaller text 'And I Have Better Social Skills Than You'#or something to that effect. and the cover of the book will be me making an exaggerated smug face like the little rascal I am#challenging the viewer to pick up the book and see if they can prove me wrong.#and then the entire first section of the book is about how actually the issue with our society's social skills is the harsh judgment#for people who have trouble communicating and not the other way around. I don't actually think I'm the#most charismatic person in the world by a very long shot. but i do know that I have put more thought into my social skills than#most allistic people and frankly i have surpassed most of them. not because i am more persuasive or smooth or funny#(tho i am persuasive and funny lol) but bc i have questioned which social functions are more restriction than utility.#and instead i have focused my energy on actively learning how to make people feel safe. i feel social rules would benefit all people by#being a little more autistic tyvm. i don't think every person should dedicate themselves to being better at communicating#i think people should dedicate themselves to being kind and patient to everyone regardless of their ability to communicate#I think our society wrongly links communication ability to intelligence and intelligence to level of humanity.#when in fact all three of those things are fucking unrelated and connecting them inevitably leads to#really fucked up views on disabled people that hurt us. and then with that aspect of the book firmly understood and established I would#go on to recommend some ways to make socializing easier and more fulfilling (and less shameful and terrifying) for all kinds of people#it wouldn't be a book about Leaning In To Succeed in Business or 'here's how to avoid being the awkward loner at a party'#it'd be a book about how if you see someone alone at a party here's how to invite them to join your group without pressuring them#stuff like 'hot tip! if someone takes a while to type or speak a full sentence - talking over them b4 they can finish makes u an asshole!'#I know that a lot of people cannot or don't want to dump a lot of skill points into socializing like i did and they shouldn't have to in#order to experience basic dignity and respect. if we treat people like that then we just validate that people - especially#autistic children and elders and disabled people of manu varieties - have to suffer unless they learn all these arbitrary bullshit rules#and a lot of them are arbitrary bullshit! one of the reasons I throw people off so much is because I harmlessly break a lot of social rules#but I know I'm doing it and I'm not ashamed and people just don't know what to do with that! but a lot of them like it actually!!#i think it's a relief to be around someone so openly and unrelentingly weird bc what am I gonna do? judge you for being weird??#I only care if you're kind. not necessarily 'nice' or passive. Kind. Brave enough to care about people being treated well. Kind.#also I recognize that at least some of my ability to be openly weird is white privilege so that's important to acknowledge too
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my favourite thing about the always sunny podcast is listening to rcg all say something extremely neurodivergent and then agree amongst themselves and convince themselves its completely normal
#and to be clear im not diagnosing them charlie said he wasn't neurotypical#like deadass i think. the reason some of their writers just completely botch the gang's motivations/dialogue sometimes is bc at their core#these characters are all. SO autistic. which inevitably leads to them being misunderstood by others outside their group#whether rcg realizes it or not they inject this very specific vibe of neurodivergence into the gang#and its why they will just. argue over inconsequential details bc they Need to be understood completely#they can't just drop it unless they are crystal fucking clear#imo the biggest mistake other writers make is thinking that the gang is completely desensitized when its more like#they just don't react the way you would expect#which is often... adjacent to that but still distinct. and its trauma that influences this as well#the gang does not believe they themselves are 'bad people'. theyre most often oblivious to the fact that the things they do are insane#rob saying he doesnt pick up on social cues and then going on to argue in circles with glenn#i dont think last week was anything crazy but i think. rob doesn't know when to let up. which is a problem that *i* have#and while it comes across as being confrontational in an 'im right youre wrong' way i dont think its driven by ego here#just like with how as they said mac and dennis are making up while chucking bread rolls at each other#on both sides its frustration at being misunderstood#but they are all similar enough that even if they disagree over small details theyre usually on the same page. and this can be beneficial!!#thats the conclusion of the ep!!!! whether its suggesting smoking to cancel out the toxic apple skin or suggesting words u cant think of#glenn said he was upset about feeling misrepresented and picked on#dennis gets angry for those exact reasons in.... ALL of his big rage scenes#its frustration that leads to anger because youre speaking to (another) brick wall and you can't adequately explain yourself#which. glenn is clearly more competent than dennis & i think a lot of the time in sunny the gang is WAY more obtuse for the sake of comedy#but its interesting to watch the dynamic because as charlie said last week#they are mac and dennis (especially when theyre fighting)#i just think.. they are in a semi-unique position to understand this because this is how they are. while several other writers do not get i#ada speaks#untagged
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i have helped with the weddings of several people i love very dearly who just wanted 'a few simple homemade touches' and inevitably what this means is people running around for weeks lying through their teeth when the to-be-married couple ask if it's been any trouble
#a family friend of ours wanted to save money on decor and was like oh can u make some strings of paper cranes for our daughter#do u guys remember that post about how people actually like to be inconvenienced for people they love#anyway#we made & strung together literally thousands of paper cranes#it was all we did for weeks like. we would wake up folding cranes and go to sleep with paper in our hands u know gfhljh#like WE knew but she did not understand how many strings of cranes you would need to fill a venue#if you got an actual company to do this for you they would have rightfully charged you at least a grand easy#ANYWAY i think we did our job (hiding and lying) well enough that they genuinely thought#this was just a casual afternoon for us#they were really grateful and happy tbc#we just kind of didn't want them to know what a batshit thing they'd asked of us bc they wanted this so badly and they would not have let#us do it for them if they understood the actual request they were making#anyway. it was a lovely wedding i loved doing this even though it was crazy
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