#i love womyn

[burningtheroots]

It‘s heartbreaking to see liberal feminist underestimate and downplay male violence against women & girls similarly to how men do it.

The only thing that keeps me sane in this mess is reading the posts from other radfems who see through the gaslighting, manipulation and social conditioning. :‘)

[vamprincess333]

Hello everyone ! Ive had this blog for a while now but i didnt know what to do with it. im interested in many things but mainly radical feminism, i have been informing myself about it for about 4 years already :p im also interested in astrology, witchcraft and i enjoy watching animes from time to time

im not very sure how tumblr works yet (like, why reblog something instead of just commenting??) but im getting the hang of it, idk what else to say but have a good day 😁

[pussyvanpussy]

[azukilynn]

Snapshot

I wish that I could give you words as lovely as the day you stood on that rickety dock at Bonnet Pond, looking through your little binoculars, seeing things I can only imagine. You may have seen a heron or a hawk. You may have seen a turtle or a frog. My eyes saw only you, and words could never capture that kind of seeing, that kind of knowing, that vastness, that depth, that fleeting moment of forever. The inner certainty of a love so rare, it can only be held in silent wonder, as it was held on that sunlit day, I hold it now, in memory of you, this gem inside my heart.

[chlorinatedpopsicle]

your idea about female separatism or superiority is delusional. Women are not inferior but you’re not superior either. put all feminists on an island on their own for a year. See what happens. There was a show actually, the women and men were put on the other sides of an island. All the women had to do was find the men and they quit after one day while the men made spears, houses and had a great time dancing and singing. And don’t just dismiss it saying it’s only a few women blah blah bc you know damn well if it was the other way round you’d be using it as proof women generally are better or superior in some ways.

Female separatism isn't a hypothetical thing lol. It has happened, is happening, and will continue to happen. There's larger-scale examples like Umoja, the famous village in Kenya where men are strictly forbidden, and Jinwar in Syria, another female separatist village inspired by Umoja that began construction/planning in 2016. If you're looking for more local examples, womyn's land and off-the-grid women's communes have been a thing ever since the peak of second-wave feminism in the '70s. These communities are/were self-sustaining, growing their own produce and constructing their own buildings. You can find the tag “womyn's land” on my page if you're interested (there's also Wikipedia).

I wish you provided the name and details of this show you saw – not knowing the context means I can't comment on its validity lol. I guess that was intentional on your part.

Regardless, female separatism doesn't harm or affect men in any way, so there's no reason for you (assuming you are a man) to concern yourself with it. If we are delusional, incompetent, and unable to survive on our own, that's entirely our own problem. Shouldn't you guys just be grateful that us feminist types want to separate ourselves from mainstream society?

[sealwomyn]

People’s approval ain’t nothin’ you need.

Half the time it ain’t true.

Just be sure you think you’re right;

and that you’re comfortable in your own skin;

you’re all you can count on.

-- The Cowboy Hávamál stanza 8, tr. Jackson Crawford

[gatheringbones]

[“Some lesbians I know have gay male sex. I know this is what they do. I don't quite know how they do it because I don't really have a cock---not in any of my bodies. I am all girl. I like being a girl.

I like being a girl fucking girls and a girl fucking boys and a girl fucking boy-girls. I like being a girl fucking butches and a girl fucking femmes. I like being a girl fucked by boys and girls in all kinds of bodies and costumes. I sometimes even feel a little butch, but I don't have a cock of my own. I do have two dildos in my drawer and sometimes I want to fill a womon with my whole hand, but I am always a girl.

Years ago, I thought that since I was such a girly-girl, I couldn't be a lesbian, because lesbians were so much more masculine than I was. but then I figured out there was a name for me, that I was a femme. This was incredibly liberating, and I loved being a femme, and I loved loving butch womyn. What I didn't know was that some of the womyn I was loving were not womyn. Or not "just" womyn, not only womyn. I didn't know womyn could be men. I thought male was a dirty word. I thought wanting men meant I wasn't lesbian anymore. How could I have known how many lesbians were really men?

Indeed, I have been wanting men. I am beginning to understand how a lesbian can really want men. I am beginning to understand how much bodies with breasts and dicks really do turn me on. Is this bisexuality? How do I label my sexual identity?

One friend identifies as a female-bodied butch. He says he is neither a womon nor a lesbian, and he takes only womyn lovers. Another friend says s/he is a lesbian but is also a man. Yet another says s/he is a masculine womon. I know two people who identify as transgendered womyn---one is a biological man and the other a biological womon. The bioman dresses and lives as a woman; the biowoman dresses and lives as a man. Both call themselves lesbian.

I have come to understand that, although there is not yet a name for my desires, I am a womon, a lesbian womon, and a femme, who deeply desires male presence in female bodies. I love men on top of me and inside me. This is my kind of lesbianism.”]

Lionheart, from wanting men, from genderqueer: voices beyond the binary, edited by Riki wilchins, 2002

[thatgarden]

I just saw the take that transmasculine lesbians are more accepted than transfeminine lesbians and I want to gouge my eyes out.

Have you actually talked to all these transmasculines in lesbian spaces and how much casual cissexism we have to face on a daily basis? Or do you not consider someone saying "Men are the SCUM of the Earth," to a transmasc's face as anti-trans?

Do you know how frequently we're told we're not really men/mascs, called girls, "womyn-born-womyn," or tried to be socially detransitioned?

Do you even know how bad butchphobia is? Because the anti-transmasculinity a lot of us face is VERY similar, and if you can't even listen to the issues that butches have within the community you're not ready for this convo.

Just because we're in these spaces doesn't mean we're actually not facing hatred within them. Especially these days, where "nonmen loving nonmen"ism has roots in radical feminist lesbianism and primarily affects transmasculine and bisexual lesbians. And a LOT of bisexual lesbians are transfem so, surprise surprise, we both have it bad!!!

I'm sorry you don't feel safe in lesbian spaces. Trust me, we both have our own issues. Don't take transmasculine existence and prevalence in lesbian spaces as us being safe.

[genderqueerdykes]

what's your take on (usually cis but not always) lesbians not wanting to date bisexuals? I never really understood that. I feel like a lot of the reasoning presents as biphobic, plus most of the people I ask shoot me down and call me inherently lesbophobic for not understanding, so I'm not sure how to feel about it

it's really just bullshit and i'm glad you decided to ask!

this behavior definitely has its roots in lesbian separatism. there was a push in lesbian spaces in i want to say the late 80's to early 90's to remove anyone who wasn't a "Woman Loving Woman". they started kicking anyone out who associated with men at all. they also started kicking out butches who were "too butch", trans men, and any other men and mascs who may have attended the space. and they started inventing all kinds of weird words like Womyn and asserting that women and lesbians were superior to everyone else.

it got really out of control. during that time it was really common for lesbians to reject bisexual women, especially if they had ever slept with a man. for. whatever reason. i don't know if they think they get guy cooties by proxy or what, but they were so staunch about it that they would just. refuse to interact with you if you even had friends who were men. it got that bad. they were kicking out bisexual women and people because they were tainted now, or whatever. a bisexual woman was no longer pure or whatever the hell. lesbians and their partners had to be STRICTLY Womyn Loving Womyn or else they don't belong in lesbian spaces. they became SUPER pushy about it being for lesbians ONLY and NOT those "gross filthy bisexuals".

that's why we're seeing this now. we're seeing a resurgence of this rhetoric in real time. radfems are now what the lesbian separatists were back then. same group of people, different name. they change hats every few decades but their politics stay the same. it's dumb as bricks because if you ask me, you're not entitled to know who your partner has been with before they got together with you. you don't need to know that. and it doesn't change anything about you if your partner chooses to date or sleep with multiple genders. it's just petty. they would act like that person was a man now just because they associated with men and would treat them like an icky parasite. it's seriously just unreal how these people think and act. and it's still normalized in lesbian culture to this day

bisexuals can be in lesbian relationships. bisexuals can be lesbians. lesbians can date bisexuals. the world will not come grinding to a halt if a lesbian marries a woman who has slept with men. that doesn't make that person "tainted". people gotta stop with this weird culty bullshit. we're not treating people as individuals anymore. it's gross.

[sapphicides]

saw my list of black sapphic books to read this month, but don’t really read? i got you, here’s a list of black sapphic films (or films featuring black sapphics) to watch this black history month

documentaries:

stormé: lady of the jewel box (1991, dir. michelle parkerson)*

black/womyn: conversations with lesbians of african descent (2008, dir. tiona nekkia mcclodden)*

difficult love (2010, dir. zanele muholi & peter goldsmid)*

shakedown (2018, dir. leilah weinraub)*

drama:

the watermelon woman (1996, dir. cheryl dunye)*

pariah (2011, dir. dee rees)*

rafiki (2018, dir. wanuri kahiu)*

selah and the spades (2019, dir. tayarisha poe)*

valley of a thousand hills (2022, dir. bonie sithebe)*

tahara (2020, dir. olivia peace)

mars one (2022, dir. gabriel martins)

rom-com:

the incredibly true adventure of two girls in love (1995, dir. maria maggenti)

comedy:

d.e.b.s. (2004, dir. angela robinson)*

bottoms (2023, dir. emma seligman)

horror:

the mark of lilith (1986, dir. bruna fionda, polly gladwin, & isiling mack-nataf)

good manners (2017, dir. juliana rojas & marco dutra)

the perfection (2018, dir. richard shepherd)

jagged mind (2023, dir. kelley kali)*

bodies bodies bodies (2023, dir. halina reijn)

thriller:

set it off (1996, dir. f. gary gray)

the eiffel tower mystery (2016, dir. léa fazer)

how to blow up a pipeline (2022, dir. daniel goldhaber)

short films:

sunday’s child (2019, dir. maisie richardson-sellers)*

tender (2019, dir. felicia pride)*

ìfé (2020, dir. uyaiedu ipke-etim)*

the beginning & the middle (2021, dir. alexis g. zall)

heart shot (2022, dir. marielle woods)

grace (2024, dir. natalie jasmine harris)*

honorable mention: i saw the tv glow (2024, dir. jane schoenbrun), for what i felt was some undeniable implied sapphicism between the two main characters but was never actually explicitly canonized

additional info:

* indicates that the film listed was directed by a black woman/non-binary person

-> “why wasnt this film with black sapphics listed?” likely because the film doesn’t feature a black sapphic(s) as the main character. i tried to create a list of films that are least somewhat centric on black sapphics, no background characters or subplots

many of these films require trigger warnings, especially the dramas, horrors, and thrillers. please do your due diligence and search up warnings for yourself, as there are too many to list here. https://www.doesthedogdie.com is a good resource for this

feel free to add more to this post if you have more recs! happy black history month

[reincarnatedvaleriesolanas]

Libfems and choice feminists are already canceling the 4b movement and their reasons dont deviate from 1) b-b-but what about trans women🥺 2) its a woman’s CHOICE to have a bf🤬

Once again proving that womyn are just an after thought to them. They start freaking out when a movement centers women and women only, which is naturally a slap to the patriarchy (therefore men). Womyn are an after thought to the people that claim to care about them the most.

I saw all of this coming tbh. I knew tras and choice feminists would work hand in hand to sabotage any attempt at achieving actual female liberation..

When will we ever be free. When will we ever put ourselves first. When will we start taking action to liberate ourselves. When will we ever fucking love ourselves.

[warningsine]

Old man yaoi this and old man yaoi that WHERE is my old yuri movies????

God forbid women get older and remain sexual beings.

Regardless of quality, the following films are about middle aged and elderly lesbian/bi/trans women (not all of these revolve around romance btw, many are documentaries):

Silent Pioneers (Short 1985), doc.

Nitrate Kisses (1992), doc.

Forbidden Love (1992), doc.

Last Call at Maud’s (1993), doc.

Not Just Passing Through (1994), doc

Tender Fictions (1996), Barbara Hammer's autobiography.

Murder and murder (1996), middle aged not elderly.

Late Bloomers (1996)

Between Two Women (2000)

Hand on the Pulse (2002), doc.

The Hours (2002)

My Mother Likes Women (2002)

Ruthie and Connie: Every Room in the House (2002), doc

Sunset Story (2003), doc

No Secret Anymore: The Times of Del Martin & Phyllis Lyon (2003), doc.

The Page Turner (2006)

Finn’s Girl (2007)

Ten More Good Years (2007), doc

Black./Womyn. (2008), doc

A Place to Live: The Story of Triangle Square (2008), doc

Hannah Free (2009)

A Horse Is Not a Metaphor (2009), doc

Edie & Thea: A Very Long Engagement (2009), doc

For 80 Days (2010)

The Owls (2010)

Gigola (2010)

Cloudbirst (2011)

Gen Silent (2011), doc

Out Late (2011), doc

Les Invisibles (2012), doc.

Mommy Is Coming (2012)

A Perfect Ending (2012)

Vic + Flo Saw a Bear (2013)

Tru love (2013)

The Passage of Time (2013), doc

Rebel Menopause (2014), doc

Before the Last Curtain Falls (2014), doc

Advanced Style (2014)

Female Masculinity Appreciation Society (2014), doc

Kate Bornstein Is a Queer & Pleasant Danger (2014), doc

Freeheld (2015)

Grandma (2015)

MAJOR! (2015), doc about Miss Major Griffin-Gracy

Stuff (2015)

Black Mirror: San Junipero (2016). Everyone has seen this one, I know.

The Pearl (2016), doc

Etage X (Short 2016)

The Personal Things (short 2016), animation about Miss Major Griffin-Gracy

Marguerite (2017)

Chavela (2017), a doc about Chavela Vargas.

Wild Nights With Emily (2018)

The Favourite (2018)

Happy Ending (2018)

The Heiresses (2018)

Love Letter Rescue Squad (2018), doc

A Great Ride (2018), doc

Obscuro Barroco (2018)

Monica – Loose on a Cruise (2018), doc

Two of Us (2019). A fave of mine. Deeply humanistic and touching.

Time & Again (2019)

Madame (2019), doc

So My Grandma’s a Lesbian! (2019)

Uferfrauen - Lesbian Life and Love in the GDR (2019), doc.

The Archivettes (2019)

A Month of Single Frames (2019)

Forgotten Roads (2020), doc

Naomi Replansky at 100 (2020), doc

T11 Incomplete (2020)

The Aerialist (2020)

Mama Gloria (2020), doc, Gloria Allen's story.

Rebel Dykes (2021), doc.

The Affair (2021)

A Secret Love (2020), doc.

Surviving the Silence (2020), doc.

The Mistress (2020)

Your Mother’s Comfort (2020), doc about Indianara Siqueira.

A Wild Patience Has Taken Me Here (2021), middle aged not elderly.

Genderation (2021), doc.

Nelly & Nadine (2022), doc about two women that fell in love in a concentration camp.

Sweetling (2022), doc.

All the Beauty and the Bloodshed (2022), doc about Nan Goldin.

Nyad (2023)

[azukilynn]

104 Degrees

~

I remember my white flannel

nightgown with the little

pink rosebuds on it

How I burned with fever

How I ached for you

How I begged for you to touch me

How gently you held me

(You were so afraid you’d break me)

How you came to understand

How very much I needed you

To validate me

To help me lose myself in

something besides pain

~

I remember the precise moment

when your hands said yes

Your eyes, your mouth

Affirmations of the flesh

The flannel whispered as

you drew it above my thighs

The little rosebuds bloomed

I clasped you tightly to me as

we trembled with release

~

I remember how you rocked

me as I branded these

words into your skin:

See, my sweet baby?

I did not break

~

Azuki Lynn

[xxconnection]

What’s the hardest thing about living on womyn's land

ok i gotta come clean. my instinct was to lie and say the hardest thing is like, the amount of manual labor or idk, staying warm in the winter. but this an easy question. we've asked this question at other wimmins lands and their answer is usually the same as ours: getting along. ive only been on tumbler a couple of weeks and i already see that this problem is here on radblr too.

here on the land right now we're really really lucky because we residents get along. we have our disagreements and bad moments but we love each other and enjoy spending time together. that wasnt always the case here! this used to be a place wimmin didnt even want to visit because it was so unfriendly. now after much hard work, we have more visitors than ever. and the vast majority of our visitors are kind and reasonable wimmin who come here to enjoy the land and socialize with other wimmin. but nobody is perfect yall. kind and reasonable wimmin also do and say rude and unreasonable little things. these kinds of little things can turn into feuds if the wimmin involved dont have the conflict resolution skills to handle it. also, not all wimmin are kind and reasonable! some wimmin are totally unlikable! some wimmin come here with no intention of getting along at all! some wimmin come here to get drunk and throw things! some wimmin attend events just to start arguments! and all of those wimmin still deserve female only space.

so how do we deal with difficult wimmin? how do we deal with difficult moments? we do our best but sometimes there's nothing we can do. sometimes we make it worse. and sometimes we are the difficult ones. me, i have chronic pain and was raised with a "eat or be eaten" mindset. being difficult comes plenty natural to me! but puttin in the extra effort to have compassion even when u feel like being mean is worth it. and so we try and we try again.

we have a great little community here. i really believe that every womon who comes here wants the best for the land. but we all show it in different ways, and some wimmin are perhaps more passionate than others. some have more self control than others. some have more hurt than others. and some had never once been in a space where they could express themselves freely until they came here. even the most calm and collected womon can fall apart if she finds herself in a safe enough space. it's important for wimmin to have space to be ugly and difficult. it's hard to hold that space, but not as hard as not having that space at all.

anyways, thank you for your excellent question. i guess what im trying to say is that being nice can be really hard, but it's important to try. we can practice on each other!

[limeade-l3sbian]

Hear me clearly. Really hear me. Don't assume anything less than what is said. I LOVE being black. I LOVE my skin. I LOVE it. Give me three new lives and I'll come back a black womyn again every time.