#i like queer communities

[m-jay-gee]

what's very strange is the tingling feeling that you know you're somewhere on the asexual/aromantic spectrum and have known for years but because so much of how you were raised is focused on romance and sex, you can't tell how much of your past in dating is societal pressure and how much of it is genuine.

[queer-is-future]

so when straight people ask me why I say I’m “queer” or “gay” instead of sharing my actual identity as a panromantic demisexual non-binary sapphic queer I just tell them “ok look, when you’re talking to someone who isn’t local and they ask you where you’re from and you either say the name of the largest city nearby or ‘town name, suburb of large nearby city’ so they can get some geographical context of where you’re located right, bc they’re probably not going to know the name of the little town you actually live in.”

but if you’re talking to a local you can say the name of your actual town bc they have a greater chance of knowing where/what that is.

ok well when I’m talking to a straight person I start with queer bc chances are they aren’t as familiar with the context of all the little towns in that big queer city and need gps (gay positioning system) to find me.

if I’m talking to another queer person and I say I live in a suburb of gay city in a town called panromantic on the demisexual side of the tracks which is in the county of queer and I live off the intersection of non-binary and sapphic, they’d probably be able to find me with little to no problems, make sense?

[2pen2wildfire]

Really hate that the queer community's response to the creation of a gender trinary (girl, boy, and nonbinary, which is still not all-encompassing) was to... reinvent the binary. We just started grouping all genders into "masc/male-aligned" and "fem/female-aligned" and it's so fucking stupid. Even with the occasional allowance of "neutral/unaligned" it still maintains the binary as the standard. And then they don't let you use certain labels if you don't have the "right" gender alignment. The fuck.

[oysters-aint-for-me]

my (very queer) friend is pregnant for the first time and she’s been on all the baby message boards (eg tiktok, facebook) and she found this tag that was like “ftm pregnancy” and she was like “oh cool! there’s whole tag for pregnant transmen!” and then was extremely confused as to why the tag was full of what appeared to be cisgender women. she was like “i mean i don’t wanna judge, maybe they are transmen but they don’t look how i expected them to, that’s okay, if they say they’re trans then they are” except she kept looking through the tag and literally NONE of them were transmen, ALL of them appeared to be ciswomen. she was VERY confused, seriously questioning what she knew about trans people (and not to be like “she has trans friends!” but literally her partner is trans, her sibling in law is trans, many of her friends are trans/nb, hell i think she’s a bit nonbinary herself, idk, we haven’t actually talked about that recently lol) and doubting reality in general.

and then she found out that, amongst a huge section of the internet to which she had never been exposed before, “ftm” stands for First Time Mom.

there’s no moral to this story i just thought it was funny

[idolomantises]

Makes me kind of sad that most people's perception of a "GNC lesbian" is like. a cis woman in a suit.

You show them a transmasc/transfem lesbian, lesbians who do drag, lesbians who have body hair, lesbians who use he/him pronouns, etc and its like their brains short circuit.

[sillylilneurodivergent]

Guys, it happened. I’m an

AAAAAA (aromantic, asexual, agender, with autism, adhd, & anxiety)

[darlingofdots]

it really is all of us or bust btw. we cannot accept conditional acceptance of queer people, we cannot accept the exclusion of some in exchange for inclusion of others, it's all of us or nothing and we have to be so fucking clear about that. don't let conservatives or terfs or twitter discourse convince you that there's any other option. don't let them get away with it. we're all going to fucking make it and we're not leaving anybody behind

[auroramosaic]

truly I am sick of the phrases "stop dating men" and "men suck". LIKE come on. we've moved past this terfy shit.

demonizing masculinity is such a cold take. like would you say men suck to a newly transitioning trans man? hell if you did he might even agree like "yeah I know haha", but that shit leaves imprints in you. If you start to feel like the queer community, your home, hates/doesn't trust/thinks they're better than men, why would you want to be one??

It's not that I don't understand where people who say this are coming from. I used to say shit like that when I was young. But I've read too many trans people nervous to be men or who dampen their expressions of masculinity to not be seen as a creep or just to not be avoided by people who should be welcoming to them.

PLEASE tell me I'm not insane for thinking this

[ale-arro]

been going a little bit insane about this sentence from Ace by Angela Chen for the past week

[an-absolute-trainwreck]

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[pseudophan]

nobody knows their audience better than dan and phil

[lesbielol]

hey (with the intention of sucking your fingers after you’ve fingered me) :3

men and minors dni

[boy-gender]

im really glad we as the trans community seem to be drifting away from posts where some transphobic fuckwit asks a bad faith question about transness and we spend hours gathering sources theyre never gonna click and presenting explanations theyre never gonna read and instead now we're prioritizing our own mental bandwidth by just saying we fucked their moms. I love that for us and i think its a way better use of everyones time

[hongjoongpresent]

Friendly reminder that all aros and aces are part of the queer community, and you're welcome here. Aphobes are hit with my laser beam.

[marzipanandminutiae]

"for this Historical Lesbian look, I went with inspiration from Tomboy styles like cycling bloomers and riding habits! masculine inspiration! because that's what Looking Gay is! I'll try to Look Gayer next time!"

meanwhile, this is Isabella, Archduchess of Parma (1741-1763), who fell for her sister-in-law instead of her alliance-marriage husband:

and this is Angelina Weld Grimke (1880-1958), a gay playwright:

and this is Loie Fuller (1862-1928), an equally gay dancer and lighting designer wearing a stage costume she created and voluntarily wore often:

and this is Anne Lister's first wife, Mariana Belcombe Lawton (1788-1868), who may have been bisexual but who was indisputably Queer:

this is Alice Longfellow (1850-1928), Henry Wadsworth Longfellow's daughter, a very gay writer and preservationist:

and Edmonia Lewis, world-famous (probably) gay sculptor:

guys. there's no single way to Look Gay, nor has there been throughout history. stop it

[octobergraves]

also watching the new hbomberguy video has got me like