#i know i feel positively about thinking of myself in this way. which makes me slightly concerned it's just wishful thinking
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you don't have to answer this but are you still on t? I know you've talked about thinking you were into guys before figuring out u were into butches and I wonder if that realization changed how you saw your body?
I ask bc I'm in a spot where I can't fully tell if I need to go on t to look the way I'd feel right or if I can get to enough of a butch level with exercise and clothing and being around better people than currently. My gender wouldn't change either way, I'm still not a woman, but .. yeah.
realizing i was into other butches did change how i saw my body absolutely, like completely changed it, i don't think i had anything positive to say about my body pre-butch4butch at all tbh. looking at myself and realizing my masculine dream partner would actually have most of the features i was most dysphoric about was a total shift in perspective for me
whether that type of mental shift can lessen your dysphoria to a point where you'll never need T as a dysphoric butch, i'm still kinda figuring that out myself. i was in that "i've done my research and i've seen friends go through the process but i'm being a pussy" stage when i had my b4b epiphany and that brought my dysphoria down to manageable levels (this was years ago now) so i never went on T, but i still think T might be in my future ā even if i've cut down my dysphoria by like 70% that remaining 30% can really chafe sometimes depending on the day
but if the question is "is it possible to get to a good place just by focusing on all the other, non-medical aspects of transition" yeah absolutely. like you really can change your appearance completely it's kinda crazy. many ppl don't realize just how much of the average cis guy's masculinity ā which can seem so inherent ā is actually just clothes and hair. even just getting your hair cut by someone who will give you an actual men's cut instead of the girl version of that style can totally change how you look because it just frames your face and neck so differently (speaking from experience)
that being said i don't think you should ever withhold HRT from yourself if you have access to it and think it might help you. just that it's possible to have a good life even if that's not an option for you, at least in my case it has very much been possible
edit: love all the ppl chiming in with their positive experiences being on T, however i was kind of trying to make this a positivity post for the transmascs out there who are not on hormones rn (like me) so if we could refrain from using wording that paints that life as being incomplete or lesser-than somehow that'd be great, thanks everybodyš¤
#also anybody reblogging this with anti-hrt sentiment will be boiled just fyi#anyway good luck bro#mail
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The polls are soon ending! I think this is a good time to talk about my personal favourite location, Ember Twin :)
Honest to cod I didnāt expect to care too much about the Hourglass Twins when I started the game! My followers already know that Iām an aquatic environments fan through and through, I tend to like them the most in any given piece of media and find them the most interesting. While exploring I did my research one planet at a time, starting from Timber Hearth, to Giantās Deep, to Brittle Hollow, to the Ember Twin. I was pleasantly surprisedā¦
I donāt know when it started, likely in the midst of doing several repeated visits to the Ember Twin since going to places and exploring them has a time limit (moreso than the game usually has), but I started to really like the atmosphere of Ember Twin. Firstly, the concept is cool as hell: two planets that orbit around one another exchanging sand between them. What!!! Thatās awesome!!!! Like twin stars but you can actually get in there! And then thereās the environment itself. The red-orange stone of the surface and cave walls, the sun thatās nearly always in the sky, the massive canyons and crevices and tunnels, itās beautiful. Ember Twin and Ash Twin do not settle for just being āgeneric desertā and go hard into one extreme which makes them lots more unique, either being super rocky with canyons or basically just all sand. I know that some people find the caverns of Ember Twin claustrophobic ā and the squashed-to-death animation and sound is pretty morbid ā but in a way theyāre also comforting? Despite being in this dark maze of tunnels you know exactly where to go, no one can get you, you can do your own little adventures. You sort of feel like a kid adventuring around their home town, which is funny, because thatās just the position that many Nomai children were in, literally exploring the caverns and stepping stones and tunnels of their home!
Speaking of, the locations of Ember Twin are so cool! I canāt get enough of the Sunless City, itās confined underground but still feels really big. I really like the High Energy Lab and Quantum Moon Locator, Nomai design is really fun to see and, well, I just find myself really liking the various locators and machines lol. Feels really major. The lakebed cave, it took me a while to figure it out, but it was always sort of comical to fly my ship directly into the canyon and then drop down when it would inevitably get stuck in the walls. I think the equatorial canyon is really cool (and scary! But cool) and the paths on the sides offer the same comfort as the caves themselves. And! Chert! Chert is there! Chert is my favourite Hearthian!!! Science rules!!!! :DD I also really like flying from place to place! A lot of Outer Wilds locations have a gravity similar to Timber Hearth (or um. I guess just three? Timber Hearth itself, Brittle Hollow, Giantās Deep ā which actually has more gravity. Though recall those are the places I went to first!) which means that you basically use your boosting power only for big jumps. But Ember Twin? Why, you can circle that whole planet with ease! Itās just so fun to start from say, Chertās camp, jetpack your way into the sky, and then go around the planet to another location super fast. Youāre free! :D
Even though the sand tends to halt your exploration at some point or another, the feeling of getting to one certain place in time or getting a crucial piece of information just in time feels really good also. At some point I was trying to figure out how to get to a room as the sand was rising up dangerously close ā I realised how to do it and got in just in the nick of time! I felt really accomplished about discovering everything in the Sunless City hehe
So yeah! Cool atmosphere, cool locations, cool Hearthian, hot and dry environment!
#more spoilers in the tags but like big big major ones#my least favourite location is the quantum moon#if only because the quantum objects scare me a bitā¦.. the quantum noise is so aaah!!!!!!!!#i actually really like the quantum moons major location. i love love love solanum! seeing her for the first time was CRAZY#but when we are talking about the quantum moon in general and the way you have to descend down without seeing anythingā¦ eeeeeeeekkkk DD:#gives me the heebie jeebies#alas i dont hate or dislike it. it is merely my least favourite location#back in my day celestial objects would stay there when you werent looking not make me question my sense of object permanence (silly)#outer wilds#outer wilds spoilers#ember twin#not fish#i felt ill so im up in the middle of the night writing#long post
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What faith do you have in the future of Exandria as a setting? One reason the finale has bothered me so much is that established Exandrian lore seems to not make sense anymore. The world no longer feels real and so I find myself not having confidence in future stories told there. When I brought this up to others they said that history was written by the victors, aka the Gods. But in reality it was Matt Mercer in published source books and a 10 minute video. So what hope for future stories?
Here's the thing: I do not actually feel like Exandrian lore was changed significantly. I think the resulting character beats for Bells Hells/some Crown Keepers/Vax are for the most part incoherent, but actually, all of the made-up bullshit that people claimed in fandom to support their idea of how the campaign would go (about which they were largely wrong) or, after the fact, the campaign ended? Absolutely none of it confirmed. We have absolutely zero proof that people would have rounded up Ruidusborn and slaughtered them and indeed, the fact that Liliana is just bopping around Exandria on her gap year without so much as a slap on the wrist serves as proof positive that this is probably not what they'd have done. Vasselheim has not to our knowledge lashed out. The Ruidians are being welcomed by a number of people across the world. The gods are still deeply important and frankly that lore with the Luxon/gods becoming mortal was even seeded in past campaigns/Downfall. My issue isn't really any of the core lore here; it's that all of this kind of popped up in the last 5 episodes because Bells Hells were too busy exploring the crevices of their own colons with their heads to formulate a plan, and then when they showed up having ignored everything their many, many benefactors had done for them and were rude besides everyone simply stood aside. Hell, those people who told you that history was written on the victors probably thought Bells Hells would be on the run forever as late as episode 120, and were expecting a post-apocalyptic Exandria as late as episode 117 or so. They are stupid, and if they are your friends you should find smarter ones. But anyway the actual lore of Exandria is basically entirely intact or was changed in a way that was shown onscreen. If you have specific things you feel were ignored, let me know, but the problem wasn't the worldbuilding; it was that Bells Hells were granted foot-thick unjustified plot armor.
So with that in mind it's fine. I think my desire for a new setting is more just that like, this campaign really feels like they've gotten too precious with Exandria and were too afraid to do anything drastic or let people like. die. or in severe cases, stay dead. But my complaints about the lore are much more that like, the Apex War was clearly supposed to mean something and no one in the party gave a shit; not that the lore itself was incoherent.
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ough yes to Ford probably not being a cologne-wearer, nothing sexier than enjoying your partners' natural scent although I have been thinking, since it's kind of canon/people LOVE to bring it up, that Ford doesn't shower and me, a shower-every-night girly is like "So? I'll just make him shower we can even shower together :3c" which then got me thinking like. you love his natural scent but like at a certain point, it's been a couple of days dude, you are getting into the fuckin bath and you drag him into the bathroom with some resistance but he let's you undress him and he watches intently as you undress as well and you gotta push him into the shower a little but the minute you start washing his hair he completely melts into putty and you can do whatever you want, run your soapy hands over his body, tease him a little maybe and then you go to wash yourself and he takes the shampoo from you and starts returning the favor and OUGH...Ford soaping you up with his big, six-fingered hands and then he picks you up and fucks you against the shower wall... ..goddamn it you know what I guess I gotta write this fic myself
Not to out myself here or anything but.......I just know he smells like days old sweat and that does something unspeakable to me.
I've actually just been hit with the memory of this CEO guy who tried to schedule a paid date with me a long time ago, and he specified that he HAD to have access to my armpits at all times. He needed to be able to take me off somewhere private to smell them and I wasn't allowed to shower beforehand sdhjhjasfhjsf. I did not go on that date, but mostly because he was cheap. There were other reasons that I won't go into but....
Anyway I digress.
There's something super intimate about bathing together. Hair washing, too. It's a very loving activity to me because it directly shows great care for the other person. It does in terms of self care, too.
I think especially with Ford, he's liable to avoid showering both because of work but also he tends to neglect himself (I believe) due to poor mental health. I kind of side eye people when they laugh about how he got kicked out of the library that one time or whatever because he smelled so bad, because it's like, yeah, a lot of people with depression or those under great stress don't really shower much. It's pretty well known. The only reason I shower when my depression is bad is because I have OCD lol, they cancel each other out, but I think Ford just sort of forgot to take care of himself during that time. He was literally going mad.
In terms of Post-Portal!Ford though, encouraging him to bathe/shower by doing it with him would be good for him. It's like a reward. He does need to look after his health at some point, regardless of whether or not sweaty smells are hot. Removing sex from the equation for a moment; if he showers, he gets to be touched/receives intimacy for his efforts, and that's a big motivator. His partner can take care of him and that kind of removes a lot of the responsibility and effort from himself. He can give himself over and relax, which means both his mind and his body will benefit.
He can build a ritual around doing it. As you said, the process of undressing, watching a partner undress, and then washing together. Rituals build habit, from my experience.
(nsfw below)
And yeah, shower sex would also be very fun. Again, a reward for doing something good. Ford is definitely someone you have to motivate with more carrot and less stick, and he'd be up for that. I think that experimenting with sensations is fun, too. I don't know why, but I think that wet skin (like the texture of it, the way it slides against another persons) can feel nice. It can be very erotic. Everything moves together with ease and it there's no friction there.
Ford's probably strong enough that he can lift a partner up with ease and balance well enough to maintain that for a while. Or there's just the good ol' from behind position against the wall, to avoid falling over lol.
Sex in the bath is not viable, however. It's dangerous to fuck underwater and Ford is absolutely the kind of guy to tell a partner that and refuse to do it in case they get hurt, bless him. You can get UTIs or other infections from water-based bacteria.
shower sex irl is not fun though imo do not recommend. Did it once, never again. Water is not an internal lubricant and things get uncomfortable very quickly. I believe human arousal is actually water soluble? Not sure.
#ford pines x reader#stanford pines x reader#reader insert#nsfwsls#ford asks#asks#anon#anyway stinky ford nation up bigly in my books
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ā¤ļøāļø for the writing ask game??
Thank you for the ask!!!!! I'm gonna stick this in two posts, because I have many, many WIPs.
For ā¤ļø"what are your favorite scenes from your WIPs?" Here are three of my favorite scene fragments. It was difficult to restrict myself to three, so I focused on the scenes least likely to make it onto AO3.
fool me twice (which may never see the light of day...) (Warning for Referenced Child Abuse)
āTim, IāI donātāā
Timās heart sinks right down into his stomach. He can feel it there, bouncing against the fleshy walls and failing its desperate mission to keep a steady beat. The acidās eating away at the smooth muscle, burrowing into his heart and filtering into his blood vessels. Tim is burning. āYouāre right,ā he says, pulling his lips into an empty smile like heās on Joker venom. Tim clasps his hands together and lowers his head. āItās notāitās not a big deal, I shouldnāt have bothered you about this. I know youāre very busy.ā
Suddenly, the air is knocked out of his lungs as heās pulled into a hug. Tim is hyperaware of Dickās warm arms wrapping around him, holding him tightly like Dickās afraid Tim will disappear. āNo,ā Dick says. āNo, IāIāmĀ soĀ glad you told me about this, okay? You did the right thing. I justāā He steps back, holding Tim by the shoulders. Tim can see the tears pooling in Dickās eyes, the way his expression keeps shaking like his face isnāt sure which one to display. āTim, he already crossed that line.ā
āOkay,ā Tim whispers, and his heart returns to his chest but it canāt seem to beat right because everything just seems so quiet. Like the world is dulled, blunted. āShould I talk to him?ā
Dick bites his lip. āI donāt think itās safe for you to go there right now.ā
And Tim steps back, letting Dickās hands fall off his shoulders. āThis isnāt aboutĀ safety,ā Tim clarifies. āIām fine, Iām barely hurt, Iām not even hurt at all.ā
āOkay,ā Dick says, raising his hands placatingly,Ā patronizingly.
Tim takes another step back. āDonātĀ treat me like a child,ā he warns. āI came to you for advice, not because I was in danger, or, or scared or something!ā
āOkay,ā Dick says again.
This time, Tim takes a step forward. āIām Robin, Iāve been Robin for a year. Iām not one of your victims!ā
āOkay,ā Dick says, in that same infuriating tone and something justĀ burstsĀ inside of Tim.
Tim takes another step forward, clenches his fists, and screams right into Dickās face.
āSTOP SAYING THAT WORD!ā
Thereās the moment where Tim can feel his heart pounding against his ribcage and the sting of tears in his eyes and the strain in his clenched fists and the breath hot on his face andā
And then thereās the moment where panic shoots through him and Tim stumbles back, hands moving to a defensive position and his mind completely blank except for fear.
AndĀ thenĀ thereās the moment where the surroundings kick in and he realizes heās standing across from Dick and the manās hands arenāt anywhere near raised andā
Tim locks eyes with Dick.
āIām sorry,ā Dick whispers. āIām so sorry, Tim.ā
Tim looks down to his side. āItās not your fault.ā
Dick swallows. āIāll talk to him.ā
āI donāt think you can get him toāto not do that again. I already talked to him about it.ā
āThatās not what Iām going to say to him,ā Dick says. āHeās shown he canāt be trusted. Iāll tell him that youāre quitting and that youāre staying with me now. And if he doesnāt like it, Iāll just call the Justice League and heāll have to take it up with them.ā
āBatman needs a Robin.ā
āRobin needs to be safe.ā
From Better Than Batman
āDo you know how many assassinations the League does in a week?ā Tim asks, voice almost conversational. Jason knows better, though. Because the glint in Timās eyes from the Tower has returned, and he almost,Ā almostĀ looks like the boy in the Batman suit who attacked with the ruthlessness of Lady Shiva. āOn average, itās 23.42. I had access toĀ everything, and I did nothing.ā
And thatāJason laughs aloud with glee. āThatās just tooĀ perfect.ā He never wouldāve thought Tim had it in him. And he has the guts to callĀ JasonĀ a psychopath. āDoes Brucie know?ā
Instead of answering Jasonās question, Tim steps forward and poses a question of his own. āAre you better than Batman?ā
Jason meets his eyes. Itās strange, he realizes. He doesnāt think heās ever seen Tim without a mask. Not conscious, anyway. āYeah,ā he says.
Tim smirks. āThatās what youāre always saying. Well, here it is. Do what Batman never could.Ā Compromise. Youāre better than Batman?ā He leans in close, inches away. āProve it.ā
Of course. OfĀ courseĀ thatās what it comes down to. Because no matter what unhinged creature Red RobinĀ couldĀ be, heās still aĀ Robin. Still Batmanās protegee ātil the bitter end. And here he is, trying to convince Jason to abandon his morals and cower in fear of his former mentor.
In a sudden movement, Jason throws himself forward. The chains go taught, forcing the cuffs roughly against Jasonās wrists, but Timās flinch is worth it. Jason lets himself laugh, laugh like he did in the Tower, like he did when dragging Timās pulseless body through the caves.
Timās eyes flicker down to the folder that lies strewn on the floor, then back up to Jason. āThink about it,ā he says, and then turns tail and leaves.
Good riddance.
it beckons me to stay (Warning for Referenced Character Death)
Damian could phrase it like a proofāheād written plenty of those, before he dropped out of high school at sixteen (just like Timothy did, the first time Father died). All of his nightmares feature his family. In all of his nightmares, his family die. All of his dreams are nightmares. When Damian sleeps, he dreams. Therefore, Damian watches his family die every time he sleeps.
Tonight, it is Todd. Damian grabs Brownās hand and runs. He runs and he runs and he runs, but he always ends up in the same location.Ā Take it,Ā Brown says. Thereās a gun in his hand.Ā Ā
This isnāt real,Ā Damian tries to say, but his mouth wonāt move.Ā
Help me,Ā Todd screams, fingers wrapped around Gordonās throat.
Help me,Ā Gordon screams, as she tumbles to the ground, still.
Help me,Ā Brown screams, scrambling away from Damian.
Help me,Ā Damian screams, but the sound doesnāt come out. His finger twitches on the trigger.
When he wakes up, Todd is still dead.
Damian hadnāt had a choice, he tells himself. Todd was under the influence of a potent toxin with no antidote. He had already killed Gordon. HeĀ wouldĀ have killed Brown. He hadnāt had a choice.
Brown had promised to take the secret to the grave, and she had.Itās only Damian who knows, now, that he killed his brother.
#i love rambling#<- my ask game tag#asks#batman#dc#dc comics#dcu#batfamily#batfam#jason todd#tim drake#damian wayne#dick grayson#tim drake fanfiction#jason todd fanfiction#damian wayne fanfiction#fanfic#fanfiction#batman fanfic#batman fanfiction#dc fanfic#dc fanfiction#dccomics
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Hello!!
I really enjoy and look forward to your works!! I'm always excited when i get a notification of yours jaja.
My friend and I are planning on beginning a fanfiction of our own. I was wondering if you could give any tips on the writing process or maybe things you wish someone had told you when you had started.
I hope you're having a lovely day!!!!
Hello @frizzothehobbit thank you so, so much for the wonderful ask! I've been thinking about this, and I wanted to consider it properly before I answered, because there's so much to talk about regarding this subject. But I can't be thinking about this for all eternity, so here it is, my answer!
First off, I feel like a dinosaur because I started writing fanfiction more than 20 years ago... dear lord, I'm ancient! And if everything feels daunting when starting out, it's because it is! But it doesn't really have to be. Why, you ask? Because if you've decided to write fanfiction, there's already passion behind your intentions, and that is SO important! So, first off, and everybody's favourite:
WRITE WHAT YOU WANT!
Which is basically the same as saying: write for yourself. And as overused as this expression is, it's still true. Obviously we, authors, thrive on comments and feedback: it makes us grow! - And when I say this I'm not just talking about positive feedback, but constructive feedback! - But if you write what you want and love it, you're already halfway to writing a good story. Next:
INVEST SOME TIME IN YOUR STORY!
We, as authors, all wrote (and will write) drabbles at one time or another. Or mindless one-shots that we just needed to get out of our heads and onto the page. It's sooo valid. But my advice if you want to write a longer story: plan it! It helps avoid the 'oh-so-dreaded' plot holes (and this is actual advice I would have loved when I started... it would have saved me a lot of unfinished fics!) And of course, no two people plan the story the same way. I, for one, just think it through in my head (mostly in the shower, before falling asleep or doing mindless tasks such as cleaning), but I know other authors who plan every chapter and every step of the way so, here's another one:
FIND WHAT WORKS FOR YOU!
Be it in storytelling (first person, past tense, present tense, different POVs...), in planning (plan every single detail, just plan the direction of the story or don't plan at all...) or in deciding how much of a canon character are you willing to change. And this brings me to another point:
DON'T BE SCARED TO WRITE OUT OF CHARACTER!
Nobody is going to crucify you for that! It's fanfiction, people, it's not a history paper or a thesis. If you find yourself constantly thinking about this, you'll always doubt your work, so try to avoid dwelling on it, if possible.
CHECK FOR TYPOS
Mistakes are going to happen. You just can't avoid them. Unless you find yourself a Beta (and even then, it happens!). Typos, grammar and spelling mistakes fly by us authors when we're excited about our storytelling, so re-read what you wrote as many times as you want/need! I know I must have my fair share of mistakes (alas, I apologise for English not being my native language in every fiction I write), but I re-read my chapters a lot of times (I'm not even going to say how many - it's unhealthy!) and trust me, it shows if you don't give your story at least a good thorough read! Speaking of reading...
READ! READ! READ! READ A LOT!
Devour books, fanfiction, papers... whatever you can get your hands on. It's another clichƩ when it comes to writing tips, but it's overused for a reason. Reading a lot helps build a great vocabulary! And it helps you avoid annoying repetitions... Which brings me to another awesome tip:
USE A THESAURUS!
Suuuuuuuch a big help! Especialy when you're not a native speaker! Sometimes I find myself so stuck on a word that a thesaurus truly saves my life! Also:
DON'T BE AFRAID TO EDIT!
The scene isn't turning out the way you wanted it? CUT IT! It doesn't move the story forward? CUT IT! It doesn't fit the character? CUT IT! I've cut entire 1k+ scenes from some of my fanfictions because they made the story take a turn that I didn't like! Which brings me to another important tip:
LET THE CHARACTERS DO THEIR THING!
Sometimes your character just runs away from you and starts doing stupid shit. It's a known fact amongst all authors. Just let them be. Run with it. If the scene doesn't suit the story (say it with me...) CUT IT! But I've found so many times that the best plots in my stories come from characters who just decided they didn't give a flying f**k about me and went rogue! Last but not least (and because this is becoming a thesis in itself):
DON'T BE DISAPPOINTED!
Not all fics get comments. Not all fics get a lot of views. Not everyone who reads and likes, will comment. It's alright. We authors are used to it. And although it's a known fact that many authors have praise kinks (me included), and love to know people read and like their stories, don't expect too much and you won't be disappointed.
I really didn't want to end on that sad note, and maybe some people will disagree with me, but it's astounding how big the difference is between views and likes (or kudos on AO3) and comments. #CommentsMatter!
Also, and here's an extra:
DON'T COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS!
We all have favourite authors, and we all wish we could write like someone we idealize (Oh, Edgar Allan Poe, how I adore thee!), but it's not fair to compare yourself to another author. You're not more or less than another writer! YOU'RE YOU! And that's already awesome!
Oof... maybe I could have gone on longer than this... maybe I could've added more tips. But this is what I thought of, and I do hope you, and other people, find them somewhat helpful! Thank you again for the wonderful ask!
Love you! ā¤ļø
PS: Engage with the community! Not only is it heartwarming, comforting, and rewarding, but as a commenter myself, I love having little debates with authors about why they wrote a scene in a specific way, or what they have in mind for what's coming next! Whatever it is, I guarantee you'll have a good time!
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Personally, quitting was the best choice I think I could've made at that time. I made so many memories and connections that are extremely important to me afterwards- I likely would not have gotten to meet as many people as I have, go as many places, and try so many other things if I stayed. It was extremely freeing for me, but that was because I had over time started feeling tied down and restrained by staying. You seem quite happy to be in your position still, so naturally it'd be hard to imagine quitting! I do hope you keep enjoying it- and if there ever were to be a day you don't, well, there'd be no shame in leaving. Funnily enough, one of my closer friends these days is the man that replaced my spot in the League! Just another person I likely wouldn't have met if I'd never left! Oh Arc, I'm so glad I was already away from the league for a few years after I started talking about that choice to people, so the press was already long off my back. i'm inclined to think that would have been like a waking nightmare, especially the damn gossip magazines (which were torture enough as was). You have no idea how many times I'd get my friends and colleagues alike coming up to me showing me the latest one that was claiming I was dating a person that I did nothing but shake hands with. You know? Proper etiquette? Being friendly? Those don't exist to them, nope, anytime a woman interacts with a man they are 100% smooching when nobody's looking! Even though I couldn't be attracted to a man even if I tried, and I have, so I can say that with confidence! But of course being open about being lesbian would have made the press at least twenty times more annoying, so out of the question that was- only close friends and family knew for the longest time. Actually had no idea you were trans, so guess you're doing a pretty good job at keeping down low too! But I really do think it's so sad that being on the down low like that can just... make our lives so much easier. I wish I could've been more open about it when it mattered most. I had a few partners, but none of them lasted long at all. Even if gossip wasn't always threatening to snag me for anything and everything I did, it was just that much harder to be openly anything that wasn't straight when I was growing up than it is now. So I wasn't. I wish it'd been different, but I can't quite rewrite the past to be whatever i want it to be. I've considered dating again, but I'm old now. Doubt anyone'd want me anymore, and I've just... come to accept it, even if it does still hurt just a little when I think about what could've been... Ah, but anyways... I do think the idea of challenging her someday sounds awful fun! It's been a while since I last had a match, I do still enjoy doing them for some enjoyment when I've got myself a worthy enough opponent to properly let loose with. And yes, our gyms are open year round! ... Now anyways. Probably don't need to explain why we don't talk a lot about how the boss of Team Rocket used to run one of the gyms way back! Wish our staff was as extensive as yours is. ... Actually, more staff than just the five of us miiight have prevented the Team Rocket thing to begin with... Yikes. Does sound like a fascinating way to run things, though. Wish I could've given it a shot when I was young enough to be running between gyms and all that good stuff.
Oh yeah wait you're too old to know what inkay games is my bad
Oh, please, Iām only twenty-three.
[ heās not old. donāt make that mistake again. ]
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#pkmn irl#pokemon irl#rotomblr#[OOC] now the ālorelei denying herself the yuriā counter is at 3! oh girl how are you so bad at this already#and lowk this poor woman just straight up needs more friends her home has 19 residents & shes got 5-6 friends outside the sevii islands top#most of which literally just being other ice specialists š#but they fr are so wholesome i am smiling!
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i admit that i find it a little bit frustrating how Wildly Astonished other antizionist jews act when i tell them my israeli jewish family have lived in the region since [some unknown length of time before 1800 when there start being records about it]
#and then they're like ''ohhh they're mizrahi!'' [connotation nonwhiteā virtuously indigenous]#and i have to be like. no. it's just thatā as palestine was in fact ottoman-administered greater syria for most of the last 600 yearsā#you could get there from other parts of the ottoman empire. such as the part of now-ukraine your ashkenazi family is also from.#it wasn't actually a hermetically sealed arab-only ethnostate that evaporated immigrants on sight. it was a pretty decent place to live as#a jew by at least some accounts. or better than the front of the hapsburg-ottoman war anyway which is where they were coming from.#i'm not sure who you think it's serving exactly to believe that there were literally no ashkenazim in the middle east before the 1st aliyah#however there were some. and this information does not actually threaten a modern anti-state of israel position like at all.#but since apparently you've constructed your new Diaspora-Centric Identity around the idea that 'palestine' and 'diaspora'#are the two mutually exclusive nonoverlapping regions and the former is ontologically a no-european-jews-allowed zone#i guess i can give you a minute to try to figure it out.#ugh sorry this is nothing it isn't anything. for one thing it's fantastically unimportant#and for another thing i don't know how to like talk about it in a way that doesn't make me sound at least kind of like im trying to justify#myself as being somehow less complicit or something. i mean i think my complicity as an american dwarfs the rest of it honestly but.#i just feel really insanely alienated where the rhetoric of my theoretically most closely politically aligned group is not really built to#like. accommodate the facts of my family history.#sorry. i have honestly no idea why im so obsessed with articulating this concept ive just been chewing on it pointlessly for days#box opener
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anyone else feeling fundamentally incapable of adjusting to society. also just discovered there's a 30 tag limit which i can't believe i've never hit before
#like it was one thing when i was in high school and college like wasn't socialized as a child due to not receiving schooling and growing up#sda blah blah whatever but like i'm almost 27 and i am barely functioning lol like i feel like i'm struggling to have a normal conversation#even more than i used to and i think my speech cadence is noticably off which i don't think it always has been#some of it is definitely from chronic exhaustion from having to get up too early and the stress of having a frequently panic inducing boss#but like. come on now. i can't even drive despite finally having a license because i'm too scared/distractible/poor reaction time#over a dozen antidepressants have not worked. adderall is not working great either#i'm SO much dumber than i used to be and it's driving me quite literally insane#i don't even think it's from getting covid in july because i was noticing it before although it definitely became way more noticeable after#i got this job. i've never been this bad at a job in my life and it's something anyone who knows me would assume i'd be good at#it's embarrassing. i cannot fucking remember anything i struggle to do the most basic of arithmetic to fill prescriptions i make the same#silly mistakes multiple times i am constantly asking stupid questions and still somehow fucking up all the time#it's not as bad as it was a couple months ago and frankly i'm shocked i haven't gotten fired i keep thinking that's going to happen#of course i wanted to quit this job four months ago but now i'm at like a sunk cost fallacy point unfortunately#this is obviously not like any kind of career position for many reasons but i don't know what else to do unless i move across the country#again. i'm not even qualified for anything besides animal related things and summer camp which are fine obviously but not great if you want#things like benefits or paid leave or not to get burned out as hell lmao#i don't even feel like i could do any customer service jobs because i literally struggle to put a coherent sentence together on the spot#everything is so slow. soooo slow i'm literally losing my mind which is catastrophic because my mind is all i've ever had going for me#and i'm having kind of a horrible existence lately which is exacerbating all my problems except the problems make it mostly impossible to d#anything to fix it. ok going out and doing some fun stuff for a day makes me feel better that's great. except then i need a day after that#to recover from doing things the previous day. so the only feasible day for doing things would be saturday. except on saturdays i'm#recovering from working. i literally only work 4 days and barely over 30 hours it's Not that crazy. i mean the boss is crazy and the job ca#also be crazy obviously but 30 hours a week is minimal compared to other work schedules i've maintained before#anyway but the most i can do after work is go to the store if i need to but i almost never have energy for anything fun#and the fucking bus doesn't run on sundays and walking miles to get literally anywhere takes a lot of energy i don't have#i'm about to move next weekend and i'm dreading it because it's going to be so much work and i'm so fucking tired#and i don't have any friends to help me with cleaning i might be able to get help moving my stuff but i'm not even confident about that#i might have to rent a uhaul but i would honestly rather pay somebody to help because i'm that scared of driving even for one 30 min trip#whatever....sorry i had to feel bad for myself in the tumblr dot edu tags again i'm not in therapy rn#(<- guy who should be in therapy)
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#btw did an interesting exercise in acting class today which was meant to make us more aware of our main characteristics#which will be the ones that will inevitably come up in the characters we'll play#and potentially get us a job but anyway#we had to write down three things about each of us and anonymously give them to eachother#i was terrified#like ok i want to know in details what you think of me but my own image of myself is so evanescent that being perceived is scary af#the thing that came out the most is that I'm empathetic#which I honestly wish i were more. idk sometimes i feel like I'm faking it? not in a mean way just imagining what it would mean to be in#others' shoes and what would be the appropriate way to deal with that but not necessarily feeling it ik#which is basically fundamental for that job so mh. not completely true but ok#then that I'm brave??????? my siblings in christ I'm afraid of my own shadow#that I'm sure of myself?????#and then the one that hit me the most which said something like 'you make me want to be your friend' which is. ouch.#not for them but because i keep thinking and rethinking about that one classmate in high school that told me#'i don't want to be your friend because you're always sad'#and that hurt#and now this#i know I've changed#i met a high school teacher the other day and i realized how different i was since he knew me eight years ago#i know he was probably stunned by it#(also he told me i look prettier but I'm quite positive he was talking about me being anorexic in those days lmao)#tw#anyway point is. i wish 18 years old me would see me know#i think I'll do that exercise i did in class where i met my inner child but with my inner teenager#she was so alone and scared and everything was so unfair to her#i wish i could tell her hey one day a lot of people will love you even if you'll still feel alone sometimes but everyone will look at you#when they need a kind smile or a gentle hand and isn't that beautiful? to have such an impact to these people?#even because they're younger than me#and maybe they look at me and think it's gonna be ok when they're older#even if they feel a bit lost now
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been thinking that maybe i was right the first time when i identified as asexual back in the day
#it's also possible that something changed to make it no longer fit#and then a second thing changed and now it fits again#i don't think it matters so much to figure out which one it is#i know i feel positively about thinking of myself in this way. which makes me slightly concerned it's just wishful thinking#but even if it's not the most accurate way to label what's going on it still conveys something sincere and meaningful
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I wish I could handle myself in an argument without fucking crying
#My dad just got back from a like. educatorās conference on ai#and was like āwow itās just so amazing. I wish students didnāt use it to cheat but itās amazingā#and heās talking about how he would be fine to see art and writing and stuff created by ai if he couldnāt tell the different. and was like.#if you canāt tell why would you care? to me#and I was like ??? Because I want to see things created by my fellow man? because I want to see things created by passion and love#for the craft? because I want the stories I consume to benefit talented creators and not just big corporations?#Because I want people to being able to share their art with the world instead of it all being created by a computer trained on#nonconsenting parties??#and he was like āyknow you really shouldnāt position yourself so anti ai. youāre never gonna be able to get a job with that attitudeā#and Iām just like āI donāt want a job that uses ai as it currently stands? and unless this shit improves drastically I probably wonāt?ā#and he was like āwell youāre gonna fuck yourselfā and then went into this long metaphor and then said that this was just like how#I hate board games and that I shouldnāt commit so hard to my dislike of something bc Iāll be missing out#when thatās not even the fucking same thing! I wish I liked board games! I wish I could share in something that literally all of my friends#love and not be a fucking bummer at parties bc I either donāt play and look weird or I do play and feel like shit and probably act like#an ass! I wish I liked board games! I simply do not enjoy playing them! I find them stressful and unenjoyable!#I donāt like ai bc I donāt like the way itās trained! I donāt like the way companies are trying to use it! I donāt want to make or consume#things that were created by an algorithm when I have beautiful art and writing and creations by passionate people who I think should be pai#and at this point I start crying bc heās telling me Iām never gonna get a job bc god forbid I have some principles and keeps comparing it t#the board game thing which he already knows Iām fucking sensitive about!#and I have to run upstairs like a pussy bc I donāt wanna keep talking about it bc now Iām fucking crying#I hate how I canāt get even a little bit passionate without just getting emotional. I hate that I canāt handle myself#it sucks bc now Iām sure I just look like an idiot and my evening is ruined
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people acting like there isn't still very much an active stigma against cannibas and cannibas users is going to be my joker origin story
when i go to the doctor they still put cannibas use under the tab "substance abuse". not even just substance use. it is fully assumed that people who use cannabis, even as a prescription medication, are abusing it. just because you're friends with a couple of dumbass stoners doesn't mean that we've abandoned the idea as a culture that weed is a bad and scary and dangerous and highly addictive drug that will ruin your life if you use it once
#idk what its like in other countries but in the us and especially in red states fear mongering about weed is alive and well#'it ruins lives' -direct quote from a library board member making it so we can be fired for testing positive even w a prescription#i just take umbrage with posts about addiction that go out of their way to mention weed which we all learned in 6th grade is addictive#but dont also mention that this true of all prescription drugs and that a person can be dependant on a drug for health reasons???#yeah i get anxious and cant go a day without weed. because i use it to treat my anxiety and pain. i also get anxious without my wellbutrin#but people arent lining up to make posts about it?? and like you CAN obviously become addicted to prescription drugs its super common!#so i kind of feel like it would be far more useful to say 'this is true of ALL drugs. including weed caffeine and prescriptions'#you should always research ANY drug you take. prescription or not. find out about addictiveness + side effects + other drug interactions#and you should talk to someone if you feel anxious about your relationship to drugs. prescription or not#there have been many times where i was prescribed way too many drugs at once and it made me feel anxious and uncomfortable#so i talked to my doctors and consolidated several and it actually made them work a lot better#locked reblogs because i KNOW people are going to read this is 'so you should never ever talk about negative consequences of weed'#and im pretty sure the people who follow me will be able to understand thats obviously not what im saying#but as soon as it leaves my blog whos to say. but anyway like. I think we should talk more about addiction to all substances#and not just the ones that were already covered in DARE#I feel like at this point everybody has heard all of the negative possibilities with weed use at least once#and that's not necessarily true of caffeine and even like. benadryl lmfao#I might delete this in 10 minutes if I psych myself out akbdjznsjf
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boo hoo sad pity party posting hours LMAO but I rlly truly don't think I will ever be in another relationship again. I don't feel that I will every b desirable or deserving enough, and I don't feel like I will ever even b seen as a guy n idk. I just don't know.
#mayave its imposter syndrome maybe its internalized transphobia but i dont think any gay man would ever date me bc i dont thibk any of them#would thibk of me as a man. idk. maybe this will change once i start like. PHYICALLY transitioning but i rlly feel like theres no hope 4 me#i feel like i will always be thought of as a woman for the rest of my life i feel like i will never pass as anything but a woman i feel like#i dont have any positive qualities i don't like a single thing abt myself i dont thibk im capable of loving someone im so distant w everyone#im so scared of phyically and emotional intimacy i feel like a burden i dont even know how to act like a man and i KNOW that thst isnt a#fucking thing i KNOW theres no right way of being a man i know that logically but still the fact that i grew up isolated from men and#that i rarely interact w them even to this day i have no male friends no male role models nothing im so scared im gonna like.#break social rules n shit which is RIDICULOUS bc once again there's no right way to b a guy or to preform masculinity and also im so early#in my transition no one even knows im a guy anways. but also im worri3d bc of thst no one will ever seen me as one unless i start conforming#to traditional masculinity and i dont know now to emulate it bc ivenonly ever seen it from afar i dont actually know what guys talk about#howbthey act around eachother what is socially acceptable or not i dont have a clue bc i dont ever interact w men and its like. fucking#stupid of me to even want to know bc it shouldn't matter to me BUT IT DOES and it makes me so anxious that i do not know how to emulate it#even if i wanted to i wouldnt know how bc i grew up in a fucking cult and i know so little men and i have terrible social skills n i#probably have autism which just. everything is compounded upon eachother n i feel like im going crazy i dont think ill ever be enough.#I hope i'm in a better mental place when i start t but even that im so fucking bad at doing things bc i have executive dysfunction that like#i havent even started tbe process or called thr clinic im just likem fucking spiraling. I hope my mindset becomes healthier once I start.#anwyss lol. do u guys like me? bc i feel like im unbearable n im trying not to be let me know if u do or not so i can try to cahnge ^.^#šŖ½
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#idk it's just really frustrating to think that people will ALWAYS make allowances for people they're romantically in love with but#not make those same allowances for someone else they otherwise care about.#that people will risk things for their partners that they wouldn't for their friends#that it's EXPECTED for you to prioritize your spouse/significant other/etc. at all times but prioritizing your friend(s) is rarely even#considered. and when you're like me and you LITERALLY CANNOT DO THIS SHIT BY YOURSELF...#like I know I go on and on about marrying some theoretical woman all the time (and my ongoing...whatever this is. with Musician Guy)#but genuinely I'm not even sure that I want that I think I just want someone who will fucking visit me in the hospital if I get into a car#crash or fix me soup when I'm sick.#like...yeah. in that one story I wrote I think I distilled it down: we all just want someone to hold us when we're sad#and it SUCKS that the only avenue we seem to be allowed to pursue that is through a romantic relationship#right now I have my dad but if something happens to him...I genuinely do not know what I'm going to do. I'll have nowhere to go#if something terrible happens. I'll have no one to help me be a person. and I just. like I really am going to just have to power through#the next 60 years on this fucking planet alone and by god I'll fucking do it but I wish I didn't have to!!!!#and I think this was why the loss of Herā¢ friendship (which was necessary. for both of us) was so acutely painful. because even after#she got married she WAS willing to prioritize me when things got bad enough. she DID genuinely care about me in a way I don't think#anyone ever has. and I just really don't think I'll ever find that ever again. and I can't go back and I don't WANT to be with her anymore#but it was this time of the year when she told me she was getting married way back when and my brain has kept that like the World's Worst#Anniversary and all of those terrible ugly feelings are coming back in full force and I HATE that I'm still unpacking this I. HATE. that#this not-even-relationship is STILL doing this to me#WHAT THE FUCK!!! IS UP WITH THAT!!!!!!#*sigh* okay for REAL I am logging off right now because I've already said Too Many Embarrassing Personal Things about myself today#and I do not want to put myself in a position to say anymore!#In the Vents#GOD this is so stupid IT'S NOT LIKE SOMEBODY DIED WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS
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being the only fan of something is so great because i am the sole ruler of this kingdom. no one is around to tell me my headcanons suck or that all the characters are ooc
however it also sucks because i am the only fan. no one is around to support my headcanons or tell me they love my portrayal of the characters
#in a way i'm really glad there's no celceta fans. i don't think i could take meeting another person who knows the game#building your house out of donuts and all that#same with zestiria i'm very glad there's no one around to tell me how ooc sorey is in my mind palace or any of that#but god it would be nice to have a friend to bounce ideas off of once in a while. get some positive reinforcement in this echo chamber#of mine#altho the thing is i don't really have these kinds of elaborate aus and stories and headcanons for stuff with an actual fandom.#i love psychonauts with all my heart but the simple fact that there are other people who enjoy it just makes me feel shyer or smth#like i know that these people have played the games a million times more than i have and are a million times more obsessed with the charact#characters than i am so why should i bother developing my own headcanons abt these characters when there are people out there who do it muc#much better than i ever could. so why bother at all you know#that's why i tend to be a passive enjoyer of most things i care about on here#i'm not out here giving complex and unique takes on psychonauts or mario plots or characters#i'm just gonna enjoy what's presented to me by people who are cooler than me#and when i do have original thoughts it's only gonna be about stuff nobody else gives a flying fuck about. like tales or ys or tok#which is kind of sad! i'm not gonna lie!#but i guess i do this to myself huh. if i managed to find an ys fan they'd probably scare me out of my own theories#idk man. theres not really a solution is there#wyvern rambles
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