#i just wanted to say that i really love being a lesbian!

[genderqueerdykes]

what's your take on (usually cis but not always) lesbians not wanting to date bisexuals? I never really understood that. I feel like a lot of the reasoning presents as biphobic, plus most of the people I ask shoot me down and call me inherently lesbophobic for not understanding, so I'm not sure how to feel about it

it's really just bullshit and i'm glad you decided to ask!

this behavior definitely has its roots in lesbian separatism. there was a push in lesbian spaces in i want to say the late 80's to early 90's to remove anyone who wasn't a "Woman Loving Woman". they started kicking anyone out who associated with men at all. they also started kicking out butches who were "too butch", trans men, and any other men and mascs who may have attended the space. and they started inventing all kinds of weird words like Womyn and asserting that women and lesbians were superior to everyone else.

it got really out of control. during that time it was really common for lesbians to reject bisexual women, especially if they had ever slept with a man. for. whatever reason. i don't know if they think they get guy cooties by proxy or what, but they were so staunch about it that they would just. refuse to interact with you if you even had friends who were men. it got that bad. they were kicking out bisexual women and people because they were tainted now, or whatever. a bisexual woman was no longer pure or whatever the hell. lesbians and their partners had to be STRICTLY Womyn Loving Womyn or else they don't belong in lesbian spaces. they became SUPER pushy about it being for lesbians ONLY and NOT those "gross filthy bisexuals".

that's why we're seeing this now. we're seeing a resurgence of this rhetoric in real time. radfems are now what the lesbian separatists were back then. same group of people, different name. they change hats every few decades but their politics stay the same. it's dumb as bricks because if you ask me, you're not entitled to know who your partner has been with before they got together with you. you don't need to know that. and it doesn't change anything about you if your partner chooses to date or sleep with multiple genders. it's just petty. they would act like that person was a man now just because they associated with men and would treat them like an icky parasite. it's seriously just unreal how these people think and act. and it's still normalized in lesbian culture to this day

bisexuals can be in lesbian relationships. bisexuals can be lesbians. lesbians can date bisexuals. the world will not come grinding to a halt if a lesbian marries a woman who has slept with men. that doesn't make that person "tainted". people gotta stop with this weird culty bullshit. we're not treating people as individuals anymore. it's gross.

[joicecubes]

HEY!!!!! HEY YOU!! (sits you down to listen to me yap about my queer headcanons for gravity falls characters)

mabel - okay lets get her out of the way. this girl is queer as fuck. she may not realize it yet, but in her teenage years i know she’s experimented with every single label and microlabel in existence. she’d try out hundreds of neopronouns. she realizes her obsession with boys as a kid was a result of comphet. i don’t have a specific label for her because i think in the end she’d discover she can’t make herself identify with any one label. because she’s just mabel! unlabeled and proud.

dipper - do i even have to say it… he’s trans. i think every queer person in this fandom headcanons him to be trans. moving on

stanley - he’s kinda unlabeled too, but for a reason opposite to mabel’s. ladies, gentlemen, doesn’t matter to him! i think its fair to assume he grew up believing that being gay was wrong, it was the 60s and 70s and his dad’s a piece of shit, but as he traveled the country and met so many different people and then witnessed the times changing around him… he’d just. grow into his attraction for men. like, yeah i like men? so what? he doesn’t care for labels. “bisexual, mabel? pansexual? quit making up words!”

(more starting with stanford under the cut this is gonna be sorta long)

stanford - hehehheee okay this is my favorite. i’ve thought about his sexuality a lot. he’s definitely gay to me, and i don’t have much reasoning for that other than like… my heart is telling me that’s the right answer. but he’s also definitely on the aroace spectrum. i personally think he’s demi or grayromantic, he feels romantic attraction VERY rarely and its part of the reason why he felt so helpless in the dating department as a teenager, and also why as an adult later on he tells fiddleford he doesn’t understand romance. he’s hardly ever experienced it! and he wouldn’t really KNOW he identifies with those labels until he’s back in his dimension and mabel is in her obsessed-with-queer-microlabels phase. he hears mabel say “demiromantic” and, being the nerd he is, immediately wants to know what this new word means and why he’s never heard of it before. so mabel rolls a big-ass whiteboard in and starts Mabel’s Guide to the Aromantic Spectrum! ford learns something about himself that day.

fiddleford - HE’S GAY. he’s gay. he’s so gay. i know he canonically has a wife but he literally leaves emma may to work on this mysterious project with his best and only MALE friend from college like… BE so fr. he made ford TWO christmas gifts and forgot to get anything for his wife!! i imagine his marriage to emma may was more of a way for him to deny his sexuality and live what he believes to be a “normal” life. and that obviously doesnt excuse the neglect to his family (because what the fuck fiddleford) but its how i personally make sense of his behavior.

bill cipher - bill transcends human comprehension of gender and sexuality. bill is just bill. but in human terms he’s a lover of all genders. as long as he can manipulate them, they’re fair game! (sorry ford)

wendy - okayyy yesss i know i used the comphet excuse once with mabel but i’m using it again god dammit. with the way wendy talks about her past boyfriends and how we see her be so vaguely invested in her relationship with robbie, it makes me think she’s either a lesbian or somewhere on the aromantic spectrum. she’s just not super interested! but she gives guys chances because why the hell not and is never super into any of it, eventually they break up, and she moves on with her life. i imagine sometime after high school is when she reflects on that and thinks… huh. was i ever attracted to men at all?

soos - saving the most anticlimactic for last… soos is straight to me. but he’s an ENTHUSIASTIC ally :)

thanks for reading i really like overthinking the theoretical queer identities of my favorite characters have a nice day (and let me know if you’re headcanons differ i would love to hear what people think!!)

[bingbuang]

♡ Venture dating Headcanons + rambling ♡

Hello my rats <3 I'm gonna be rambling about smutty stuff, subby venture, that stuff, might be upsetting for some, so just be careful about what you read, and take care of yourselves!!! Love yall

So Sloan doesn't really date most of the time, but when they do, they have to be down BAD. Borderline simping bad. They'd do anything if you asked.

So. Many. Compliments. They give you so many compliments, hoping they might get some in return. They become slightly emotionally dependent, hoping for some praise. If they do get it, they're over the moon. If they don't, they're just awkwardly silent for a moment.

Venture doesn't realize how obvious it is when they like someone, and when they're confronted by it, they try to deny how obvious it was. (It doesn't work)

They are very affectionate with people, but especially with you. It's not too noticeable since they're very touchy-feely with everyone, *at first.*

What a casual side hug would be for someone else is now a full, tight front-to-front 10 second hug, and their face buried in the crook of your neck.

They will get lost staring at you, just mid conversation, and they space out looking at your beautiful face, and not even realize they're smiling until someone says something.

They randomly say the MOST romantic shit ever. "Y'know, you're the nicest person to talk to." Or "I wish I could talk to you for hours."

Sloan is a pretty tall person (Abt 6'), so sometimes they'll sneakily place your things on higher shelves so they can "help".

when they're invited to things, they immediately ask 'And Y/N? What about them? Are they going?' no hesitation. Their teammates think it's quite sweet.

To ask you out, which will probably take forever because sometimes THEY don't even realize they have a crush, they do it at an excavation site, because why wouldn't they? They'd wait until sunset, watching it with you, and quietly say they've liked you for a long time. "Wdym you already knew?"

They get kinda flustered about how you already knew because they do not do a good job at hiding it. Not that they'd want to, they're very open.

If you start dating, Sloan will be so happy. Then, their expectations of themselves go super high. They have to be clean, smell nice, be romantic 25/8, that stuff. They try to be seductive and dominant, but it does not work.

"Hey, uh, are you um, uh.. a.. uh.. cuz yk I'm gonna, uh.. I mean like.. you.. uh..."

They're very awkward. They're smart enough to understand sexual innuendo, they're 26 obv, but they can not handle it. Just a simple hand on the thigh makes them blush and quiet.

Please please please please tease them

Alr probably gonna get NSFW now so leave if you are a baby, you been warned

So I'm a big ass lesbian, and I don't have a specific code for venture and usually alternate between amab and afab, but I'll be doing afab for this one.

Sloan does not shave. Not their legs, their armpits, their pubes, they just don't. They don't like shaving, and think it's a waste of time. (Real tho)

They can be dominant or submissive depending on the situation. If you're teasing them and are sliding your hands under their clothes, it's unspoken that they'll be a sub. If you're acting needy, they'll be a dom. (I love subby venture)

they need your hands on their skin with a burning passion.

They love being pegged, it's their favorite. They'll suck it, put it in their ass, their pussy, they just need you in them.

You tried a collar and leash one time, and they *loved* it. They whimpered when you pulled on it, and got into a habit of asking for sex by giving you the collar and sitting next to you expectantly.

Again with the collar, they love pet names (puppy, baby, good boy) while using it. Sloan also loves it when you have the collar *juuuuust* a bit too tight. They also love it when you make them eat you out by pulling the leash until they're almost suffocating on you.

They've never really used sex toys before, so they're a bit surprised when you use a vibrator on them, but they're addicted within seconds.

It's easy to overstimulate them, and they love it. Beforehand, they take sure you both have a safe word, because Sloan keeps whining for you to "stop" when they don't mean it.

Please please please bite them. They love rough sex, being pinned down, being spanked(🤤), etc.

Again with the overstim kink, Sloan will request you set a timer for like 3-5 minutes where you fuck them as hard and rough as you want non-stop. (Your record for making them cum is 8 times in 5 minutes)

They are VERY vocal during sex. Straight up loud. They'll whimper and twitch, whining your name when they're close. The way their soft mewls then into breathy moans when you hit their g-spot.

They literally go cross-eyed if you fuck them hard enough, and WILL drool on the pillow.

That's all I can think of rn, feel free to message me, and/or drop your own Headcanons below! Love y'all! 🐀

[cute-firelight]

Not to sound crazy, but, when you are starting a relationship (and knowing that they probably have wanted this for a long time but were containing all of that…) For me this is actually so realistic, I’m not in a sapphic relationship, but, I mean, I get it…

I remember when I was just starting with my partner. Our history involved falling in love with other people and never feeling enough or corresponded. Having found each other meant a lot, and you just don’t care about those things at that moment. Our friends never let us alone in a room in those days, because yeah, we would have done something like this. So yes, Vi, I understand you.

Lesbians should be allowed to behave like cishet or like any other couples. Not saying that people that didn’t liked this is in the wrong or that is queerphobic or anything like that, you are allowed to see it in any way… but also, why not open ourselves to it?

All forms of love should be allowed to be realistic, messy, and raw. Because love and passion is like this; and no matter who we are we all feel that, or most of us feel it that way.

Also, they are about to die in a war, I mean, they know they could die tomorrow. So yeah, no time to lose. Is completely on spot. I get it girl.

Lastly, this is something I have commented before, but Vi being the one that decided to do it in the cell shows her embracing the worst part of her story and trauma and overcoming it and empowering that space for her. I really liked the scene in general, because it shows both love, desire and yearning.

Caitlyn earned it, because she finally showed Vi that he loved her no matter what she decided to do.

Because sometimes love n' lesbianism isn't demure and mindful soft pastel hairbrushing before ten minutes of verbally negotiated missionary fingering on freshly ironed sheets.

Sometimes it's passion. Sometimes it's carnal. Sometimes you love her enough to be so hungry you're reckless. Sometimes you love her so much that being with her would make anywhere seem beautiful. Sometimes you need her now, and that's all. Sometimes trying to anchor it to the *perfect* time and place would minimize what it is.

I mean are you trying to have a tea ceremony? Or are you trying to fuck yourself into the veins of the woman you need immediately and forever, right now, trying to pull her right through your skin and right down into your lungs and your bones?

I want that kind of want for you all, Tumblr lesbians, I want you to understand why it didn't matter to Caitlyn and Vi where the hell they were when the moment struck, and why it matters quite a bit that they didn't care.

Gotta stop trying to gentrify physical intimacy. It's messy! It's important that it's messy! It's grimy, sweaty, clumsy, unhygienic, and vital, and immediate, and invigorating, and euphoric, and precious, and real.

That's what it's about! About needing to be so close, so urgently, that nothing else matters except as another thing you now share. My grime and yours, my sweat and yours. My teeth on your skin, your fingernails in my flesh; our spit, our breath, our smell, how my body and yours are each learning each other as their own, by doing this to each other.

The fact that it's never going to be a perfectly polished ideal is part of all of it, it's a big part of the intimacy of it in the first place. If it can't be messy, it's not true.

[saiintofawe]

i love being a lesbian

[ohitslen]

Wolfwood from this beautiful fic by @flowercitti 💖🌸✨

Because him having moles did something to me so I just had to, and his hair also. He’s just. He’s so. When. Yeah.

Please have a look around their other works, they are all amazing! They’re all just chefs kiss 😩💖

[inact-ice]

henren are still together but most of their plots are about their kids or issues in their marriage. They did have the set up for an interesting plot involving a corrupt public official in season 8 but the show resolved it in a single episode. There problem is there's one other gay man on the show, Josh, but he doesn't get relationships or even much focus outside of his work so Tommy being written out is pretty much the death of rep for gay men who started the show because of bucktommy and because they saw themselves in Tommy.

Idk this is kind of weird to me, I’m a black nonbinary bisexual person, and there’s not a single black nonbinary bi person in the show (as far as I know idk again I’m only on the beginning of season 2). And I’m really happy with the queer representation on 9-1-1 for the most part? Even w/ the henren cheating arc (ugh) and even though I can’t 100% relate to any of the queer experiences on the show, a show having a main couple that’s unapologetically black and Lesbian, is still representation for the community and the loss of 1 gay white man doesn’t mean that we’re losing representation in my opinion.

Though again, I haven’t met Tommy yet so idk, maybe he’s way better written than Hen or Karen. Also, I feel like all of the couples on the show have had marriage or kid issues? Maybe that’s all HenRen becomes, but if that’s the case, why are people less angry about that than Tommy leaving? If 9-1-1 is fumbling this badly with like the only black lesbian couple as main characters representation on network tv, that’s kind of a big deal.

Idk I was just kinda side eyeing some of the comments I saw like this, it feels like people are saying that Tommy is more important and better representation than HenRen and it’s making all my fandom racism alarms go off, like again, maybe they totally fumble HenRen and Tommy is like a beautifully written gay character the likes of which we’ve never seen before, but the things people have been saying have been WEIRD!

Also I just met Josh! Does he really never get a boyfriend??? UGH! And I know Athena’s mean gay husband doesn’t show up in later seasons bc the actors anti mask allegedly too, so I do kinda understand the frustration! It’s just like, still weird. But when I get to season 8 in 2045 I’ll do like a whole fun analysis thing with bucktommy in mind.

[fishnanigans]

My post was not meant to say that people should care about how others perceive them. I was just pointing out how some lesbians see bi women as less to them bc they are bi. Although I wouldn't let it affect me if someone told me that irl and I'll just find someone that does accept my sexuality for who I am. That doesn't mean I don't get to voice my concern with the whole problem. This is also very much online (which I've shown pictures recently from radfems on Twitter) and can affect bi women when they are just starting to be bi women (or really at any stage). Obv we learn to just move on and find ppl that love us, but this experience is still a major part of being a bi women at this point. And I think we deserve a space to talk about it.

My intentions were not meant to be lesbophobic (bc i don't believe that lesbians inherently hate bi women out of biology or smth. Or that they don't have a right to be against some bi women that don't fit their life). I myself (as a febfem) get not wanting to be around much male centered people or male leaning people.

Although I agree with the video. I would argue that bi women don't feel less gay bc they aren't oppressed enough. They feel less gay bc lesbians and literally everyone always talks about how they aren't oppressed enough therefore not gay enough. Our feelings of not being gay enough are a reaction to yall telling us we aren't bc we have privileges.

Yall always blame bisexuals for valid feelings. Us expressing those feelings doesn't mean we are saying we are more oppressed or as oppressed. We just want yall to see us as equally gay and not just "half gay half straight" bullshit.

Why is it when bisexaul women speak on their issues and discrimination, yall like bringing up their privilege as if bi women haven't been acknowledging it for fucking years.

The amount of time I've seen bisexaul women having to state how they know they are privileged as a bisexual before speaking on their experiences or thoughts or feelings, just indicates how much ppl don't bother listening. Bi women are well aware and have always been of their privileges. That doesn't mean we don't deal with other shit too and have fucking feelings.

This shit never happens with bi men 🙄🙄

[butchladymaria]

[aishabellasbigblogofeverything]

No one:

Me whenever I see yet another blog I respect and admire make/reblog a post on how the lesbian/comphet masterdoc is biphobic/inaccurate:

[semidecentpoet]

Queer Christian "mini" ramble :P

I'm a nonbinary lesbian and a practicing Catholic Christian, and ik that Christianity has been and continues to be used as a justification for queerphobia (by people who have clearly never read a Bible smh), but that hasn't stopped me from thinking ab how even just the themes of faith and queerness collide and intersect and come together and shit in such,,,,, just,,,,, beautiful ways imo???

Even going beyond the whole "Love thy neighbor as thyself" and Jesus just being a Swell Guy—The Swell Guy—it can get really fucking interesting, especially considering the context of modern times (I'm a little coo-coo for literary analysis, so just allow me to get my energy out here lol)

Like, Isaiah 49:15 says, "Can a mother forget the baby at her breast and have no compassion on the child she has borne? Though she may forget, I will not forget you!" (wording varies based on the version of Bible, but you get the picture)

God is literally saying, "I love you even if your own mother doesn't," and somehow, in the context of so many queer kids getting kicked out/disowned by their parents—to the point where 28% of queer youth have experienced homelessness at some point in their lives as of 2021—too many fucking Christians think God hates gays??? Pick up the damn Book, bitches???

God is an ally, you fake motherfuckers. Leave Their kids alone, goddamn.

(As an aside, I don't want to make anyone feel like I'm pushing my faith onto them, especially when it comes from a religion and institution that has done a lot of fucking harm. I'm not trying to convert anyone—that would be a bitch move. I just get really excited about these two parts of my identity that are very important to me lol)

I feel like this adds up to the bigger point that God is all ab the OutcastsTM, those who mainstream society has marginalized and all that. Several examples from the Gospel to support this come to mind immediately, but listing them all would take a Hot Minute.

But this line from Isaiah is one I think ab a lot. In a text that relies heavily on parable—to the point where you'd think more Christians would understand what metaphors are by now—this line hits especially hard in the context of today bc it's something that literally happens frequently to a specific group of people.

It's eery, at the very least, how on-point it is.

To anyone that's read this far—not to be that cheesy Christian, but I'm gonna be that cheesy Christian—God loves you. Even if you're not religious or have a rocky relationship with religion, I want you to know that God loves you. I have textual evidence and everything. Take it or leave it, doesn't matter <3

At the very least, I, some okay-ish poet on Tumblr (who rarely posts any actual poetry lol), am in your corner. Should you ever need it <3

Ok, ramble over, go drink some water. Hydrate or die straight, you sexy bitches

[wis-art]

i thought lesbians would think I'm an imposter or something because i have a boyfriend and i dont exactly look like a girl most of the time, turns out they love me and support me and what i do and appreciate my art.

[canidbutch]

man. hear me out. i have to recollect this in great detail.

remember when teddy was resigning from grey sloan because she couldn't bear to work around owen while he was with cristina, but cristina was so in love with the way teddy was teaching her and finally someone was seeing her potential and treating her with the respect she deserved and truly SAW her for the magnificent and brilliant surgeon she could be, that cristina chased her down as she was leaving the hospital and was just desperately babbling at her like "what do you want? i can talk to the chief. do you want more money? we could get you a new cardiac unit! you could work with vets! what do you want?"

and teddy tried to cut her off like "no that isn't what this is about" and keep leaving but cristina just ran in front of her to break down and she's like "wait wait wait, no one, NO ONE has ever believed in me like this, okay? YOU believe in me more than I believe in me, i need that, i'm gonna DIE here without that!"

"cristina, it's more complicated than that--"

"okay, look, okay just tell me what you want and i'll make it happen--"

"i want owen!"

and before she even fully says his name. cristina is just shouting "fine! done! take him!"

and it's all happening as cosmic love by florence + the machine plays loudly in the background

in conclusion: lesbian cristina. i will, as i have said, commit seppuku on that hill.

[wizard-legs]

NEW AWESOME SHIRT made by Rebecca Kirby (reweki on instagram). Cannot wait to wear this out

[mokeonn]

Currently I have so many bg3 saves bc I refuse to delete my old ones that will likely never be finished (first ever gameplays, not optimized, everytime I open one I get overwhelmed and stop), but also because I keep making new games with the specific purpose of romancing a certain companion, seeing special dialog, doing a specific style of run, or getting an achievement on steam.

[cpyclopse]

I started crocheting and I made some gay flowers for my gay books!

Im about to rant about flowers and gay people so when youre done looking at my awsome flower book marks scroll if you dont wanna read like 4 paragraphs

So fun facts about these flowers in case you didn't already know!! As we all know some flowers mean different things (you can go deeper with floriography which is so neat) and they are just generally used in symbolism. We know lillies, specifically white ones, are used for funerals (at least in the west) and red Roses are for love we assign flowers and plants for roles often times by their looks, locations, and histories.

First we will talk about the Violet. So back in yee olden days in ancient Greece around 600-500 bce there was a poet named Sapho. She is important for a couple reasons 1) she was a woman and misogyny has been around since before Jesus (literally) ancient greece had some cool stuff and had some cool policies like that they (from what ive read) were pretty considerate of different religions even having some temples for immagrants for them to pray in but they also had stuff like slavery and generally hated women. And 2) she was the first ever documented woman who explicitly liked other women and wrote about it.

Sapho, being the pretty popular poet she was, made poems about her love of women and in one of them she talked about a beautiful woman wearing violets. That line is where we get the connection of violets to lesbians (and wlw people in general). People have refrenced her violets a lot in history some have also used diffrent purple flowers as well to show their love to other women.

Next we got the Pansy. This connection has been around for at least a little over a 100 years. Pansy has been used as an insult for queer men bc theyre delicate flowers and such and grrr flowers are feminine men are are big and strong hrumph. The term "pasny craze" was made in like the 20s bc queer people were really coming full swing well not really but more and more people knew of our existence and they weren't happy about it (shocker i know). To sum it up its more of a reclaiming something that was used against us there was even a bar named after the flower. To add on there is another flower used to represent gay men and this one was a bit more like flagging. This being the Carnation(my personal favorite flower) specifically the green one. The one and only *Oscar Wilde* wore one in his breast pocket which in turn trickled down to the every day gay mans consciousness.

Maybe we should think about flowers more i know i do. I cant grow a garden bc i dont like to go outside and bc the sun here is evil but someone should grow a gay garden for me. That would make you a real horticulture lad *ba dum tisk*

Bla bla bla rant info dumping all in all i crocheted gay flowers and put them in their respective gay books

- xoxo gossip girl