#i just feel like there’s no need to be passive aggressive and rude to ppl when it comes to literally altering files in ur computers yk

[zebrafiz]

i feel like some ppl in the sims community are so MEAN for no reason

[perenlop]

kinda insane how bigotry infects everything. i still dont feel good checking out the campus lgbt group despite being a senior now bc of the passive aggressive lesbophobia i got earlier

[icyy-hoon]

hi! im one of tama's friends and i saw that you "addresed" the thing about her being a minor and you hinted that she may have a bad influence at school or at home which i find kinda rude tbh and making a topic well known where a minor is included its kinda hypocrite too bc she already said that some people have attacked her in her inbox (which i have proof) and even emi (emisloves) herself has insulted her publicly by calling her slurs. i would be so grateful if you and the other people in enhablr that are interesed in the topic let it go for once.

not trying to be rude to you bc youre actually vv sweet but, how would you feel if people were in your inbox constantly asking your age (which they alr know) and leaving passive-aggressive asks?

all those people who find it weird enough to see a 15yo reading/writing smut should start taking a walk every morning or in their free time. yall do not know tama at all and how shes doing to be assuming she has some problems to be interacting with written smut, what yall should focus on should be on how not to expose a minor knowing damn well any kind of people are going to end in her blog and anything can happen.

hi there!

first of all, i apologize for saying she had a bad influence at school or at home; nevertheless i did not state that she does. I said maybe, and i'm simply assuming it because ppl are frequently impacted by what we can consider to be terrible things maybe at school, at home, or on social media.

secondly, abt the hypocrisy, i am just doing my job by addressing this matter as best as i can. As for those ppl, i can't stop them from doing that. If I really do take down the post related to this matter, some people would still come into her inbox, and send hate messages. I can say, that by taking down the post, it will reduce the number of hate messages she recieves, but what about emi's post? i believe emi has a lot of fans who will always check her acc and eventually, will see the posts related to tama there.

thirdly, i actually don't find it completely odd. maybe in 50% ? because i thought abt this : if they are 15 years old, and they interacted with nsfw stuffs, what's different when they're 18 years old later? Is it wrong if a 15 years old does it? and i observed a lot of opinions stating that's not good because they can't think clearly, or it can affects their lives. And i believe, they are overly concerned about the possibility of them falling into something unsuitable for their age such as s*x, is high.

fourthly, i'd like to apologize for anything i said, that may have affected some people, upset some people, or made some people think i was impolite. I'm really sorry; if i don't remove this post, people will send you negative and harsh messages, tama. I definitely need some time to think. But i believe tama is a strong girl, a strong person, and has changed. So, everyone out there, please stop sending her hate message since she' has quit writing smuts for now.

let me know what your opinions! should i remove the post? or keep it?

tagging some moots to help me decide :

@dollyhoon @amorek1m @yuvany @eunimaybe @regularsuh

@ikeuberri @chaconnenha @haerni @cupidriki @flwrstqr

@mioons @heeblurs @wonsprincess @kairoot @miumura

@sunrenity @kissofhoon @dollyrin @enhas-lvr

[aropride]

wrt that poll abt tone indicators thats going around.w ell first of all tbh i think some of the hatred for them comes from cringe culture. but second of all. some of the criticism is totally fair like there are a fuckton of tone indicators and sometimes . there really dont need to be. and the abbreviations can be confusing i try to type out ones that arent s srs or j. tho i feel like most of the newer ones were popularized on twt so itmakes sense they wouldnt be written all the way out

like i think my prolem is when theres SO many and theyre redundant. i found a carrd with a fuckton of them that im gonna comment on To entertain myself sorry

like these 3 all feel redundant .. why do u need a different tone tag for Mostly joking than Half joking ? or for a Coping joke ? just use /j or combine with with like, /neg or something to get the tone across yknow? and /ji - first of all looks like /ij (inside joke), second of all why not just use /j

and like. why half serious or mostly serious or not serious when /j or /hj exist ? why /ns when it looks so similar to /nsrs, which means the opposite ? ive been using /s since like 2015 and /srs since like 2018 so ivegot those down and dont confuse them but i see why could be for some one who hasnt used them b4, why make it more complicated?

i like /g or /gen in theory- ppl have said its confusing bc gen could be general which i get, but for ppl familiar w tone tags tend to know what it means. genq is one ive used just bc. its fun to type tbh. and i think ppl get what it means but its not really Necessary. BUt genep and genc feel unnecessary when /g and /srs exist, and /gene is just, a word. that's just a word ! 😭

ojh my god. i should do a tone indicator tier list

as you can see my adhd meds are working

/nbr is funny bc half the time when some1 says theyre not being rude they definitely are. also there's already /g /srs and /lh. /nm is either helpful or deeply confusing Bc i try to take it at face value but sometimes i see it and im like. Why would i be mad ? and i start overthinking. but thats a me problem

i like this one i use it when i complain a lot Bc i dont want ppl to think im vagueing them i just love complaining

i love these ones. tone indicators for Being Mean To Someone. dunno if its on this list but ive seen /pa and /sbh (/passive aggressive & /somebody here, respectively) which is SO funny. i dont think theyre helpful really though except /neg Bc again. these all mean very similar things !!! why not just clarify extra things with a parenthetical

THESE R ALL THE SAME TONE !!! why not jsut use one single tone indicator for this !!! or none at all and just type the word !!!

need /nfl on a shirt in the aro colors so poeple know im not fucking interested in them. that aside. 1. whywould u need this ever !!! why not use again just /j if necessary.and 2. isnt the nfl a football thing

these r similar but i do like them, i think typing out a whole word again is a better solution so u dont have to scavenge google for the meaning but i think its helpful to clarify this and isnt synonymous with /j or /s or /lh

i think these ones are almost all just from the op's discord server or w/e, i won't bash that cuz if it works for them it works, that being said i dont think This many tone indicators for these types of things r helpful outside of that specific context yknow? also, /fx is really funny

ok i wont say that typing tics dont exist bc tics can be complex and vary by situation etc so im sure they can, but is that happening That much that u need a tone tag for it ? and also like. for /unin just delete the msg or say "oops sent too early hang on" or smth.. and as for vocal stim. first of all why is it /vt ? and second of all . why ... would u need that to type out ? bc if ur vocal stimming that would be. out loud? i.e. not in a chat where youre typing ???????@????>?,//???? BAFFLING. also in what situation is /gib necessary i genuinely cant think of one

ANYWAY.

None of this is to rag on tone indicators (/genuine) i think they can be helpful + i am always being gensrs when i use them. i just think some r a little silly & a lot from longer lists are unhelpful Bc theyre supposed to make communication Easier and Clearer + haveing So many tone indicators with Different Implied Tones WITHIN the indicators !!! makes it harder imo. bc if theyre to clarify tone why should i have to fight for my life deciphering why someone went from /mj to /hj yknow.

like this is all my Opinion and imsure these r all helpful for Someone otherwise they wouldnt exist but i rly feel like the system could be condensed a bit yk.

do i have a system in mind to suggest here ? well.

(also. this whole post is /genuine, /lighthearted, /not upset, and /not passive aggressive. and a bit /silly)

[gorepill]

reguarding last rb I always find it sus af when someone makes a "fetishization" claim cause IS IT fetishization or is it just god damn attraction. Same thing with charicature claims!!! "This person drew a trans charicature" and you look at it's a trans man with breasts (some people look like that) or a trans woman with facial hair (some people just look like that) or a nonbinary person with blue hair (still shocked this is somehow a bad thing to some ppl. some people just look like that.) And listen!!! The thing is!!! Specifically abt the "charicature" thing. You are ALLOWED to be uncomfortable with it! I get it. Gender dysphoria is a bitch, and perhaps you're a trans man who can't handle seeing depicitions of trans men with breasts. That's okay. But that is 100 percent your issue. NOBODY should have to censor themselves for some stranger's comfort. "Don't draw trans men with large breasts!!!" "Drawing trans women with visible dick bulge feels fetishistic!" IT'S OKAY TO FEEL THAT WAY but if you try to force people to stop drawing them, you are actively trying to stop the normalization of people's bodies just. Existing. And being depicted. You can feel however you want abt depictions, you're allowed to be iffy about artists who draw these things! But don't make it other people's responsibility to cater to you are your sensibilities, ok? I hope this didn't come out sounding like passive aggressive or anything, cause I know people who CAN"T HANDLE these types of depictions! I know people whO LOVE these depictions! I know people who's gender dysphoria got EASIER TO MANAGE because of these depictions. I try to be understanding of every side here (not transphobes. please go find a pile of dog shit and shovel it down your mouths, cunts <3) so I need to be clear this is NOT AT ALL intended to be read as rude or anything. If anything comes across that way, I'm sorry, I ahve a habit of typing like a bastardbitchcunt

[rodolfoparras]

I just saw the post abt someone being disrespectful, dw I’m going to fight them for you🤺 like no one gets to act that way to my pookie Alec.

On a serious note tho, ppl need to learn to have basic manners, like honestly they could have asked it in a proper nicer way, there wasn’t any need to be so rude abt it, like they maybe were annoyed in that moment but still, like that’s no excuse.

-🐍

Hello sugar!! You’re so sweet thank you so much for defending me 😭🫶🏻 and yes I completely agree i just feel like ppl are either passive aggressive or just plain mean when a writer tags something wrong like I’m bound to sometimes mess up but my intention is never to cause any harm 🫶🏻

How are you sugar? How’s your day going 🫶🏻

[sabakos]

anon from before re: the invasive questions response thing. personally i would argue that making people feel a little ashamed for overstepping boundaries is not necessarily a bad thing. obviously dont be mean about it, but theres no way to enforce boundaries while guaranteeing you dont cause shame in anyone. there are always going to be ppl who feel ashamed and alienated by being told theyve overstepped. and imo that shame can be healthy, it teaches you where u need to improve.

but that aside, and i'm not trying to be snarky here, i'd be curious to know exactly what you suggest as an alternative response to let someone know the question theyve asked is inappropriate. one that wouldnt result in either a) a defensive response or b) making a genuine person feel ashamed. would you just outright say "thats an inappropriate question"? because ive tried that before and it usually results in the other person getting angry and defensive.

I think the best response is "I don't feel comfortable answering that" or "I would prefer not to answer that" or something of that form that 1) indicates that this is your preference and 2) doesn't require a response.

Since it's your preference not to answer that you have stated, and not a more abstract social norm, presumably the other person isn't a position to know it better than you and can't dispute it. This also gives them the opportunity to change the subject, whereas a question that seems to invite an answer almost provokes defensiveness and shamefulness.

If you were going to broach a topic like what questions are generally acceptable to ask any person, you would want likely to be more ambiguous. Even on a topic that seems black and white to you, it would often be more diplomatic to present it as open to debate or discussion, concede that some people might feel okay with some questions that others don't, etc. But this sort of ambiguity is working at cross-purposes to your original goal in this specific situation, which was to not have the person harass you and violate your boundaries.

So I don't think you can reliably go from "person wants to violate your personal boundary you've set" to "person realizes they shouldn't cross that boundary with anyone" in one short exchange. If you're too mean or passive aggressive about it there's a good chance they'll just think you're rude. And I think the risks are a lot lower by being polite - the worst case scenario is they annoy someone else with inappropriate questions in the future and get a similar response, which they were most likely going to do anyway if they decide you were rude.

Really the only scenario where I think it's less useful to try to be polite is when you can't be polite about it due to your own emotional state, and your only options are rudeness or... answering them. If you're in that sort of headspace, yeah, being rude or clapping back is better than answering. I will concede in general that you should set boundaries rudely if it's the only way you can bring yourself to do it. But otherwise being polite but firm is better.

[whatudowhennooneseesyou]

the fact there more than one person asking about your behavior but you treat like is one. also if the person said they don't want their name into this, is their right. you only keeping ask for a proof because people can't send images on anon mode, so you will KNOW who are the person. is a dirty estrategy, honestly. the proof is the way you react when someone disagree with you. babe wake up is not a yandere stalking you, is more than one person uncomfortable with your passive agressive posture. "i won that one"? wasn't you talking about that person's ego? but you're the one claiming a crown... Look, you need to lear how to deal with people with different opinions. when that anon told you RESPECTFULLY, that they feel unconfortable by the way you spoke, you only exploded with "steo back and that that that" but in any moment you thought about how you maybe spoke and made people uncomfortable. That's your problem, you don't recognize your wrongs and you acting like a queen claiming you won a thing, doesn't make you cool. Your followers are acting in the same toxic way as you. ofc if they like you they will defend, but defend doesn't mean you have to be blind to toxic and hurtful actions you do. more than one person tald you about this, i was quiet until now even i saw everything, but ruby, as a friend/person who likes you, take a look on your posts babe... is not the first time you are passive agressive with someone. I understand that i feel like you need to defend yourself, but please, consider thinking on your actions. the anon was wrong being rude with you but you were wrong too... please take care how you talk with people. you want that person to prove you their point of view, but they did it saying which post, but you react in a bad way? i mean, you're the one saying was a open place for open conversation, so why when someone disagree with you, you treat them like that? calm down and reflect a little because the anons aren't the only wrong here. please take care of you mental health and ignore hate comments. know that not everyone will agree with you and they will like to share their opinion. and also i understand why they came here as anons, since your followers did the exact thing one of the anons said.... at the end, just think a little, is a friendly tip, ok? take care xoxo ~🫐

Okay, I will answer this one more clearly and then I'm going to remove you from the anon list.

Firstly, they did NOT treat me with respect and secondly, they did not tell me WHY they felt I was uncomfortable and did not give me enough proof so I can work on myself.

How can I work on making things more comfortable if I don't know what part is making things uncomfortable.

I treated the person like that because they made a judgement towards me that was clearly misconstrued from the topic they were approaching me about.

They said I was manipulating ppl and persuading them into not nothing children when I didn't say that at all.

They said I shouldn't have added a taglist and forced people to respond which I did not, everyone who commented, commented out of freedom and with their personal opinion.

You're not offering me information into how I'm being passive aggressive, you're just making the same comment but you're not giving me examples to try and change it so I'm less passive aggressive.

They disagreed me with me rudely and in an attacking way, if you want me to respond to you with kindness than treat me with kindness.

And do say it's a dirty strategy where I never asked for PHOTOS, I asked for people to quote a few sentences w/o any sources included so I can understand their point of view and work on my communication.

I've said what I stated, please block me and do not talk to me again.

[dogsgone]

ooc/rules/cw

mun is kris. 24. they/them, anxious bastard lol

updated 7/3/23: the wrath month edition

the roulxs:

18+ only

minors and personals will be soft blocked. upon following again: hard block.

if you are a personal with an rp sideblog please make it clear on your blog or just tell me because otherwise you might get blocked.

minor MUSES are fine though

i read rules pages for every blog i follow that has one but i have a shit memory so if i accidentally breach one of your rules please let me know. or block me if it’s that egregious but please for the love of god do not publicly @ me who the fuck does that. do not make a callout post for me being forgetful like a fucking weirdo. if i breach a rule that is not on your rules page then i’m sorry, i’m not a mind reader.

on the “q slur:” i’ll do my best to tag is as “#q //” that’s q, two slashes. keep in mind i identify with that word, strongly. if it angers you that i would dare use a “"slur”“ to label myself or whatever, remember “gay” has seen just as much use as a slur. i grew up in the american south, i’ve heard both words used for the same harmful reasons. sorry if this comes off as angry or petty, but if you were continually told that “gay” is a slur and you shouldn’t use it for yourself, you’d be tired and angry too, wouldn’t you? i’ll do my best to tag for it, but i will die on this hill.

please tag spiders/scorpions/arachnids, hanging/nooses, and also maybe trypo/holes thanks

semi-selective i will roleplay with most fandoms, ocs, and muses also not moots exclusive.

please don’t like. involve me in drama or callouts or shit. i’m just here trying to play fucking online dolls

with the above said i do reserve the right to block/cease interacting with ppl who make me uncomfortable, just like you reserve the right to block/cease interacting with me if i make u uncomfortable. i prefer to try to come to some kind of understanding first, but sometimes it doesn’t work out that way

please note that i, the mun, am mentally ill and neurodivergent. in a lot of cases, my muses will share some of my own personal struggles to sort of like. explore these things myself and shit. link in particular shares a lot of my neurodivergencies and chronic pain. shit gets frustrating and sometimes roleplaying a tiny elf twink going thru the same shit helps a bit. u know how it is.

though link may act a bit naive and sometimes even childish, he is still very much an adult. not a “rule” exactly just something to keep in mind.

sorry if some of these seem overly detailed or serious. i’ve been around the block when it comes to rp tumblr i’m just trying to cover all my bases in at least a semi concise manner.

also sorry if any of this comes off as passive aggressive or rude. i can’t parse or regulate tone for shit like in an actual verbal conversation, trying to convey it thru text is damn near impossible for me lmao

i’m really just a tired nerd who is trying to have fun on this hellsite.

um that’s all i can think of for now may add or change more later thanks for reading have a great time

content warnings:

Content warnings for this blog include, but may not be limited to:

- Religious trauma

- Violence, death, etc.

- The inherent psychological torment that comes with being cursed to reincarnate forever and ever, only to be brought into the world when evil once again threatens to destroy everything, and having only a single use and purpose in life to the goddess one serves, that being the wielder of her sacred blade to seal away the evil once more, until it inevitably rears its ugly head again. I guess this goes under religious trauma.

- Mental illness and trauma in general.

- Lycanthropy.

That’s all I can think of for now; if more comes up, I’ll add to this list, and as always, if I’m unsure of anything, I will tag it with #ask to tag, so feel free to blacklist that tag if you need to.

[muttfangs]

BARKING INTO THE VOID: GIANT WALL OF TEXT EDITION

lol that transmasc feel when you talk to your supervisor about still getting used to passing as cis 99% of the time and trying to figure out tones that feel less triggering for people who are reactive to loud, masc voices due to my excitement from AuDHD being interpreted as anger due to volume and he says "I can understand how you feel, although I've never had that problem myself. I still get mistaken for a woman over the phone every day" passing as a cis man is one hell of a drug lol it's a double edged sword especially with my AuDHD bc I already have compulsive behavior issues with talking over people by accident / being loud, and having a low-toned voice allows me way more authority subconsciously to yell over people when I get excited and nobody stops me bc as a society we are hard-wired to let cis men talk over us (and this sucks bad and I hate it) a lot of animosity has been stirred up in my work environment between me and a couple coworkers bc they assumed I was cis and neurotypical. I am neither, and they read my gender presentation and AuDHD behaviors as "arrogant cis man condescends and talks over everybody" and uh. yeah. bad feels lol it makes me mad tho on a level bc like... I **HAVE** mentioned in staff meetings before like "hey I know I can come off as rude / aloof sometimes but please do not feel intimidated to approach me or tell me something's up" like... several times. I didn't want to reveal that I had autism / ADHD unless I had to bc I ***DETEST*** being treated like a child. ppl equate autism with like, being developmentally challenged oftentimes (in my experience). I'd rather be hated than be babied and treated like I'm incapable by people almost a decade younger than me, frankly lmaooooooo also. not for nothin but the coworkers who hate me also have a *HUGE* problem with effective communication. not trying to shift the blame here but that is definitely part of it. I've heard them!!!! talk shit!! out loud!!! to eachother!!! about other coworkers not handling cases the way they shouldve been handled and then they ***NEVER*** mention it in bin chat, or to the coworker lmao like!!!!! fuck off. I hate passive aggressive bullshit, it literally gets us nowhere just TELL PEOPLE. there's a way to tell people things directly without being an asshole, and I'm sick of younger ppl thinking that direct communication = anger or whatever. that's where a lot of their hatred for the way I operate comes from as well; I am a VERY direct person and it's interpreted as mean / rude like all the time holy shit I need to get "NOT TRYING TO BE MEAN IM AUTISTIC" tattooed across my fuckin forehead, apparently smfh

also unrelated; I can't tell if people aren't "into me" on dating apps or not?? is it because I'm an acquired taste visually and my personality is off-putting, or is it bc I'm so hot and cool and smart that they're intimidated to talk to me /hj this is why i really want to get off apps and talk to people irl!!!!!!! I can't "sense" a vibe thru text / pictures alone but I don't... know... where to meet cool local ppl to befriend and date :,) sorry I have a fat ass and an award winning personality, sheesh /s

[birdstooth]

Man…. I low key feel sorry for Six bc I’m also that person who doesn’t really “get it” when it comes to kids lol but he’s being passive aggressive about it instead of just clearly saying like, it’s a no for me dawg, so she can move on from him ���

Lmao when he didn’t want to feel the baby kicking tho like I’VE BEEN THERE BRO 😭😭😭 ppl are always emphasizing that u need to ask before u touch someone’s baby bump, but I feel like there needs to be some kind of polite way to say nty if u don’t want to??? Or is that straight up rude? Is it better to suck it up and just touch the tummy for a few sec? (omg when they put their hand over your hand tho, and like hold it over the stomach so u can feel the baby moving … sometimes it’s too much lmao I can’t😬)

I haven’t heard the name Rhett in a hot minute tho, like there’s the actor but then idk anyone else irl with that name. I like it tho haha it sounds old school but not in a pretentious way

For the what if asks: (I am not sure how spoilerly they can get so feel free to skip this) what if the reader didn’t have the miscarriage in You Were the One?

Ahh!!  I love this!  It definitely would change some things, but would it really change?  Or would it just change the process?

What If...He Deserved It

Summary:  Your baby was okay

Pairings:  Court Gentry X Reader, Lloyd Hansen X Reader

Rating:  mature

Warnings:  language, 18+ ONLY

Word Count:  2.1K

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Lloyd’s thumb runs over your hand.  Watching over you when you finally fell asleep.  It was good news.  He figured in time that he might be okay with the way things were going, but he also knew that you and Court did not need a child.  Court couldn’t even face you when he found out.  He ran to some other woman, when he should have been comforting you, or at the very least talking to you.

Lloyd looks over at your vitals, and they were steady, but he knew your heart was breaking.  He could see the careful veneer of trying to ignore the feelings that were starting to creep up towards him.  You loved Court, but you were falling for Lloyd, as was he.  There was something in those moments right before he left for the mission that Lloyd realized just how much he was falling.  He wanted you to wake up and realize Court was not only holding you back, but he didn’t value you.

He can hear Court’s voice before he sees him.  Leaning over to kiss your forehead, lingering his lips there a moment when you whimper, before he heads towards the door, “Move aside, Hansen, I need to…”

“Dani, you mind staying with her while I have a chat with Six here?” Dani gives a nod, and goes to sit beside you.  He looks over to Natasha, and shakes his head, “It’s best if maybe you went on home.”

“Don’t tell her what to do,” Court snaps at him.

“And don’t bring the woman you’ve been living with temporarily to your fiancé’s hospital bed.  She’s resting, and while she’s resting, you and I need to talk.”

“I’ll talk after I see my fiance, you asshole.”

“And I’m not asking, I’m telling you, we’re going to talk.  And if you could keep your fucking voice down.  This is the first time she’s slept in twenty-four hours.  Funny how it took you so long to get here.”

“I should go,” Nat says, looking at Lloyd with deep sadness.  She knew she should have done something more.  Begging Court to just go home didn't help.  “Nothing happened.”

“Did she tell you how he’s accusing her of sleeping with me?  Nothing had to happen.  He made his fucking choice, and it was you,” Lloyd grips Court’s shirt, and pulls him down the hallway.  Slamming his body up against the wall, glaring at him.

“What is your fucking problem?” Court screams at him.  His fists clutch tightly, trying not to swing at him.  “What.  Is.  Your.  Fucking.  Problem?”

“You!  You’re my fucking problem.  You parade that woman around the agency, saying my fiancé, my fiance, but you don’t even fucking care!  She told you she was pregnant, and what do you do?  You run to fucking Natasha’s house.”

“Fitzroy told me she was pregnant, not her.  And I needed to talk to someone.”

“Quit your fucking whining and talk to her!  That’s all she wants.  She wants you to talk to her.  And what did you do with Natasha?”

Court chuckles, shaking his head, “It’s not like that with me and Nat.”

“Do you realize how stupid you look? Accusing her of cheating, when it’s you running to another woman?”

“She runs to you!”

“When? On missions? That’s what partners do. I’m her partner because you pushed her away! Is it always someone else’s fault with you? I’ll admit, I think your fiancé is the most beautiful woman I’ve ever met, but I’ve never touched her like that. She needed you, Six. She needed you before she left for this mission, and she needed you today. I had to hold her hand, and she was so scared.  She kept crying that she was going to lose the baby, and it should have been you.”

“I didn’t ask for this. I didn’t want kids,” Lloyd rolls his eyes, shaking his head. “I didn’t.”

“What were you using as protection? The pull out method? Then you weren’t doing a good job of preventing kids. You need to wake up, and pay attention to your fucking fiancé, before you lose her forever.”

“To you? Is that a threat? I’m not scared of you. It’s my bed she sleeps in every night.”

“And before this mission, she was sleeping in the bed alone, while you were with Natasha. You’re pushing her. Pushing her away, and you’re about to push her off the ledge, and you’ll lose her forever. It was you she wanted, not me. She’s trying here. And she’s the only one. Tell her I’m going back home.”

“And Court,” Lloyd says, turning his body to look at the man who stands there, “You don’t deserve her. She will find someone who values her worth, if you can’t.”

Court lets those words sink in a moment. He never wanted a family. Never saw himself being a husband, and now here he was, and almost had everything he never wanted. Overwhelmed on what he should do, but one thing was certain, he didn’t want to have a life without you. 

He walks back into the room, and you give him a tearful smile, “Court,” you whisper.  Eyes bloodshot as he walks in the room.  Lloyd wasn’t with him, and it hurts to make this decision.  You had been overwhelmed on what to do, and you never once factored Lloyd into the picture.  Staring at Court makes this harder.  You don’t have the same feelings as when Lloyd was here.  “He’s okay.”

“He?” Court asks, walking closer over to you.  You give him a nod, and pull his hand over to your stomach.  He didn’t touch your belly like Lloyd did.  It was like he was hesitant to keep his hand there.  There was no warmth in the touch.

“Our son.  He’s okay.”

“A boy?” Finally, some emotion in Court’s face.  His lip trembles, before he gives you a cold kiss.  Even Lloyd’s forehead kisses felt better than that.  

“I want him, Court.  I’ve always wanted kids.  And this little boy is a piece of you.  I know what you said.  But I want him.  And I need you.  I need you to be all in.  Our son…he…h-h-he needs a mom and a dad,” Court nods his head a bit, but still there wasn’t this true excitement.  It felt like he was treating you and your son like a mission.  Get the information.  Do the mission until it’s complete.  

“Kids are a lifetime.”

“I know,” he didn’t.  He didn’t get it.  You want to give him the benefit of a doubt, because he was the baby’s father.  Father.  It’s laughable.  You didn’t want your child to have a father.  You wanted him to have a daddy.  Someone that was going to be affectionate, and always there for him.  Court couldn’t even bother to get here after he got the news.  Instead, he went in and finished the mission you and Lloyd had to abort.

“And I need honesty.  You…you left me,” he shakes his head no, but you didn’t want to hear an excuse.  “You did.  This relationship can’t work, unless you stay and talk.  You can’t run off when things get tough.  I’m your confidant.  Not Natasha, not Dani, not Fitzroy.”

“And Lloyd isn’t yours,” he was still in that mind frame of thinking.  You nod, agreeing to that.  “So we’re doing this?”

“We’re engaged aren’t we?”

You walk into Court’s office, your belly completely swollen.  There was no way that you could deny a pregnancy anymore.  “Court, are we ever going to talk about names?” He busies himself around his office, stuffing things into a bag, but he never looks towards you.  Your hand rubs over your bump, and your baby boy gives your hand a little kick.  

“Court,” you giggle.  Looking up at him, but now he was looking at something on his computer.  “Court, he’s kicking.”

“That’s nice,” he had promised things would be different.  Promised that he was going to be all in with this pregnancy.  “Hey, I gotta go on a mission,” finally, he walks towards your direction, stopping in front of you, but he caresses your arm.

“Touch him.”

“That’s your stomach.”

“He’s kicking, and moving.  You can feel him,” you stare up at him, vision blurry with tears, “Please, touch him,” with an annoyed sigh, he drops his bag, and places his hand over your stomach.  “Feel him?  He’s right there.”

“Yeah.  That’s kinda weird.”

“That’s your son,” you hated him.  This was supposed to be a happy time.  And you hated him.  Withdrawn from you, and even more so from his son.  “You don’t even want to name him.”

“You’ll name him something perfect,” Court knows he had no business getting engaged to you, even less with having a child.  It was easier for him to just ignore that you were growing a baby.  Until you had popped out.  Sex wasn’t the same.  He couldn’t enjoy it, and just look at your face, because now there was this thing in his way.  It was more of a reality of how bad that Court Gentry screwed up.

“Be careful on your mission, Six.”

“Yeah, I always am.  I’ll see you when I get back,” his kisses were distant.  It was like something he was forcing himself to do.  Leaving with barely a bye, you twist your ring around your finger.  Holding your hand out, you scoff.  Taking the stupid thing off and putting it in his top desk drawer before you walk out.  

Holding in your tears as much as possible.  You were leaving.  You couldn’t be around Court everyday, and he was so cold to someone he claimed to love.  He didn’t sleep with his arm around you anymore.  His body was turned the other way.  If your bump touched him in his sleep, he made an excuse to go use the bathroom.  It was like he waited until you were turned the other way before coming back.  He hated his son, and you hated him.  Your son was perfect.  Growing every day.

“Hey, hey, hey,” Lloyd runs to catch up to you, “Where are you going so fast?”

“I’m leaving.”

“Why?” He spins you around to look at him, and wipes away the steady cascade of tears.  “Honey, why?”

“I can’t be here anymore,” his hands coast down your arms, until meeting at your hands.  Running his thumb across your knuckles, he looks down to see your naked finger.  “Lloyd, I gotta go.”

“You remember what I offered you?” 

“What?” 

His hand presses over your stomach, and he gives you the prettiest smile when the baby kicks at him.  Looking down from your face, to your belly, “Well, hello to you, too.  What have you decided to name him?” 

“I don’t know.  I was thinking of Henry or Rhett.”

“Eh, we can think of something.  My offer still stands.  I’ll raise this baby with you.  You’re not married.  Judging by your finger, you’re not together.  I know he’s always going to be Court’s son.  But his mama doesn’t have to be miserable, Honey.  I love you, and that’s past my love and respect for you as my partner, and I think you know that.  I won't pressure you.  I won’t beg you.  But a happy mama makes for a happy baby,” with a kiss to your forehead, his lips lingering, he leans over to press a soft kiss over your belly before turning to leave.

“Lloyd?”

“Hmm?”

“Can you help me move mine and the baby’s stuff out of Court’s?” 

“Let’s go.  He’ll be on a mission for a while.”

Staying with Court was the hardest decision you had ever had to make.  Leaving for yourself and your baby was easy.  Lloyd was a lot of things.  But he did love you and your unborn child.  Was willing to put himself into a war that didn’t concern him because he wanted you and your son to be safe and happy.  

Court was most definitely going to get mad at the shot to his ego.  But you doubted it was because he wouldn’t get to see his son as much as he would like to.  You just doubted anything concerning Court anymore.  He had checked out a long time ago, and you had finally accepted that.  Was now checking out for yourself, but also for your son.

“I really like the name Rhett.”

“Yeah, but Rhett Lloyd doesn’t sound good.”

“I wasn’t going to name the baby after you.”

“Lloyd is a strong and powerful name.  Ooh!  How about Floyd.  Lloyd and Floyd.”

“Absolutely not.”

“Fine.  Rhett Hansen Gentry.”

“You just want to piss Court off, huh?”

“Yeah, my goal is now just to piss him.  He deserves it.”

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[toytulini]

One day i will make my hot take post about how picky eaters deserve so much better but my brain is not there yet

[ferie-anon]

🌱🌼Rating moon signs (from my experience)🌼🌱

🌱Fyi, my take on each moon sign from my impressions and experience, doesn’t define everyone with the specific moon sign🌱

💥Aries moons💥 : 6.7/10

I have to be honest... I’ve never met an aries moon LMAO. It is hard to believe considering my libra stellium lol but none of my friend group has aries moon. I do know a friend who has a sibling with aries moon. My impressions are that theyre fun and have their iconic moments.They won’t hesitate to fight or call out ppl, they would fight for their friends if they got disrespected and themselves. Altho from wut I see they seem sensitive and if someone gets on their nerves or feelings, they could be passive aggressive or make rude comments towards them. They seem a bit too firey - they can’t control wut they say at times, and it may be hard to vibe or understand their flow at times. They embody their feelings a lot, and especially when its anger, as aries is a fire sign, having it in moon would make them lash out at times and it may seem unreasonable to others. They’re always on the go in some way, like they’re chilling but the next thing they decide to go shopping with friends lol. A chill to no chill fiesty softie. They’re just not my vibe at times tho.

🪴Taurus moons🪴 : 8.5/10

These individuals are very grounded and in tune with their thoughts and emotions. These people are often loyal to their friends and protective of them as well. They are very easy to talk to and provide a safe space or a comforting space because moon is exalted in taurus. They’re caring and soft individuals at the same time, they like nature and prefer cozy fitted clothing. They give me calm plant mom friend vibes, and are reliable to their loved ones. The type to help you with your homework, or to offer support when you need it the most. I’d say one bad side of taurus is that they tend to be stubborn of their values and nothing can change their principles or mind. They can also tend to stick to their comfort zone and not branch out to new things or opportunities sometimes, but its not a major problem.

🦜Gemini moons🦜 : 7.3/10

Very smart in terms of intaking info and utilizing it, but also becuz of how much random info they take in, they could lose track of some. Easily gets bored of some hobbies or topics, which is why they delve into many to satiate their curiosity and interest. A good learner in school, but may have a hard time focusing if overwhelmed with many information. May struggle with organizing their thoughts at times. Understands concepts and ideas easily. Not very emotional or “grounded” in terms of their emotions becuz they may not like talking or delving deep into their emotions. They don’t show their vulnerable side unless to close close friends. Sensitive at heart but also doesn’t show it, often showing a detached “cheerful” impression. They’re bright people and interested in philosophical and deeper concepts/questions of the world. Though, they’re less vocal about their emotions a lot and I like to talk about my emotions lol.

🦢Cancer moons🦢 : 8/10

Cancer moons are very in tune with their emotions and understanding other ppl’s emotions. They often give clarity or comfort to other ppl when theyre in emotional turmoil, they’re great with supporting and gauging situations - very emotionally perceptive and socially perceptive. Because they’re in tune with their thoughts and emotions in general, their actions are reasonable and considerate. Based on some of my impressions, they’re like the most levelheaded water moon sign and have good judgement, they know how to act and interpret their emotions, know how to read situations and wut to say in them. Cancer moons are able to relate to ppl, able to talk them and make them welcome - validated of their emotions and feelings. As they are a cardinal sign in the moon (cancer is a cardinal sign), they know how to push ppl to be the best version of themselves and motivate them positively. Cancer moons would probably give great hugs/love cuddles, and would probably like to bake/cook for other ppl or close friends. They are sensitive though, and if the placement is underdeveloped/not matured - then they can’t interpret nor handle their emotions well, and may lead to projecting or lashing it out to others at times.

⚜️Leo moons⚜️ : 8/10

Leo moons are very empathetic and sweet - helpful and funny with their dramatic responses. They tend to get insecure or sad at times but dont show it openly - they’ll mention it at times secretly or drop hints but wont elaborate (they also mask it thru humor or in a dramatic funny tone). Leo moons can come off as selfish or insensitive at times when they place their own priority and feelings on the line. Leo moons mean well but they tend to sound manipulative at times becuz of their intentions and way of doing things. However most of the time they’re great supportive and protective friends and will be there for you when you rant emotionally etc. I love being near leo moons becuz of their warm energy and vibe. Their humor and vibes are very life of the party, but they’re also friendly and personable that way.

🌱Virgo moons🌱 : 8/10

Quiet but their mind isnt quiet once you get to know them — they’re very responsive/receptive to others verbally and mentally. Expresses their many interests in books, comics, shows, and music. They have many hobbies as well but are more consistent in doing them. They like to feel productive or keep themselves busy doing something they like, or listening to music when they’re bored. Helpful,thoughtful, and generous, they like to help people and a reliable friend as well. Clingy individuals ngl, but quiet clingy individuals to their close ones. Rather not physically expressive, but very verbally expressive and are sensitive people. They may analyze or overthink their emotions and thoughts. Also secretly nervous/worry if they arent prepared or don’t know wut to do in a situation. Becuz this is the same moon sign as mine, I share a lot of similarities and is able to flow with them when interacting.

🕊Libra moons🕊 : 7.4/10

Libra moons are peaceful and logical. They recognize patterns, weighing pros and cons (both perspectives), and make great decisions for their friends. However when it comes to themselves, they can’t make a clear decision as they don’t know clearly wut they want and they can see a lot of benefits of each type of decision for themselves (which makes them indecisive and don’t know which to choose). Libra moons can be cunning/sly, because they know wut other ppl think/act - sometimes they’ll say/do things that please other ppl. Also they don’t like to stand out/be bold, which can make it surprising when you find out they’re capable of being very keen and planning all these things behind the scenes. I’d say its always very fun and interesting to hear wut a libra moon has to say becuz they’re very sassy/witty, but with class and being calm. These ppl generally are calm till theyre faced with an inner conflict or stressful conflict - it’ll take an physical and mental toll at time as they like things to be clearly solved and peaceful. Libra moons aren’t the most emotionally open, they tend to brush it off at times but then still feel anxious after when they’re in an emotional conflict. When I go to talk to my libra moon friends at times, they don’t provide a lot of emotional verbal comfort or insight, they’l probably tell you to rest, stop worrying, or reassure it’ll be fine.

☂️Scorpio moons☂️ : 5.4/10

Never met a scorpio moon in person, but these individuals seem very magnetic or intense. They are similar to virgo moons in my opinion but embody more of an intensified version. They are analytical or good at reading others and being receptive to their emotions. They also tend to analyze emotions and thoughts but are more emotional and may feel it more turbulently than virgo moons. Loyal and protective of their loved ones, they like to be near their friends and loved ones. Undeveloped scorpio moons may project off of others or be petty. Scorpio moons can be critical or know wut words to use to cut wounds, so don’t anger a scorpio moon lol. They’re also a bit more reserved in nature, quietly observing or having headphones on.

🏃‍♀️Sag moons🏃‍♀️ : 6.9/10

Sag moons are fierce, they wont let others put down their thoughts and expression, restrict their ideas, and will fight if others insult their friend group. However, they also tend to be hot n cold when it comes to their vulnerable sides. Sag moons can be flighty with confronting their feelings and problems at times this can manifest physically, sometimes ghosting ppl on text, or just spending their time doing other stuff unintentionally avoiding ppl in the process. Sag moons are complex, they can be insightful to everything but their own self and when theyre confused - they tend to run or make a decision that confuses their friends when they try to reach out to them (sag moons can be seen as insensitive/hot and cold at times like these) I will say tho that I love talking to sag moons and they will always compliment and show support/appreciation to their friends - sag moons will be optimistic/insightful to other ppl’s feelings and problems... but themselves 😅

🌿Capricorn moons🌿 : 6.2/10

These individuals are concise and like to be direct, though this can make them picky and get irritated easily at times. They don’t small talk sometimes and could be dry texters. They’re reliable and understanding, can take care or provide materialistically for people. People value their experiences and opinions, as well as capricorn moons do care about other ppl’s thoughts and opinions more than they let on. They’re responsible individuals. They can be non confrontational though, towards their emotions or when conflict occurs. Becuz they tend to be logical, they don’t tend to be understanding when communicating the problem out and may blame the person and move on. Also becuz of the practicality of the earth sign capricorn into moon, they tend to be more logical with their approaches to emotions and situations and sometimes it leads to them being inflexible and avoiding as their “logical solution”. Capricorn moons are great if you need to make a decision or ask for their advice, they’re direct and concise with their opinions. They are usually chill, loyal, and grounded friends. 🤣🦆🌱

🐬Aquarius moons🐬 : 6.5/10

They might be the least compatible air moon sign towards me, just cuz their attitude and vibes are very airy and detached. They tend to be aloof and in their head, its hard to read their thoughts at times. They’re chill and friendly or funny - has a relatable vibe which I see aquarius moons being popular with a lot of people/having friends. They seem very nonjudging, but can also have their own strong unchanging opinions. The undeveloped ones could have a god-complex. They are independent individuals, and often emotionally detach from things they don’t care about or has no purpose towards something. They’re not receptive to others all the time, like if they have no similarities with u or no interest - might not focus their attention on u a lot. They like to have chill fun, and theyre independent and mentally willful individuals, just a bit different vibe.

🐥Pisces moons🐥 : 7.5/10

Pisces moons are quite empathetic and clingy people. They get attached easily to their friends and loved ones. Very giving and generous, but also sensitive. From the ones I meet, they may be easily offended by something and sometimes don’t confront (they don’t like confrontation). Sometimes they resort to discreetly beefing with you and it leave you confused, may ghost or cut u off unexpectedly then come back to explain. They’re very clingy and like to express their emotions a lot - talk a lot to close friends etc. The undeveloped ones could have a tendency to be codependent. Pisces moon people are sweet and relatable people, willing to talk ab their emotions and any interests with u. More open and flexible with emotions and other people’s emotions and feelings, a great shoulder to cry on that may likely lead to pisces moon individual also crying becuz of seeing their friend sad. I’d say its easy to befriend a pisces moon, tho their sensitive times can be a rocky wave.

[baddiedaddy7]

💚🐸𝙈𝙚𝙧𝙘𝙪𝙧𝙮 𝙎𝙞𝙜𝙣𝙨🐸💚

𝗔𝗿𝗶𝗲𝘀

attention span is not long. may ditch old ideas, if they get bored, or find something more interesting. HAS to win an argument. may think being the louder one during an argument is the way to win lmao. talks in a dynamic way. argumentive. may make a good public speaker. may text too fast, and mess up on a few words. communication style is aggressive(always has to be right, loud, might scapegoat, etc). humor may be childish(fart jokes, butt jokes, burp jokes, just dumb shit in general lol), or humor that involves getting injured(hitting your head on something, tripping, etc). slapstick humor

��𝗮𝘂𝗿𝘂𝘀

great attention span, but may be a slow learner or talker. talks with stability/most likely doesn’t stutter. doesn’t mind staying on the same topic/not changing the subject. like aries, in an argument they will rarely admit they were wrong, hard-headed. arguing with these ppl are the worst, since they don’t allow others to have opinions which is annoying asf(my sister has this lmao, and i have a taurus mars, so you could imagine💀). your mind rarely changes, once made up. not the most open minded. talks with practicality. may type slow tbh lmao, and dry. may also take a century to reply. communication style may be passive aggressive(may not like being straightforward, “i didn’t think you’d pass this class, but good job”, etc) humor may be well written skits, or roasts.

𝗚𝗲𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗶

attention span is fleeting. curious about numerous of things. may stutter thanks to gemini jittery energy. rarely turns down a debate, might even lie in a disagreement to win😃. first to speak if it’s too quiet for too long. type of person to have random knowledge or may know fun facts. talks with wit. types fast, replies fast, just very active on social media. meme user. sends messages in short patches instead of just one big paragraph. communication style is passive aggressive(may mumble under breath, etc). humor may be random. may love puns.

𝗖𝗮𝗻𝗰𝗲𝗿

attention span is good, esp if it’s topics they feel with. may be bias in an argument between other ppl😬. may want to “hug” it out lmao. may like to talk abt emotional topics. talks with care. probably uses emojis a lot. writes paragraphs/in long sentences. communication style varies tbh😭. i’m just gonna do passive-aggressive(backhanded compliments, talks behind your back instead of confronting you) or assertive(expressing your wants and needs, while considering others feelings). inside jokes are your thing, goofy asf with ppl you’re comfortable with. dry humor

𝗟𝗲𝗼

attention span may be short lived. may only talk abt themselves which can be annoying💀. believe it or not, they may take a calm/chill approach in an argument. overdramatic in their speech. talks with confidence. keeps the conversation interesting/not dry. initiator in group chats. usually replies fast. communication style is assertive(uses “i”, knows their worth, etc). playful name calling is their type of humor.

𝗩𝗶𝗿𝗴𝗼

attention span may not be that good tbh(like their opposite sign, they daydream off into the distance). talks with practicality. make sure to fact check, when arguing with these ppl, or they may verbally violate you. very nit picky ppl, and may be big complainers. may abbreviate a lot of words lmao. another dry texting placement, and rarely uses emojis. communication style is passive aggressive(throws shade lmao, may like to just go with the flow, etc). may make fun of yourself to get laughs. might like humor that criticizes/makes fun of things/ppl in general. their humor has some truth to it😓.

𝗟𝗶𝗯𝗿𝗮

attention span is usually good. easy going in speech. talks with equality. can also be charismatic. may ppl please. in arguments, they can try to compromise, and fix everything, even when it’s unfixable. dislikes conflict, and may need to learn to embrace them. may dislike ppl that curse a lot, or are loud. the way you text may be unclear to some. also texting isn’t direct, and may use things like “k” or “nice”. communication style is passive(lacks eye contact, doesn’t want any conflict even though they feel some type of way, etc). another placement that likes well written jokes, and may have a strong dislike for dark/inappropriate humor lol.

𝗦𝗰𝗼𝗿𝗽𝗶𝗼

attention span is attentive. you’re not easy to read, and it can take time to truly know you. you may over analyze and get suspicious over the dumbest things. observant, and might be into psychology. in arguments, doesn’t tolerate dumb shit. can be a bit of a ghost when it comes to texting. tries to get in your business and asks random shit. might not text too much info, since they don’t want ppl to screenshot the chat lmao. assertive is your communication style(considers others feelings, uses “i”, etc) or aggressive(yells, tries to intimidate you, etc). humor may be dark, offensive, and/or taboo/inappropriate. sexual jokes.

𝗦𝗮𝗴𝗶𝘁𝘁𝗮𝗿𝗶𝘂𝘀

attention span is actually good, if they’re interested, if not then it’s non existent. either rlly open or rlly closed minded. you may mistake being blunt for being honest or some ppl may mistake your realness for being rude. talks with rowdiness. in arguments, may be hostile. uses “:), </3” instead of “😃💔” in text. but then again, may use actual emojis a bit. communication style is aggressive(loud, doesn’t consider others feelings, etc). humor may be mocking accents, sarcasm, and/or satire.

𝗖𝗮𝗽𝗿𝗶𝗰𝗼𝗿𝗻

attention span is short, if what you’re talking abt isn’t important to us. fluent in atleast 2 languages, which are sarcasm, and facts. we don’t have time or patience for ignorance. we may come off as standoffish, when in reality we just stick to ourselves or we’re just too honest. talks with common sense. talking is soothing, atleast i’ve been told. i feel like we use facts in an argument more than emotions, but me personally i try to include both(this is my placement :)). probably doesn’t use caps in text. may have a lot of ppl on delivered. reply game varies based on person, only replies fast to important ppl. communication style is most likely assertive(has a backbone, stands up for themselves without being loud, etc). humor is satire, dark/offensive, and/or sarcastic. if you have tiktok, you definitely know abt satire humor LMAO.

𝗔𝗾𝘂𝗮𝗿𝗶𝘂𝘀

attention span is only good if they care. says random things. takes forever to reply. talks with detachment. observant. in arguments, probably doesn’t think of others feelings, and just says whatever. may be harsh in arguing. another placement that probably uses this “<3, :), etc” instead of “❤️😃”. may ghost your messages. communication style is passive aggressive(talks shit behind your back, may not care to confront others, etc). surreal humor, humor is eccentric lol. may like adult animated shows

𝗣𝗶𝘀𝗰𝗲𝘀

attention span isn’t good, since they daydream a lot. might say personal stuff in accident. relatable. great listeners. talks with warm heartedness. cool in arguments, and will stand up for what they feel is right if necessary. another placement that may use emojis a lot. texting may be emotional. shitty grammar. communication style is passive(goes with the flow, bad eye contact/body language, hates drama, etc). another placement that makes jokes abt sex. may joke abt drugs(other ppl doing it or themselves, or ppl acting like their on drugs lmao)

please keep in mind that other things will affect certain traits, like your moon sign. don’t plagiarize, and have a good day🤍

[charleswaterloo]

things to say to people who ask you: “why don’t you drink?”

if you feel like you have to give a reason always know that you actually don’t and if anyone has a problem with that, it’s on them - not you. you don’t owe anyone that information. but if you do want to say something to get them to leave you alone then here are some ideas:

it will make me ill (this can be true or not. lying is great and you should do it. as long as you don’t go around pretending you have a serious illness when you don’t then it’s chill)

i don’t want to (this one is 10/10 great but sometimes people are curious and ask further questions so if you want to get off the topic and get them to stop asking immediately try something else)

sip a drink that looks like alcohol (this isn’t a reason but it’s easier. my suggestions are soft drinks bc most people assume they have vodka in them or something and you can always just say it does if you’re asked. also non-alcoholic beer bottles look the same in poor lighting, as do glass sprite bottles)

i’m on meds (i use this one because i’m on meds that mean i can’t drink. you can use it if you’re not on meds too. go wild. you don’t need to say what meds they are. keep it short. if they ask more you can say “none of your business” or give them a weird look and they’ll realise what an intrusive question that is)

fuck off (a classic. i use it when people are immediately rude about not drinking but i hold it in reserve if people are just curious because i don’t want people getting annoyed at me. still their problem though so i say go for a good strong fuck off if you want)

none of your business/i’m not comfortable saying why (more polite than fuck off if you’re not feeling confrontational)

no need (also a good one but can imply that people who drink “need” it when most of them are just having a fun time. however absolutely use this if ppl are being passive-aggressive. be petty right back)

i’m trying to cut calories/be healthier (diet culture sucks but this one is good because people understand easily)

i don’t like the taste (another good one. sometimes people go for “oh but cider tastes nice! and what about cocktails?” and you can say “yeah i didn’t like those either” and leave it at that. if they pressure you further, you can pepper in a good old “fuck off” or “none of your business”)

literally just stare at them (a bold one but has hilarious results. they usually get confused, assume that there’s a commonly known serious reason to everyone else why you don’t drink and then feel guilty, or get creeped out and walk off. each one of them leaves them feeling bad so i love to use this on the rude ones. also good during loud parties bc people will assume you didn’t hear them and they give up)

disclaimer: this post isn’t me hating on people that drink. it’s just help for people that don’t.

i wish i’d had this advice a long time ago because it would have made things loads easier. i hope this helps anyone that needs it <3

[loxxxlay]

Can we get the rest of the ball destroying story?

This is a very long and probably anticlimactic story about how I destroyed an attorney's metaphorical balls by not letting him get away with being a toxic pile of shit. I hope you enjoy.

So, the first thing you need to know is that my old boss (whom I will call M) is a real fucking asshole. 1, he voted for trump; 2, he's a creep; 3, most obnoxiously, he treated his previous lead paralegal like a freaking wife.... or actually worse than a wife really... like an object. like a trophy wife. When the lead paralegal left, he basically treated her like she was divorcing him, as if she was an object of his possession. And he was like "you'll NEVER have it better than you have here, and i'll never let you come back." (Funny story: i am one of 5 paralegals there who put in their 2 week notice during June, and they were so panicked that they called this exact former lead paralegal and asked her to come back. -_-)

Okay so anyway, let's cut the story back to about 2 months ago. I have been M's lead paralegal for about 8 months now since the previous one left, and I'm hating it. I'm actively job hunting because M is becoming toxic to me the same way he was to the last paralegal. I needed references, so I asked another attorney who also worked there to be my reference. We will call him T. So T is my favorite attorney. T is the first person I came out to as having a girlfriend at the firm, and he never once betrayed me. He is everything that M is not. He gives positive feedback like he gives out candy, but he's also honest and real in a way that not a lot of ppl are.

So anyway I secretly ask him to be a reference on my resume, and T is like "sure! but well funnily enough, I'm actually leaving the firm in 2 weeks. I can't ethically recruit people while I'm here, so I'm going to end this conversation here, but.... wink wink, nudge nudge, call me in 2 weeks." So I'm like COOL COOL. And we don't speak of it again.

So 2 weeks pass, I continue job hunting, T leaves the firm. He calls me literally the next day, and he immediately is like "I wanna hire you" and I'm like "okay cool, I wanna be hired." So boom I got a new job. Ethically. (I'm serious though, T is a very ethical guy and he did nothing wrong.) So anyway, T is okay with me waiting until my NYU program in June is over, so my start date is July 1. 1 month from then. T also asks me very politely not to tell M where I'm going because it would sour their "friendship" (a.k.a. the attorney world in utah is a small world and he doesn't want M to get his feelings hurt). And I want to be clear, T did not pressure me at all - he asked for a favor, and I decided to do it for him, because I care about him, that's it. If at any point it became a burden for me, I would have changed my mind, and T would have understood.

So, I wait a week until I'm in New York to tell M i'm leaving him. I come up with a brilliant excuse for why I don't want to tell him where I'm going - "I have a few offers and I don't want to talk about it while I'm still deciding" (which wasn't even really a lie). So I call my boss and I tell him I'm putting in my two weeks. And he treats me like he always treats people - he interrogates me. Except this time, he's shocked and upset, so he SUPER interrogates me. It's super inappropriate questions like "why are you quitting???" and "is it because of money???" and "this is SUCH bad timing" - but it's frustrating because he's an attorney and he knows how to dress up these rude questions with politeness. In a way that if I call him out on it, I'll be the one who looks inappropriate. :( It sucked. But luckily I had spent 3 days researching how to approach this, and.... I gave him nothing. He was desperate for fuel to try to convince me to stay or guilt-trip me into working overtime, and I just didn't give him any because I was prepared, and also.... I'm good at this. My mom says I've been good at this since I was 3-years-old lol.

Anyway so unfortunately during the conversation, he asked the question "Where are you going?" and I immediately gave him my excuse. And I expected that to be done and over with. Idk why I thought it'd be that easy... He immediately started trying to guess where I was going. And at what point, he said "are you going to work for T????" and..... honestly guys... I panicked. I lied. I said, "uh, no." flat out lmao. Like, I was just so shocked that he was asking me in the first place. :( But weirdly, he believed me and that was that (or maybe he filed away the lie for later use as you'll see). I also want to make it clear here that I, at first, wasn't telling M where I was going because T had asked me to... but at this point, with how nosy and inappropriate M was asking, I didn't want to tell M anymore either. It wasn't for T that I was hiding it; it was for me. Like, no M, I don't want you to have any personal details. You're being 150% more of a creep than usual which is impressive considering.

Anyway so I never tell anyone where I'm going except 2 ppl whom I trust on my last day (and yes, one of them betrayed me, which kinda sucks D:). I told T that I had lied to M, and T was like "it's okay, if he finds out, I'll have ur back" and also... I told T I go by Echo instead of my legal name/dead name, so I'm fine with the lie because M will probably never find out anyway. and T was delighted and super supportive of my enby identity. ^_^ It's cute because he never called me by name, but now all of his texts and statements deliberately start out with my name as if to remind me that he supports it lol.

Anyway so flash forward to my new day at the job. It's going great. I love it there. And then I check my phone and I see this fucking text:

M: "I hear you work for T now. I wish you the best, but I specifically remember asking you if that's where you would be working, and you said no."

Like.... what the actual fuck? He never texts me, and also I've been gone from his firm for like a day.. max... have some chill, lmfao. like. At first, I was REALLY upset. Not in a "i feel bad for lying" kind of way. I couldn't care less about that. More in a "i feel like i'm being stalked, one of two close friends betrayed me, and also what the fuck, why are you texting me this??" #yikes. But then that night, I was talking to my dad about it. And I became super amused? Like. What is he going for here? What does he want me to say? What response does he hope that I'll give that will make him feel better? Does he want me to call him crying and begging for forgiveness and for my job back? Like? I genuinely sincerely want to know what the fuck he was expecting me to say. I want to understand what was going through his head lol.

And of course, because I am a passive aggressive bitch, I immediately catch on to the fact that he is Butthurt (shocking, I know). His feelings are hurt. An object of his, his very own lead paralegal, lied to him outright and he didn't see it coming! How dare she! He wants to make me feel hurt like he feels hurt, and he's a lawyer, he knows how to interrogate people and manipulate people and get them to suck his dick, idk. So he should be able to use those skills to make me feel bad for lying. He wants to one-up me. But see, what he didn't realize is that....

1, I don't feel guilty for lying to him... at all... like, it took me a couple hours to realize this, but the only negative emotion it made me feel was discomfort and fear. not guilt. the same way i feel when a strange man asks me for a hug, and i feel like refusing would look "rude." Like, there's nothing guilty about that. So yeah. His goal is to expose my guilt to make himself feel better, but... my guilt doesn't exist, so good luck

2, um, like I said earlier, I've been a passive aggressive bitch since the day I was born, unlike this bitch who had to go to college to learn how to do it, and not only that - I'm better at it than him. lmfao. His pride is gonna take a hit.

so I toy with the idea of ignoring him because I know that will really fuck him up and make him constantly think about it and check his texts to see if I've responded. But then T tells me that it's probably better to not burn a bridge because again.... super small world here.

So anyway lol, my response ends up being pretty simple but painstakingly constructed:

"Thank you! :) It wasn't an option at the time - it was a new development after you and I had already talked. I wish you the best as well."

The "Thank you! :)" to seem like I am utterly oblivious to the hidden accusation and passive aggressiveness. The middle sentence to be like "uh, are you really accusing me of lying right now?" and the last sentence, my favorite, to shut down the conversation forever. Now, if he responds, he already lost. Because there's no way to continue this conversation without exposing the fact that his "I wish you the best" was completely insincere. I've stripped away his ability to respond fake-politely (which is his modus operandi), and I've forced the last word on him.

Also, even better... (and no one has any way of proving this, least of all him, but) that statement (the "it wasn't an option at the time - it was a new development after you and i had already talked") is completely a lie on my part, and he knows it. T offered me the job the Monday after he left. There's no way he doesn't know that. So not only did I show obliviousness and not only did I shut the conversation down, I outright stonecold lied a second time. And there's no way for him to call me out on it. Like what could he even do? Send me a screenshot of my hire date? Send me a screenshot of an email I sent to a coworker? If he tries that, he's already lost again because like ... obviously super immature... it would be so easy to crush him with niceness like "Wow, I can tell this has really bothered you!" hahahhaha. Sadly he's smart enough not to do that, but it must be infuriating to know I'm lying and not be able to accuse me.

As an attorney whose literal job it is to catch & expose people lying, he literally watched me flat out lie to his face. Twice. And I didn't feel bad about it. And there was nothing he could do about it either time. He went to law school for this shit, and he still can't out-passive-aggressive me, the classic bitch.

Anyway so T apparently he showed his wife M's message, and she was like "oh my god what an asshole!!!" which I must admit was extremely validating!! And then he showed his wife my message, and she made a shocked face and said "wow she's good." And I always thought T was kinda just flattering me to be nice when he complimented my use of words in defusing angry clients and conveying info about a sensitive subject... but apparently his wife thinks so too, so I guess he's been more serious than I thought. I feel so.... complimented.... it's weird.... but I"m very happy and squeeing.

It's been like almost 24 hours and M has yet to respond to me, and if he does, he's already lost. I'll eviscerate him.

So like I know this story is probably disappointing and might not seem like I shanked his balls, but ... take my word for it because if u knew what a chaotic insecure pathetic mess he was and how he desperately claws for control by trying to intimidate and upset all of his employees (and pretty much always succeeds), then you'd understand that he's NEVER encountered something like this before. Someone literally just not giving a shit what he thinks about them. And from what I know of him, I promise you that this has certainly fucked him up for a good long while. And that makes me happy :')