#i have adhd so i have like 5 tabs open in my brain and like 3 are playing music but this song was the one most prominent for the moment so!

[icelynia]

Some tips to actually read the Bible!

If you’re like me and struggle with reading your Bible, here are some tips! Hopefully ADHD/Neurodivergent friendly ones.

Get a journal/study Bible- I cannot say how much this has helped me! Instead of having a separate notebook I need to take with me/open on my phone, I can just write right in it! Highly recommend.

Don’t judge versions- Now some versions are more accurate and overall better, that’s just the truth, but that doesn’t mean that the rest don’t have their places. The Message might absolutely suck for any hardcore Bible study, but it’s great for casual reading and beginners. If a version is boring you, difficult to understand, or just too familiar, don’t be afraid to switch it up! You can easily try out new versions digitally before committing to buying a physical copy of it!

Don’t be afraid to markup your Bible- I know that some feel like it is sacrilegious to write and highlight in a Bible, but it isn’t. Don’t go burning and defacing Bibles of course, but writing notes and highlighting to help further your Bible study are fine! Get different colored writing utensils, put tabs for each book, even doodle in the margins!

Studying the Bible should be fun, not stressful- If you need to put on music, sit in the bathtub, or put a sticker on the first page of every book you’ve finished, go ahead! This kind of goes along with the last point, but even if it’s not a conventional way to read the Bible, go wild (within reason)! If you need an audiobook version go ahead! If you voice act everyone, that’s great. What’s important is that you are consuming God’s word and grasping the message inside of it. Don’t go too overboard and let your method become a distraction though!

Get a children’s Bible- I was recently going through some bookshelves at home and found my old Veggietales Children’s Bible. I flipped through it and it grabbed my attention right away! Children’s Bibles usually have inserted points that are on a more basic level than “adult Bibles”. That’s fine! Some of us need that simplicity, especially if we are neurodivergent. The Veggietales Bible I have also has comics based on the movies which while sometimes weird, were a nice brain break from the sometimes overwhelming and long passages of scripture. It might seem silly/awkward at first, but finding a good children’s Bible can open up a whole new world in your Bible Study!

You don’t need a plan- It can be overwhelming to try those “Read the whole Bible in a year!” plans, so try something different. Maybe read through the minor prophets, read just Ester, or 5 Proverbs! Any amount is good, since it means you got into the Word! Maybe one day you’ll just open to a random passage and read that! You never know where you’ll end up and I’ve had some great moments just with doing that.

Join a Bible Study-Going through Scripture with someone else can be a game changer! From sharing different opinions on passages, holding each other accountable, to sharing prayer requests, there is nothing better than having at least one buddy to fellowship in the Lord with!

Play Bible Games-This can go along with the last one, but play Bible games! Here are a few of my favorites:

1. Sword Drills- This is a competition based on finding passages fast. It starts with someone (usually a leader, but can be anyone within the group) yelling, “Swords Up!” and then everyone lifts their Bibles in the air. If it is feasible, make sure everyone has the same copy of the Bible. If not, only rules are that the Bible has to be physical and no bookmarking sections to help you get to a passage faster. The same person that yelled “Swords Up!” will now say a passage (Eg: John 3:15) and the participants will say it back. They will all start looking for it when the person says “Go!” . The first person to get to the passage and read it allowed wins! This game helps with memorizing the books of the Bible, their order, and helps expose people to passages they might not read otherwise.

2. Bible Quizzing- This one is all about memorizing facts, passages, and trivia about the Bible. Now there are actual tournaments and Bible Quizzing championships, but you don’t need to do anything like that. Just get a few friends, task one with coming up with questions, and then compete to see who gets the most right! This could involve Jeopardy, multiple choice, and even a written portion. I’ve done both casual and actual tournaments and I’d recommend both! Both are fun and get people to learn the Bible, though the actual competitions can be an idol to some people.

Find Christian Online Influencers- Now, this one could lead you astray, but hear me out. Finding entertainment from Christian sources is leagues better than from some random person who is probably an atheist, woke, and believes in evolution. Now, I’m not saying “Don’t engage with and watch content from non Christian people!” what I am saying is to try and get some more Christians in there. My favorite Christian YouTube Channels are Red Pen Logic, Dude Perfect, JStu, Matthias, and Sean McDowell. Not all of these are content about Christianity, but they are all Christian YouTubers. The ones about Christianity are RPL and Sean McDowell. JStu member Justin does have a podcast called the Soul Mine Podcast that he runs with his father all about being a Christian boy/man in our modern society. Everyone (even girls) are allowed and encouraged to listen to it. The point with this one is that surrounding yourself with entertainment that won’t lead you astray is important and that these YouTubers are a great place to start.

Also if you are a Christian theatre nerd, check out Sight and Sound Theatres! I cannot recommend them enough. They do original musicals based on people from the Bible and I’d say are even better quality than Broadway. They are currently doing Daniel (1st run!) in Lancaster, PA and Queen Esther in Branson, MO. Enough people don’t know about them for how good their shows are! They have a 180° stage, live animal actors, and very impressive both practical and digital effects! Their sets also move and are very intricate and impressive.

This was all I could think of at the moment! Feel free to reblog/comment some more tips that have worked for you.

God bless!❤️✝️

[seven-oomen]

Considering it's the international assistance dog week, I want to highlight why I need an assistance dog and what they'll be able to assist me with.

3 years ago I was diagnosed with PTSD (present in children of 6 years and younger), since it's been there for most of my life. I also have an ADHD diagnosis, and since 2 years, an autism diagnosis. Add to that a functional neurological disorder and a complex pain syndrome (including fibromyalgia) caused by my PTSD, and you have a glimpse of what it's like to live in my body.

Basically, I am in pain 24/7, my body doesn't let me do what I want it to do. My brain is misfiring 24/7, my hands tremble, my legs are weak, and my dissociations vary from once a day for a few minutes, to 5-hour episodes where I can no longer recognize my own reflection.

Add ADHD and autism to that mix, and you have a brain that cannot concentrate or filter sounds/smells/sights/ etc. And is constantly operating with 25 tabs open at all times. It costs tremendous amounts of energy to do anything, and I do not realize how much it costs me until I get home.

I am beyond exhausted and sleep does nothing to recharge the battery. Coffee does nothing to recharge the battery.

So what can an assistance dog do that psychotherapy, outpatient assistance (ambulante begeleiding), EMDR, Intensive traumatherapy couldn't do combined?

Basically, be there 24/7. Without judgement. Without prejudice. An assistance dog will not completely fix me. But it will give me enough structure and assistance to rehabilitate back to a working position. That is the dream. To return to a 15 hour/20 hour work week in 5 years.

Tasks that an assistance dog can do for me:

- provide structure through walks/ a routine/ training

- retrieve medication and remind me to take them

- signal dissociations and guide me to a safe space to ride them out

- signal sensory overload and shutdown and guide me to a quiet place

- provide deep pressure therapy to calm me down

- wake me up from nightmares / unrestful sleep

- provide a soothing and protective presence

- keep people at a distance / block people from getting too close to me

- accompany me to work/school/volunteering work/in public transport/to hospitals & doctors / on vacation etc.

And that is what I am fighting for right now. These dogs are costly. Between 8.000 and 20.000 euros.

So my hope is that the municipality will fund an internationally certified assistance dog. Because Dutch health insurance doesn't. Which is ridiculous because they do fund guide dogs, hearing dogs, and mobility dogs. Just not psychiatric assistance dogs for civilians. Psychiatric assistance dogs for the military are funded by the police/military.

Recently I also found out that, technically, you can train your own dog in the Netherlands. Though, public access rights are unclear with them and there is talk of the law changing in the next five years. I hope that when it does, psychiatric assistance dogs are then also covered by health insurance, because right now, the disparity between the different types is discriminatory.

[firespirited]

Finally got to the Doctor, turns out she's been dealing with a family emergency all December (no she's not a trauma dumper, I'm the type who asks... and listens for 40 minutes because, well, clearly she hasn't been asked by many and needed to vent about bureaucracy and paperwork and difficult family members)

So that explains why she's been technically Not on holiday but also Not available.

Gonna do stool sample number three!!! *sarcastic confetti and noisemakers* with very careful wording and hope the lab don't mess up again along with a blood test for another potential GI tract hijacker.

If that falls through, we have to find out why malabsorbtion is happening with tubes that go down and up my tubes à moi. Probably 'up' given the severe daily pains in the lower intestines.

I'm terrified of intestinal cramping during a colonoscopy causing a tear in the guts and being one of the fatal 1% but have a plan to inform everyone and sharpie warnings on my arms if it ever comes to that exam. Yes, that's getting way ahead of ourselves: Adhd brain and medical trauma means I had 5-10 brain tabs open on next step risks and pitfalls within a second of her saying the word specialist.

I forgot to inform her that I've been eating leafy greens, iron supplements and cheap chicken bits to fight the anemia so if it's not as bad as expected it's because I'm horfing down whatever iron I can get ... my bp was below nine during the appointment, could barely stay on track.

Guess I'll shoot her an email after my blood test. Might need to confirm if she expected me to auto up my bp meds without asking permission (I've been living in, like, zombie mode because that hadn't occurred to me)

So she's back, we have another option to explore, she might medicate the symptoms of malabsorbtion if it looks ugly on the tests. Progress? I think? Hope at least.

Getting 'we didn't test for candida' on the second, now more clearly marked, candida test on the 26th of December was a massive blow as I'd stupidly staked so much hope on that test. 'We will neither confirm nor deny we did a candida test because we're being pedantic about precise precriptions' over the phone a few days later wasn't reassuring either. And my dr had been on call but not replying to phone or email since early dec which was concerning.

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For your edutainment: here's how to do a stool sample.

If the pot is nice and big like it could contain two glasses of orange juice, you're in luck you can probably go right in it. Most are smaller single OJ if not single yoghurt plastic pots.

So first, pee. Very important step, you may pee later but at least it's less mess. Get some cling film (saran wrap) and carry a cut sheet to the loo (rather than bringing a kitchen item into your toilet room) , drape it over the back 3/4 of your toilet under the seat so there's a little poo catcher nook and make sure its well attached on both sides.

Do your poo, stuff toilet paper between your cheeks, open the pot. Get up, turn around, use the poo pot to gather a sample, close pot with loo paper. Pull down cling film at an angle and wash cling film in flush water, place it in a doggie poop bag to go in the trash.

Wipe bottom, flush again.

Wash outside of stool pot carefully, wash your hands carefully. Put stool pot in an opaque marked bag in the fridge far from food, more towards closed sauces until someone with a car can drop it off. Copro Culture takes 3 days, if you have internet access to results you could have them then.

Very important to remember : unless you have a blessèd routine involving a morning coffee and precise timing. This could take several attempts and several cling film sheets. Do not get up too fast to grab that pot if you have POTS or feel in any way drained - I promise it can wait, nearly passing out face first over a toilet with a film poop ledge is not great. Still better than most people's uninformed attempt at collecting a normal sized poo in the undersized pot!

In the same way, pee samples are 'pass under the stream briefly' not sample the whole pee. Entire pee samples come with a bottle sized pot: ask for two, we hydrate better than previous generations.

[psychodon525]

I organize it all by having separate windows for each thing. I have a window with 6-20 tabs open for each game I'm currently playing (And I don't close the windows because I'll be picking up the game again soon, and it's nice to just have the window open.) I also have one window that's just 10-20 tabs of youtube videos I want to watch (Since my Watch Later playlist has several hundred videos in it, and I'll never actually get to any of that.) And of course a general browsing window, with 5-20 tabs in it, depending on what niche deep dive I may be going through at any given moment. This window also sometimes winds up with tabs that SHOULD be in other windows, but which I think I'll be closing fairly quickly, and usually I do.

All in all, it would be an issue if I didn't have the Auto-Tab-Discard extension on Firefox, which "closes" tabs that aren't actually doing anything and haven't been opened for a certain amount of time. Having ADHD means if I close those tabs, they'll leave my brain forever, and I'll never be able to remember that I'm even forgetting about a website or tab I had open, let alone which specific one it is.

More under the thing.

You might say "Oh but Don, why not just 'bookmark all tabs,' then you can close the window, and get back to it when it's relevant" and you're right! Except that I've done that several dozen times, and now my bookmarks folder is full of folders and sub-folders of various tabs from various sessions, and I can never remember which ones are even relevant enough to want to check, let alone actually reopen.

Having windows of tabs is actually much better for my workflow and for my browsing, because I can quickly open one of the windows to remind myself of what I've been doing, and decide if I have the energy or desire to go back to it right now. You might look at the number and say "Holy shit, this window has 70+ tabs open right now? That's so many!" But what you don't understand is that each of those tabs are 'the items I'm missing in Terraria right now, and I can close each tab once I get the item, like a checklist, and also these tabs have convenient crafting recipes on them too.' Like, yeah maybe I don't need them RIGHT NOW, but I'm gonna need to refer back to them every once in a while, and it's good to have them all accessible, rather than trying to rely on my shit memory.

Each of those 70+ tabs barely actually means anything specific. You're seeing a really big number, but what that number represents is different in every window. And it's not like I have 70+ different websites all for completely different reasons. In this window, I've got 70+ for basically the same purpose.

And even if I did... so what? I've got thousands of bookmarks, I've got a couple hundred tabs open, and the frequency with which I need to open new tabs every time I sit down at my computer goes way down when I've just already got them open. And they don't bog down my computer, because auto-tab-discard has my back.

I just don't see the issue there. For myself, opening every youtube video I want to watch in a separate tab, then closing the tab when I'm done watching, is satisfying. For you, putting them all in Watch Later, then going through that playlist, is satisfying. Or maybe you just watch one video at a time, click on it, watch all the way through, then find another to watch. Everyone is different, and that's all valid in my opinion. You're just looking at a big number without understanding what the number means, and deciding that because it's different, it must be indicative of an underlying problem.

I'm sure OP is a perfectly fine person, but it just has that hiiiiint of ableism, which masks itself as "some people sure are WEIRD, aren't they!" A lot of people on the spectrum or who have ADHD got bullied for being weird and different, not because people identified that their behaviour was due to their neurodivergency, but just because things they did were "weird."

But like again, OP has clearly ALREADY done a ton of learning, just in making this post, and they are CLEARLY making a joke with things here. But I guess despite that, I still felt slightly misunderstood and attacked, and felt like I needed to defend myself. I hope that's okay, and I also hope I've imparted some amount of understanding of myself onto you. Thanks for reading <3

when you are done with a tab you can close it. every browser in the world has a feature that lets you open recently closed tabs. also there is browsing history. need to visit a webpage often? may i introduce you to the bookmarks feature. there’s no reason to leave your tabs open. hoarder behavior.

[creek-cryptid-deluxe]

You know what's a crazy aspect of being human? As you move through the world and interact with people, you start to learn that not even "neurotypical" brains all work the same. You want an example? No? Tough.

So for the entirety of my life, I've had traits that made me puzzled by some things about other people.... til I realized that not everyone's brain [or even most brains] do that.

Once I read a book, even just once, if I pick it up a decade later I will remember the entire book after reading the first paragraph or so. [I have to REALLY love a book to re-read or own it.] I genuinely didn't understand how people could say that they remembered reading a book awhile back but don't remember anything about it so are re-reading it as though it is the first go.

I don't have that ability for anything, really. In the first 5 or 10 mins of a movie or show, I can tell you if I've seen it, when, and the entire plot/arch. As opposed to me watching a movie with my dad, him saying he's not seen it, and me slow turning to look at him incredulously before I tell him that we watched it together not one year ago. He has zero memory of anything he's ever watched that isn't LOTR, Star Trek, or Python. It's baffling and frankly I'm envious. [Note: my partner does this, too, but he has debilitating levels of ADHD.]

It's pretty well known that after hearing a song a couple times, I will know most lyrical content, compositional elements, and somehow also know the title, band, album, and sometimes approx release year. There's also a tab in my brain that is constantly open and running a Shazam adjacent program that scans for song lyrics in any context, and upon finding some... or any it autocompletes the song in my head. Or if i'm tired/not paying attention, it does this out loud. My partner started playing a game without telling me. He will spontaneously start playing a song from youtube on his phone and if I name the band and song before the chorus I win. He recently upped this by tossing random song lyrics into conversation to see if I continue the song from that lyric. I only figured out what he was doing because living here I also learned that not everyone listens to music like I do.... almost constantly. He and the kids watch/listen to youtubers of various types, so him playing music was out of the ordinary and I asked about it.

[Less fun automatic brain function is that I am hyperaware of my surroundings along with the people in them and my brain unconsciously stores the behavior patterns of people I spend time with allowing me to seem like I can predict the future via knowing what they are looking for without them saying anything or showing up with a cup of tea when they are about to make one. This one is less fun because sometimes it creeps people out and also my brain is like this from spending my first 1.5 decades raised by hateful narcissistic people who also had personality/mood disorders. it was a survival skill. ]

The last weird thing is that when asked if I've seen an object, my brain basically pulls up an image of the object, then slowly zooms out to reveal the context in which I last saw it. Doesn't matter how long it's been, the photo in my brain is very detailed and exact. It can also summon other memories in a similar fashion. It has become slightly less reliable as the unrelenting pain of existing during my 39 years on earth with my Unbreakable Ancestral Curse has impacted my brain in ways I wasn't prepared for. IE it fucks up my memory, some motor function, and sometimes just gives me static for a couple days. 0/10 stars for the curse. Then again, I live with 4 people who all have severe ADHD and 3 of whom are kids, so stuff gets moved for no reason a bunch making my recall less reliable simply because shit is no longer as static as I'm accustomed to.

ANYWAY, it was just an interesting thing I was musing on after my partner walking in to me petting the dogs to the drumline of a Slipknot song, looking confused and asking "Didn't you play bass because your parents wouldn't let you play drums?" Which... yeah. That's 100% true. But my brain is a weird sponge and I love music, especially shit with great drums. I've been listening to a lot of Gojira lately. You should too if you are into metal or just really talented drummers.

It's nice to know that my OS still confounds my partner despite being besties for 10 yrs and living together for 2.

[note: before you comment/ask, yes I've been assessed by neuropsych and various run of the mill psychs repeatedly over the years. medically neurotypical and mentally sound, just real fucking weird for numerous reasons.]

[monriatitans]

Ta-Da! List: Monday, May 13th

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I share my “Ta-Da! List” every day so everyone gets a daily update and I have a reminder of what I’ve accomplished.

To learn more about “Ta-Da! Lists”, and other ADHD life hacks, check out @adhdjesse’s book Extra Focus: The Quick Start Guide to Adult ADHD.

Abbreviations

- O&T: Opinions & Truth Blog - WGS: The Weekend Game Show - ASO: Artist Shout-Out - IG: Instagram - BMAC: Buy Me a Coffee - TDL: Ta-Da! List

Ta-Da! List

✧ throughout the day: - kept emails manageable - loaded the dishwasher - filled out today’s TDL ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ✧ on the mobile phone: - Hive/IG: shared today’s ASO ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ✧ on the bedroom setup: - O&T: shared yesterday’s and today’s TDL to IG ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ✧ on the office setup: - WGS: gave a human artist, Mona Liza Dayco, a shout-out on O&T, Tumblr, and other social media - O&T: shared yesterday’s TDL; removed the link to Goodreads from the “Social Icons” widget, rearranged the order of icons, and made it so the links open in a new tab; moved the “links don’t open into a new tab” widget warning under the “Recent Posts” widget; shared today’s TDL - Gaming: played “Final Fantasy XIV” - YouTube: watched: 1. The Financial Diet’s videos “Mommy Bloggers, Child Labor, And The Kidfluencer Industrial Complex”, “7 ‘Eco-Friendly’ Habits That Are Mostly Just Money-Wasters”, “7 Life Decisions You’re Making Way Too Hard On Yourself”, “4 Ways Your Brain Sabotages Your Finances (Without Even Realizing It)”, “11 Questions To Ask Before Spending $100”, “4 Ways To Change Your Financial Life With $100”, “7 Purchases I Thought Would Make Me Happy, But Didn’t”, “6 Things No One Tells You About Getting A Good Job” 2. Alexander Avila’s video “How Conservatives Created (and Cancelled) Gender” 3. Upper Echelon’s video “The Dark Future of Relationships” 4. Sydney Watson’s video “Woke liberals will never stop” 5. LegalEagle’s video “Legal in the US, But Illegal Elsewhere” 6. Design Theory’s videos “How Governments Use Design & Propaganda to Control You”, “How Brands Use Design & Marketing to Control Your Mind”, “Why Society Hates Creative People (And What To Do About It)”, and “Will Artificial Intelligence End Human Creativity?” 7. Yo Samdy Sam’s video “My postpartum fitness journey (AuDHD/PPD)” ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~ ✧ chores and miscellaneous: - Food: had coffee and water for breakfast; had Oreos and leftover stir-fry for lunch; ordered Chili’s for dinner - Chores: checked the mail

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Well, these are all the updates I had for today! Thank you for reading!

May every decision you make be *in the spirit of fairness* and may the rest of your day *NOT go to $#!7*!

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[unsafe-chikku]

Today is da big day! Or, well, the celebration of the upcoming big day. My actual birthday isn’t until next week.

But! I’m getting an all expenses paid trip to Epcot Disney World today since it’s the big three zero!

I’m feeling real retrospective now…talk of mental health struggles below so be warned.

Thirty! Definitely don’t feel it yet. Well- I have noticed in the last year or so that I can no longer eat with the reckless abandon I used to. Acid reflux. Knees and feet get a bit sore at a faster rate. Fat is retained and not lost. Stretch marks. All part of being an ex young adult.

But besides that I still feel exactly about… 27 or so. But that is about the time I started acting less like a teenager. I’ve always felt, mentally and emotionally, about 5 to 8 years behind my peers, but also ever since I found out I had adhd and then that I was a guy that I’ve started to catch up.

It doesn’t help that I spent the majority of my twenties in an extreme depression that caused me to have a mini psychotic break ( started hallucinating) bc my lifelong dreams were crushed in college. Which turned out to be a good thing or I could have ended up a miserable trad-wife.

Thing got so much better for me mentally after realizing I was trans. I feel like I before that I unknowingly had a huge mental load on me. As if my brain was a computer with 20 chrome tabs open, modded 4k Skyrim, and streaming in discord, all at the same time. Once that load of trying to be a girl was gone I’ve been able to grow as a person exponentially.

The extreme depression is still a problem but I honestly don’t know if I’d still be here if I hadn’t figured out my gender when I did. It would have been too much to be extremely depressed AND pretending to be a woman.

Anyways. That’s the Past! Moving forward my goal is to decrease the depression and increase wanting to be alive. After that I can focus on unfuckening my life a bit. I’d also like a few other things but gotta start small 😝

I love my dear friends so much without whom I definitely wouldn’t have made it and put up with my cringe ass. Love you all. ESPECIALLY my bestie @frigginconfused who I would kill for at the drop of a hat. :)

Borthday. Soon. That is all!

[foxs-howl]

OK, but why is this presented like some huge priblem? That's just how I move and it's never impacted my life or anyone else's. I don't even think they have the actual cause right. Did they talk to people with ADHD or did they just look at machines during studies?

Sure, the standing without swaying is probably more of a motor control thing, but for me, I've always described that swaying around obstacles walk as throwing my body around. Because I have 5 million tabs open in my brain; I'm not going to add a mental map of the entire room and plan a path that takes me through it without any swerving to the list.

It's just as easy to move around an obstacle once I get to it and requires less thought. I'm capable of moving through a room without the "ADHD walk" but why would I bother?

I've also noticed less sway when I'm medicated. So for me at least, the sway is in part a form of stimming. I don't know why all these websites feel the need to talk about "treatments" and ways to "correct" it. It's just a different way of walking.

every once in a while i learn some wild new piece of information that explains years of behavior and reminds me that i will never truly understand everything about my ridiculous adhd brain

[sam-the-friendly-ghost]

Sam's Chats to the Void: ADHD

Disclaimer: This is about when my ADHD gets weird not like anything backed up by research, so PLEASE DON'T TAKE ANY OF THIS SERIOUSLY.

This one is very silly.

ADHD is WHACK. It's so funny to me how it's a disability, but not, but totally is.

I can go do whatever I want, but sometimes I just can't. This is sometimes due to deppresion meeting ADHD deppresive episodes, but also sometimes I'm doing just fine, and I can't anyways.

I have to charge my headphones. My headphones are next to me less than 5 inches from the charger, and I CAN'T DO IT. Me writing this is also me yelling at myself to JUST DO IT ALREADY IT'S BEEN 2 HOURS.

The rest of the day I've been doing super good. I MADE A FULL BREAKFAST WITHOUT EVEN NEEDING MY MEDS. I have been on top of everything, but charging some headphones, impossible.

This isn't the weirdest thing though. Sometimes my brain will just restart on me. Just like a computer any unsaved files are lost, but since it closes all the tabs I have had open for too long it starts running faster too.

What i think is the funniest thing though is how I always get motivation to create when I should be doing other things. Everyone who creates will understand the pain of getting brilliant ideas only when falling asleep, but for some reason I get mine when i have migraines.

To be fair I have migraines on an almost daily basis, but that doesn't explain why the rule is "the more pain I'm in, the better my ideas."

Another thing I've done because I have migraines, and ADHD that makes me get bored really quickly. I am pretty good at using my phone with my eyes closed using the blind person features. I can hardly understand what people are saying because of potential auditory processing problems, but I've learned how to navigate my phone by hearing verbal feedback from my phone.

Like why am I like this. It's so annoying it's funny. I make my life infinitely harder, but better at the same time.

Also my favourite part of being neurodivergent is messingwith them just slightly. I'll start navigating my phone to send them a text while staring at them just to confuse them. I'll tell them a fun fact that makes them rightfully question my sanity (ex: if vampires were real they would have to pee so much they would never be able to leave the bathroom to hunt, and therefore die out.)

Anyways here's the quick and silly ADHD themed chat with the void. Have fun, be cool, confuse people by being neurodivergent.

[bajablastwrites]

Saiki with a s/o with ADHD

Saiki x reader

Reader’s gender isn’t specified

Authors Note: The title is self explanatory. But I’m using both my personal experiences and some generalized knowledge as a reference. So it might be all over the place.

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Saiki kinda doesn’t care?? I mean he understands that it can be debilitating at times, but he doesn’t feel the need to try and baby you about your condition since you either have medication for it or found your own way with dealing with the symptoms. You function relatively well so he’s not going to help you with something you don’t really need help on.

That doesn’t mean he doesn’t look after you like he does with the rest of his friend group. Maybe a little bit more since you’re his s/o, but that just comes naturally.

He’s not gonna lie, he did find your thoughts annoying since they were like 5 open YouTube tabs playing a different video at the same time. But when he realized that it’s just the way your brain is set up then he doesn’t fault you or get angry about it since he’s aware it’s something you can’t change or control.

He does a bit more research about it to understand ADHD in more detail, and with him being a psychic that knows all about you, he can make the connections with what symptoms you display and keep it in mind— since it’s not the same for everyone.

Your current and past fixations are so interesting to him because he doesn’t understand how you even got there. But they’ve now peaked his interest, so please tell him all about the history of concrete and the value of different organs in the black market, you have his full undivided attention.

Kusuo loves how you know the most obscure facts in the world either ranging from random and efficient to dark and educational. His s/o is so smart! He’s still working on having you properly memorize your address or new email tho— but that’s ok you’re getting there!

He loves listening to your ramblings and info dumping because not only do your eyes light up and you genuinely look happy that he asked but he loves listening to you stumble and skip over words because your mind is moving faster than your mouth— but he knows what you’re trying to say since he can read your mind.

Even in a normal setting if you stumble over words or sound like you’re having a stroke at some point, he’ll just translate the sentence to others if you’re with a group of people. If you’re just with him he tells you to just keep going since it doesn’t matter to him. He knows what you’re trying to saying.

Sometimes you tend to space out a bit too hard and just completely forget about your surroundings so Kusuo likes to hold your hand in public, that way he can keep track of you while also making sure you’re safe (and also because he just likes to hold your hand) If it happens at his house then he’ll wait it out and maybe watch you a little bit. Until you come back to reality, to where he’ll say something like “Where’d you go, y/n?” Or “There you are, I’ve missed you.” and it has such a sweet tone to it that you can’t help but get a bit warm inside. It’s one of the rare moments where Kusuo smiles If it’s in public then he’ll try to get your attention back to him by starting a conversation with you.

There are days when it’s damn near impossible for you to focus and get any work done, which can obviously cause you to become distressed and it might even lead to you thinking less of yourself at times. But that’s ok because Kusuo’s gonna be there the minute he realizes your brain just isn’t cooperating on that day and will use his powers to get the work done for you. He’ll also be there to comfort you (in his own kusuo way) so that you don’t spiral into your pessimistic thoughts.

He loves how vivid your imagination is too, it’s like a little show going on in your head. Which means you’re also pretty creative and he isn’t surprised that you excel the most in either writing or art. He wants to see you be happy as express yourself so he’ll support you and provide critique if you ask for it.

If you tell him about any mistreatment or bullying you went through in the past because of your ADHD, he’ll get angry and think about hunting down the people who punished or ostracized you over something you have no control over. Especially if you start becoming visually upset the more you continue to talk about it. He understands if you want to talk about something else, after you calm down and go home for the day he’s hunting them down and putting a curse on them. Past or present no one hurts his partner and gets away with it without facing the consequences.

Sometimes he likes to hand you random objects just to watch you fidget or wave them around as you talk to him. He knows it helps you focus better having something in your hands that you can fidget or mess with. Sometimes he’ll just let you play with his hands, he never realized how small they are compared to his. It’s very interesting, maybe he should let you play with his hands more often. You’re also very warm.

[saltymcsaltything]

This is one of those things where I feel like ADHD traits and autistic traits clash in a very intense and distressing way for me. I wiki-walk and rabbit hole when I am chasing knowledge or just really entertained by a particular topic, and any link I come across while reading an article that I think I might want to read later, I middle click so that I can hopefully finish what I am reading before another article distracts me.

The problem is, the tabs accumulate faster than I can read them, and once they are so narrow that I can't see the page icon, let alone a single character of the page title, the visual clutter starts to claw at my brain. And the worst part is that I can't bring myself to just close them all at once. I have to look through them all and make the agonizing decision of whether to keep it or close it, and that's something that makes me anxious because for some reason it *hurts* to abandon information unread.

My dyslexia and vision related issues, including light sensitive migraines, makes reading much harder than it used to be, especially on a screen, so I never finish anything. I also have garbage memory, so I leave tabs with web applications that I need later open and search tabs to find them again, but I also sometimes forget to do that and find the application again through a bookmark or a search (usually the latter because I forget to bookmark anything anymore), so I will have 5-10 tabs for the same web app in multiple windows open at once.

It's bad. I had 800 tabs open on one of my work computers full of research, most of which I had never actually read. You know how that fit resolved? Some update pushed by IT somehow wiped out my previous session. I always set the browser to reopen tabs from the previous session, but after an update, all 800 tabs were gone. And it *hurt*

I'm trying to get a handle on it. I'm being more careful about randomly middle clicking every link, storing important links in a personal wiki page so that I can customize the way they are visually presented and organized more than bookmarks allow, and methodically closing tabs once anything important has been recorded and categorized. It's slow, and I've only been doing it for a few days, but there has been progress.

It shouldn't be this hard to deal with browser tabs. The urge to open so many borders on compulsive, and the intense visual and cognitive distress from the accumulation is overwhelming in the same way a cluttered closet is - I hate that it is cluttered but it's just too much to try to tackle it. Just like that closet (my literal cluttered closet is full of tools and hardware and I can't even look at it) when I try to clean it out and declutter, I just get frustrated and drained.

The autistic need to live in an uncluttered and visually calm space vs. the ADHD need to collect and keep potentially useful things that I promptly forget about makes for a perfect storm. And the worst part? My wife is just like me... and she actively collects stuff on top of accumulating random junk, so the curated collections of cool things (mostly books) compete for space with the random stuff that we probably don't need anymore, and maybe never even needed in the first place, but it seemed important at the time.

Our house manages to not be an utter disaster area, but just barely. My tabs are the digital equivalent.

Someone please send help 🤣

sometimes i get imposter syndrome about my autism but then i remember that i get sensory overload when i have too many tabs open on my computer at once

[eddisfargo]

I posted 3,305 times in 2022

That's 1,882 more posts than 2021!

7 posts created (0%)

3,298 posts reblogged (100%)

Blogs I reblogged the most:

@exponentiate

@bbauthor2

@luminarily

@testingcheats0n

@copyrightedpodcasts

I tagged 916 of my posts in 2022

#dracula daily - 233 posts

#ouat - 33 posts

#goncharov - 24 posts

#once upon a time - 22 posts

#psa - 17 posts

#queen's thief - 11 posts

#elon musk - 9 posts

#backreading dracula daily - 9 posts

#skipping the queue - 9 posts

#incredible - 8 posts

Longest Tag: 139 characters

#i sometimes have like a dozen that are still sitting on my default new tab page just because i opened one and then remembered there's a tab

My Top Posts in 2022:

#5

Not a day will go by (9/?)

Hello my patient friends! Sorry for the wait! It won't be this long again (for real this time)! This is a Christmas fic for last year's Secret Santa, and I've given myself a deadline to finish it before this year's secret Santa. Specifically, I'm trying to finish before December 18, which is mine and @cosette141's birthday! Thanks so much to everyone who's still reading and leaving comments--they keep me going when my brain refuses to write! Thanks especially to @MotherKat for being the best beta EVER! I'm going all out in November, and I've actually already got Chapter 10 written!! So it won't be too long!

Tagging: @resident-of-storybrooke, @everything-person, @teamhook

AO3 Ch 1 Ch 2 Ch 3 Ch 4 Ch 5 Ch 6 Ch 7 Ch 8 Ch 9

Summary: He may not remember his present, but she doesn't know his past. If she did, she wouldn't have married him… right?

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19 notes - Posted November 5, 2022

#4

Not a day will go by (10/?)

OK, confession: I've had this one mostly-finished for a couple weeks. Nervous about it! Finally earning the M-rating, although it definitely goes nowhere near E. Not a thing I've done before, so your patience is appreciated! I'm really hoping I can finish the fic this month! Wish me luck! Thanks as always to @motherkatereloyshipper for her EXCEPTIONAL beta-ing, and for this BEAUTIFUL cover I just edited in! If you find any errors, they were probably my last-minute pre-post edits!

Tagging: @resident-of-storybrooke @everything-person, @teamhook

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Summary: Hook gets a chance to get to know his wife.

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20 notes - Posted December 3, 2022

#3

Not a day will go by (7/?)

APRIL FOOL'S.

Get it? The joke is, you thought you were definitely not getting an update of this fic today, but actually YOU DID. The first of 2022 (yikes)!

But seriously, so sorry it took me this long! ADHD is apparently the boss of me much more than I would like. But I'm hoping to get back on--not nearly an every-day posting schedule, but definitely better than every-four-months.

Thanks a bazillion to @motherkatereloyshipper for coincidentally being awake at a million o'clock her time and willing to beta so I could post this on April Fool's!

Tagging: @resident-of-storybrooke   @everything-person @teamhook

AO3 Ch 1 Ch 2 Ch 3 Ch 4 Ch 5 Ch 6 Ch 7

Summary: Captain Hook wakes up in a strange bed, next to a woman he does not remember. He finds nothing particularly unusual about this situation. But the woman seems to know him very well.

In Storybrooke, there’s only one surefire way to get back a lost memory. And it’s not going to work until he loves her.

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20 notes - Posted April 1, 2022

#2

My beautiful complete set, + a bonus first edition I got from a Secret Santa and the Spanish edition I’m working through! Somewhere I have the Vince Natale edition of The Thief, but I lent it to a student. I’d... better get that back before graduation, huh?

I think I might already have a somewhat more matched set in my classroom, at least part of it. I don’t mind whether I win or not, I just really wanted to share my beauties! 

25 notes - Posted April 1, 2022

My #1 post of 2022

My fellow Friends of Jonathan on the Discord were talking about who they picture when imagine Quincey P. Morris. There were many excellent answers, like Owen Wilson, Woody Harrelson, and Daniel Craig doing his Benoit Blanc accent. 

I apologize profusely but my answer is Doug Dimmadome, owner of the Dimmsdale Dimmadome. .

42 notes - Posted May 26, 2022

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[pyrrhiccomedy]

Thanks so much for your adhd posts. I would define myself as neurotypical but I recognize a bit of myself in the way you described a task being impossible to deal with a boring task unless sufficiently stimulated. Just managed to smash through something thanks to you mentioning needing enough stimulation - I listened to a podcast rather than dead silence and actually got shit done. Pretty sure I’ll be more efficient working from home from now on. Thank you!

My problem is ALWAYS that I’m understimulated. And I don’t always notice that it’s happened! I just start to feel a little...blank, and tasks just...slow down. 

But the thing about being blank is that it’s hard to have the thought “oh I’m blank now,” because you’re blank, you know? It’s like every month going “god, why do I feel so stupid today,” and then my period starts two days later, and it’s like, Jesus Christ, why does that stupid feeling always confuse me, why don’t I recognize the pattern? Because your period is what’s making you too stupid to figure it out, bitch. Well, my understimulation makes it impossible for me to notice that I’m understimulated.

So since having the thought “I am understimulated and it’s slowing down my cognitive abilities, I need to seek more stimulation” is so hard, I just need my environment to have a high default amount of stimulation, that I can turn down as needed. When I sit down at my home office, there’s lots of clutter, lots of “distractions,” the lights change throughout the day automatically, I have a bunch of tabs open on separate screens with other things for me to focus on. A neurotypical person would probably find this a nightmarish environment hahaha, but for me it’s perfect - my attention can skip off work and flit across 3-5 other things right in my field of view, and my brain gets reenergized. 

[kd-holloman]

Hi, friend! Spring has sprung here and it feels nice to enjoy the sun for a little while 🌷

As far as writing, I've been doing 10 min. writing sprints with 5 min. breaks! My ADHD brain has difficulty focusing for much longer than that.

It doesn't seem like a lot, but an hour of that helps me get more done than just leaving the tab open lol

As far as the "what do I put here" part, do you plot at all or just pants? I was a BIG plotter for a while but now I do a little pantsing and a plotting and it makes the story feel more organic.

Basically, the outline is there for me in moments where I go, "But what should I do from here?" And if I come up with a better solution than my outline, I go with that. If I don't have any alternative ideas to my outline, then I follow it. "I don't like this part of the plot, but I don't have any other ideas. So, for this draft, this will do."

to my cool author moots out there please teach me how to be consistent with writing & updates because i reaaaaaalllllyyyy love to think about what to write but turn blank @(･-･)@ (like this) when i open a doc. that’s the most sexual tension i could get with something ( *￣Д￣) anyGay! how has spring been going for y’all?

mine’s been aaaa breezy and colorful! ᕙ(˵◕ω◕˵✿)つ spring is indeed a new beginning after a deathly winter (✿ฺ´∀`✿ฺ)

[goatmilksoda]

My mom was reminiscing in the car with my grandmother the other day about my early childhood and at first I was a little annoyed and embarrassed because that's how teenagers are, and then I actually started listening and some things started to catch my ears.

So for context, I've been talking with my parents for roughly a year (maybe two?) about how I think it's possible that I have some form of undiagnosed neuroatypicality (autism or ADHD or something). I kind of gave up a few months ago and started calling it "brain funk", but this kind of brought it up again.

Anyway, my grandmother was talking about how "silly it was" that at about two I began memorizing the nursery rhyme books and pretend to read them even though it was obvious memorization and how I was "so bright". But something about it didn't sound right, so I kept listening.

Apparently that wasn't it as things progressed and I was also told how my mom forced me to hit milestones months to YEARS earlier than expected because after I started showing preference for my left hand there were worries I'd be "irregular".

Anyway here's the list of things that also got brought up that I just learned about myself:

I started making facial expressions, specifically smiling, for no reason "out of the womb"

I wore sunglasses everywhere I went and had a meltdown whenever I wasn't allowed to wear them until the age of five

Ditto with Hello Kitty earmuffs

I never learned to crawl

I would puke whenever they tried to give me a pacifier or teether because of the texture in my mouth

I potty trained instantly at 3 years old after over a year of struggle

I never had tantrums or outbursts and would just quietly or have non-screaming meltdowns.

I would follow the same script with like 4-5 different situational games and they'd go the same way every time.

I never made strong friends or really understood the concept of what friends mean. I thought just introducing oneself was enough.

I never wanted to look people in the eye unless I was playing a character.

Even though I could talk, I'd talk so fast that it was incoherent (still a problem)

And (BONUS) she doesn't even know I couldn't do basic hygiene tasks like wiping my bum until I was 12 because I was so embarrassed that I didn't tell anyone. And I still can't tie my shoes or brush my teeth properly (because brushing my tongue makes me gag).

So, understandably, I asked. "That sounds like autism, did they not diagnose that?"

and my mom said "oh well, we never thought we had to because you were so smart!"

Like WHAT??? YOU COULD'VE MADE MY LIFE SO MUCH EASIER AND YOU VOLUNTARILY CHOSE NOT TO BECAUSE IT WAS "TOO MUCH OF A HASSLE"??? Now it takes like a million dollars to get diagnosed and symptoms, like big symptoms are actually starting to show as I get older when they previously ignorable since I'm AFAB and symptoms manifested as quiet and constant obedience and good grades.

Oh by the way, as I'm typing this, with like a billion research tabs open, my mom is asking "Are you trying to convince yourself you have autism again? 🙄"

GIRL I AM TRYING TO FIGURE OUT WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH MYSELF. It's not about "wanting" to be "special" or something. I want to know why I am the way I am and how to make my life easier.

This, anyway, is why I'm trying to get a double major and get a mental health degree. I don't even want to be a therapist. I just want to know how to take care of myself better.

[scoups4lyfe]

if you can't liveblog then it's fine that you can't!

AWWWWW

*BRO*

(♡μ_μ).

Ngl while my sis's cancer diagnosis is like surreal as sh*t, right now everything is looking REALLY good. (I'll expand on this in SS-anon's ask that I see out of the corner of my eye <33)

Some hearts for y'all beloved homie(s):

♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡♡

But damn I'm sorry y'all. Like yeah I'm always a lying liar that lies when I say things like "Gonna liveblog tonight" [3 days no word] LOL.

See I have a multi-layered problem that consumes my time faster than GIff consuming Squid.

Yeah, life (lol). But for me it's a mix of my ADHD fking me up sideways and a little to the right.

I always feel like things would flow much smoother if I was more transparent and just live-blogged every now and again what I'm doing like "LoL at work yee YEE". Cuz then at least you'd get a feel for what exactly I'm doing instead of like the three days of silence.

(Three being a metaphorical representation of any number to infinity)

But why it takes me so long boils down to three things (for myself and productivity) ---

(1) Time Blindness (this one ALWAYS gets me LOL)

you would not believE how fast a day can go for me. Like these weeks have been flying by so quick I feel like I'm drownin (rip)

(2) The clock and expectation mixing together gives me an unfortunate bout of anxiety.

Like I rlly love and appreciate every1 that follows and enjoys and engages with my liveblogs lol. It's really such a highlight being able to share my thoughts and just go fan-crazy with other ppl who *GET* it, y'know? And it is also SUCH a motivator.

But tumblr's media limit shot me with adrenaline. Where (with my time blindness lmao rip) I always feel like I'm in a race against the clock to post as much as I can before it hits midnight (and everything resets)

So if its like 10pm the amount of anxiety spikes that shoot through me if I even glance at the clock and put any care on time is like insane actually. I guess "adrenaline" is more correct than anxiety, but it def has an anxious edge to it.

And I don't really care about anxiety cause I'm not an anxious person. A lot of people actually call me too laid back /lackadaisical.

But the problem is that if I get these spikes they almost immediately send me into a mixed state.

(Lol no idea if y'all even kno what that is so:)

And if I get into a mixed state oooooooooo. Well lets just say those are the times where I have the tumblr tab open along with like 20 other tabs, and then I proceed to spend 42-75 hours without sleep obsessed over something random and unimportant.

(last week I was looking at BJD --hAH. That I can't even afford smh. WHY. And I did this for at least 42 hours without sleep. ).

....This post is getting too long so:

TLDR;

I work a job but since I'm a writer (in my own time), I need to write/edit, and also I need to practice drawing -- And these can take up an incredibly long amount of time if I don't set alarms LOL.

Then combine that with ADHD, and bi-polar episodes and WOO. We are truly partying >:)). And THEN combine that with life responsibilities and things like my physical health issues --directly relating to food allergies, which are always ready to duke it out with me in the yard.

(Below is a journal entry from when I was in a mixed episode)

(If I don't seriously monitor when I last ate and how much I ate my blood sugar drops and I get brain fog that makes it literally impossible for me to think or retain anything in my mind past 5 seconds.)