#i feel so willfully misunderstood

[black-cigs]

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[brujamala-aka-gigi]

your ideal partner is like...

On this pick a pile reading, im focusing on positive traits to take into consideration when wondering if someone is worth putting your time and energy into a committed relationship. This is not meant to be strict guideline of arbitrarily imposed "must have's" to look for, but more of an opportunity to reflect on what could be beneficial to your ideas of a healthy relationship.

dividers by @chilumitos

pile one pile two pile three

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˚˖𓍢ִ໋ ✧ pile number one ˚.⋆

I get the feeling that you value certain aspects of relationships that could be considered “traditional” or “old school”, but not necessarily the ones that are limiting to your sense of identity or your will. I think you find value in things that bring peace of mind and comfort due to being structured in a way that feels natural and balanced, or at least aim to provide those qualities into your life. In your case, I feel like commitment in any sort of union is something you value a lot, specially because you have a deep understanding of your own individuality which involves wanting to connect with someone who is just as conscious as you are, and just as willing to bring out the best in you as you are willing to do so for them. 

Your ideal partner is someone who wants a certain level of structure in their lives, but also wants to find opportunities to experience child-like wonder. This is a person who is patient, and knows that building strong foundations in the relationship is the best way possible to ensure that both of you get to be joyful together. A key aspect here is that you look for someone who shares your values, not because they aspire to them, but because they live by them even if their lives are completely different to yours. Maybe your life experiences of the past might not be similar, but what’s important is that your ideals and aspirations are the middleground where you are both capable of nurturing a genuine connection. Both of these cards show me that you are determined to achieve harmony in a way that you consider both practical and fulfilling, and yet you are not willing to sacrifice your individual aspirations. Therefore, whoever is meant for you, needs to embrace the way in which you decide to nurture a relationship.

˚˖𓍢ִ໋ ✧ pile number two ˚.⋆

This combination of cards is telling me that you are someone who has coherent reasons to be slightly afraid of vulnerability. You have been in places where your honesty and your vulnerability have been misunderstood as weaknesses and treated as such. Nobody deserves to be hurt because of such noble traits. What's relevant here is that you are cautious with who gets access to your truest self, which is not that bad, but from time to time your anxiety in regards to vulnerability might be something that makes it more difficult to find true connections with others. It is hard to know who will value your genuine ways of living and expressing your feelings if you never try to do so, if you never give people the opportunity to show if they are worthy of you being in tune with your sensitive essence.

Your ideal partner is someone who is not only empathetic, but also someone who is willing to put effort into building a sense of trust within the relationship. Whoever wants to love you, needs to understand your healing process and willfully put in the work so you feel secure with them. I'm talking about a person who values having the difficult conversations instead of running away from the issues or hiding anything that could turn into a problem. This is someone who shows their loyalty by either being helpful or being a good company. You can be very introspective and mindful of your issues, you are too used to solve problems on your own. These are amazing qualities that can be nourished when you engage with a person who is willing to learn when you need help,when you need company and when you need your own space. Finding out who has this characteristics is only possible if you find the peace of mind and the confidence to approach vulnerability in a way that gets you out of your comfort zone without getting hurt.

˚˖𓍢ִ໋ ✧ pile number three ˚.⋆

Well, I can’t lie here, these cards are giving me a subtle “opposites attract” type of scenario. Which doesn’t mean that you should go and look for someone who is nothing like you, but it does mean that maybe you should consider your own virtues and defects and how they can be complemented by a partner, while also thinking on how you compliment them. This is not only about superficial compatibility, but more so about both of you being able to rely on each other and able to ask for help. From what I see, it’s most likely your ideal partner is someone who shares a similar life path to yours, but they have an entirely different set of skills. Having shared objectives and aspirations is something quite valuable, especially if both of you are equally as committed to them.  

What I see from an ideal partner in your case, it's this passionate approach to almost everything. It is not a kind of passion that comes from a need to fill a void in their lives, it is the kind of passion that comes from a deep sense of responsibility and consciousness in regards to their own lives. This is a person who sees the value of their journeys and is able to be truthful and fair with their approach to new experiences because they want to remain aligned to their honest desires. They are fully aware of what they can and can’t do, but what’s interesting about them is that they also see value in creating dynamic ways to work around that. You need to find someone who respects you enough to allow themselves to ask you for help, but are also willing to help you too. A key thing to consider when thinking of an ideal partner is the sort of enhancements made possible by a connection where both genuinely respect and admire each other, without idealizations that could harm the relationship.

hey there! i hope this reading was useful or at least entertaining for someone <3 if you did enjoy it, don't hesitate to check out my other P.A.C readings i think they're also kinda fun??

anyways, big updates (maybe not too big)

i set up a ko-fi (finally, ik, im sorry, many people told me to do so but apparently i had to drop out uni to find the time to do it lmao actually not funny btw i dropped out to focus on my work because economic crisis, fuck you javier milei, i work on a tarot reading app btw but i cant disclose it or share my profile from the app idk why)

I FINALLY CAN TAKE PICTURES OF MY CARDS !!!!! (they are still samsung phone quality but they are expensive samsung phone quality ok) so yeah things are going to look prettier i guess??? maybe i'll do videos someday??

im also working on a posting schedule and taking this blog more seriously because i missed tumblr so much tbh and i need a way of sharing the beauty of tarot thats not literally too close to working a 9 to 5 call center job (i love my job tho, but working in tarot apps is... interesting) . i love this site so much, i was literally raised by it at this point (i feel like an elder user because i've been here since 13 and im 23, i saw gen z underage people calling 25 year olds "uncle" online and honestly i cant even be mad about it because if any gen z calls me an auntie i wont go against it, i've been on my single auntie patty and selma vibes since forever tbh and im technically gen z too?? )

last big update: i got a kinda fun and silly oracle deck which i will be using for an ask game eventually.

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[kg-day]

I’ve seen some solid takes from you on Katara and Aang’s relationship so I have to ask…what do you think the problem is? Why do we have constant mischaracterization and atrocious on these two and not even just from Zutara shippers but in general. I genuinely don’t get it, I feel like what we saw was a great development love story between two best friends, it wasn’t perfect and there are things that should be changed, mainly EIP. But overall it was good, I’ve never understood that idea that Katara never reciprocated Aang’s feelings and that it was just a one sided dynamic when that’s not what was shown to me. Will we ever be free from this bs???😭 the most outlandish takes just go against their relationship.

Honestly, I feel like there are a variety of reasons as to why Kataang is continuously misunderstood/analyzed. The most obvious one, and the one from which most other things stem, is that people just don't like the idea of Aang as the love interest. To them, he isn't what a typical male love interest looks like, so they can't imagine why Katara would ever want to be with him when someone who looks like Zuko exists. This isn't just about people who ship zk, either. There are plenty of people who saw that Katara had a crush on Jet and then just decided that was her type, and that she could never fall for Aang because of that. I honestly think it's hilarious, too, how people will bend over backward to explain why they ship Katara with people who aren't Aang—and yes, it is mainly zk fans that I have experienced doing this—but will then just attribute a bunch of stuff that is canon to Kataang to the other ship. Just say you don't think Aang is attractive and leave.

As an extension of that, since people cannot fathom Katara liking Aang romantically, they willfully ignore the signs that Katara is interested in him the way he is in her. They rewrite it as her being motherly towards him, despite clear evidence in the show that Katara treats Aang differently than she treats anyone else. Yes, she supports him emotionally, but he does that for her, too. People just choose to ignore what he does for her or take his actions out of context in order to justify the idea that they have a one-sided relationship where Katara takes on all the emotional labor and Aang is nothing more than a child who pines after Katara and forces her to take care of him.

There is also just a lot of warping of who Aang and Katara are as individual characters. Yes, Aang is a goofy little kid, but he is also a wise and experienced bender, and he has shown time and time again that he has the emotional maturity to handle being THE AVATAR at just 12 years old. Yes, Katara is motherly, but she is also just a kid who likes to have fun and laugh, and she HATES that people don't see her that way. These people don't truly understand the characters in the show, and instead, they self-insert. So, rather than looking at Katara's actions through the lens of who she is as a character and what she wants, they think about what they would want, and that doesn't align with the canon. Something that, for me, further proves the first point I made that also ties into this one is how when Katara shows kindness and empathy to Zuko, it is immediately perceived as being romantic despite it being very in-character for Katara to do, but when she treats Aang the same way, she's being motherly. They like the way Katara and Zuko look together more, so when the 2 of them interact, it's chemistry. But when Katara cups Aang's face lovingly, kisses him on the cheek, or hugs him, it's "mother-son" because it's not visually appealing to them.

That ties into one of my last points—and I have an entire post on this already that you probably read—which is that people are expecting Kataang to have out-of-this-world, mind-blowing chemistry when they are just children. Their relationship is soft and sweet, and more importantly, their friendship is the basis for their romance. Of course, their relationship feels more like a friendship for a majority of the show; THEY'RE BEST FRIENDS. That has always been their core. The progression is supposed to be us watching as these 2 children find each other and recognize parts of themselves in the other in a way that no one else can and develop a friendship that later blossoms into love, at least what love can be for a 12 and 14-year-old.

My final point is that AtLA isn't a show about romance to being with, so, while there is romance interspersed throughout the show, it is a subplot. They don't want to spend as much time building a romance as they do the main story, which makes sense. I will say that I personally still think that they did a good job of building the romance, and that season 3B is really the only place where I feel things could have been better written. However, I think it's just willful ignorance to say that Katara and Aang not interacting a significant amount in the last episodes means that their relationship was "rushed" or "forced". There is still a whole 2.5 seasons worth of build-up at that point, and it's pretty obvious from episode 1 that Katara and Aang have a special connection.

As for the kiss in EIP, it was definitely meant to show the "will they/won't they" nature of Kataang's relationship and to cause drama/tension for the fans. I don't think it was necessary, and it could 100% be taken out, but even with it still in the show, I don't think it's something that breaks Kataang as a ship. It was not okay that Aang kissed her when she said she was confused, but she calls him out, and he recognizes that he messed up. It's not brushed over and just ignored in the moment. He is also 12 and prone to making mistakes, and while it is a big one, I do not think it deserves the vitriol that certain portions of the fandom treat it with. Once again, it is actively addressed in the narrative that he was wrong to do that (he also course corrects later in the comics). Do I wish they could have had just even 1 more one-on-one interaction before the final kiss on the balcony? Sure, but I am also able to understand that a significant portion of time has passed between the 2 scenes and I can suspend my disbelief enough to think that they talked it out or that it was at least something apologized for and forgiven.

This is a lot longer than I expected it to be, but what I really think it boils down to is a.) lack of media literacy and b.) people being upset that what they wanted didn't happen, and rather than recognizing that they are allowed to have an opinion that differs from canon, they will do anything they can to rewrite it so that they can feel vindicated in choosing the ship that they chose. They need it to be canon rather than allowing it to remain headcanon. There has also been a lot of misinformation spread about who the endgame ships were originally intended to be, and that truly set us back as a fandom because people still believe those things to this day, even after it has all been disproven multiple times.

[koiifiishy]

back with more eris doodlings :-) ! and more under the cut

i've decided that if he had a title like the named npcs, he'd be Eris The Defiant. also decided that if he were a npc LI with a toggable gender changer, he'd look pretty much the same as a girl just with a few cups up in the chest dept. lol - he's also still be trans, so you either get transmasc or transfemme eris, there is no cis option.

going off of this post for heights! (too lazy to draw an entirely new img - just scribbled over the height comparison models -w-) a full line up + eris amongst the taller LI's (...of whom he's already met / has interacted with in game thus far!). he's just one inch smaller than kylar haha, which im sure kylar would love. avery with eris though is LOL (stares at the other three on that height list......... that height diff... hes getting FOLDED. . .)

this chart is very messy so bear with me & the yellow i used is hard to read so ill type it out too!

Robin

mutual besties. they're basically brothers! except that robin left his confession note for eris and eris is uh.. willfully ignoring it,,, sorry robin he's not gonna take you up on that (yet lol)

img text: "if anything happens to robin (again) i'll kill everyone in this town and then myself"

Sydney

what is it about this unassuming churchboy that calls to eris... he doesnt know,, but sydney makes him happy 🥺!!

unintentionally uuuh reduing sydney's purity by being horny at him. theyre promised ok?! its fine right?!? especially bc of the fucking SLOW BURN they went through omg...

img text: "he makes this shit town bearable. BF" sydnet img text: "really adores and admires him. BF"

Kylar

um. well. your honor, he's just misunderstood..! eris kinda feeds into kylar's IssuesTM by not dissuading him. he just feels kinda sorry for him,,! this opinion Will change if/when kylar finally gets his greasy little paws on eris

he 100% realizes kylar is unhinged and the plushie gift was probs bugged somehow. still accepted it but like... he's hardly home anyway so w/e. still holds onto hope kylar can change(???)

img text: "haha. i'm in danger :^)" kylar's img text: "HAVE MY FUCKING BABIES" lol

Whitney

literally beat the shit out of each other every time they were in close proximity for like a month, until whitney's dominance meter dropped a lot. he confuses eris... does he like. have a crush and is acting like an elementary kid about it??? use your words damnit!

despite it all... doesnt hate him. eris feels like theyre probably a lot more similar than whitney's letting him (or anyone) see. sydney's mention of whitney having things going on to make him act like a little shit stuck with eris. . .

img text: "stop giving mixed messages whitney!"

Avery

the most cut and dry of them: it's just a transactional sugar relationship. except the part about the elk/fox bullshit? hello?? mr avery??? WHAT WAS THAT AVERY--?????

eris really doesnt trust avery,,, but he pays him a LOT & eris has two whole debts to pay off;; avery is only allowed to hit it from the back. . . (thanks temple for not counting that as sex ig lol!)

im iffy on the designs ive drawn for them too, i mostly have been going off of what i see the general fandom draws! theres a lot of really nice designs :> im being mindful not to fully copy anyone tho.

i also went insane and made eris a playlist - it has a lot of metal/loud songs jsyk! remains of us was specifically put on the playlist for sydney 🥹 just recently had my first run in with the ivory wraith too =D AH. TRAUMAS OBTAINED!!! very much eris' top trauma event so far!! he's resilient... so he's on the road to recovery but boy was that RUFF. robin and sydney came in super clutch with comforting him tho :")

one last thing for you all:

eris core lol

[tea-and-secrets]

it really annoys me how misunderstood intrusive thoughts are. and im including those posts that are like “intrusive thoughts arent just saying you wanna dye your hair at 3am!!!” because.. yes that can be an intrusive thought? i get their point, im not being willfully ignorant, but i have gotten intrusive thoughts that were seemingly “normal” and not outwardly harmful to anyone except me. it became intrusive because of MY association with the thought. its one of the most talked about version of ocd where people say things like “my hands need to be washed or else a Bad Thing is going to happen” like. that’s an intrusive thought and its something as simple and normal as washing your hands. i dont know, i know those posts are made in good faith and wanting to be taken seriously but its still comes off as misinformative to me. ANYTHING can be an intrusive thought, it doesnt have to just be something society views as harmful and i want people to know that. yes, dying your hair at 3am can be an intrusive thought, however it can also just be an impulsive thought and not connected to ocd at all, it all just depends. when are we gonna move away from ocd being strictly “moral by society standards” based when its not for so many people?

to add on, people also dont understand that intrusive thoughts are not just “imagining a bad scenario that your brain randomly came up with” like meeting someone and then imagining killing them with hammers is not an intrusive thought, it can make you feel uncomfortable and weird but its not an intrusive thought, its just your brain making up a scenario. same with things that are sexual! youre not a bad person or mentally ill because you get “weird” thoughts like that! you just have a brain! id like to continue explaining this topic and pointing out all the exceptions and nuance but this ask is getting long so ill just end it how i started, it really annoys me how misunderstood intrusive thoughts are.

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[444m777]

literally in bed in tears…

my bf went out to get us breakfast and I was texting him and he asked me if I heard the news and he’s sorry and I was like huh? He told me Tito passed away.

Tito!?! TITOOOOO!? This feels like a sick joke. My heart goes out to his sons especially Taj who’s been working tirelessly on the Righting HIStory documentary for his Uncle Michael. He explained on the MJ birthday livestream how he struggled with not being able to hear Michael’s voice anymore and how that took a toll on him. Dealing with people on the internet who are being willfully and purposely obtuse and trying to get a rise out of him. He was very emotional throughout the whole thing and it sucks! You’re trying to create something for your Uncle who was severely and criminally misunderstood and boom your father now suddenly passes away. Life can be so cruel😞

My heart goes out to Ms Katherine. Lord/Universe/Nature/And the powers that be PLEASE don’t take anyone else from this family. Please! I wish them not only strength but also comfort during these times. My heart goes out to Jackie being the eldest brother. My heart goes out to Rebbie being the eldest sibling. I’m just really shocked. This was not how I wanted to spend my day off 🙁 especially since I told that lady yesterday that I really hope I can see the Jacksons live in the US perhaps.

Tito to me felt very grounded/rock-like and the time and energy he dedicated to his sons 3T is admirable. Seeing him make music with Austin Brown (Rebbie’s son) whom I like very much, I’m just really sad.

His last instagram post was about him being at his brother’s memorial in Munich which was really sweet. To think days later he’d be meeting and greeting his brother again… I truly believe in my heart that they’re reunited.

Rest in power Toriano Adaryll "Tito" Jackson🌹

[nikethestatue]

Not an ask but I would just like to say I started reading ACOTAR this year from all the online hype it has, so I went in semi spoiled. Mainly already knowing the 3 couples, Rhys and Feyre, Nesta and Cassian, and what I was led to believe were Az and Gwyn. So I went in fully expecting those pairings.

Once I finished the series I walked away SO confused thinking I had misunderstood or had missed some huge scene for Gwyn and Az. All the foreshadowing I read clearly indicated Elain and Azriel. I started looking online to see if there were any updates on the next book, and that’s when I found the infamous bonus lol. I thought ok, this must be what I’m missing, let me read this and NOW Gwyn and Az will make sense.

Nope lol. I walked away from that chapter fully convinced of Elain and Az at that point. I mean that was truly just confirmation of what is being laid out in the previous books. Mutual desire and feelings.

I literally went into this series expecting a completely different outcome, and walked away with my mind completely changed based on actual canon text. I do not understand how people just willfully ignore what has been so clearly planned out and also lead others to believe what they ship without making it clear that it is not a confirmed pair.

Yep! I totally understand what you are saying. Gwynriel has been hyped so much, you'd think they already HAD a book written about them. You'd think they saved the world and had a baby.

Their interactions are...she screeched. He raised his brow. She said ONE line 'see you tomorrow shadowsinger'. That's what the 'great romance'' was. I almost feel bad--readers have been taken for a ride and came back all confused and disappointed.

That's why there is always a lot of so-called suggestions not to read certain books and over-emphasizing the same 3 lines.

[arbitrarygreay]

The root of Talder tragedy

Tally doesn't think that intent is magic, but Alder kind of does? So, Alder often talks about having no choice, and how the ends justified the means (example: her decision to deploy the Citydrop privates), but ultimately, she falls back on her internal motive, that she did all of the things she did with the intent to protect her people. She believes that that is sufficient to engender (enough) trust between her and the unit to work together in 1x10. Tally is focused on the practical fallout of things. In 2x6, "[Alder] causes more problems than she fixes, doesn't she?" In 3x1, she beats herself up for accidentally compromising the Dodger facility. "Oh, if you ever need anyone to ruin everything, I am available. No, seriously. Alder, Penelope, now this? I may just be the Camarilla's greatest weapon." something something linked to how her Sight focuses her on how the world will be, not how she wishes. So, of course, these two mindsets collide in the worst possible way in 2x5. Tally is focused on the effect of Liberia leading to the creation of the Spree. Very notably, Alder immediately concedes the point that it was a bad call. "one of my deepest regrets", "an even deeper moment of personal failure", "prideful failings". She did the same in 1x10, easily conceding that she did all of the things the unit accused her of, holding that she wasn't the same as Spree simply because of her motive. In 2x5, what Alder fires back at Tally as the transgression that Alder is offended by isn't about the actions. She is incensed by "accusations of conspiracy and nefarious intent". Arguably, Alder does not pursue punitive action against Tally for this because Tally successfully protests the framework. "I just wanted answers" successfully shows that Tally was not looking at Alder's intent. Unfortunately, Alder and Tally are similar on this point of what stirs them to anger: to be willfully misunderstood. Alder tolerates the power-jockeying of her subordinates for the most part, so long as they're on the same page that it's all for the sake of protecting their people. For anyone to intimate that she does more selfish things is where she gets incensed. I wrote previously how Tally gets the most enraged when others impugn how she should feel. So, Alder thought that Tally attacked her intent (which is magic), but then let it go when Tally cleared that up. Unfortunately, in doing so she attacked how Tally should feel and act about it. And the root of the tragedy is that though they are similar in what moves them to anger, they are drastically divergent on how they act on that anger. Where Alder's reaction to slights is to rebuke then forget (because she has the power to do so), Tally's reaction to slights is to burn bridges. So, Tally doubles down on "it's about the consequences, intent is not magic" and tries to tear it all down. In 2x10, her empathy wins out. She says to both Nicte and Alder that she understands that they didn't have nefarious intent. However, this is Tally just sympathizing with them, not that she has changed her mind on what matters. She can't get over how her own actions seemed to have backfired, no matter her intent. (And so, this history fundamentally influences how Tally and Alder interact in S3, where they consciously try to avoid falling into the same failure modes with engaging with each other.)

[wing-ed-thing]

Hii lol, completely out of topic from what you usually post but whaddya think about sakura in general? I feel like reader’s personality reminds me so much of sakura in Foul Creature, not that Im complaining!

Lmaoooo I love Sakura. I feel like she's such a dynamic and willfully misunderstood character. I also think that Naruto's plot/world as a whole feels thin and I think she was very much impacted by a lack of substance just like every other character

[stereax]

Hello! Read your latest fic, I wanted to swing by and say I loved it. It really understands that feeling of denial and grief and anger that comes from such a big betrayal, as well as how selfish it feels to even *feel* hurt in the first place. (Wanting to excuse it despite knowing all the signs were there in hindsight... This fic was painful in ways I didn't know I needed to feel right now.) It's such a relief to know I'm not alone in ever experiencing these kinds of feelings, and it's like you just exposed the beating heart of it. (The elevator scene hurt! You never notice the ways someone's become so finely woven into your life until you can't have them!) A cathartic read for me because those ugly feelings, that reality that the people you love are the exact same people caused harm with no degrees of separation are so real. Thank you for sharing your writing. <3

Hi there anon!

I think you've really, really hit the nail on the head here. I wrote this a few days after the news dropped, partially because I was still trying to process it myself. If you go way back in my archives, I talked fairly frequently about McLeod prior to the official arrests - I think I still tried to hold out hope that he wasn't involved, that it'd be someone else. And that's pretty messed-up of me, I think, but that's sort of human nature - we don't want to admit that the people we love are capable of doing these kinds of terrible things. We cling onto the good and turn blind eyes to the bad because we don't want to face the truth. Because it can't be. And if I've managed to evoke those ugly feelings in people who read my fic, I think I succeeded in what I wanted to do.

Not to toot my own horn, but I feel like this fic was... important, in a sense, for me to get out, and presents a bit of a perspective I don't think many authors want to touch. That's why I kept it percolating in my drafts for a year or so - I thought if I released it earlier, it'd be targeted or misinterpreted or misunderstood. In fact, I called this fic the "piss on the poor" fic for a while in my chats with friends, because I realized how likely it could be that the perspective the story is told through would be applied directly to its author, that I'd receive backlash for writing something that departs from the classic modern understanding that Rapists Aren't Human. The matter of the fact is, even the most heinous criminals have parents, have families, have friends, and those people are also affected significantly when things like this arise. While we, as mere observers, can easily pretend these criminals don't exist and that they have no impact on others' lives, it's incredibly difficult, if not impossible, for people who knew them to do the same. And, unfortunately, those five are not the only ones - most of us have likely interacted with a rapist before, and some of us may have known these people as close friends, partners, or family members. And it's this balancing act, really - to accept that these people you may have loved are the same as the ones who did such evil things, and to remind yourself that you're not a bad person for loving or having loved them.

Going full damnatio memoriae on the five players arrested for rape is... I don't want to say a disservice to fandom, because I'm aware that everyone picks and chooses their fandom battles and willfully ignoring someone's existence is part of that. But I think - especially for Bastian - it kills off a vital part of his character, that he is intrinsically linked to this incredibly flawed man, that so much of his life revolved around that and now that it's come to an end he's... lost, so to speak. I mean, even now, he still brings up McLeod in interviews (the mysterious linemate in the story about the lost tooth was actually McLeod). I wanted to - fill that gap in the literature, if that makes sense. To discuss one of the darkest corners of hockey culture head-on. Nate knows rape is wrong; that's never really in doubt. But he can't square off rape with his Mikey, the Mikey he's only ever known as a good person, especially when the victim is so nameless and faceless and nebulous it's almost like she doesn't exist.

But on a lighter note, thank you so much for your ask!!! It really means a lot to me to see that people are reading the fic and are - I don't want to say enjoying it, per se, but being left with important questions and big feelings. 💜

[dayurno]

Ngl I like that Kevjean is a small ship because it being bigger would not make it canon but it WOULD bring annoying people into my dash. It's nice in here being mentally ill with my five and a half Kevjean friends

YOURE ALREADY BETTER THAN ME ive managed to be annoyed by someone in the 5 people fandom do you know how hard it is. also i feel like it depends a lot because i think in the piss on the poor fandom theres never any character or pairing free from being willfully misunderstood or just downright butchered........... and for kevjean they are so easy 2 dramatize i think they just naturally are more prone to bad portrayals. but its ok. i saw your suicide note mr. moreau i saw it i know whats in your heart

[demonstars]

sorry if i sound crazy but chappell roan constantly explaining herself and her very reasonable opinions only to be met with so much harassment... im so sorry chappell 😭 like no matter how much it happens it never stops feeling shitty

I've been experiencing chappell roan demons of her being missunderstood since bitches where trying to invalidate her for being unapologeticly a lesbian and it's only gotten worse and the way being so willfully and vilefyingly misunderstood is genuinely stresses her out makes me so SADDDDDDDDDDDDD

[bluedalahorse]

When I’m feeling both hangry and a little cranky because I feel like I’m being willfully misunderstood, it’s time for me to:

Log off tumblr for a bit.

Eat a bigger snack.

Work on the things I get paid to do so I’m prepared when I return to in-person interaction tomorrow and Wednesday.

Thank you to those of you who take my points about various characters and the philosophies behind certain stories in good faith. You know who you are. <3

[georgevilliers]

What are they saying about Nicholas? Is it bad? I don't wanna get on twitter to find out D:

I'll be real with you, most of the negative stuff I've seen is coming from Harry Styles fans that are mad at The Idea of You for various reasons that I could get into but I don't even really want to bring specific negative comments from twitter onto tumblr. (And listen I was a 1D fan from 2012 until they broke up so like, I was in the trenches, and frankly his stans, especially the ones who ship Larry, have always been really extra and I feel exhausted by the thought of having to engage with them and their so-called "logic" again just because my current fave is tangentially associated with him right now!)

Also I think I'm just feeling melancholic over everything because I really want the best for his career but more exposure is always going to lead to more opinions, good and bad, and I just wish there was some way he could have the good career without the added opinions from people!!! I think it's hard for me, as someone who reads, listens to, and watches every interview he does, to then turn around and see someone online throw out baseless opinions about his character, or what he said, or what he did etc etc when they're likely basing all of that opinion on only one thing. Or perhaps they're coming at him from a place of wanting to dislike him for whatever their personal reasons are, and so they willfully misrepresent or misunderstand. It's especially hard as I know he has spoken about his fears of being misunderstood multiple times and now I am witnessing it happening in real time.

I really don't want to be a bummer especially as this is a really really exciting time for his career and it honestly feels like he has the whole world at his feet and I'm excited to see what projects he will be doing moving forward! I am full of both excitement and a bit of melancholy and that's ok, I am simply parasocialing a little too close to the sun lol.

Honestly, there are always going to be good and bad experiences on every platform that you can engage in fandom. I have probably 100 people on tumblr blocked to protect my fan experience lmao! And there's lots of people on twitter who I think are really funny and fun stans of Nick's! I just think on twitter there's a lot all at once and it's easier to see opinions from people who aren't actual fans of his, if that makes sense.

Although I will share one comment that made me laugh, which was someone on twitter complaining about how they keep seeing the same few actors in every single movie and Nick was listed along with names like Timothee Chalamet and others and it made me kinda laugh because Timothee rose to fame in 2017 with Call Me By Your Name and has been working steadily ever since so yeah I kinda understand the Timothee fatigue. But in 2017 Nick was still a struggling actor working side jobs and hadn't yet had a "big break". He quite literally has only started becoming well known in 2023, so if this person is already sick of him, they have a lot more coming their way 💀

[rmorde]

Just a long rant. Sorry.

Stuff that are oddly ignored or willfully misunderstood about Get0:

#1 It was his choice to do genocide. No one forced him to do it. Yuki mentioned it but quickly pointed out that it is a crazy idea that no one would do! He chose that goal for himself.

#2 He was dead serious about his genocide. He is 100% willing to kill non-sorcerers. Wdym "he may not have killed a lot"?! -> He killed an entire village. -> He killed his own parents. (It's his "Now that I've done this, I can never go back" deed) -> He killed the OG leader of the cult that had Riko killed. (Even if he deserves it) -> He killed a client for not paying him. (Are we sure he didn't just send those curses to him in the first place?) Get0 wants all non-sorcerers dead. Their "usefulness" just delays the inevitable to him. Remember his speech about two types of "monkeys"?

Speaking of which, he hates non-sorcerers so much he calls them "monkeys" and even deodorizes himself after being around them for a few moments! It's so wrong on multiple levels.

Also, I repeat Get0 KILLED HIS OWN PARENTS JUST TO MAKE A POINT THAT HE IS SERIOUS ABOUT HIS GENOCIDE AGENDA! HE IS NEVER GOING TO COMPROMISE WITH THIS.

#3 "Get0 did not intend to seriously fight Goj0's students. He went easy on them"... What? What? WHAT?! How-

-> He wants Maki dead. MAKI ONLY SURVIVED BECAUSE OF HER HEAVENLY RESTRICTION + INUMAKI AND PANDA ARRIVING JUST IN TIME + YUTA HEALING HER. Get0 was not being merciful towards her.

-> He wants Yuta dead. He explained it explicitly. He needs Yuta dead to get Rika so he can beat Goj0. GET0 WAS NOT HOLDING BACK. HE IS DOING HIS ABSOLUTE BEST TO KILL YUTA. THE UZUMAKI WAS NOT JUST FOR DISPLAY! Regardless of whatever slight fondness Get0 has for Yuta in JJK 0, it doesn't fucking matter. He was still trying to kill him.

#4 "Get0 also went easy on Jujutsu Tech." I... Did we watch the same movie?!

-> Do all the managers like Ijichi not matter? A lot of them are fucking dead on-screen. Some are even killed by the hands of Get0's daughters! -> A young sorcerer or two were killed on-screen, before Nanami did his back-to-back flashes to save them. GET0 IS NOT GOING EASY ON THEM!

-> I guess this idea come from the fact that he didn't use all of his power against Yuta and that his army of curses were divided. Well... HE DID IT FOR THE BENEFIT OF HIS OWN FAMILY/CULT. IT WAS NOT FOR JUJUTSU TECHS + SORCERERS' SAKE! Get0 loves them and is very protective of his found family. It's a testament of how precious they are to him that he willingly weaken himself just to make sure they have enough support through his tamed curses.

-> The quote "I have no hard feelings towards Jujutsu Tech." is not an admission/statement of genuine regret. It's Get0's equivalent of "Nothing personal. Just good business. You're just in the way. " ---> Whatever affections he may have towards to jujutsu tech pale in comparison to the love he has for his family. In that moment, jujutsu tech is the greatest threat against his family. Get0 compartmentalize away his sentiment towards his alma mater and former friends. He prioritizes his and his family's victory first.

#5 "Get0 didn't want to fight Goj0." Ok... I get why this is a popular take but here is the thing: Yes. Get0 does not want to fight Goj0 but he needs to fucking fight Goj0 because he is the greatest obstacle to his genocidal dream.

-> EVIDENCE #1: He wants to get Rika so he can be on par with Goj0. Why? Because he must fight him.

-> EVIDENCE #2: He assigned Miguel to stall Goj0. You know? Miguel! The guy with a weapon that can fuck up Goj0's abilities and possibly weaken him? Get0 learned well from the Star Plasma Vessel mission and sent after Goj0 a sorcerer whose skills* and tools are as close as possible to T0ji's. Too bad Goj0 learned as well from the disastrous SPV mission and trained hard to fight without relying too much on Limitless ----> *I think Miguel just unfortunately got the J0go treatment. Goj0 gave him special attention. He stayed behind to deal with him personally - implying that no one else on his side can match Miguel. Not Yaga. Not Nanami. Not Mei. --------> Miguel also survived Goj0's punches and we all know how hard he hits. That's on a normal situation. But Ijichi noted that Goj0 was angry during the fight. So, I bet each of Goj0's punches are fatal but Miguel tanked them. He is that strong.

Look. Geto is a smart guy. He was playing wisely in his war against Gojo. He isn't going to fight him until he was ready. He did NOT go after Yuta at school because he didn't want to fight Goj0. He went there first to kill Yuta, get Rika, AND THEN fight Goj0.

Get0's story is a tragedy because he became utterly consumed by despair and hatred.

He was so desperate to find meaning in his life that he spiraled down from sorcerer to curse user to a genocidal maniac.

He become so full of hatred that he was willing to go against the reason he became a curse user in the first place. He wanted to make a world with just sorcerers, right? Then why the fuck is he killing so many sorcerers in his war? His Night Parade of Hundred Demons decimated the population of the very people he wants to live in his world.

Get0 loves his family and he still holds affection towards his former friends (especially Goj0). They all love and loved him in return. Unfortunately, it was not enough to save him.

[yuri-for-businesswomen]

I honestly wouldn't be complaining about Europeans so much if it weren't for the fact that I've been drowning in European hypocrisy nearly on a daily basis for more than half a decade now.

But most of my classmates are from mainland European countries like France, Belgium, Germany, Poland, or Sweden, and then there's the Icelanders I work with. And half the time when I say I'm from the U.S. they immediately make some really inappropriate remark like "haha at least I'm not from bang bang shooty gun land, I'm from a REAL country that has healthcare and gun control 🤣" with no regard for how rude and deranged that is to say to someone they barely know.

And I always get the feeling that they expect me to start self flagellating and going "haha yes you're so right!! I'm from the country of inbred hillbillies and we all willfully choose to go without healthcare and to die in school shootings because we're such dumb backwards hillbillies! 😌" Because they always look a little shocked when I don't do that and actually push back or even tell them they're being rude.

And the thing is I've spoken with other Americans who live in Northern or Western Europe, and they've all had similar experiences.

And often the same exact Europeans who do this will later say the most nauseatingly racist/xenophobic/ECT. remarks and expect me to still see them as superior and more progressive.

I would be very happy to stay in my own lane and not say a word on European racism and xenophobia. But the hypocrisy I drown in every day is driving me insane and if I stay quiet I'll fucking lose it.

ah i see maybe i misunderstood. it was about how europeans talk about the usa, not about others? to be fair as a german when i was meeting foreigners from the uk or australia for example they would make nazi/hitler jokes to me as well sometimes. didnt find it appropriate or liked it either but i think thats just different levels of sensitivity. i wouldnt think its racist/xenophobic because westerners joking about westerners even if its bad/insensitive/inappropriate jokes is not kicking downwards (the hitler jokes are often mocking the holocaust though which is blatantly antisemitic). but i understand where you are coming from now.

generally i think that usamericans are the most adament about political correctness, and that yall dont deal well with bluntness. i agree though its very inappropriate to mock someone for their countries lack of healthcare or gun violence. i think it has kind of become a „meme“ online as well to slam school shootings into any usamerican persons face. thats not okay. i think many are sick of usamerican hegemony and falsely think its okay to attack usamericans for it when you are also suffering from usamerican politics. so yeah i wouldnt say europeans have more (or less) issues with xenophobia and racism than the usa and canada but its possible some people are more blatant and blunt with it here.

also, the european union (which is not all of europe) is self-advertising as this progressive and peaceful organisation when they spend billions to let people drown in the ocean who just want a better life, for example, and people who are either centrist or apolitical believe this shit, and think they live in progressiveland without reflecting on their own biases. the right-wing is very critical of the european union and want it gone, and theyre the most unhinged when it comes to racism. and i think the european left is just very usa-critical, which i could see leading to misguided comments.