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#it feels so stupid to feel so alone when i'm surrounded by people who if I said that to they'd be like#noooo we love you! yada yada#i am nothing like any of these people and i don't mean that pretentiously#i mean i'm fucked up! lmao#and all of them are all such good friends with each other and I#idk#feel left out#i feel so willfully misunderstood#everything I say and do#i have never felt so stupid and ugly and insignificant#i fucking hate you columbus#you have bad vibes#1 more year before my life gets to be fucked up but in a different and uniquely disheartening way#i will probably make nothing of my life#i can't even get out of bed in the morning#yuck#je suis tres stupide#and what's more is whenever i even approximate trying to say this to someone it's always like#why#where's the proof give me an example#what happened that makes you feel this way#and how am i supposed to say that that very question is part of the problem#how am i supposed to explain the entirety of my being not being understood unless i sit down and write everyone a dissertation#and also drag all of the people I have to talk to#like yes sorry guys sometimes you all are cunts (derogatory)#whatever#i guess i am just am not ideologically in the same sphere#i am truly just fucked up lol
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your ideal partner is like...
On this pick a pile reading, im focusing on positive traits to take into consideration when wondering if someone is worth putting your time and energy into a committed relationship. This is not meant to be strict guideline of arbitrarily imposed "must have's" to look for, but more of an opportunity to reflect on what could be beneficial to your ideas of a healthy relationship.
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I get the feeling that you value certain aspects of relationships that could be considered “traditional” or “old school”, but not necessarily the ones that are limiting to your sense of identity or your will. I think you find value in things that bring peace of mind and comfort due to being structured in a way that feels natural and balanced, or at least aim to provide those qualities into your life. In your case, I feel like commitment in any sort of union is something you value a lot, specially because you have a deep understanding of your own individuality which involves wanting to connect with someone who is just as conscious as you are, and just as willing to bring out the best in you as you are willing to do so for them.
Your ideal partner is someone who wants a certain level of structure in their lives, but also wants to find opportunities to experience child-like wonder. This is a person who is patient, and knows that building strong foundations in the relationship is the best way possible to ensure that both of you get to be joyful together. A key aspect here is that you look for someone who shares your values, not because they aspire to them, but because they live by them even if their lives are completely different to yours. Maybe your life experiences of the past might not be similar, but what’s important is that your ideals and aspirations are the middleground where you are both capable of nurturing a genuine connection. Both of these cards show me that you are determined to achieve harmony in a way that you consider both practical and fulfilling, and yet you are not willing to sacrifice your individual aspirations. Therefore, whoever is meant for you, needs to embrace the way in which you decide to nurture a relationship.
˚˖𓍢ִ໋ ✧ pile number two ˚.⋆
This combination of cards is telling me that you are someone who has coherent reasons to be slightly afraid of vulnerability. You have been in places where your honesty and your vulnerability have been misunderstood as weaknesses and treated as such. Nobody deserves to be hurt because of such noble traits. What's relevant here is that you are cautious with who gets access to your truest self, which is not that bad, but from time to time your anxiety in regards to vulnerability might be something that makes it more difficult to find true connections with others. It is hard to know who will value your genuine ways of living and expressing your feelings if you never try to do so, if you never give people the opportunity to show if they are worthy of you being in tune with your sensitive essence.
Your ideal partner is someone who is not only empathetic, but also someone who is willing to put effort into building a sense of trust within the relationship. Whoever wants to love you, needs to understand your healing process and willfully put in the work so you feel secure with them. I'm talking about a person who values having the difficult conversations instead of running away from the issues or hiding anything that could turn into a problem. This is someone who shows their loyalty by either being helpful or being a good company. You can be very introspective and mindful of your issues, you are too used to solve problems on your own. These are amazing qualities that can be nourished when you engage with a person who is willing to learn when you need help,when you need company and when you need your own space. Finding out who has this characteristics is only possible if you find the peace of mind and the confidence to approach vulnerability in a way that gets you out of your comfort zone without getting hurt.
˚˖𓍢ִ໋ ✧ pile number three ˚.⋆
Well, I can’t lie here, these cards are giving me a subtle “opposites attract” type of scenario. Which doesn’t mean that you should go and look for someone who is nothing like you, but it does mean that maybe you should consider your own virtues and defects and how they can be complemented by a partner, while also thinking on how you compliment them. This is not only about superficial compatibility, but more so about both of you being able to rely on each other and able to ask for help. From what I see, it’s most likely your ideal partner is someone who shares a similar life path to yours, but they have an entirely different set of skills. Having shared objectives and aspirations is something quite valuable, especially if both of you are equally as committed to them.
What I see from an ideal partner in your case, it's this passionate approach to almost everything. It is not a kind of passion that comes from a need to fill a void in their lives, it is the kind of passion that comes from a deep sense of responsibility and consciousness in regards to their own lives. This is a person who sees the value of their journeys and is able to be truthful and fair with their approach to new experiences because they want to remain aligned to their honest desires. They are fully aware of what they can and can’t do, but what’s interesting about them is that they also see value in creating dynamic ways to work around that. You need to find someone who respects you enough to allow themselves to ask you for help, but are also willing to help you too. A key thing to consider when thinking of an ideal partner is the sort of enhancements made possible by a connection where both genuinely respect and admire each other, without idealizations that could harm the relationship.
hey there! i hope this reading was useful or at least entertaining for someone <3 if you did enjoy it, don't hesitate to check out my other P.A.C readings i think they're also kinda fun??
anyways, big updates (maybe not too big)
i set up a ko-fi (finally, ik, im sorry, many people told me to do so but apparently i had to drop out uni to find the time to do it lmao actually not funny btw i dropped out to focus on my work because economic crisis, fuck you javier milei, i work on a tarot reading app btw but i cant disclose it or share my profile from the app idk why)
I FINALLY CAN TAKE PICTURES OF MY CARDS !!!!! (they are still samsung phone quality but they are expensive samsung phone quality ok) so yeah things are going to look prettier i guess??? maybe i'll do videos someday??
im also working on a posting schedule and taking this blog more seriously because i missed tumblr so much tbh and i need a way of sharing the beauty of tarot thats not literally too close to working a 9 to 5 call center job (i love my job tho, but working in tarot apps is... interesting) . i love this site so much, i was literally raised by it at this point (i feel like an elder user because i've been here since 13 and im 23, i saw gen z underage people calling 25 year olds "uncle" online and honestly i cant even be mad about it because if any gen z calls me an auntie i wont go against it, i've been on my single auntie patty and selma vibes since forever tbh and im technically gen z too?? )
last big update: i got a kinda fun and silly oracle deck which i will be using for an ask game eventually.
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it really annoys me how misunderstood intrusive thoughts are. and im including those posts that are like “intrusive thoughts arent just saying you wanna dye your hair at 3am!!!” because.. yes that can be an intrusive thought? i get their point, im not being willfully ignorant, but i have gotten intrusive thoughts that were seemingly “normal” and not outwardly harmful to anyone except me. it became intrusive because of MY association with the thought. its one of the most talked about version of ocd where people say things like “my hands need to be washed or else a Bad Thing is going to happen” like. that’s an intrusive thought and its something as simple and normal as washing your hands. i dont know, i know those posts are made in good faith and wanting to be taken seriously but its still comes off as misinformative to me. ANYTHING can be an intrusive thought, it doesnt have to just be something society views as harmful and i want people to know that. yes, dying your hair at 3am can be an intrusive thought, however it can also just be an impulsive thought and not connected to ocd at all, it all just depends. when are we gonna move away from ocd being strictly “moral by society standards” based when its not for so many people?
to add on, people also dont understand that intrusive thoughts are not just “imagining a bad scenario that your brain randomly came up with” like meeting someone and then imagining killing them with hammers is not an intrusive thought, it can make you feel uncomfortable and weird but its not an intrusive thought, its just your brain making up a scenario. same with things that are sexual! youre not a bad person or mentally ill because you get “weird” thoughts like that! you just have a brain! id like to continue explaining this topic and pointing out all the exceptions and nuance but this ask is getting long so ill just end it how i started, it really annoys me how misunderstood intrusive thoughts are.
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literally in bed in tears…
my bf went out to get us breakfast and I was texting him and he asked me if I heard the news and he’s sorry and I was like huh? He told me Tito passed away.
Tito!?! TITOOOOO!? This feels like a sick joke. My heart goes out to his sons especially Taj who’s been working tirelessly on the Righting HIStory documentary for his Uncle Michael. He explained on the MJ birthday livestream how he struggled with not being able to hear Michael’s voice anymore and how that took a toll on him. Dealing with people on the internet who are being willfully and purposely obtuse and trying to get a rise out of him. He was very emotional throughout the whole thing and it sucks! You’re trying to create something for your Uncle who was severely and criminally misunderstood and boom your father now suddenly passes away. Life can be so cruel😞
My heart goes out to Ms Katherine. Lord/Universe/Nature/And the powers that be PLEASE don’t take anyone else from this family. Please! I wish them not only strength but also comfort during these times. My heart goes out to Jackie being the eldest brother. My heart goes out to Rebbie being the eldest sibling. I’m just really shocked. This was not how I wanted to spend my day off 🙁 especially since I told that lady yesterday that I really hope I can see the Jacksons live in the US perhaps.
Tito to me felt very grounded/rock-like and the time and energy he dedicated to his sons 3T is admirable. Seeing him make music with Austin Brown (Rebbie’s son) whom I like very much, I’m just really sad.
His last instagram post was about him being at his brother’s memorial in Munich which was really sweet. To think days later he’d be meeting and greeting his brother again… I truly believe in my heart that they’re reunited.
Rest in power Toriano Adaryll "Tito" Jackson🌹
#tito jackson#Jackson 5#the Jackson’s#Toriano Adaryll Tito Jackson#michael jackson#mjfam#mjforever#king of pop#mjj#mjinnocent#moonwalker#moonwalk#mjjinnocent#soldier of love#the jacksons#the Jackson family
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Not an ask but I would just like to say I started reading ACOTAR this year from all the online hype it has, so I went in semi spoiled. Mainly already knowing the 3 couples, Rhys and Feyre, Nesta and Cassian, and what I was led to believe were Az and Gwyn. So I went in fully expecting those pairings.
Once I finished the series I walked away SO confused thinking I had misunderstood or had missed some huge scene for Gwyn and Az. All the foreshadowing I read clearly indicated Elain and Azriel. I started looking online to see if there were any updates on the next book, and that’s when I found the infamous bonus lol. I thought ok, this must be what I’m missing, let me read this and NOW Gwyn and Az will make sense.
Nope lol. I walked away from that chapter fully convinced of Elain and Az at that point. I mean that was truly just confirmation of what is being laid out in the previous books. Mutual desire and feelings.
I literally went into this series expecting a completely different outcome, and walked away with my mind completely changed based on actual canon text. I do not understand how people just willfully ignore what has been so clearly planned out and also lead others to believe what they ship without making it clear that it is not a confirmed pair.
Yep! I totally understand what you are saying. Gwynriel has been hyped so much, you'd think they already HAD a book written about them. You'd think they saved the world and had a baby.
Their interactions are...she screeched. He raised his brow. She said ONE line 'see you tomorrow shadowsinger'. That's what the 'great romance'' was. I almost feel bad--readers have been taken for a ride and came back all confused and disappointed.
That's why there is always a lot of so-called suggestions not to read certain books and over-emphasizing the same 3 lines.
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sometimes i get in a mood and begin to feel truly, deeply, for spock’s struggles, especially as a young boy.
as a late-diagnosed neurodivergent woman who is still, even at 29 years old, trying to figure herself out and beginning to comb over the stages of her life with a shiny new fine-toothed comb, i mourn. i mourn for a spock who was willfully misunderstood his entire life. vulcans are capable of so much intelligence and that extends to the emotional. the adults in his life could not have missed the applicable nuance that should have been applied to him, and their IDIC ideals should have crafted in them a curiosity about who he could become.
and yet such a little boy, soft and wondering and bright eyed as any child would be, was looked on with cold eyes and colder shoulders. we see this plainly in aos but i believe it happened in tos as well, given how spock’s shame in thinking of jim’s friendship caused him much emotional upheaval.
and so i mourn, because he is me, and he is all of us who are coming to terms with who we are later in life. he didn’t deserve the narrowed eyes, furrowed brows, and the whining questions of “why won’t you just be like us?”.
and neither did i. and neither did you.
but spock crafted a life from what others despised that he enjoyed, and he found a man to share it all with in friendship and…more—no matter the eyerolls and the disdain from others. it gives me hope on the dark days, because we all know people like this who have fought their way to happiness and i am as inclined to be so determined.
i want to be a little more like spock.
#im emo#star trek meta#star trek tos#star trek aos#spock#s’chn t’gai spock#Star Trek#neuro diversity#slightlytreks
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i bring up again the question of "do you think anyone wants to work at an ironworks?" as a thought exercise to really lay bare the values and assumptions behind communism (in all but the most anti-civ interpretations of the ideology). without (mass-produced) steel there are no trains, no reinforced concrete buildings, no large agricultural machinery, i.e. a comparatively non-industrial society. yet, to mass produce steel requires destruction and pollution of vast areas (of stolen land) for iron ore, burning of natural gas and coke for smelting, and the exploitation of all the workers making this happen, who must endure constant heat stress, suffer high rates of workplace injury and are plagued by cases of lung cancer. And this is merely the start of the production process.
for an anti-civ anarchist, this question is as simple as it gets--of course no one wants to work at an ironworks. and to make anyone under any circumstances perform the work required to mass-produce steel would be unjustifiable. therefore, we can only oppose such projects that champion steel production, and support projects that accept the need to make do without.
for principled communists, the question is also simple--of course no one wants to work at an ironworks, nonetheless someone must do this work. production is required to achieve a post-scarcity society that has overcome its own limits (resource availability, necessary labor, market distribution). production cannot be compromised, therefore some amount of coerced labor is necessary to protect the greater good (the ends justify the means). all projects that oppose production, then are reactionary from this perspective and the ideal project is political takeover and economic restructuring.
anything between either of these positions demonstrates some level of denial or willful ignorance. "Well, steel can't be that bad, right?/It's only because of capitalism that it's so bad./Under communism only workers that enjoy that work will do it./Well think about all the people that depend on steel." It's a "trust the experts" type of attitude that exempts people from engaging their values with the world around them. It's not thought, but regurgitated platitudes. It's a position that leads people to feel entirely satisfied signalling their virtue in online spaces without having to deal with the consequences of the banner they herald. This is the position that i respect the least, the one that avoids the question entirely and demonizes something that is willfully misunderstood.
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The root of Talder tragedy
Tally doesn't think that intent is magic, but Alder kind of does? So, Alder often talks about having no choice, and how the ends justified the means (example: her decision to deploy the Citydrop privates), but ultimately, she falls back on her internal motive, that she did all of the things she did with the intent to protect her people. She believes that that is sufficient to engender (enough) trust between her and the unit to work together in 1x10. Tally is focused on the practical fallout of things. In 2x6, "[Alder] causes more problems than she fixes, doesn't she?" In 3x1, she beats herself up for accidentally compromising the Dodger facility. "Oh, if you ever need anyone to ruin everything, I am available. No, seriously. Alder, Penelope, now this? I may just be the Camarilla's greatest weapon." something something linked to how her Sight focuses her on how the world will be, not how she wishes. So, of course, these two mindsets collide in the worst possible way in 2x5. Tally is focused on the effect of Liberia leading to the creation of the Spree. Very notably, Alder immediately concedes the point that it was a bad call. "one of my deepest regrets", "an even deeper moment of personal failure", "prideful failings". She did the same in 1x10, easily conceding that she did all of the things the unit accused her of, holding that she wasn't the same as Spree simply because of her motive. In 2x5, what Alder fires back at Tally as the transgression that Alder is offended by isn't about the actions. She is incensed by "accusations of conspiracy and nefarious intent". Arguably, Alder does not pursue punitive action against Tally for this because Tally successfully protests the framework. "I just wanted answers" successfully shows that Tally was not looking at Alder's intent. Unfortunately, Alder and Tally are similar on this point of what stirs them to anger: to be willfully misunderstood. Alder tolerates the power-jockeying of her subordinates for the most part, so long as they're on the same page that it's all for the sake of protecting their people. For anyone to intimate that she does more selfish things is where she gets incensed. I wrote previously how Tally gets the most enraged when others impugn how she should feel. So, Alder thought that Tally attacked her intent (which is magic), but then let it go when Tally cleared that up. Unfortunately, in doing so she attacked how Tally should feel and act about it. And the root of the tragedy is that though they are similar in what moves them to anger, they are drastically divergent on how they act on that anger. Where Alder's reaction to slights is to rebuke then forget (because she has the power to do so), Tally's reaction to slights is to burn bridges. So, Tally doubles down on "it's about the consequences, intent is not magic" and tries to tear it all down. In 2x10, her empathy wins out. She says to both Nicte and Alder that she understands that they didn't have nefarious intent. However, this is Tally just sympathizing with them, not that she has changed her mind on what matters. She can't get over how her own actions seemed to have backfired, no matter her intent. (And so, this history fundamentally influences how Tally and Alder interact in S3, where they consciously try to avoid falling into the same failure modes with engaging with each other.)
#motherland fort salem#sarah alder#tally craven#talder#category: tv#category: femslash#to be clear; alder absolutely does do more selfish things; but she's in denial about it#or she is aware of when she's being petty; which is why she actually lets things go pretty easily#note that she did not hunt nicte down for decades until nicte personally attacked her twice#she doesn't work to get petra; wade; general sharma; or the imperatrix buntzed from power through scheming#she never tries to manipulate khalida behind her back#alder is very fair play about power plays; actually#yeah she made the unit war meat but she was easily swayed to promote them to war college in Tarim even before witchbomb or biddying#I guess there wasn't enough time to see if she would have punished the unit for all of the back-talk and undercutting in 2x8 and 2x9
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Ngl I like that Kevjean is a small ship because it being bigger would not make it canon but it WOULD bring annoying people into my dash. It's nice in here being mentally ill with my five and a half Kevjean friends
YOURE ALREADY BETTER THAN ME ive managed to be annoyed by someone in the 5 people fandom do you know how hard it is. also i feel like it depends a lot because i think in the piss on the poor fandom theres never any character or pairing free from being willfully misunderstood or just downright butchered........... and for kevjean they are so easy 2 dramatize i think they just naturally are more prone to bad portrayals. but its ok. i saw your suicide note mr. moreau i saw it i know whats in your heart
#sorry i woke up with anger in my heart let me have a meal and ill have a brighter outlook on the fandom again#asks#kevjean
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the thing abt anaistarion is that i DO absolutely Ship It and am excited to explore it in every form. but i’m p sure i’ve done a good job not forcing that on any of my mutes who write astarion. at least i have tried bc i get what it’s like to write a character who’s so popular and i don’t want my partners to feel like i only value them or their portrayals for the shipping opportunities. like just bc i’m upfront about my ship biases on the dash/in personal headcanons doesn’t mean i will forceship in practice, y’know? it was the assumption that i must also be doing that which rubbed me the worst abt the anons i received. i don’t like the feeling of being willfully misunderstood (or maliciously misrepresented). otherwise i just found them funny.
#esp since i’ve only talked shipping with two (2) astarion writers at this point#and both of those beloved mutuals took opportunities to approach me abt it first#as a possibility to explore etc#which i’ve been!!! eager to run with dgmw!!!!#but it’s like…i have not approached a single person first about this ship#but ppl saw me interacting with multiples of a character and got jealous ig#and it’s easier to assume the worst of someone you envy#than it is to confront your own insecurities triggering that feeling#anywhomst i love my partners and mutuals so much for being so amazing#ily all and am v glad to have cultivated the circle of decent folks i seem to have!!!#!a suspicious lack of dragons. ( ooc )#blacklist for less soft nonsense.#tbd.
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sorry if i sound crazy but chappell roan constantly explaining herself and her very reasonable opinions only to be met with so much harassment... im so sorry chappell 😭 like no matter how much it happens it never stops feeling shitty
I've been experiencing chappell roan demons of her being missunderstood since bitches where trying to invalidate her for being unapologeticly a lesbian and it's only gotten worse and the way being so willfully and vilefyingly misunderstood is genuinely stresses her out makes me so SADDDDDDDDDDDDD
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15, 27 and 28
15. Personality description: Intelligent yet anxiety-ridden. Deeply passionate but unsure. Full of contradictions. I could never get a decent grasp on the core aspects of my personality besides being intelligent in a conventional sense, yet feeling completely and utterly average, and being passionate and patient, yet also paralyzed a lot of the time by anxiety and fear. I rarely, if ever lose my temper. I can get annoyed easily, but never truly angry, so I suppose that's a positive trait. I like to break things down and analyze them. 27. Things I hate: Willfully ignorant people. Being misunderstood. Not being able to focus. 28. I'll love you if...: You're willing to be there for me as much as I'm there for you. Also, I am just generally drawn to "eccentric" people, so I like a little flavor in my life. But truly, I just want kind people who make me less afraid to be myself.
#answered asks#asks game#i tried to describe myself as neutrally as possible based on what i'm usually told by my friends and family
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Mourning
Boxes of photos
a me full of
potential
fueled by dexedrine and literal daydreams
it's a pity about the narcolepsy
27 years later,
still a confused chameleon
who are you?
I used to believe I could be anything
ha, you've imagined but never fully committed
Survival is a bitch when you're hiding a disability that is mocked
and still wildly misunderstood
don't forget the trauma, it's charming, right?
48 standing in the kitchen
concerned that my insides are just as broken as my brilliant brain
willfully distracted by the hope that somebody I wish I knew, cared about me too
For all my artistic whims, I'm still searching, hoping life will come to me because I'm fucking exhausted
from chasing temporary joy
custom made disappointment tracks
Torn between giving it all another go
but you can't stand your face in photos anymore...
So I make myself disappear
don't forget that new gut you can't shake but it sure does jiggle
Nothing like being broke and out growing your clothes, drying up, and nobody cares
they say you look healthier, "you were too skinny."
I was happy though, I worked so hard and it's all gone
And it hurts to feel so sad, lonely, unheard and invisible
getting a taste of feeling seen is addictive
was it even real or just what I wanted to believe?
Then I say too much and I see that old hurt rise, snuffing out the last spark in me
is it so wrong to want to matter, to something or someone?
So many opportunities squandered and the last 7 years have flown by
I don't know how much drive is left in me
to lose the shadow of staying unseen
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You know I’ve actually never heard of you until now. I saw some weird callout stuff, and as someone who always checks to see if what someone is saying about someone else is actually true, I came to your blog. I read your pinned post and I just have to say: you’re right. You just… are right. I also have OCD and it infuriates me when people try to explain what intrusive thoughts REALLY are while not having OCD and also being wrong. I also have intrusive thoughts that disturb me because they’re about real things, but while in fiction and most media, it doesn’t bother me in the slightest. It also really seems like those of us who have intrusive thoughts about especially taboo subjects are demonized like crazy despite all this mental health awareness going on; it’s sanitized.
I also feel there’s nothing wrong with exploring weird shit in your own head or through art. People really just don’t seem to understand that actual research has gone into the topic of bizarre kinks and the like, either because they’re willfully ignoring it because it sounds bad or something or because they just genuinely don’t know. They just don’t get that the mind and reality can be such vastly different places, and weird stuff isn’t evil. Policing thoughts, especially the ones that can’t be controlled, but also ones that can be, just results in suffering. There’s a major difference between thinking about something and entertaining the idea of ACTUALLY doing something. Folks love to jump on bandwagons the moment someone says “x is bad” because we as humans love being right, and these are chances to feel right and good despite the fact that they’re actually wrong or misunderstood or just plain mean.
I’m genuinely so sorry that people are being horrible to you. I’m sending this because I wanted you to know there’s another person in your camp who understands your message completely. It sounds to me like you have a good amount of sense and respect for others, but many others don’t have those traits.
You know, it is extremely validating to me to have someone from the outside say this to me. I don't want to be supported just because I've already got people listening to me, so this really means a lot. I used to be a much more reactionary individual but now I try to be more open minded and continue to grow as I learn more, rather than be stuck in one place in fear of being wrong. Thank you so much
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do you have a ship/pairing that you feel is widely misunderstood?
Disclaimer: I'm not super invested in shipping at the moment, but I'll do my best to give you a good response that isn't just bitching about my frustrations regardless.
The easy answer is "all of them" because fandoms have a tendency to condense interesting, multifaceted characters down into components of a ship and ignore any aspect of their characterization that doesn't immediately lend itself to common shipping memes and scenarios and it's fucking annoying, but if I had to pick a specific option, I'd probably go with Dragonslayer for RWBY (inasmuch as I still ship that) and Texas x Lappland for Arknights. I'd like to have given you an answer for Baldur's Gate 3, but I still haven't found the time to finish that game.
For Dragonslayer, there's a bizarre segment of the RWBY fanbase that really likes portraying Jaune as some kind of ultra-Chadly chick magnet, which is not accurate to his canon portrayal despite him being the writing team's clear favorite. Like, sweetie, Dragonslayer is not a ship where Jaune is the dominant alpha male partner. That boy gets pegged. Yang pounds his prostate. She wears the pants in that relationship. He does not decide what to eat for breakfast in the morning without asking her and he is happy to have things that way.
(I'm exaggerating a bit for comedic effect but Yang would run roughshod over Jaune and no argument on Earth can convince me otherwise)
As for TexLapp, a lot of people don't bother really looking at the characters as individuals instead of treating them as "uwu cute violence lesbians who have fantastic bloody hatesex" and thus don't bother to engage with their trauma or any of their personality traits that don't lend themselves to stabbing each other with swords or stabbing each other with penises real or artificial (in fairness, Arknights dropped hints about their dynamic and then took ages to develop it, so like... hard to blame people for filling in the blanks). Also, I am sick and fucking tired of people acting like Lappland is a perpetual lunatic who acts unhinged at all times and can't be trusted to navigate any interaction that doesn't involve violence when that's literally not true and the proof is found directly in her files, a resource that has been available since launch.
(I, on the other hand, understand both these characters perfectly, a state of enlightenment that led to me unleashing a thesis about Lappland having a breeding kink and wanting a polycule upon a few of my unsuspecting mutuals. It's hard being as smart as I am sometimes.)
I'll close this out with a couple ships I don't like: almost every piece of NearlPlat and BlemiPlat content I've seen fundamentally misunderstands or willfully misinterprets their dynamic and characterization as it exists in canon in favor of shaving off anything that could possibly get in the way of "kyaaaa enemies to lovers so kyuuuteeeee uwu!!!" and I fucking hate it so much. It takes ships I already despise and strips them of anything that could be remotely unique or compelling. This shit is the McDonalds of Arknights ships: boring as hell, tastes like cardboard, and does nothing to differentiate itself from its competitors in a positive manner
Meanwhile for Bumbleby the fucking writers don't understand the ship dynamic or the characters involved, so I can't even get annoyed when the fanbase doesn't either
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When I’m feeling both hangry and a little cranky because I feel like I’m being willfully misunderstood, it’s time for me to:
Log off tumblr for a bit.
Eat a bigger snack.
Work on the things I get paid to do so I’m prepared when I return to in-person interaction tomorrow and Wednesday.
Thank you to those of you who take my points about various characters and the philosophies behind certain stories in good faith. You know who you are. <3
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