#i dont understand how its not the same for all of you

[help-i-need-a-cool-username]

For years i was like "placing Luke on Tatooine with his dad's family was such a monumentally stupid move that worked out through pure luck" and now i finally understand just how absolutely genius it was

It was quite literally the absolute LAST place Vader would have ever looked. Frankly i dont even think it would of made the list of places to look

So first of all the thing keeping the twins the safest was he didnt even know TO look. He thought they were dead

And then on top of that the only way it could of ever rang as suspicious is if news of Owen Lars and his child Luke Skywalker managed to make its way ALL the way up to the emperor's second in command. You know what kind of trouble you have to make it get there?

With the addition of Vader's hate of Tatooine being amplified via dark side of the force his subordinates probably purposefully keep any mention of Tatooine away from him in order to avoid being choked to death. AND he probably hasnt thought about Owen Lars a day in his life after burying his mom. He's all but forgotten about him. He met the guy ONCE, he certainly wasnt on the list of people he and Padme considered to be guardians if they suddenly died

So, for all intents and purposes, Luke WAS pretty safe being raised with the Lars. He would have been safer having changed his last name or being given to another family, but i guess Obi-Wan wanted to give Luke as much connection to his parents as was safe

But all this goes out the window if Luke does exceptionally well in the Imperial Academy. Because if he does well and continues to do well whats to stop Vader from suspecting the boy from Tatooine who happened to have the name he picked out with Padme, who's almost as good as flying as he is, born on the day Padme died, and who was raised by a man with the same name as his step-brother, might possibly in fact be his believed-to-be-dead son?

[everythingisamazing]

In defense of Jayces words & the true intention behind them

There is valid criticism of Jayces Quote in the astral plane:

“You’ve always wanted to cure what you thought were weaknesses. Your leg. Your disease. But you were never broken, Viktor. There is beauty in imperfections. They made you who you are. An inseparable piece of everything I admired about you.”

I didn't like it at first. But I have since found an interpretation that I believe honors the positive intention behind it. Let me explain:

1. Jayce, for a long time, doesn't understand Viktor: Especially in S1, he fails to truly empathize with him. He cares for and obviously WANTS to do right by him but remains egotistical (as V points out), while deluding himself into thinking he isn't. The ultimate example: Breaking his promise about the hexcore, not because of what Viktor wants, but because Jayce can't stand losing him. 

2. Viktor lacks empathy for himself: Arcane writing is not black and white, but shades of grey. Viktors goal of helping is not purely good, cause it contains the seed of what turns it destructive, via his disregard for his own imperfections: He constantly overworks, denies himself the spotlight, pushes away Sky, downplays his achievements, hurts himself and, most importantly, never openly asks for help. So if Jayce needs to be less egotistical, I’d argue that it would have served Viktor if he had been more so. 

3. Falling down the ravine is the turning point for Jayce - he recognizes his failings (depending on interpretation alongside the true nature of his feelings) and regrets them deeply. He wishes to fix everything and that's when he meets the Mage:

4. I am going to have to fill in some gaps here. As we know Mage Viktor succeeded in the glorious evolution, only to find out perfection is not all it's cut out to be, then travelled to other timelines, looking for a way to a) stop his alternate selves from dooming the world and b) finding out that Jayce is the key to this. But how could he tell Jayce is the component that changes everything? My assumption: There must be "good" time lines, where Jayce treated Viktor right earlier. This is why the emphasis of the scene is on "Only you can show me this." and not "Go kill me in the commune" - because the latter is not the final step. Mage Viktor saw how everything would turn out, up to the point where Jayce gets pulled into the hive mind - hence the calm resolution on his face when it happens.

So we get to the quote. Considering everything mentioned, I’d argue it’s actually deeply empathetic: Jayce voices and tries to take away Viktors unspoken insecurity which the hexcore preyed upon. 

“You were never broken” is essentially saying: I understand why you did this - but you never needed to in order to have my love/admiration. It’s not implying "you should not want to cure your disease" but that Viktor is beautiful to him, all flaws included. It’s “I dont admire you in spite of but BECAUSE of them.”  Because Jayce did not fail Viktor by not helping him enough - he tried to, saved his life and even brought him back from the dead. Where he failed was not showing Viktor, that wether he was cured or not, did not change how he felt about him. And thats what the quote is trying to convey.

At least that's how I see it. Maybe if the writers had dared to use the word "love" or if Jayce verbally acknowledged his shortcomings, it would have been less easy to misinterpret. Maybe they felt it wasn't necessary because of the voice overs in the ravine or they wanted to avoid making it seem like he is choosing to die with Viktor out of guilt, which brings me to my last point:

5. The beauty of Jayvik (and why it’s a love story at its core) is that their separate journeys reach the same conclusion: That the other one is the answer to what they have unconsciously been looking for. What Viktor needed was to let Jayce in - to stop trying to carry everything alone, but let another person share the burden (As it is literally shown by them holding the rune together, with Jayce putting his hand over Viktors). And what Jayce needed was to (re)discover that magic was never about feeding his ego, but about who first made him experience the beauty of it - Viktor himself. 

And if that isn’t a thematically satisfying climax, then I don’t know what is.

[santa-argues]

hi again!

1) you said "thats just straight up false, sorry. you seriously NEVER see trans people silencing conversations about male privilege..." i told you my personal experience, even said that i acknowledge it isnt everyones experience, especially in other places, and you said that its false. that is you telling me my personal experiences are false. maybe you didnt intend it that way but saying its false, not clarifying what, then immediately doubting my anecdote reads off as if thats what you were saying

2) i am not biphobic, you didnt read the context and are mad about something you dont understand. if you didn't read it, you cant comment on the contents. whats kinda funny is that you getting mad and calling me names literally proves my point about how those types of generalizing and harmful statements dont actually encourage conversation. i took quotes that radfems have said about trans people when talking about how the patriarchy applies to trans women, applied it to bisexual people to show you how trans people might feel when seeing those types of "discussions", and you called me biphobic, a disgusting piece of a shit, and told me to fuck myself. you weren't mad because you think bi people who are with members of the opposite sex experience the same scrutiny that same sex couples do and that theres no inherent privilege that comes with appearing to be straight (much like how trans people arent mad about the suggestion that they benefit from the patriarchy). you were mad because what i was said was generalizing, and harmful, and biphobic, so you didnt listen to whatever point was hidden under all that hate, you shut down the conversation. you said that i compared calling males male to bisexuals, which implies and leads me to believe that you have no problems with those points when theyre levied against trans people. how is one bigoted and the other is not? its the same points, both applied to queer people. i think both are bigoted and inappropriate, but you have been defending one and just condemned the other.

‘closeted trans woman’ so a man. a regular man but now other people (and we know you mean women bc you dont care what men say or do) shouldnt talk about how men are privileged for their sex bc they MIGHT secretly have dysphoria or some other interiority that checks them out of the patriarchy. whew the antifeminist backlash is working overtime

[stranger-theory]

can we talk about the byler x rovickie parallels for a minute?

ive seen so many people deny vickies crush on robin because "she has a boyfriend!!!" despite the obvious evidence that she wants to be with her. there is so much actual substance in the show to support that theory yet its denied because the GA can't comprehend subtext as something that actually exists.

despite vickie having a boyfriend and not blatantly yelling how gay she is, its always going to be true. this is because the subtext tells us whats actually going on. you can deny rovickie all you want but amybeth mcnulty and maya hawke clearly support it and have confirmed that vickie is bisexual and is into robin.

rovickie so similarly parallels byler its actually crazy. one has a boyfriend/girlfriend that they dont actually love and the other is brutally in love with them. not to mention that they used this SAME trope back in s1 with jancy, except everyone knew they were in love because its a straight couple.

i think im just rambling at this point but i hope you know what i mean. they continue to use the same trope but the audience reacts differently depending on what theyre exposed to. queer people see why byler and rovickie are gonna be canon because queer people can relate. the GA only sees jancy because they can only relate to the straight relationship.

stripping these relationships down to pure facts is how you see the similarities. it really isnt that hard to understand that these situations are the same.

[hairscare]

If this is too personal honestly delete this ask id hate to make anyone uncomfortable💔

I was just wondering how you go about acquiring a qpp😭? Did you ask your friend to be best friends one day orrr did it jus happen and only later u decided to label it? Again was just curious abt aroace dynamics but no worries if this is too private love ur stuff ❤️

no worries im always happy to talk about my aroace experiences :) my honest advice is not to look for one. i know that sounds crazy but bear with me. if you approach every friendship with the lens of "can i make this into a commitment" youre only going to put weird pressures on yourself that will limit your capacity in the friendship. in my experience its something that has to happen on its own. not every close friendship has the potential to be one! i think people tend to be very eager to turn any relationship they find meaningful into something more than friendship so that they can justify its importance- escaping that mindset is very important!

now in my experience, we had already been "special friends" as we call it for two years before we decided to a qpr. basically we were best friends who felt a special connection to one another but we werent in a relationship. this is another important thing to emphasize: youre not in a qpr without all parties explicitly agreeing to it. a close platonic connection does not immediately equate a qpr. our relationship has been exactly the same for 2+ years, but it was only when we both agreed to be in a qpr that we actually were in one. i dont value our time pre-qpr any less than i do our current relationship as its the same connection its just that now theres more commitment involved

neither of us actually wanted to be in a qpr beforehand. id had a very bad experience with relationships beforehand, and i really never saw myself entering one after that. id even been in an 11 hour "qpr" that i broke off because i found it to be way to much unnecessary pressure with someone that i just wanted to be my friend. the qpr feeling absolutely wasnt there. aspen on the other hand didnt understand how qprs worked and so didnt want one. wed had an ex friend of ours (who was allo might i add) desperately try to push us into a qpr together but we both pushed back at the idea. you cant force it, and you DEFINITELY cant force it to happen out of the allonormative expectation that everyone needs a relationship to be fulfilled.

when we did finally change our minds, it was on our terms. aspen figured out what a qpr is and realized that he did want a committed friend, and i realized that i wanted to spend my life with him, so when he told me about his sudden change in perspective i immediately said id like to be that person for him. really the only thing that has changed since then is our future plans, we still act exactly the same with each other. of course if youve been here long enough you know that we do sometimes have a bit of difficulty trying to label each other when talking to others. sometimes i call him my roommate even though were on opposite sides of the country right now, sometimes i call him my boyfriend at the risk of someone misunderstanding it as an allo situation, sometimes hes my best friend (feels a bit watered down but whatever), sometimes i call him my boygirl (this one works well since its kind of unclear what it means), and of course my special friend is the most accurate but it doesnt make much sense to people who dont know us. sometimes he calls me his ghoulfriend and i really like that one

the best analogy i can really give for how a qpr feels is like bonded animals you see on petfinder that have to be adopted together. you cant force animals to be bonded, it just happens. its like that. hope this helps!

[permanentbottombunk]

It feels weird knowing not everyone was a horse girl as a kid

Just like, what do you mean you didn't become fully obsessed with a random animal and learn every possible thing you could think of about it? You didn't watch the Blu-ray of Spirit: Stallion of Cimmaron until your Xbox 360 gave it a ring of death? That's not something everyone did?

[santa-argues]

yeah male in bio is a better solution tbh, honestly ill probably do both cus idt people really look at blogs? could be wrong tho but i dont 😭 and yeah it is silly but all need to indulge in silliness sometimes

AND YAY!!!! that zine is incredible and while the point i made is definitely like understandable but they go into a lot more depth and explains it better than i do. i think it also gives examples how to be accomplices and that is honestly gonna be a fair answer to your of what men fighting against misogyny would be, just an accomplice to the women doing the leg work. like obviously theres stuff they can do but the oppressed group is able to do so much more to fight back since theyre affected by it

as for the trans part, ill say it kinda briefly (i tried but i have a problem with overwording things) because i imagine youll completely disagree and id rather talk about the zine instead of argue more lmfao

trans women, ESPECIALLY those who look more feminine or pass as cis women (in the sense of you look at them and go thats a woman, not in the sense of like "all women have these same stereotypical characteristics") do experience sexism. not their whole lives obviously, but once they start looking like someone you can be misogynistic to men start jumping at the chance, because more women to discriminate = hell yeah patriarchy style time. not only that but, obviously, trans women experience transphobia. due to this they experience INSANE rates of physical and sexual violence, like disproportionate amounts, idk if its still the case but for a while trans women rape rates was around 4x higher than cis women (this was in 2018). so clearly trans women NEED a space. and i fully understand the sentiment of female sex only spaces, however there are more womens spaces than trans spaces, so obviously trans women are going to womens centers because theyre just easier to get to. idt the focus (which it is, every amount of discourse i see on the topic boils down to it) should be keep males out of female spaces, it should be build more trans spaces

I’m so tired of seeing women defending men. Not angry, not frustrated (okay maybe a little) but tired.

Cuz I used to be the “not all men” type, then I realised, how many men do the same for us? Sexism is ingrained in meme culture: girls like titantic, boys like cool thing; women ☕️ amiright?; I-hate-my-wife culture; FEMINIST KAREN DESTROYED 🔥🔥BY SIGMA LOGIC; Uhh actually 🤓 being kicked in the balls hurts more than child birth.

THE EXISTENCE OF ANDREW TATE.

But as soon as women go “yeah I’d pick the bear 🐻” they lose their minds. How dare they prefer to be torn apart by a bear than encounter a man! Should we use this as a way to reflect on our behaviour as a sex and WHY they think this way? Nah, let’s describe the brutal ways in which we’d like them to be killed by said bear and joke about how we’d sit and watch.

People misunderstand: men like *sex* but they do not like women hence why they’re advocating for sexbots and ai companions. Unlike women, men would not defend you in an argument out of the purity of his heart.

[marciaillust]

your design of me

[oceanwithouthermoon]

saikis powers are a vital part of him so it makes sense that people who dont know about them cant truly understand his whole self, but its also very silly to me when people act like its the ONLY important part of him... people act like his friends that arent in the know are completely blind to who saiki is, but i feel like that kinda means you missed some major points... he cant keep his powers a secret forever and it DOES matter, but he can still be loved and KNOWN without knowing about them... hes still human, he still has a personality, he still has regular likes and dislikes, etcetc

his friends perspectives on him may have been wrong at first, but they CHANGED... they know him and love him, and theyll KEEP loving him the SAME once they know of his powers...

​some people cough cough cough in this fandom like to reduce saiki to JUST his powers and its so obvious that you just. missed everything. you didnt absorb anything from the show, you just saw it and went "ha, everyone thinks hes just a guy when hes actually super cool and powerful" no no no, he IS cool and powerful but look a little closer and at his core he is still LITERALLY JUST A GUY 😭😭😭

hes such a guy.....

[stiffyck]

i actually like hate people who refuse to watch animated movies just because theyre animated. im so sorry your taste in movies sucks.

[mohntilyet]

Personal headcanon about the "you picked the wrong dellamorte" line, I don't think illario actually likes rook outside the context of them being someone close to lucanis. Like rook on their own isn't much to him, but when they meet it's yet another person talking about his cousin (why isn't he good enough for whatever job they're hiring for?) and on top of that they somehow bring him back from the dead (another whole can of worms for illario). Now he starts turning on the charm, but whether he's actually interested or this is just one more thing his cousin has that he doesn't and it gets under his skin, who knows. Either way, rook ignores illario, the guy who lives off his charm, and is instead interested in the guy who's never even dated before and thinks giving someone a knife is how to flirt. Infuriating

NO THANK YOU !! i am genuinely sorry if i have ever implied illario is into rook like i see some takes about it and unless it like ties into your rook's personal backstory i don't seriously think he's romantically jealous. at all. my enjoyment of that line stems from illario's pathological need to make it about himself and not see his strengths but what lucanis has, and therefore what he doesn't. he's annoyed enough to try and goad you in the middle of a fight about the 'wrong' dellamorte and completely blind to the fact that the venatori are at best, a stupid fucking alliance, and at worst, a cult that will devour the crows from the inside out and illario would have been the one to give them the keys. he sees lucanis make allies, needs his own, and instead of charming the other talons/houses as he should, he (probably spitefully) picks the venatori. or maybe he just thought it would be easier. ugh he makes me want to telekenetically throw him around

[clowns0cks]

can a character have both a superiority and inferiority complex at the same time and if yes, how the fuck does one live like that

[autisticlancemcclain]

Could you explain your position on Shallura? Since Allura was established as a teenager when she started dating Lance and Shiro was very clearly an adult. I can understand the bi shiro headcannon but the shallura thing worries me

i am going to remind yall that i have been in this fandom since 2016. and in the early seasons, allura was not established as a teenager. in fact she was coded as older, as closer to shiro's age -- there was a specific divide between her and the younger paladins that she did not have with shiro. they made her younger (both explicitly and in mannerisms) as the show went on. and i do not give a fuck about voltron like...post s4 and i didn't even watch s7-8. so like. especially with older fics, im going to enjoy shallura.

[straycalamities]

i hate hate hate hate hate so much when people take you forgetting things as caring less about them or whatever it is you forgot not having meaning to you "enough" to remember

i forget things that mean the world to me all the fucking time like i'm sorry i'm just like this

[oceanwithouthermoon]

maybe its just me but i cant stand when people are like "it just doesn't sit right with me how teruhashi thought about aiura 🥺" like yes... its not supposed to ??? because her thinking badly of other girls and prioritizing male validation over everything is one of her main flaws ??? can we talk about that WITHOUT making it seem like shes not allowed to have a single actual flaw without suddenly becoming an awful person? nobody can handle complex female characters at all and its so fucking annoying

[xxplastic-cubexx]

friend notoriously bad at videogames said shed play marvel rivals with me tomorrow chat if i never post after tomorrow night its because a blood vessel bursted