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https://x.com/getawaybitch28/status/1809345991503438096
This is interesting
This show honestly has such a great attention to detail. Like, I know they've obviously got the books there to guide them creatively across the board, but they've really done such a great job of folding these longer term plot points in.
#i also though just like - -#i don't want to be mean or rude but#the person who they're replying to#why do you THINK they have the scene with lestat defending claudia?#like if a scene like that is introduced as a contradictory point maybe....that's on purpose.......and you should pay attention to it......#media literacy and honestly basic story comprehension is truly at an all time low#like#this is a deep show yes but the plot itself is actually pretty straightforward#and like i love the pinstripe suit but even i was like 'oh a bit on the nose carol' lol#but apparently people also need that pointed out to them so i guess not#the film art: an introduction book should honestly be on the curriculum in schools#iwtv 2.07#iwtv asks
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No way! Animal Crossing introduced new villagers!
Who would you like to see on your island?
Part 1 | Part 2 | Part 3
#encanto#encanto au#encanto crossover#teawizard art#encanto x animal crossing#wanted to lean into isabela's 'mean' attitude#but don't get me wrong I know she's a sweety#just needed to add some diversity into the presonalities#I know my designs are not the best + it might be not okay from the perspective of having their 'skin color' ligher/darker than in the movie#i'm sorry in advance to whoever will find it rude etc#i just wanted to have fun :)
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TW RANT - I may come off as rude here so I'm sorry in advance but people being too mad at Sun for everything that happened to Nexus just start to annoy me a bit especially when they act as if Sun basically abused Nexus
Sun doesn't need any excuses for how things were with him and Nexus at the beginning cause for what reason?
Sun never compared Nexus to Moon..
Nexus felt this way but if he cared to listen to Sun he'd understand that he was mistaken..
Because all Sun tried to say is that he doesn't want Nexus to do everything by himself while he's sitting there doing nothing just like it was with Moon..
Because at the time when Sun decided to be conduit for star's power Nexus was already taking care of everything by himself while Sun was doing nothing..
Just like it was with Moon..
It wasn't okay for Sun to lie but it wasn't okay for Nexus to yell his head of at Sun and refuse to listen to him and refuse to understand why Sun did what he did..
I wish to say something about people who defend early Nexus but I'll refrain myself cause I don't want to start any drama..
"nothing can excuse Sun for mistreating Nexus" it's a hella weird hill to die on..
Because what mistreating? The one Nexus made up in his head? And he never even cared to communicate with Sun and by that I mean that he also let Sun speak up and only yell "Me, myself and I" because that's not how communication works..
And what excuse? What y'all on about?
Sun apologized every time for when Nexus expressed being hurt..
But Nexus didn't care..
Or oh wait no.. Nexus just is too much of a coward to admit that he was afraid that Sun will die..
Why he never try to talk with Sun about anything..
Because he was a coward..
And now he chose hate.. because hating is easier..
The only wrong thing that Sun did was that he lied to Nexus.. but ofc is so good to held one mistake over someone's head forever, right?
As if Nexus never did any mistakes..
And ofc Nexus was worried about Sun well-being but he also actively pushed him away and was neglectful towards him..
But no one cares how it made Sun feel because apparently only poor Nexus' feelings are the most important thing..
#tw rant#sun and moon show#sams#sams sun#sams nexus#it's a rant#and i'm sorry if i sound rude#so if you don't like reading mean things#or if you dont't want to get angry or don't want negativity#don't read it#i just needed to get it out of my chest
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not to sound desperate on main but since it's disability pride month it'd be really nice to see some art or fics with disabled Y/Ns.
#muzz mumbles#listen I don't mean to come across as rude or ungrateful for the art/fics we DO have#but as I myself am physically disabled it is so. so disheartening to see so FEW representations in this fandom#and I'm not really making this post to ask for recs#I have seen them all. trust me#and I'm ABLE to have seen every single one already because that's how few there are#and I understand people not wanting to write what they don't know/experience themselves#but I am begging you to just do some research and go for it#for the sake of us out here who have very little to look at and go ''thats me!''#yknow?#ok ok rant over everybody go back to your usual dash scrolling
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ijbol idk man releasing screenshots of very polarizing things said in a private discord server between friends in a public "callout" post is #the most #tumblrific thing ive ever seen LOL.
#opinion 😱 in tags
#our life#gb patch#gb patch games#our life beginnings & always#i also think it should be acknowledged that the white queer 'experience' and the black queer 'experience' are totally different#bc there are multiple occasions where GBLady has recieved an ask where shes accused of Something bc of a super specific issue#this whole situation is just the biggest case of GetOverYourself ive ever seen icl#i think rose is entitled to their opinion as a black trans person + a person who previously identified as a trans man#i think its easy to attack rose as an inflammatory person who 'purposely incites discourse' bc they dont use that super-pacifying#everyone is welcome on my blog tone that if not used is immediately interpreted by white people as hostility and rudeness#i don't agree with a lot of their takes that ive seen on their blog that were allegedly posted BEFORE they became a sensitivity reader#but irdgaf#bc its their personal blog and theyre entitled to their opinion and i don't believe u get to feel insulted or slighted#or deem them as unprofessional and inflammatory just bc they didnt speak to u on their personal blog as Nicely as u wanted them to#i just think this all leads back to a growing sense of entitlement in the gb patch fan community#esp among the our life fans#just bc this is a deeply customizable game doesn't mean that the dev can customize Every Single Thing to ur liking#it also doesn't mean that ignorance on the devs part or the staffs part in most capacities is purposefully discriminatory in nature#like no offence but wdym 'ur hands are shaking and u need to get offline' bc of all of This... please grow up and go outside#also This is controversial but a lot of yall use the fact that GBLady is a white cis woman who happens to b writing stories#with a very diverse and nuanced cast to railroad ur ideals on how the characters should b written#and if they don't meet Your personal experience as a member of that marginalized community then They are automatically written incorrectly#again just a very entitled community IJBOL#idgaf if u disagree come and kill me over it ���🏾♀️#but also im very curious abt what people think !! 👁#i also dk how to phrase this but the white gb patch community also Reeks of this strange entitlement and i hate to say it but . . .#Sensitivity ??#they have this weird almost parasocial relationship with GBLady + this fantastical relationship with the characters themselves#LOL idk if anybody gets what i mean
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#hey all#just wanted to remind you that this is a fun place to get writing ideas and i am literally just some rando on the internet#this means i am not always right and in fact am very often wrong#a lot of you are very kind and help me out when i get stuff wrong#i try to acknowledge those people and thank them for their help#however#if you choose to be rude or needlessly mean to me or a follower on a post and i see it i will block you#i have no time for negativity here (i get enough of that in my regular life)#shaming others for ignorance when they genuinely don't know something just makes you an enemy rather than a friend#no need to be judgy#this is a hobby blog by a public school teacher in some random city#not an international team of competant individuals#thank you for reading the tag rant! happy writing
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i am looking at nohats au 👀 please share more
So! NoHats! I'm going to grab you and use this to ramble. A Lot.
The NoHats AU is @samhainian's it's just that I'm the strange little freak who takes the words said unto me and executes on them. But I can still do a little explainer on what our overall thoughts and vibes are. (And, that we are in fact propping up a little box with some cheese under it here. 🪤 Please (PLEASE) feel free to pick up what we're putting down.)
We're far from the only ones exploring a "what if siffrin fucking died" AU, though the main difference with NoHats is the placement of the death in the timeline. Instead of being 'Mal Du Pays Wins' or 'Act 6 encounter goes horribly wrong', the death is… Just after the (literal) falling action.
(This placement is because Sam is a comic book fan who thus has become used to characters being ripped away at the cruelest times by shitty writers. THANK FUCKING GOD adrienne is not that and isat is delightful yippieee, but, back on topic.)
Giving the party the full understanding of What Happened that you get by putting the death after black hole siffrin, but before the A6 encounter leaves an interesting gap to be filled. See, making Siffrin's death very much not Loop's fault means that… this once again reads (when not read as simply a tragedy...) as the universe doing what it sees fit to fulfull Loop's wish… Thus making Siffrin's death Loop's fault again, but only in their eyes. And only in a way they could express if they were honest about who they were…
And this is where having had excuse to waffle about my general Postcanon Loop thoughts the other day comes in handy, because Sam and I have that as our canon-compliant reading to begin with, NoHats plays off of a lot of the same readings of Loop's character. Namely: Uh Oh Somebody's Lying By Fucking Omission Again. (BECAUSE TO BE FAIR THIS TIME… HOW THE FUCK WOULD YOU HANDLE THAT?)
Now, neither Sam nor I are fanfic writers, so this has been a little bit trapped in our heads and DMs (and my unfinished art but,)
But our thoughts on how NoHats like… Goes.
Siffrin's death is peaceful, but that does not mean the aftermath of it is. I can't imagine the party takes it well, especially after understanding the circumstances of the Loops. (And, of note, in A5 where nobody had the discussion on what to do with each other's bodies should something happen…) But I'd imagine it traumabonds them somewhat (understatement of the century) and now knowing how the rest of the party feels, they resolve to travel together for the forseeable future.
The party track down Loop to deliver the terrible news, since they were clearly Siffrin's friend too, and invite Loop along to travel at least long enough to (let them grieve) get the burial over with. Loop, here, can be helpful in knowing what Siffrin would've wanted where the party would be at a loss. Loop, I think, takes a bit of a lead on the funerary aspects of it all, because, um. (Performing rites on your own body, huh?)
Then, as things are after a death, life just… Kind of has to continue on as normal. The party travel, pick up Nille, and get to know Loop as this mysterious new person. Maybe in this situation they might stay in Bambouche for a while to give Bonnie more stability since. They are probably taking it the worst. It would've come out of absolutely nowhere for everyone in the party obviously but god, for a kid? For A Kid?
It should be stated NoHats is not intended to be grimdark, just y'know. An exploration of grief. This is also why it's got a bit of a lopsided focus on Bonnie vs the rest of the party because hhrrhghghhghghhhghhghhh <- incoherent
Now, a crossroads.
How does the party discover Loop to be Siffrin? How long does it take. How much have the party embraced them as part of the family (especially with something as intense to bond over as this)?
There's the Odile option. Have her put it together and have to bring it up somehow. This could also be done by Isabeau, perhaps. He's smart. (which. God. If anything's the real Isabeau Torment Nexus it's this)
Then there's the other option batted around by Sam and I. The: The Universe Dislikes Duplicates option.
The items in the house that fzzt away when inspected. The Universe doesn't like there to be two of something, at least not when they're acknowledged. But one of something is just fine…?
Which is to say. I'm not a personal proponent of 'Loop getting their body back'. EXCEPT …… except this one time.
There's only one Siffrin now, so they don't need to be obfuscated to exist.
Consider, if you will. Loop swallowing their guilt for long enough to be comfortable. Falling back into old habits. Without another Siffrin around to compete for the niche of, they actually begin to act like Siffrin again. Not intentionally, it's just… The party is as welcoming as they've always been. And the party swears they keep catching glimpses of a face under all the light.
Then, one day, while still not fully human again, the resemblence becomes undeniable. Loop having not even noticed until everyone looks at them like they've seen a ghost.
Has it been months? How long have they kept up this lie? Is it even a lie, to them? They're Loop. But they were, once, Siffrin.
Even after explaining it, does that make it better or worse?
Bonnie cuts through the betrayed, struck-nerve reactions with a sobering "I missed you."
… Anyway !
Yeah so that's the vibe for NoHats. As for LoopLoops? That's more nebulous. I think it can go anywhere really in the NoHats timeline. I err personally toward the "Loop continuously replays the last 10 minutes before Siffrin's death almost immediately after they find out and have to parkour their ass up the House in the most distressing situation possible to try and get them to hold on, just please hold on." (Remember! Siffrin can remember the contents of Loop's loop backs in the A6 fight!)
But there is the possibility that this happens months, or worse years down the road. One last Loop back. Throw it all away for the chance to just get that one thing you didn't know you even wanted but now know you NEED.
Misc:
Okay miscellaneous time.
This is where I admit that I have a bunch of unfinished NoHats art that I haven't gotten around to yet because I feel like a right tool being so obviously Loop-Centric with my fancontent (I AM . . I REALISE I AM NOT DOING MUCH TO BEAT THE ALLEGATIONS.) So like if people want to see that please say because euaghghghhfh <- the nervous.
this is like the most fucked up place to do isaloop fr. anyway.
one of Sam's mid-game observations that I'm just going to share for no particular reason is that Bonnie's hair shares a bunch of shapes with Siffrin's. The flick up at the top, the 3 pronged shape of the fringe… just something to think about.
Without 2 Siffrins around to compare each other to it'd likely be a lot harder to notice Loop's similarities. Doesn't mean that those similarities don't sting more in this context though.
If you do NoHats without LoopLoops. The concept of this all fading into memory years down the line while they just have slightly-glowy but otherwise regular Siffrin hanging out is fucked up to think about. Just like real grief. Augh
6. a peek into the original dms as a treat from us
#LONG POST....!#be free our ideas. go forth into the wild. and by that i mean neither of us are fic writers so please HUNT US FOR SPORT#isat spoilers#looploops au#nohats au#isat au#isat loop#isat act 6 spoilers#not giving it more tags than that since feels rude to tag the rest of the party lol#lucabytetalks#but yes! to be extra clear: nohats is a 'please play in the space' invitation. because neither of us are big fanwork people! um!#it feels a little bit neglectful of us to not make more stuff for this AU ourselves but... we aren't practiced at that kind of thing. so.#open invitation! we know we won't make anything MASSIVE with this so.. don't hold your breath. and feel free to take the reigns.#we aren't like. the arbiters of 'sif fuckin dies' aus in general obviously but if you want to play with our specific ideas please do!#think of this post like prompts if you want to. go nuts#and @ a certain someone who said in the tags theyd maybe write something inspired. kisses you so sweetly. thank u for even considering it#also hi kaun i was thinking about your little snippet when typing 'act 6 encounter goes horribly wrong' 👋
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Hello, same anon from yesterday. I respect your opinion, but Jojo has released before a post that shows Warriors having attraction for a female, and as it does not specify whether that attraction is sexual or romantic.
Now I think you misunderstand what a headcanon is. You see the definition I have found is that a Headcanon is a term used by fans of various media of entertainment, such as TV shows, movies, and books, to refer to their personal beliefs about a story they love. It is an unverified, unique interpretation of canon that supplements the official story. Not something you just make up about the character despite canon. As you can see its an interpretation of canon. (You can try searching this up) Now I could care less if you headcanoned the link from HW because I have yet to play the game and do not know if he shows any attraction.
However as the artist and writer of her own AU, Jojo has clearly shown her character of Warriors finds females attractive (Like I said, romantically or sexually is unknown) And I feel to just ignore canon and make your own assumption on a character would be more of a Au of the AU. And since you tagged it as Lu Warriors who is shown as straight, and not as HW Link. My question was merely asking what action or behavior of Warriors led you to headcanon that he is Ace as I have yet to see any behavior showing just that. Anyways my question was just completely wondering why you headcanon a shown straight charecter as Ace and why you feel it so.
No hate at all towards you at all, I respect your opinions, and was just curious. I love all your art and I think your style is super cute!
wdym anon? wars literally said he's ace in the comic????
see it's right there
#in all seriousness anon: i get the sense that you don't mean to be rude#but this is INCREDIBLY rude#i've been involved in fandom for like a decade#i don't need you mansplaining what a headcanon is#trust me when i say that it gets way more fun when you realize that all the rules are fake and you can do whatever the fuck you want#if jojo has a problem with me making wars ace she can come and tell me herself#also: you can be ace and also like girls. jsut saying#anyways that's all i'm gonna say on the matter#g3 does a talk
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(good grief it been a while......)
anyway hi im not dead
heard it was a special bee's birthday (@realizinau )
so i opened ms paint and doodled this real fast
he put his knitting skillz to use and made a cute sweater :)
the next challange however is giving it to Bailee
#scrappy possum#digital art#oc art#realizin' au#realizin' au extras#< i think#anyway happy birthday littol bee :)#now the little ball of anxiety has to give this sweater to his cru- FRIEND#WOAH WHO SAID THAT :)))))))#HAHAHAHAHAH#(im so very sorry)#im crazy about ocs#so....#aint no harm in a little thing right#(again im sorry. i hope it isnt rude of me to WANT two ocs to get together. considering one of them isnt even mine)#funfact: scrappy's creator also has anxiety and is worried she will be considered rude or annoying#Please don't indulge my stupid fantasies XD unless you want to#I'm not going to stop you but I'm not going to force you either (do whatever. s'not my OC)#Well scrappy is my oc#I'm sure you know what I mean.....#I'll stop talking now
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as shitty as what in hell is bad is as a game (especially due to pb's greed), the community on this site is absolutely wonderful so far and seeing all the posts on my home page makes me so happy ^^
#deembles#what in hell is bad#idk about other social media and i refuse to find out#i've seen people post about whb on tiktok and twt#twt was mainly fanart#most of which looks super good!#and tiktok seemed to be showing the cards or sth? idk i never clicked on any of the videos and just saw the thumbnails#tiktok to me is filled with children and people who think doggy-style is considered “hardcore sex”#and tbh i don't want those people near whb#the bigger issue is that tiktok doesn't allow 18+ content so you gotta censor shit and then you get interacted with by minors...#it's just gross#also nobody on tiktok knows what blocking means and so everyone is just being rude to each other like bruh...#twt at least lets you put your account on private and mark posts as mature iirc#i'm glad i'm not active on either of those sites/apps#rant? kinda?
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So um. I think I missed something on rottmnt Tumbler.
But.
Just wana say.
Harassing people is never OK. And if you follow me and you have harassed someone. Then please leave. I'm not about all that.
I will never be ok with anyone being made fun of or witch hunted. It's just wrong.
I don't know what happened. And tbh idk if I want to know.
But those are my thoughts, and I want everyone to know them.
OK. Love yall. Gn
#only reason i know something happened is because of a moots post#so i don't really have context#but if your rude or mean to people#fuck off#i dont want you#thanks#<3#shardkn1ght thoughts#shardkn1ght personal#shardkn1ght has no idea whats happening#shark knight
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I want to share what Quackity said during his Twitter Space today since it was in Spanish and I know most folks probably didn't catch it:
[ Link to the full translation ]
Quackity: Every day I fall more in love with [QSMP]. I love it. I love this project because it's pretty unique, and what's so cool about it is that many cultures are getting together and the communities are getting along. Growing up as a Latino, I had never seen so much representation, so I'm glad I can do that myself. I told my team that we need to have lots of communication with the creators. We're always talking to them to see if they need anything. We're proud of that! I've seen a lot of discourse about the Eggs. I wanna be clear about why the Eggs are part of the server: it's not about the Eggs, but about what they represent. They represent the communication between cultures and communities. The Egg dynamic has been an evolving thing that allows different cultures and communities to communicate because they have something in common.
It's not about giving the creators tasks! It's something to let people communicate. Believe me that the team is aware of the creators that aren't fond of this dynamic, but this has been something that allowed the creators to break certain barriers. This is why the Eggs have lasted so long. We keep adding more members, it's not like we just added some and that's it. We keep adding more members.
We know that some creators don't like the dynamic. Look at Étoiles, he doesn't give a fuck and he just minds his business! And that's something the creators can do!
We've already said that we're going to ban people who are being too intense [in the chat]. There are people from both extremes: those who love the eggs and those who hate them and keep saying "kill them!" So yeah, I've seen some discourse about it, so I wanted to talk about what it represents. I'm proud of this project and thank you to everyone for the support.
We know that there are always going to be intense people, but we also know that most people want to enjoy the content without arguing! The QSMP creators have already said we're going to ban people who are crying in the chat.
[ Here's a TLDR of the rest of the things he talked about: ]
Quackity said in the future, new dynamics will be implemented that are adapted to the type of content other creators make. It won't just be Egg stuff, there is much more coming.
He's going to try and go to Twitchcon Paris because Baghera, Etoiles, Kameto, and Antoine (and maybe Forever + some of the other Brazilians) will be there. Either way, Twitchcon Paris will definitely have a lot of QSMP creators meeting up!
Quackity says he's really hoping he can meet up with Roier again sometime because he misses him :(
On his private, he also said this:
TLDR: Trust Quackity and his team! They've proven time and time again that they listen to feedback and they're always looking out for the community and members of the server. If you see people being dumb or toxic, block them and move on, don't amplify their voices. Spread love, not hate.
#QSMP#Quackity#I want to keep people up to date on what's happening in the Spanish community#but that update I gave about Missa on ye old clips blog might've just frustrated people more than anything else so I apologize#It sucks seeing people be rude / mean to our streamers but most of the community here on tumblr DOESN'T need a reminder to be nice#In short: Don't worry about it#Quackity and his team are taking care of things. Trust him!#i talk#qsmp talk
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i want to preface this by saying that i know its not anyone else's responsibility to cater to my needs, and i dont want to sound selfish, but i just wish people would use the tagging system accurately sometimes.
as yall know ive been obsessed w dc recently but the amount of batcest that appears whenever i search up anything related to the batfam is so.. aaa. i get some people enjoy it but its really not for me, and its so frustrating to see things that are clearly batcest tagged as batfam or just batman in general. especially when its explicit or nsfw content.
ive blocked so many of the batcest ship tags along w the ship itself but people keep tagging things incorrectly or just not tagging them at all. along w this, a lot of it will be clear age gap w one character being a minor while the other is a grown adult (tim and jason, literally any batfam member shipped w damian, etc) and it won't be tagged appropriately either.
i don't want to be rude or offensive or anything like that, it's just something that i've noticed lately that lowkey icks me out. it makes scrolling through the tag very uncomfortable when one minute im looking at cute family fluff and the next im looking at an image of bruce and damian making out. aaaa.
sorry for rambling yall 😭
#rose rambling#pls dont cancel me#im trying not to come off as mean but aaa its so frustrating cuz its just kinda ick to me#like i do not care about the topic itself or if people are into batcest but i just wish people could tag it correctly so that i can filter#*it#but i also don't want to be controlling or rude either bc ur totally entitled to what u like#but idk. it just weirds me out a little and i wish there was a better way to avoid it#maybe its just me#sorry for ranting#anti batcest#batman#dc#dc comics#dc comix
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Too many members of my family are total pieces of shit and they looove sitting around together and talking about how cool they are, how much they like each other and how their kids don't want to talk to them anymore
#goddd im so fucking tired of them#i want to have a nice day but it's impossible cause these bitches come here constantly#get outtaa hereeee#nobody fucking likes youuu!!!!!#they are literally just so mean and rude to me and my cousin#like they do deserve to get pumched by me imo but I can't do it cause I'll get kicked out#and I don't wanna go home yet lmfao#but can they go fuck themselves pllleaaassseee???? 🥺🥺🥺🥺 i hate them soooo much 🥺🥺🥺👉👈
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every fall I see those posts going around about not being mean to trick or treaters and every time it SHOCKS me??? my friends and I went trick or treating all throughout high school and people were always so happy to see us?? like if you don't want to give out candy then....don't??
#molly mumbles#I don't mean this in a 'everyone obviously lives in my bubble' sort of way like I BELIEVE that its a problem#of people being rude to trick or treaters but like. I cannot grasp WHY#it's not like a mandatory thing or anything just don't open your door???#who cares if a 19 year old wants a hershey bar???
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Y'know someone's probably waxed poetic about this already but it's on my mind so I'm gonna do it again.
When it comes to encouraging people to learn about native plants and habitat and involving themselves and their yards in the wider ecosystem, you gotta meet them where they're at.
And maybe that means they won't go as far into it as you are or would like them to in your wildest dreams. But even small steps count towards the bigger picture and I think we need to appreciate that more.
An example from my own life is my mom and the current gardening project we're working on. We're planning out the garden beds in the front of the yard by the mailbox--my mom's previous plantings for the most part haven't worked out, so I'm taking a crack at it.
I'm a pollinator gardening enthusiast who cares more about attracting as many butterflies bees and hummingbirds as possible than keeping things 'neat' and 'tidy'. However, not only do we live in an HOA neighborhood (though not as intense as some other stories I've heard), but I know my mother--an interior designer who has a deeply vested care for making sure the exterior of the house looks as Nice as possible.
We're still getting a pollinator garden in the front though. How? I'm meeting her where she's at, I'm making some concessions, she's making some concessions, but ultimately we're making something that works for the both of us. She doesn't want the plants too tall and messy? We'll trim them back in fall and winter--the insects can use the backyard garden to nest in. She doesn't want things too wild and bushy and weedy? We'll add a nice mulch to the beds, keep things a bit spaced out until they grow in to their larger sizes. She doesn't know the latin names for the plants I'm asking for, let alone how to pronounce them to ask for them at a garden center? That's fine, I don't know the Latin names for most things anyways, let's just use common names.
Does she care that the garden will attract butterflies and hummingbirds? Not intrinsically--she sees it as more of a bonus, if anything. She just cares about what color everything will be and if it'll be easy to maintain. The fact that they're native plants barely registers as a plus side to her. And honestly? That is fine.
If I approached this problem with a hardheaded attitude on how I wanted it to be just as wild and free as my backyard garden? There wouldn't be any native plants in the front beds. It's not like I didn't teach my mom things, but I didn't lecture her like she was lesser just for not knowing or caring as much about native gardening as I do. And that, ultimately, made her more open to the idea than she would've been if I looked down on her like I've seen too many people do to others.
Not everyone is going to develop a deeply seated care about native plants and Latin names and I don't think it's reasonable to expect that. Meet people where they're at and you just might get a lot more done. Meet people where they're at and you just might find they'll get excited enough to learn more--but if they don't want to learn more, that is fine.
We can't expect everyone on the globe to suddenly become plant experts rattling off Latin names left and right and professionally ID'ing native and invasive plants. In the same way we wouldn't expect everyone to suddenly learn the ins and outs of learning code, or how to synthesize medicines, or how to properly build a house. And that is fine. Because we can lean on those who do know when these things come up.
I lost track of where this was going but. Y'know????
#out of queue#ani rambles#may delete later#like idk between the CPBD channel and some posts ive seen on here#it feels like a lot of people expect EVERYONE to learn ALL the Latin names for everything and thats just not realistic#Latin names make me fuckin dizzy just hearing them out loud 99% of the time#we can't admonish your everyday homie for referring to things by their common name and not knowing the ins and outs of native gardening#you attract more flies with honey than vinegar. don't look down on people for things they don't know and instead lift them up#thats the best way to get people curious about wanting to learn more#and lead by example. show good results and people will be interested.#i put up a bird feeder for the first time like 2 years ago and just this weekend my mom decided to buy a window feeder because she likes#seeing the birds. does she care about providing habitat for wild creatures? no she just likes seeing the pretty birds.#im not gonna lecture her for not putting up a birdhouse and birdfeeder and just wanting to see the birds??? thats stupid#if she wants to get into more then she'll get into more and if she doesn't even a small contribution is still a contribution yknow?#like if someone's doing something actively/with risk to be harmful by all means talk to them about it but like#dont be fuckin rude guys#im going to bed
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