#i came out as nonbinary

[updatingranboo]

from ranboo 😭

[hunysckle]

🐇🩷✨️

[beastwhimsy]

this would happen

[lycandrophile]

i absolutely cannot believe people are trying to start discourse about whether nex benedict was actually nonbinary / whether it was okay for him to describe himself as nonbinary to some people if he didn’t actually identify that way as if he isn’t literally DEAD because he was KILLED. this is a MURDERED CHILD and these monsters are so busy getting mad at the possibility that he might have been a trans boy who described himself as nonbinary to his family because that was easier for them to take that they’re turning a CHILD who was MURDERED into fucking discourse. even when we die at the hands of cis people’s violence, our own community finds a way to make us the villains of the story.

and all of this bullshit on top of the ways that cis people are already trying to say our grief over his death is unjustified. all of this on top of people claiming he wasn’t murdered and speculating on other causes of death (i literally saw someone say he “clearly went home and took the coward’s way out” and i have never been more disgusted) or claiming that he started the fight as if any action on his part could’ve been enough to justify his death. i am haunted by the sound of his father screaming that his child was not filth because that is what people have been saying about this poor kid, that’s how cruelly his memory is being treated, and even the trans community can’t get it’s shit together enough to look past the stupid discourse and see the tragedy in front of us. did you all forget that it was supposed to be up to us to grieve him in the way he deserves when the rest of the world fails to care if people like him live or die? did you all forget that this child was our sibling, the future of our community, a life that we should have had the chance to know and treasure while he was still here but that we now have a responsibility to hold close to our hearts in his absence? nex’s life was precious and it was ended far too soon and if you truly believe that anything is more important than mourning his life and fighting for a world where no more trans people have to meet such an awful fate, you’re a traitor to this community and you do not deserve the place you occupy within it.

i’m so tired. i can’t even imagine how tired his family must be, to see the public treat the child they’re grieving so horribly, to see the world fail their baby again. leave him alone. he was already robbed of peace in life; the least you can do is let him finally have it in death.

[spartalabouche]

sometimes its really obvious how much people dont actually believe presentation=/=gender when they see their nonbinary friend go from extremely masculine to relaxing back into femininity once theyre comfortable with their gender and every time they call it detransitioning with zero indication thats what their friend is calling it. i dont know how to tell you this but sometimes you present a certain way for social reasons and not because thats how you actually feel. sometimes you experience dysphoria about your body that is actually related to how people view you and not how you feel about your body. i really dont think its that uncommon for trans people to swing really hard in one direction for the affirmation and then relax back into a different presentation once they are more comfortable in their gender

[inseparabiles]

dealing you this like radioactive contraband before I go back to pretending I can't draw

[deoidesign]

A frustrating development with the growing lack of reading comprehension I've personally noticed is an emerging fervor of insisting things aren't canon unless they are explicitly stated beyond all reasonable doubt.

I can not emphasize enough how harmful a mindset this is to have. Yes, it's wonderful to have characters outright say "I'm trans," but to deny a character's identity for not saying that is dangerous.

Plenty of real people prefer not to use specific labels. Historically, people didn't have our modern terms or modes of expression. Many modern cultures don't use these terms, either, and plenty of people within those that do can't safely openly identify.

If the only representation you accept as canon is within modern (and let's be honest, wealthy white able-bodied American) standards, then you are denying yourself and others a huge amount of representation and seriously limiting the media around you.

[teyrnacousland]

To the people complaining about how the word nonbinary, a word dating back to early 1940s, is "too modern" to be used in Dragon Age, here is a quick list of some other modern words in invented in the 1900s that I found in Dragon Age games! I expect you to be equally angry at these:

Surreal

Escalate

Empathy

Lifestyle

Snarky

Cool

Breakthrough

Dysfunction

There's also the fact that they use our english words for the days of the week, despite most of those being named after gods that don't exist in Thedas.

But we're all more than happy to either ignore all this or headcanon in different origins for all these words. So why don't people have the same attitude towards the word "nonbinary"?

[b4rk1ng-l0t]

How Danganronpa V3 cast would react if you asked their pronouns

Shuichi: he/him

Kaede: "she/her, thank you!"

Maki: "...Why? Are you talking about me?"

Angie: "she/her, and Atua goes by he/him!"

Gonta: "... Gonta's what?"

Kokichi: Don't ask. Don't fucking ask. Whatever you do don't ask him you will dig yourself in such a big hole that you may as well go outside with a shovel and dig. Dont ask him.

Miu: You want to knock her confidence down a peg? "WHAT THE FUCK DOES IT LOOK LIKE!?!?!"!

Kirumi, picking up Miu's convulsing body: "She/her, thank you."

Kiibo: "Uh.. I usually go by he/him/himself, but I suppose whatever works."

Korekiyo: Would take it as a compliment for his androgynous appearance. "Are you saying that you cannot tell base off of my appearance..? How delightful- He/him."

Ryoma: "...You've been talking about me?"

Himiko: Debating between "what does it look like?" and "she/her"

Kaito: "He/him! Thank you!"

Shirogane: "She/they" (if this wasn't a common question, she would've completely forgotten what a pronoun is)

Rantaro: "You've been talking about me? He/they"

Tenko: "she/her!"

BONUS

Kokichi: "BECAUSE PRONOUNS KILLED MY GRANDMA, OKAY!?" /ref

[babygirltangerine]

i love how similar the fall guy and bullet train are because david leitch i'm perceiving you so hard. i'm seeing how you shape your ideal version of masculinity and present the emotional action hero as sexy and capable and not at all undermined by his depth of feeling but made stronger for it. it's beautiful and subversive and quite frankly it's gay as hell. genuinely i find it extremely interesting how he handles this balance so gracefully in a way that makes colt and ladybug funny, real, and desirable to both the men and the women in the audience

[pineappical]

transfem trent forever and ever <33

[whaliiwatching]

world colliders

[misty-missdee]

Awoo~

[thestarishere]

Good things happen to trans people every day. Don't fuckin forget that.

[lucielovekj]

I love how Nimona portrays Ballister’s curiosity as not inherently bad, and that when he’s respectful and gentle and acknowledges the sensitivity of the question Nimona is completely willing to explain and to show him. Because no matter what you use that as an allegory for it’s so often the case irl, if a stranger asks something invasive disrespectfully that’s completely different from a supportive loved one asking out of concern or a desire to understand you better, and that in close personal relationships asking questions, even if there’s a risk of stepping out of line or saying something insensitive, is usually good and healthy so long as it’s done properly.

Most of us (just like Nimona) are actively excited to talk about this stuff with those we care about, are happy for people we love to want to know us better, but it’s (obviously) stigmatised by strangers doing so rudely making people think they can’t ask any questions ever, which only increases the ignorance and stigma surrounding whatever the topic is. If someone knows they can tell you when a question is too much, when they trust you and understand what you’re intentions are, it’s good and natural to be inquisitive.