#i am so nice to y’all

[endoferasandallthings]

[lycandrophile]

hey i know your post about your mom was mostly just a personal vent, but i have to say, do you realize that also happens with trans girls and their fathers? literally happened to one of my friends. i’m not trying to downplay your experience or something but i found it strange that you seem to think this is something that only affects transmascs

i have one question for you: so fucking what?

i don’t doubt that trans girls have experienced similar things and yeah, that’s bad too, but what the fuck does that have to do with me and the specific things i’m facing as a result of being a trans man? i never said “look at this thing that happens to ONLY trans men and NO ONE ELSE,” i just said “hey, isn’t this thing that happens to a lot of trans men, including myself, fucked up?”

i would also like to point out that what you’re talking about is in fact a different (albeit similar) thing. the way cis people treat trans people can differ dramatically based on the cis person’s gender because their commitment to gender roles is, like, a major part of problem. the specific way a cis mother reacts to her trans son’s transition is often going to be very distinct, while a cis father will likely respond to his trans daughter in a different but equally distinct way.

what i’m talking about is a very specific kind of ownership and control and self-victimization and total lack of boundaries masquerading as love and care and maternal concern that cis women (i would argue white cis women in particular) project onto their transmasc kids when we do literally anything to our bodies. i’m talking about a phenomenon which is closely related to the way moms often pass eating disorders onto their daughters (or children they view as daughters) because they see a body that looks something like theirs and project all of their insecurities and ideals onto it. i’m talking about a form of parental transphobia and projection that’s specific to the dynamic of a cis mother and her child who was “supposed to” be her daughter.

if you’ve never felt that, you’re not even remotely qualified to tell me shit about how i should be talking about that experience, and if you couldn’t recognize that experience when you read my post, i’m guessing you probably haven’t experienced it because the replies to that post made it very clear to me that anyone who has experienced it firsthand immediately knew exactly what i meant.

like, yeah, cis dads also project onto their trans daughters, but are they likely to have a reaction like running away with actual tears streaming down their face? do you expect them to passive aggressively make comments about how sad their kid’s transition makes them, how it’s such a difficult emotional time, how it’s so tragic because their kid’s body was so beautiful before? do you think their go-to transphobic reaction will be weaponizing their emotions? i’m sure there are some dads out there who are like that, but i think we can agree they’re in the minority because that’s not how cis men are taught to react and parents like this tend to be pretty damn committed to following the gender roles they were taught.

and even if i’m wrong and our experiences are exactly the same, let me reiterate that i never said this was an experience exclusive to trans men. all i said is that it happens to us. that’s just a statement of objective fact.

this started in my life when i got my hair cut short for the first time almost a decade ago and it has not stopped since. i’ve watched my mom cry over me changing my name and respond to being asked if my happiness matters more to her than my name by saying “i care about both”, i’ve watched her melt down in a mall over me getting a suit for prom and give me the silent treatment for days after, i’ve heard her plead with me to stop t because it “looks unnatural” and she’s just so “concerned for my health”, i’ve watched her stare at me post-op and say “my poor baby” over and over like she’s looking at my corpse in a casket. i’ve watched her turn herself into the victim of every single aspect of my transition. i’ve had to live with this for 9 years and spent the early years of the pandemic literally locked in a house with it. this has been my entire adolescent and adult life, and the question of if i’ll have to cut her off someday (and maybe never see my cat or my little cousins who i love more than anything in the world ever again as a result) haunts me every single day.

who the fuck are you to tell me how to talk about that?

[mazojo]

Anyways XO Kitty love interests summarized

Dae

Min Ho

Yuri

[superm4ks]

Now I need a max win with Haas double podium to add to the collection

😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫 had to align my chakras after reading the words 'Haas double podium' but here's a tasty nibble from COTA

Including next 1 as part of the case I'll submit to a court judge ignore

Also we got post quali separate slays. 2nd one is so funny baby Max had a total of 4 drivers who did not want him prosecuted and ur looking at 3 of them

[crowleywowley]

Hey everyone thank u all for being so kind about my silly Crowley art. Work has been kicking my ass lately so I don’t have much to offer however I do have

Alec with acrylics

I genuinely cannot stop making these they’re so fun and so stupid.

[snzluv3r]

maybe a sneezing while hiding scenario? your stifled fits are so cute

scenario: we’re somewhere we aren’t supposed to be after hours and have to hide in a dusty storage closet to avoid getting caught—as long as my allergy to dust doesn’t expose us first

thank you so much for the request and the sweet compliment :) i haven’t done a more scripted wav like this in forever so i am very nervous and more than a little rusty—i hope that’s okay.

lots of hitching and stifles to a few let out sneezes at the very end. not as much sneezing as usual because i was trying my veryyyy best to hold back, which also made my stifles sound a little weird. i hope you like it <3

inspired by every sneezing while hiding scenario/wav/fic ever literally thank you to all those before me who did it so much better 🫡

[leopardmuffinxo]

i’m so excited to get lost in this world again. i’m so excited for see everyone’s rook’s all over my tl. i’m so excited to fall in love with new characters. i feel like i’m home.

[d-1hater]

It’s so strange to me how much people love Shane. I admittedly haven’t gotten through his story but he’s also so fucking mean for no reason until I think 6 hearts. I have a complicated history with jackass alcoholics and I just can’t get over it. There’s no excuse to be this much a dick, nor do I owe him enough gifts and interaction to get SIX HEARTS. Bro just reminds me of my grandmother’s problematic son (I do NOT claim him)

[anerdynerd]

I JUST FOUND OUT THAT SONGS FROM THE DBH SOUNDTRACK PLAY IN THE BACKGROUND HERE?? Look, I know it makes sense lmao but I’ve been listening to these songs with vocals and lyrics and all that from the sounds track on Spotify and was only mildly wondering how those were even integrated into the game, so when I was kinda watching this video I recognized a certain part of the song in the background over those mall speakers and was like “Wait, is this Seven Moons??” And it IS Seven Moons from the soundtrack🦫🦫

I’m curious how the other songs got integrated into the game now👀👀 Like do they also play in the background at grocery stores or malls or bars or anything like that? Is one of them what Connor finds on Hank’s mp3? What’s the other context, I can’t wait to find out while playing👀🦫

[skyloftian-nutcase]

Gosh, listening to beautiful, epic music makes me want to go on an adventure, why can’t I be a resistance member or go on missions and difusiqqowhf

I’ve definitely been away from work too long lol

[excedrinpm]

Hot take but assuming someone is “too mentally sound” to be part of a subculture or going through photos of that person to find old sh scars to “prove they’re jirai” is disgusting behavior, block me over it

You literally do not know what people are going through you just assume and then bully them based on your own assumptions. You’re not entitled to anyone’s history or struggles or diagnoses or anything. Mind your own fucking business and quit trying to armchair diagnose people because they wore a fucking outfit.

[crossbackpoke-check]

it’s all the rest of what i want with you

connor dewar/brandon duhaime :: 8k

Summary:

“Brandon,” Connor says with a sigh. “There’s no baby in there.”

“Not yet,” Brandon says. Connor feels his stomach twist, almost like what he would imagine a baby kicking to feel like.

in these trying times of dewvorce, may i offer you 8k of pwp inspired by @stillfertile’s wonderful art which i had. several breakdowns about 🫶 anyway please enjoy!!!

[wxywardsun]

We were so robbed of them bonding and becoming best friends. ROBBED!!

[dandyleyen]

Zelink engagement/wedding ring thoughts

There’s a clear association between Silent Princesses and Zelda in BoTW/ToTK, but also in my head there’s one between Link and Blue Nightshades. I don’t know if it’s something I just made up but like I’ve always associated that flower in-game with him

So I like to think that when the two get engaged they both have gotten rings for one another and the rings are designed with the flowers in mind. Then when they eventually marry and get their wedding rings, those are also designed with the flowers in mind but with the opposite flower, so like

Link’s first ring has the Blue Nightshade design and then the wedding ring has Silent Princesses on it, and then the opposite is true for Zelda. Her engagement ring is made with Silent Princesses in mind and her wedding ring has Blue Nightshades on the design.

[starbuck]

so i might be getting… a BIG tv… :))

[holographic-mars]

im not sure how many asks you've received at this point about infecting folks with the cosmos love but i can concur your affection for him is very very easily spread it genuinely makes me very happy to see folks love a character so deeply!! i am very grateful for my share of cosmos love i hope you continue your joyous cosmos posting 🫶!

AACK IVE GOTTEN. MANY!!! It genuinely makes me so happy to hear that my love for a character makes other people love that character. I really do love cosmos so much and seeing other people enjoy him bc I do makes me feel so special and nice :33

Thank you and everyone else for the kind words I really appreciate hearing it so much!!! More cosmos love to come!!!! 💚💚🛸