#i am not trans but my partner who this is about is

[discountbottom]

If you like, move through the real world it is extremely obvious that it is harder to be a trans woman than a trans man in our current cultural climate. My wife and I have an incredible transfem partner and we go out together all the time. We are both about equally clockable and it is very easy to see the way people react to her, and do not react to me.

This does not mean that I spend 100% of my time apologizing at her feet, but when we are out together I'm looking out for her. I know that in the cis hetero public she is far more unsafe than I am. This is not the defining factor of our relationship, and we spend about equal time emotionally supporting one another. She's an incredible listener and gives the best advice. It felt so good to tell somebody "I looked at myself in the mirror in a taco bell bathroom, saw a boy for the first time, and wept" and to have her really understand what that felt like.

All this to say, while I oppose wasting time on petty discourse about who is most oppressed, it is quite obvious that it isn't me. When I came out on social media guys I hardly know reached out to congratulate me on being one of the boys now. I can tell they see me differently, as more of an equal. Most cis girls don't look at a clocky trans girl and immediately see a sister, because of our culture's deep history of transmisogyny. She doesn't get that instant positive feedback from her peers and as a result her safety and happiness are much more uncertain as she moves through the world. It doesn't detract from my own struggles to acknowledge that. It's just part of being a human, and a friend, to lean on each other where we are weak, and support each other where we are strong. Please support our sisters. They are a vibrant and beautiful part of our community, and humanity, but there are so many bitter hateful people out there who want to extinguish their light. Don't let them.

[notkitten]

have you ever thought about a sheath for her pretty clit? straps holding it against her, wrapping over her hips, perfect handholds. textured silicone cradling her, tight and warm from your body heat, letting just the most sensitive part of her feel the slide of your body - have you ever thought about hooking your fingers into her mouth as she fucks into you, feeling the stretch as the toy fills you and makes you clench around it - makes her whimper- her drool running down your fingers- and the desperate way she'd look at you before she tipped over the edge?

[androidboy]

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[yrrtyrrtwhenihrrthrrt]

When you post an AU idea for Comic Nimona about her being free from the monster which represents pain and trauma in that story and a bunch of people who only watched the movie (where there is no monster and her powers/differences represent trans identity) start harassing you and calling you transphobic and media illiterate when they're actually illiterate because they either didn't READ the comic or somehow didn't realize that Nimona's powers are symbolically different in the comic despite multiple panels indicating otherwise

[sheila--e]

Man who the fuck gives a shit about "men's rights". What rights??? What rights do men not have??? The right to be annoying dickheads??

[void-botanist]

Sheri: A Powerpoint Intro

It is here! A tiny bit of background: Sheri is sort of a companion to Triad, in the sense that it shows some of what happened to the other ex-heir to the Navaren throne, but it takes place after it (by at least 3 months). Also maybe someday I'll come up with a better title for it.

Anyway please enjoy this introduction to fantasy disaster gays.

[lovelyrotter]

yknow i think a lot of the really far-gone transfemme vs transmasc people who still play by the 6th grade milquetoast "trans women are targeted way more than trans men cause femininity is bad and masculinity is good In Our Society, so trans men get free acceptability passes" feminism forget that trans men/transmascs started life. as. little girls. we were mistaken, from birth, for baby girls. and we were raised by our parents to believe that we were little girls.

a lot of trans men and transmascs then grew up to be teenaged girls

a lot of trans men and transmascs were adult women too

and for a while we *believed* we were girls and women. some of us even WISHED we were girls and women (points at myself). and much more importantly, we were continually seen as girls and women. a lot of the time, we are STILL seen as girls and women, even with full fuckin beards and baritone voices. especially if we need to go to any kind of medical professional. this is what our free acceptability pass looks like?

its just so much more nuanced than these 'boys vs girls' people ever seem to care to think about. even binary trans folks dont have the same sense of cisgendered binary that cis people do. we literally cross from one fake end of the fake-binary to the other. thats where the trans in transgender comes from. i dont know how some other trans folks seem to forget that?? i don't know how, somewhere along the line, we forgot that trans men and transmascs also directly suffer under misogyny?

[non-un-topo]

Spending hours trying to figure out why I feel so irritable and sensitive today and I’m only realizing now it might have something to do w being invited to a birthday party full of an entire family I’ve never met and like seven very small children and the person inviting me assuming I would love that. I want to support her bc I like her and she’s family now, but I cannot---I will not---go to another family event and be pushed into the kitchen doing dishes with the women or cooing over someone’s baby who just stares at me and whines when I try to mask and say hello.

[moodr1ng]

watching a video on coming out narratives in media and it did make me realize ive never seen one that resembled how coming out went for me personally - where i first came out as bi to my mom to complete acceptance bordering on apathy (i mean, she had been telling me how it would be totally ok if i was a lesbian since before i knew i liked girls myself lol. it really was a case of the "i always knew" cliché) but later faced a very strong negative reaction when coming out as trans, with it taking several years for my mom to finally come around to it. when she did though - which seemed to be motivated by my psychiatrist validating my dysphoria and making it clear that this wasnt some new delusion or other mental health symptom - she eventually became extremely supportive of me and did stuff like writing angry emails berating my healthcare team for delaying my top surgery etc. also i kinda had to re-come out as bi bc i spent a few years only dating men and my mom just assumed i was gay now lol, and when one day i mentioned being bi she was like "oh youre still bi?".. AND i also had a sort of second trans coming out when telling my mom i was bigender now and not just a man, and this one i had to do twice bc her memory has been getting bad w age so she forgot the first time i told her!

while on my dads side, trying to come out as bi ended in learning that he was bi himself (even though he self-ids as straight for batshit reasons), and coming out as trans was met with "i dont really get it, but i dont care, you can do whatever you want", which was certainly a relief but also turned out to not be a particularly supportive reaction, more a lack of one. it wasnt a reticent reaction either, he just genuinely didnt care, which included him never informing himself on trans identity - like how when i started hrt after 5 years of socially transitioning my dad asked me what testosterone would do, because he hadnt ever looked it up.

thats not mentioning the various coming outs w my sisters and the rest of my family which all went in various ways (though luckily they were all positive). various members of my family have different knowledge of my identity - im bigender to my mom and my little sister but a trans man to my dad, my older sister and my maternal family, im bi to my parents and my sisters but my mom told her side of the family i was gay lol, and my other younger siblings on my dads side (who im not rly in contact with) probably think im a cis man bc theyre young enough that they were either born after i transitioned or were too young to remember it, so i do have two direct family members who presumably dont know im lgbt at all. interestingly, knowledge of my identity ended up reflecting our relationships, with the people closest to me having the most accurate picture of who i am while the farther apart we are the more vague that picture becomes, ending with the two members of my family im least close to not knowing anything at all.

maybe its in part bc i dont really go for the sort of media that tends to include coming out narratives that much, but i dont think ive seen stories that resemble any of these experiences. yet ik im far from the only lgbt person with weird or kind of comedic or messy coming out stories..

[ezpegs]

trying to figure out who I want to be and what I want to look like ig

trans men and trans masc folks are so cool and strong and good and sometimes t looks really good but I could not do a second puberty. some o yall are fuckin brave as fuck

[wild-at-mind]

I wonder if there is a particular loneliness in being a trans person who transitions within a relationship with someone who never considered themselves part of the LGBTQ community at all. :(

[heartofhubris-a]

"trans men just get to transition into privilege and never have any issues because male is the preferred gender in our society!"

lemme tell you smth: I have left partners because the fear of them rejecting me was higher than the probability they'd love me as a man

[boys-and-such]

sometimes i mayhaps would like a boyfriend

[baby-tart]

In genuine anguish rn

[tnettnba]

I am clothed. I am housed. I have food. And from here, I can hear my car snoring peacefully. I am here. I am alive. I am loved. I am ok.

[catgirlwizard]

I used to laugh at that one 'get me a girlfriend so i can deactivate my tumblr' post but then i got a crush on this guy and literally made a tiktok account just to watch videos he sent me and i started using twitter and instagram more cause he didn't know what tumblr was and I wanted to get him to look at hot selfies i posted and trick him into falling in love with me (which worked btw, not the trickery part just the falling in love bit). And that was about a year ago and we've been dating about 9 months now and i haven't even updated my tumblr bio since i was 23 (i just turned 25) and i didn't even know there was a tumblr live function and im so out of touch with this site jdkfghdsf. its so weird not being as active on here when I was addicted to posting here 24/7 as a teenager. and its mostly because the time i used to spend on here is now dedicated to hanging out with him and being an adult with responsibilities and having hot transgender gay sex :') and like. laundry and cooking and taxes and stuff. idk. can a tumblrboygirl and a former teen tiktok star really fall in love? apparently, yes they can <3