#i AM A VICTIM OF CANCEL CULTURE I SAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[a-polite-melody]

Yeah, I knew I shouldn’t have replied to that one post about disgust.

[myfandomrealitea]

https://www.tumblr.com/myfandomrealitea/754159647278202880/im-proship-leaning-but-when-other-proshippers-say?source=share

I don't trust "documented evidence" as well, unless it's like in an official website or whatever. it's the mfing internet and people can edit or create fake messages or fake victims. hell, even with the new ai thingy they can create fake videos and pics. who gets to say these are real or not? I am saying this as a victim of fake callout posts who never got believed.

Modern cancel culture and the ability to just throw accusations around and be believed blindly have honestly ruined actual internet safety, accountability and being able to protect yourself and others from both false accusations and real dangerous people.

Its why I take issue with statements like "believe victims no matter what" and "support accusations until they're proven fake."

People have gone to jail for forty years and been proven innocent.

People have been murdered and their accusers have come forward to reveal they made the accusations up.

People have killed themselves over false accusations.

False accusations and blind witch hunting can ruin a person's life for literal decades.

It has absolutely nothing to do with proship vs antiship culture, even though the latter culture is in part what has exacerbated my stance. It has everything to do with the fact that practically weekly there's new news headlines about people milking a dead celebrity's estate with easily disproven claims, or bitter teenagers faking screenshots and falling over themselves to get internet sympathy because their boyfriend broke up with them.

I will always give victims a certain amount of benefit of doubt, but what I won't do is blindly launch a brigade against someone based on claims with no proof or flimsy proof with more holes in it than a festival tent.

[chalkrevelations]

There are things I say to my partner in the privacy of our living room when I’m blowing off steam that I would never in my life say to friends or other family members or bosses or work colleagues or fellow community members. I do this not because I’m two-faced but because I’m human. I get frustrated, but I’m also a grownup who realizes that my frustrations and fears in that moment are not the entirety of who I am. I have a right to express them, but I do not have the right to inflict them on the people who would be hurt by them. That’s why those conversations happen in private, in a safe space of trust, where my relationship allows me to show my partner parts of me that aren’t perfect and allows my partner to show me that I don’t have to be perfect in order to deserve to be cared about. I get support through my petty moments until I can be a better person.

This latest attack on Build is a horrifying violation of privacy and trust that leaves me feeling literally nauseated. I once again reiterate that I don’t trust third-hand amateur fan translation to be accurate and contextual, particularly given the provenance of the material, but Build himself is apparently distressed enough by at least some part of the material to make a public apology. So, that being out there, I will say: This was a private matter that should have stayed private, out of respect for everyone involved. Whatever was actually said is nobody’s business except Build’s and now, unfortunately, any named individuals who this was inflicted on and who may have been hurt by it. Which, rest assured, was the intention - to hurt not only Build with this, but also, particularly, Apo and Bible, both of whom Poi has shown her dislike of and ill-will toward in the past. I suspect some people also don’t know how abuse works, and it shows, given that what was purportedly said is a reflection of Poi’s own views back at her.

Whatever the context, I see that purity cancel culture still insists on freezing people in amber in their worst moments - without recognition of any capacity for change or growth - as long as it provides ammunition for a smug, gleeful Particicution. You’re stuck on some unkind things Build supposedly said more than a year ago? Let me tell you what I’ll remember for the rest of my life: The small, broken sound of Build’s voice just a few months ago as he tried to protect Bible and Bible’s career from a sociopath, in a telephone call that he felt he needed to secretly record as evidence of how he was being manipulated and abused.

Meanwhile, I see that swathes of KP fandom continue to be complicit in Poi’s campaign of public and dehumanizing abuse of him, which now includes not only borderline revenge porn, but separating him from his friends and isolating him. This is what abuse looks like. It’s happening in front of your eyes. Do you even care? Do you actually, legitimately care about abuse, or is it just a tool for you to use to win petty shipwars and make yourself feel righteous? Because here it is. Take a good look. This is a textbook play. And if you’re participating in reposting those screenshots of private conversations and mocking Build’s relationships and spreading vituperative language about him and acting like he deserves to have his life and career destroyed, you’re enabling an abuser. You are aiding and abetting her, as the very scenario she threatened him with - in order to maintain access to him, to keep him under control and compliant - continues to get spun out. YOU are a bully and a hypocrite and an abuser, helping to prove that the most dangerous time for an abuse victim is when they leave.

But I guess some victims do have to be perfect, huh?

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(ETA: 7/18/23, 1520 - This post is being linked on Twitter by @cherryluminary with my permission. I'm not over there, but I increasingly feel like it's important to name what's happened, and continues to happen, to Build online as what it is - abuse. Similar to to my last post that breached containment, I'm going to ask people to remember that the behavior of Build's fans reflects on him - however fair that may or may not be - and should remain above reproach. I understand being angry - I'm angry, and at more people than I've discussed publicly, at this point. But if I find out you've been descending anywhere near the level of the ugly little sociopath in my inbox who openly admitted they want Build to kill himself, I'll block you.)

[lulaing]

I think what Nicholas did was never intended to be malicious and of course it was a lapse of judgement but I feel like if he would’ve told them no that also would’ve been a big deal.

I wonder how you came to my askbox I didn’t even post about this yet but I appreciate you for the kind words. The internet has been a nightmare the last few hours, my head hurts lol.

But yeah, I agree. And let’s be real, he’s someone who loves to make others happy — him saying no to someone who wants to take pics with him feels hard to picture to me. I really think he didn’t think it through when it happened and if he did, it was not with a bad intent, why would he put himself in that situation?

I actually ended up writing a lot so buckle up.

Trigger warning - abuse , mental health issues

I am sick of people finding anything they can to hate on celebrities and with it cancelling everyone who supports them. Like the Cooper prosthetic thing last week, too, for example.

I almost got hate on X for standing up to them, because I asked questions and tried to state my thoughts. The internet is — some sides of it are — cruel. People are cruel.

We can all learn without HATE. We don’t need to cancel someone for their mistakes. We can teach them, we can tell them, we can show them.

The costumes are NOT okay, but the cancel culture and hate isn’t okay either.

Can we talk about mental health for a minute?

Why aren’t the costumes ok? Because being victims of abuse is a real and traumatic experience and it’s not something you go on and dress up as. It’s traumatic for survivors! I believe people are doing it because they liked the actors and their performances and fail to thinking it through. I also believe some are mocking the brothers too but that’s another story and I don’t want to go there, they can rot in hell for all I know. Disgusting.

But, my topic here is, you know, on why abuse is a mental health issue — because it traumatizes people. And trauma can be generated in many forms.

ABUSE comes in ALL FORMS. Sexual, mental, emotional.

So the cancel culture are not far from being abusers. Why? Because they are also traumatizing the people! Now, I am not saying they are aware of what they’re doing — they use the media and just say what they think but we can do so RESPETFULLY! Out of topic kinda but important to mention: Often you see celebs going to psychologists mostly because of this media shit — and still they have to SMILE and keep on with a camera all their lives!!

Mind you that some people already have mental health issues without hate and cancel culture — imagine being put on the spotlight and getting that every week like Nicholas? Or anyone in similar positions, really! Please.

You defend the brothers because you defend victims of abuse, you stand up to the rights of victims who lived real trauma, so don’t bring trauma to others too.

No one has the right to traumatize anyone to make them learn. We all need to learn to respect everyone’s life timeline — what we understand now is less that we will understand in a few weeks, months or years and that’s ok. What we know now and what we will learn in the future has a huge gap. People learn. People grow.

Love always wins — empathy is key. And I rly hope people mature to this, to see that we can all learn from mistakes and be respectful.

I’m sending love to everyone who had to relive trauma because of these pictures and for this reason I will not share them.

Sorry for the long text. Hope it makes sense.

Much love xx

[raelle-writing]

DFF is such great show and I enjoy the portrayal of the characters and the plot. Although I am not much into JinPhee ship (even though their scene was hot) - meaning I won't actively search fics of them;-D. But I absolutely don't understand the hate this ship gets. Or Jin character gets? Like, did I miss something? Why there is so much hate towards this pairing? I don't get it. Or do they dislike Jin character so much?

So I think there are 3 main reasons that people hate PheeJin and specifically Jin as much as they do, and I'll see if I can explain it coherently below lmao

First is cultural differences.

I've noticed that by and large a lot of the hatred directed at Jin comes from international fans being extremely harsh, and I think it's partially because they don't understand some of the nuance of Thai culture. Which to be fair, why would they?

One aspect is that they get angry that Jin lied to the police without taking into account that the police are corrupt - both in the narrative and also in Thailand in general.

Another is they get mad at Jin for recording Non - which to be fair, really does suck lmao. But they make it about Jin recording Non instead of reporting the assault happening, without taking into consideration that the age of consent in Thailand is 15, which means that what happened with Non and Keng isn't technically statuatory rape. Still bad and awful and Non was coerced and assaulted, don't get me wrong - but that makes it slightly less clear cut IMO when it comes to the question of Jin seeing Non "cheating."

You can even see within the show that the reactions to that video are by and large slut-shaming and not "omg that kid was assaulted."

So to recap: Taking the video = bad. But I think people get a bit too self-righteous about the reasons why Jin took it.

Second is purity/cancel culture.

I'm sure it hasn't escaped your notice that in the internet age, if you make one mistake you're a terrible, irredeemable person and should be canceled forever. I think that's playing a part in this. All of the characters make mistakes, and because of that they're all irredeemable pieces of shit who deserve to die. Except for Non who is just a victim and has never done anything wrong (sarcasm).

In seriousness, I think that's part of it. And the fact that Non is SO sympathetic it kind of overrides people's sympathies for the other characters. I'm not 100% sure why people hate Jin the most out of everyone else considering he's the one who has tried to help Non the most out of the friend group... I guess they just have higher standards for people who try to help? Idk. Either way it seems to me that they expect Jin to be a perfectly-well-adjusted little hero who always does what's right and never makes mistakes. Instead of what he really is: a kid.

And last is fan favorites/shipping.

A big part of the reason that PheeJin shippers are getting so much hate is because TaCode shippers and PheeNon shippers have decided their ship is The Ship of the series, and think that Phee is just using Jin for revenge and anyone who genuinely ships PJ is fucked up, etc.

It's just ship war bullshit waged by largely Barcode stans, but it's certainly tiresome.

To be clear, I have nothing against PheeNon. I am of the opinion that Phee and Non were a cute high school romance that wouldn't have lasted because they had conflicting styles of showing affection and love (I'll write a post about it someday lol) but that doesn't mean I hate the ship. I thought they were very cute and it was fun to see TaCode on screen since I wrote MacauChay in my KPTS days ahahaha I just like the spice and fire of PheeJin better, and Jin is my favorite character.

I just wish that PheeNon shippers would live and let live instead of acting like they're waging some moral war. They were even crying in BOC's comment section on IG today after they posted the PheeJin poster for episode 9 saying "nooooo Phee is there for revenge he can't really have feelings for Jin!" It's exhausting... 🫠

General disclaimer: if you don't like Jin or like PheeNon better I'm not saying any of the above things applies to you. Everyone is entitled to their opinions, I'm just dissecting some of the over-the-top hate I've seen/experienced in fandom spaces lately.

[blue-hedgehog]

So, I don’t even know how to put it into words, before what Maya recently said I knew very little about Liam, haven’t heard much of him since the release of LP1, so in my head Liam will forever be his 1D version, I’ll remember him with his curly hair, his wide smile and puppy like energy, how fundamental he was for the band and it’s sound.

His death is a little too personal for me, he made mistakes, like very concerning ones but he deserved a chance to recover and learn, to take responsibility of his own actions while sober, in a more coherent and healthy state of mind where he could make up for it. I wish he could have got to know the feeling of stepping out of the misery hole, to look back and say to himself “I made it” and get a new chance at happiness and doing things right, just how many people who struggles with their mental health ,like myself, have done.

I’m mourning the boy I used to love, who was a pivotal part of my teenage years and therefore of who I am as a person now, who was still somewhere inside that man who grew to make questionable decisions, who after all didn’t deserved such a lonely and turbulent end. Despite his last actions we’re allowed to mourn him, there is a time and place for everything and right now this fandom needs closure, you don’t have to support a late person’s actions to mourn them, to ache for them the way many of us are doing right now.

I hope Simon Cowell, TMZ and all those fuckers out there go burn in hell.

I cant process the fact “the boys” are now four, that I never got to experience them live as a band and now I’ll never get to see Liam live on his own when I was so close to attend his concert in my country before it was cancelled a couple years ago. Every 1D memory will now forever be filled with sadness and an overwhelming feeling of emptiness, his voice and many lyrics will make our hearts ache for awhile and even forever, the experience listening to 1Ds music won’t be the same.

I’ll miss his puppy eyes.

Never thought I’d go through this before my hair started graying, and I really hoped getting to see all of them growing older, settling, to hear from all of them that raspy tone only age can give.

I hope he’s finally getting the peace he so much needed and that his friends and family can also mourn him in peace. I also wish Maya peace of mind, she’s a victim and doesn’t deserve the hell peoples already giving her. My thoughts are with Liam’s baby, so he never gets to see those gruesome images of his fathers body and the things people said upon his death. That kid deserves a good and happy life, the one his father couldn’t have.

Take this as a hug if you need it, take your time, let yourself mourn however you need to and most importantly remember you’re not alone, you can ask for help, you can improve and heal, you can be happy, remember you’re loved and you’re important, that you’re strong and it’s never late for getting out of the hole. Like we say in my culture “there is no bad which can last a century and there’s no body which can stand it”

Finally take care of yourselves out there and (I never thought I’d be saying this) rest in pice Liam Payne, may you find in death what your life was missing.

[sleepynegress]

On the show FOUND...

I just watched this show and I have thoughts. It's a typical procedural, -TV junk food in the same comfort space as 9-1-1 or the Equalizer (new thing to solve every ep while progressing the characters' stories), but it has some curves... The premise is this guy kidnapped the lead as a girl (no SA, but *definite* grooming) and she escapes, but now keeps him chained in the basement (unbeknownst to everyone else) to help solve her cases so she can rescue other abduction victims. Yeah. Very clearly purposefully dipping in that toxic and fucked up "darkfic" ish loosely inspired by Silence of the Lambs. Seriously... that kidnapper dude is called "Sir". That definitely raises an eyebrow in today's purity culture-heavy era and it's another anti-procedural procedural (like the Equalizer) in that it veers off and subverts the typical cops as heroes and often marginalized people as "villains"), both the pilot and the latest ep spotlight the fact of cops neglect of certain kinds of disappeared people (black girls and sex workers). It's a risk... that seems to have paid off in the short-run, as it's Peaock's biggest debut since it's launch. EVERYONE in the main cast is BIPOC (including one character w/ a mental disability and another who is also part of the alphabet crew) except for Kelli Williams (so far) from the 2000's show, The Practice, whom I've missed seeing... and Brett Dalton.

As an aside, I am fascinated by a good chunk of Mark-Paul Gosselaar's recent roles. I just wonder what kinds of things white-presenting multi-/biracial folks see, hear, and experience from people who presume they are white. -And I wonder if his earliest experiences playing Zach Morris (as a child and being required to dye his hair blonde to better pass) has influenced his adult choices to be in media with non-white leads. Seriously, The Pitch, Mixedish, The Passage, and this-, Found... He did say he almost quit acting after they canceled The Pitch, he was so attached to that show. I want some entertainment reporter of color to really talk to him about it. I also love that a dark-skinned woman gets to lead this and have the "desire" drama, and be purposefully painted as attractive while strong. That's Shanola Hampton of Shameless. Too often it's a certain kind of "SBW" box that does not allow for black women, especially of a certain age and skintone, to be seen as anything beyond respected, intelligent survivors, and leaders.

And if there's any kind of desire or attraction entangled in that (which is becoming more frequent) it gets picked apart and *she* does often too... even at times by other black women; see: the lashing Olivia Pope got and Shonda for writing her, despite that being the genre (I have my theories on why that is, i.e. some black women are stuck in internalized black church misogyny/purity...but I digress). All this to say, this Hannibal/Clarice thing with a twist is interesting... but it's a hard line to walk, especially these days and especially in this comfort food procedural space. But I'm intrigued by the gumption.

[ollieoooop]

On racism in the QSMP fandom

The QSMP was a large, year-long event intent on uniting the world's assorted Minecraft communities. The idea was that people would share languages and cultures, and intended on helping everyone gain cultural awareness and set aside their own biases.

Because of this, the QSMP largely centered on the most beautiful and fun parts of each culture. Carnaval, Dia de los Muertos, French Independence Day, and the Fourth of July come to mind first.

However, cultures are not simply the existence of fun holidays, outfits, and foods.

It is the way people speak, behave, and think.

It is the reason why, in private text messages, even in English, I will use "Spanish" punctuation rules. It is why I make certain jokes, even if I know they won't work the same in English. It is why I dress the way I do, why I express interest the way I do, and scream the way I do.

Language affects culture, and as such I have my first point: Spanish-speakers and gender. I should preface this by saying that the way Spanish affected my perception of gender is different than others like me - because everything has a gender, in my mind, gender is largely irrelevant. What should it matter if a table is a girl, or a pencil is a boy, or a teacher is any specific gender? However, in many others, this leads to a stronger adherence to gender, because EVERYTHING has a gender. See: Vegetta. He, personally, does not understand the idea of someone who is not a girl or boy, and therefore struggles with the idea of calling someone that. For him, gender is firmly entrenched.

Now, if this personally affects people, then I do apologize. However, there is a strange habit of people looking down on Spanish speakers for "struggling to catch up". This is, in the nicest way, a xenocentric attitude. The idea that your culture is automatically "better" and "more civilized" than another is the outright definition of xenocentrism.

In the English language, there IS a gender-neutral pronoun ("they"), but in Spanish there is no such thing. You would default to male if you do not know the gender of the person you are talking about. The idea that someone could simply change their language - ESPECIALLY when there isn't yet a consensus on how to accommodate enby people, because ending things with the letter 'e' has not officially been deemed 'correct' by all Spanish queer people (source: I AM ONE) - because you want them to is unrealistic. You may be upset, but you must also be understanding.

Another, similar, example is one of ForeverPlayer. Please know that I am not defending him, I believe that an adult kissing a minor is wrong, even when it is lawful. However, many Brazilians have already noted that this was seen as NORMAL at the time, and that many people had been much worse.

And we cannot forget the reason that these allegations were brought up in the first place: racism and xenocentrism. The person who had brought the allegations to the public eye was not the victim, but a random person who had already attempted to cancel several other Brazilian streamers. Yes, they did a good thing in making people more aware of the streamer's behaviors, and for that I commend them, but it was not done with good intentions. People can defend themselves with "oh, I watch XYZ Latino streamer, I'm not racist" all they want, but have any of you truly contemplated your biases? Do you not hear how close you are to saying "I'm not racist, I have a black friend"?

White people only care about "understanding" cultures when it is appealing to them. When it is "aesthetic" and "fun", when the people they know are "entertaining".

People of color should not need to be entertaining to be seen as valid. They do not even need to be seen as good people to be seen as valid human beings with their own thoughts and emotions and rights.

The problem is that you wish to coopt the "beautiful" parts of our cultures, but you do not care about the "ugly" parts. You praise us for being "interesting", but you condemn everything that is not.

Your understanding of us is nothing more than fetishization. And THAT is the true problem with the QSMP fandom.

[noelsfielding]

I am so sorry to come to you with this but I am honestly lost and you are the closest reference I have about Noel Fielding, I am a BIG fan of Noel, have been for years, and with the Russell stuff comming up I have started getting a bunch of Tik Toks and some post about Noel also being a predator and dating minors, this is hugelly distressing for me as I have a deep an fixated Interest (I am hoping you undestand how that is) Do you know anything about this? Do any of the acusations hold water? I am so scared and worried, he has been a confort for me in very hard times and I must admit I am finding all of this very difficult to navegante

I have had to take a few days to digest all this information myself and I can't and won't tell anyone the right or wrong way to feel about this but I will say, here is where I am at...

I believe the victims of assault, whomever they accuse.

I have not seen any accusations of misconduct against Noel specifically, I have only seen his questionable relationship with Peaches Geldof resurface. This transpired over a decade ago.

I believe that people are capable of change and growth.

I believe that people who make mistakes should be held accountable for their mistakes.

I believe that Noel has had more than one friend who was and still is inappropriate with women, I am not under the impression Noel is that person any longer. I have no idea the extent of his knowledge of the inappropriate behaviour of the others.

Some might try to say OF COURSE he knew, but I had a friend in a band with a VERY BAD person and the whole band had ZERO idea because MOST people like that go to extensive lengths to hide their bad behaviour.

I can't comment on Russell at this time, I have not watched the expose myself but again, my instinct is to believe the victims first. I am disappointed to say the bare minimum.

I have also been recently disappointed with Richard Ayoade throwing his support for someone who is anti-trans. I understand some feel they can separate a person from their morality, but I struggle with that the older I get.

I want everyone to know that their complex feelings on this matter are valid. I am not a big subscriber to the concept of cancel culture, but I am a big proponent of accepting and owning responsibility and accountability and knowing that it is possible to love someone while also recognizing and not excusing their lesser behaviours.

We can talk more on this as things unfold, everyone is welcome to come into this post or inbox and share how they feel, all the feelings are valid and I don't want to see a single person attacking another for feeling differently. Everyone is going to have a myriad of feelings regarding this no matter what happens from this point on and even if we disagree, we should RESPECT.

At this time, the time of me penning this reply, I believe that Noel is a decent person. I think he's a grown man, partner and father and has moved away from a lot of the debauchery of his past, including his times with Russell. I think it's possible that as a 'friend' he turned a blind eye to things and may have even engaged in some inappropriate relationships in the past, but I don't believe that is who he is now. While I am of course disappointed in those things, I can also say there are many things from my life 10+ years ago I am disappointed in too, so I don't feel like I have the right to judge too harshly. I also know that what the press reports and what happens behind closed doors are not always the same and things can easily be blown out of proportion. But at the same time I also know if it walks and talks like a duck....

Feelings are complex, opinions as well. I hold many in my head at a time and I feel like, ultimately what I am trying to say is... I want to believe in the Noel I have come to adore over all these years. The one with great imagination, compassion for the underdogs, and the childlike spirit that makes us all feel so comfortable and safe.

I am very interested to see if he makes any comments in the coming weeks and I hope that I can stand by this statement as time passes. I love all my fieldmice and am here for you while you navigate your own feelings at this time.

[djuvlipen]

Can't believe I'm being cancelled for disliking gypsies, one of the most misogynistic groups out there who sell girls as young as 10 for gold and money, don't let them get education, etc. Unless you've lived close to them and experienced the whole extent of that culture, stfu

This is a tweet said by a ‘radical feminist’ known on radtwt and this is exactly why I only follow Black, Asian, Indigenous and Roma feminists now. White radfems will excuse their racism under the guise of feminism yet when it comes to actually being feminist and helping Roma women? They’re silent. I can’t believe someone would say this and not think to themselves ‘this is even more reason why I must ally with Roma women against oppressive aspects of their culture’ but instead she goes full nazi and later on says how Roma are ‘forever condemned to be lower caste’ and lives a ‘cringe’ existence without ever thinking about the racism they experience that makes their existence so ‘lower caste’ and ‘cringe’. I’m sorry to bring this to you, I know it could be triggering, but you are the most active Roma radfem I follow right now (the few I follow on twitter have been on hiatus or either suspended :/) and I needed to get this off my chest. I’ve been so annoyed at radfem spaces lately because of bs like this, where white radfems will go on about how they can’t be oppressive because they’re women and all women are oppressed only to turn around and be oppressive racist assholes.

I know the user you are talking about, I'm going to include screenshots for context:

She was first called out in early June by a Romani feminist and another feminist on Twitter. Unfortunately many of the reactions are like this,

I think some of those users are actual fascists, because some feminists would rather ally with the far right than support Romani women.

Then you've got the usual jokes about Europeans being just like Hitler because it would kill Gadje to actually take anti-Roma racism seriously for once instead of turning it into an Internet meme,

Tbh I have seen this sentiment echoed in many radfem spaces, not just on Twitter. A few months ago I received an ask that said "why should I care about Romani women when their culture is so sexist in the first place". A woman commented on one of my posts about racialized misogyny against Romnia with "stop playing the victim, if people don't like you it's because your culture sucks". (I'm paraphrasing because I'm too lazy to find those posts rn)

I totally understand why you'd only follow radfems of colour, I think I follow only a few white radfems as well. White feminists always try and undermine their white privilege because they think being a woman means they can't be oppressors. It's a very one dimensional way to understand how oppression works. I could go on and on about this but I think you summed it up pretty well. They're not only ignoring their race and class privilege, they are also being actively bigoted against woc.

I have heard that misandristlana was Afghan (but living in the UK), I can't find a proof for it because she has been suspended though. In any case it's a huge no hope for women moment but I am really not surprised by this, non-Romani women typically never show support to Romani women so I stopped expecting anything from them. We can only count on ourselves to liberate ourselves. That's why I prioritize fellow Romani women before other women

[katyspersonal]

Not me detecting tropes again lol

Speaking of, I know I joked that they've learned what worked with Shabriri from Mico (themes of eyes and insanity + "ascending" by mass sacrifice), but actually Navlaan too, if not even more so?

Navlaan says that the sorcerer was looking for new forms of magic but instead "created" him, which does have the vibe of accidentally ending with split personality during experiments (Jekyll and Hyde vibe), however, description of Scraps of Life says this:

An esoteric spell created by Navlaan, the infamous exiled sorcerer. Awakens the souls of the long-buried dead. The heretic Navlaan was executed along with his entire village, and the mere utterance of his name became a crime. Some say it was because he sought to restore the banned art of resurrection.

Basically bro used to be his own person, existing probably long before this sorcerer or at least independently, and was another victim of cancel culture dshfdshjfsd So, the line "But instead, he created me" would mean sort of rebirth by possessing this sorcerer. It is not direct possession as in, controlling the body as a puppet, but neither a personality born from within the 'original' person (typically from dark and repressed emotions). But it is a secret third thing; say, he barely had recollection and semblance of his original self after death, so completing the otherwise almost-blank state and filling the gaps from what was lost with the memories and feelings of the host is as good as being born as a new person.

And it IS kind of like Shabriri, too! Except, Yura is certainly no longer present in the body, whereas the original sorcerer still appears when the player is in the human state to beg them to stay away for their own sake. But Shabriri also 'adapted' to what Yura used to be, like suddenly being able to fight the same way as him (with the only addition of Frenzy incantations), and Ronin Set is described as "armour of man that calls himself Shabriri".

As for Navlaan, some of his grudges seem like they came from the sorcerer rather than his existence within this vessel, and he unknowingly carries them out. He also describes the sorcerer as "naive" when he is pretty much naive himself now; he simply trusts that we killed people just because we bring their things! Also description of Chaos Set says "Robe worn by a chaos sorcerer. He calls himself Navlaan, now", so whereas original sorcerer's name is never learned, it is probably now abandoned and not relevant as Navlaan 'overrode' the original. Again, really interesting concept of two people that become an amalgamation upon merging (that I tooooootaly didn't use for what happened with Logarius and the King, and that is toooootaly not what likely happened with Aldrich after he ate Gwyndolin.......)

+ Also cool thing that Shabriri and Navlaan both messed with something forbidden and forbidden for a good reason, and both were incredibly hated! Shabriri is "the most reviled man in history" and Navlaan was so hated that you could not even mention him! I am sorry for bringing this topic often but I just really like to analyse how Fromsoft invents 'a type of a guy' and reuses blueprints later without being unoriginal about it, it is just fascinating

[06pikacute]

Hi! I’m making this post in honor of National Bullying Prevention Month and Depression Awareness Month. I unfortunately am a victim of cyberbullying and harassment, and felt that it’d be beneficial to help people look for warning signs and how to deal with it.

I know how mentally draining and painful it is, to navigate this negative experience. It’s gotten to a point that I started working with a mental health professional to help me cope. (and that’s not something I’m afraid to admit!) So I’ve decided to make some artwork to express some of the ways I’ve been feeling, while also going over some warning signs for bystanders.

I want to start by saying that you can actually get authorities involved for cyberbullying. If someone (or a group of people) is harassing you; such as making posts about you, asking people to block you, messaging people about you, etc, you can get police / school involved. But unfortunately some victims feel that they have to put up with it.

You deserve better 💕 if someone is harassing you, (online or in person) and if it’s safe to do so, do something about it.

The main way to stop harassment / cyberbullying is for bystanders to get involved. So I want to spread awareness of some things that people should watch out for.

I personally don’t believe in cancel culture, and think it's a huge red flag. If you see posts online that especially say “block this person” or “repost and block” you should be wary. This is a problematic tactic that these people use. The goal is to isolate the victim so that no one will come to help them, allowing the perpetrator to do whatever they please. By reposting these callouts, blocking said user, you’re only allowing the bullies to win. I’m not stating that everyone who makes a call out post is a bully, but I’m simply just stating to be wary.

Another red flag is if someone is going around privately messaging you about a user. This is another isolation tactic. If you receive a message such as this the best thing to do is to either ignore it, or privately warn the victim about what’s going on.

Cyberbullying is a big deal, if you’ve ever had it happen to you then you know how much it affects you. I’m lucky, my family is ready to do something about it. But that's not the case for everyone. If you see cyberbullying happening please don’t spread their posts. Don’t allow these oppressors to win.

-06pikacute

[killin-these-shots-like-r-i-p]

RULES

These will make things so much easier for everyone involved. Please read these, and understand that any steps outside of the boundaries made in these rules are grounds for being blocked. With no warning, no explanation, and no remorse.

If you carry such vitriol for Valentino that you have to make a big scene to me about it, just don’t interact with me. Yes, he is my favorite character, no I do not owe you an explanation. Think what you will about me, it's your loss, not mine.

1. I am very open to shipping! Please do not come to me expecting to ship without discussing it with me, first. I will most likely say yes! I just want some heads up that you’re interested.

I will usually say if I am interested in a ship. This does not mean that I am forcing a ship, simply letting someone know that I am open to and interested in that ship.

Shipping With Me Info Meme

OCs and crossover characters are welcome to try and ship but do not just jump in expecting a ship. Desired characters to ship with will be listed on their shipping calls, but I will never, ever force a ship. That being said, I love shipping and will most likely be into it! Just let them have some time.

I do not have exclusive ships and I will ship with multiples of each character. Val has had like, at least ten Voxes. Please be aware of this.

2. HEAVY warnings for: Gore, blood, canon-typical violence, demons, religious themes, trauma, PTSD, regressive coping mechanisms, monsters, mental/physical/sexual abuse, unhealthy relationships, drug use, alcohol use, witchcraft, cannibalism, supernatural horror, eating disorders, age gap ships, body horror, death, guns/weaponry, abuse, domestic abuse, gaslighting, victim blaming, non/dubcon, nonconsensual recording, cancel culture, cruelty, sociopathy, animal cruelty, animal death, prostitution, slut shaming, coercion, homophobia, racism, fantasy racism, fantasy body horror, mentally ill muses, mental health.

Know that I will not limit myself or my muse in any way if not asked by a specific partner. I will not write rape on this blog, though it can/will be talked about if it happens. Everything is tagged with cw -tag-. If you need something tagged I will tag it happily, just let me know. 

I may forget catch-all tags because I have a memory disorder that makes remembering hard. Please be patient with me and let me know if I forgot to tag something!

ANY HATE that I get is going to be deleted. I am not going to tolerate it on this blog. If you dislike what I write, simply go elsewhere. I will block people who overstep my boundaries, I’d like for you to do the same.

ADENDUM: This is a remake of only Valentino from @e-m-p-error. I was run out of the fandom after 15 months of death threats for writing Val. Just for writing him. I received them, Val received them, and it was horrible, and it was cruel. I am not opening up anon asks on this blog because of that. It was a privilege, it has never been a right.

If Valentino is going to be doing anything abusive or cruel to your muse, you need to clear it with me, first. Please do not drag my muse into episode 4/Poison without talking to me first. You do not get to play my muse, I get to play my muse, and you may not know how MY Val’s abuse works.

My NS/FW tag is (NSFVoxtagram)

For anything else: Please tell me and I will tag whatever you need me to! Just a reminder that I’m not a monster, and I will happily tag whatever is needed. Also, you are always free to ask about what things I tag! I will happily get you a list!

3. If you have an OC, I need to know about them. I would prefer an image and written bio, but at least tell me about them and their relation to my character. Unless you have a good backstory and discuss it with me, no family of him that aren’t canon, please.

4. ABSOLUTELY NO EYE TRAUMA OR DEFECATION. At. All.

5. I have decided to write smut on this blog provided my partner is okay with it. I only talk/plot over DM, I do not rp there. If you cannot do Discord we will figure something else out. I do participate in Sexual Sunday and Hump Day, so Sundays and Wednesdays my memes will be of the horny variety all day.

6. If you have read these rules please say ‘Whatcha cryin' 'bout, baby?’ DM or asks is fine!

7. Please understand that he is heavily canon-divergent. He was originally made before Hazbin Hotel aired and Helluva season 2 was still coming out, and I intend to let canon influence them, but they will remain how I play them currently for the most part.

8. PLEASE no minors. If I follow you and you are a minor, please let me know. I do not have anything against you, but I am not comfortable rping with underage kids as I am over 30.

9. I operate under “reblog karma” rules. If I reblog a meme from you, I will also send at least one ask from said meme to you. I ask that you do the same for me. If you reblog from me constantly and never interact, it is an instant block.

10. Due to an influx in personal blogs following and not knowing rp blog etiquette: I do not mind if personals follow me. I do not mind if you like my threads. But do not reblog my rps, and do not like my starter calls. I understand that you like the gifs and that is fine, but do not interact with my starter calls. It messes up my bookkeeping system.

11. I have the right and ability to block anyone for any reason. Do not come to me about it. Do not block evade. Do not send your friends after me. I only hardblock, I never softblock.

12. Do not bring drama to my doorstep. I don’t care. I don’t want to be involved. I’m not going to be involved in any kind of call-outs, or any slandering of anyone. I do not condone bullying or harassment. If this applies to you and you do these things, do not interact. Only I decide who I will and won’t interact with.

I have never experienced a callout post that had any factual evidence to it. If I am interacting with an actual predator of some sort and you have actual proof DM me about it. This goes double for minors lying about their age. These are the ONLY exceptions to this rule.

13.  I am semi-selective and mutuals only. Due to some recent-ish events, I have decided to become mutuals only. This is because people keep following me and breaking their own DNI. Semi-selective here means that I will write with almost anyone, but I don’t accept one-liners unless it’s a crack thread.

14. If you want to play with her toys but don’t support Viv for whatever reason, DNI. Due to an influx of people following me that think it’s cool to hate on a queer Latina for stupid shit they would let a cishet white man get away with, I felt the need to make this rule. I think it’s pompous and judgemental of you to want to play with her characters and universe while being an outright ass about lies spread about her. Is any creator perfect? No. But you could stand to be a little less of a hypocrite.

[louissatturi]

i’m going to be honest replying to someone saying they are a victim of cultural grooming and going haha you think this is normal, comes off like you don’t care about victims at all and just wanted an excuse to cancel someone. If you want to share evidence to someone you think is uninformed do it respectfully, don’t mock victims it makes you look horrible and hinders your point.

I am sorry for not being the kindest to @/thesmpisonfire

I got mad with the "excuse" for forevers behavior was because it was "normalized" here in brazil

Sorry for not being sweet about it alright

[kinnsporsche]

i also want to thank you for responding (publicly and clearly) to that person. i've been avoiding all the drama but something like can't be let go and absolutely requires a response. i'm still in shock that ET's name was even THOUGHT of in this case. it's ludicrous. i briefly scrolled their page before blocking and people are actually sending a bunch of supportive messages?! man fandom sucks sometimes.

hi hi nonnie!! sorry for the late reply i was sick today and yesterday

it's literally baffling how much support they have, and also baffling how the people they're mainly going after are black women when i (a WHITE person) am literally the one who started all this and i feel so incredibly guilty and awful that they've become her targets it's ridiculous

i dont, and will never, regret calling her out for being ignorant and (whether intentionally or not) racist, but i do feel so awful that she's continuing to target the black community

im blocked but i just got told she took the post down, not because she felt what she said was bad or wrong or inappropriate, but because it upset a friend? nevermind the effect it had on an entire community

and then added this? despite the fact that when i and a few other people called her out we didn't add anything about the build situation, but rather the audacity to use emmett till as an example of cancel culture? i just cant understand the victim mentality behind being told what you've posted is harmful by a community that you're NOT a part of, and then doubling down and basically going 'actually its not its your fault you cant read properly'

her witch hunt against @negrowhat @piningintrovert and @kwonzoshi is out of hand

i don't understand how she's turned this into taking sides when the problem stemmed from her essentially conflating the murder of a 14 year old black boy with cancel culture? how are there sides to this when the exact community you used as an example have told you how hurtful and damaging this comparison is, and then you proceed to say 'no it isnt' and play the victim when you continue to get called out on your behaviour?

ily anon and i hope theres some small comfort in knowing that even though she has vocal supporters, there are more people against her and that racist take than there are supporting her ♥

[practicalmagicintuitions]

I am not 100% familiar with this Danny Masterson -Aston Kutcher/Mila Kunis stuff, but based on what I read, this man was accused of r*pe/harrasment and AK-MK said they believe him, because they know him. Then when he was sentenced they had to apologize and say they believe victims.

So.

I am not sure people understand how catch 22 this mentality is. Because “believe victims, believe all women” has become a catchphrase which supposed to show moral superiority because this mean we shouldn’t automatically think someone is lying. But what this means form the literal legal standpoint that “innocent until proven guilty”

AK-MK literally acted according to law, taking the law’s words and say “hey, he is our friend, we believe in his innocence” and they were ripped apart because of it. And yes, it turned out they had a faith in the wrong man but still, they didn’t do anything the law wouldn’t do.

You cannot believe the victim and the accused one at the same time. Instead of believing blindly any of them why not raise questions, wait until some evidence etc. People forget that we are not in the Middle Ages where someone have to prove their innocence. We have to prove someone is guilty. ( And in this case it happened. )

This whole cancel culture, trial by social media stuff needs to go and people has to chill and wait and do not take side without evidence if they do not know the people are involved.

But ripping apart AK amd MK because they believed their friend… I don’t think this is right. The friend turned out unworthy of the trust but still. That’s what friends are fore. Believe in you until they can.