#hope you're doing well yourself :]

[kiwiplaetzchen]

aw, my sweet i heard you're feeling under the weather!

*fluffs your pillows, tucks you in, and gives head pats*

Here's a bb duck trying to nibble a flower to cheer you up:

Feel better soon my love! 💜

*Really enjoys the head pats and the pretty flower from the adorable baby ducky and already starts to feel better.* 💚

[knifearo]

being aromantic is like. hey btw you're going to live a life that is the culmination of most of society's worst nightmares. sorry lol ✌️ but then you turn around and take a really good hard look at it and it turns out that living in that nightmare is fucking awesome and you get to wake up every day and take that fear that other people have and laugh and hold it close until it's a great joy for you instead. and being happy is a radical act that you define instead of someone else. and you're sexy as fuck that's just a fact of life i don't make the rules on that one

[canisalbus]

As I sit here tending to a nosebleed I think about how that was the first picture I saw of your characters. His open, almost casual self loathing resonated with me. So much of people with "gross" physical traits seeking love is explored only in metaphor, but here is art that shows it without shame.

Your dogs make me feel like a real human being. Thank you.

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[forgondor]

I haven’t read the book so I can’t say but something that struck me in James Ivory’s 1987 Maurice is the fact that Maurice & Alec’s relationship is started by Maurice unknowingly sending a signal to Alec, which Alec largely misinterprets, but it works out anyways, and much later at the end, when they meet at the boathouse, Alec goes “did you get my wire” and Maurice goes “what” because again he completely missed that signal but it doesn’t matter because he’s here anyways. And it’s like. There were a million mistakes to make and a million mistakes they made, but somehow, they find their way to each other, almost unwittingly. Maurice says “It’s a chance in a thousand we met” but I don’t think that’s true. I think it was always going to be like this, in every world they would have found each other. It’s the way they fall into each other’s arms so easily and they try to get away from each other but they can’t and they’re separated by so much but they still collide... This story is SCREAMING at us that no matter how impossible it is no matter how alone and repressed you feel you mustn’t lose hope because your love will find you and you can’t avoid it! You will be happy!

[uncanny-tranny]

how do you deal with loving yourself in an age where everybody publicly hates you? i think my internalised transphobia/homophobia is actually killing me

I think first, you have to forgive yourself for not loving or even liking yourself. That may sound counterproductive, but when I actually did this, I felt so much less pressure to perform love and to pretend like I was okay.

This is a process that can take years, and honestly? I still struggle with this. It's not realistic to expect yourself to wake up and be fine. Recognize when you aren't okay, when you feel that self-loathing, and don't feel shame over it (easier said than done, yes, but it is important). What you feel is only natural. What you feel is completely understandable.

Some of the things I have done beyond what I put above are:

Finding a passion outside of anything related to my internalized transphobia/homophobia. For me, this is crafting. It separates me from the world and from myself in such a way that I feel... beyond myself, if that makes sense. It's a liminal space where nothing matters, but what is in front of me

Community. Finding your own place in this world is incredibly important, and it can be difficult. If there is an LGBT center near you, please go there, even if you leave early. Being surrounded by others who are not only similar but you can see can make a difference.

Learning. This one might not work, but I found that education helped me love this world in a way that really helped change my view. I've dabbled in science and history because they're my favourites, but I think learning the beautiful parts of this world can help to make you reflect on how you aren't seperate from this world, you are integral to it.

Make time for yourself. Whatever time you have left, dedicate it to you. What this means, only you can say. For me, I set time for myself to enjoy video games and crafting and being with my cats. This time should be true to what you want to do in order to listen to and honour yourself

In the vein of community: Surround yourself with others like you, with trans and gay and queer people - with a broad spectrum of our communities. Don't tolerate intolerance, and when you come across it, remember your worth and remember that you and your existence aren't debates. You are an actual person. You don't have to entertain the idea that you are anything less.

Remember the world can be kind. The world can (and will) show you kindness, especially where you least expect it. It may seem like the hatred you hear is loud, but louder still will be the people who will see you for you and won't turn away from you.

This isn't a cure-all. I won't peddle magic cures, and I don't want to give the impression that you are "wrong" or "bad" for how you are doing. You aren't the first person to feel this way, and you aren't the only one, either. In that sense, your pain isn't felt alone. I hope that you can feel peace and safety within yourself, if not now, then one day. You are worth that. If you aren't ready for this, please keep all this in your back pocket. It is never too late. It won't be too late.

[hockeyboistrash]

I better not hear any Arty slander because my guy did well this whole series 😤

[suusoh]

love post-rurenheim blaming his attraction and sexual awakening on you. like you just HAD to cross paths with him in this life huh? you just HAD to be friends with him and be his only sole friend and therefore his only possible romantic interest. you just HAD to awaken his hormones and solidify his interest/obession with you.

[fictional-worlds-are-exquisite]

does anyone else have those friends that they catch up with maybe once or twice a year and every time they're like so what are you doing these days? and i'm like oh pretty much the same thing as I have for the last two years. haven't really made any life changes whatsoever. like i don't have anything new going on really. what about you?

and they're like oh well i run my own business now and i've moved and i got married and also started a degree

then the next time you catch up with them they're like well i sold my business for a good amount of money and i've actually moved across the world and i've taken on a research position at a university and i'm currently looking into adopting a kid with my partner

and every time i'm sitting there in fucking awe. like what the hell. you're so impressive and accomplished!!!! i hope you're proud of yourself because my eyes are popping out of my head hearing what you've achieved!! that's WILD. i can't believe i know you. you are killing it and i cannot wait to hear what you do next

[handsomegentlebutch]

also relating to people calling palestinian gfms scams... the "trusting third parties with no authority" thing from that person and people like them really gets me. bc that person on their first blog claims to be anti-fash and anti-cop. and yet... need to see some authority from people vetting fundraisers. like. yes please, tell me, white western tumblr user that claims to be a leftist, what ARE your ideas about authority? and whose authority do you deem valid, my fellow whitey? is it, perhaps, that you only view white, western "authority" as valid? that only white, western institutions have "authority"? why is this "authority" so important to you, so-called anti-fascist and anti-cop white leftist? is it, perhaps, that your ideas about what gives a person or entity "authority" is steeped in racism and western ideas of what "authority" is?

[inkykeiji]

i can’t stop thinking about how mad all of your iterations would be if reader tried to pay for dinner or successfully paying and pumping their gas when they went inside the gas station for a second, i can just see touya straight up stank facing her and tomura being so upset omg

-📖

no literally they would be so offended??? so incredibly and unreasonably offended. like first of all, what makes you think you have any right to try and treat them? do you think they need taking care of??? (they def do, but it’s in a much different way than the financial way they take care of you eep >.<) who’s the boss/big brother/Daddy of who here? who’s duty is it to take care of who? certainly not yours, that’s for sure.

secondly, where the fuck are you getting these funds from??? your big brother/Daddy controls every single cent that passes through your pretty little fingertips, so how on earth do you have enough money to even offer such a ridiculous thing? irregardless of the iteration, they’d all feel varying degrees n severities of slighted, insulted, and their sick minds would jump to nonsensical conclusions—does this mean you think they’re incapable? does this mean you think you’re better than them? does this mean they’re giving off vibes that they need you to take care of them in such an aggressive and dominant manner (and that’s the key here, truly. you take care of them for sure, but it is in a manner that is soft, emotional, submissive. you brush dainty fingers through their hair and trace tender constellations along their cheeks, you let them pour their daily frustrations into your body and keep all of their secrets, whispered out in shards and fragments in the dead of night. you do not provide for them in a monetary way. your value is much different than that)? etc etc etc.

[httpiastri]

hi! umm so i need kinda of an advice if you don’t mind of course. so i’m soon going to a gp soon…any advice on how i can approach the drivers? i just feel very awkward and never seem to have the courage to do so.. yeah…if you’ll answer, thanks in advance ❤️!

hi love !! of course i dont mind <33

(gonna assume you mean f2/3 drivers bcs i have nooo idea about f1 aaaaa !!!) honestly i think im probably one of the worst people to ask because i genuinely have no idea how to do it best 😭 i "only" managed to talk to two drivers all weekend in spa despite being in the paddock because i was so so nervous and anxious.... butttt i think my main advice would be like... just be respectful and happy because they are going to be really happy too !! idk who your faves are but all drivers i saw interact with fans were really sweet, and i mean they aren't f1 drivers yet so they are happy every time someone recognizes them. and kinda on that note, i think a good conversation starter is maybe having a little gift for them (like a bracelet, some candy, a note, etc.) to show that you actually care about them as an individual and not just "ah this is some random driver, let's take a pic in case you become a superstar one day". (that really helped me with pepe !!!)

and i mean i was sooo nervous that i knew i was just going to black out in the moment if i hadn't prepared properly, so i even had like conversation starters planned out with the different drivers in case i were to find a situation to talk to them? with paul i wanted to ask a certain thing, i wanted to talk to luke about screaming meals, ask gabriel about clem's portugese, and so on... i was rehearsing my script for my chat with pepe like 100 times in my head the entire weekend 😭 idk that helped me a lot and i would definitely recommend it if you want to make the situation a bit more comfortable in some way? and it doesn't have to be big, it can be just a simple question about their pet or if they enjoyed their summer break or like "i really liked your race in xxx!" :)

what i did for pepe was just honestly wait a really long time (from afar) and just took the chance when i got it... and it was totally worth it because he made me feel so happy about the whole experience, he was a true sweetheart and gentleman, and i think most drivers would be like that !!!!

(oh and if possible, try to catch them before quali because after that and after the races, they can be upset about results... in the beginning of the weekend, everyone's just excited and optimistic so i think they'll be more open then!)

[yuriyuruandyuraart]

AFTERMARE WEEK: day 3- light and heavy

a wedding ring; usually made of gold, platinum, or silver. it's given by one partner to the other as a symbol of commitment

such a small and deceptively light object should not be very heavy, but that does not prevent it from holding the crushing weight it's promise implies.

aftermare week is hosted by @bluepallilworld

[undergroundkdrama]

#KDRAMAWOMENSWEEK 2023 | March 8th – 15th  2023

[alternatively: a week and one day to talk about and make things for women you appreciate in celebration of International Women’s Day] Inspired by @evansbrewster that’s no longer on Tumblr.com.

@kdramaladies will be hosting the event as well. I’ll reblog where I can and try to be present. Prompts courtesy of @dramaheroine who has dont 99.9999% of getting this week to happen, prompts and more, thanks so much. Gifs courtesy of @cuddlybitch, @haeyeongs and @orangesyellow. Thank you all so so much. Thank you to everyone that checks in about this when I am sure I’ll be sitting it out. KWW has been happening for eight years, this being the ninth which is nuts.

Please tag your posts #kdramawomensweek and/or @undergroundkdrama so they are easier to find, admire, and reblog.

Day 1: In Her Head

Women with rich inner worlds, full of hidden thoughts, desires and fantasies. Are her thoughts being revealed to the viewers in visually exciting ways? Think dream sequences, a touch of magical realism, voiceovers, a cut to a talking head or perhaps weird little animated cells…

Day 2: “It” Girl

2021 was all about Haves and Haves Not x2000. 2022 was the year of women in the legal profession. Tell us which of the characters fitting this year’s trend you have enjoyed the most and why. What made them better than the rest? Or what else do you think has been a popular theme/genre/topic for 2022 dramas? How did women fit into the equation? Here are a few examples: gangsters, “behind the scenes”, school violence, countryside living etc.

Day 3: The Help

Women holding everything together in the background, women who have to do all the dirty work, who do thankless labour regardless of the setting or time period. Servants, secretaries, domestic staff, cleaners, nurses, nannies, care workers, housewives…Let’s put some time aside to ‘celebrate those who don’t celebrate’ because they are too busy keeping things running.

Day 4: Bad Girls Club

Everyone loves an angst filled, angry revenge drama so lets talk about the women who seek revenge? Women who hold grudges and whose hearts are filled with rage. Women who hurt others (knowingly and unknowingly). Women who seek power over others and/or themselves in cruel ways. A day for celebrating women’s wrongs.

Day 5: Recommend Her!

Choose your fave – give us a Top 10 that you think she’d make e.g. Spotify Wrapped, her 2023 reading list, her watchlist. Personally, I think that Lee Yeo Reum from Summer Strike listens to a playlist like this (https://open.spotify.com/playlist/3yrqVOEnwQG4z8czX8qD4k?si=36e45bbaeaad4892) as she walks around the village trying to make sense of who she is and what she wants. Today’s a day for projecting and recommending. Sneak your recs in here.

Day 6: Funny Girl Woman

We know women are funny, here’s your time to show love to the actresses who predominately act in comedies, female characters who you find hilarious and actresses who provide the perfect comedic relief every time they pop up onscreen.

Day 7: Lee Yoon Jung/Noh Hee Kyung OR Surprise!

Two pioneering women behind many of our classic favourite dramas. Think of this as a space for tributes to them, what you love about their dramas, Lee Yoon Jung’s direction, Noh Hee Kyung’s writing, your favourite female characters from their dramas… OR  Your favourite cameos by actresses! Who used their tiny bit of screen time in the best way possible?!

Day 8: Timeslip

What if time travel really existed? What if two female characters from different dramas, from different tv eras could meet? How are they connected? Why should they meet? Think of this as an opportunity for you to travel back in time.

Please also feel free to be inspired by the prompts from previous years (2015, 2016, 2017, 2018, 2019, 2020, 2020 Part Deux, 2021, 2022).

[cherubchoirs]

• I remembered that post where V1 brings a dead husk to Gabriel for him to eat, and I wondered, what does he eat now that he has fallen?, besides the fish mentioned in another post. • Hope everything is going okay for you!.

(see this!)

having to regularly eat is definitely something of an adjustment for gabriel at first, although he did sometimes have meals as an angel for pleasure as heaven gives abundantly. his tastes stay relatively the same to his surprise, with his favorite dishes being salty or floral flavors...the only problem is that hell doesn't often provide the best food in that regard, especially to a divine palette. he initially relies a lot on the fish v1 catches (it's happy to do so indefinitely), but he does begin to want for the foods of home, even if he knows full-well the ambrosia of heaven is far beyond his reach now. the fruits of hell are naturally bitter, though he and v1 do find recipes and methods the citizens of lust used to sweeten their meals - they had an uncanny ability to transform this world, and for some time gabriel follows their lead in how he begins to prepare food. it sates his appetite and he's pleasantly surprised once more by what humans had been able to achieve with only the worst given to them, the dishes certainly not what he once had but still good in their own right. he does also try the foods of limbo, but they're distinctly flat, similar to their earthly counterparts but with all the vibrancy drained out. not terrible but nothing exciting either, which could almost be considered worse. however...i do like the idea that he may find his way into the garden of eden eventually to take some of its fruits for himself since technically the divine comedy allows at least partial entrance there for the souls of hell. mount purgatory is a long trek, but it's been long defunct and abandoned by heaven so....

[july-19th-club]

ok dean's do as i say not as i do ass in the cassie episode when sam realizes that not ONLY is his supposed playboy brother actually a guy who will drop everything and reveal The Secret to the first girl who spends more than a month with him but . he will reveal The Secret at all, a thing he's spent the past six months loudly saying there is never any use in doing because we can't keep friends in this life anyway

[greensagephase]

Alondra!!! It’s been forever since I’ve been on here and first I want to say that I’m sorry for disappearing so suddenly. So much has happened after spring break that I never really made free time out of school and work, and finding jobs after I graduate too (I think I was burnt out but I didn’t want to accept it tbh 😭). But know that I haven’t forgot about you, or Nonviolent Communication, or Tumblr in general!!! I’ve practically written a whole essay’s worth about NC part 13 😭 but I haven’t had the chance to revise what I wrote, also I think I wrote way too much (no seriously, I upgraded to writing on a word doc just for this!) I feel awful not posting or writing anything this past month, but school is almost done and I’ll be graduating May 9th! I really hope you’re doing well, friend ❤️ I know I’ve missed so much since not being on here so I have a lot of catching up to do, but how are you doing? Take care, and I hope to write more soon when I have the chance and finally share my thoughts on part 13!!! ✨

@sunsetdoodler !!!! IT'S SO GREAT TO HEAR FROM YOU, FRIEND!!! 🥹Please don't apologize for focusing on your school and work!! I totally understand how stressful the last semester of college is and how difficult it is to find free time with so much going on, so it'd be totally understandable to feel burnt out (I totally was and refused to accept it until it affected my health😭 - I hope you've been well health wise despite all the stress!! 🥺) Also, don't worry!! I know you've been very busy, so I didn't once think you forgot about us here on Tumblr or Nonviolent Communication!! Please continue to focus on your schooling and work, and in finding some relaxation time!! You deserve it!!!! As to your thoughts on part 13 - I CAN'T WAIT TO READ IT!!!! You know I love, love, love reading your responses, so I'll read an essay's length response any day (but also the fact you upgraded to a word doc???!! I just know this is gonna be one of my top favorite responses of yours to read so far!! I have an idea of which parts will be highlights in your response 🤭 And also, I'm probably going to write just as much 😭🤣 so be prepared!!)!!! @sunsetdoodler please don't feel bad!! I'm just so so happy and proud of you!!! You're almost at the finish line with just a few weeks left and then GRADUATION!!!! 🥳🥳🥳 May 9th is almost here, friend!!! Just have to get through finals, and you'll be all done with your bachelor's 🥺 I've been thinking about you and wishing you the best of luck and positive vibes your way as you finish the semester!!! I'm rooting for you as always and I'm seriously so proud of you!!! You got this!!!! Also, I've been doing well for the most part (had a few off days but all is good now!!)!!! I really hope you've been well, too, despite everything and that you find time to just catch your breath!!! ❤️ As you finish your semester, please take care and remember to be kind to yourself, friend!!! I truly hope to hear from you again soon!!!! ✨❤️