#hold abusers accountable

[cryedye]

I am grieving over the loss of Liam Payne, the talented artist.

I am grieving over the loss of Liam Payne, the father of a 7-year-old boy.

I am grieving over the loss of Liam Payne, the brother of two older sisters.

I am grieving over the loss of Liam Payne, the son of a loving couple.

I am grieving over the loss of Liam Payne, the eager young boy who auditioned for X Factor 16 years ago.

I am grieving over the loss of Liam Payne, the man who helped shape my childhood.

I am NOT grieving over Liam Payne, the disgusting abuser who made his ex's life a living hell.

I am NOT grieving over the loss of Liam Payne, the man who exploited his fans for his sick pleasure.

I'm mourning over the loss of a talented young man while still showing empathy to his victims.

[poorly-drawn-mdzs]

None of our hands are clean

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[creelarke]

REBLOG IF YOUR BLOG IS NOT A SAFE PLACE FOR RADFEMS

REBLOG IF YOUR BLOG IS NOT A SAFE PLACE FOR TERFS

[gender-machine-broke]

This is so ????

[hella1975]

it's been pointed out on here before that a lot of terf arguments are actually rooted in sexist idealology that feminists fought and died to unnormalise decades ago and that's its own kettle of fish but one thing i also find very frustrating about this so called 'radical' feminism is that it's so... defeatist? like the moment you categorically label an entire section of society as Bad and Inherently Evil then there's also the implication that nothing can be done about it, and it completely takes all accountability away. saying all men are evil is just another way of saying boys will be boys. he raped her because he's a man. he hit her because he's a man. he didn't listen because he's a man - it's almost offensively oversimplified. there's no point trying to fix this issue in society because men are just Like That, okay! so now what? it's not like they're going anywhere, so you just accept that 50% of the population are evil and will forever treat you terribly and there's nothing to be done about it bc they're biologically predisposed to it? like is that fr the argument here? you're soooo radical for that

[furiousgoldfish]

Did anyone else have the experience where you re-watch all your favourite shows and movies, but after having the realizations of abuse and trauma, and seeing everything with completely new eyes, coming to opposite conclusions and being horrified with your past takes on it?

[vaugarde]

havent seen this take in a while thankfully but it popped up in my head and i wanna post this anyways. i think everyone who talks about how siffrin “got off too easy” at the end of isat and his friends should have abandoned him should go read warrior cats if they want an example of a character using their trauma as their god-given jailbreak card to treat their family and peers (a good amount of whom who were completely innocent) like dogshit, and who faces zero consequences from the narrative for it (and in fact bends over to blame their peers). like read all the shit jayfeather does while the narrative sobs over how tragic but awesome and quirky he is and then look me in the eye and tell me siffrin’s ending was poorly written.

[casually-slips-into-coma]

literally cant deal with people saying that since the trial episodes revisit to the s1e5 fight louis is at fault. watching with your eyes closed fr

[monsterfuckermilligan]

i am not anti sam but i sometimes find myself hating sam because some samgirls are super into bio/gender essentialism whether or not they realize it. sam is a woman and dean is a man and sam is the victim and dean is his abuser like what show are you watching?

[couriernewvegas]

like its fucked that we live in a world where women are so frequently victimized and also so frequently blamed for that same victimization - smthn that comes down far more often and crueler when these victims are trans/woc/sex workers or any other factor that makes their abuse/assault and/or murders acceptable in the eyes of others

[botanical-babes]

me: hey i was groomed by members of this community into a toxic and grooming relationship with your god, which there is precedent for in UPG from former Big Name Krasskova of Sigyn being groomed by Loki, which wasnt challenged as much when i was in the community in 2012-2015, nor was the overwhelming lack of boundaries between teens and adults in a very sexually charged religion, and I have trauma ì am not able to share anywhere because people refuse to acknowledge it or take it seriously

Lokeans: continue to refuse to acknowledge or take my abuse in their community seriously, assume i was ill-informed, foolish, say I was AT FAULT FOR BEING ABUSED, etc, and refuse to engage with me directly while claiming all this shit

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(: this is why i fucking left y'all. Not even other pagan communities have treated me this way. No other religious community besides the Christians have treated me this way. Im being honest, no exaggeration. So if that sucks to hear, sit with that. Ask yourself "if someone told me they were abused by a friend of mine, how would I treat them?" "If a teen said they were being treated creepily by adults in my community, what would I say?"

You are all responsible for the safety of your fellow community members and responsible for both representing your god to others, and for holding him accountable for these community-wide problems. If you dont know what Im talking about when I mean groomers were allowed to be grossly inappropriate in front of minors, I mean look at Nornoriel Lokason and how long he was allowed to talk about "elf cock" before he was called out by @da-at-ass (im sorry to ping you, but you Were There) just for a start. Look at Raven Kaldera and Galena Krasskova being the first to really write books on Lokean devotion. Look at the way this community treats discussions (or lack thereof) of safe sexual expression, boundary-setting, grooming, adult responsibility for teen safety, community responsibility, etc.

I mean, for fucks sake, look at @logun-vakt-maga-lokison vagueposting about how I am somehow responsible for my OWN ABUSE. How they blame CHILDREN for not being appropriate around ADULTS when it should 100% be the other way around. How they pull this "oh age of consent was different for Vikings" and in the comments question if I was even groomed, or if I somehow asked for it. (: What the fuck is wrong with you? Another person vagueposted about how my experience didnt happen, and then blocked me when I had a conversation with someone else about it in their comments.

For anyone who does believe and want to hear me out, i encourage you to call out other members of the community who are acting poorly about this, intentionally or not. If Loki attracts creeps, if He benefits from creeps worshiping Him, He will keep attracting them. Kick them out and make it in His worst interest to have predators and abuse apologists in His ranks. Actively pray to Him to ferret out the abusers and cast them from His community, don't just sit there waiting for retribution to maybe eventually occur -- or it wont. ETA: The original context for this post seems to have gotten lost, so I'll share it here. I just honestly shared a part of my experience and wanted to safely express it and be heard.

[leidensygdom]

sending comfort to you and your partner. i remember reading that your partner's father wasn't a great person, but the passing of a parent always affects people on some level. I hope things slow/calm down for you both.

Thank you so much! And.... Yeah, truthfully, he (is? Was? Not sure about the tense) a terrible person. He did get physically abusive with my partner, and I was too scared of him to even look him in the eyes.

We thought that part of his aggression was related to his alcoholism, but in his last lucid conversation with my partner, after almost a month sober, he pretty much showed that his malice was not even motivated by it. Which... Well, it does trouble my partner, bc they remember him being kinder when they were younger, but all that's left is awful memories.

I think they will struggle a lot with the grief of mourning someone who maybe was once a proper parent but who they've now grown to hate. We're also worried for logistics, what to do with the mother (also a piece of work), or even how to... Balance a funeral when we have a con this weekend. Its a whole bunch of work 😅

[irondad-defensesquad]

it's kinda wild how on the internet you see so many websites asking "was howard actually abusive to tony?" and i'm like. YES????????? OBVIOUSLY?????????????????? like even in the mcu, howard is still shitty, he loved captain america more than his own son, he never told tony he loved him, he sent him to boarding school... and tony simply doesn't have good memories of his father. how are these not red flags to you???

[proudfreakmetarusonikku]

also like y’know people have no clue what they’re talking about when they’re like “tommy needs to take responsibility for the rape jokes he made” uh. you mean the rape jokes freddie and jack made on his video, he literally did not make the rape jokes. freddie is himself a victim, and both of them very obviously didn’t do it on purpose at first. literally why the fuck should he apologise for something he literally didn’t do when we are talking about his friend being revealed to be a rapist and abuser- a friend who tommy's roommate and another victim of wilbur rue has indicated mistreated tommy as well. like that is almost certainly what he is going to talk about, either that or his own sexual harassment which he is Presently Doing A Live Show About. like Tommy was sent graphic rape threats after being doxxed do you think that doesn’t count or something he has every right to talk about that if he wants to.

[furiousgoldfish]

me: is in any space with other people around

me: well if anyone in this room actually cared for me or wanted me around they would have personally broken into the house I lived in circa 5-20 years ago and rescued me from the abuse or at the vERY LEAST they would have been there for me to periodically reassure me that I am right and my abusers are wrong and that I'm not a horrible person or a waste of space every time my self perception would start to waver to the abuser's point of view. This is a sham and none of these people are based. I'm going home.