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monsterfuckermilligan · 2 months ago

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i am not anti sam but i sometimes find myself hating sam because some samgirls are super into bio/gender essentialism whether or not they realize it. sam is a woman and dean is a man and sam is the victim and dean is his abuser like what show are you watching?

#as much as we all like to have fun these are two cis men characters who have roles to play in the narrative they don’t escape #they are both being abused. we find this out *fully* in s14 #but it’s always been present. this is the abuse sam and dean winchester show #but some of y’all don’t actually understand abuse! you think abuse is just being mean and yelling #‘sam is a woman because his autonomy is taken away’ your idea of womanhood is fucked up and you should unpack that #if you compare sam to a woman because he’s been SA’d then you are WEIRD. they are both men canonically getting SAd????#like yes dean has some weird stuff about his own gender that he needs to unpack but it’s part of a mask?? like if u genuinely #believe that he seriously 100% believes this stuff then you don’t know his character at all #and yes their relationship is toxic but if you think for one second that there’s a genuine power imbalance then you’re sorely mistaken #dean’s entire identity is based around taking care of sam. sam can do wrong but not enough to be truly held accountable #it doesn’t matter what he does. dean will always protect him and be there and do whatever it takes to save him. he will always forgive him #and sam knows this and uses it to his advantage. he repeatedly goes behind dean’s back and avoids the communication he says is so important #he blames dean for shit that isn’t his fault because he’s there #and no he may not fight dean on stuff but he can. he often doesn’t because he doesn’t want to!#they enable each other and they don’t grow because they can’t because there’s always something else BECAUSE THEY’RE BOTH BEING ABUSED BY GOD #they’re not allowed to take a break. they’re not allowed to slow down or stop or rethink it’s always the end of the world #so yes some of y’all annoy me with the ‘i wish dean was nicer in the midst of his trauma’#shit or saying that therapy fixes everything stuff or whatever #and the fact that so many of y’all use that to treat sam like some fragile white woman who can’t #have an opinion without her husband’s permission is WEIRD like your gender stuff is weird #and just repacked essentialism onto them. idc if you’re trans. unpack that shit cuz your meta is full #of rad fem friendly or adjacent shit if you refuse to talk about gender without using abuse as an argument #because that does not hold up in canon of these two FICTIONAL MEN!!! or in the real world #(edit: most of the stuff i see is by cis women but im saying ‘idc if ur trans’ bc it’s not exclusive to them)#supernatural #sam winchester #dean winchester #wank adjacent #maybe just straight up #fandom wank

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