#hijab issues

[qurbanjaan]

My experience and personal view on veiling as someone who grew up under a Burqa

When I was born, my father didn’t want me because I was a girl. When a girl is born, she isn’t cherished like a boy. Your life is received as a deadweight (note: I’m not saying this is something that happens every single time, just most of them) and a disappointment by the family. When your first breath comes in, the honor is on your shoulders.

My parents were so disappointed they gave me up to my aunt and uncle until I was one year old. When I was three, my father tried to sell/promise me into marriage. My grandmother, his mother, was the one who intervened and stopped him from doing it.

As I grew up, I noticed clear differences between me and girls from less conservative families, but everything was relatively normal until I hit nine years old. When it happened, I suddenly stopped traveling with my parents, stopped being able to leave the curtains open, couldn’t wear the clothes I used to wear even though I was still a child… as I grew older and older, the restrictions increased as my uncle and my father said I was becoming a beautiful woman and “I would be a problem for their family”.

Then, when I noticed, I wasn’t allowed to appear on windows, get packages from the mailman, go out in the yard, have a phone, stay alone in my room, talk to men (even if it was something as trivial as buying groceries), going out alone, needing to looking down when men walk past you, stay in your room when there’s visitors and don’t make a noise so they can’t hear you, not speak too loudly either, not share your name… the list is endless.

And, when you grow up inside a such conservative, traditional and religious family, your only future is disappearing. Along with having no voice and no face, servitude is as inescapable as death.

When you’re under a piece of cloth, you become faceless, you have no identity of your own. Outside the house, you’re a ghost. Inside the house, you’re a servant. You have no choice over yourself. This is your identity, a servant ghost who’s screams people pretend not to hear.

To a certain level, when you try to reflect on it, the veiling can be comforting. Being invisible can be comforting, no one sees you, you don’t need to worry about a thing. You can hide all your thoughts and most shameful actions from the daylight and no one is going to find out about them. But, when you are under the veil, your identity becomes something only you know about. To the rest of the world, you don’t exist, you’re not human. The veil will slowly dehumanize you, you will start fading away and there’s nothing you can do about it because how can someone attribute a face to a piece of fabric with a mesh on eye level?

And don’t fool yourself, the longer you keep your veil on, the harder the expectations will be. You may only need to cover now, but in some time, they will ask you why are your toes showing and why are you not hiding your hands behind the veil too, and why are you even outside your house? You should be home, protecting your family’s honor, you’re disgracing your family, go home.

And you may think “I’m invisible to the outside world but in my house I’m irreplaceable”, are you? How irreplaceable will you be when a younger, better wife comes in and the only safety you may have is the idea that your children will grow up to take care of you? How would someone possibly feel bad for you when you are nothing but a black trashbag? If you become a beggar, how will they see the suffering on your face if it will be covered and hidden away from the world?

I can’t be hypocritical and say that I don’t feel a sense of security under the veil, but it’s a false sense of security. When the time for your death comes, you won’t have your name on your grave, you won’t have a face. All you will ever have been is a servant, invisible to the outside world, with no God above to wonder “what about her?”. How dear are you inside those walls?

[caitlinjohns77]

Burqa = anti women

[yuri-for-businesswomen]

i deeply hope the western world will look back in a few decades and shake our head in horror about the current state of things. the normalisation of consuming hardcore porn. the legalisation and trivialisation of prostitution. the transitioning of mentally ill people. the grooming of young women into onlyfans. surrogacy. the continuing devaluation of female labour, of labour in the health, education and social sector. the normalisation of beauty surgery, the distortion of female faces and bodies with extreme conturing and fillers. the attack on womens rights by claiming there is no such thing as a woman. letting people drown in the ocean, pushing people back to countries where they will be tortured and imprisoned. the commodification of everything including sexuality. technological progress that serves corporate interest instead of the common good. the systemic exploitation of people from the global south. im trying not to give up hope but its hard.

[mithliya]

can’t wait when white supremacists find out there’s white muslims and that christian & jewish women in africa experience fgm too

[chopper-witch]

Crying sobbing so happy Barriss found peace

[gojonanami]

hey sab !!!!!!!!!!!!!

i dunno if this is anyhow offensive to you and muslims in general, and if it is im sorry in advance, but can i wear hijab too ? i am non religious but they seem comfortable ?

and you are the only muslim person in my immediate enviroment i dont have anyone else to ask , i am sorry if its offensive

i love you and thanks in advance if you explain <3

hi bb — I don’t know if I’m the right person to ask because I am a non-hijabi Muslim. wearing a hijab is a choice every woman makes — and in my family, it’s just not the culture to wear hijabs (also I live in the states so it’s also not super necessary— when I visit my family in India, I do tend to wrap my dupatta (a type of scarf in Indian clothing) like a hijab when I’m out and about)

I would say I don’t think it particularly matters because the hijab has been around forever — even the Virgin Mary wears one in most depictions. also like I said, women in India often wear dupattas or other such scarfs like a hijab. it’s not bad to wear it for a non-religious reasons. I also believe you see women of many different cultures wear headscarves in styles similar to a hijab and I never personally saw any problem with it.

I would say the only thing to be aware of is the rising Islamophobia (I’m not sure where you live of course) but I know in the states, unfortunately wearing something even resembling a hijab can subject you to harassment by very ignorant people — even if you’re not Muslim. so I would just say keep that in mind — and be safe 💕

[spiderintheathenacabin]

Sometimes I see some hate about the way that rick wrote Samirah Al-Abbas' religion in mcga, and as a muslim girl passing through that stage in her life I wanted to throw my hat into the ring. Samirah, for me, is such a realistic character, and I don't think rick even intended what I see when I think of her. She has her own understanding of what her faith means and I was so bowled over by the scene where she prays in the direction that feels right because she's just doing the best that she can! She's far away from home and there's nothing about this in the Qur'an but despite that all she still has faith in her deen and I think that that's so powerful. Even with this massive understanding of life and faith though she's still not perfect! She's still a girl with a crush and and axe and her wits doing the best that she can and sometimes she takes steps that other people would tear her apart for.

HOWEVER I still think that rick didn't do his research because I KNOW you did not do that on purpose, you were just spitballing and went "oh her found family? Yeah that's DEFINITELY her mahram"

[paopuofhearts]

me looking at people praising reagan for being "pro-palestine" when it's like.

bitch he didn't fucking give a shit about bombing lebanon when the PLO moved there.

he was fucking pissed that it was bad press and it was ruining US negotiations.

y'all really gotta fucking stop and think why you're sitting here praising people like reagan and khameni when you know they're absolute fucking shit people.

[magnoliamyrrh]

ppl think im crazy when i say i felt more comfortable in the hood and its like nah no i stand by that. apart from the prepetual gunshots, the broken window from a robbery, and our cars being broken into a whole lot,,,,, its not just that i miss having neighbors who wed actually talk to and invite us to grills and whod be loud and laughing and screaming and playing music and generally i felt a lot more at home and sane,,,,, but also that noone gave a shit if i wore a hijab or niqab. you just didnt get stared at. if anything there were so many muslims that wed always bumb into each other and greet each other and get into conversations

[rabbigfirlee]

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[createacamillahect]

Camilla Hect getting all her needs taken care by soft Doms Pyrrha and Palamedes. Like she's real needy and they are real indulgent

-🪼

Jellyfish emoji!! I love you. This answer wrote itself lol

Camilla enjoys nothing more than going offline during sex. She sometimes enjoys going nonverbal, just whining and reaching for what she needs. This melts both Pyrrha and Palamedes in her fingertips. Pyrrha always shushes her softly before giving her exactly what she wants and Palamedes pushes her hair back and softly works his lips against hers, leaning her back into Pyrrha. They like to overwhelm her, double penetrating her as they softly rock her in their laps, working their lips over her neck, breasts, and back. After she comes they keep working, her needy whines encouraging Pyrrha as she thrusts her full weight into her. At the same time, Palamedes whispers into her ear about how good she feels, that she's so perfect taking him like this. He tells he that she would've made so much money doing this for a living instead of being his cavalier, smiling when she bites his lips in disagreement.

They sometimes tie her arms and blindfold her, shutting off her senses so she can focus on them. It turns out Pyrrha still has a fondness for handcuffs, and Camilla rolls her eyes when she gets fuzzy gray ones, but they are comfortable on her wrists. Palamedes and Pyrrha set the rule that Camilla cannot reciprocate, but that at her command she can watch them take care of each other. It took a bit to adjust, but she loves not having to do anything or worry about anything other than following commands and directing her lovers where to come.

[onlyfangz]

i feel like some people only care about breaking down gender norms when it's a transgender person presenting as their gender. "why wont you wear skirts?" im a dude. "why arent you okay with being called girlie (gn)?" im a dude. "why dont you want to wear makeup?" im a dude. "but those things dont make you any less of a dude!!" GET OFF MY DICK, CHELSEA.

[caitlinjohns77]

Hamas hostage weighed less than 80 pounds when her dead body was recovered

Fuck everyone who supports these Islamist savages. Rot in hell.

[llegato]

my parents' comments have been making me feel worse lately

[timothylawrence]

being a Sasha and august enjoyer is so much fun. throw in Rhys and it’s a bisexual disaster trifecta drama of a lifetime

[dreamertrilogys]

trying (and failing) to convince my parents to let me take the train into the city on my own