#heteroalterous??

[warriors-pride]

saphillian thistleclaw, genderdoe sweetpaw, genderrot rushtooth, and any headcanons for lizardtripe or foxheart

[wizard101swiftie]

"WhY cAn’T iT jUsT bE fUn, WhY dOeS iT hAvE tO bE lOvE??"

YOU CANNOT HONESTLY TELL ME JONAH BECK WAS NOT AROMANTIC AFTER HEARING HIM SAY THAT

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[tertiary-culture-archive]

Tertiary attraction culture is adding tertiary labels to your aspec character headcanons (e.g. this character is aroace but also panplatonic; whereas this other one is aroace, heteroaesthetic, & possibly heteroalterous)

[amerafluid]

a identity to describe the feeling of when you expeince all/most forms of attraction

romantic, alterous, queerplatonic, Platonic, astestic, Amical, sensual, sexual, ect.

and your orientation for each of those could differ

( split attraction model)

examples, bisexual and panromatic heteroalterous, ect.

( you don't have to make a flag but it'd be appreciated)

THIS FLAG WAS MADE BY A FRIEND WHO PREFERS TO REMAIN ANONYMOUS!!

Aliai Attraction: An identity where you experience most/all forms of attraction and your orientation for each form of attraction can differ.

Etymology: Lithuanian, “Aliai” meaning “Every”

Flag meaning: “The blue means alterous and amical, green stands for Platonic, queerplatonic pink stands for romance, sexual, and astestic, attraction, the black represents a book spine, like you're going through the list of your attractions and orientations”

[mogaiboards]

for the anti people using split attraction model if they're not ace

what if i just don't like people who repeat it?

example:

romantic orientation: heteroromantic

sexual attraction: heteroromantic

alterous attraction: heteroalterous

Platonic: hetroplatonic

that stuff

then it's just straight I guess?

like for every other non ace, non aro orientation rkrjfj

(and sometimes those too for non-sam aros and non-sam aces)

but yeah if someone says bi for example I'd assume they mean biromantic and bisexual if not otherwise specified

[redemptivexheroics]

𝑪𝑯𝑨𝑹𝑨𝑪𝑻𝑬𝑹 𝑺𝑯𝑬𝑬𝑻

repost,  don’t reblog !

𝐛𝐚𝐬𝐢𝐜𝐬 !

FULL NAME.      Aoife Annalise Reignhart MEANING.       Aoife’s name is of Irish heritage meaning beauty or radiance NICKNAME.      Weasly (is a nickname given to her by her parents because of her flaming red hair which is a term used to describe the Weasly family in the Harry Potter series. At first she didn’t get it until she red the books.  GENDER.        Female HEIGHT. 5′5″ AGE.  23 ZODIAC.        ??? (Unknown at the time because I have not given her birthday yet) SPOKEN LANGUAGES. Gaelic and Spanish

𝐩𝐡𝐲𝐬𝐢𝐜𝐚𝐥 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐫𝐚𝐜𝐭𝐞𝐫𝐢𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐜𝐬 !

HAIR COLOR.       Red EYE COLOR.       Green SKIN TONE.        Pale White (a little tanned) BODY TYPE.      Athletic Slim ACCENT.         British/Irish VOICE.        Um...just listen to Katherine McNamara speak and there you go.  DOMINANT HAND.       Right POSTURE.         Straight. SCARS.      She has only one scar, one that her accelerated healing couldn’t repair. Its on her right hip. TATTOOS.        A rose tattoo on her left wrist MOST NOTICEABLE FEATURE(S).     Her eyes, they are green and tend to get lighter or darker which is dependent on her mood. 

𝐜𝐡𝐢𝐥𝐝𝐡𝐨𝐨𝐝 !

PLACE OF BIRTH.       Manhattan, New York HOMETOWN.        Manhattan, New York BIRTH WEIGHT.        N/A BIRTH HEIGHT.        N/A MANNER OF BIRTH.        Natural but she was born in three months because she’s half vampire.  FIRST WORDS.         Cookie SIBLINGS.        Half Sister, Kyna PARENTS.  Cameron Reignhart and Meeka Taylor PARENT INVOLVEMENT.  Aoife has a great relationship with both her parents but is  truly daddy’s little girl. 

𝐚𝐝𝐮𝐥𝐭 𝐥𝐢𝐟𝐞 !

OCCUPATION.         College Student. Barista At Starbucks CURRENT RESIDENCE.       Cambridge, Massachusetts CLOSE FRIENDS.        Gregg and Alison  RELATIONSHIP STATUS.          Single FINANCIAL STATUS.        Wealthy  DRIVER’S LICENSE. Yes CRIMINAL RECORD.        No VICES.        N/A

𝐬𝐞𝐱 & 𝐫𝐨𝐦𝐚𝐧𝐜𝐞 !

SEXUAL ORIENTATION.         Heterosexual ROMANTIC ORIENTATION.         Heteroalterous PREFERRED EMOTIONAL ROLE.       submissive       |         dominant       |       switch. PREFERRED SEXUAL ROLE.       submissive       |       dominant       |       switch. LIBIDO.         N/A TURN ON’S.         intelligence, good looks, trustworthiness, good sense of humor. TURN OFF’S.       being used & arrogance LOVE LANGUAGE. quality time. RELATIONSHIP TENDENCIES.      affectionate && protectiveness.

𝐦𝐢𝐬𝐜𝐞𝐥𝐥𝐚𝐧𝐞𝐨𝐮𝐬 !

CHARACTER’S THEME SONG.        Come Alive - Against The Current HOBBIES TO PASS TIME.         Reading, Writing Poetry, Painting MENTAL ILLNESSES.    N/A PHYSICAL ILLNESSES.        None LEFT OR RIGHT BRAINED.        right. PHOBIAS.  Spiders, Boats, Closed Spaces SELF CONFIDENCE LEVEL.        Confidence Goes Up And Down VULNERABILITIES.       Overly trusting, naive, acts before she thinks

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[deffinitelynobody]

A list of Romantic Attractions

Source

I like lists. Especially lists that explain their contents. So, when I found a giant list of romantic orientations, I decided to share it here (there is a second list that is very similar, so I chose to just link to the page they’re both on).

This is just as much for my benefit as it is for others. If this list isn’t complete or wrong, please me know (or add to it).

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Abroromantic - Is someone who experiences a fluid or rapidly changing romantic attraction to different gender expressions.

Acoromantic - Is someone whose negative experiences with romance has alienated them from their allo-romanticism.

Adfecturomantic/Affecturomantic/Adfectual/Adfomantic - Is someone whose romantic attraction is affected by their neurodivergency.

Alloromantic/Zedromantic - Is someone who experiences romantic attraction to other people. Also commonly just called a “romantic person.”

Alterous - Is someone who can't be described as neither being (entirely/completely) platonic nor romantic, & is an attraction best described as wanting emotional closeness without necessarily being (at all or entirely) platonic &/or romantic, & is used in the place of -romantic or -platonic (so say bi-alterous instead of bi-romantic). Someone can be both alterous & romantic &/or platonic & can have varying degrees on attraction, ultimately feel discomfort / unease / or just a sense of inaccuracy in calling it wholly romantic or platonic.

More examples:

Androalterous/Manalterous* - Alterous attraction to men and/or masculinity.

Gynealterous/ Womanalterous* - Alterous attraction to women and/or femininity.

Panalterous - Alterous attraction towards people regardless of sex and gender.

Polyalterous - Alterous attraction towards people of more than one multiple sexes and gender, yet not all.

Heteroalterous - Alterous attraction towards the opposite sex or gender.

Androromantic -Is someone who is romantically attracted to masculinity, the male sex and male identifying/presenting people.

Apathromantic (The root word being Apathy) - Is someone whose orientation form of "romance indifferent" which can also be used as a title. It does not distinguish if the person does or does not have romantic attraction, but just that they are indifferent in receiving it or acting it out.

Apothiroromantic - Is someone who (also known as anti-romantic, or romance repulsion) is an aromantic that does not experience any romantic attraction whatsoever, in any shape or form, and is romance-repulsed. They do not wish to be in any type of romantic relationship.

Apresromantic - Is someone who only experiences a romantic attraction after another form of attraction is felt. The original attraction may or may not fade/be replaced by the new attraction.

Aroflux - Is someone whose romantic orientation is on the aromantic spectrum & is defined as.....

someone who's romantic orientation fluctuates but always stays on the aro spectrum. (ex. one day you're demiro, another day lithro, the next aro, etc)

someone who's romantic orientation fluctuates from, experiencing romantic attraction, some romantic attraction, & experiencing no romantic attraction.

some people who are aroflux feel as if they are alloromantic at times, while other aroflux people don't feel that way. aroflux people can be romance repulsed, romance indifferent / neutral/apathetic towards romance, or romance positive. & can have any sexual orientation.

Aromantic - Is someone who does not feel romantic attraction.

Arovague - Is someone whose status as an aromantic is uncertain or affected by mood.

Autochorisromantic/Aegoromantic - Is someone who enjoys the idea of romance, but not wishing to be a participant in romantic activities (based off of autochorissexual / a disconnection between oneself and a romantic target or fantasy).

Bellusromantic - Is someone who is fine with cute fluffy stuff with anyone but you don't want a relationship at all / not necessarily arospec identity, similar to nonamory. The prefix comes from the Italy “bella” meaning “pretty.”

Biromantic - Is someone who enjoys behavior typically associated with dating and love, like cuddling, hugging, gift-giving, love notes, but probably not kissing, etc. and enjoys it with two sexes or genders.

Borearomantic - Is someone who has a set romantic orientation but with an exception.

Burstromantic - Is someone whose romantic attraction comes and goes but does not specify if it has a reason or not.

Caedromantic - Is someone who used to experience romantic attractions, but no longer does due to past trauma.

Cupioromantic - Is someone who is described as aromantic (people who never experience romantic attraction) who still desire a romantic relationship. Is a subset of aromantic.

Demiromantic - Is someone who only experiences romantic attraction after developing an emotional connection beforehand. Demiromantics do not experience primary romantic attraction, but they are capable of secondary romantic attraction.

Frayromantic - Is someone who experiences romantic attraction towards strangers and people you are less familiar with, which fades away when you get to know them more

Grayromantic - Is someone whose romantic orientation is somewhere between aromantic and romantic.

For example, a gray-romantic may:

Experience romantic attraction but not very often. But when so, it is usual strong attraction.

Experience romantic attraction, but not desire romantic relationships.

Also used as a catch-all for other non aromantic, non alloromantic/zedromantic orientations, like demiromantic and lithromantic.

Gyneromantic - Is someone who is romantically attracted to femininity, the female sex and female identifying/presenting people.

Heteroromantic - Is someone who is attracted to the oppostite sex or gender in a romantic way.

Homoromantic - Is someone who is attracted to the same sex or gender in a romantic way.

Hyperromantic - is someone who is extremely or excessively romantic.

Hyporomantic - Hypo is from Greek and means low. Quite the opposite of Hyper. And as Hyposexual mean low sex-drive, this is it's romantic synonym. Low romantic drive.

Idemromantic - Is someone who does not internally experience romantic and platonic attraction differently; they distinguish between romantic and platonic based on other factors. "Idem" means "the same" in Latin.

Idemromantic people categorize their interest in others as romantic instead of platonic based on age, personality compatibility, emotional closeness, ease of living together, presence of sexual attraction, or other factors. However, their feelings toward their romantic interests would not be particularly distinguishable from platonic feelings and may be similar to how they feel for a best friend or beloved family member. They may pursue platonic, quasiplatonic, romantic, or no relationships.

Lithromantic/Aporomantic/Akoi(ne)romantic - Is someone who can feel a romantic attraction towards others and also enjoy romantic relationships in theory, but not needing that affection to be reciprocated or be in a relationship with the one the feelings are directed towards. Either that, or they may stop feeling the attraction once in a relationship or stop enjoying it.

(Note: There is a certain level of controversy linked to the prefix "litho." It was first coined referring to Lesbian Butch culture and some lesbians object to it being appropriated to describe a sexuality/romanticism.)

Nebularomantic - Is someone who has a hard time or cannot tell romantic attraction apart from platonic due to being quoiroromantic or due to their neurodivergency.

Noviromantic - Is someone who experiences a complicated romantic attraction (or lack thereof) such that they do not feel it can be described in a single term

Omniaromantic - Is someone who feels no romantic attraction whatsoever. In no way, shape, or form do they fall in love or feel any attraction to anyone.

They are completely non-romantic, and will not fall in love no matter how long they stay with someone or any other factor that could/would lead to a romantic interest in any other type of aromantic or alloromantic relationships. They do not wish to be in any romantic relationships,are not attracted to anyone. (Excepting experimentation.)

They are asensual, have no aesthetic attraction to others, and no squishes. They can experience platonic love or familial love, though not all do so.

This term was made to made a distinguish between being on the aromantic spectrum and specify from the common definition of a aromantic person, since saying someone is "aromantic" could mean they could be demiromantic, gray-aromantic, and such other types of aromantics who do feel sensual, have aesthetic attraction and such.

Panromantic - Is someone who is romantically attracted to others but is not limited by the others sex or gender. Panromantics will tend to feel that their partner's sex and/or gender does little to define their relationship.

Placioromantic - Is someone who feels little to no desire to receive sexual/romantic acts performed on them but expresses interest/desire in performing them on someone else. Not necessarily arospec, but a useful term for the community. The prefix for this term comes from the Latin word “placere” meaning “to please.”

Polyromantic - Is someone who experiences romantic attraction towards people of more than one sex or gender, but not all. Unlike panromantic, this term implies that sex or gender is still a factor in attraction, and it does not imply the gender binary as biromantic does.

Post rubor - Is someone who quickly gets crushes/squishes/etc on others, but after the initial excitement of said crush/etc vanishes so do their feelings.

Proquuromantic - Is someone masculine who only experiences romantic attractions to those perceived as also being masculine.

Quasiromantic - Is someone who identifies as quasiromantic may see their attraction as non-traditional or may feel it differs from crushes, perhaps a mix between platonic, romantic, aesthetic, or somewhere completely different and/or it involves other non-traditional aspects, such as rare attraction, or attraction but non-physical, non-platonic but romantic, etc.

Queerplatonic - A queerplatonic relationship is a relationship that is not romantic but involves a close emotional connection beyond what most people consider friendship. The commitment level in a queerplatonic relationship is often considered to be similar to that of a romantic relationship. People in a queerplatonic relationship may be of any romantic or sexual orientation. It may include any romantic or sexual elements the people in the relationship feel they want, or none at all.

Quoiromantic - Is someone whose romantic orientation is on the aromantic spectrum that describes people who cannot differentiate between platonic and romantic attraction, cannot define romantic attraction and therefore are not sure if they experience it, experience attraction somewhere between romantic and platonic, or want to be in a queerplatonic relationship. It’s also known as WTFromantic or Whatromantic or Platoniromantic.

Recipromantic - Is someone who only feels romantic attraction only if the other person feels romantic attraction to them at first. If there is no one around to feel romantic attraction to them, largely recipromantics may feel like simply defining themselves as aromantic describes their experiences just fine.

Requi(es)romantic - Is someone who feels little to no romantic attraction due to some mental or emotional exhaustion, the exhaustion might have been caused by bad experiences of romance during that person's history.

Sapioromantic - Is someone who is attracted to intelligence or human minds.

Schromantic - Is someone who is aromantic and romantic at the same time, or some mix of the two. (A term used here on AVEN)

(describing romanticism in terms of Schrödinger’s cat as having the possibility of being romantic and aromantic at the same time).

Skilo/Ceteroromantic - Is someone who experiences romantic attraction towards non-binary genders.

(Note: There is a certain level of controversy linked to the prefix "skolio." It is very similar to "scolio," which means crooked, twisted or bent. Lately the prefix "cetero" has started to be used instead of "skolio.")

Transromantic - Is someone who experiences romantic attraction to people that they perceive as being transgender.

Related helpful terms

Amatonormativity - A tendency of society to treat romantic relationships as more valuable than non-romantic ones.

Aromate - A platonic friend who’s pretty much your soul-mate but in a friend way. you’d totally hold their hand and take them out to movies though. In other words Aromantic partner.

Lush - A sensual equivalent of a squish or crush.

Nonamory - Not wanting to form romantic relationships no matter one's orientation.

Peach Fuzz - When people in queer platonic relationships pretend their partnership is a romantic one to stave off questions from family and friends.

Plush - Queer platonic crush, strong desire to join in a qeer platonic relationship with someone.

Soft Romo - Low level romance/romantic attraction/crush/etc.

Smush - A sexual crush aka Lust.

Swish - An aesthetic crush.

Squish - In the asexual community, the equivalent of a "crush", but explicitly lacking an interest in forming a romantic couple or having a sexual relationship with the person in question. It does not matter if they are "in a relationship", as long as you two can have a deep connection. A squish is an intense feeling of attraction, liking, appreciation, admiration for a person you urgently want to get to know better and become close with. It is different from "just wanting to be friends" in that there is an intensity about it and a disproportionate sense of elation when they like and appreciate you back.

[nbandproud]

hey, if you are comfortable with it, feel free to tell me about issues/experiences regarding your identity.

I’m mainly interested on knowing more about people who might feel like exobinary, viabinary, ideobinary and/or mesobinary fit them, but I also don’t mind knowing more about specific issues/experiences for specific identities, from abroromantic to heteroalterous aroaces to genderhoarders to stargender people to ambonecs. <3

(just be aware I’ll likely post asks unless you tell me not to post them lol)

[erosandaros]

What I say...

To older people I don't know: Nothing, just let them assume I'm straight

To older people I trust or older queer people: "I'm bi"

To young straight people I know: I'm asexual

To young queer people: "I'm asexual and biromantic"

To other asexuals: "I'm grey-biromantic"

To other aromantics: "I'm bisensual and heteroalterous"

[parakeet]

{This user is cisgender heteroromantic heterosexual heteroplatonic heterosensual heteroalterous heteroneuro heteroprocreative and proud!}

[furryanarchist-blog]

im not straight. im cisgender heteroromantic asexual heteroplatonic heterosensual heteroalterous heteroneuro heteroprocreative

[aspecpplarebeautiful]

I think I'm bialterous, but maybe not...? Because I'm heteroalterous for sure and I can imagine myself in a relationship with a man (though I'm romance-averse, no idea why, I just find it okay in theory), but I'm pretty sure I experience alterous attraction towards women, but the thing is that I can't imagine myself in a relationship with a woman. What are your thoughts?

It's possible to experience attraction towards certain genders, but not want a relationship with them for a variety of reasons. It’s also possible to experience the same type of attraction towards different genders but even though it’s the same type of attraction still experience it differently depending on which gender. There is the possibility too it could be internalized biphobia, but it’s not necessarily the case (if you’re worried it is though, spending time in lgbtq+ spaces and around lgbtq+ people can help a lot). So it’s possible any of the above could be what’s going on. 

No matter what it is, I think you’re fine identifying as bialterous if that’s what makes the most sense to you. If you’d prefer to use heteroalterous, you’re allowed to do that too. And you can always change or adjust if anything ever changes. There’s definitely a point where orientation can be complicated where picking labels matters more about what works for you personally, or communicates what you want communicated then it does being perfectly accurate.

But yeah, I’d definitely encourage you to identify in whatever way makes the most sense to you and you’d find the most useful/comfortable. 

All the best, Anon!

[colorisbyshe]

Perhaps an old post, I just came across it on my dash - but why isn't it more feasible to work towards using 'asexual' to mean 'attraction to no one', than it is to use it as 'sexual attraction to no one'? Other forms of '-sexual' solely indicate who someone's attracted to, to begin with, so wouldn't it be easier to work towards using asexual as a term to indicate the genders someone's attracted to (in this case, none), and encourage use of a different term for people with no sexual attraction?

It’s because the entire ace community centers their “activism” (if we can even call it that) around not experiencing sexual attraction and that is the more common definition.

And because then people who don’t experience sexual attraction wouldn’t have a label whereas if you have ace and then aroace and then aro, everyone has a label. Asexual, if it only means “attracted to no one,” leaves a lot of people without labels and that just can’t be a thing.

Ace politics gear towards “labels and microlabels for everyone!” Indeed, most ace politics are centered around inclusive language and language for every type of experience. Whereas sexuality was only broadly described before the ace community began–Straight/Gay/Bi (the most splintering happening here being Bi vs Pan)–now asexuality has spawned dozens upon dozens of microlabels–lithro, grey, demi, cupio, abro, alterous, queerplatonic, quasiplatonic, -flux, -alterous, fray–with no intention of ever stopping.

Asexuality needs broad language and also needlessly specific language to survive as a community and as a concept. It works with the intention of implying as many peolel as possible fall under the “ace spectrum.” And you can see it there with that term alone–spectrum. There is no gay spectrum. Despite what MOGAI insists, there is no bi spectrum. We don’t need to imply people are more or less gay or bi or straight. You either are or you aren’t.

But asexuality needs language that includes as many people as possible because otherwise no one fucking cares about it. End of. No one cares. But if you convince enough people that they ARE ace, that their muddled and hurt feelings make them ace, well… then suddenly more people care. It’s like a magic fix it.

But when ace means something specific and pretty unrelatable to most people–attracted to no one–it loses that flavor, that mass appeal. Confused teenagers don’t fall for that. (Well, some do. I did.) It’s a harder sell.

But demi-panplatonic heteroalterous?

It’s a surprisingly easy sell when you have masses of vulnerable people who don’t understand their feelings but desperately want somewhere to belong.

Asexual as “attracted to no one” appeals to a limited few. Asexual as “does not experience sexual attraction but maybe can in specific situations or maybe you just want to have sex still and maybe you still want to date and maybe you do experience sexual attraction AND want to have sex but struggle with separating platonic from romantic feelings” appeals to a lot of confused people.

Teenagers, LGBT people struggling with romantic and sexual feelings, survivors, mentally ill people… the confusion in ace language mimics the confusion they feel in real life.

It’s just good marketing.