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Idk how you mfers are ok with hookup culture. If a stranger even looked at me I would simply kill them

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as a woman I do feel watched most of the time or like I’m performing for an unseen audience. like how do I make this move graceful as I’m just walking around my kitchen, or worrying my body is making some ugly shape. disgusting honestly. I wonder if I’ll have to forcibly break this by moving around as unattractively as possible with a middle finger up to the world or something

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I knew Freud in a past life and he made all of that shit up just to piss me off

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userbox that says "i'm aromantic and i am going to make it everyone else's problem"

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there is no “gay people music” we arent a monolith and we all have different taste. except for that rasputin song.

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queerplatonic in a "i feel a deep desire for an intimate but non-romantic/sexual life partnership" way, but also queerplatonic in a "i take all my platonic relationships way more seriously than most people do and this has led to so much heartache oh god" way

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i love you ambiguity i love you fucked-up relationships that don’t fit in a box or make sense to anyone but the two people in them i love friendships where it’s too intimate to be a friendship and romantic relationships where it’s so unintimate it makes you wonder if they’re really in love (they are) i love you weirdness i love you weird love

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My aroace experience isn't really focused on the lack of attraction to people in that way but in my devotion to other forms of love. I think I experience platonic love more intensly than romantic love, for instance, so rather than focusing on the small amount of romantic love I might be able to feel, I instead center my life more around platonic love.

I think this allows me the ability to not fret if I'm really aroace "enough" because I don't worry about if there is an amount of romantic/intimate love I can experience.

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a lot of young girls need to realize that keeping friendships alive gets so hard after high school/uni and that you have to actively nurture your friendships if you want them to last yes even the friendships of 2 decades….. your 20s are so disorienting and trauamtizing no one can afford to take friendships for granted… everybody worries about not finding a romantic partner lets start worrying about being friendless by the time you hit 30

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What I’m wondering is:

If the world and the society were different and they were not to expect us to be in a relationship, to get married, to have sex… how many of us would do it?

Would it be so crucial in our life?

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i love people in nonmonogamous/nontraditional relationships

-queer platonic partners who are a throuple and just watch movies and give each other emotional support and forehead kisses

-two guys who are married to each other and also both dating another guy who they invite over for dinner sometimes

-a lesbian and her bi gf who she loves to cook dinner for while she vents about how she’s missing her boyfriend because he’s out of town

-two people who can’t really describe their gender or what their relationship is in “normal” terms but they’ve been friends their whole lives and they helped each other explore their gender and they live together and they’re life partners and they kiss sometimes

life is complex and messy and if words aren’t enough to describe your relationship then that’s awesome and i love you!

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Some of y’all think that holding hands and sharing a bed is immediately romantic, and this is why people cannot differentiate between romantic, platonic, and familial forms of love.

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A relationship can be a salad bar. It can include or not include whatever elements you want.

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romance is a social construct.

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A problem I have when reading romance novels is I cannot empathize with disliking someone but finding them attractive regardless. If I dislike someone I'm like "You are like a wadded up ball of sweaty socks and I want you to burn in a pyre, undying and screaming for days"