⋆。゚☁︎。 to. @liquorsoda
" yeah, yeah, i'm listening. i can't go tomorrow. i had my assistant write down when i'm free next. " putting down his fifth coffee of the day, fingers rummage around a cluttered desk for a small scrap of slightly - wrinkled paper. " okay, here, february first. twenty twenty - five. "
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I feel like the "dan is bi" anon is trolling but just in case they're genuinely confused: yes dan said in BIG that he loved and felt attracted to his high school gf (although he also made it pretty clear that they did not have sex so idk where anon is getting the idea that he has slept with "multiple women" 💀), and he alluded to his attraction not being confined to a specific gender in the part where he talked about labels, but you're completely taking all of that wildly out of context and missing the point of the whole video by calling him bi. I feel like this is probably the part that's frying their brain:
(shoutout to the legend @goldenpinof for this transcript!)
But firstly, imo it was very clear from BIG, as well as other stuff he's said over the years, that he just doesn't like labels. Which I find very valid, it took me a long time to figure out how to label myself. I still don't know what my gender is lmao but I started saying "bi" for my sexuality because it's a widely-used term that gets the point across. And I think that's the thing here: he came to the conclusion that the labels "gay" and "queer" are the best descriptors of his identity, which do the most accurate job of approximating something extremely psychologically complex and multilayered and nuanced in a simple everyday term that gets the point across to other people.
Obviously words mean things and it doesn't make sense to just pick a label at random (like for example it wouldn't make sense for me to identify as a lesbian, since I definitely feel attraction to men as well as women and everything outside the binary, and am interested in acting on that attraction at times, so I wouldn't be conveying accurate information to other people if I used the label lesbian for myself) but a label is just supposed to serve the task of conveying relevant information to other people (if a lesbian feels some kind of abstract attraction to dan and phil, that doesn't mean that the alphabet council needs to immediately revoke their lesbian card!! Since the word "lesbian" still does a perfectly good job of conveying relevant information to other people. Likewise if a straight dude has a fun little gay dalliance with his college roommate, but has absolutely 0 interest in men beyond that incident, it wouldn't be remotely necessary for him to start calling himself bi if he didn't want to, because what would be the point in that if he's only interested in women? Like if he told a gay dude who found him attractive that he's bi, only to backtrack... Do you see what I'm saying here?). It's perfectly valid for Dan to use "gay" and "queer" as umbrella terms that in his opinion do the best job of describing him, out of the language that's available. If he's like essentially a kinsey >5 and decided to just round it off to a 6 at this point, who are you to tell him he can't lmao
(shoutout to the legend @goldenpinof for this transcript!
Human sexuality is often way too complicated to boil it down to a single label in a way that doesn't erase any of its nuance, and I feel like this is something he's struggled with in the past, especially with him being a public figure. He's mentioned multiple times that feeling like he had to choose a label was a factor that prolonged his decision to come out.
And this is not even getting into the impact that his trauma from his childhood and also from spending a chunk of his formative years in the public eye probably had on the way he identifies or the way he chooses to label himself. It clearly took so much courage and strength for him to finally be able to call himself gay/queer please have some respect for our brave troops
Ultimately the point is that he uses the labels "gay" and "queer", not "bi", and it really shouldn't be difficult to respect that. It's also not biphobic for him to choose not use the label "bi" (again speaking as someone who uses that label). It's just that he feels "gay"/"queer" are better descriptors for him and nobody gets to determine that except him!! :) He wants people to know he's gay so he calls himself gay and that's that on that.
There are definitely people on here who are way smarter and more well-educated than me who would've done a much better job eloquently discussing this topic without rambling all over the place but that's my take (if anyone would like to add to this please do so, I'm always open to learn more about topics like this. And I'm also not saying that the way I see it is the only objectively correct opinion, but anon is definitely wrong so 💀). Thank you for coming to my ted talk
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Please appreciate the meme my non-alterhuman spouse dropped in all our mutual alterhuman chats with the caption:
"This is what it’s like being a normal human who’s been together with Page (in some form or another) for over a fucking decade. Witness the result of me having to constantly overhear the development of panels/essays/surveys by the alterhuman community’s triumvirate of scholars!"
i told him "ur welcome" in response 😹
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The funny thing really about Kingsley thinking he can do Fjord's job as captain better than Fjord can is that Kingsley only knows how to be a captain because he's learning from Fjord.
So, anything Kingsley can do, well, Fjord taught him to do. Also, yanno, way harder to be good at your job when the person who wants your job is actively sabotaging everything you do.
Generally, it's pretty clear that Fjord isn't actually at all incompetent. He's a good captain who is stressed out of his mind, as Laura says such directly, and he's being purposefully tripped up and undermined at all turns by Kingsley, which Taliesin openly admits. Fjord DOES know what he's doing, it's just conditions (stress, Kingsley) are making it impossible to do it and do it well—and that's very different from "is incapable and incompetent / doesn't know how to do his job / is completely clueless".
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to be honest i don't think it's accurate to call shane sdv the "i can fix him" character. he fixes himself and you just stand around. what you say to him doesn't even really feel that helpful, and no matter what it is he puts the work into bettering himself. for what it's worth i never romance shane because i can "fix" him. i romance shane because i think it's kind of hot when he's mean. who said that
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