#harm is being done regardless

[sodacowboy]

okay yeah it’s offline hours

[buff-borf-bork]

What's "Think I Forgot" about?

Ah! That one is to be a short snippet of Gild in a reality where she instead turned from music competitions to gambling as a way to keep her family afloat.

It's basically her in the casino, another bet, another maybe not to fair win on her part and going through the motions after a life of... well not really having her own life. "think i forgot" is the title because i was originally gonna do a little puppet animation in toonboom to the lyrics "think i forgot, how to be happy. something i'm not, but something i could be. what was i made for?" from the billie eilish song lol.

there's a few different versions of Gild depending on the universe shes in, but her constant core is the self parentified child to the extreme, every action and choice motivated by making sure her two younger siblings and her parents are taken care of. leaving little room or thought for herself or own wants beyond that. And to Gild "what was i made for," she exists for that purpose, her siblings being able to live freely without the worry of money and not have to know life as she did when they were all little and she'll do anything to a near ruthless degree to ensure that. And she's accepted that to many, that means shes the bad guy.

that probably goes way beyond what you asked, but i can't help going on and on about Gild when it comes up 💀

[ditzydoe444]

MDNI 18+

jason todd's controversially younger girlfriend ❤︎ ໋𓈒

—ㅤ꒰ྀིㅤ jason todd x reader ಿৎ

warnings: receiving (m), spitting, mentions of anal and cream pie, vaginal sex, age gap: reader in 20’s jason late 30’s

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you being jason todd’s younger girlfriend had its perks, like clinging onto his strong biceps whenever you went out, your perfectly manicured nails that jason paid for gently scratching his rough skin. your eyes would always light up when you caught him staring at them, “like ‘em jacey?” you beamed, showing the baby pink nails off. you always allowed jason to decide what colour to get. his personal favourite was a soft pink tone, as it always contrasted nicely with your outfits and looked even better when your hands were wrapped around his fat cock.

jason spoiled you rotten, whatever you wanted, you got. the two of you went on weekly shopping trips, you dragging him into every single damn shop whilst trying a significant amount of clothes at the same time. you would twirl in the little dresses and skirts that barely covered your ass, your cheeks slightly exposed at the slightest movement. though jason didn’t complain, he could fight and you looked great, so what’s the harm?

if there was something that jason loved the most it would be seeing you all dolled up like a princess in the prettiest skirts and dresses that he bought, your hair done nicely with your makeup on. best believe you got princess treatment everywhere, it ranged from the small bare minimum things like opening the door, cooking dinner, holding your hand, and the side walk rule. but he also made sure to show you his love and affection through words and actions, complimenting you regardless if you were dressed up or not, making your favourite coffee in the morning to save you time from waking up early, and gently washing your hair in the shower.

the one place where you didn’t get princess treatment, was the bedroom. jason had no shame in treating you like a slut and his own personal toy to fuck and fill with his cum. it ranges from him shoving your head down onto the pillow, your perky ass up whilst he fucked your cunt from behind, making you a whiny mess dribbling all over the pillowcase and chin. “you’re so good for letting me use you like this,” jason grunted as he gripped onto the soft flesh on your hip, kneading it. “m-mph! jacey!” you moaned into the pillow, though it came out rather muffled. jason would use you until he was satisfied, filling up both of your holes, your cunt and ass, making them leak and clench around nothing all swollen. occasionally, when eating you out he would spit on it, mixing his cum with yours and with his own saliva.

jason loved watching you suck his cock, the way your eyes went glassy with tears, your mascara running down your cheeks with your lipstick all smudged around the corners of your mouth, smearing onto his cock was enough to make him cum. occasionally, if you became too lost and dazed, where your movements became slower and more sloppy, your eyes zoning out, jason would pull you away from his cock, sliding his thumb into your swollen lips before spitting in it.

[etherealmelodys]

Kang Dae-Ho

NSFW ALPHABET

A - Aftercare (What they’re like after sex)

Have yall seen how this man acted in the show? He’d definitely be a master at aftercare. Thanking you for allowing yourself to be at your most vulnerable with him, making sure you’re not in any pain, hot bath, whatever you wanted this man would do it for you asap. And trust when he’s done making sure you’re okay? Immediate cuddles and praise.

B - Body Part (Their favorite body part on you and themselves)

I feel like for Dae-Ho, his arms or hands would be his favorite body part. The arms he uses to cradle you in your most intimate and vulnerable moments, keeping you safe at all times. His hands are so much bigger than yours as well, always making you feel so so good. For his partner, I don’t think he’d have a specific body part he likes about you more than the others. Everything about you is perfect, so why should he have to choose one thing?

C - Cum (Anything to do with cum)

He’s definitely a big fan of cumming inside you. He sees it as a way to be more intimate and closer to you. If you’re not a fan of that, he’s always down to cum on your stomach and thighs. The way the milky substance coats your abdomen and thighs really gets him going.

D - Dirty Secret ( Self-explanatory)

He’s really into you taking the more dominant role in the bed room. It’s not that he himself doesn’t like to, but the thought of you bossing him around and using him for your pleasure really gets him hard.

E - Experience (How experienced are they?)

I think he’s relatively experienced, not as experienced as someone like Thanos, but he knows what he has to do to get you to cum as much as he’d like.

F - Favorite Position (What positions do they like the most?)

He’s definitely the type to love any position that gives him a good view of all of you, and welcomes as much eye contact as he can get. The best for these would be missionary, rocking horse, or the happy scissor.

G - Goofy (How serious are they in the moment? Do they tease you?)

Dae-Ho would try to be as serious as possible during the act. He sees it as one of the most intimate acts you can have with another person, and he wouldn’t want you to think he doesn’t take it seriously, or you serious. Now if his partner is more playful during the act? He’s all for it.

H - Hair (What’s the hair situation down there)

This might be me being bias, but I think he has quite a bit of hair down there. Now it’s not a jungle mind you, but he just doesn’t feel the need to go bald when nobody’s complained about it before. For his partner he does not care at all. You could be as bald as a Siamese or as hairy as a rainforest, he still gon eat!

I - intimacy (How romantic are they in the moment?)

I feel like regardless of his mood, he’s always going to bring that romantic energy. Whispering praises in your ear while he slowly thrusts up into you, holding you so close to him to the point you can feel each other’s heart beats.

J - Jack Off (How often do they touch themselves?)

If he’s with somebody, he definitely jacks off more than he would if he was single. Just the thought of you gets him so hard and whiny, he never feels the need to jerk off to porn or anything like that when he has you.

K - Kinks (What are their kinks?)

He definitely doesn’t have any crazy kinks, he’s pretty vanilla. Praise, overstimulation, and hair pulling, while be it lightly, are his major ones, he’s not a fan of anything that could harm you in any aspect.

L - Location (Where do they prefer to have sex?)

He’s not into anywhere public, he’s too nervous about potentially getting caught, most importantly anyone seeing you that vulnerable. The bedroom is where he’s the most comfortable at, but anywhere ranging the shower or couch is fair game too.

M - Motivation (What turns them on?)

Just seeing you in general gets him going. Whether you just got off of work, sweaty and exhausted from the days events, or if you just woke up in the morning, bed head and all groggy. He thinks you look sexy no matter what state you’re in.

N - No (What are some things they’ll never do?)

He would never do anything to intentionally hurt or degrade you. Being raised with sisters really instilled his respect for women. Degrading, choking, anything similar to that is out of the question.

O - Oral (How do they feel about oral? Do they prefer giving or receiving?)

He definitely prefers giving to receiving. While he loves the sight of you on your knees gagging on his dick, what he loves even more is the sight of your arched back and fucked out face as he licks and sucks at your clit for hours. He’s definitely a service top, putting your pleasure above his own.

P - Pace (How fast/slow are they?)

He definitely prefers a slow and sensual pace compared to a faster one. He just loves the face you make, one of pure bliss feeling him slowly fill you up and pull himself back out again, the way you look at him as if he hung the stars in the sky, and the way you thank him for making you feel so good.

Q - Quickie (How do they feel about quickies?)

He’s not the biggest fan of quickies, he prefers to take his time with you and wants to make sure you feel good to the fullest potential. But if you’re desperate and beg him for it? Who is he to deny you.

R - Risk (How willing are they to experiment? Do they take any risks?)

Like I said before, he’s not a big fan of taking risks, or anything that might get you caught. He is however game to experiment in the bed room, but he’ll never initiate it himself, you’ll have to do that.

S - Stamina (How many rounds can they do? How long can they go for?)

Due to him being an ex-marine, I think his stamina would be extremely good, at least above average. Expect him to do at most 2-3 rounds before he starts to get tired. But before he does, it’s always his top priority to make you cum as many times as you can handle.

T - Toys (Do they have any toys? Are they willing to use any?)

I don’t think he has any of his own toys, but he’d always be down to experiment with the ones you have. He wouldn’t go out of his way to purchase any, especially for himself seeing that he has you already, so what’s the point?

U - Unfair (Do they tease you? How unfair are they in the bedroom?)

Just a tad bit, he loves you too much to do it excessively, but that doesn’t mean he won’t do it at all. Just when you guys are in a more playful mood does he really get into the role of teasing.

V - Volume (How loud are they?)

He’s fairly loud, he doesn’t do a lot of grunting, mainly whining and moaning. He’s always encouraging you to be as loud as you want as well, telling you the sounds you make are so pretty, telling you how it makes him wanna fuck you for even longer just to hear more of you.

W - Weird Fact (Self-explanatory)

He’d definitely want to try pegging, just once to see if he really is into it. But only with a partner he’s been with for quite a while.

X - X Ray (What’s it looking like in those pants.)

Dae-Ho is around 5’11-6’0 tall, and he’s quite beefy. He’s definitely above average, but he’s not huge. I’d say he’s around 6.5 inches, considering the average size in Korea is 5.3 inches. His tip is definitely a reddish pink color, about #EE9B9D, with a slight curve to the left. He had a few veins running along his shaft, noticeably a thicker one on the underside of it.

Y - Yearning (How high is their sex drive? How often do they have sex?)

He doesn’t have a super high drive, it’s about average, about every other day. He’d prefer doing other intimate acts with you, such as cuddling, watching a movie together, or just being around you in general in a non-sexual context

Z - Zzz (How fast do they fall asleep after sex?)

He usually falls asleep after a little bit of pillow talk, and of course making sure you’re comfortable and content with his performance in bed. He’d only be able to rest after making sure you’re fulfilled

(Thank you guys sm for waiting on this, I lwk fell asleep due to being sick half way through but I pulled through! This will be my first fic on this app so enjoy😼)

[raineofthedragons]

Making a list of things Iskall did in the video that feel manipulative. Quotes won’t be exact because I’m not watching that for a second time.

1. Opening with his own mental health struggles. Talking about mental health is important but being suicidal is a known excuse for people, especially influencers, to get out of facing accountability. Opening his first video in months with his own struggles is a diversion. Regardless of his mental health, he still needs to be held accountable.

2. Minimizing the allegations. The literal first thing he does in that video is reduce allegations of sexual harassment to “consensually talking with an adult woman.” This wasn’t an issue of flirting, this was an issue of sending explicit messages to his own employees & taking advantage of the power imbalance inherent to that. He talks about how, legally, he did nothing wrong. There’s lots of things that aren’t illegal but are still bad. Most workplaces will still fire you for sexual harassment, even if it’s not illegal.

3. Emphasizing his own virtues. Half of the video is him talking about what a great person he is, what he’s done for the community, how much of his own money he spent making Vault Hunters, things like that. I shouldn’t have to say that good people can still do bad things and bad people can still do good things.

4. “Guilty until proven innocent” and the whole pitchforks and witch hunts metaphor. We have the screenshots. We know what he did. These aren’t baseless accusations with no proof. Things like that tend to get proven false very quickly.

5. Emphasizing everyone else’s wrongdoing. He makes his (alleged) victims out to be these evil conspirators plotting to ruin his life. He talks about how HermitCraft only gave him an hour and a half to defend himself. To be fair, that is far too short a time window, but it’s interesting that he can’t actually defend himself, he just discredits everyone else.

6. Distracting from the allegations. Near the end, he talks about how HermitCraft is actually bad and secretly doing terrible things, without actually saying what they are. Regardless of if this is true, it has no bearing on the topic of the video— the sexual harassment allegations against him, which he has done nothing to actually refute.

7. Making the community response seem irrational. He emphasizes the worst people in the community, the ones sending him harassment and death threats (to be clear, this is not okay. We do not send people death threats) as a way to discredit everyone who cancelled him. He talks about how it’s his private business and therefore not important for the public to know. It’s fine for him to have that opinion, but if someone learns about things you’re doing in your private life and decides they don’t want to interact with you anymore, that is their right. This applies even more so to the members of the HermitCraft server. These allegations could have impacted both the reputation and safety of other people on the server, damaging the trust their viewers place in them, and harming their financial well-being.

8. Completely avoids any accountability. Every apology needs accountability, regardless of if the person did anything wrong. Iskall could have easily included an apology for the damaged trust that comes along with allegations like these, talked about how being silent for several months increased that affect, the betrayal and uncertainty felt by the community. Instead he deflects and places blame on everyone but himself. Even if he’s innocent, it’s really not a good look.

That’s everything I can think of right now. Might add some more later. I don’t trust a single thing he said in this video, especially the vague stuff about HermitCraft being actually problematic and censoring him.

[gay-dorito-dust]

How would Dante, Vergil and if possible, Nero react to their SO getting hurt. Like their SO jumps in front of them to take the blow from an enemy, and they just get hurt.

Dante

This is where the fun stops, not that it was ever fun to begin with, but the moment you put yourself in the line of danger for him and ended up -obviously- no better for it.

He stops making jokes and sarcastic quips and stops holding back. He’s a completely different man within a blink of an eye the second your hurt it’s enough to make people question whether he had been goofing his abilities this entire time, all because his change was that drastic that the demon might’ve had been fighting a different man entirely.

His strikes become more aggressive and fast for the demon to keep up with as their being hit by a man who was still holding back in a way, even if it was by a tiny thread, unable to strike back as they were being pushed over the edge towards their end.

Dante couldn’t think clearly of anything but the fact that you were hurt and loosing lots of blood, so he wanted to finish these demons off fast as he can before anything worse could possibly happen, reminded of the night where he and his brother lost everything; lost their mother, their home and their innocence as they wonder whether the demons were waiting the departure of Sparda before moving in to attack since they hated him so much for showing them his back.

He doesn’t give them room to breathe as they didn’t deserve such a luxury that you were loosing at a fast rate, it didn’t feel fair to Dante as he hacked and slashed everything he could see within his peripherals, feeding the demon within it could have his brother looking at him in a different light.

This many will literally keep fighting until there was absolutely zero threats to you safety, it doesn’t matter if his body aches and is tired, he will continue to fight until he is certain there isn’t a demon that’ll lay a harmful hand upon you.

Vergil

He feels like that little boy again. Helpless, weak, staring at the wound upon your body that only seemed to remind him of why he craved power in the first place. To protect and prevent bad things from ever happening to him again…

Yet his newly obtained power didn’t save you, it didn’t protect you even in the slightest, and Vergil feel ice within his veins as everything within him screamed for revenge against the one who brought you harm. His human half was telling him to stay with you, make sure nothing happens to you if he were to look away for a second, but his demon side was telling him to hunt the bastard down and make them pay in every possible way that he could think of.

So Vergil was extremely torn but chose to hover over you protectively instead, never stepping too far away from you and when he did, he would rush back over to you with increasing anger and frustration at the thought of leaving you alone with a horde of demons lurking somewhere in the shadows; awfully aware that you were injured.

Vergil wouldn’t allow that but he couldn’t help but ask himself why you would do such a thing when you were aware that he could protect himself, heal himself and get back to fighting, where as you couldn’t and yet despite this you were willing to protect himself from what you perceived as a threat regardless.

He wouldn’t walk this life without you in it after all you’ve done for him, he wouldn’t allow for his light to be taken away from him in such a manner, he refused to loose the one thing that brought him to be at peace with his human self and made him realise many things. To harm you was a cowardly thing to do, no matter if you didn’t step in the way of the attack meant for him, his brain had hardwired to believed the attack was meant to lure you into protecting him, and thus accomplished what the demon had set out to do.

To harm you was a mistake and Vergil was about to become the demons biggest problem, and he was going to make sure they never forgot the face of the man who had cut them done to size for hurting his beloved. His ‘Eva’ if you will.

He vowed to never let anything bad happen again, and he was more than willing to make do on that promise to prevent your situation from worsening, for he withheld a fear of the person he’d become without you.

Nero

He’s livid, enraged, frustrated.

Takes after his father in having his human and demon side torn in what he should do; stay with you until help came? Or go after those who did this and make their end a misery.

Instead he makes sure you’re in a safer spot, talking to you constantly as he keeps you conscious, telling you stories that he’s never told anyone before while fighting back this crippling fear of losing someone close to him; someone who meant everything to him and kept him above water upon multiple occasions.

His father and uncle can handle the threat, Nero would stay by your side and make things as comfortable as he could, for he knew that if he returned to the battle he would be worried to death about whether it was okay to leave you on your own.

A distraction he couldn’t afford to have or whatever his father would say during this, but Nero didn’t care about that at all, he cared about you more then some mission becuase if he lost you then he would feel lost within himself for the rest of his life; reminding himself of the most important life he could’ve saved but didn’t becuase the mission came first.

He didn’t care if it was selfish, he honestly could care less as he will always prioritise his and his alone to protect, and now that you were hurt he was becoming even more selfish by having stayed near you to monitor your health as closely as possible. His fingers linger on your pulse point longer than necessary as he chants ‘you’re okay, you’re okay, you’re okay’ to himself whenever he feared that you might’ve gotten worse after five seconds, calming his racing brain that his best was indeed enough to keep you here with him.

Even after help comes for you, Nero is stuck to your side like gorilla glue, unable to let even a sliver of distance build between you two, fearing that if you were to separate from one another then you’d get worse all of sudden. His gripping your hand tightly as he prays for what felt like the first time in his life to allow him to keep you in his life just that little while longer, he needed you in his life for all the moments you’ll shared together in life, this wasn’t the end of it; he refused it to be.

[sandersstudies]

So the AI ask wasn't spam. I'd highly encourage you to do some research into how AI actually works, because it is neither particularly harmful to the environment, nor is it actually plagiarism.

Ignoring all of that however, my issue is that, fine, if you don't like AI, whatever. But people get so vitriolic about it. Regardless of your opinions on if it's valid art, your blog is usually a very positive place. It was kind of shocking to see you post something saying "fuck you if you disagree with me, your're a disgrace to the community." Just felt uncharacteristicly mean.

Even if you insist AI isn’t actively harmful to the environment or other writers (and the research I have done suggests it is, feel free to send me additional reading) and you simply MUST use prompts to generate personal content, nobody has any business posting it in a creative space for authors, which was the specific complaint addressed in that original post. While I’ll never say “fuck you for who you are as a person” on this blog, I might very well say “fuck you for harmful or rude actions you’ve taken willingly,” which is what that post was about.

Ao3 and similar platforms are designed as an archive for fan content and not a personal storage place for AI prompt results. It is simply not an appropriate place. If you look in the notes of the previous ask you will see other people have brought up additional reasons they have concerns about this practice.

A note on environmental effects for those who might not know: Generative AI requires MASSIVE amounts of data computers operating. As anyone who has held a laptop in their lap or run Civ VII on an aging desktop computer, computer équipement generates a lot of heat. Even some home and small-industrial computers have water-cooling systems. The amount of water demanded by AI computers is massive, even as parts of the world (even in America) experience water shortages. Besides this, it consumes a lot of power. The rising demand for AI and the improvements demanded to keep it viable mean this problem will continue to scale up rather than improve. Of course, those who benefit from the use of AI continue to downplay these concerns, and money is being funneled into convincing the public that these are not real concerns.

I have been openly against the use of generative AI, especially for art and writing, since its popularity rose in the last couple years. I’m sorry I wasn’t clearer about this stance sooner. I have asked my followers to alert me if I proliferate or share AI content, and continue to do so.

[mlmxreader]

it's schizophrenia awareness day, so here's some reminders:

no, schizophrenic (and schizospec people in general) are not inherently dangerous. yes, you thinking they are solely bc of their schizophrenia IS a dick move.

schizophrenic people are often most likely to face abuse from family, friends, and institutions (such as psychiatry), esp if they're people of colour. the whole "insane asylum" schtick refuses to acknowledge that, and by you engaging with it, you are also refusing to acknowledge the historical and present abuse of schizophrenic people (particularly those who are also people of colour).

no, schizophrenic people are NOT your "uwu soft baby can't be in the world". infantilisation is a form of saneism.

yes, jokes based in unreality ARE harmful.

yes, jokes abt "I'm in your walls" (and similar sentiments) ARE harmful.

no, schizophrenic people are NOT your "so scary, so evil!" stereotypes.

stereotyping people w schizophrenia (as well as ASPD, DID, NPD, BPD, etc) DOES make you a dick!

no, schizophrenic people do not abuse others bc of their mental health. abusers will abuse people REGARDLESS of mental health. (and most abusive people do not have a mental illness! they are just cunts!)

your "psych ward" jokes ARE harmful

your jokes abt lobotomies ARE harmful

"insane"/"crazy"/etc ARE harmful phrases to use and minimise the way of which people w disorders like schizophrenia are treated ABHORRENTLY

sanenoir (saneism + anti-Black racism) is actually real and schizophrenic people of colour are the most likely to be murdered by the police during mental health episodes. schizophrenic Black people, such as Sonya Massey, are killed at the hands of police REGULARLY and ignoring it (or erasing the saneism aspect) is a cunt thing to do.

the ""psycho killer"" stereotype has done more damage to schizophrenic & psychotic people ever since people decided that hating us for existing was okay and HAS caused a spike in the abuse that schizophrenic and psychotic people face DAILY.

no, not all schizophrenic people have the same symptoms, the same experiences, etc.

no, schizophrenic people aren't clairvoyant or supernatural or anything like that. you are just a dick.

yes, the term "schizo" is offensive and you should not use it UNLESS you are schizospec.

yes, "schizoposting" is harmful

yes, you (a non-schizophrenic person!) writing That Character to be schizophrenic and turning them into a serial killer IS harmful. you're saneist!

yes, you (someone who doesn't have schizospec, psychospec, ASPD, DID, etc) writing That Character who has that disorder to be a stalker, a murderer, etc IS a harmful stereotype. you're saneist!

and finally: stop being a dick to schizophrenic people. we aren't your fucking entertainment or your toys. fuck off and cut the shit. stop making jokes every 2-3 months to purposefully trigger & harm us, you're a dick and you look like it. just stop, maybe get the fuck off of social media, and try to be a good person for once in your pathetic life.

[carnadelions]

r/relationship_advice 7h ago

My partner (96M) won't fully commit himself to me (464M).

My partner will disagree with me on this but he and I make the perfect couple. You see, my partner's ex-husband was a mercurial man. Very physical, almost bestial, couldn't hope to spar with my partner on an intellectual level. Theirs was a mismatched and unequal relationship that begot conflict at the same time as it appeared to thrive on it (my partner once referred to me as "boring"; I was stewing on this for several days but managed to recreationally work through my anger and cede that my partner's marriage had done him more damage than I'd imagined). Regardless, over the past several decades, I have been "picking up the pieces", so to speak. I have waited on my partner hand and foot, have cleaned up after him, have indulged his many hobbies and his — ah, several hundred — affairs. However, his sullen mood remains unbroken. In fact he's recently attempted to do irreparable harm to himself, without sparing a thought as to how I would manage in his absence (he is what you would call my Dominant — a role he performs without outward luster or passion). I hope the Reddit community can help shed some light on how I can reinvigorate our relationship. Leaving him is out of the question, as I am nothing without him.

tarantula_in_cup 5h ago there's a lot to unpack here

slowpianist28 5h ago "mismatched and unequal relationship" you're 400 years older than him??????

mdgreg 4h ago i feel like this is leaving out some really vital information. it sounds like your partner is very depressed and needs professional help. is he currently in treatment or seeking it?

anonymousmaitre 3h ago Rest assured he could seek treatment any time he wished to, but would rather glut himself on drugged blood in an effort to dull his pain. I'm reaching the end of my patience. After all, it's been years since his daughter passed.

slowpianist28 3h ago his daughter DIED?????

anonymousmaitre 2h ago Yes, but within the scope of existence as we know it, such pain is to be overcome. For instance, my first memory, I'm being run down by slavers in Delhi [read more] -1.8k ⇓

[dreamsmearcampaign]

This Is A Smear Campaign: Open Your Eyes

Many of you have most likely seen this post (x) detailing how to spot a smear campaign. But, recognizing the signs is difficult for many who are already entrenched. With OP’s permission (x), we’ve gone through the 7 major steps of a smear campaign and documented how this situation is a smear campaign designed to unjustly hurt a victim.

How to spot a smear campaign

Victim’s “crimes” (x)(x) are enlarged: even small missteps are treated as if only the worst person on the planet would do such a thing

Accusations against the victim are a reach, aka, victim did ‘this little thing’ but it actually means they’re a misogynist/pedophile/Tr*mp supporter/homophobe (x), even when the victim’s actions never conformed to those crimes (x)(x)

Victim’s actions are misinterpreted (x) in the worst possible way: anything the victim has done was taken as an offense and intentions are read as hostile and manipulative, regardless of how clear they are (x)

Victim’s actions have been taken out of context (x); ie, victim said something cruel to someone (x), but they take out the context of the victim being abused, threatened, forced into defense mode (x) and finally attacking out of desperation (x) to defend themselves (x) and get free

Victim commonly gets provoked into giving a bad reaction (x), (anyone gets defensive if they’re accused of the crimes (x)(x) they never did, or simply triggering insults until they snap), and the reaction has always been the new ‘proof’ that the victim is in fact, evil and guilty

A lot of pressure has been put on fans to react ‘correctly’ to the smear campaign; if fans don’t accept to demonize the victim at once, fans get scrutinized, shamed for their lack of morality, told that they support all these horrid things and that they are just as despicable (x)(x)

Trends of people have banded together based on their demonization (x)(x)(x) of the victim; they’ve set a standard where you’re accepted and welcome if only you also will demonize and hate the victim, and if you don’t, you’re blocked, cast out, and accused of causing harm

Over 20 sources from this week alone depict how Tommy and Tubbo are heading a smear campaign against Dream.

This is most likely not intentional. The initial smear campaign is suspected to have started in 2021 by an alt-right chat room (x). But, their actions are negligent and hurtful to an undeserving person. Their disregard for the consequences of their actions have led to threats against Dream and Dream fans and family. 

This is not okay.

So, how do you prevent it from happening again?

Do not fall for smear campaigns. 

If a large number of people agree that a person is the worst, but their story is exaggerated, out of context, sounds fictional, and doesn’t show any proof, and the people switch from being enraged to eager, doubt it. Participating in a smear campaign will help the abusers isolate and abuse someone, and you do not want to be a part of it. They will also smear anyone who stands up to their abuse, so you’re helping the abusers to create a place where pointing out abuse gets you cast out of the community

In the case of Dream, refrain from making false posts about Dream. Even jokes, like those made by Harry, Aimsey, and Tommy, have led to child endangerment. Call out creators for their misbehavior: educate them on why a joke is in ill-tase. And, if they don’t respond, boycott their content. There are lovely creators who are making great series you can watch right now (like Hermitcraft, Empires SMP, etc). Make your voice heard by taking away their voice.

In Tommy’s video, he said he can admit when he “[fucks] up.” If that is true, he should apologize for, whether intentionally or unintentionally, engaging in a tactical scheme to hurt a person. The same goes for Tubbo and his fans. Recognize the actions you’ve caused. Realize what your words do. Apologize, and move on.

We thank you all for educating yourselves: have a good night :)

[gb-patch]

GB Patch Games: Sensitivity Reader Update

Okay, well I am able to make another statement before Rose does. I can now explain much more easily why I didn’t fire Rose. There’s been new developments with the leakers. The people behind this have doxed Rose’s discord account (please don’t go looking for it) and also shared a screenshot of an email that was sent to my support address months ago. They believe that incriminates us somehow, but really all it’s done is shown in broad daylight what they were doing and why I was defending Rose so much. If I had brought up that email as a connection to this myself people understandably would’ve thought I was making a conspiracy.

However, it is out now. Here is the story- a few months ago someone who wanted to remain anonymous sent me an email with a screenshot where Rose called me a cracker. And I told them I appreciated the concern but it’s alright, was there evidence of Rose being unkind to players? They had nothing. No response.

As an aside, yes, I have been aware for a long time that Rose uses crude language when talking about me. That doesn’t mean I’ve hidden how evil they were from players. It means I’m allowed to choose what I’m comfortable with. That original “reveal” didn’t shock or upset me in any way. Our Life is a sensitive, wholesome game, but I’m a full-grown adult. I’m not innocent or pure. The game I released before OL is XOXO Blood Droplets. Something I wrote and released to the public is full of crude jokes, curse words, and violence. It’s cartoonish and comical, but edgy. Rose themselves likes to BS with bad words and I’m not accepting abuse because I think getting called a pussy is funny. I know Rose doesn’t hate me or wish me any harm. Rose also isn’t causing “discourse” for me and my games on purpose, they were joking that bringing up serious topics is “discourse” to some people. Ironically, the leakers who did this are trying to make some “discourse” on purpose.

Regardless, I initially thought that email was from someone earnestly worried for me and that they moved on when it was clear I was fine. But that’s not what happened. Them and at least one other person have been waiting for months to bring this up again. They went through almost a year’s worth of Rose’s private posts to collect as many unflattering screenshots as they could, and then they didn’t send them to me. They posted them publicly. I had a suspicion from the get go that it was the same person/people from before who couldn’t prove anything to me in private. And if true, how horrible is it that a bunch of the comments they shared were crude language towards me, something they already knew I’d brush off as nothing. They decided for me that it was wrong and they wanted the rest of the players to do the same. Or even less charitably, those extra posts were simply there to make Rose look as bad and untrustworthy as possible and they didn’t care that I was comfortable with it. I could not explain everything we were thinking/feeling at first, but behind the scenes we were discussing how this was personally motivated and not a knee-jerk act without forethought. And we do know for certain at least the main people involved now, and they do have personal issues with Rose.

Also, if you still believe that they just wanted to help the game at any length because Rose is that huge of a risk, showing that email and framing something innocuous about me (not fainting at the word “cracker” and politely being open to more proof) as serious “evidence of wrongdoing” at GB Patch Games makes me believe they want to smear Rose so bad they’ll try to turn players against me as well. Plus, the post is framed as “this email was anonymously sent to me”, but we know from account details that the people who could’ve gotten those screenshots of the discord and email are the same people who sent that email and started this situation, which is embarrassing. I’ve confirmed the screenshots shared in the email to me and the original public post came from the same private, “venting-safe” discord server. There’s very few people in there. We know it’s still you and not a separate source. I can’t prove they think I’m stupid or in their way, but I can’t see how anything they’re doing is trying to be beneficial to the creation of OL: NF. They told me in the email they’d give me more evidence if I requested it and I was ready to know, but instead they went silent for months and then did this.

I want it to be clear that this doesn’t mean players can’t wonder if Rose has enough experience to be a sensitivity reader right now, or to worry they’re so invested in the game that it’s going to effect how objective they are with their feedback, or to say that Rose is flawless and has never done anything hurtful. However, I hope you can understand why I was on Rose’s side and couldn’t just fire them over this. It felt so incredibly unfair. If another person tries to get their way by doing this in the future, I will not hail them as a hero and immediately fire at the target. And I don't tolerate any racial harassment of any kind to anyone on my team.

If those people want to continue to share Rose’s private posts in retaliation, you can fuck off. If you somehow reveal now that Rose is secretly a murderer, I’m not gonna apologize and say I was so wrong about you. If you had tons of evidence of Rose being horrible to players, you should’ve sent it all to me and with full context to begin with in the email like you offered to do. I just don’t understand.

Any players who like to see someone’s least flattering points portrayed in the worst possible way and continue flocking to the leaks as fandom drama, I don’t want you in this fandom. I don’t want you to enjoy my games.

Anyone who has been truly hurt by this and are left confused and angry, I do completely understand that. I didn’t know how to handle this, and it made a lot of people not know how to keep trusting me. I am still looking into getting a community manager to help me better communicate with players, especially when something serious happens. And I’ll always be around for you to reach out to if you have doubts about anything.

[llamagoddessofficial]

Swamp God Skull! I missed him a lot. Do you have any headcanons for when he likes the mc? Sorry if you have done them before. I can't find them, tumblr's search is very bad.

Oh, Anon, I missed him too. Our boggy boy. I'm riding high on inspiration from @desktopdinosaur's art.

For those who came to the party late, the Forest God boys are ancient and scary nature deities, who are in desperate need of someone to give them little kissy-wissies

He's shy. So, so shy. If he likes you and your path regularly takes you through his swamp, he will linger out of sight and watch you, hiding where the fog shrouds him almost entirely and moving between trees so his massive misshapen body is disguised in the maze of twisting trunks.

... Unfortunately, with that hulking body, single glowing eye and thousand-yard-stare, his 'shyness' can come across as unsettling at best and absolutely terrifying at worst. If you don't know he means no harm it's hard not to think he's a monster, and you're being stalked for dinner. Especially with the way he stares, once he knows you know he's there.

You'd think a God would have a little more confidence. But it's just been so long since he engaged with anyone - and especially with anyone he likes. Last time he spoke to a human he didn't hate people still rode around in horse-drawn wagons. What if he botches it? How many more years will he have to wait until he meets someone like you? Hundreds, probably

If you'd like to show him you don't mind his presence, just talk to him. You might not be able to see him, but trust me - if you're talking aloud in his swamp, he's listening.

The first sure sign Skull likes you (aside from the trailing) is that the bog very clearly likes you just as much as he does. You'll hear birds and frogs, you'll see newts and lizards, butterflies and dragonflies. Everything will smell mossy and soft rather than dank and rotten... water flowers will bloom in and around the path you take, sometimes literally filling your footprints from the day before. The whole place will feel so alive, so welcoming. Like your presence is bringing it back to life.

It'll also never be truly dark when you're there. In the day the sun is allowed to peek through the veil of fog, and at night, ghostly blue will-o-wisps light your way home. It probably makes you the only person who can follow the wisps in his swamp and live to tell the tale.

If you keep returning to the bog regardless of him following you, he'll start drumming up the courage to 'flirt'.

... It's mostly in very strange, ancient ways - incomprehensible carvings on trees you walk past, strange trinkets appearing in your pockets, hearing unearthly humming at dusk, your home never suffering from damp/mould, cats following you around. But some of his methods are more recognisably romantic. Like the big, beautiful white water lilies he leaves for you.

He also flirts with fireflies. They're versatile! He can make them hang around you, lighting up your face and eyes, distracting you while he admires how pretty you are. He also finds that humans tend to find him less scary when he has ambling fireflies drifting around him.

He's not got much to woo you with, really. He's a Swamp God, he hasn't got jewels and castles and silks. But he has got some pretty plants. Maybe, once he's sure enough that you won't run away in terror, he'll get the confidence to give you some flowers in person.

A massive ancient fae beast, bending down to offer you a slightly squashed water hyacinth... how could you not reciprocate?

[meanautisticenbian]

TW // sexual assault

Something that I love about Mithrun, interpreting him as a survivor of sexual violence, is how he represents an aspect of being a survivor that isn’t really talked about that much: wishing that what happened to you was worse.

some people could interpret this as his suicidal ideation, wishing that the goat had killed him instead of leaving him broken and and in pain, and i think that is a perfectly valid interpretation. However this post is about my personal interpretation as another survivor who also has these feelings.

Feelings like this of “I wish it was worse” are very common for survivors, myself included. I don’t want to talk about my experience but all I will say is that it was something that most people would consider “not that bad”. These kinds of thoughts of wishing your abuse was worse is especially common when the sexual abuse in question involves very minimal touching, non contact abuse (harassment, inappropriate comments, grooming, indecency, etc), or in some way are considered “not as bad” because they weren’t raped or molested. But this feeling is also common for survivors of more severe and violent cases of sexual assault.

Regardless, sometimes victims will be left with a feeling of wishing their abuser had finished them off, not just in wishing they had died, but in that they had been more violent, more cruel. Sometimes it’s because they don’t take themselves seriously enough as a victim and thinking that maybe they would if what happened was worse and it doesn’t matter how bad the assault was.

Now it’s made pretty clear that the act of eating one’s desires is a metaphor for sexual assault, and it’s also pretty clear that Mithrun’s experience was an example of extremely brutal rape, leaving him severely injured, barely able to walk, missing an eye, cut off ears, and with no will to live apart from what he thinks is revenge on his assailant. This makes his desire to be finished off all the more heartbreaking. Despite how violent his assault was, he still believed there was more to be done. He knew the demon could have done worse to him and because it didn’t, it meant he wasn’t worthy enough of it.

The demon grows stronger with each desire it consumes, we see this later with the Winged Lion eating every last bit of Thistle’s desires. However despite this it chose to leave just one more desire for Mithrun behind and because it did, it disappeared trying to leave the dungeon.

Knowing this, Mithrun feels like he wasn’t important enough that the demon could take every last desire he had and he feels like he has no purpose. He’s been relegated to vegetable scraps that no one cares about.

The idea that a victim is “lucky” for being assaulted is a very harmful but unfortunately common belief in rape culture. It’s the belief that “if you were assaulted you should be grateful because you were considered desirable enough for someone to take you by force”. This idea is common for all victims regardless of gender or age, however you may have seen this being more normalized when it comes to men and boys who are assaulted by women.

Let me make this clear: sexual assault is not about attraction or lust; it’s about power. Despite this, victims will still internalize this idea that it is about lust even when they know it isn’t. And that is another cause of this phenomenon of victims who wish they went through worse: they internalize this idea that they were assaulted because they were seen as desirable. They conflate their experiences with love, thinking that their abuser loved them, and will sometimes feel the same way.

So then they reflect on what happened to them and they might think that brutality equates to passion. They start to internalize this idea that they are not enough because their abuser wasn’t brutal enough, or because it didn’t last long enough. They feel worthless, infantile, unimportant, like scraps on a dinner plate. A meal delicious enough to consume, but not enough to finish completely.

When Mithrun sees the situation he’s in, cutting up Fallin’s chimera half to be eaten by a large population in order to bring her back. This is what made him realize what his true desire was. He sees how important Fallin is to the people she knows and how willing people are to eat her and he envies her. He wishes the demon had cared about him so much that he would eat every last desire he had, left him more injured. And yet despite his envy, he still wants to help her.

One last point I wanna touch on is what happens after Mithrun Confesses to Kabru what he really desired. Senshi approaches them to tell them about all the good uses for veggie scraps.

That’s when it finally clicks for Mithrun. All he really needed to be told was that he mattered.

Hope you all enjoyed this little essay bc it’s 2 am by the time i’m writing this and it won’t even post until morning

[boreal-sea]

Trying to understand here... how is someone calling whats going on in palestine right now "genocide" antisemitic? The "fuck zionism" part is, I'm not denying that, but is it not true to call what's happening genocide? Thousands of Palestinians have been and are being killed without discrimination of if they are members of Hamas or Hezbollah. Innocent citizens of the Gaza strip, regardless of nation, have been and are being killed. The sheer amounts of Palestinian deaths are heartbreaking and I don't understand how people calling something out for being literal genocide can be something that makes you label someone antisemitic. I'm not being facetious, genuinely trying to understand and learn here. I've followed your account for a couple years probably at this point, since you were hadean-taiga, and I'm spelling stuff out so clearly so that I can attempt to avoid an automatic block.

No, what's happening right now is not genocide. It's war. And yeah, war really sucks.

Genocide is not just "a lot of civilians dying". I'm sorry, but it's not.

Genocide has an extremely specific definition. It requires both of two parts: a mental part, and a physical part.

The mental part of genocide is the intent to destroy, in part or whole, a national, ethnical, racial or religious group.

The physical part of genocide includes the following acts that must be done in conjunction with the above mental part, aka with the intent to destroy a group of people:

Killing members of the group;

Causing serious bodily or mental harm to members of the group;

Deliberately inflicting on the group conditions of life calculated to bring about its physical destruction in whole or in part;

Imposing measures intended to prevent births within the group;

Forcibly transferring children of the group to another group.

Genocide requires both the mental and the physical aspects.

Are Palestinians being killed and experiencing physical harm? Yes. But not because Israel is trying to wipe all Palestinians off the face of the Earth. They are dying as casualties of a horrible, awful war. Israel is at war with Hamas. Two armies fighting is not genocide, even if civilians die in the crossfire.

The intent of Israel is to defeat Hamas, so that Hamas can no longer harm Israelis, which Hamas has been doing since the 1980's.

Yes, thousands of Palestinians are dying. That's because the war, that Hamas intentionally caused, is happening in Gaza, a dense urban zone where a lot of Palestinians live. If you have a war in a dense urban area, a lot of civilians are going to die.

There are multiple proofs of evidence that Israel is in fact trying to reduce civilian deaths as much as they possibly can, which contradicts any claim they are "intentionally trying to destroy" as many Palestinians as possible. The IDF has been actively warning before its raids and strikes, it has been maintaining open pathways for aid to enter Gaza, and it literally just cooperated with Hamas for a massive polio vaccine campaign in Gaza.

Vaccinating thousands of children against polio is an act intended to protect and save lives. It is the literal opposite of an act of genocide.

War fucking sucks all on its own without being a genocide. This is why we are calling for a ceasefire! War is bad enough on its own!

[sophie-frm-mars]

So I don't know if everyone realizes this, but we all have a "forever box" we mentally maintain. In it you keep the platonic ideal of each kind of bad person, separated away from normal people in order to keep the normal people safe. To be clear, this isn't prison, this is just in your head, a space you keep all the bad people in. To clarify further, it has nothing to do with how you believe that bad things happen in real life. You believe in systems that teach people to behave in cruel ways to each other, you believe in mental health crises that make people act irrationally or in ways people find scary or harmful, you understand the cycle of abuse, and none of that stops you from maintaining a box in your head where all the bad people go. It is an abstract place in your mind, a blindspot in your consciousness, and unless you very intentionally apply the things you believe about how bad things happen in real life, you put people in your forever box when you find out they are a bad person.

It's okay that you have this for yourself. There has to be a space on the other side of all your boundaries where you want someone out of your life altogether. I have people in this box in my head who I know I can't have in my life and it's taken a lot of work to know that that isn't the case because they contain an essential ontological evil. Personal capacity is how you actually determine whether you need to cut someone out or not, but this creates a very murky space.

If you find out that someone used to say homophobic things 5 years ago but stopped, maybe you think that person has had long enough in the box. You don't even think it consciously, you just emotionally sit in the reality that they already, as it were, served their time. Notoriously, white people's capacity to find out that other white people said racist things in the past and decide that they've already learned their lesson is quite powerful, just like straight people's ability to find out someone said or did something hurtful to queer people and decide they've had plenty of reckoning for that already is quite powerful. The trick here is that each observer feels like they're determining how long is long enough but they're actually doing an emotional weighing up of how much this person means to them. Plenty of white people are willing to put other white people who don't mean anything to them in the forever box for being racist and keep them there if they're a person they find distasteful.

Imagine a racist. You just pictured someone you find distasteful. Now imagine your best friend saying something racist. Regardless of whether you would respond by challenging that person, trying to educate them, or ignoring it and pretending nothing happened, the emotional difference here is that you didn't put them in the forever box.

When you are deciding that someone is too inconvenient to have in your life, you will tell yourself that you aren't judging them to be a bad person, that you aren't engaging with the situation on a moral level. When you are explicitly passing judgement on someone and calling them a bad person, you make yourself blind to how you are making decisions based on convenience and capacity. I've had this happen to me, and I've done this to other people. It takes work, sometimes consistent sustained effort, not to turn people into cartoons in your head. Although we know emotionally that bad people go in the forever box, we actually only put abstractions of people there.

Someone who you've abstracted in this way, of course, is just on the other side of an incongruity in social reality, a wall between them and you and whoever shares your perspective and abstracts them in the same way. The forever box isn't actually real unless enough people have been told that you did something bad, and put you in their own box in their heads, and then suddenly it is horribly real, and you are in it. In the forever box you are alone. Crushingly, grindingly, deafeningly alone. You are going to stay here and think about what you've done. This is how the reality of social ostracisation starts to materialise.

Nobody got together to agree on the rules, but the forever box has rules nonetheless:

If you do something bad you go in the forever box.

If you try to help someone get out of the forever box, you go in the forever box. Associating with someone may count as helping them get out.

If you try to get out of the forever box, either by pretending you didn't do anything wrong or defending yourself, you get longer in the box.

Because of rule 1, we always know that people in the forever box are bad people. This is reassuring, but it drives the need for rule 2. Rule 2 creates a social pressure that leads to rule 3.

Rule 3 exists because when you don't personally put someone in your forever box but you know that other people say they're a bad person, you know that standing near them may result in you getting disappeared as well, and so any time the person talks or acts in a way that might be seen as evading or refusing punishment, your fear of that increases and sometimes this will result in you vanishing this person from your own life.

Here I want to explain the idea of having a "sentence" in a space that I've said is forever. This is an effect of the scaling of people's personal boundaries into a social force. If you were entirely cut out by 5 people, but they were the only people you knew, the amount of time that you would spend completely alone is the time until you make new friends, which might not be that hard especially if the 5 people who stopped speaking to you were concentrated together, for example roommates in a flatshare. On the other hand, if 1000 people all swore you off as a bad person, for example an entire neighbourhood or a school, it would at first be very difficult to meet people who didn't share their perspective.

This is why social cliques, like in high school, that put pressure on all their participants to have the exact same view of someone are able to rapidly exclude and isolate someone for whom opinion shifts, but the obviousness of this is also what keeps everyone in the clique under control - that's the rules of the forever box working.

People who derive emotional security from the use of the forever box need the forever box to keep working, and in some cases need for it to never ever ever have been used incorrectly, unjustly, and this means that listening to anyone in the forever box, discussing the legitimacy of them being in there, or sometimes even acknowledging that the forever box exists is unacceptable.

For bigots, the desire to drive marginalized people out of public life is putting the entire group into a forever box. When I said at the start of this that the forever box isn't prison, that was a bit of a fib, because prison is very literally manifesting a physical reality of our shared imaginary bad person space, with sentences to serve painstakingly decided by a lengthy legal tradition and a whole set of professionals so that people can believe in some kind of justice being achieved by putting people there.

When people have been in prison, their access to employment, education, democracy, stable housing, food, healthcare, social rehabilitation are all permanently damaged unless there is incredibly intense work undertaken to fix them, and even then they're unlikely to ever be rich or famous or widely respected unless they were already those things before they went into prison. This is the forever box in everyone's heads working in tandem with the carceral system. There is a full spectrum of partly realised systems of punishment between the abstraction of the forever box in your head and the physical reality of a prison cell, and all of them serve to reinforce class divisions.

When marginalised people describe a sense that bigots want them all locked up, or deported or in camps or just plain gone, this is because they feel the direction of this social pressure, the pressure of disappearance, like a wind that blows softer or harder against them. It is so easy for people not in that marginalised group to dismiss this as exaggeration because they don't feel the wind blowing that way at any speed.

Social media (as in, the specific and intentional design of modern social media platforms) provides us with tools to caricature, abstract and alienate each other, and just like the punitive logic of prisons this functions as a way to use our energies on becoming more divided and so easier to control by the ruling class. At the same time as it makes us more reactive and ready to insult and misunderstand and then ultimate block each other, the people who find it easiest to group together and stick together are the people who feel thrown away and judged - this drives both the modern reactionary trend on social media and the famous "why I left the left" right-wing pivot of canceled celebrities.

What is the point in outlining all of this? Well firstly, to challenge how power currently exists in the world we have to understand how people turn to punitive methods for a sense of justice, because the power that a social system has is often granted to it by people's willingness to believe it can bring them justice. Secondly, once we understand the difference between setting your own personal boundaries and trying to make someone else suffer, we can talk about a better way to create something like justice in response to harm. Then, thirdly, if we can put that into practice in real terms and not turn to the impulse for punishment, we can create a society people actually want to live in rather than one people are scared of being excluded from.

[zablife]

Harry da Souza NSFW Alphabet

A/N: I've attempted to write these for gn!reader. If I've made a misstep, pls lmk! Ty to my beta reader @mrs-hardy-hunnam-butler-pascal for her amazing mind!

No Spoilers!!!

A = Aftercare (what they're like after sex)

Harry likes to hold you close, pulling your body into his to feel your body tremble with the little aftershocks of your orgasm. He'll quietly savor the moment as he listens to your breathing even out, trailing his fingertips over your skin and nuzzling his nose in your hair. He drinks you in, storing the sense memory for later to distract him from whatever unpleasant task he's summoned to clean up next.

And though he tries to stave it off, the guilt eventually creeps in, reminding him of one bitter fact. He never has enough time with you, phone calls from the Harrigans dragging him away in the middle of the night more often than not. He'll clutch you more tightly in those moments, desperately trying to convince himself his job isn't harming your relationship or putting you in any danger. With your head resting securely over his heart, he can almost believe it.

B = Body part (their favorite body part of theirs and also their partner's)

Harry has a difficult time appreciating his body the way you do. He's always seen it as a tool of his trade, no body part particularly worthy of note unless it's showing signs of age. Tho you've pointed out how distinguished he looks with a bit of silver peppering his beard, he only grumbles. This is the usual sort of grumpy response he gives if you try to compliment his looks. After twenty years on the job and an untold number of injuries, he can only see remnants of past mistakes--a blade he failed to find in someone's shoe or the punch he didn't see coming. He doesn't understand how you find any of his imperfections sexy, but you do. Every time you kiss his crooked nose or allow your fingertips to linger over the knotted pink scars that dot his abdomen, you're reminded of his resilience.

As for the nonsexual body part he loves most of yours, it's def your hands. It's the way you care for him in such an adoring way, cradling his face in your palms or massaging the aching muscles in his shoulders. He can literally feel your love passing thru your hands.

C = Cum (anything to do with cum, basically)

Always thinking of consequences, Harry refuses to cum inside you. Regardless of whether or not he could actually impregnate you, it's become habit to pull out the moment he feels his balls draw up. As an ass man, he particularly enjoys shooting ropes of hot cum over your backside and watching it drip down the crack of your ass.

D = Dirty secret (pretty self-explanatory, a dirty secret of theirs)

He'd hate for any of the Harrigans to know he enjoys submitting to you on occasion bc he's expected to be their ruthless enforcer. However, there are times when he needs to relinquish that control and have you dominate him. He loves the feeling of being immobilized by restraints, hooded eyes watching you have your way with him.

E = Experience (how experienced are they? do they know what they're doing?)

As in most situations, Harry is the more experienced party. He's seen it all and done it all! However, he never makes you feel foolish, taking time to talk you thru anything unfamiliar. He has the patience of a saint, wanting you to feel comfortable with anything you've never experienced. And he has no problem stopping if you suddenly realize you're out of your depth.

F = Favorite position (this goes without saying)

If you were to ask, he'd say doggy style bc he has an amazing view of your ass. However, the truth is he'd choose missionary or any variation where you're face to face bc he craves the contact. He delights in watching you fall to pieces beneath him, a surge of pride swelling in his chest that he's giving you such pleasure.

G = Goofy (are they more serious in the moment? are they humorous? etc.)

Surprisingly, yes! He'll good naturally laugh off awkward moments to put you at ease and if that doesn't work, he'll pull a face to see you smile. He doesn't take anything too seriously, wanting you both to have a good time.

H = Hair (how well-groomed are they? does the carpet match the drapes? etc.)

Harry hates to admit how self absorbed it must seem to always be perfectly groomed, but he does take the time to make himself presentable for you.

I = Intimacy (how are they during the moment? the romantic aspect)

Just like his goofy moments, Harry can also have tender moments when he wants to relish holding you close. He can be intensely romantic, esp when he has the time to set the scene properly. He's an expert at drawing a luxurious bath with salts and rose petals.

J = Jack off (masturbation head canon)

He doesn't have the time! He'd prefer to satisfy his urges with you anyway. On occasion he's agreed to stroke himself for you, but it's impossible to keep from kneeling before him and taking him in your mouth when he does. He's simply too irresistible.

K = Kink (one or more of their kinks)

Harry fantasizes about cockwarming bc it isn't something he generally has time for. It's a decadent request reserved for lazy days at home. The intimacy of it is a huge turn on for him as well as the idea that you'd take the time to do this for him.

L = Location (favorite places to do the do)

He isn’t the biggest risk taker and doesn’t much care for PDA so he’ll limit activity to the bedroom. However, I imagine he enjoyed using the Harrigans’ vehicles in his earlier, more reckless days. Sometimes you still revisit the scene of your old crimes for a quickie.

M = Motivation (what turns them on, gets them going)

Being alone with you for any amount of time does it for Harry! He knows he's a lucky man and savors any opportunity to ravage you.

N = No (something they wouldn't do, turn offs)

He won't indulge fantasies involving gun or knife play. Even tho he's adept at using all sorts of weapons and doubts he'd cause serious harm, he won't take the risk.

O = Oral (preference in giving or receiving, skill, etc.)

There's nothing that soothes him quite like the feel of your tongue swirling the head of his cock. It's the fastest way to shut off his overactive brain so you often suck him off in the shower after he's come home from a long day.

That isn't to say he won't enjoy returning the favor. If he's still feeling pent up, he'll press his large palms into your thighs roughly before devouring you with ravenous appetite. When he gets especially greedy for your moans and whimpers, he'll hold you down as you shake from the overstimulation of multiple orgasms, his face covered with evidence of his prowess. He only begins to slow down when you're limp with exhaustion, pushing himself up for a languid kiss to share the taste he couldn't get enough of.

P = Pace (are they fast and rough? slow and sensual? etc.) 

This is heavily dependent upon the situation. He’s certainly capable of slow, sensual lovemaking during a stolen afternoon from work or if you're on holiday. You both enjoy these moments of connection when you can lavish each other with attention. Harry most enjoys a sunny afternoon on the balcony with you perched in his lap cockwarming him.

The fast, rough fuck is reserved for days when he requires stress relief, usually a day spent with Eddie. Tho Harry is good at compartmentalizing thoughts of work, a bad day will inevitably bleed into your home life. If you hear his boots thudding down the hall, you know he's coming to bend you over the nearest surface. On these occasions he’s far more likely to leave love bites and bruises, unaware of his own strength. But he makes up for it afterward, slipping into a warm bath with you to talk about the things he had trouble expressing earlier.

Q = Quickie (their opinions on quickies, how often, etc.)

Harry's famous for this! He'll pop by for a quickie when he has an opening in his hectic schedule bc he wants you to know you're on his mind. You worry these brief encounters won't always be satisfying, but Harry is quite efficient. He can turn your legs to jelly within minutes of pushing you against the nearest wall!

R = Risk (are they game to experiment? do they take risks? etc.)

Harry is prob more vanilla than you'd think in his personal life considering the risks he must take for Conrad. He's def not a prude tho, having tried most things in his youth. I doubt he'd turn down his partner's request to try something as he aims to please you in any way he can.

S = Stamina (how many rounds can they go for? how long do they last?)

Even tho he eats well and gets regular exercise, Harry is still a middle aged man who requires a longer refractory period. He can usually only go one round, but he will be sure to satisfy his partner. And, boy, are you satisfied!

T = Toys (do they own toys? do they use them? on a partner or themselves?)

See dirty secret for this one, but he def owns hand cuffs and strong rope for the nights when he needs to decompress.

U = Unfair (how much they like to tease)

Harry isn't a tease and he doesn't appreciate teasing. Catch him in the wrong mood and your playfulness will only invite frustration as he’s accustomed to obedience when he speaks. Patience worn thin, he'll pin you in a mating press and selfishly take what's been withheld from him.

V = Volume (how loud they are, what sounds they make, etc.)

Harry rarely raises his voice, preferring quiet dominance in any room he enters, including the bedroom. He'd rather listen to the symphony of sounds he’s coaxing from you and keeps his own vocalizations to deep grunts of satisfaction.

W = Wild card (a random head canon for the character)

He's surprisingly sentimental, carrying a polaroid of you in his wallet despite the risk of someone using it against him. However, Harry reasons he's the only one who could identify your naked torso painted with his cum.

X = X-ray (let's see what's going on under those clothes)

Average length, but above average girth. Watching him get hard might be the most tantalizing thing on earth, especially seeing the tip flush to match his kiss swollen lips.

Y = Yearning (how high is their sex drive?)

Ideally he’d have you every day, but that doesn’t usually happen due to the nature of his work. He might leave unexpectedly one night and sever contact for days at a time as he fixes the Harrigan’s latest problem. Tho he’s proud of the lifestyle he’s able to provide, he deeply regrets missing that time at home with you. He’s always thinking of you, eagerly awaiting every homecoming and the lingerie you've bought to celebrate.

Z = Zzz

Out of habit, Harry remains awake and alert long after you’ve dozed off in his arms. He doesn’t mind a sleepless night as long as you’re resting peacefully by his side. As you begin to snore softly against his chest, he’ll look down at you with a goofy grin on his face, overwhelmed with gratitude that he's the one keeping you safe and warm.