#gsrm

[cerulity]

People often complain about "how many genders there are". When you go through school, you learn that there are three states of matter. You also learn that there are two genders. Of course, this is not the reality. You may learn that plasma is a fourth state of matter, and that there are transgender or nonbinary people.

Let's take a look at the true number of states of matter...

I feel that if Bose-Einstein condensate is a valid state of matter, then girlflux is a valid label.

The real world is FAR from simple. Not even matter is binary (or quaternary).

[menacewithawolfcut]

if this post reaches 500 notes, i will start a podcast where i will talk about my fictional crushes in a totally unhinged manner, like britanny broski talks about masked men, traumadump without anyone asking for it, and about various topics that make my serotonin levels go brrr (mostly about art, history/culture and queer stuff), video essay-ish-style, but executed in a worst way possible

[lattedecoffee]

Once when I was in 10th grade physics, I was showing off my new file folder to my friends before class. The folder was rainbow, with each tab being a different color, so of course I happily declared that it was gay.

“Don’t say that. It’s rude.”

I looked at my physics teacher, confused, until I remembered that “gay” used to be used as an insult.

I couldn’t help but laugh a little which she didn’t take well until I clarified: “I’m literally gay though. The folder being gay is a good thing.”

She didn’t really know how to react and just kinda walked away while my friends and I laughed quietly to ourselves.

Remembering this story makes me appreciate the progress we’ve made, even just within my own lifetime. I’ve been openly gay to everyone in my life except for one set of grandparents, and have faced little to no negative consequences for this. My friends and family have supported me, anyone who didn’t kept it to themself.

I know this isn’t true everywhere, and I am incredibly lucky to live in a supportive environment, but it makes me so happy to think that “gay” went from being a go-to insult for teens and tweens to being an identity some can wear proudly.

[seeyatellite]

[forgottenthreads]

As an Ace/Aro person who likes music I have a solution to some of those love songs:

I believe in a thing called Lunch, just listen to the grumble of my tum

I would eat anything for Lunch but I won't eat tha...ah...ah...at

The Lunch shack is a little old place where we can eat together

You.... Your Lunch is on Fire

Well, I wanna eat with you on a mountain

I wanna dine with you by the sea

I wanna lunch like this forever

Until the sky falls down on me

I Lunch myself, I want you to Lunch me

When I'm feeling down I want Lunch before me

Shit through the cloth and you're to blame

You give lunch a bad name

Indigestion starts when I ate your game

You give lunch a bad name

Yeah you give lunch a bad name

Don't need money, won't take fame

don't need no credit card to ride this train

it's strong and it's sudden and it's cruel sometimes

but it might just save your life.

That's the power of Lunch

Unfortunately you can't do it for all songs but the few it works on are amazing.

[themaveriqueagenda]

what's this blog about?

this blog is about maverique visibility, pride & celebration and anything else related to the maverique identity. vesper's (the person who coined the term) maverique blog has been inactive for a few years, so i decided to make one to give some visibility to something that a lot of people only treat as a hypothetical.

on this blog, you're welcome to ask questions, be proud, be visible, be you.

who runs this blog?

i'm Delta and my pronouns are they/them. i'm bi, asexual, demiromantic, fat, disabled, white and of course maverique. i've been out as maverique since 2018.

what is maverique?

in short, maverique is a gender that is disconnected from manhood, womanhood, neutrality and anything derived from them, without being genderless. for further reading, i recommend the coining post.

[nothingelsetodobutfight]

Project 2025

There is a comic version made to distill the issues

This is made by a collab of artists, but the link will tell you more. Boost to share this knowledge/access!

We want to educate people about what is changing, even if we can't stop it.

[celebduwen]

Friendly reminder that, even though you use one pronoun in one language you don’t have to use the same one in another.

Using they/them in English,

The equivalent of it/it in Norwegian

And a neopronoun in German

Is completely fine and dandy

✨Pronouns✨ have different associations and mouthfeels in different languages and you shouldn’t feel restricted to a singular pronoun in any language.

[maxarat]

I want to start a new tag game, assign neos to the person you reblog from

[imoga-pride]

Do you make flags? I kind of want a xenomav flag, but I don't like the one I've found (it only uses red/pink to represent xenogender which makes it seem like fem mav to me, I want a xenine one)

xenogender+ maverique flag

What about these? In the last one I replaced the pastel orange and yellow with the maverique's orange and yellow colors. The first one is just the xenogender flag with a white stripes between pastel orange and pastel yellow stripes. I also tried with ten stripes, below:

[menacewithawolfcut]

[jackiesaysfumble]

Confession: I want to axe the 2SLGBTQIA+ acronym completely. It nobly tries to include everyone, but has become entirely unwieldy. It's awkward in conversation, invites judgement when you leave parts of it out, is difficult for those outside the community to understand/remember, and takes forever to say.

I am comfortable using the term queer, but not everyone is.

✨GSRM✨

GENDER, SEXUAL, AND ROMANTIC MINORITIES

I heard this acronym a few years ago and I desperately want to adopt it. It's short, it's succinct, it covers everyone. SGM (sexual and gender minorities) is already used in some medical fields.

You could even go RGSM for the orgasm jokes! Pronounce it 'ar-gazim'!

[architect-mouse-studios]

Pride Flowers

Modeled, printed, and painted by me. Available for purchase here.

I had the bright idea of doing a charity drive type thing during pride month; most of the proceeds would go to The Trevor Project. Sadly, no one bought any. I thought these were pretty cool looking, but oh well.

[seeyatellite]

[forgottenthreads]

So this cropped up as a comment I got elsewhere and it felt like it needed its own discussion.

Straight people don't suffer from discrimination for being straight. Hope that helps

{deliberately not giving a username cause I don't want to start beef xD}

I don't know if that's true.

I have no life experience there... But I'd assume this is never true of any group, just because one group are in a majority or several groups have a plurality doesn't mean they don't face any sort of prejudice or impacts based on having any identity. There are reasons why for example being married and having children are protected characteristics a person might have.

It doesn't invalidate your own experiences to acknowledge that someone else might have their own and that those experiences might not be positive in all cases.

The above reply @ me came up in a discussion about Ace erasure within fandoms and I commented that fandoms do straight erasure too. I had limited space so nuance was neither possible in my post nor their reply.

Fandoms queerify straights too. Iirc slashfic is it's own whole genre of coupling against authorial intent.

I was trying to express that the problem is bigger than just Ace people, there's a bigger fundamental issue with people writing coupling that is against canon depiction and how the practice is far wider than just the impacts on acespec people.

I wanted to include more about how just because someone is "straight" or anything else doesn't mean that they're attracted to all the variations of humans that the term implies. A character might be straight but they can still have a type, they might be straight but might only love one or two romantic partners their entire life. They might be straight and Arospec because they can only ever love their one person. By coupling any character with someone outside of the cannon depictions it could be an act of ace erasure.

I err on Ace/Aro in all cases, unless a character says they're *identity* then they might only be attracted to the few people they fall for in the medium. They aren't necessary attracted to all xyz people either, it might only be that one specific person or a handful of people.

Just because a character is straight doesn't mean they would hook up with every person of the opposite gender if they could. There are as many varieties of straight attraction as there are queer identities.

Yet it's a huge unwritten assumption that if you're writing fanfic then shipping anyone with anyone is generally okay regardless of the cannon of the source media, the characters may be enemies or might never meet or even come from completely different franchises and it's still okay to make those ships in many cases without issue.

It's perfectly acceptable to inject any queer relationship upon any character that has expressed no identity or has only expressed attraction in a limited capacity. A character with hetnormative attraction never said they had no queer identities, and one person might make inferences others might not see so to them it's "okay" to ship even in queer directions.

There's a convention that if a character is already queer to not take that identity from them entirely. Making gay or saphic characters bi or pan isn't unheard of so long as they express that in ways that are predominantly gay or saphic. But there's often context and execution to consider for if this is deemed okay by anyone other than the fic's author.

But the pattern is at its core the same. We're all fighting the same fight to have our identity respected. And the pattern is that it's generally okay to add relationships to characters regardless of original cannon.

So now you have context back to my response to the quote that spawned this essay

I find it's often easier to get people on your side by building bridges and offering points of reference with which they share. By showing they have the same problems they might help you fight your corner, at least that's been my experience.

So the reply set off all my "making enemies for no good reason" alarms, it disregards the feelings of an entire group and treats them as a monolith of people who are neither deserving of respect nor consideration in the discussion. Completely disregarding intersectionality etc... putting them on defensive mode rather than keeping them agreeable. And I'm inclined to believe this happened due to space constraints rather than genuine malice but it did spark an essay so it clearly upset me anyways.

So now we come to the point of disclosure because I felt somewhat as though the comment was erasing my identity and assuming I was straight and so not worth listening to on this issue.

I'm Agen/Aro/Ace I want to not have my identity ignored either and I want to get people on side with the discourse. Having more people stand up and say "non canonical coupling hurts people" as a blanket statement is a good thing.

Having more people acknowledge the harms is at least a starting point.

I don't like the attitude saying "it's okay if they're straight, arospec, or if you're really clever with it." Because it erases people, but just cause I don't like the attitude doesn't mean people should stop expressing themselves so long as they're self aware about what they're doing.

And acknowledging that it hurts people doesn't negate that sometimes that hurt is resonable, having more rep for minorities is a generally good thing, most people doing the shipping can make people feel seen and happy.

On an individual level almost every act is one that has a net positive effect and is done out of love. Love for a character or a story or anything else. A fan fic here, a ship there, it all makes the people doing it happy and builds communities.

Even if it hurts to see it happen to your favourite characters no one is actually coming after you personally or your identity by wrapping a character you identify with in a cloke of their own because they identify with them too.

At the same time it's worth acknowledging the cumulative effect can be an overall negative on a group as people see the characters they frequently identify with as being stripped of their core aspects and the result is that many people feel aggressively dismissed and invalidated as though their identity would receive same treatment from the same people.

I'm also Auti/ADHD I see patterns, this is a pattern I've seen and acknowledged and it doesn't stop at fictional characters it applies to real people too, celebrities and the people you walk past on the street.

I have noticed when anyone has their identity usurped by another the people with the original identity in meatspace get defensive and hostile to the people erasing them.

Every act of unrequited love, where someone puts an attraction or implies a non existent desire to be with anyone on someone else it makes those in receipt of the treatment defensive and off put.

Repeated actions like this by a group or an individual can build resentment. If you have no respect for their identity they then become openly hostile to you as an individual and perhaps people who share your identity if the pattern repeats. Resentment builds initially about one individual but eventually to a whole community who share an identity. This doesn't just apply to us Queers defending GSRM identities.

I think some of the growing animosity and phobias that come out of those screaming about woke culture come from seeing people shout and scream that all identities are valid and beautiful while at the same time 'allowing' other people from our same group to abuse them and theirs or just ignoring when it happens because "straight people cannot be the victims of discrimination based on sexual or romantic orientation".

"they want to turn us all gay" might stem from the fact our communities don't respect the het identities of various characters. We do it to fictional characters why wouldn't we do it to real people? (Not that this explanation excuses their behaviour few treat fictional characters the same way they'd treat real people)

Human beings are at their cores pattern recognition and remix engines. We see patterns and in order to simplify our cognitive processes we put things into boxes in our own heads.

Everyone loves pizza, if I'm throwing a party that's a safe bet for a food that won't offend.

An assumption and a stereotype that's relatively harmless, and yet I and you know that people exist with Lactose or Gluten intolerance, people can be allergic to tomatoes or onions or garlic, that vegetarian and vegan people exist in the world. By simplifying the world to that stereotype it makes life easier and we aren't doing it to harm anyone intentionally. Making the conscious effort to overcome the initial stereotyping is in my opinion what separates true bigotry from a bad mistake or a poor decision.

We all recognise patterns and try to simplify our messy existances to avoid existential dread.

While remixing is the idea that most of us will never have a unique idea in our lives. We might combine things that exist in novel ways but every idea we have is built on the experiences we go through and the things we learn, read, see or hear. Remixing is how humanity progresses, how science is done, how great works of literature are produced how we practice our crafts and how we become better individuals as well as a better society on the whole.

Fandoms and the erasure of identities has costs, but it's an example of remixing and an aspect of humanity that is good to nurture even while we acknowledge the short comings within.

Acknowledging the flaws in a thing doesn't stop it from being beautiful. Acknowledging the shortcomings of an experience or an action doesn't make it invalid or of zero worth. And acknowledging that a thing someone else loves has flaws is not a personal attack on that person.

I like your story

Thanks it has pockets

Very few things in this world are entirely without impact or flaws.

Just because there are flaws doesn't imply a moral judgement.

Just because there is an impact doesn't mean that the morality is simple.

Humanity is messy, existance is messy. I wish there was a good simple solution to every problem but unfortunately that's the exception not the rule.