#gnc femme

[chapst1ckmcdyke]

So ive had this saved in my drafts for a while now- but theres a point id like to make about butch/femme identity and expression and think this is ready despite the crap i might catch for it

On my days off and when i go out for fun, lots of times i look like this vvv

And other times, especially because im a blue collar dyke, i look like this vvv

The thing that both these photos have in common is that, regardless of how i may appear, i am a femme lesbian. I am not magically butch at work just because i have to wear jeans and work boots for safety. On the clock I am often mistaken for a man and harassed for using the women’s bathroom, people call me sir and damn near keel over trying to correct themselves. I understand that people will look at me as masculine because im in a mans trade.

And yet im still a femme!

You know why? Because being femme is not about how i dress or how long my hair is or the job i work or the body im in, but who i am, how i love, and how i want to be loved back. Its my reclamation of my gender and sexuality and romantic life.

Theres this idea that femme lesbians are “the girl” lesbians and butches are “the boy” lesbians. Femmes are stereotyped as straight passing hyper feminine (and often times cis) girls. But if youve ever met a femme thats not always (in my experience- USUALLY) the case. We often are nonbinary (hi! Also me!) and/or gender nonconforming even in our femininity- taking the things that cishet society hates the most in women (ie body hair/body fat/masculine jobs/deep booming voices- etc) and owning those characteristics in ways that make us feel free and most like femmes 💕

I personally feel most comfortable being feminine off the clock and covering myself in glitter and being a tacky fat furry muppet because its how i feel best recognized by the butches i adore so much! But i get to reclaim womanhood or whatever adjacent, gender-fucked, lesbiany, thing ive got going on, and that doesn’t change when i wear jeans and work boots.

Femmes get to be whatever the hell we want- being broad shouldered and deep voiced and fat and furry and in a trade are not traits that magically make me incapable of being femme- and im over this whole ordeal where y’all assign butches and femmes as either “the boy” or “the girl” of the relationship and expect us to be exclusively feminine or masculine and never cross or mix- just recreating useless gender roles that we have zero reason to uphold.

(And this goes the absolute same for butches/studs who express feminine traits and DOUBLE for trans butches/studs/femmes)

[bisexualgenderfemme]

femmes who don't use she/her pronouns 🥰

femmes who are on testosterone 🥰

femmes with short hair 🥰

femmes with messy nails 🥰

femmes who never wear dresses 🥰

femmes reclaiming 'traditionally masculine' things to emphasize their femininity or otherwise affirm their gender 🥰✨🩷🥰🩷✨🥰

[bloatedhead]

˖ ࣪⊹ the venus femme 🐚🪷🦪 ⸰ 𖥔 ͙ࣳ

non binary, bi femme ✨ any pronouns, T4T

18+ only, dni cishets & terfs

[aardvaark]

uhhh lesbian as a gender and lesbianism and gender being inextricably intertwined compilation

comics: all from alison bechdel

book page about butch identity: from Butch Is A Noun by S. Bear Bergman

image IDs in alt text (you have no idea how long that took lol).

[arsenenicholas]

https://goodlawproject.org/crowdfunder/nhs-cyp-guidance/?fbclid=PAZXh0bgNhZW0CMTEAAaadkVMoRUHpcFptnjlifnc1xJ0i7YGVi78tfv2vEXVaVIQDPTEp1-ozNcY_aem_AfqNP9xEERFn6GRCZCIP7B2RriLi8ZN7pVAFzmNwdvqIXW0nmc1mTe5Hq0UV3xC6VPWdYe1x64wHk7O6-HPOhIdf

Please share, tag someone who could bring this to a lot of people, and post to other platforms. Not originally mine, idk who is the source of the screenshots.

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In thick white text on black background-> NHS ENGLAND ARE PLANNING A HONEYPOT WHERE THEY SEND ALL KIDS ON GIDS WAITLIST TO CAHMS TO HAVE THEM BE ASKED IF THEY ARE TAKING BLOCKERS/HRT VIA PRIVATE OR DIY ROUTES

Text is broken and in the middle is an excerpt from a leaked nhs document-> a) For medication sourced directly (e.g via the internet), explain the increased risks of harm due to the unregulated nature of these medicines/products. These may include the use of counterfeit chemicals, unsafe/unknown ancilliary ingredients or variability of potency etc. More information can be found here (link to nhs website). // b) Do not initiate or continue prescribing puberty surpressing hormones or gender affirming hormones. The General Medical Council's guidance to medical professionals on 'bridging prescriptions (a course of endocrine intervention managed by a healthcare professional outside of the specialised gender service while an individual is waiting to be seen) does not apply to care offered to young people under 18 years of age. // c) If the child/young person or their carer disregards your advice and you consider that this puts the child/young person at increased risk, then a safeguarding referral might also be appropriate in line with standard safeguarding approaches. Discuss with your line manager and your organization's safeguarding team.

Thick white text on black background continues-> ANY WHO SAYS YES AND DO NOT DESIST FROM DOING SO WILL BE THREATENED WITH SAFEGUARDING REFERRAL (TAKEN INTO STATE CARE)

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In black text on white background, from the news article linked above-> It seems to us - and to those inside the NHS who have leaked the document to us - that what purports to be an "assessment" in fact an exercise in bringing very significant pressure to bear on trans youth and their families to cease private treatment, backed up with a threat of a safeguarding referral to social services if they do not. // We are concerned about what appears to be a misleading exercise in gathering data on which trans youth are obtaining private treatment from abroad, for the purposes of seeking to cause or compel them to stop treatment.

In the same thick white text on black background as previous image-> So an internal NHS document has been leaked basically asking trans kids on excruciatingly ling waiting lists to come to a 'mental health assessment' where the NHS will harvest their personal information & threaten their families with a social services referral if they're found to be on private blockers/hormones & refuse to come off them. // This country is for dogs i swear.

[genderqueerdykes]

people refusing to accept pre or never transition, "loud", dominant, assertive, gender non conforming, and even masculine trans women because they're a "threat" to you... i see you, only wanting to accept trans women if we take up as little space as possible. we can see right through you

[chapst1ckmcdyke]

Pardon my dirty ass bathroom/mirror i just looked like a hot dyke this morning

(They/them) no men im a dyke

[subbydream]

Reminder to everyone that Non-binary lesbians exist and that they are just as valid in their lesbian identity as people that identify as women.

If you believe that the inclusion of Non-binary lesbians is misogynistic and/or invalidating to women you can go argue with the wall.

Gender non conformity has always and will always be part of the lesbian (and queer) experience. If you feel like women are being devalued by the inclusion of GNC and NB people under the lesbian identity you need to do some serious introspection.

Non-binary lesbians are lesbians, transmasc (as in person that wants to align more with masculinity) lesbians are lesbians, GNC lesbians are lesbians.

And I'm talking about ALL non-binary people. Recently I had someone say that only female aligned non-binary people are allowed to call themselves lesbians and that's just fucked.

Gender is a social cunstruct. Lesbians are lesbians. Please keep your bigoted beliefs out of my Lesbianism, thanks.

[intersexfairy]

you can be masculine and feminine at the same time. being masculine doesn't make you any less feminine. being feminine doesn't make you any less masculine. there is no inherent morality to any masculinity or femininity you express. you create the meaning behind it by expressing yourself - your joy, your queerness, your health. you are not a reflection of other people's harmful ideas about gender. that's their burden to carry, not yours.

[yurtgirlsophie0]

Out of 10 what would you rate my girldick?

[bunnyboy-juice]

NO MORE ASSOCIATING THINGS WITH FEMMES ONLY BECAUSE THEY ARE PINK!HYPERFEM FEMMES ARE GREAT AND I LOVE YOU CAMPY FEMMES WHO EMBODY PINK BUT ALSO JESUS CHRIST CAN YOU GUYS NOT GO MORE THAN ONE DAY W/O TRYING TO SHOEHORN FEMMES INTO BEING ONLY PINK UWU BABIES. I AM FEMME AS IN GRASS AS IN DIRT AS IN TREE BARK AS IN WEEDS SPROUTING THROUGH THE SIDEWALK CEMENT. FEMME AS IN GENDER NONCONFORMITY AS IN FUCK YOU MY FEMININITY IS WHAT *I* SAY IT IS. FEMME AS IN DEPTH AND DARKNESS AND WARMTH AND TERROR. FEMME AS IN CAVES. FEMME AS IN LIGHTNING. FEMME AS IN AN AMALGAMATION OF TRAITS THAT I HAVE DECIDED ARE FEMININE REGARDLESS OF WHAT SOCIETY SAYS. FUCK IS IT THAT HARD TO UNDERSTAND?!???

[genderqueerdykes]

"im a lesbian because i hate men/want to never be around men ever again" is shit logic because:

genderfluid lesbians exist

bigender lesbians exist

non binary lesbians exist

bi/pan/poly/omnisexual lesbians & their partners exist

multigender/polygender lesbians exist

genderqueer lesbians exist

two-spirit lesbians

demiboy & demigender lesbians exist

lesboys exist

guydykes exist

butches & studs who are/are partially men exist

ftm, transmasc & trans man lesbians exist

a lot of masc, male and man identifying lesbians exist.

men are not inherently evil or dangerous.

lesbians who are men exist. you are alienating other lesbians when you say things like this. you are enabling people in chasing out partially or wholly male identifying people who rightfully belong there from lesbian spaces. destroy this logic once and for all, it's violent, hateful, and dangerous.

[bratprincedyke]

Outfit for butch bar ⚔️

My new tshirt is available here!

[pricklypear1997]

And just cuz she’s a tomboy, doesn’t mean she doesn’t want to look pretty. It actually really bothers me when people think she’d dress only like a man… she isn’t butch or the straight equivalent of it lmao. Nowhere in the books does it even specify that she likes boy clothes over girl clothes roflmao. The problem is her insecurities. I was the same way to at that age… she does think dresses are pretty, but due to her insecurities, she doesn’t make any effort to dress or look nice, also she’s depressed. Ffs not all tomboys have to have the ugly baggy boyish clothes or whatever to be tomboys. It’s just one of many things that bothers me about how people miss Arya’s characterization, so I felt the need to mention it. Only show Arya refuses to wear dresses and has a disdain for anything remotely feminine while also being blatantly sexist, which is what it is at the end of the day. Tomboys are so much more than some crossdressing fad and hating on all things feminine. Ugh. Another tidbit; Arya prefers her hair long over short. Arya is so much more than a sexist one dimensional woman hating pick me stereotype that the show made her out to be, and tomboys are so much more than some crossdressing fad or hating girly things just because.

A challenge.

Find me some passages of Arya ever exhibiting NLOG behaviour.

[thesunflowerdyke]

I know that the majority of the posts on this blog have a sexual connotation to them, but ultimately the thing I’m yearning for most is connection.

Of course I’d love to find somebody who’s into all the same fun kinky stuff as I am! But what I truly want more than anything is somebody who understands me. Somebody who wants to learn me. Physically, sure, but also emotionally, mentally, and spiritually.

I want somebody who won’t just be a lover, but also a friend, a confidant, and a partner.

[dkettchen]

I do enjoy dressing her entirely in canon outfits/cuts and the occasional top she's borrowed from nami and being like ye canon!sanji sure does own a pair of 3/4 pants with ballerina loafers he sure did wear that before with his whole cishet man ass and we didn't bat a single eye at it