#genuine discoursers dni

[cervinae-canine]

if you unironically think "proshippers made the selfship community", I will banish you to the dumbass dimension for all eternity.

[purpurship]

An anti blocked me for disagreeing with them in the comments of their post while I was in the middle of saying something else, to this comment:

And now imma paste what I had been trying to say:

"Sex and romance ruin nothing, that's the purity culture talking. I've seen wayyyy more meaningful darkships than I've seen meaningful lightships (I can count those on one hand tbh). What ruins media is censorship and virtue signalling. But purity culture doesn't want you to know that"

[spiderworries]

so much tumblr discourse boils down to “everyone ever has to experience and see the world in the exact same way as me or they’re evil”

[serene-cinders]

Guy at school the other day looked me in the eye and said Eren should have won. It awakened something primal in me. Something truly evil. My inner keyboard warrior came out after all these years… my inner Reddit using basement dweller…

[gothic-ouji]

Hi could I ask what being RQ personally means to you? I have no bad intentions in asking to clarify sorry if it comes off that way I'm bad with tone, I'm normally very anti-RQ but I want to hear people's experiences before anything and possibly learn something.

Ty in advance!!

Hi hi hi!! firstly nice to make your acquaintance, hope you have a nice time 🤍 you're going to get a lot of varying answers in your research and even within this post, i contain multitudes (literally) and so does the Rqc.

to me, radqueer is about freedom. it's a freedom of expression and to be whoever i want to be even if that person is not the best version of myself i could be, if i know it to be my happiest. i have always believed in being my authentic self no matter how many people think i'm simply playing pretend or refusing to face reality.

i struggle a lot with atypical dysphoria (a type of dysphoria similar to what pwBIID experience) and every other community has made me feel like shit and less-than for not having bad enough symptoms. maybe it wasn't even intentional but that's typically how i felt, and it grew into a sort of resentment and self-hatred because i was never bad enough, my pain wasn't justified or able to be proved, i didn't need the help.

i have always always wanted to be worse, even before i understood what that meant or what pain really felt like. i was one of those kids who would fantasise about being severely ill and being taken care of, ending up in the hospital, having an eventful and trauma-filled childhood.

but i'm also a paraphile and have been since before i knew what that was, and i know it wasn't caused by trauma. there aren't a lot of places online that are accepting of paras, even with my rather non-existent desire to be in contact with the subject of my para (yes, im keeping it vague intentionally).

in short, the RQ is welcoming and i am at home here. i am who i am, not an small fraction of myself or a filtered, overpurified simplification of my identity. and i wish this life for everyone, to be happy without the fear of being mocked or ridiculed.

[weirdnerdygoat]

i grew too pissed at all the anti-MAP posts

so reminder that this blog supports MAPs (minor attracted people) !!!

Being minor-attracted does NOT mean that someone wants to sexually abuse children. Most MAPs wouldn't ever want to actually have romantic/sexual contact with a child, and they're allowed to not live in fucking shame for their THOUGHTS and FEELINGS.

attraction =/= abuse

If you're anti-MAP, please rethink your stance and consider what MAPs actually are

and if any MAPs see this, I'm wishing you a very lovely day :3

[brbuttons]

This is probably going to lose us followers, but being a DID System and seeing self-ship hate-and I edited this to change the name because it's awful- always puts us in such a strange position, because it's such a common part of the DID experience...

[Putting this under the cut because it's a small essay]

Because as a DID system- aka alters that may identify differently but are still different parts of the same overall person- with multiple alters in relationships metaphysically, aware that alters in relationships is a common and healing situation, I often wonder whether people would look at us like we're a problem.

I understand the actual situation of why physical procreation with a clone would be Very Bad Actually. Obviously. But if you take out the idea of having kids, it's all just... A romantic (edit: i've had to add romanctic because I think some people were misconstruing this?) form of self-love, in a way that you can love yourself without loving your own self, and often leads to learning how to love your own self via that.

The Kensingtons in our system, for instance, are (Bioshock infinite spoilers) Lutece-esque in the way that they are just two facets of the same person, visually and mentally (albeit mental opposites to balance eachother out). I, Atticus, am in a relationship with our introject of Joy. And it's wonderful and loving and has been incredible for my concept of self-worth. Hell- the Sinclairs are happily married inner world, and they are incredible for eachother. They're a force to be reckoned with and we admire that.

It definitely... makes us feel more distanced from people in fandoms where that discourse is higher. Because it feels like we could get 'cancelled' at any moment for talking about something that is so normal and non-problematic to the DID experience, and for seeing the worth in ships that are very relatable to that experience.

It's hard to expect singlets to relate to system experiences, but the fact I'm expecting to get anon hate from even posting our personal life experiences regarding the situation says a lot.

[boyhowdy5]

Reading up on the current Dream drama like a suburban mother listening to her kids explain the lore of the game they've been playing in the woods for a month

[ace-robot-things]

Dni lists for fandoms make no sense to me. You’re telling me that you actively have so much hate for some random media that you couldn’t stand to be in the same room (social media space) as someone who enjoys it? You’re telling me that you couldn’t get over someone liking something you don’t like? You’re telling me that if you met a fan of something you hate, you couldn’t accept each others differences and just find something you collectively like? Or is the Hazbin Hotel fan so tainted by their obsession that they aren’t worth even speaking to. Maybe I’m missing something but I find it very immature and completely unnecessary. Just block the tags lmao.

[ceresthestimfairy]

*find a cool gifset*

*scroll down*

*dni banner bigger than the gifset*

[rexterjettster]

lowkey kind of wished ppl realized that not all ppl that write or make rpf works want to harass the ppl in it or force it down their throats. im literally on a strict dni with any of the celebrities i ship (i dont comment on their posts, if i make an art account on a platform that their on, i make sure they can't access or see the things i post because i do NOT want them to have see that stuff).

Not all of us want to be in the public eye (henceforth WHY we stay on tumblr, ao3, or even smaller sites) BECAUSE we dont want celebrities and their kids to be forced into seeing that shit. i condemn the fuck out of my fellow rpf shippers that force that shit down peoples throats. i also condemn people who ship minors together (REAL OR FAKE) and minors and adults together.

tl;dr: not all people that do rps shove it down the celebrities throat.

[deltoradecay]

Been seeing a lot of "endos DNI, also mixed origin systems and endo supporters included in the DNI too" lately, much more than usual. Which is absolutely ridiculous coming from the people claiming to protect "real DID/OSDD" systems, considering as long as you support endogenics you're added into the DNIs and grouped in as a "fake". Looks like they have their priorities straight! Definitely looks like it's about protecting disordered systems and not about simple exclusionism to me!

SO. On that sarcastic note.

Mixed origin systems, you deserve supportive spaces. You should be able to access both traumagenic and endogenic spaces if both apply to you. You don't deserve to be cast aside like that. If you have traumagenic aspects to your system, you belong in traumagenic spaces. If you have endogenic aspects to your system, you belong in endogenic spaces. The two aren't mutually exclusive.

Disordered endogenic systems, you should have access to spaces for people with your disorder and I hope you're able to find the support you need. I hope you're able to avoid the discourse and find a community you can feel safe in. You're not less disordered because you're endogenic.

Systems of any origin with CDDs such as DID or OSDD who support endogenics, you shouldn't be barred from your own spaces because you support other groups. You deserve kindness, support, and community, just as anyone else does. Your support of endogenics does not and will never mean you should be removed from CDD spaces and it certainly doesn't mean you're unsafe for those with CDDs to be around.

Endogenic supporters of any kind, your support is immensely appreciated. You also don't deserve to be picked apart and cast out simply based on your support of a group of people. Genuinely thank you for supporting endogenics regardless.

[cervinae-canine]

Lacey has a new Twitter account https://x.com/princesssyurio?t=BNy8F0ylnNWsRy4dNx2MMw&s=09

i checked to see if it's actually new and it is. If you have twitter, block her.

[nyannyannyanx3]

genuinely saw somebody who created slipknot dubcon fics say "DNI if proship" in their tumblr intro

edit: just before it happens, pls do not begin or engage in RPF discourse on this post. I don't care if you like or hate it, don't start fights in reblogs. this is NOT directed /srs /nm

[irrealisms]

saw a relevant citation today. but im being so brave about it. mostly bc i need to go the fuck to sleep. but also it's easier to convince the part of my brain that reaaaally wants to do silm discourse with "i haven't read all of NoME + don't actually know enough about post-NoME silm fandom and how NoME integrated into and changed fandom consensus and the discourse environment" so that's also part of why i'm being so brave about it

someone please tell me "it's been 6 years and you don't remember most of the citations you'd want to pull up, scroll past the silm discourse without having thoughts on it"

[renthony]

I have once again seen an aggressive do-not-interact banner with a long list of super-niche terms (some of which I genuinely have never seen before--I don't know what all your damn discourse acronyms mean, tumblr), followed by "and other basic DNI criteria."

"Basic DNI criteria" is a meaningless statement. What is "basic DNI" criteria to one subgroup on tumblr is complete nonsense to others. Define what the hell you actually mean by it or don't bother with a DNI at all. Be specific and precise in your language instead of relying on vague euphemism.

"Basic DNI criteria" is just about the emptiest form of virtue signalling you could engage in, because it doesn't mean anything. It stands for nothing. It's the equivalent of a sign that says, "Warning: Do Not." It's completely hollow.

If you put "basic DNI" in your posts/bio, I'm pretty much guaranteed to block you on sight, lest I get accused of violating a boundary that was never clearly expressed in the first place.

I find the efficacy and utility of DNIs to be nebulous at best, but if you are going to use them, at least make them actually communicate something. "Basic DNI" will literally never, ever mean the same thing to any two people, no matter how obvious you think it should be.