#genderflux enby

[rottingwithers]

I wish boobs were detachable. Because sometimes I want to look like a genderless being, other times the outfit needs boobs.

[genderqueerdykes]

to every trans guy: when you tell other people you're trans you don' thave you say you're "unfortunately" a trans guy, or that you have bad news, or something else to that effect. you don't have to say that. you can be proud of being a trans man. you can even be neutral about it. you don't have to hate yourself for it. people want you to, but it doesn't help anyone. its not unfortunate, it's a blessing.

[actualalivecreature]

not femininity or masculinity but a secret third thing (faggotry)

[incognitopolls]

This isn't to "prove" anything– just a census.

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We ask your questions so you don’t have to! Submit your questions to have them posted anonymously as polls.

[another-bsod-fan]

yknow what. fuck it. shoutout to nonbinary trans people and gnc trans people and intersex trans people and people who identify with xenogenders. shoutout to people who fuck around with gender and people who dont use labels to describe their gender and people who are pronoun non conforming. yall are amazing and im tired of people saying otherwise because you dont fit peoples expectation of what they think gender is

[jiabeewrites]

HAPPY PRIDE MONTH!!!

pride polls: gender edition

put your pronouns in the tags!

reblog to support another genderqueer!

(you'll probaby get a happy pride msg if i see u reblogged)

[some---weirdo]

I love not telling anyone my pronouns, not in a transphobic way, but in a "your guess is as good as mine" way

[this-is-exorsexism]

welcome to this is exorsexism.

this is an account to highlight exorsexism, so that more people learn to recognise it when it's happening and we can fight it better.

what happens here is that i will post examples of exorsexism here as i encounter it, as well as submitted examples. this can be stories of exorsexism of offline or online exorsexism. if not immediately clear, i may provide an explanation of how something is exorsexist.

this is also a safe space for nonbinary people to vent or rant about exorsexism.

you can submit exorsexism you encountered to me via submissions or asks. if you send a screenshot of someone being exorsexist, please make sure to crop or censor any identifying information such as their username and profile picture. this account is for educational purposes and for nonbinary people to vent their experiences, not to send harassment to anyone.

exorsexism from within nonbinary and wider transgender communities is also welcome as that too needs awareness.

not sure if something you want to submit counts as exorsexism? submit it anyway and we can talk about it. and if you think your exorsexism experience isn't "bad enough" to be submitted: yes, it is.

credit where credit is due: this account is very much inspired by @exorsexistbullshit who sadly hasn't been active in going on 5 years, as well as casualableism on instagram.

submission rules:

since this is a blog to highlight a form of bigotry and oppression that also often intersects with other forms of oppression, a "no bigotry" rule doesn't make sense here. however, being bigoted towards bigots is not welcome here. this includes calling bigots or bigotry -phobic (i.e. "homophobia"), narcissistic, delusional, lame, blind, cr*zy, st*pid and more.

the key difference here is whether you are quoting bigotry you have encountered or whether you're being bigoted as well.

i am multiply disabled and we don't do that kind of thing here, so if i ignored your ask or blocked you, that's probably why.

what is exorsexism?

in short, exorsexism is the oppression of and bigotry against nonbinary people. it is essentially sexism directed at nonbinary people. furthermore, it also includes the hatred of anything heavily associated with nonbinary people, like certain pronouns. exorsexism ranges from the erasure of nonbinary people to outright hostility. there are many different kinds of exorsexism as there are many different kinds of exorsexism. exorsexism affects the whole range of nonbinary gender identities, including but not limited to agender, multigender, genderfluid, aporagender & xenogender people, as well as androgynes, nonbinary men & nonbinary women.

here's an incomplete list of examples of exorsexism:

- nonbinary erasure, not just erasure of all nonbinary people, but also of more specific gender identities

- forcing nonbinary people into the gender binary or creating new gender-related binaries to force us into (e.g. amab/afab, masc/fem, men/non-men, cis/trans)

- thinking gender can't be fluid

- thinking everyone has to have a gender

- thinking nonbinary identities are new, a trend, a choice, a phase or a way to try and be special

- erasing exorsexism as a specific form of oppression

- thinking nonbinary people have to look a certain way

- centring binary people & experiences in communities that have historically included us

- mocking they, it and neopronouns

- thinking that "everyone is a bit nonbinary"/reducing nonbinaryhood to gender nonconformity

- thinking nonbinary people are just deviations from binary genders, i.e. men & women lite

[goth-brushbug]

My biggest tip to ppl who are the beginning of their gender self-discovery is to let it marinate. You don't know which label fits you the most? Don't worry about that. It will come with time. You might change your labels multiple times, and it's completely normal.

Start with pronouns and words that feel comfortable to you. They should give you gender euphoria. If you feel uncomfortable with certain pronouns, etc, it might be a sign that you should drop them. You don't need to change your name at first. You don't need to do that at all!

Ask your friends or family that you know will support you to use different pronouns/names. Even if you can do that only online for safety reasons.

Don't rush things. There is no pressure. You don't have to prove anything to anyone.

[nebulabasket]

Well, time to be us even harder, I guess. 🏳️‍🌈🏳️‍⚧️

[rottingwithers]

“Genderqueer people aren’t human” Hell yeah I’m not a human! I’m a cryptid and I’m going to eat you!

[genderqueerdykes]

people completely overlook the beauty in the minutiae of it/its pronouns and its implications- it can refer to a beautiful piece of crystal, it can refer to gorgeous flowers, it can refer to pretty clothes, it can refer to cute animals like mice and rats, it can refer to majestic animals like wolves and elk, it can refer to a breath taking piece of art, it can refer to an accomplishment, it can refer to anything.

it can have neutral and positive implications. stop focusing on perceived negatives and let it go: there's nothing wrong with people using it/its pronouns, especially if we only use it/its pronouns. we are not a danger to you or anyone else. it's not uncomfortable. let go of your discomfort over someone else's comfort.

[fallenrain40]

oh my gosh, i just realized the name for coyotes is "canis latrans" COYOTES ARE TRANS CONFIRMED???!?!?!?!?

[allthegaynamesaretaken]

I've said this before and I'll say it again:

You don't need to understand me to respect me.

I don't owe you an explanation, and I don't owe you any kindness. I especially don't owe you more kindness than you show me.

[ask-an-enby]

welcome to ask an enby!

it's what it says on the tin. whether you're nonbinary yourself or binary and just curious, i'm open to all good-faith questions. questions go in the inbox please, not in the reblogs or replies.

about the mod: they/them, maverique, identified as nonbinary for 7+ years