#gay men reblogging a lesbians post abt being a lesbian but in the notes 'this but with men'. 'me but im a man'. “im gay! but i like men”

[trannydykes]

Y'all need to SHUT UP about "transandrophobia/transmisandry". I saw a post the other day I haven't stopped thinking about, about transmisogyny, and like most the comments were going "Isn't that just transphobia?" (Which is already wild, 'cause it isn't. Since transmisogyny is the overlap of two very real oppressions: Transphobia & Misogyny)

But one was like "Sees post abt transmisogyny, checks blog, transandrophobe. like clockwork." When literally there was no posts on OPs blog that were hateful toward transmascs/men... just posts talking abt OPs experience with transmisogyny. (even if there were it wouldn't be "transandrophobia" cuz its not real, it would just be either transphobia or bullying/harassment depending on if their transness was attacked)

If you see people talking abt women's issues and think "This means they HATE men!!" (trans or no) you need to stop an think for a moment. Women on this site can't make ANY exclusive post (Transmisogyny, Lesbianism, or just talking abt being women) without guys coming along and going "How can I make this about me?".

And I know it's mostly trans men who are suffering through dysphoria and thinking about women makes them ick. But consider for a moment that you don't need to verbalize those thoughts, especially under posts that aren't about you/your experiences.

Please refrain at least from doing it under other ppls posts, I'm begging.

OPs note: I'm not being hostile/trying to start shit. Im just upset and wanna talk abt it. I'm transmasc myself (tho not a man).

[lesbianlenas]

bro it’s like. not even just abt the post itself being wildly lesbophobic and ridiculously ignorant. but also abt this post having 50 smth+ notes w ppl liking & reblogging it and just being ok w it generally. and a lot of those ppl not even being lesbians themselves. the way we have normalized the usage of gay slurs by ppl who r not even gay and made the use of slurs practically a meme has genuinely led us back into ppl saying things that r extremely homophobic under the guise of it being “a joke.” now perhaps u as a nonlesbian woman think calling urself a dyke for being attracted to men is funny. but that doesn’t 1. actually make it funny or 2. get rid of the homophobic implications of what u just said. it’s so easy to live in ur individualist bubble and say well if i as one person make this joke who cares but the reality is when u make this joke and other ppl see it and make the same/similar joke esp in an environment where these types of jokes r becoming all too normalized u r part of the problem even as just one person. u do not exist w/o influence even on the internet & even when u r joking. idc. make better jokes that don’t involve slurs that aren’t urs to reclaim perhaps? or that aren’t abt equating lesbianism to attraction to men? lmfao…..

[forestcoric-mogai-fox]

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#5

Genderfluid Gay flag!

Hi all! Since most of genderfluid gay flags were made by anti-endo and anti-MOGAI+ people I decided to make my own.

Colors mean fluid genders(the subtle shift through masculine, feminine, neutral/abinary, xenine and other genders), blues mean attraction to men and pinks mean GNC genderfluid gays, PNC(she/they/it/neos) genderfluid gays, intersex, femme, m-spec(Bi/Pan/Ply/Omni/Abro) gays and other genderfluid gays that destroy the stereotypical definition of gay man!

I also made cold version because I think the original flag(on left) isn’t too original

44 notes • Posted 2021-04-26 10:31:14 GMT

#4

General M-spec Straight and Abro Straight flags

Colors for general one were inspired by julietian and romeric flag binding them with pink for harmony and colors of abro one is abro+monochrome colors of hetero flag

45 notes • Posted 2021-05-19 14:40:16 GMT

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Cimexeren

Cimexeren(TSI-MEKS-AEH-RAEN): a gender related to metallic-colored bugs, vibrant and pastel colors, flowers, clouds, rainbows, aura quartz, metal with rainbow cover and sunlight

Name of the label was composed from “cimex”, Latin for bug, and “Regen”, German for rain(taken from “Regenbogen” German word for rainbow)

64 notes • Posted 2021-03-29 17:42:33 GMT

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65 notes • Posted 2021-01-20 05:53:53 GMT

#1

Saphe

Saphe: being lesbian in nonbinary way! It includes straytbians and gaybians, of course

For @arco-pluris

89 notes • Posted 2021-06-15 14:00:16 GMT

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[shesay]

I'm a crypto. I've softblocked all non bi and lesbian female mutuals and started to hardblock and report every tim I come upon. Literally for the last 2 years it seems that when a depraved leftist blogger gets called out for being a pedofilic rape loving racist its always either TiM or a str8 TiF. My mutuals keep blaming women and homosexuals, but the vitriol is really starting to seem like a smoke screen. Every TiM besides like 2-3 on leftblr are openly supportive of race and rape "play". They are so pornbrained and misogynistic its insane. Like a typical str8 man🤔 an ex mutual of mine(a gay guy) is an ex prostitue/sugar baby. He started young and was hurt by his experiences. When he spoke out against the rape industry he was called transmisogynistic... bc he reblogged informative posts that had additions by feminists. The only time ive seen TiMs talk abt the rape industry is when they r praising it..or saying that calling criticism of rape transmisogynistic actually isn't good bc it makes them look like degenerates. I see more and more of my mutuals and in laws make posts abt feminism being disregarded by mra leftists and abt how the rape industry is actually bad. Often followed by a post abt how men r women. But that's just 2 not get called transphobic. I've seen my tra TiF mutuals in the notes of terf posts agreeing... I just think if a handful of some of the more "influential" girl bloggers peaked in public a lot more would follow. The fear of being attacked is just to strong tho. Idk what it'll take for them to realize that TiMs r insane. Im gonna stay a crypto for now bc I've made friends with a lot of enby and trans masc girls, but the ones I'm closest to have started 2 be more and more critical of TiMs. Le sigh 😕

Literally w this woke whatever culture we srsly forgot that being trans is literally a mental illness like ofc they have other issues but it’s so overlooked bc no1 wants 2 be transphobic so bizarre when u rly look at it the moment u trans out you’re like the most oppressed person on the planet and must receive no criticism whatsoever makes no sense 💯.

[pseudophan]

Thoughts on the twitter drama about nsfw phanart going on right now and mlm saying it makes them uncomfortable?

~ i have super limited knowledge of this so dont take this as me commenting on something entirely different there is way too much shit happening on twitter rn and i simply do not care enough to figure out what it is ~

first of all most of the people ive seen havent even been mlm its just other people thinking theyre woke so dont take this as me complaining about mlm phannies , but anyway- this might be a hot take but as much as youre allowed to be uncomfortable with it that doesnt mean people cant post it? im not one for nsfw phanart, ive reblogged probably like two onto this blog since 2015, i really just do not have any emotional attachment to this discourse, but im tryna put it into events i can relate to and im just....if someone drew nsfw lesbian art and i was uncomfortable with it id just? not look at it? like im not gonna demand people dont do it? idc if ur a cishet man if you wanna draw women getting it on what the fuck do i care i dont own the concept of lesbianism i cant just go 'um this is fetishising actually' and pressure you into not drawing it like thats ridiculous. which, also, on that note, why does no one actually know what fetishisation is like yeah sure if someone exclusively care abt dnp cause !!! zomg gay men hot XD :3 !!! then yeah thats fetishising but the mere concept or creating nsfw art featuring dnp just??? it just isnt fetishisation ????? by that logic you're essentially saying gay men and gay sex cant exist and be portrayed without it being a fetish and thats a whole lot to unpack at 2:30 in the morning

bottom line: as long as dnp are letting people draw nsfw art of them (which they are and always have been) it's not actually your place to tell people they cant do it. you have every right to feel uncomfortable, hell i feel uncomfortable most of the time i see nsfw phan art too, but its like......its just not as evil of a deed as some of u are making it out to be. like just mute or block people trust me your life will be so much better

anyway. fetishisation bad but some of u guys' takes are worse laid ease

[sloanecore]

hey whats up taz fandom can we chat

hey yall can we talk abt lesbophobia for a hot second bc it has been uhhh disturbingly prevalent lately. i just wanna preface this by saying i absolutely welcome feedback + don’t claim to speak for anyone else. if you have thoughts on this i’d love to hear them + possibly have a discussion.

so here’s the thing: there’s been an Uncomfortable amount of lesbophobia in the TAZ fandom lately in 2 distinct ways. #1 is, of course, the Lup discourse. I KNOW I KNOW you feel a creeping sense of dread at the very words but hear me out for a second.

here’s my hot take: her sexuality hasn’t been confirmed and anyone can have whatever headcanons they want without people slamming them up until her sexuality gets confirmed (if it ever does). before i delve into how lesbophobia has starred in this particular discourse, let me get something out of the way that may raise a few eyebrows at first:

blupjeans isn’t canon (yet).

 do i think it will be? yeah probably. is it as of yet? big fat nope! we know barry has feelings for lup. we know lup trusts him. we do NOT know if lup has romantic feelings for him. she told taako to trust him, she put a friendly arm around him in a portrait that she didn’t pose for that was painted before she knew he had feelings for her, and she picked up his glasses. it isn’t canon yet, and insisting that it is is dumb and a waste of time because it contributes nothing to this discussion.

Anyway! on to the main point. i headcanon lup as a lesbian. hi! what’s up, how ya doin. i’m a lesbian who loves projecting. most of my TAZ friends are in the same boat. none of us have made any posts, messaged each other, or anything of the like about disliking bi/pan lup HCs because—news flash—we don’t dislike them. we think they’re awesome. lesbians and bi/pan women aren’t “natural enemies” like some of you seem to want them to be.

but you know what i have seen? a RIDICULOUS amount of posts—a lot of them from people who aren’t even gay/bi/pan women—decrying lesbian lup HCs, talking about how much they hate them, how entitled and whiney the people who have them (lesbians) are, and like, listen. I get it. every fandom needs its opportunity to Let It Out re: hatred of the Big Bad Dykes. but it’s getting ridiculous.

if your reasoning for why lesbians can’t HC lup as gay is because she’s “been involved with/is involved with a man” (which, still, unconfirmed) surprise! that’s lesbophobic. plenty of lesbians (hi! me! what up!) have had past relationships with men due to compulsory heterosexuality. this doesn’t make us “not gay” and it super sucks for non-lesbians to try to enforce the toxic gold-star mentality that we as a community have spent so long fighting to move past.

lesbians having lesbian headcanons for characters with unconfirmed sexualities/straight characters harms no one and does not nullify bi/pan headcanons that people might have for the same character. We Can Get Along it’s not as hard as y’all are making this!

also, a lot of the justifications for trashing lesbian lup headcanons i’ve seen have included something along the lines of “all the other girls in TAZ are lesbians” “there’s a ton of lesbian representation in TAZ” “this is the PERFECT opportunity to HC a character as bi.” which. okay.

1: no. 0 characters have been Confirmed as lesbians. zero, zilch, nada. as it stands, taako is the only character with a confirmed sexuality. there’s confirmed WLW for sure! but No confirmed lesbians.

2: nope again! what is this in reference to, the side couple that’s barely mentioned or the dead ones?

3: hoo boy! here’s the thing: the other women in relationships in TAZ have been in relationships with other women. lup is the first to be implied to be involved with a man. none of the canon WLW in TAZ are canonically confirmed lesbians. there is and has been nothing stopping anyone from HC’ing sloane, hurley, killian, or carey as bi or pan. if lup is “the perfect opportunity” because she’s maybe involved with a man and you’re subconsciously making that a prerequisite for Good Bi Rep, that’s a You problem that you need to unpack on your own without dragging lesbians into it!

if you can tweet all day about how lesbians allegedly think lup being with barry is “not queer enough” (no one alive has ever said that and also that’s its own special flaaaavor of lesbophobia, so thanks) but you automatically consider a woman whose only canonically shown relationship was with another woman to be a lesbian, that says more about you and you should probably examine that before you project your weird insecurities onto your imagined Enemy Dykes. i know it’s easy to impulse hate us, but here’s a thought: Fucking Chill Dude

Alright!! onto the second Big TAZ Lesbophobia: objectification!!!!!!!

let me set the stage. eh-hem.

Years ago, lesbians in fandom said “Gee, I wish people would stop ignoring us!” And the monkey paw curled one finger, and the TAZ fandom was born.

i see posts Every Goddamn Day about how the whole TAZ fanbase are toxic homophobic fetishizers of MLM and to an extent i understand where that anger comes from because MLM fetishization is a pervasive issue in fandom (though the specific Issue addressed in most of those posts makes me fall asleep instantly because it isn’t even deep enough to drown in). but the thing that really gets me is that the authors of those posts—and like, a good 80% of the fandom in general—objectifies WLW to an OUTRAGEOUS extent and it is honestly hilarious for them to be getting on a soapbox about how shipping certain characters is homophobic while perpetuating almost that exact issue with WLW as their puppets.

i don’t know when lesbians and having a new wacky ~cute~ f/f pairing (between characters who have never spoken and never will) every hour on the hour became the Hot New Trend, but as a lesbian, It Kind Of Fucking Sucks Guys!!! we aren’t dolls. we aren’t your Pure Soft UwU playthings that you can jam into any pairing you want to make wildly OOC art of them braiding each others’ hair in the moonlight or whatever. if you’re a nonlesbian/non-WLW and you have 18 ships with the same 4 girls or you reblog posts like the “luptroth is the new ship” post (altho hey at least those two have fuckin Spoken), You’re A Fucking Geek and Very Annoying and i also probably feel unsafe or at the very least uncomfortable with you!

instead of pouring your energy into f/f crackships (get off your high horse, you aren’t ‘creating representation,’ you know damn well that isn’t how that works) maybe you could create some more fucking content for the two (2!!!! one of whom is UHHH dead!) canon f/f ships that we have—*spongebob “AND LIVE” voice* AND NOT AS THE BACKGROUND PAIRING TO A M/M FIC!!!!

also, quick note before i finish, stop using the futch scale to refer to nonlesbians/if you aren’t a lesbian you freaks it’s For Lesbians. bye