#friendly friend friend pal friend

[minish-mews-and-twos]

Trick or treat!? 🤲

Hi! Do you want the trick or the treat?

The trick is a random image I have

The treat is a one word spoiler for what's coming soon

Choose wisely~

[spirit-minish]

I had no idea you had to make a new account. I read the description of the blog. I hope things get better (if it's meant to be taken seriously)

This is something I made quite a while back

Basically, I was redrawing a bunch of old stuff and decided to redraw this old thing.

Take the description seriously, but things are getting better

Awwww!!! TYSM!!!! I remember when you first drew this! My Mews and Twos still live on, but I have been exploring new fandoms, like Welcome Home and Billie Bust Up.

But I'm so glad to see you again, Shy!

[modmad]

TPoH: Update!

Sorry for the LONG delay due to catching covid. I am still recovering from it, so I do not know if I will be updating weekly again yet but I will post the comic whenever I can. Thank you all so much for your support and kindness during this time!

Read TPoH from the start here.

Update here on the TPoH website!

Thank you all  for the kind and loving support! If you want to buy books of this comic YOU CAN! Volumes one and two AND THREE are now in stock and you can get even more books in the form of TPatJ and Unbecoming! Find them and more here in the TPoH Topatoco shop right here, or tell your friends about it!

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[coldercreation]

brb about to go down a research rabbit hole lol

Question of the day!

Why is showing ‘disinterest’ such prevalent thing when it comes to building friendships and relationships?

I have talked about this here before in my rants lol, but it just always frustrates me. Like, you know those arbitrary ‘rules’ in dating that you shouldn’t show too much interest or get in touch too soon, or be too ‘intense’ or interested? Like, obviously don’t be a stalker and read the room etc, but I mean if you're just a regular and safe 'well-adjusted' person, why is you showing genuine effort and interest seen as a bad thing (I don't mean love bombing, that's a whole different thing)? If you genuinely like each other, why is the social rule saying that you shouldn’t show that? Same goes with friendships, why is showing interest in the person you want to get to know sometimes, somehow, a bad thing? To a point that some people can get put off by that effort someone is showing to get to know them? Not saying everyone is like this, because I know there are so many people who aren’t. And plenty people also disregard these social rules because they aren’t actually concrete rules. 

This is just a social construct and I’m trying to figure out why it is, because it seems counter productive? By what logic does it work? How are you supposed to make friends/date, if them showing interest in you makes you exit the relationship/ghost/breadcrumb?

How long are we supposed to only talk in one line texts about surface level stuff, to avoid being too much/too intense, before it’s acceptable? How do you know you’re following the same social timelines with the people you’re trying to get close to, when there’s no actual set rules? Someone might think you have to wait three days after a date to get in touch, but someone else will get offended if you take longer than two. But the next day or the same day is too desperate to some folk? And I'm talking about this from the point of view of someone who doesn't have trouble reading social cues/expectations. Can't even imagine dealing with this mess if that wasn't the case. Like what's the point of having these 'rules' if it just makes things more difficult for everyone? :')

These rules, technically, don't need to exist at all. It's all made up, based on... Something? We can always dismiss them ourselves but I'd like to know why they came to be and why we keep upholding them. I want to know the social purpose y'know? Is it a safety thing? Protecting yourself and not wanting to be vulnerable? That'd be valid, of course. But it does seem self sabotaging as it blocks people from actually making the connections they say they want to have?

I’ve been trying to find any research on the social behaviour regarding this, but I’m not sure what to even look up lol. Especially because I think the way we interact and behave has changed so much just in the last five years even. 

I just find it so curious that there’s so many headlines about loneliness epidemic, but people also recoil away from others when someone does show them genuine interest and wants to talk to them.   

I’ve had this initial ‘disinterest’ stage happen in the friendship context more. Also sudden, out of nowhere, communication ending/ghosting disinterest when trying to make friends (like please hurt my heart some more I beg u lmao). I haven’t really dated in the last few years so I don’t personally know how that field is at the moment, but I know ghosting is really common and people actively try to hold back from showing interest at first, even if they are reallyreally interested.

Maybe I’ll try looking more into the effects on social media etc, there’s a lot about ghosting in that context. But I just feel like it’s not quite what I mean, because I feel this disinterest phenomenon thing is separate from ghosting. 

Anyway! Happy Sunday loll xx

[jessiesjaded]

"No straight guy would ever act like that" "theres literally no heterosexual explanation for this" and it's just a guy slightly treating women kindly or like. Giving his friend a hug

[yuckiecharm]

I pozt her oc >:] @sillygoobr64

[lastavenged]

@darehearts -> continuing the little thing

The Singularity like ships; she likes places with people inside of them for this entity was alone in many universes. This one had vastness of strange things and stranger people. These people were all different from one another but born the same colored shirts and were friendly.

Mostly, friendly but that may have been another reality. It's hard to keep track of the places the little pocket dimension has appeared in.

This ship was massive, with a lot of bells and whistles compared to the last ship she had hitched a ride on. She's alone, pops into the place when the crew is sleeping and marvels at the screens of the computers. Singularity knows from experience now, not to touch and she loses herself in the hum of the ship, of the space around the ship as well.

Until she's startled by a voice, and the pocket dimension closes in on herself then appears again five feet from where she had been.

Uh, hi.

Friendly voice, and Singularity perks up. Whole body drifts closer, raising up off the ground to meet Kirk at face level and smiles. ❝ HI! NICE SHIP! ❞ then remember her manners as this was normally the time the crew slept. ❝ DID WAKE YOU? SORRY! ❞ It's not a voice that truly speaks, but a cheery sound and words come to mind of all who she converses with.

[frosty-tian]

(Vent replaced.)

[youandthemountains]

man relationships are whatever but I am dying to one day be able to stay in a b&b with someone.

[magnusmodig]

||. thor is always such a fun character for me to think about – not only because of his place in the mcu, but because of his dynamics and relationship with his brother and asgardian crew too. there's SO MUCH potential in a character like thor. just with his past alone, there are so many stories of high-flying adventures and lessons of leadership and courage and bravery and teamwork. just with his asgardian squad, there are so many classic friendship lessons about honesty, camaraderie, loyalty, generosity, kindness, etc. as he + crew learn and grow as people.... then there's the exploration of him and his people (and his family: namely his brother and his father) as he slowly learns what it means, and what it takes to be a king, and as he figures out his own way to go about it... and the pitfalls of all of that as he DOES grow, but he also grows into the very insecure person that he is in the beginning of THOR (2011)....

thor during phases 1-3 of the mcu is absolutely so neat... but thinking about him before 2011 is just fascinating to me.

[minish-mews-and-twos]

Welcome back Spirit Kyu! :3

I LIVE!!!!!!!!

Though it's slightly debatable how I feel about it

[nounoustouzy]

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[princepipper]

I'm sorry, but calling commissions a "business transaction" sounds so cold. The artists I tend to commission are not just machines producing art that I buy. They are often friends, and nice people. There's more to it than money.

??? Dude, I understand that you can be friends with artists and all that, but when you commission them, you are a customer. You are paying money for a product and/or service. You can still be their pal, but that doesn't change the fact that you are literally engaging in business with them. I wasn't calling it a business transaction to imply that there's no joy or friendliness involved. I was saying that because it's important for everyone to act professionally in those situations, even if it just means using proper grammar/sentence structure and doing your best to be polite.

Also uh. I don't know if you're an artist or not, but you should try to understand that for most artists who accept commissions, it IS really about the money. For a lot of people it's how they make a living. So yeah, I think it's fair for them to expect a little bit of decency when approached with commission requests.

[no-one-hears-me]

the problem with ever having a crush on your friend is that it's soooo easy to redevelop that crush

[shotmrmiller]

lowkey thinking of one of your friends sliding in the barstool right next to you and saying, "i wouldn't fuck him if i were you." she's not the envious type so it doesn't make sense. why not?

"i know his kind. one night of stomach cramping fun and you're stuck with him like gum tangled in your hair. impossible to rid. just now, you'd given a friendly ㅤsmile to his pal on the right and his eyes had burned. that screams danger."

possessive, she'd said. obsessive, if he's crazy. (and he looks it, babes.)

you didn't think that riding him in the front seat of his truck would've led to you the way you are now, achy cunt, mottled neck, dinner plate sized hand soothing the tender skin of your thigh that he'd left raw because of the stubble on his jaw, the other palming at his erection.

again. as if your sore pussy can take any more of this assault. he hasn't left since he got here a week ago. on vacation, he'd muttered as he pushed a spit-slick finger into you, up to the knuckle.

should've listened to your elders :(

[corvish]