#former terf
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hey this is insane
imane Khelif is a woman
not all women have super delicate uwu faces and bodies
i sure as fuck don't i have a big nose and im very flat chested
guess i can't be a woman now 😕
#jk rowling#anti jk rowling#ex radfem#former radfem#anti terf#anti radfem#ex terf#former terf#anti jkr#imane khelif
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to ex-radfems:
hey! i didn't realize there was so many of y'all here on tumblr! I'll be honest, I'm not sure what to say about it, because, well, I thought we were much fewer and further between.
I think there are a few things worth saying, though.
Here's a resource for you. In addition, while I don't participate in discourse too often, I'm happy to provide perspective to good-faith questions, and to learn from you and what you've picked up along your journey.
I am proud of you for your growth. This is a really difficult thing - radical feminism targets vulnerable people who aren't equipped with the tools to understand its many issues. I hesitate to call any political system a cult, but as a cult survivor myself, there are parallels.
I know that the guilt is difficult. I was relatively harmless as a TERF since I rarely spoke up about it, but what little I did perpetuate, I regret. The things I've done in the name of beliefs that held me instead of me holding them still haunt me, radfem-related or not.
You are not alone. This is important.
Some people will not forgive you. Some people cannot forgive you. You may have trouble forgiving yourself. It's okay. It takes time, and what's most important is that you're here now, and you understand how to move forwards.
This is a safe space for former/deconverting radfems. I block easily, because I need to keep this a safe space for myself as well, but I want you to know that I'm going to do my best to make this space open to people who are willing to learn.
Honestly, at this rate, I might make a sideblog about being a former radfem - I'll add it to my pinned post if I do.
Anyways. I share some of this experience with you. I know it can be difficult, coming to terms with both your past and what this means for the future. I know it takes work. I know.
Most importantly, it's going to be okay.
#tw terf mention#tw radfem mention#tw terf#tw radfem#ex radfem#ex terf#former terf#former radfem#byrd chirps#for all my followers that aren't in this circle#i know this is probably a bit of a touchy subject#i've done my best to trigger tag it#lmk if i missed anything#but please don't hate on ex-radfems here or anywhere#this is probably going to reach a different audience than I'm used to in my circle#so just keep that in mind
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I've never felt more weak as a woman than I did when I was a terf. It's an ideology that basically works to convince every woman involved that we are just inherently weak and frail.
Throughout that time, and since I was never really out and open about it, it was my trans friends who made me feel strong, and NEVER the terfs, and I don't know how the hell I couldn't see that until recently.
Terfs don't want women to feel powerful, they want us to feel weaker than we are and beat us down until we subconsciously feel worthless so we can feel justified in our hate cult. It's so obvious looking back
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I got blocked by another former foster kid tiktoker after expressing some gender critical beliefs.
It really makes me feel sad because it feels like a lot of people don't see from the perspective of women who aged out of foster care and our heightened vulnerabilities. Women from foster care are extremely overrepresented among sex trafficking victims and sexual abuse victims. And many women who have been sexually abused want access to female-only shelters and safe spaces. Some of us only want to be examined by female medical staff during rape kits. Some of us only want to report to a female police officer due to the sensitive nature of sexual trauma. Sex is a protected characteristic and it seems like trans activism is at odds with women's rights. There are aggressive efforts made by trans activists to undo what feminists have worked hard to establish (like the activists that worked to defund Canada's longest standing rape crisis center).
I really need liberal feminists to step outside of their echo chambers and actually examine what the criticisms of trans ideology are because what you will discover will surprise you. Trans activists paint an unflattering portrait of "terfs" as if we are hateful people who wish harm on people who are gender nonconforming. The accusations are hyperbolic to the point of absurdly - some of us are accused of "genocide" for simply criticizing illogical or misogynistic aspects of gender ideology.
#terf is a witch hunt#Gender critical#foster care#foster kids#aging out#Women's safe spaces#Women's safe places#Women's shelters#Terf is a slur#Former foster youth#Terfs please touch#Self ID criticism
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NGL, the fact that queer Tumblr's and queer Twitter's hatred of twinks is barely distinguishable from cishet men's hatred of queer femme men is... funny... in a nastily ironic way.
#lgbt#lgbtq#lgbtqia#gay#lesbian#I guess my patience for the anti-twink and anti-femboy brainrot has officiallt worn thin because#besides my preference for pretty men#I had more than my fill of rabid terfs hounding trans women and it's like#congrats y'all you sound exactly like terfs and log cabin republicans#I can guess that it would not take much for you guys to switch to the#lgb without the tq crowd#if most of you aren't there already#can you guys handle your insecurities and body image issues without trying to hound folks who happen to be thinner and more femme?#can you guys not be aggressively stupid?#like do you guys know how deranged you sound going “twink death twink death twink death! yay now you don't look beautiful and young and now#you're ugly and unwanted!“ you sound like you're cheering on the downfall of a former popular high school prom queen which like#you never gotten over being bullied in high school? you didn’t work that out with a therapist? you're pushing thirty fam stop trying to#appeal to the cishets
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Mass blocking terfs and keep noticing a pattern of "former libfem" or something of the like and that sucks and all but I have yet to like really see the opposite. Former terfs if you see this please know I love you and I think it'd be really fun to see more of yall around
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ABOVE ALL THINGS
SUFFERING,
GLORIFIED
#one of my fave shirts#went to a park today and it was so nice!#finished shooting my first roll of film <3#lyrics are from an unreleased song 'in hell there are no hands'#i want to start uploading more of my photography#i think i overdid it today#i'm in a lot more pain now#it was so fun though#such a nice day#my brain is scrambled so just imagine these things all connect together lol#me#did i ever make an outfit tag#i don't remember#oh well#southern gothic#the urge to tag in the modest fashion tags to start to filter out the terfs but also not wanting terfs to interact lol#big sign like !!! QUEER FORMER SEX WORKER I DRESS THIS WAY TO SPITE GOD NOT PLEASE HIM !!!#lmao#modest fashion#modest dress#if u dress modest and ur not a terf /swerf hiiiiii <3#and just for the record i don't think dressing modestly for religious reasons is bad#far from it i think it's great do what you want & what you feel called to#i just think the idea that there's a moral biological imperative for ALL people/afab/women/etc is shitty to enforce#yk?#anyway these tags got away from me lol#i need to take a nap
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ughhhh I had a terf reblog my post to yell at me which means now I have to go thru the blog of every person who interacts with that post to vet them
and inevitably piss myself off reading their bullshit
God gives his toughest battles to his strongest soldiers
Edit: what do you fucking MEAN their reblog of my post doesn't get removed when I block them. what the fuck. fuck ass website
#current contender for pissing me off the most is someone arguing “TRAs” dont listen to them and argue against caricatures#and saying most terfs are former “TRAs”#but also got mad at me saying “leave gnc women alone”#girl i did not spend all my life having to sit and say nothing as my mom yells that im telling my friends to fake suicidality for hormones#(i told him to talk to a doctor) for you to use such a massive stereotype as “trans men are forcing butches to be trans”#god this is making me feel the same powerlessness i do when my mom is yelling at me#if u read this far can u send me pics of ur pets pls i think i need them
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Re the Neil Gaiman allegations but it really says a lot about the politics of this website that people care more about gay rep than the wellbeing of women. Major Tumblr darling gets accused of sexual assault and people in his fandoms either immediately jump to "the victims are lying/this is a smear campaign" or continue posting like nothing happened, with only a handful of posts actually dealing with the topic and getting attention. Not even a "let's wait until more details come out but sexual assault is bad". At this point I don't even care if the allegations turn out to be false because the biggest issue here is not the sexual assault, it's the silence of the people around it. This should have been a moment to step back, leave fandoms aside and realize that people are being hurt by his actions but that didn't happen! This was incredibly disappointing, ESPECIALLY after we had a wave of people arguing that you shouldn't buy the wizard game because JKR is transphobic. As always it's easy to cast stones to other people but when it comes to the guy who wrote your fav gay ship suddenly it's a different matter. If you wouldn't do "innocent until proven guilty" for a creator that you dislike who got accused of sa but you do it to Neil Gaiman, then you are willing to excuse despicable behavior as long as it comes from someone you have a parasocial relationship with and you should really think about what it's doing to your own principles and politics.
#m#i know the idea of 'tumblr cares more about gays than women' is not new but wow this is a new reach#and this is smth that ive seen many times already but the fact that terfs talk more often about (legitimate) women issues than non-terfs...#like you should be embarrassed as a trans ally that to this day the number one source for this is that terfy podcast#because no one else is talking about this!!!!!!#and especially given that *a lot* of people on tumblr are either women or femme people#like. you are the group of people more likely to end up in a situation like Neil's victims#if this goes nowhere it sends the message that powerful men can get away with abuse and not lose their careers#and again you will be the victim of this! you who form parasocial relationship with people of power and let it blind your politics#you who ignores sa and other despicable behavior because the accused is your fav creator#and just like many victims of sa at the hands of powerful male creators are former fans of them#you could be the next one to end up in an abusive relationship with a creator that has a power imbalance with you#just because you're ignoring it right now because the ineffable husbands bring you joy or whatev doesnt mean it can't happen to you#and for the love of god learn to move on and find new things. it's not the end of the world because you wont get a good omens s3#the more you attach yourself to these fandoms the worse it will be. watch new shows play new games listen to new music#you'll find something that brings you joy if you look for it#but acting like the creator of your fav show wasn't just accused of sa will lead you to some really dark places
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0 days since some guy last accused a trans woman of being a terf 🙄
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terfs being more outrage about Imane Khelif then Steven van de Velde a literal child rapist proves they don't care about women and girls they just want to be hateful bigots and say it's all in the name of feminism
#ex radfem#former radfem#anti terf#anti radfem#former terf#ex terf#imane khelif#steven van de velde#olympics#seriously fuck off
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It's crazy how much terf ideology can seem right when you're an insecure teenage girl struggling with misogyny, but then the second you're out of it and you look back, they really are just as hateful and disgusting as people said all along
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sorry I'm just not gonna take you seriously if you say that terfs ONLY and PRIMARILY target trans women and will side with literally anyone to do so. they don't. that is their Big Target but do not get it twisted they also hate trans men. to them we are gender traitors and we apparently benefit from male privilege while also being ugly misguided Women who are ruining our Beautiful Feminine Bodies with Evil Man Hormones. we are Poor Innocent Women being indoctrinated into the Trans Cult and then doing violence on Good Natural Women. they are either erasing and misgendering us by calling us women or demonizing us bc of our manhood, sometimes both in the same breath. terfs do not ally with us, they actively hate us too and want us wiped out.
#nerd alert#jk rowling literally wrote a book about how the trans cult is misguiding and mutilating poor autistic women who dont know any better#like this isnt hard to figure out. they hate us for our transgender swag too.#which is probably why theres a good amount of detrans (former trans man) people who side with them bc to those specific ones#that rhetoric rings true or at least the terfs convince them it does#'oh you poor thing you mutilated your body bc the trans cult convinced you to. you dont want anybody else making that mistake right?'#why we HAVE to protect and support detrans ppl btw. bc if we dont terfs will twist them into weapons and gotchas against us.#thats another post tho.
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This coworker of mine really overestimates how much of my mind I’ve lost to the sauce lmao
Yeah I’m informed on some conspiracy theories (don’t believe most, the ones I do have literally been confirmed), yeah I’m interested in metaphysics, occultism, and religion, yeah I see where you might draw certain conclusions, but buddy.
My guy. My good sir.
You aren’t going to convert me to edgelordism. I’ve spent my time there and I was worse off for it. I’m happier and feel more myself now embracing my queerness and appreciating diversity and speaking out against injustice than I was when I whined about ess-jay-dubya snowflakes.
Knock that Satanic panic shit off, man. It’s embarrassing.
#talking to myself#just once I’d like to talk about esoteric shit without people wildly misinterpreting what I say so that it agrees with them#or without it being completely incomprehensible#the former is so god damn annoying omg#there’s so many bad faith people into spirituality#vent#maga dni#terfs dni#terf dni#ascensionists dni#theosophists dni#evangelists dni#apologists dni#alt right dni#dianic terfs dni#y’all are the bad faith fuckers I’m talking about#fuck outta here with your poison#for the rest of y’all. I’m okay just peeved lol#the only red tide I submit to is the one from the elevators in the Shining
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i’m gonna say it. Engaging in bigotry bc you yourself are uncomfortable with self is one of the stupidest excuses for being a fucking asshole i’ve ever heard.
Especially if you’re a fucking adult and engaging with bigotry.
For example (and the thing I’m specifically seething over), it’s morally reprehensible to try to excuse your radfem/anti-trans/terf ideologies-of-past on the grounds that you were uncomfortable with your trans identity and were in turmoil seeing the life you wanted to live in others so you turn to the internet to lambast and vilify and dehumanize trans existence? nah.
if i wanted to be born a girl and have a girl coded childhood, I wouldn’t turn to the internet and be a raging misogynist. in fact i didn’t.
if i identified as straight and saw gay folk living their bliss, i wouldn’t turn to the internet to demand all gays are fakers/dangerous/morally wrong. i saw it too much growing it up and it made me ill. i was uncomfy as hell in my then-closeted identity but it didn’t turn me into a bigot.
if i knew someone grew up Jewish, a religion i wanted to personally convert to an follow but was uncomfortable in doing so, i would not turn to the internet and become an anti-semite.
i know folks have the capacity to grow and change and everyone navigates internal acceptance differently but i can’t wrap my fucking head around this one. i can’t fully grasp turning to such a high level of hate for an entire body of people living their lives under fire from laws and bigots and cruelty and be like, yeah, i’ll join the fight of the side of hate.
and if that person moves away from hate and denouces their past bigotry, that’s great. but it is beyond any expectation that anyone affected by their cutting and venomous hate should be expected to forgive in any capacity. those hurt are allowed to fully cut ties and chose their safety and well-being.
just. fucking bonkers.
#immaturely perhaps i am vagueblogging#but i just#idk#terfs and former-terfs are just so hateful for too many reasons to just feel chill sitting idle#and that’s my pre-med rant for the day#bird thoughts
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Looking back at the whole 2016 Baeddel movement is actually horrifying. The fact that there are still people around promoting it despite the horrific things that group has done is awful. My heart goes out to any young trans women preyed on by that group, and any young trans men harassed by it.
#if you don’t know what “baeddelism” is btw it was basically a group of transfem terfs#that’s literally it#you can find testimonies from former members describing how abusive it was#i’m not gonna go into too much detail here#baeddelism#baeddels
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