#fixed and growth mindset

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Going From a Fixed Mindset to a Growth Mindset

Lesson #1: growth is not linear. You will not improve drastically overnight. As I’ve stressed this before, things take time and consistency and concentration.

A fixed mindset is basically a belief that the person you’re born as - your intelligence and talent - are fixed. They cannot be changed, no matter what.

Science has shown that this is not true. It’s 100% possible to get smarter over time and with dedicated effort.

This is what a growth mindset is - believing that you can be better over time, and that your current level of intelligence and talent is temporary.

People with fixed mindsets are insecure, and it shows. Fear of failure; taking constructive criticism to heart; feelings of jealousy when someone they know is doing well… we’ve all known a person like this, and been this person ourselves at some point in our life.

Growth mindset is therefore the opposite but the effects are as grounding; it can help battling anxiety, depression, burnout issues, behavioural issues and so on.

I understand that a lot of you don’t have people in your life with a similar mentality of personal growth. I’m therefore reopening my Discord. My followers can meet, connect and help each other out.

Now, how does one transition from a fixed to a growth mindset?

Here are some things I think could help:

1. Detaching yourself from the definition of failure

If you’ve already decided the outcome of a certain situation without even trying, then you’re still stuck in a fixed mindset. Things like “there’s no point in me applying for that job because I don’t have the skills and I won’t get it anyway” - applying for that job wouldn’t hurt, even if you don’t get it. Stop limiting your opportunities that you never know could actually work out. A growth mindset person will always try to make most of the opportunities they have.

2. Not getting attached to any outcomes

Don’t get attached to favourable or unfavourable outcomes. When something goes well, have gratitude in your heart but don’t let it get to your ego. Life is about constantly learning. Don’t get attached to compliments and don’t get disheartened by criticism.

3. Actively working on yourself

You can learn a language at any age. You can start learning how to dance or sing or ride a horse at any age, if you’re doing it for the pleasure of learning (getting into competitive stages could be challenging if you’re not young). Someone who works on themselves has a growth mindset.

4. Stop self depreciating yourself

If I see one more IG bio that says “I’m so boring uwu” I will literally throw hands. Stop talking shit about yourself. Classic fixed mindset case. It’s childish and people pleasing behaviour.

5. Stop the comparison game

Stop resenting the people around for the good work they do in their life/ if their life is easy. We all have our challenges, whether we show them publicly or not. The more you work on your inner peace and inner self, the less you’ll feel the need to compare yourself to someone else. Jealousy is a disease and a sign of a fixed mindset.

6. Appreciate and thank yourself for being you.

If you’re nice to your mum, siblings, friends when they need your support… you can be nice to yourself too. Growth mindset does not come from berating yourself.

7. Recognise mistakes and take accountability

Admitting that you’re wrong is never easy. However, I’ll always have respect for someone who can admit that they messed up, rather than someone who will make up stories to justify their antics.

8. Provide yourself with at least 3 productive self-care hours a week

Self care here doesn’t mean skin care or hair care. I mean brain care. You feed your brain good things that it needs to stay calm and ever-growing.

These could include: brain games, mediation, a hobby, watching an educational documentary, doing a short online course, reading… anything that’s good for your brain.

9. Stop being a chameleon

Have you ever met those sort of people who will do anything to fit in? It could adopting that group’s mannerisms, thought processes, opinions… now, to an extent, that is normal and subtle. However, when it starts going too far to a point where you can’t be yourself anymore, thats a problem. In my opinion, that’s an example of not being able to practice your growth mindset publicly.

Privately, you may be growth oriented - but it needs to reflect in your words and actions. If you’re holding yourself back in doing certain things because you’re afraid of what other friends will think of you, you need better friends. Embrace people who have a growth mentality.

10. Using social media for better purposes

I made a separate Instagram account where I only follow educational stuff - think history, geography, arts and architecture, science, tech, business - and absolutely no people. It’s my way of using social media to ensure I learn more. Social media may be the devil, but you can be smart and alter it to your purposes, to give you that kick that you need to educate yourself.

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and people try to call them vanilla... these two are crazy individually and even more crazy with each other! i would love to hear if you have more thoughts about the lack of aftercare and especially if it's angsty bc that kind of thing is my guilty pleasure in fics😅

Hahaha, revealing how much I've dissected that scene is a little mortifying, but at least the fact that I'm writing the fic about it makes me feel I can justify it, hahah.

And yeah, it's interesting re: the thought of Louis and BDSM etiquette broadly, especially things like aftercare and safewords, of which i don't tend to feel he'd have much regard for either. I don't think that would be out of any maliciousness, but more of a sense of feeling like these things have come in when you've already got a degree of expertise / feel you know what you're doing? Y'know, he was 33 in 1910, so he's a man coming of age and probably having formative sexual experiences in the very late 1800s and working literally as a pimp in that era. That's not to say that I don't think he grew and his sexual eperiences and understanding of sexuality - his own and others - evolved, but all the vampires are ultimately products of their time, even if they now live outside of it.

I've actually been thinking about this a lot as the next fic in the Spell 'verse after I finish the Cruising one is exploring both Lestat and Louis' relationship with BDSM. I've mentioned it before a few times (namely here), but I think there's a really interesting factor with Lestat in particular that he was coming of age in Paris when Sade de Marquis was publishing, who arguably is the person who birthed modern BDSM (BDSM has always existed in various forms across cultures, so he didn't really, but he certainly popularised it), and Sade's version of it really emphasised the sadism and cruelty in a way that's uhhhh, A Lot. I'm particularly kind of curious about it because Sade's writing was enormously fetishistic of rape, and it's interesting to think about that in the context of being a world Lestat's submerged in right before he's actually raped himself.

That's a digression, but kind of has been one of the things that's made me think about Louis' experience of his sexuality and particularly the fact that he comes from a space with a very specific vocabulary for sex and sexuality. Working as a pimp too, and having been a John, I'd imagine he was exposed to a lot (and tbh, I think it's where his baseline comes from when he starts that particular dynamic with Armand, especially given from what I've read in researching that fic, BDSM culture had died down in Paris post-WWII through to the sexual revolution of the 1960s as a result of the war trauma, although it was on the rise in other countries). So yeah, I think by the time there was this more contemporary language and etiquette around it all, Louis and Armand probably would feel pretty established in their behaviours?

And look, in terms of aftercare, I actually don't think Louis would always be bad about it. In fact, sometimes I think he'd probably be incredibly tender, but like with most things with Louis, I think a lot of it would come down to his mood. Someone sent me an ask the other day about there being narcissism in self-hatred, and that kind of hits the nail on the head to me - Louis is self-centred, he's the gloomy egoist! And I do think that probably carries over to sex a lot of the time. So yeah, I think in the aftermath of that 1.06 scene for instance, he was probably still mad at himself and feeling guilty about taking Lestat back, so I think getting Lestat cleaned up probably barely crossed his mind? He probably just threw his clothes at him, told him to get his things and had him limp out after him as Louis stewed on his complicated feelings of taking Lestat back at all.

I think in his more loving moments, he'd be more tender, but yeah - - I think a lot of it probably mood and context dependent with Louis, and I think he and Armand probably had generally pretty bad BDSM etiquette broadly, given even the fact that even being together after Paris is, for Louis, an act of punishment.

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Your level of resilience will determine whether you feel worthy and capable of your goals and dreams, or unworthy. Failure is inevitable; it is how you choose to respond to failure that will determine your outcomes.

THE IMPORTANCE OF FAILURE

[caitas-cooing]

All those how to be successful in work and school courses are all the same and none of them are actually that helpful imho

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i made an object show concept !! guess who the host is [or not ^^]

i may or may not animate some mini movie/episode

[im gonna make an account for this sometime >:]]

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[syadhira]

Mengenai self-blocking, tentang kalimat "aku memang orangnya begini". Dont blame yourself for your incompetence.

Semua orang memang punya sifat buruk mereka bawa dari kecil, tapi itu bukan suatu pembenaran untuk mereka gk mau berkembang dan menjadi lebih baik lagi. Sarannya, bukan rubah sikap mu, tapi rubah dulu pola pikir mu. Bukan kamu gk bisa, itu namanya kamu gk mau.

- Tulisan seseorang hafidzahullah

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MINDSET FLAWS...WHAT ARE THEY?

INTERESTING READ:

There are several common mindset flaws that can affect people, including:

Negative self-talk: Negative self-talk involves the tendency to focus on negative aspects of oneself and one's life, leading to feelings of anxiety, stress, and low self-esteem.

Fixed mindset: A fixed mindset is the belief that abilities and traits are fixed and cannot be developed or improved. This can lead to a lack of motivation and a fear of failure.

Confirmation bias: Confirmation bias is the tendency to seek out and interpret information in a way that confirms one's existing beliefs or opinions, while ignoring evidence that contradicts them.

Black and white thinking: Black and white thinking involves seeing situations in terms of absolute, either/or categories, without considering shades of gray or complexity.

Catastrophizing: Catastrophizing involves overestimating the likelihood of negative outcomes and imagining worst-case scenarios, which can lead to anxiety and fear.

Victim mentality: A victim mentality involves believing that one is powerless and that outside factors are responsible for one's problems and failures, rather than taking responsibility for one's own actions.

Procrastination: Procrastination is the tendency to put off tasks and responsibilities, leading to stress, anxiety, and missed opportunities.

It's important to recognize these mindset flaws and work to overcome them. By developing a growth mindset, focusing on positive self-talk, seeking out diverse perspectives, and taking responsibility for one's own actions, individuals can cultivate a more resilient, positive, and productive mindset

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"Empower Your Mindset: Inspirational Quotes for Daily Progress and Success | AskAnne l Episode 5

"Empower Your Mindset: Unlocking Daily Progress and Success" - In this channel, we provide a daily dose of inspiration and motivation through powerful and uplifting quotes . Join us on a journey of self-discovery and growth as we share the wisdom of remarkable individuals quotes to help you cultivate a mindset geared towards progress and achieving your goals. Let our collection of inspirational quotes become your guiding light on the path to success.

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Differences Between a Fixed Mindset and Growth Mindset: Rachel Pedersen's Guide!

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this is going to be stupid and vague but:

something is happening for the first time in 5 months and I shouldn’t have said yes to this thing but now that its here i feel like shit and it’s actively going to make tomorrow the worst day of my life.

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Change your mindset, change your life.

[technicallyhappyarcade]

Mindset: A Guide to Unlocking Your Inner Potential

"Mindset" is a powerful concept that influences our thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors. It encompasses various attitudes and perspectives individuals adopt towards challenges, success, and personal growth. A growth mindset promotes the idea that abilities can be developed through effort and perseverance, while a fixed mindset assumes innate abilities can't change. The positive mindset emphasizes optimism and resilience, fostering greater chances of success. Mindset can impact all aspects of life, including business, relationships, and health. Books, quotes, and mentors often guide individuals to adopt the right mindset for achieving their goals. Embracing a growth-oriented mindset can lead to transformation and a more fulfilling life.

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What's the difference between Fixed Mindset and Growth Mindset?