#fatphobic feminism

[crazycatsiren]

Fat women deserve to wear cute clothes. Fat women deserve to feel pretty. This shouldn't be a hot take.

[anarcho-catboyism]

Hey y'all know everytime you see a fat person you don't have to trip over yourselves to call attention to it right? You know you can call us pretty without constantly saying "OMG I LOOVVE FAT GAYS/GOTHS/ENBYS/etc." Because you sure as hell don't say you love skinny people when they post.

I love being fat but at the end of the day this is just a part of my body and we'd like to be treated as human, not as a rare animal species or smth.

[books-i-once-read]

Fatness changed her gender, somehow, made her into not a girl to these boys, maybe into not a human being.

The Housemates by Emma Copley Eisenberg

[viktor-the-leshen]

I was just reminded that there is an entire subculture of feminists who will shame and put down women for dating """ugly""" men under the logic that """ugly""" men are inherently evil.

Kill me

[cerealandchoccymilk]

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[theriverdalereviewer]

welcome to another episode of me bringing annoying twitter discourse to tumblr. today’s episode: choice feminism

[genderkoolaid]

actually going back to that post about abs not looking Like That except for when you are flexing. that's an example of how feminists need to loudly and blatantly take on "men's issues" as feminist concerns. everytime a superhero movie comes out and the main actor is dehydrated and starved and edited into vacuum-sealed muscularity, feminists need to make a big deal about how its deeply unhealthy and sends a dangerous message to young boys and reinforced patriarchal (+fatphobic) ideas of manhood. it's a gendered issue and feminism is the most known and effective movement for addressing gendered issues through the lens of patriarchy. it's not enough to passively say "oh yeah, feminism is for men too", we need to make "men's issues" synonymous with anti-patriarchal, feminist voices. if WE do not take up that mantle, then people who have no interest in solidarity with women or identifying patriarchy as the problem will take it up and use it to sell $500 abusive radicalizing "self-help" courses.

[goodmiffy]

“feminism is about choice” “feminism benefits men too” “it’s billionaires killing the planet so why can’t i shop on shein” “being vegetarian is a privilege” “it’s classist to suggest people eat less meat to help the environment” “let people enjoy things” “being a stay at home mother is her CHOICE” “makeup is expression” “just say you can’t do makeup and go” “actually native cultures had multiple genders” “we have to respect *misogynistic practise* it’s their culture!” “porn is empowering for some women” “kink is inherently queer” “patriarchy hurts men too” *white person calls every nuanced feminist take white feminism* “cis rich white men” “I’m a lesbian and i love dick” “everyone is a little bi” “it’s ableist to say bluey is for kids” “plane seats are fatphobic” “plus size people HAVE to shop on shein” “small businesses can’t afford to get their supplies anywhere except temu” “just say you hate neurodivergent people and go” “ok Karen” “black trans women won your rights” “*normal behaviour* is actually a symptom of autism” “can we all admit classics are boring and overrated” “you only hate [awful smutty half baked books] because women like them” “girls reclaiming femininity” “fruity king” *calling everything queer* “actually queer has been reclaimed by the lgbtqia+ community” “shopping sustainably is a privilege” “using public transport is a privilege” “i don’t know that because the school system sucks” “male loneliness epidemic” *source is a podcast* “AI is actually really helpful for neurodivergent kids” “university is just a bourgeoise scam anyway”

[artofkhaos404]

I hate the world we live in.

Thin privilege is better pay, particularly if you're a woman.

Thin women are paid more than fat women -- tens of thousands more by some estimates. This means thin women are valued as if they had more years of education and experience than fat women. To be at parity wages with thin women, fat women need to be much more educated (almost two years more education than thin women) and experienced (about three years more experience than thin women).

Researchers trying to determine why, have discovered that fat women are more likely to work in physical jobs and less likely to work in public-facing jobs than thin women. Public-facing jobs are generally better paid. Discrimination against fat women in public-facing jobs, like upper management and performance and waitressing and modeling and sales, could be the reason fat women on average make so much less than thinner women.

The most pay on average nets to relatively thinner women--about a 22 on the outmoded BMI scale.

Finally, take a gander at this absolutely devastating graph that shows a significant negative relationship between BMI/body fat and income for women from the St Louis Fed (2011):

This is thin privilege---massive, obvious, thin privilege.

-ATL

[hadesisqueer]

People have always told me to "look the other way" or "shut up" whenever I saw someone being treated unfairly. As a 5-7yo Spanish girl I didn't even know what racism and xenophobia were and yet I still told off other kids when they excluded an Asian and a Hispanic classmates from the games we played. I had just learnt that gay people were a thing and what homophobia was as a 8yo and I told off kids for making comments and saying slurs because I now knew what they meant. 9yo me nearly punched someone for being fatphobic. 11-12yo me defended this girl I didn't even like because she used to bully me because other kids were being racist toward her for being romani (later on I found out that girl was my distant cousin and I was like what). 13yo me argued a whole class of dudes for feminism and defended the girls they were slut-shaming. I still jump at age 22 to cut someone off the moment I hear bullshit like that coming from their mouth. It annoys people to no end.

The reason why I was always told to "stay quiet" is because it always ended up with me being in a worse situation than before. I was bullied and constantly excluded since I was 3 years old until I was like 13 for no other reason than them thinking I was weird and that's it. And jumping to defend others from those same bullies ended up making them bully even more. And yet I don't regret shit. Child me me who didn't even know what racism or homophobia or any of that truly meant wouldn't regret it either because she simply knew what it was like to be excluded and she didn't like seeing others being treated like that even if she didn't even fully comprehend why they were excluded. And now that I comprehend why I'm not gonna stop either. So anyone who is annoyed can fuck right off. Unlike back then I have a mastery over the art of insults that will make you regret ever being a bigot or a dickhead in front of me because I swear I can be meaner than any of them if I wanna. And I will be. So nope not gonna shut up.

[crazycatsiren]

I will never understand beauty standards. What would ever make people think having women starve themselves until their physique resembles that of a two-by-four is a good idea.

[tobeabatman]

Freeform fat activist post

Did you know that weight discrimination has increased by 66 % during the last decade and is one of the only forms of discrimination actively condoned by society? (From Adressing weight stigma and fatphobia in public health by Amanda Montgomery, RD, LDN, at publichealth.uic.edu)

And it’s like, it makes me so mad. It makes me so angry to see a bunch of thin people spreading bs without our fat people’s opinions, worsening the social conditions of people like me. It makes me mad that the first time I experienced medical fatphobia was at age 7. It makes me mad that it feels like there’s nothing I can do.

I can’t go to public transport without hearing casual fatphobia, I can’t study without hearing fatphobia, I can’t go online without seeing fatphobia, I can’t even film certain things online because of fatphobia.

I try escapism. I read a bunch of books: No fat characters, casual fatphobic comments.

I watch a bunch of videos on Youtube: Most fat creators are disencouraged from filming by either the algorithm or by viewers. The left-over thin creators casually act like fat people are lesser-than, when something triggers the topic of fat people.

I flinch, I wait, whenever a topic comes up that could possibly elicit fatphobia. The word ”lifestyle choices” makes my heart beat just a bit faster.

At school, I have to sit through an entire 115 minute lesson on how fat people should lose weight. I am the only ”obese” kid in class, there is one overweight person besides me.

I can’t look the teacher in the eye for the whole class. All my future lessons I sit in his class thinking, ”You don’t say it out loud, but I think you think of me differently than my thin classmates”.

I surround myself activism. Disability justice, anti-racism, feminism, -ism -ism. Justice is important to me.

..But I notice there’s no attention to people like me. Even though there’s so many different communities, fat people have a small and incomplete one. Even my leftist friends don’t note our struggles.

I continue my activism, but I’m getting more tired.

Someone lists different communities, says that medical bias is bad against those groups. I notice that mentioning fat people would fit right alongside those other communities. But I remember we’re invisible.

Another person says that confidence is sexy. I think it must be easy to see it that way if you’re not statistically more likely to have lower self-esteem.

Third person is concerned about my mental health for living in a fatphobic society. ”Who am I supposed to get help from?” I ask. Body-positive therapists are easy to find, but most of them don’t understand the pressure of living in a body hated by most.

—

The future I want is where no one is oppressed. That includes fat people. Get rid of your ”what about” thinking, and realize that fat people are human too.

And if you’re fat, then you deserve none of the sh*t this world has manipulated you into thinking you deserve (until you change your body, of course). I know you most likely had super low self-esteem growing up, maybe you got bullied, maybe that bullying continued into your work life.

I wish I could say it gets better, that there’s light at the end of the tunnel. But for that, we need the help of everyone. Are you willing to help?

Thank you for reading.

[dreamtydraw]

Doing my yearly Pride doodle and my annual reminder.

That not a shocking news that on this blog ( owned by a panromantic, asexual non binary person ) aphobia, biphobia and transphobia are not welcomed here.

Reminder : stop hyper sexualising people who are queer just because they’re queer. This goes for lesbian fetishization, gay man fetishization and sexualisation of enby’s body.

Reminder : Romantic attraction and Sexual attraction are two separated thing that can be linked to each other but dosen’t mean the same.

Reminder : no one is forced to come out and someone not being open about their sexuality isn’t queerbaiting, queerbaiting is a specific principle used in marketing.

Reminder : being queer dosen’t excuse you for being a terrible person. You can be queer and racist, you can be queer and transphobic, you can be queer and sexit.

Reminder : Being queer dosen’t make you less of a creep if you don’t respect people’s boundaries « you’re straight but so are pasta before they’re wet » big ew.

Reminder : Non binary people don’t owe you androginity and trans peeps don’t owe you feminity / masculinity. In the same tone enby and trans folks aren’t all skinny people, stop being fatphobic.

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[babypuppiboi]

✨Always in heat✨

Hiya!! After lurking for a while I decided to finally make a blog of my own, I’m very new to this so apologies for any awkwardness 😅

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You can call me pretty much any variety of puppy, pup, mutt, good boy, baby boy, or germ (it’s an old nick name lol) if you don’t like using pet names

I’m a switch but lean VERY heavily sub n I’m a bottom

I’m a slut in theory, but a virgin in practice 🫣

I’m an autistic trans guy my pronouns are he/him sometimes it/it’s when I’m in the mood for heavy dehumanization, please only refer to me using masculine terms 

I am a fat guy

I’ve been on t for 3 years

I’m bisexual and also t4t (yes this includes non-binary people) 

I’m single so I’m open to flirting as long as it’s kept respectful of my limits, I will block anyone who crosses my boundaries

Warning ya now there will be some dark kinks here

I can be kind of a nerd sometimes

I’m always down to make friends so My asks and dm are open! Just be aware I am a very awkward person who needs some patience sometimes 🥹

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Minors absolutely no exceptions ya gotta be 18+ to ride this ride

Ageless blogs I will have no choice but to assume y’all are kids

terfs / transphobic people/chasers 

Wlw / straight men / anyone not attracted to men (why are you even here)

Pedos

Racists

Bigoted people of any kind really  

Fatphobic / bodyshaming 

Terms that I like 

Tdick, tcock, Dick, cock, little cock, puppy cock

Cunt, hole, boy hole, puppy hole, puppy parts

Chest, nipples 

Any masculine petnames eg: sweet boy, baby boy, darling boy

I also like praise and degradation so feel free to use ether when addressing me 

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Kinks

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Edging and denial

Hypno

Somno

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Light D/s

Free use

Pain play

Intox forced or otherwise

Dumbification

Dehumanization

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Monster fucking

Bondage

Praise

Degradation 

Public / group use

Humiliation 

Breeding (no pregnancy)

Bdsm

Exhibitionism 

Knotting

Primal 

A/b/o

Breath play 

Training

Kidnapping

Mind break

Chasity

mommy/daddy as titles 

Overstim

Limits / turn offs

Detrans / misgendering

Scat / mess

Incest 

Feederism / food play

Feet

Bio essentialism 

Findom

Unsanitary

Feminization / sissy

Expecting me to be obligated to address you like your my dom I like a bit of play as much as anyone here but I don’t owe anyone anything

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[axegrl]

19. she/they or any pronouns. single. 18+/nsfw account. constant hornyposting. mommy domme in theory. unlabeled but not straight. asks always open!

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[genderkoolaid]

hi! i was wondering if you'd be willing to do an analysis of the aromantic manifesto thats been going around? most of the ppl ive seen so far have been from either non-aro queer ppl or non-loveless aros and i cant find any loveless aros talking about it, and ik thats something youve talked abt b4 (loveless aros i mean) id love to also see your thoughts on it.

So funny enough I saw this manifesto a while ago, but didn't really have any thoughts on it because I had too much trouble reading it for brain reasons, because its just. A lot.

So @spacelazarwolf compared this to lesbian separatism/radical feminism and I think that is pretty apt. Radical feminism takes accurate criticisms of the patriarchy (such as gender as a tool of oppression and misogyny) and comes to the conclusion that gender is, in all forms, inherently oppressive, men are inherently oppressors, and that to personally identify with gender roles or men in any way contributes to oppression, so we must take on political lesbianism to reject this.

This manifesto seems to do the same with amatonormativity. There are real criticisms of amatonormativity in queer spaces here; aromantics have talked a bit about how focusing queer liberation on romantic love as a reason why we shouldn't be oppressed is alienating, and how queer spaces often reinforce amatonormativity. But it then comes to the polarized conclusion that romance is itself oppressive, identification with romance contributes to oppression, and that we must take on (essentially) political aromanticism to reject this.

Which, like political lesbianism, is just... unnecessary? This is not the only conclusion we can come to as a result of these criticisms. And these conclusions prioritize abstract political theory over people's real lives and autonomy. Which is a big reason (although not the only one) why radical feminism fell apart, because eventually women got tired of having to structure their entire lives and identities around acting out Good Political Theory instead of being able to. y'know. Be themselves? But also, these kinds of conclusions are so absolute and polarized. They assume that nothing about gender or romance can grow and be improved.

There are parts of this manifesto I like. The line "The first big ruse of romance is that it is ubiquitous because it is natural, and it is natural because it is ubiquitous" I think is actually pretty cool and can be adapted to all kinds of things; for example, capitalism does the same thing, taking over as much of the world as possible & erasing other ways of life, and then using its dominance as evidence thats its just how humans naturally are. It brings up criticisms of love that are big parts of lovelessness, like the idea that love is inherently a good thing when it can be harmful and still be "love."

But then it takes the... strange path of saying that if people can't help how who they love, then neither can racists and transphobes and fatphobes, which is why romance is inherently oppressive. But like. Even within relationship anarchy, where all hierarchies are rejected, this problem won't disappear. Its a problem of attraction & how social systems shape how we think.

I also disagree with how it frames private vs public life:

Public life concerns the interests of people as citizens and is regarded as a legitimate sphere of social intervention. Private life concerns the interests of people as consumers/individuals and is nobody’s business but those privately involved. While the domestic sphere fashioned by heterosexual kinship relations has been historically designated as private life, queer intimacies have instead been regarded as a matter of public concern due to moral panics associating them with predation and perversion throughout history.

I disagree with this framing of private life as something which is seen as "nobody's business." Maybe that's true on the small scale of social politeness and ideals. But on a systematic level, to me, this is absolutely untrue, and its something I've been doing some thinking about with regards to modeling the patriarchy.

The patriarchy is greatly concerned with the private lives of individuals. In order to keep its control over society in general via gender-sex-sexuality, its important to control how people interact with others. Even heterosexual, cisgender relationships haven't been free from patriarchal scrutiny; the wife must submit to the husband, the children must submit to the parents, and the queers must be kept outside the home. Again, on the level of neighborly politeness, people are going to say "what happens in the home is none of my business." But a relationship where the wife is the breadwinner and the husband stays at home is easily subject to scrutiny because it threatens the patriarchal norms, which causes unease.

Romance, as a construct, is a tool of oppression in multiple ways. But the physical reality the construct is built on top of is not inherently evil. The feeling of romantic love is not inherently corrupt, the same way the feeling of gender isn't.

Their advice for abolishing romance also feels kinda... vague and unhelpful and messy. I'm still not really clear on what "abolishing romance" even entails because most of the things they list can be done while romantic relationships occur. It just reads like they took the ideas of relationship anarchy and made it political lesbianism 2

I, as an aromantic, find the idea of political aromanticism to be pretty gross. I know how it feels to be pushed towards a certain relationship with romance and I don't want to seen it done in reverse, and tbh I don't like the idea of making my identity into a political stance. Being aromantic absolutely influences my politics, but its also my experience as a person. Again, similarly to why it would be uncomfortable to have lesbian spaces be full of women who are not in any way attracted to women but are making a political statement.

It disappoints me that this manifesto's conclusion is that romance itself must be rejected, the same way radical feminism does. Because there are good points here, but all-or-nothing conclusion, to me, is more divisive than connective and that's a big problem. My feelings about gender abolition are that, if we achieve true liberation from the patriarchy, our construction of gender is naturally going to be very different. Perhaps those people will no longer use gender, or they'll just use it differently- but trying to force a specific outcome is unhelpful and clashes with individual autonomy and culture for the sake of political theory. Same goes for this. Maybe in a post-amatonormativity world, "romance" will lose meaning, or at least be very very different. But trying to force that outcome isn't helpful.

Anyways I hope these takes were interesting! Honestly given how much arophobia I've seen I'm worried people are going to see this manifesto and get hostile to a lot of aromantic ideas. So I wanna suggest that people check out I Am Not Voldemort by K.A Cook, which is where the concept of "loveless aros" came from, as well as The short instructional manifesto for relationship anarchy by Andie Nordgren, which created the concept of relationship anarchy. Both of these essays do a much better job at criticizing love & amatonormativity than this manifesto.