#even for all of us who are cis

[corpsentry]

pick your battles

[emry-stars-art]

When the misunderstanding is mutual but they’re both so sweet about it (coffee shop au edition)

Inspired by the tags below (originally on this post) from @blahblaheverythingisgay and @lovelyprincejehan accompanied by some thoughts:

thank you for bringing this GALAXY brain take to my attention 😂 this guy comes in, all cagey about his past and his scars, always wearing baggy clothes but complaining about compression clothes (being on the run does a number on your joints and muscles), picking out a name for himself??? OBVIOUSLY he’s trans right

They somehow manage to have like three separate conversations about it without realizing they’re talking about two very different scenarios. Andrew only was so wrong for so long because scars on their own (and even being a criminal lbr) are such non-issues that it didn’t even occur to him that Neil could be talking about anything less important than being trans lol

Andrew had his little crisis about it and landed pretty solid on yeah he’s still into Neil regardless, and yeah he’s still super gay. He’ll figure out the rest from there. The only thing he didn't prepare for was Neil being uh. Cis

[aishabellasbigblogofeverything]

I love it when women hate men. I love it when women are allowed to vent to each other about how horrible and creepy men are. I love it when women form friendships with and prioritize each other over relationships with men(whether they're attracted to them or not). I love it when women put men dni in their bios and on their nude photos and on posts on their blogs. I love it when women refuse to mollycoddle and accommodate entitled male feelings with "but this doesn't mean I hate all men, I know a few men who are great, I love my father/sons/brothers/uncles/male cousins/guy friends" I love it when women complain about men WITHOUT "not all men" being a disclaimer. I love it when women avoid socializing with/refuse to be around/befriend/get close to men because they know men can't be trusted. I love it when women make "kill all men" jokes. I love it when women offer absolutely no concern or care for men's feelings and if their misandry offends men whatsoever because why should we, men are the oppressor class who have raped and killed and abused us and kept us as subjugated as second-class citizens for millennia, they regularly mistreat us and the women in their own marginalized communities still every single day and make this world so much harder and more awful for us to be in, and if we choose to hate them and not spare them any sympathy then so be it, and I don't just mean "men as a class" either, you can be a woman who doesn't want to have anything to do with any man on an individual basis and completely cuts off men from her personal life too and ykw I will love and fucking support you in that because men deserve absolutely NOTHING from us. If they're so tough and strong then they can handle it just like they can handle being lonely. If you are a woman who hates men, ESPECIALLY IF YOU ARE A LESBIAN AND/OR A TRANS WOMAN, then just know that I love you. I love you, I support you, and you are safe here.

[thepoisonroom]

'I flirted with the idea that instead of being trans that I was just a cross-dresser (a quirk, I thought, that could be quietly folded into an otherwise average life) and that my dysphoria was sexual in nature, and sexual only. And if my feelings were only sexual, then, I wondered, perhaps I wasn’t actually trans.

I had read about a book called The Man Who Would Be Queen, by a Northwestern University professor who believed that transwomen who were attracted to women were really confused fetishists, they wanted to be women to satisfy an autogynephilia. And though I first read about this book in the context of its debunkment and disparagement, I thought about the electricity of slipping on those tights, zipping up those boots, and a stream of guilt followed. Maybe this professor was right, and maybe I was only a fetishist. Not trans, just a misguided boy.

About a year later, on the Internet, I come across a transwoman who added a unique message to the crowd refuting this professor. Oh, I wish I remember who this woman was, and I wish even more that I could do better than paraphrase her, but I remember her saying something like this: “Well, of course I feel sexy putting on women’s clothing and having a woman’s body. If you feel comfortable in your body for the first time, won’t that probably mean it’ll be the first time you feel comfortable, too, with delighting in your body as a sexual thing?”'

-Casey Plett, Consciousness

[dkettchen]

[theatrekidenergy]

The trans FTM experience of not knowing how to feel about your detachment from femininity and growing up a woman

[flowersdiceandlove]

Okay, so, confession: I haven’t actually watched season 2 of Heaven Official’s Blessing. I absolutely LOVE tgcf so, so much and I watched the first season, repeatedly, when it was on Netflix. At first I didn’t watch it cause I didn’t have Crunchyroll, but I’ve had that for months now and still haven’t watched it… I’ve tired. Really, I have. It’s just, I like to watch it from the start when new seasons come out and it’s been a while. So, I started watching from episode 1 and was doing pretty good until the ox cart scene. I was so fangirling over it. I kept having to pause it, squeal, and hit my bed in excitement over hualian. Repeatedly. like, every single minute repeatedly. I just couldn’t get through it without freaking out about much I love hualian😭😭😭 But it’s keeping me from watching season 2😭 I wanna watch season 2😭 But I just. can’t. handle it. Hualian are just to cute and sweet and in love. It’s too much. It’s just too much for me to handle😭😭 I have the books so I know what happens, and knowing what their history is (hua cheng, fuck— hua cheng, my baby!!! You poor sweetie😭) it just makes it all the harder to get through because I know what this must mean for them. Meeting like this. Being together. Just having someone there that you enjoy spending time with. The are Not Normal from the very start and I can’t handle it. The devotion😭 the care😭 the trust😭 It’s too fucking much for me to handle!!! And animated so well. That animation is beautiful. Seriously. It fits so well, and I just… fuuuuuuuck. I wanna watch season 2…

[theflannelwizard]

IN THIS HOUSE WE STAND FOR THE FLAG!! 🇺🇸🏳️‍⚧️

[stiffyck]

I'm losing braincells here.

A trans person asking you to respect their pronouns is not the same thing as a cis person not wanting to be called cis.

Like. You are cis if you identify with the gender you were born as.

It's not a slur, it's not just some derogatory word or something, it's an ADJECTIVE to better communicate what someone means.

It's like. Tall and short. You can have short women and you can have tall women.

Theyre both still women! But one is tall and one is short!!!

So saying "I don't know why we can't respect someone when they say they don't want to be called cis" IS SO STUPID.

Cis women who don't wanna be called cis don't want to be called that because they think that only they, cis women, are real women. They'd call a trans woman a trans woman, sure! But then they'd call themselves the "real" women! Like oh my god.

Cis isn't a slur and it's not a bad word. The only people I've seen using the "don't call us cis, we're just women" were transphobes.

[riddlerosehearts]

while my mind is still on the subject of transfem genderfluid taichi. i very recently got around to reading SSR family and my main takeaway after getting through all the backstage stories for it, and then especially after also reading citron's backstage story for devil maid's holiday, was this:

[feline-evil]

Dick or no dick confirmation Pickles was always going to be trans to me anyways; if he's swingin' somethin that's phallo babes, if he's not then his t-dick fat. What's not to get.

[uncanny-tranny]

Other people have discussed this more eloquently, but the thing people don't always seem to get about "passing" (think "cis passing" or "straight passing", for instance) is that the concept of "passing" relies on more than just appearance.

Take me for instance, where I do pass as a man, but I have never (and will never) pass as a cishet man. People know I am queer, even if they don't see that I am a trans queer man. Passing is more than wearing certain things or saying certain things. My mannerisms are queer, my speech is queer, my inflection is queer, my stance is queer. People pick up on that. There's nothing wrong with me being seen as queer, but I'm still treated like a queer man, for better and worse. It seems that people forget that, you know?

My point is that passing is very conplex, nuanced, and individual. I use myself as an example, but that by no means indicates that I have a standard experience. I've noticed, however, that many people have over-generalized these conversations, and I think that doesn't do us - as a community - a service.

[lesbiansanemi]

Still thinking about when my first and only experience with fandom discord imploded and the group of dumbass idiots that caused all the issues were like “UM ACTUALLY it was so transphobic and biphobic when the lesbians said they didn’t like these m/f ships because what if the person meant t4t bi4bi” (something that was never to rarely specified lmfao) but then EVERY time someone talked about an f/f ship the same ppl would butt in to be like “WELL I THINK SHE PEGS MEN ACTUALLY SHE FUCKS MEN AND LOVES IT HERES MY EXPLICIT THOUGHTS ABOUT HER FUCKING MEN” and were too fucking stupid and stubborn to see how this was uncomfortable and lesbophobic even when explicitly spelled out to them lmfao

[pathetic-tboy]

not to get discoursey on the nsfw account but you do realize both "chasers fetishizing trans women for penises they may/may not have/want to use is wrong and should be warned against to young vunerable insecure trans women" and "some trans women feel indifferent or even positive about their genitals/using them during sex and/or might not want bottom surgery and theyre still equally trans women to the trans women who do have bottom dysphoria or have/want bottom surgery and also deserve protection from chasers" can both be true right? i just dont think its fair to try to erase those members of the community because they might not align with your standards for "real" or "safe" trans women who "deserve" to be trans and safe from chasers ykwim? am i making sense?

[fuckdamn]

everytime i’m faced with wild overt misogyny that’s just platformed like it’s nothing i remind myself that people don’t actually have to feel this way about women. men are fully capable of treating women like human beings and viewing them as such. “but socialization but male fantasies but patriatchy speaks through us even when we don’t recognize it” sure but actually regardless there exist men who are fundamentally not raging misogynists and they generally seem happier and better adjusted. misogyny to me isn’t disappointing because “oh i can’t believe Men, as an essentialized category of person, are like this” it’s disappointing because people make the choice to be like this. “it’s my biological imperative as a man to dominate you” okay well it’s my biological imperative as a freaky bitch to dominate you so what now. what biological imperative is making you comment “onlyfans detected opinion rejected” on every picture of any attractive woman. i think i will always be understood by most people as a woman and i’m learning to accept that and trying to like it but misogyny makes me feel very trapped of course. but misogyny is a choice. which means some people make the choice to be misogynistic which is profoundly frustrating. but many other people choose not to be actively misogynistic and i believe anyone could choose not to be actively misogynistic if they wanted. so it’s a whole thing

[transmasc-rose]

Amy/Rory I Saw the TV Glow au:

Amy as Maddy/Tara, who ran away and never came home, who talks about things that can't be real (the TV show, the TARDIS, a world where they're strong, a world where they're something better).

Rory as Owen/Isabel, meek and yet loyal and yet terrified of his best friend and what she means. And what she says. And what she shows him.

Doctor Who, the TARDIS, the Doctor, all wrapped up into the role of the Pink Opaque, the TV show from their youth, and something Amy grasps onto and never let's go. Something Rory abandons for a normal life.

And yet.